September 30, 2025 • 18 mins
Julie and Jake take listeners through the emotionally charged process of decluttering personal and family possessions. They discuss the sentimental challenges of letting go of items, especially after significant life changes such as moving, divorce, or the death of a loved one. The hosts share practical tips, including utilizing estate sale companies, local resources, and social worker help, to alleviate the burden. They emphasize that decluttering is not just a physical act but an emotional journey, and highlight the importance of seeking assistance to make the process more manageable.
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Welcome to garage sales Unhinged.
Where the characters are as quirky as the vines.
I'm Julie. And I'm Jake.
Join us as we dive into the wildworld of garage sales, yard
sales, estate sales and anywheresecond hand sales are happening.
From bizarre bargains to hilarious haggles.
You won't believe the stories we've got lined up.
Let's get unhinged. Hi, Jake.
(00:25):
Hey, how you doing? I'm.
Going. Everybody feeling good,
Everybody settling in? Yeah, Everybody start making
out. Go ahead.
No, that's gross. Hey, how are you?
How are you doing emotionally man?
Every day is a journey. Don't Stop believing that is my
(00:50):
favorite Journey song. That's probably my favorite song
of all time. It's just man that comes on in
the car. He's got a belt it out like I I
have been late for meetings because it's a priority for me
to finish the journey song and honestly, that's all life is as
priorities and I don't want to miss an opportunity to belt out.
(01:12):
Don't stop believing for like talking about quarterly numbers,
no. Honestly, that's probably making
the good choice there. I'm with Steve Perry.
Leave me alone. OK, let's talk about the
emotional burden of getting rid of crap.
And I use crap in a loose sense so I can be talking about my own
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crap. OK.
Not loose. Crap.
Thank you. Yeah, Thank you for clarifying.
Like you? Yeah.
So this can be my own stuff, it could be our parents stuff.
And I have friends that are currently going through this
process and we had a really goodconversation about it.
So I actually wanted to talk about today that the, the
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emotional process of getting ridof things.
And I'm, I'm currently doing this because I'm still going
through gas closets and cleaningout stuff that we have let.
Let me give you an example of anemotional burden of getting rid
of something. OK.
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What do you do with your child'sschool pictures year over year?
What do you what do you do with them?
I mean, a lot of people keep them.
I keep them. But then what do you do with
them whenever she's 55? Yeah, I mean, like right now
they're like they're all in one thing.
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But yeah, you're right. At some point it's like, well,
I'll have, I'll keep moving thatone thing around, but.
Like did you know that our parents still have our school
pictures? I I had damn well hope they had
better. You know that's.
They're not recorded. On that macaroni duck.
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But no, like I'm talking about like, you know, your annual
school pictures, but they don't have them on display anymore.
They just have them in a box somewhere.
Jacob, at some point you, me or older brother are going to have
to go through all the boxes. Yeah, yeah, maybe that's the
point of hanging on to it is so that your children will have to
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go through those things and spend time together and
reminisce and all the other stuff.
Well, but here's the thing, likeone of my friends is facing her
dad has he's moved out of I think he's passed away now.
Either way, he's he's either moved out of the house or he's
passed away. But he's, if he's, if he's still
alive, he's living in a assistedliving facility.
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It is on her. It's her responsibility to get
the house ready to go on the market to be sold.
The house is full of her parentsthings.
And she is struggling emotionally of having to go
through everything. Because the other thing is too,
is like the longer you don't puta house on the market, the more
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you're paying in, you know, property taxes or if it's not
paid off, you're paying the mortgage, You have to pay for
electricity, you have to pay forwater, like all those things to
keep a house and, and running order.
And so it's not like you have all the time in the world to
just, well, I'm going to get to it eventually.
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And also, if you have other family members that are also
waiting on the sale of that house, it could be generating
some animosity between those family members.
And so she was saying how much she was struggling with the
thought of going through her parents things, sorting out
which items to keep, which itemsto toss, which items to sell.
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And also how much does she know to sell it for?
Because maybe her parents collected things and she doesn't
collect those. She doesn't know how much
they're worth. And so part of it's going, you
know, they're as much as we talkabout like decluttering.
