August 16, 2024 • 18 mins
Interludes are short segments between regular episodes with no editing but WITH leather creaking. It's a chance to hear a little more about what's going on in my life. Here's what my host's AI has to say about this episode:
What makes a meaningful community connection? Join us as we gear up for Glue Weekend in Houston, October 11-13, 2024—a leather and fetish event that promises to be both thrilling and thought-provoking. As I share my excitement about judging the Mr. Third Coast Leather Contest and delivering a keynote speech, you'll get a sneak peek into the array of activities planned, from the Misfits Ball and cigar socials to a bathhouse pool party and fetish kink classes. Reflecting on my experience judging the Mr. Eagle contest, I'll discuss the deeper connections fostered at smaller, intimate events, and why they hold a special place in my heart.
Ever wondered how challenging questions can reveal a contestant's true character? Hear about the importance of meaningful conversations within niche communities like the cigar and leather circles. I'll share my insights on how engaging in dialogue, rather than merely having the right answers, helps foster community growth. Plus, we'll highlight the significance of local and regional events as valuable entry points for anyone looking to get involved in their community. Whether you're attending Glue Weekend or exploring local events, this episode is packed with insights and excitement about connecting with like-minded individuals.
Ask Edge! Go to https://www.speakpipe.com/LTHREDGE to leave ask a question or leave feedback. Find Edge's other content on Instagram and Twitter. Also visit his archive of educational videos, Tchick-Tchick.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to Full Cow, a podcast about leather kink and
PDSM.
My name is Edge, my pronounsare he, him, and I'm your host.
Welcome to another intro dude.
The episode between episodesoffered raw and unedited, but
with leather creaking, orusually with leather creaking,
you know everyone.
(00:20):
My Langlitz jacket is startingto finally break in and so it's
not creaking as much.
If any of you who are specialfans of the creaking would like
to buy me a brand new Langlitzjacket, I would be on board for
that.
But hopefully you'll get a fewcreaks every now and then.
I'm actually recording thislike moving my arms a lot to try
(00:41):
to get some.
Oh, there we go, there's alittle creaking.
Anyway, this episode is aboutglue and that is a leather
weekend in Houston.
I'm going to read the pressrelease just to kind of give you
all a little overview of whatit is.
Houston will once again hostGlue Gear, leather, uniform, etc
.
(01:01):
Weekend, october 11-13, 2024.
Produced by Misfits Houston, aHouston leather Levi club which
is celebrating their 32ndanniversary, the weekend is one
of the longest-running LGBTQplus fetish weekends in Texas,
which started in 2012.
Events will be hosted at Play2409 Grant Street, rich's
(01:25):
Houston Montrose Center and ClubHouston in the Montrose
neighborhood which serves theLGBTQ plus community.
The weekend will include theannual Mr Third Coast Leather
Contest, which represents thestates in the Gulf Coast region.
The competition is also adirect preliminary contest to
International Mr Leather held inChicago.
(01:45):
Other weekend events includethe Misfits Ball featuring DJ
Matthew Moody, a cigar socialwith boot blacks, a bathhouse
pool party, the screening ofEnquerados.
I'm very, very sorry to mySpanish speakers, I am learning
Spanish but I'm only like 100days in on my Duolingo.
(02:09):
Anyway, it's a document thatwill be a documentary at the
Latinx Mixer and there will be16 Fetish King classes, a Sunday
brunch and tea dance and muchmore.
Run passes and individual eventtickets are on sale now through
October.
You will find tickets onEventbrite and more information
at glueweekendcom and I willhave that link in the show notes
(02:33):
.
I am thrilled to be going for anumber of reasons you know.
I'm sure I've already mentionedthis, probably in one of the
interludes.
I've been pulling back fromleather events.
So I only go to a leather eventif I am sort of compelled to go
and I'm pulling back becauseI'm focused on finding a local
boyfriend.
Blah, blah, blah.
If I'm traveling all around thecountry, I'm not meeting anyone
(02:53):
.
