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September 20, 2024 • 17 mins

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Interludes are short segments between regular episodes with no editing but WITH leather creaking. It's a chance to hear a little more about what's going on in my life. Here's what my host's AI has to say about this episode:

Ever wondered how a simple phrase can transform the dynamics of a relationship? On this episode of Full Cow, Edge takes you on an insightful journey into the language of the leather kink and BDSM community. Explore how phrases like "I'm going to put you in your place" and "I got you" can profoundly affirm identity and foster deep emotional connections within power dynamics. Through personal reflections and real-life anecdotes, the episode uncovers the layers of meaning and powerful resonance these words carry for both dominants and submissives, enhancing intimacy and trust in their relationships.

But it's not all about kink! Edge also shares his excitement over the latest technology releases, including the iPhone 16 Pro and Apple Watch Ultra 2, and their potential to elevate social media content creation. While Florida's blistering heat has put a damper on leather activities, new features from Spotify and Buzzsprout offer fresh ways to engage with listeners and enhance the podcasting experience. Tune in for an engaging blend of kink, personal expression, and cutting-edge technology that shows how these elements intersect to enrich our creative pursuits and community bonds.

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to Full Cow, a podcast about leather kink and
BDSM.
My name is Edge, my pronounsare he, him, and I'm your host.
Welcome to another interlude,the episode between episodes,
offered raw and unedited, butwith Langlitz leather creaking,
you know, as my Langlitz breaksin, it creaks less and less so.

(00:21):
Unfortunately, the creaking mayeventually become a thing of
the past.
In this interlude I wanted tofocus on particular phrases I
use with boys that have levelsof meaning that I think are very
powerful, and I thought thiswould be useful to share so that
you may choose to use them orthat you may reflect on your own

(00:42):
special go-to phrases and thedepths of meaning in them.
You know, one of the things wedo as a community really
excellently is communicate, andyou know I'm a gay man, I come
from a gay community.
That is often about here's adick pic, here's a whole pic,
let's hook up, boom.
But in kink we spend a lot oftime talking about interest,

(01:05):
experiences and limits, and Ithink that communication has the
potential to foster connectionand intimacy, which are really
critical for me.
I'll also say that I hadplanned and may yet plan to do a
video series on these phraseson my social media Instagram and

(01:25):
Twitter I refuse to call it X.
I've not been doing a lot oneither platform lately, you know
, and part of that is I justhaven't thought of a whole lot
to say lately.
And then the other part of itis and I'm pretty sure I've
shared this.
You know, and those of you whoreally know me are probably

(01:46):
tired of hearing this, but beingsingle begins to wear on me
sometimes and it just sort oflimits my pool of abundant
energy.
I love being in a relationship.
I find that having a partnerreally helps it's like a spare
battery for me as an introvertand that their love and support
can really help me tackleprojects.

(02:06):
So I'm also kind of happy beingsingle.
I have a beautifully blessedlife, and so I don't want to
belabor that point too much,except to say that I am aware
that it is one of the reasonsI'm backing off from social
media.
But here you go.
Here's a beautiful interlude onthis topic.
The phrase I've been thinkingabout a lot is I'm going to put

(02:28):
you in your place, and normallythat is a very sort of phrase
with a lot of negativeconnotation and if we think
about it in the wider culturalusage, it's often deployed by
people in power to punish thosewho cross lines of class, race,

(02:51):
sex, gender, wealth.
When you step into the wrongplace, where they think you
don't belong, they say I'm goingto put you in your place, which
often is under them, andobviously we play a lot with
power dynamics and there's someelement of that.
But I think what makes it apowerful phrase when I use it

(03:14):
with boys is that it isinherently about two things I
see you, I see what you are andyou have a place in my world.
I know what your place is andI'm going to put you where you
belong at my boots.

(03:35):
There's so much hunger I findin men that I encounter to just
be seen.
I was speaking with a localpotential boy today who really
looks like a daddy and if you'revery tall or if you're very
built or if you're of a certainage, you have this problem that

(03:56):
you may identify as a boy andeverybody wants you to be daddy.
Just the fact that I could namehim as boy and call him as boy
and see him as boy was extremelypowerful for him the fact that
I could see him and that in myworld he has a place and that I
have the skills, the experienceand the equipment to put him

(04:22):
where he belongs.
That sense of belonging is sovital for all of us, for all of
us and for us to interact inways where we belong with each
other.
Super powerful.
The other phrase I've beenthinking about a lot and I use
this all the time with my sortof primary submissive, and that

(04:44):
is I got you, and this has somany beautiful meanings.
I got you is a way of saying Iunderstand you.
It's another way of affirming Iknow who you are, I see you, I
understand your submission.
It's that I got you like yeah,yeah, I got you, I got you, I
know what you're talking about,I got you.
It's that kind of I got you.
And then there's the secondlayer of I got you, I got you, I
know what you're talking about,I got you.