Hey, declutter, declutter. I'm currently decluttering
because I don't want my stepdaughter to have to go to
all the boxes later in life, butalso I need to be able to put
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stuff back in my my guest closet.
But it is one of those things wedon't talk about the emotional
burden of it. And there are times where like,
I mean, I did this the other day.
I have a box of things I still need to go through after the
renovation of my Home Office. And some of it are pictures of
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my friends from high school. I have no clue that I still have
these photos. I didn't even like this person.
Yeah, well, and I'm like, why? I should be able to give this
thing that they're housed in? Like I need to donate it, but
what do I do with the photo? Do I just throw them away?
Because I feel like I'm throwingaway a piece of that person?
This is the where the emotional burden comes in.
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It is easy to say declutter. There's something about the word
that makes it seem like a very easy process.
But. The truth is our relationship
with physical things is not physical at all.
It's it's emotional. And I think you see that in, in
in some cases where, you know, somebody might, might, might be
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described as a order is that there's, there could be a lot of
it could be a lot of stuff. One of the reasons for those
things is like there's like a, amental and emotional thing.
Like, no, there's, there's no logical reason for me to have
all of this stuff apart from theemotion of it or apart from the
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difficulty of Harding with it emotionally.
Yeah. And, and it does go into a lot
of that. And I think we're this, I mean,
the emotional burden of clearingout items could be a major life
change. You know, moving away from home
for the first time, getting yourfirst apartment, getting
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divorced and having to split up those assets, a family member
passing away and then you have their items.
So I have another friend that her, her parents are, are gone
and she was part of the process of liquidating their estate.
And then also her 26 year old daughter passed away suddenly.
And so she also has all of her daughter's stuff to try to get
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rid of sell and all those things.
And this friend is doing it all.She like you can call an estate
sell company. So a lot of people what they
don't realize estate sells are just that they, they sell
estates. It doesn't mean that the person
has to have died a lot. Some people use it like I have
friends that have moved overseas.
Well they are not taking anything from here and they
don't want to have the hassle oftrying to sell stuff so they
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hired an estate sale company to do it all for them.
I know, pretty genius. I always thought estate sales
like you hate somebody had to die.
No. Very kind with them.
No, a lot of times if, especially if a family has to
move for a job and that job it like, hey, it's starting next
week, we got to get going. Yeah, they can contact an estate
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sale company and they can part, they can do that sell for them
whenever a family member dies and you're trying to go through
that process of what do we keep?What do we sell those things?
My friends that have gone through this process, they said,
yeah, it's it's a big burden andlike probably need to have other
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family members there. Bring in a friend that can help
you do that. I already have one of my friends
that have said, Julie, whenever I die, you come to my house and
take all my clothes because she has a lot of professional
clothes and take it to this women's charity and they can use
my suit. I said, OK, well, I said, do you
not want your husband and son tolike doing it?
She's like, she's already telling me she's like, they
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won't be able to function. You do it.
Is that OK? Yeah, that makes sense.
I was like, and also make sure you've told your husband and son
and I it's not just me walking in and like grabbing all this
stuff. Yeah, so Linda's gone.
Too bad. It's like she wanted me to go
ahead and take this flat screen.There's not a Missus Linda in
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the house anymore. But yeah, there there's things
like that, like you having that support system there to, to be
able to go through things. And for my friend whose dad is
no longer in the house, she's like, there's nothing in the
house that they want to keep. There's nothing of value there.
They just need to clean it out so she can get the house clean
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to go on the market. And here's the thing that no one
tells you, your local city municipality has resources to
help with this. Are you planning a garage sale,
yard sale, or estate sale and need some help?
Look no further than Garage SaleSupply.
They provide top notch resourcesand expert advice to help you
(10:08):
host the perfect sale. From pricing tips to promotional
strategies, they've got you covered.
Visit garagesalesupply.com and make your next sell a success.
One of my friends who has gone through this, her sister-in-law
is a social worker. This is something that social
workers help out with and I think a lot of times we think
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about social workers as like being advocates for children and
making sure there's healthy homes and all that stuff.