Local blah, blah blah.
I'm spending all that time andmoney instead of investing in my
local community blah, blah blah.
But the reason I'm going toglue is they have asked me to be
a judge for the Mr Third CoastLeather Contest and I'm also
giving a keynote speech and thatis something I have never done.
I am crazy thrilled for that,and I just wanted to share a
(03:14):
little bit about the event andwhat I'm thinking about it.
What's interesting about thisinterlude is it's really
combining some other topics I'vediscussed in other interludes
and episodes, including how muchI tend to like small events,
and including my extensiveexperience of judging at the Mr
Eagle contest last year maybe,yes, last year.
(03:36):
You know I'm very curious.
Since I'm going to be a judge,I'm curious if any of the
contestants will do theirresearch so thoroughly that they
will discover this episode tokind of get a clue as to who I
am.
So if you're a contestant inthe Mr Third Coast Leather
Contest, come up to me and sayXanadu and then I'll know you've
(04:00):
listened to this episode.
Small events are fantastic.
One of my favorite events isMates in Provincetown and I'm
hoping that glue will have thatkind of flavor to it.
A small event, first of all foran introvert, is a little less
overwhelming.
It's more manageable justbecause of the amount of things
(04:20):
to do people and energy that'sgoing on around me things to do
people and energy that's goingon around me.
I also love that you actuallyget to see people.
There were people at IML.
I was at IML and there werepeople I knew were going to be
at IML and then I saw photos ofthem at IML afterwards on
Facebook and I never saw them atthe event.
And my experience at MAL waseven worse.
(04:41):
Like at MAL, I had 10 secondsto say hello to someone and then
, oh my God, there's the nextperson I have to go say hello to
and I never saw the firstperson ever again.
Big events is fantastic Lots ofenergy, lots of people, lots of
fun but small events youactually run into people again
and again.
You can start having longerconversations and start forming
(05:02):
connections, and I'm all aboutconnections when I go to events.
So that's one of the reasons Ilike small events.
And one of the reasons I'm gladto be going is I am compelled
to go as a judge and keynotespeaker.
As a judge, I re-listened to myjudging interlude to see what I
(05:24):
said on that one, and this willbe fairly repetitive.
I'm a hard judge.
I'm a hard judge.
I'm going to have the hardquestion for these contestants
and it's not because I'm mean,I'm like the opposite of mean.
However, this is feeding intoIML and this will put them on
the national stage and I thinkit's important for them not only
(05:45):
to be thinking locally abouttheir local community and how
they contribute, but to be awareof larger conversations
happening in the community.
When I did the judging episodeand I was judging Mr Eagle the
really hard question I had wasabout Touche's 25th anniversary
party where, if you know,leather Bar in Chicago has a big
(06:05):
party hires a racist,transphobic puppeteer who's
making rape jokes.
Community is outraged.
That's the short version.
If I were judging last year, myquestion would have been given
what happened at MIR, what doyou think is the future of this
contest?
All right?
So first of all, you have toknow what the hell MIR is, which
(06:28):
is historically, mrInternational Rubber Then you
have to know what happened.
They are now just MIR.
They're open to contestants ofevery gender and every possible
gender identity and the winnerwill get to choose if they're Mr
International Rubber, ms MixMrs, whatever International
(06:51):
Rubber, ms Mix, mrs, whateverwhat it calls into question is
are these sort ofgender-specific titles?
So if I'm judging a Mr ThirdCoast Leather, to what extent
should it remain a Mr ThirdCoast Leather?
Not an easy question, becauseyou need to know what's going on
out in the fetish world and youneed to take a very delicate
stand or a stand.
(07:12):
Part of the reason I ask thesequestions is hey, you're going
to be on the national stage.
You better know what people aretalking about.
And hey, you're going to be ona microscope, because now you're
going to be a title holder andyou better know what you're
talking about.
But also, I'm also just verycurious for people to be able to
articulate some sort ofposition on these issues.
