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Speaker 1 (00:01):
To text or not to text. This is the question
that is plaguing Ozzie gen zas that are being caught
in a dating deadlock with the fear of seeing seeming
too keen when they've gone on a great date. So
this research has come out from the dating app Hinge right,
just quite a nice dating app, and it has researched

(00:23):
and revealed. Yeah, I went on it when I was
when Jared and I had a break, I went on
Hinge did you? But it hooked me up with someone
I already knew. And then I was like, that's weird,
and I messaged him and he was like, oh, I'm like, yeah,
I know, weird. It got straight off it. But anyway, it's.

Speaker 2 (00:38):
The one way to stop it.

Speaker 1 (00:39):
Yeah, it's pretty comprehensive with entering all your details, so
it rightly hooked me out with someone that had similar interests. Anyway,
young Ossie's are sabotaging their own love lives by refusing
to follow up after a good date because they're afraid
of looking too eager, like looking like a have you
heard of the term pick me? Oh? Pick me? Is like,
oh yeah, exactly, And so they're not messaging at all

(01:03):
and because the other person's too afraid to message. They're
just in a stranglehold of not messaging, and then love
is being lost. This sad.

Speaker 2 (01:11):
I think it's all part of too many dating apps
where you've got too many readily available, so you're not
focused necessarily on the one person. Yes, it's not out
of a question to be some people going on a
date and they've already got someone else on a Thursday
that they've already got lined up, and like it was

(01:32):
a lot harder in the old days to have that
many dates.

Speaker 1 (01:35):
You didn't have that many dates. Yeah, you didn't anyway.
So they reported that seventy five percent of people expect
to hear from their date within twenty four hours, but
only eleven percent want to be the first to message,
so instead they end up wondering if their match is
losing interest or turning had fun messages into complex puzzles
to dissect with their friends, which you've seen this online,

(01:57):
haven't you? Like?

Speaker 2 (01:58):
Yeah, have fun? What is that mean?

Speaker 1 (02:00):
Does that mean like I had fun? Or does it
mean oh had fun? Or is it like a full
stop had fun, don't want to see you again? Or
is it had fun and I do want to see
you again. It's hard.

Speaker 2 (02:11):
Can you break the ice by just saying, hey, look,
I know it's weird to be the first one to text,
but I liked my time so much I thought I'd
be brave enough to do so.

Speaker 1 (02:19):
And that's why you're married and have been married and
have four children. Honestly, that's perfect.

Speaker 2 (02:26):
Kind of makes sense, it kind of. I mean, you
break the ice and then you don't feel.

Speaker 1 (02:29):
As lame exactly. So this continues that an expert has said,
most of us are craving connection, but we're scared to
be the one who initiates first. This hesitation results in
missed opportunities, especially when you mutually like each other. So
just take a leaf out of Gaily's book. I absolutely
love that.

Speaker 2 (02:48):
Just you know you're struggling. If I'm giving you advice,
maybe that one. Take that, but don't come back for
any more. All right, you know what I'm done?

Speaker 1 (02:58):
Who cares if you're a pick me? Who cares if
they say I don't like you back? At least you
shot your shot.

Speaker 2 (03:06):
That's right, Well, that's what everyone's hoping for.

Speaker 1 (03:09):
It's Kaylie amblin Jane, second shot, Shoot your second shot.