They are also, they have resources for senior citizens
and not only senior citizens, but for the people that are
going through end of life stagesand going through some of these
big life changes. Social workers have resources
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for them. So in my city, I was looking at
this today of going, what does my city provide as resources?
So there's a couple of them. One, if you want to go to like a
big national resource, you can always do AARP.
They have kind of a directory ofstuff.
You have to be a member to access those things, but they
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have resources out there that can help.
In my city they have a group that is seniors helping seniors.
So these are people that do small like handyman projects in
this group, they do them Friday mornings.
But it's a senior person that can fix a, you know, leaky
faucet to replacing a wood fence, you know, portion of a
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wood fence, but it's no cost to the person that they're helping.
But it's those type of situations.
You can reach out to your senioradvocacy groups within your
community to ask about, hey, this is my situation.
There's companies out there thatwill come in and do this type of
thing and they have those resources.
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My other friend who just went through an estate sale process
for her parents estate and it makes so much sense.
After she told me that, it was like, that's a no brainer.
Whenever you need to just get things out of a house.
Moving companies and a lot of the moving companies like they
do this as part of their service, but a lot of the moving
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companies work with various consignment stores, antique
stores, charity groups. So you can call a moving company
and say this is my issue. Do you have a charity group or
you know, whatever you may be looking for, do you have someone
you can recommend? Because the moving companies
they are, they have a vast network of resources of people,
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things like that. So you can rely on that type of
network to sit. Now.
They're probably going to give you the name of the reference to
a friend of theirs. Sure.
But you're getting a name to follow up with.
So there's there's options out there.
Again, none of these people offer therapy sessions, which I
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think is part of that emotional burden.
But for like once you're like, OK, I know I'm going to have to
go through this stuff or I just need people to start moving
things out so it can get that ball rolling and instead of me
having to touch every single thing, I can just look at that
couple things about, OK, I want to keep those.
The rest of it goes out. Interesting.
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I didn't, I didn't, I didn't realize there were services
around that. But it is good to know that
they're not all strictly geared towards seniors because it's an
issue for a lot of people, you know, it doesn't matter the age.
Well, and so for my friend whose26 year old daughter passed
away, her daughter's, I'm going to say fashion aesthetic does
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not match her mom's. And so my friend is having to
research like I don't know how much this purse or these pants
go for and all that stuff. And she's trying to do it 1 by
1. And I said, why don't you just
connect with the reseller that focuses on that thing and sell
the whole lot to the reseller Granite.
You're not going to get top dollar as if you were selling it
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for yourself, but you would alsoget rid of everything in one go.
And whenever I said that she looked at me, she goes, I didn't
even know that was a thing. So for my friend who I've had on
our show before, Maggie, she resells 60s and 70s vintage
clothing that if someone had a family member that had a lot of
vintage clothing and Maggie has people do this to her, you can
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call it Maggie and say, hey, I have two closets full of stuff.
Will you come tell me what I have?
Will you buy things from me? And she will drive in her car,
go over there that like as soon as possible because she knows
like one, what you have two, she's going to be fair with you
3, She also has to turn around and make money off of it.
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And so she's going to be open and transparent.
But any reseller would do that type of thing.
And so again, for people that have especially a specific type
of clothing, if you find a reseller that specializes in it,
you can get a rid of a lot of itand it's still going to go to a
good place and people are going to purchase it and love on it
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and, you know, wear it for theirstyle going forward.
I. Mean that that that solves all
the a lot of the stuff. But yeah, you're right, the
actual emotional side of it, that that takes some therapy.
Well, and I think I mean you brought up earlier like
hoarders, I think that is like, and I was trying to explain to
someone the other day, I said the difference between a
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collector and a hoarder is that the collector knows when to sell
something. They have a timeline a hoarder
holds onto. And this is one of my friends.
She has a collection of Barbies.And she's like, oh, no, it's
going to be worth a lot, you know, in five years, 10 years.
And her husband's like, it's notgoing to get any better.
Just sell them. Wait.
I'm sorry, a collection of what?Barbies.
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Oh, Barbies, Yeah. The vintage Barbies.