(07:34):
I often think you know I talkabout this all the time.
This comes up in all my littleeducational videos Membership in
a community is not aboutknowing the right way to do
things.
It's about knowing the terms ofthe conversation.
So there are a gazillion waysto light a cigar.
You could be an Obanoff'sperson or Hubbard's person.
(07:58):
On your boots you may have aparticular feeling about what
hide you like for your floggers?
None of those things matter.
The important thing thatmatters is that when you're
talking to another cigar person,you can talk about the
different ways of cutting orlighting or why you like your
way.
It's very similar that I'm notreally interested in someone
(08:19):
having the right answer to theseimpossibly difficult questions.
I like to ask, but being ableto participate in the
conversation, becauseconversation, I think, is what
moves us as a community towardssome sort of solution.
Also, the thing with the hardquestion is I don't necessarily
expect you to know the answer.
I also expect I don't expectanything.
(08:41):
I also want to see how yourespond when you don't know the
answer.
It was very instructive when Idid this in the Mr Eagle contest
, because some people clearlyjust gave an answer and they
didn't know anything.
They didn't know what touchewas, they didn't think to ask me
or anything like that.
They just gave an answer.
(09:01):
I'm like, oh well, okay, thisagain is meaningful, not because
I'm the mean judge although Iam the mean judge but because,
as a title holder, you're goingto be interviewed in any number
of media outlets the local gayrag or some website and you have
to be able to say when youdon't know something, you just
have to say I don't know, or youhave to say I need to know more
(09:23):
about that or I need toresearch that.
And, as I mentioned in thejudging episode, the best
contestants will, after theinterviews, go find the answer,
find me and tell me what thereal answer is.
So that shows a kind ofpersistence and follow through
which I think also speaks to acontestant.
I have in my head threedifferent super hard questions.
(09:46):
I think I, I think I alreadyknow the super hard question I'm
going to ask and um I it'sreally hard, ty, if you listen
to this, that whole conversationwe had about that trip you're
taking to go do that event inEurope, that's really my
question.
(10:07):
That's all the clues I'm goingto give.
So I'm really looking forwardto judging and I'm looking
forward to Houston.
You know, as soon as I announcedthis everywhere, in all my
social media, even on Facebook,I started realizing how many
friends I have in Houston, howmany leather friends I have in
(10:27):
Houston.
I don't.
I haven't been to Houston.
Oh my God.
I mean 40 years.
No, I'm not that old.
30?
No more than 30.
35 years, maybe.
35 years when I lived in NewOrleans.
I went to Houston a coupletimes.
You know, new Orleans andHouston have a very interesting
(10:47):
kind of—they're close, they'regood friends.
I will say, you know, betweenMardi Gras and Louis there's
like a whole Houston New Orleansthing.
So I went to Houston a fewtimes when I lived in New
Orleans.
But I haven't been to Houstonsince.
I've probably flown through iton Southwest.
But beyond that, I'm excited togo to Houston.
(11:09):
I'm excited to see and partakein what looks like a really
vibrant local community.
Now grass is always greener inWilton Manors.
I'm pretty sure if I asked thepeople in Houston they would
have all kinds of complaintsabout their community.
That's part of what makes acommunity a community.
But I'm excited to see friendsthat I haven't seen in years.
(11:32):
I'm excited to meet people thatI've only chatted with online.
Decided to meet people thatI've only chatted with online.
They are putting me to work.
Let me tell you I have a verypacked schedule.
I get in on Friday.
There's a meet and greet withthe contestants and judges.
Friday night with Cigar SocialVery happy to hear there's a
cigar-friendly event at this, asI am quite fond of my cigars
(11:56):
and then Saturday is interviews.
That's like two hours, and thenSaturday at 6 to 9, I think, is
the contest.
And then Sunday is this brunchthing where I am giving a
keynote.
Now I don't know what the hellI'm going to say and I've not
had a lot of input on what itshould look like.
(12:18):
It should be about 20 minuteslong.
