Psychological reason Mum can never say the right name...

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
An apple, a.

Speaker 2 (00:04):
Kid on the Gold Coast today.

Speaker 3 (00:06):
Those are the kind of questions you can expect kiddos
will play sooner wanted to know on Hot Tomato.

Speaker 4 (00:10):
If you've ever had your mum rattle off the entire
entire family role call before she finally lands on your name,
then it's not her forgetting who you are or being disrespected.
It's something psychological. So I think we've all had it.
I mean, you only had two. I've got five. That's
five of my family. So it's christ Jonathan, Michael, you

(00:31):
whoever you are used to end on anyway, it's called
misnaming within a social category, and it's really common.

Speaker 2 (00:39):
And hands up, his parents have done it.

Speaker 3 (00:41):
You're even if even if the old man was calling
out trying to get me, he goes through mum first,
as well, my brother sometimes the dog.

Speaker 4 (00:53):
Okay, you're gonna like why it is the way it
is in a moment, Okay, But it's basically like a
little filing cabinet in your mom or your dad's brain,
and it's her VIP filing cabinet. So you're in this
filing cabinet with all the VIPs in her life.

Speaker 2 (01:13):
So that's the first thing. It's a nice thing. You're
in there, it is, it's.

Speaker 4 (01:17):
Just that she pulls out, honestly, the name she says
the most. So if your brother was in trouble a lot,
that's why she would say his name the most. But
also she knows your dad longer than you guys, so
that's why she would say your dad's name first. It's
all to do with who went in there first, and

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when you're trying to work out who you're going to
yell at and for what reason, the name that you've
said the most comes out.

Speaker 2 (01:43):
And here's someone much better than me describing it.

Speaker 1 (01:46):
Remember how your mom used to say all of your
siblings names before she said yours, Hey, Nicole, Maddie, Emmy, Belinda.
This is actually what psychologists calls misnaming within a social category.
There is an actual term for it. And what happens

(02:09):
is you file all of your loved one's names into
like a VIP section of your brain, like in a folder,
and when you are quickly trying to say someone's name,
you sort of say them in order of how many
times you've used that person's name. So if your sister
or brother is older than you, they're going to be
called first because obviously they said their name, so it's

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not a favoritism things you are in their VIP.

Speaker 2 (02:36):
What section of the brain. Isn't that lovely?

Speaker 4 (02:39):
All these people that have been feeling like they always
say my name last and having to go to therapy
over it, it's actually the sign that you were probably
good and you weren't in trouble all the time.

Speaker 3 (02:49):
What about though, just to not this might wreck it?
So you a parent might just talk about their favorite
all the time and then that's the one they say
the most, in.

Speaker 4 (03:04):
Which case it's going to be the dog because the
dog actually listens.

Speaker 2 (03:08):
Right, it's everyone's favorite, just something to and there's our
two different brains.

Speaker 4 (03:14):
So I'm like, no, she loves you, and you're like, no,
she doesn't.

Speaker 2 (03:19):
Just in case you got a ten second reprieve there
and enjoyed life, I'm sorry if I put a downer
on it. I just love it. At the end. My
mum used to always go, oh, you know who you are,
and you know who you are. No, that's why I'm
having therapy. I don't know who