And it's one of those things of like, you know, a hoarder holds
on to it because someday it's going to be worth a lot of
money, but that someday never comes because it's, you know,
it's like the casino. I'm waiting for it to hit big.
I'm going. Listen, that thing has
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cockroaches all over it, isn't that?
I'm not, I'm not sure that people that might be described,
you know, as as hoarding. I don't know that it's always
the motivation is, you know, monetary or financial or
anything like that. I mean, sometimes it's just
like, no, I need this. Like, you can't get rid of this,
and you like and for whatever ostensible reason, but at the
core. Yeah.
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It's still, it's still an emotional thing, yeah.
Yeah, there's there's a lot to unpack and work through.
And again, whenever you have a lot of big milestone life
changes all happen at once, it'shard to process all of it.
And again, for people that thinklike, hey, I have to get the
house done and just the heavy burden of that on my brain
going, it's keeping me from actually doing the thing.
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There's resources out there thatcan help you do the thing.
Now they can also recommend somegood mental health professionals
that can help you process that but don't.
I also don't want people think like oh I have to clear out A2
story house all by myself. Like no, there's, there's groups
out there that can do it for you.
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Well, I guess it's just like a like you would advise people
just like start start looking online and you'll you'll find
things. Honestly, like because a lot of
what I do want people to be cautious with this swindlers of
like, hey, are they going to take you for granted?
Are they going to swindle you out of something that you didn't
actually want to get rid of? That's why I recommend going
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with the city municipality, something of a a local service,
or at least reach out to those people and then they can lead
you in the right direction. Well, good tip and good to know
because yeah, it's, it's like usually when you are at the
point where you know, you've gotto do something, it's all you're
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at a, you're likely at a pretty overwhelming, you know, point.
Yeah, anyway. And it's it's very easy to kind
of get that television. You're like, oh, no, this is
overwhelming. I need to do something about
this. And the last thing you do is
think that it's OK to and that to bring in help and that help
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is available. So yeah.
No, that's really good inside. Social workers, they do a lot.
So that's what I got for this week.
Yeah, It's very helpful. Thank you very much.
You're welcome. Goodbye.
Welcome to garage sales Unhinged.
Where the characters are as quirky as the vines.
I'm Julie. And I'm Jake.
Join us as we dive into the wildworld of garage sales, yard
sales, estate sales and anywheresecond hand sales are happening.
From bizarre bargains to hilarious haggles.
You won't believe the stories we've got lined up.
Let's get unhinged. Hi, Jake.
(00:25):
Hey, how you doing? I'm.
Going. Everybody feeling good,
Everybody settling in? Yeah, Everybody start making
out. Go ahead.
No, that's gross. Hey, how are you?
How are you doing emotionally man?
Every day is a journey. Don't Stop believing that is my
(00:50):
favorite Journey song. That's probably my favorite song
of all time. It's just man that comes on in
the car. He's got a belt it out like I I
have been late for meetings because it's a priority for me
to finish the journey song and honestly, that's all life is as
priorities and I don't want to miss an opportunity to belt out.
(01:12):
Don't stop believing for like talking about quarterly numbers,
no. Honestly, that's probably making
the good choice there. I'm with Steve Perry.
Leave me alone. OK, let's talk about the
emotional burden of getting rid of crap.
And I use crap in a loose sense so I can be talking about my own
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crap. OK.
Not loose. Crap.
Thank you. Yeah, Thank you for clarifying.
Like you? Yeah.
So this can be my own stuff, it could be our parents stuff.
And I have friends that are currently going through this
process and we had a really goodconversation about it.
So I actually wanted to talk about today that the, the
(02:00):
emotional process of getting ridof things.
And I'm, I'm currently doing this because I'm still going
through gas closets and cleaningout stuff that we have let.
Let me give you an example of anemotional burden of getting rid
of something. OK.
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What do you do with your child'sschool pictures year over year?
What do you what do you do with them?
I mean, a lot of people keep them.
I keep them. But then what do you do with
them whenever she's 55? Yeah, I mean, like right now
they're like they're all in one thing.
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But yeah, you're right. At some point it's like, well,
I'll have, I'll keep moving thatone thing around, but.