(05:04):
It's that kind of I got you.
And then there's the secondlayer of I got you.
I'm going to make sure youdon't fall.
I'm going to be there to catchyou.
I'm going to be there tosupport you.
I'm going to be there to liftyou up in your submission to the
greatest success you can have.
I've got you, so you don't haveto do this alone, you don't
have to worry, you don't have tofear, you don't have to

(05:27):
overthink I got you.
And then there's thebeautifully sort of twisted,
deliciously evil part of I gotyou, you're not going anywhere,
because I worked and I ensnaredyou and I entrapped you and I
baited it my trap, and nowyou're mine and I got you.

(05:51):
I think he likes that lastmeaning the most.
I love all of them.
I love the richness of thephrase and we often he started
throwing it back to me thathe'll, you know when I'm going
through something, he'll say Igot you.
And I know that it means allthose things as well, and so
it's a really beautiful codedway for us to express our
support for one another.
Those are the two I've beenthinking about the most.

(06:13):
Obviously, good boy is a super,super powerful phrase.
I use it quite often, but Idon't use it without cause.
So it's not.
You only get a good boy from meif there's a reason, and
sometimes it might seemautomatic and I will say, like a

(06:34):
lot of times, it's my impulseto just say good boy in response
to a lot of things.
But anyone, if I call them goodboy and if they asked what was
good, I would be able to explainto them in that moment the
thing they did that I thoughtwas good.
And if you are submissive or ifyou are boy identified and I

(06:54):
don't I want to be careful notto make this too universal.
However, in my experience, itis nearly universal that that
phrase good boy will really hita special place in your soul.
Maybe some other places in yourbody, but it will hit a place
in your soul.

(07:15):
Now, the phrase I never, everuse with boys is I'm
disappointed.
It is an incredibly destructivething to say to a boy.
It is perhaps from myexperience, what boys live in
fear of the most.
So even if there's a situationwhere I feel like, wow, this boy

(07:37):
did not meet my expectations,I'm not going to express that by
saying I'm disappointed.
I'm going to say I had somedifferent expectations.
Obviously there's a mismatchhere.
Let's sit down, let'scommunicate and things like that
.
So I'm disappointed is thephrase I will never, ever, ever
use.
Let me make sure I can stand bythat conviction.

(07:59):
Yeah, no, I can stand by thatconviction.
I'm just too aware of theemotional damage it can do
because I've been on thereceiving end of it and it
really wrecked me.
It completely wrecked me whensomeone said that to me in the
context of a scene, and so thatis not something I want to
inflict, want to inflict Beyondthat.

(08:24):
If you've ever chatted with mein any format, I often say noted
or duly noted, and on the faceof it this is again, has a
certain richness.
So on the face of it it's a wayof saying, yes, okay, I heard
you, I've paid attention to that, but it has this sort of
judicial aspect to it.
Right, that sort of places mein this position of power,

(08:46):
taking official notes or thecourt record and what you've
said has been duly noted in therecord.
It is also sometimes not withevery boy, but if you're a boy
that we are developing arelationship.
I literally start taking notesbecause my memory is only so
resilient and I want to rememberwhat you're into, what you're

(09:09):
not into.
What's the name of your dog,where did you grow up?
When's your birthday, what'syour favorite food, what kind of
snacks do you like?
I will query you and I willliterally note these things,
because if I do not note them, Iwill not remember them.
Now I must also admit that a lotof times when I say noted or

(09:30):
duly noted, it is also a way ofexpressing the fact that they
have how do I want to say this,how do I want to say this?
Sometimes people come to me andare really expressive of their
desires and don't often makeroom for my own desires.

(09:53):
So sometimes when I say notedor duly noted, it's a way of
saying I've heard you, butthat's really all about you and
I exist, so I'm just going tonote that, but I'm not going to
act on it or respond to it inany way.
I'm not exactly passive,aggressive.

(10:18):
In that moment I'm certainlynot aggressive, but I just find
it the best way to kind of forme, protect a certain boundary
around my available energy thatI'm not going to engage things
just because they're expressinga desire, but I'm going to
listen to their desire, I'mgoing to make note of it, but
I'm probably not going to act onit.

(10:38):
Probably not.
And here's what, oh goodness,you know if you chat with me.
Here's the problem you cannever be quite sure.
If I mean duly noted, I'vewritten that in my phone in the
notes app and I will be actingon it.
Or duly noted, I'm never goingto do that.
I suppose there are somecontextual clues and I would

(11:01):
like to think that if I ampressed on it, I will answer
honestly.
I can't entirely promise that,because, you know, a sadist has
to have a little bit of mysteryand a little bit of reserve.
At least I would like to thinkthat.
Think about the phrases thatreally hit you, that resonate
for you, whatever youridentification on the kink

(11:23):
spectrum, and then think aboutthe phrases you go to, that are
places of comfort, safety foryou, or that you end up using a
lot.
And I really want to encourageyou to think about the power of
the words you say and the levelsof meaning.
I think the richness of ourlanguage and the way we

(11:43):
communicate with each othercreates nuances that open up
spaces for special kinds ofintimacy that are available
through kink.
That's all I have to say aboutphrases.
Now the other thing actually,this whole interlude was
originally going to be ontechnology, because you know the
interludes are about hey, edge,what's going on in your leather

(12:07):
life right now?
And right now there's nothinggoing on in my leather life.
I'm in Florida.
It is hot AF.
The couple of times I'veconvinced myself to go out in
gear like, oh, it just rainedand there's no sun, oh, it's at
night, oh, it's only 82.
I go out in gear like, oh, itjust rained and there's no sun,
oh, it's at night, oh, it's only82.
I go out in gear, minimal gear,and then I am miserable.