Apparently, people will bebrunching while I talk and that
will present certain challenges.
In itself, I'm certainlycapable of commanding a room,
but if you're competing againstcinnamon rolls or biscuits, then
it's tougher.
Now hopefully it's at a hoteland I'm competing against, like
(12:41):
buffet scrambled eggs which aredry and horrible.
But I've been thinking about acouple topics and I have a few.
I don't know where I'm gonnaland.
So one of them is really, um,you know, in disability theory
there's this oh, hold on, I'mgonna look up her name Garland
Disability Theory.
One moment, people, I told youit was unedited and raw.
(13:04):
It is not Garland, oh, it isGarland Thompson.
One moment, I got to find areal name Rosemary Garland
Thompson.
Rosemary Garland Thompson doesdisability theory, which is an
academic sub-discipline thattheorizes disability.
(13:25):
Anyway, she has this onearticle about misfits and it's
really about not fitting intothe environment.
I mean, it's a little bit morecomplicated than that.
So I thought it'd beinteresting to do a keynote
about misfitting for the misfitsand really thinking about how
we craft spaces where we do fit,and I think that's a really
(13:45):
beautiful way for thinking aboutcommunity.
Very uplifting Applause,applause, applause.
Take my cinnamon roll about.
It's made me think a little bitabout how I got to where I'm at
and all this stuff I do thepodcast and the videos and my
old website and the YouTube andthe Tumblr and all that.
(14:06):
It all started because I waslooking to get laid, and so I
thought about doing some sort ofspeech about the power of
trying to get laid and thinkingabout how we can create change,
we can help others simplybecause we want to get a good
trick right, like in thosemoments when we're looking for
(14:27):
sex, we can actually teachpeople new skills, we can learn
new skills, we can welcomepeople into communities, and so
thinking about how my journeyled to where I was at but it
wasn't any sort of grand plan,it was just I was trying to get
laid.
And if that's happened to me,what can you do when you're
trying to get laid?
So I'm thinking about that.
Oh, and if y'all havepreferences, let me know.
So there's misfitting, whichmight be a little dry, I don't
(14:49):
know, I think it's powerful,it's a little dry for a brunch.
And then there's trying to getlaid, which is funny, kind of
funny, right, it's aninteresting concept, I think,
about how we stumble intoservice simply by trying to get
(15:10):
our genitals happy, and then Idon't know no-transcript in
terms of leather, just because Idon't know that really, you
know, part of what they wantedwas something a little joyous.
I think they wanted something.
You know, like we know you're agreat talker, you know you can
(15:32):
talk about things and you can befunny.
So I'm like, okay, we want tokeep this inspirationally happy,
joy, joy.
And so I'm thinking less aboutsome of the complex issues we're
facing as a community and moreabout um possibilities for
positive change, and which boththose talks are really about
positive.
Like you know, the whole ideaof of misfit is creating the
(15:54):
environment where you do fit,which is about creating
community.
How do we create communitywhere people fit?
Um, oh, that is, oh god, I'mreally good, I might do that one
.
And then obviously, trying toget laid and stumbling into
service is really great.
And also about aspirationalservice types things, and I
think I'm gonna yeah, I thinkI'm gonna do that.
(16:15):
It is gonna be a really crazyweekend for me Fly in, busy,
busy, busy, busy, busy.
Fly home Sunday, and then I'mtraveling the next weekend as
well to LA, just for a day,essentially.
So I have a really crazyOctober coming up.
But I'm excited for Glue.
I am super excited.
I'm excited for the event.
(16:38):
I'm excited because I likejudging people.
That's kind of a joke.
Go back and listen to thejudging interlude, it'll make
more sense.
I'm excited to see friends andto meet friends, and I'm kind of
excited for this keynote andkind of have no fucking idea
what I'm doing.
So we will see.
If you're there, please sayhello.
Your best chance of grabbing mewill be really during that
(17:01):
Friday night, because you don'tget to come to the judges
interviews, obviously, and thenduring the contest, I'm going to
be sitting at some table beingall judgy, judgy, um.