Like did you know that our parents still have our school
pictures? I I had damn well hope they had
better. You know that's.
They're not recorded. On that macaroni duck.
(03:03):
But no, like I'm talking about like, you know, your annual
school pictures, but they don't have them on display anymore.
They just have them in a box somewhere.
Jacob, at some point you, me or older brother are going to have
to go through all the boxes. Yeah, yeah, maybe that's the
point of hanging on to it is so that your children will have to
(03:25):
go through those things and spend time together and
reminisce and all the other stuff.
Well, but here's the thing, likeone of my friends is facing her
dad has he's moved out of I think he's passed away now.
Either way, he's he's either moved out of the house or he's
passed away. But he's, if he's, if he's still
alive, he's living in a assistedliving facility.
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It is on her. It's her responsibility to get
the house ready to go on the market to be sold.
The house is full of her parentsthings.
And she is struggling emotionally of having to go
through everything. Because the other thing is too,
is like the longer you don't puta house on the market, the more
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you're paying in, you know, property taxes or if it's not
paid off, you're paying the mortgage, You have to pay for
electricity, you have to pay forwater, like all those things to
keep a house and, and running order.
And so it's not like you have all the time in the world to
just, well, I'm going to get to it eventually.
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And also, if you have other family members that are also
waiting on the sale of that house, it could be generating
some animosity between those family members.
And so she was saying how much she was struggling with the
thought of going through her parents things, sorting out
which items to keep, which itemsto toss, which items to sell.
(04:54):
And also how much does she know to sell it for?
Because maybe her parents collected things and she doesn't
collect those. She doesn't know how much
they're worth. And so part of it's going, you
know, they're as much as we talkabout like decluttering.
Hey, declutter, declutter. I'm currently decluttering
because I don't want my stepdaughter to have to go to
all the boxes later in life, butalso I need to be able to put
(05:17):
stuff back in my my guest closet.
But it is one of those things wedon't talk about the emotional
burden of it. And there are times where like,
I mean, I did this the other day.
I have a box of things I still need to go through after the
renovation of my Home Office. And some of it are pictures of
(05:37):
my friends from high school. I have no clue that I still have
these photos. I didn't even like this person.
Yeah, well, and I'm like, why? I should be able to give this
thing that they're housed in? Like I need to donate it, but
what do I do with the photo? Do I just throw them away?
Because I feel like I'm throwingaway a piece of that person?
This is the where the emotional burden comes in.
(06:00):
It is easy to say declutter. There's something about the word
that makes it seem like a very easy process.
But. The truth is our relationship
with physical things is not physical at all.
It's it's emotional. And I think you see that in, in
in some cases where, you know, somebody might, might, might be
(06:23):
described as a order is that there's, there could be a lot of
it could be a lot of stuff. One of the reasons for those
things is like there's like a, amental and emotional thing.
Like, no, there's, there's no logical reason for me to have
all of this stuff apart from theemotion of it or apart from the
(06:48):
difficulty of Harding with it emotionally.
Yeah. And, and it does go into a lot
of that. And I think we're this, I mean,
the emotional burden of clearingout items could be a major life
change. You know, moving away from home
for the first time, getting yourfirst apartment, getting
(07:12):
divorced and having to split up those assets, a family member
passing away and then you have their items.
So I have another friend that her, her parents are, are gone
and she was part of the process of liquidating their estate.
And then also her 26 year old daughter passed away suddenly.
And so she also has all of her daughter's stuff to try to get
(07:37):
rid of sell and all those things.
And this friend is doing it all.She like you can call an estate
sell company. So a lot of people what they
don't realize estate sells are just that they, they sell
estates. It doesn't mean that the person
has to have died a lot. Some people use it like I have
friends that have moved overseas.
Well they are not taking anything from here and they
don't want to have the hassle oftrying to sell stuff so they
(08:00):
hired an estate sale company to do it all for them.
I know, pretty genius. I always thought estate sales
like you hate somebody had to die.
No. Very kind with them.
No, a lot of times if, especially if a family has to
move for a job and that job it like, hey, it's starting next
week, we got to get going. Yeah, they can contact an estate
(08:21):
sale company and they can part, they can do that sell for them
whenever a family member dies and you're trying to go through
that process of what do we keep?What do we sell those things?