(12:28):
I am soaking wet, miserable.
So I've not been doing hardlyanything connected to my leather
life.
So that was going to be like,oh my God, what do I do for the
interload?
The thing that's going on in mylife right now isn't leather,
it's technology, becauseyesterday Apple released iOS 18,
and tomorrow, friday the 20th,I will be picking up my new

(12:50):
iPhone 16 Pro and my new AppleWatch Ultra 2.
Now, if you are very close to me, you may already know that I'm
a huge Apple geek fanboy arevery close to me.
You may already know that I'm ahuge Apple geek fanboy, and I
don't mean to disparage othertechnology ecosystems.
Whether you are a Google slashAndroid user or if you're big on
Alexa, whatever choice you makeis yours and in fact, you know

(13:14):
my primary submissive has aGoogle Home and I've been able
to witness that Google fails asoften as Siri.
So, in terms of smart homeecosystems.
I kind of feel like they're allkind of wonky squonky at this
point, so pick whatever onemakes you happy.
But there's something aboutApple that I just love, and I

(13:37):
think it's because it makes mefeel cool.
I will admit it makes me feelcool.
I'm excited for the iPhone 16.
I'm sorry, iphone 16 Probecause I'm starting to be
curious about its videocapabilities.
Now, obviously, for a couple ofgenerations now, iphone's been

(13:58):
really able to shoot in 4K blah,blah, blah, cinematic shift
focus, blah, blah, blah, andthat's great.
But this new iPhone 16 has fourmicrophones and has now the
capability to change the soundenvironment in a video, and I'm
very curious what possibilitiesthat might open for me in the

(14:21):
videos I do for Instagram andTwitter.
I refuse to call it X.
Will I be able to do somethingwhere I'm walking towards the
camera but my voice is stillclear?
Am I going to be able to dosomething, maybe out in a
leather environment and talkingto the camera and my voice is
still clear?
Still clear.

(14:43):
So I'm going to be very curiousin testing out what this
technology enables me to do withmy videos and my podcast.
Speaking of the other reason,I'm kind of excited about new
technology, besides the factthat I'm a geek and I love new
technology.
I just got an email today fromSpotify and now there's a
feature where you can kind ofput videos or video podcasts

(15:03):
with your audio episode inSpotify, and I haven't looked at
it very closely.
I think the idea for them isreplace an entire audio episode
with an entire video episode,and that just feels a little
excessive to me.
You know I am often scramblingto put episodes together or I'm
doing a segment one weekend andthe next segment the other no.

(15:25):
But as I play around with thenew video recording capabilities
of the iPhone 16 Pro, I amcurious.
It would be interesting to havelittle video introductions to
episodes on Spotify.
This is something I need tothink about and explore because,
since it's Spotify specific, itwould be an extra layer of

(15:45):
labor and I don't know how muchI want to undertake that.
But the other way of thinkingabout what I'm expressing here
is that new toys make me excitedabout entering into the social
media world again andcontributing more content again.
So really everybody wins.
It's like oh, I've got a newiPhone, I want to try out the

(16:06):
video.
Let me make some videos forInstagram.
Oh, I want to try a video atLeatherworks where we're doing
shopping together, so I want totake advantage of the audio blah
, blah, blah.
So all of you win.
When I get a new toy as well,because I want to play with it
and play with it in ways thatcontribute to my creative outlet
, and one of my creative outletsis this podcast and the social

(16:27):
media associated with it.
Speaking of this podcast andspeaking of technology, my
podcast host, buzzsprout, nowalso has a new fan mail feature.
That's something I mightexplore as well.
Of course I have the speak pipeand of course I have email.
I don't really know howconvenient fan mail would be in

(16:47):
relation to either of those, butthe way they suggested using it
is toss out a question at thestart of an episode and tell
listeners to go answer it on thefan mail and then the next
episode, you can review theanswers.
I like that suggestion of moreinteraction with all of you, so
that's something I might exploreas well.
And so let me wrap up thisinterlude Phrases powerful,

(17:12):
powerful phrases with multiplemeanings.
What are yours?
Technology Edge loves new toys.
He plays with them in ways thatbenefit the social media
landscape and therefore, you andthat, my friends, is the
totality of this interlude.
Thank you so much for joiningme.
It really does mean quite a bitfor me, and always, I hope that

(17:36):
your leather journey isprogressing in ways that help
you become more of the personyou are meant to be, more of the
person you desire to be.
See you soon.
No, I won't see you soonbecause I'm on a podcast.
You will hear me soon.
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