So your best, best bet is toget me a Friday night, cause
that seems like the most low keysocial and I hope to meet so
many of you and um, that's it.
I'll give a report once it'sdone too, but you've not been to
(17:26):
Glue, think about it.
And if you can't make it to Glue, think about what local events
you can attend or support orcreate local or regional events.
They are critical for entrypoints for people, they are more
affordable than some of thenational ones, they create more
local connections and they'reoften a super duper lot of fun.
So I hope to see you in Houston, or I hope you see yourself in
(17:50):
some local or regional eventnear you.
That's all for now and I willsee you.
No, I won't see you because I'mon a podcast.
That's all for now.
I'll catch you.
Am I catching you?
I don't know.
I hope all of y'all are havinga great, great journey.
Welcome to Full Cow, a podcast about leather kink and
PDSM.
My name is Edge, my pronounsare he, him, and I'm your host.
Welcome to another intro dude.
The episode between episodesoffered raw and unedited, but
with leather creaking, orusually with leather creaking,
you know everyone.
(00:20):
My Langlitz jacket is startingto finally break in and so it's
not creaking as much.
If any of you who are specialfans of the creaking would like
to buy me a brand new Langlitzjacket, I would be on board for
that.
But hopefully you'll get a fewcreaks every now and then.
I'm actually recording thislike moving my arms a lot to try
(00:41):
to get some.
Oh, there we go, there's alittle creaking.
Anyway, this episode is aboutglue and that is a leather
weekend in Houston.
I'm going to read the pressrelease just to kind of give you
all a little overview of whatit is.
Houston will once again hostGlue Gear, leather, uniform, etc
.
(01:01):
Weekend, october 11-13, 2024.
Produced by Misfits Houston, aHouston leather Levi club which
is celebrating their 32ndanniversary, the weekend is one
of the longest-running LGBTQplus fetish weekends in Texas,
which started in 2012.
Events will be hosted at Play2409 Grant Street, rich's
(01:25):
Houston Montrose Center and ClubHouston in the Montrose
neighborhood which serves theLGBTQ plus community.
The weekend will include theannual Mr Third Coast Leather
Contest, which represents thestates in the Gulf Coast region.
The competition is also adirect preliminary contest to
International Mr Leather held inChicago.
(01:45):
Other weekend events includethe Misfits Ball featuring DJ
Matthew Moody, a cigar socialwith boot blacks, a bathhouse
pool party, the screening ofEnquerados.
I'm very, very sorry to mySpanish speakers, I am learning
Spanish but I'm only like 100days in on my Duolingo.
(02:09):
Anyway, it's a document thatwill be a documentary at the
Latinx Mixer and there will be16 Fetish King classes, a Sunday
brunch and tea dance and muchmore.
Run passes and individual eventtickets are on sale now through
October.
You will find tickets onEventbrite and more information
at glueweekendcom and I willhave that link in the show notes
(02:33):
.
I am thrilled to be going for anumber of reasons you know.
I'm sure I've already mentionedthis, probably in one of the
interludes.
I've been pulling back fromleather events.
So I only go to a leather eventif I am sort of compelled to go
and I'm pulling back becauseI'm focused on finding a local
boyfriend.
Blah, blah, blah.
If I'm traveling all around thecountry, I'm not meeting anyone
(02:53):
.
Local blah, blah blah.
I'm spending all that time andmoney instead of investing in my
local community blah, blah blah.
But the reason I'm going toglue is they have asked me to be
a judge for the Mr Third CoastLeather Contest and I'm also
giving a keynote speech and thatis something I have never done.
I am crazy thrilled for that,and I just wanted to share a
(03:14):
little bit about the event andwhat I'm thinking about it.
What's interesting about thisinterlude is it's really
combining some other topics I'vediscussed in other interludes
and episodes, including how muchI tend to like small events,
and including my extensiveexperience of judging at the Mr
Eagle contest last year maybe,yes, last year.