My friends that have gone through this process, they said,
yeah, it's it's a big burden andlike probably need to have other
(08:43):
family members there. Bring in a friend that can help
you do that. I already have one of my friends
that have said, Julie, whenever I die, you come to my house and
take all my clothes because she has a lot of professional
clothes and take it to this women's charity and they can use
my suit. I said, OK, well, I said, do you
not want your husband and son tolike doing it?
She's like, she's already telling me she's like, they
(09:03):
won't be able to function. You do it.
Is that OK? Yeah, that makes sense.
I was like, and also make sure you've told your husband and son
and I it's not just me walking in and like grabbing all this
stuff. Yeah, so Linda's gone.
Too bad. It's like she wanted me to go
ahead and take this flat screen.There's not a Missus Linda in
(09:26):
the house anymore. But yeah, there there's things
like that, like you having that support system there to, to be
able to go through things. And for my friend whose dad is
no longer in the house, she's like, there's nothing in the
house that they want to keep. There's nothing of value there.
They just need to clean it out so she can get the house clean
(09:46):
to go on the market. And here's the thing that no one
tells you, your local city municipality has resources to
help with this. Are you planning a garage sale,
yard sale, or estate sale and need some help?
Look no further than Garage SaleSupply.
They provide top notch resourcesand expert advice to help you
(10:08):
host the perfect sale. From pricing tips to promotional
strategies, they've got you covered.
Visit garagesalesupply.com and make your next sell a success.
One of my friends who has gone through this, her sister-in-law
is a social worker. This is something that social
workers help out with and I think a lot of times we think
(10:30):
about social workers as like being advocates for children and
making sure there's healthy homes and all that stuff.
They are also, they have resources for senior citizens
and not only senior citizens, but for the people that are
going through end of life stagesand going through some of these
big life changes. Social workers have resources
(10:51):
for them. So in my city, I was looking at
this today of going, what does my city provide as resources?
So there's a couple of them. One, if you want to go to like a
big national resource, you can always do AARP.
They have kind of a directory ofstuff.
You have to be a member to access those things, but they
(11:11):
have resources out there that can help.
In my city they have a group that is seniors helping seniors.
So these are people that do small like handyman projects in
this group, they do them Friday mornings.
But it's a senior person that can fix a, you know, leaky
faucet to replacing a wood fence, you know, portion of a
(11:36):
wood fence, but it's no cost to the person that they're helping.
But it's those type of situations.
You can reach out to your senioradvocacy groups within your
community to ask about, hey, this is my situation.
There's companies out there thatwill come in and do this type of
thing and they have those resources.
(11:58):
My other friend who just went through an estate sale process
for her parents estate and it makes so much sense.
After she told me that, it was like, that's a no brainer.
Whenever you need to just get things out of a house.
Moving companies and a lot of the moving companies like they
do this as part of their service, but a lot of the moving
(12:19):
companies work with various consignment stores, antique
stores, charity groups. So you can call a moving company
and say this is my issue. Do you have a charity group or
you know, whatever you may be looking for, do you have someone
you can recommend? Because the moving companies
they are, they have a vast network of resources of people,
(12:42):
things like that. So you can rely on that type of
network to sit. Now.
They're probably going to give you the name of the reference to
a friend of theirs. Sure.
But you're getting a name to follow up with.
So there's there's options out there.
Again, none of these people offer therapy sessions, which I
(13:02):
think is part of that emotional burden.
But for like once you're like, OK, I know I'm going to have to
go through this stuff or I just need people to start moving
things out so it can get that ball rolling and instead of me
having to touch every single thing, I can just look at that
couple things about, OK, I want to keep those.
The rest of it goes out. Interesting.
(13:25):
I didn't, I didn't, I didn't realize there were services
around that. But it is good to know that
they're not all strictly geared towards seniors because it's an
issue for a lot of people, you know, it doesn't matter the age.