(03:36):
You know I'm very curious.
Since I'm going to be a judge,I'm curious if any of the
contestants will do theirresearch so thoroughly that they
will discover this episode tokind of get a clue as to who I
am.
So if you're a contestant inthe Mr Third Coast Leather
Contest, come up to me and sayXanadu and then I'll know you've
(04:00):
listened to this episode.
Small events are fantastic.
One of my favorite events isMates in Provincetown and I'm
hoping that glue will have thatkind of flavor to it.
A small event, first of all foran introvert, is a little less
overwhelming.
It's more manageable justbecause of the amount of things
(04:20):
to do people and energy that'sgoing on around me things to do
people and energy that's goingon around me.
I also love that you actuallyget to see people.
There were people at IML.
I was at IML and there werepeople I knew were going to be
at IML and then I saw photos ofthem at IML afterwards on
Facebook and I never saw them atthe event.
And my experience at MAL waseven worse.
(04:41):
Like at MAL, I had 10 secondsto say hello to someone and then
, oh my God, there's the nextperson I have to go say hello to
and I never saw the firstperson ever again.
Big events is fantastic Lots ofenergy, lots of people, lots of
fun but small events youactually run into people again
and again.
You can start having longerconversations and start forming
(05:02):
connections, and I'm all aboutconnections when I go to events.
So that's one of the reasons Ilike small events.
And one of the reasons I'm gladto be going is I am compelled
to go as a judge and keynotespeaker.
As a judge, I re-listened to myjudging interlude to see what I
(05:24):
said on that one, and this willbe fairly repetitive.
I'm a hard judge.
I'm a hard judge.
I'm going to have the hardquestion for these contestants
and it's not because I'm mean,I'm like the opposite of mean.
However, this is feeding intoIML and this will put them on
the national stage and I thinkit's important for them not only
(05:45):
to be thinking locally abouttheir local community and how
they contribute, but to be awareof larger conversations
happening in the community.
When I did the judging episodeand I was judging Mr Eagle the
really hard question I had wasabout Touche's 25th anniversary
party where, if you know,leather Bar in Chicago has a big
(06:05):
party hires a racist,transphobic puppeteer who's
making rape jokes.
Community is outraged.
That's the short version.
If I were judging last year, myquestion would have been given
what happened at MIR, what doyou think is the future of this
contest?
All right?
So first of all, you have toknow what the hell MIR is, which
(06:28):
is historically, mrInternational Rubber Then you
have to know what happened.
They are now just MIR.
They're open to contestants ofevery gender and every possible
gender identity and the winnerwill get to choose if they're Mr
International Rubber, ms MixMrs, whatever International
(06:51):
Rubber, ms Mix, mrs, whateverwhat it calls into question is
are these sort ofgender-specific titles?
So if I'm judging a Mr ThirdCoast Leather, to what extent
should it remain a Mr ThirdCoast Leather?
Not an easy question, becauseyou need to know what's going on
out in the fetish world and youneed to take a very delicate
stand or a stand.
(07:12):
Part of the reason I ask thesequestions is hey, you're going
to be on the national stage.
You better know what people aretalking about.
And hey, you're going to be ona microscope, because now you're
going to be a title holder andyou better know what you're
talking about.
But also, I'm also just verycurious for people to be able to
articulate some sort ofposition on these issues.
(07:34):
I often think you know I talkabout this all the time.
This comes up in all my littleeducational videos Membership in
a community is not aboutknowing the right way to do
things.
It's about knowing the terms ofthe conversation.
So there are a gazillion waysto light a cigar.
You could be an Obanoff'sperson or Hubbard's person.
(07:58):
On your boots you may have aparticular feeling about what
hide you like for your floggers?
None of those things matter.
The important thing thatmatters is that when you're
talking to another cigar person,you can talk about the
different ways of cutting orlighting or why you like your
way.
It's very similar that I'm notreally interested in someone
(08:19):
having the right answer to theseimpossibly difficult questions.
I like to ask, but being ableto participate in the
conversation, becauseconversation, I think, is what
moves us as a community towardssome sort of solution.
Also, the thing with the hardquestion is I don't necessarily
expect you to know the answer.
I also expect I don't expectanything.
(08:41):
I also want to see how yourespond when you don't know the
answer.
It was very instructive when Idid this in the Mr Eagle contest
, because some people clearlyjust gave an answer and they
didn't know anything.
They didn't know what touchewas, they didn't think to ask me
or anything like that.
They just gave an answer.
(09:01):
I'm like, oh well, okay, thisagain is meaningful, not because
I'm the mean judge although Iam the mean judge but because,
as a title holder, you're goingto be interviewed in any number
of media outlets the local gayrag or some website and you have
to be able to say when youdon't know something, you just
have to say I don't know, or youhave to say I need to know more
(09:23):
about that or I need toresearch that.
And, as I mentioned in thejudging episode, the best
contestants will, after theinterviews, go find the answer,
find me and tell me what thereal answer is.
So that shows a kind ofpersistence and follow through
which I think also speaks to acontestant.
I have in my head threedifferent super hard questions.
(09:46):
I think I, I think I alreadyknow the super hard question I'm
going to ask and um I it'sreally hard, ty, if you listen
to this, that whole conversationwe had about that trip you're
taking to go do that event inEurope, that's really my
question.
(10:07):
That's all the clues I'm goingto give.
So I'm really looking forwardto judging and I'm looking
forward to Houston.
You know, as soon as I announcedthis everywhere, in all my
social media, even on Facebook,I started realizing how many
friends I have in Houston, howmany leather friends I have in
(10:27):
Houston.
I don't.
I haven't been to Houston.
Oh my God.
I mean 40 years.
No, I'm not that old.
30?
No more than 30.
35 years, maybe.
35 years when I lived in NewOrleans.
I went to Houston a coupletimes.
You know, new Orleans andHouston have a very interesting
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kind of—they're close, they'regood friends.
I will say, you know, betweenMardi Gras and Louis there's
like a whole Houston New Orleansthing.
So I went to Houston a fewtimes when I lived in New
Orleans.
But I haven't been to Houstonsince.
I've probably flown through iton Southwest.
But beyond that, I'm excited togo to Houston.
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I'm excited to see and partakein what looks like a really
vibrant local community.
Now grass is always greener inWilton Manors.
I'm pretty sure if I asked thepeople in Houston they would
have all kinds of complaintsabout their community.
That's part of what makes acommunity a community.
But I'm excited to see friendsthat I haven't seen in years.
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I'm excited to meet people thatI've only chatted with online.
Decided to meet people thatI've only chatted with online.
They are putting me to work.
Let me tell you I have a verypacked schedule.
I get in on Friday.
There's a meet and greet withthe contestants and judges.
Friday night with Cigar SocialVery happy to hear there's a
cigar-friendly event at this, asI am quite fond of my cigars
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and then Saturday is interviews.
That's like two hours, and thenSaturday at 6 to 9, I think, is
the contest.
And then Sunday is this brunchthing where I am giving a
keynote.
Now I don't know what the hellI'm going to say and I've not
had a lot of input on what itshould look like.
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It should be about 20 minuteslong.
Apparently, people will bebrunching while I talk and that
will present certain challenges.
In itself, I'm certainlycapable of commanding a room,
but if you're competing againstcinnamon rolls or biscuits, then
it's tougher.
Now hopefully it's at a hoteland I'm competing against, like
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buffet scrambled eggs which aredry and horrible.
But I've been thinking about acouple topics and I have a few.
I don't know where I'm gonnaland.
So one of them is really, um,you know, in disability theory
there's this oh, hold on, I'mgonna look up her name Garland
Disability Theory.
One moment, people, I told youit was unedited and raw.
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It is not Garland, oh, it isGarland Thompson.