Well, and so for my friend whose26 year old daughter passed
away, her daughter's, I'm going to say fashion aesthetic does
(13:46):
not match her mom's. And so my friend is having to
research like I don't know how much this purse or these pants
go for and all that stuff. And she's trying to do it 1 by
1. And I said, why don't you just
connect with the reseller that focuses on that thing and sell
the whole lot to the reseller Granite.
You're not going to get top dollar as if you were selling it
(14:07):
for yourself, but you would alsoget rid of everything in one go.
And whenever I said that she looked at me, she goes, I didn't
even know that was a thing. So for my friend who I've had on
our show before, Maggie, she resells 60s and 70s vintage
clothing that if someone had a family member that had a lot of
vintage clothing and Maggie has people do this to her, you can
(14:31):
call it Maggie and say, hey, I have two closets full of stuff.
Will you come tell me what I have?
Will you buy things from me? And she will drive in her car,
go over there that like as soon as possible because she knows
like one, what you have two, she's going to be fair with you
3, She also has to turn around and make money off of it.
(14:52):
And so she's going to be open and transparent.
But any reseller would do that type of thing.
And so again, for people that have especially a specific type
of clothing, if you find a reseller that specializes in it,
you can get a rid of a lot of itand it's still going to go to a
good place and people are going to purchase it and love on it
(15:13):
and, you know, wear it for theirstyle going forward.
I. Mean that that that solves all
the a lot of the stuff. But yeah, you're right, the
actual emotional side of it, that that takes some therapy.
Well, and I think I mean you brought up earlier like
hoarders, I think that is like, and I was trying to explain to
someone the other day, I said the difference between a
(15:33):
collector and a hoarder is that the collector knows when to sell
something. They have a timeline a hoarder
holds onto. And this is one of my friends.
She has a collection of Barbies.And she's like, oh, no, it's
going to be worth a lot, you know, in five years, 10 years.
And her husband's like, it's notgoing to get any better.
Just sell them. Wait.
I'm sorry, a collection of what?Barbies.
(15:55):
Oh, Barbies, Yeah. The vintage Barbies.
And it's one of those things of like, you know, a hoarder holds
on to it because someday it's going to be worth a lot of
money, but that someday never comes because it's, you know,
it's like the casino. I'm waiting for it to hit big.
I'm going. Listen, that thing has
(16:16):
cockroaches all over it, isn't that?
I'm not, I'm not sure that people that might be described,
you know, as as hoarding. I don't know that it's always
the motivation is, you know, monetary or financial or
anything like that. I mean, sometimes it's just
like, no, I need this. Like, you can't get rid of this,
and you like and for whatever ostensible reason, but at the
core. Yeah.
(16:38):
It's still, it's still an emotional thing, yeah.
Yeah, there's there's a lot to unpack and work through.
And again, whenever you have a lot of big milestone life
changes all happen at once, it'shard to process all of it.
And again, for people that thinklike, hey, I have to get the
house done and just the heavy burden of that on my brain
going, it's keeping me from actually doing the thing.
(17:01):
There's resources out there thatcan help you do the thing.
Now they can also recommend somegood mental health professionals
that can help you process that but don't.
I also don't want people think like oh I have to clear out A2
story house all by myself. Like no, there's, there's groups
out there that can do it for you.
(17:21):
Well, I guess it's just like a like you would advise people
just like start start looking online and you'll you'll find
things. Honestly, like because a lot of
what I do want people to be cautious with this swindlers of
like, hey, are they going to take you for granted?
Are they going to swindle you out of something that you didn't
actually want to get rid of? That's why I recommend going
(17:43):
with the city municipality, something of a a local service,
or at least reach out to those people and then they can lead
you in the right direction. Well, good tip and good to know
because yeah, it's, it's like usually when you are at the
point where you know, you've gotto do something, it's all you're
(18:03):
at a, you're likely at a pretty overwhelming, you know, point.
Yeah, anyway. And it's it's very easy to kind
of get that television. You're like, oh, no, this is
overwhelming. I need to do something about
this. And the last thing you do is
think that it's OK to and that to bring in help and that help
(18:24):
is available. So yeah.
No, that's really good inside. Social workers, they do a lot.
So that's what I got for this week.
Yeah, It's very helpful. Thank you very much.
You're welcome. Goodbye.
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