One moment, I got to find areal name Rosemary Garland
Thompson.
Rosemary Garland Thompson doesdisability theory, which is an
academic sub-discipline thattheorizes disability.
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Anyway, she has this onearticle about misfits and it's
really about not fitting intothe environment.
I mean, it's a little bit morecomplicated than that.
So I thought it'd beinteresting to do a keynote
about misfitting for the misfitsand really thinking about how
we craft spaces where we do fit,and I think that's a really
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beautiful way for thinking aboutcommunity.
Very uplifting Applause,applause, applause.
Take my cinnamon roll about.
It's made me think a little bitabout how I got to where I'm at
and all this stuff I do thepodcast and the videos and my
old website and the YouTube andthe Tumblr and all that.
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It all started because I waslooking to get laid, and so I
thought about doing some sort ofspeech about the power of
trying to get laid and thinkingabout how we can create change,
we can help others simplybecause we want to get a good
trick right, like in thosemoments when we're looking for
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sex, we can actually teachpeople new skills, we can learn
new skills, we can welcomepeople into communities, and so
thinking about how my journeyled to where I was at but it
wasn't any sort of grand plan,it was just I was trying to get
laid.
And if that's happened to me,what can you do when you're
trying to get laid?
So I'm thinking about that.
Oh, and if y'all havepreferences, let me know.
So there's misfitting, whichmight be a little dry, I don't
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know, I think it's powerful,it's a little dry for a brunch.
And then there's trying to getlaid, which is funny, kind of
funny, right, it's aninteresting concept, I think,
about how we stumble intoservice simply by trying to get
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our genitals happy, and then Idon't know no-transcript in
terms of leather, just because Idon't know that really, you
know, part of what they wantedwas something a little joyous.
I think they wanted something.
You know, like we know you're agreat talker, you know you can
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talk about things and you can befunny.
So I'm like, okay, we want tokeep this inspirationally happy,
joy, joy.
And so I'm thinking less aboutsome of the complex issues we're
facing as a community and moreabout um possibilities for
positive change, and which boththose talks are really about
positive.
Like you know, the whole ideaof of misfit is creating the
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environment where you do fit,which is about creating
community.
How do we create communitywhere people fit?
Um, oh, that is, oh god, I'mreally good, I might do that one
.
And then obviously, trying toget laid and stumbling into
service is really great.
And also about aspirationalservice types things, and I
think I'm gonna yeah, I thinkI'm gonna do that.
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It is gonna be a really crazyweekend for me Fly in, busy,
busy, busy, busy, busy.
Fly home Sunday, and then I'mtraveling the next weekend as
well to LA, just for a day,essentially.
So I have a really crazyOctober coming up.
But I'm excited for Glue.
I am super excited.
I'm excited for the event.
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I'm excited because I likejudging people.
That's kind of a joke.
Go back and listen to thejudging interlude, it'll make
more sense.
I'm excited to see friends andto meet friends, and I'm kind of
excited for this keynote andkind of have no fucking idea
what I'm doing.
So we will see.
If you're there, please sayhello.
Your best chance of grabbing mewill be really during that
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Friday night, because you don'tget to come to the judges
interviews, obviously, and thenduring the contest, I'm going to
be sitting at some table beingall judgy, judgy, um.
So your best, best bet is toget me a Friday night, cause
that seems like the most low keysocial and I hope to meet so
many of you and um, that's it.
I'll give a report once it'sdone too, but you've not been to
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Glue, think about it.
And if you can't make it to Glue, think about what local events
you can attend or support orcreate local or regional events.
They are critical for entrypoints for people, they are more
affordable than some of thenational ones, they create more
local connections and they'reoften a super duper lot of fun.
So I hope to see you in Houston, or I hope you see yourself in
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some local or regional eventnear you.
That's all for now and I willsee you.
No, I won't see you because I'mon a podcast.
That's all for now.
I'll catch you.
Am I catching you?
I don't know.
I hope all of y'all are havinga great, great journey.
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