Gay Men Going Deeper

Gay Men Going Deeper

Welcome to Gay Men Going Deeper, a podcast about personal development, sexuality, and mental health. Brought to you by the Gay Men’s Brotherhood and hosted by Calan Breckon, Matt Landsiedel and Michael DiIorio. Visit us at Support the show on Patreon:


June 2, 2022 55 min

Toxic positivity is the belief that people should maintain a positive mindset, no matter how challenging a situation may be.  This belief invalidates your authentic emotions and is a form of avoidance. 

In this episode, we're sharing our own experiences and understanding of toxic positivity and we'll answer the questions:

  • What are your thoughts on toxic positivity and the effects it has on silencing negative emotions ...
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    Have you ever found yourself conflicted about being top, bottom or vers?

    Or maybe you find yourself torn between whether or not you want monogamy or non-monogamy...

    Sometimes we can see pros and cons on both sides of our inner conflicts and it paralyzes us from making decisions.

    Being conflicted about your desires is completely normal.

    In this episode, Matt Landsiedel and Miguel Ezra Ramirez talk about polarity in life ...

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    May 19, 2022 64 min

    While emotional health falls under the overall umbrella of mental health, it deserves its own conversation because your emotions have a profound impact on how you show up in the world and your overall quality of life.

    This episode will answer questions such as:

  • What does it mean to be emotionally healthy?
  • How can you tell when your emotional health may be suffering?
  • How do you handle challenging emotions?
  • What are some simple th...
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    May 12, 2022 59 min

    Depression is one of the most common mental health conditions in the United States that affects an estimated 17.3 million adults and 3.2 million adolescents according to the National Institute of Mental Health.

    Research shows that gay and bisexual men are at a higher risk for: Major depression, Bipolar disorder, and, Generalized anxiety disorder, and are more likely than heterosexual men to attempt suicide.

    In today's epi...

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    May 5, 2022 73 min

    Each year, over 800,000 people die from suicide and it is the 2nd leading cause of death among 10-24 year olds.

    The LGBTQ community has a significantly increased risk and that’s why we’re dedicating an episode to having a candid conversation about suicide.

    In this episode, we’ll answer questions such as:

  • How have you been impacted by suicide?
  • What are some of the stigmas around suicide?
  • What is your advice to someone who is ...
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    April 28, 2022 55 min

    Your environment plays an important role in developing a strong identity and sense of self. Everything from the people you spend time with, where you get your news, and the social media accounts you follow will influence your sense of belonging in a community.

    In this episode, LGBTQ+ affirmative psychotherapist Justin Oberste joins host, Michael DiIorio to discuss mirroring: how we reflect back our lived experience with the ...

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    April 21, 2022 52 min

    Relationships can be a minefield to navigate when you don't have the right tools or language to help you. Whether it's romantic or platonic ones, we all could use a little more guidance and support with it comes to creating more secure, healthy relationships.

    In this episode, we're giving you a sneak peek into our exciting new course, Building Better Relationships, where we guide you on how to build better relationsh...

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    April 14, 2022 46 min

    In today’s episode, host Matt Landsiedel speaks with Nutrition Coach Scott Weisgarber about the relationship between fitness, nutrition and mental health.

    Together they explore questions like:

  • What is the relationship between fitness, nutrition and mental health?
  • How come gay men are so concerned about physical health and appearance?
  • How does this obsession with appearance impact mental health?
  • The difference between approaching...
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    April 7, 2022 54 min

    Intimacy is defined as the feeling of mutual vulnerability and closeness in personal relationships. 

    In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we’re talking about our unique experiences with intimacy as gay men.

    We’ll answer questions such as:

  • What does intimacy mean to you?
  • What was an intimate experience you’ve had that was not sexual? 
  • What unique challenges do gay men face when it comes to intimacy?
  • How can you nurture int...
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    March 31, 2022 74 min

    Grief can be a hard experience to navigate because nothing can really prepare you for deep and emotional loss. It's something that everyone will have to experience at least a few times in their life and each person's experience with it is going to be different.

    In today’s episode, host Calan Breckon is joined by special guest Addison Brasil to talk about his journey with grief after the lose his brother to cancer, find h...

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    March 24, 2022 68 min

    Relationships have a natural rhythm between feeling connected to your partner, and other times feeling disconnected from them. Each end of the spectrum can trigger different fears: the fear of being too close and/or the fear of abandonment. Understanding attachment styles helps you see how these fears show up in your relationships.

    In this episode, we're exploring our attachment styles and sharing ways we can find a greater ...

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    March 17, 2022 48 min

    In this juicy and personal episode, Michael is letting you take a behind-the-scenes peek into his relationship with his partner, Star.

    While vacationing in Mexico, they are opening up about the lessons learned after one year together. Specifically, they're talking about relationship dynamics including conflict, intimacy, and communication. 

    They'll be answering questions such as:

  • How have they grown over the last y...
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    March 10, 2022 65 min

    The painful sting of heartbreak is a uniquely awful experience that brings up a lot of our wounds around abandonment and rejection. In today's episode, we're getting raw and real about our heartbreak and breakups.

    We'll be answering questions such as:

  • What was your hardest breakup and why?
  • What do you need when you go through a breakup and how do you usually manage it?
  • What have been some of the biggest life lessons...
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    March 3, 2022 69 min

    Sensitivity is one of the most misunderstood temperament traits due to toxic gender norms and stereotypes about masculinity and femininity. Come learn about the science of sensitivity and ditch the stigma you may have inherited about what it means to be a sensitive gay man.

    In today’s episode, host Matt Landsiedel unpacks all you need to know about sensitivity with Clinical Psychologist Dr. Chris Horan.

    Together they explor...

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    February 24, 2022 56 min

    Forgiveness is a necessary part of the healing process. When we are able to truly forgive others, we liberate ourselves from the pain of the experience so we can find peace and move on. But forgiveness isn't always easy

    In this episode, we're here to help you out by answering questions such as:

  • Do you find it harder to forgive or to apologize?
  • Can you truly ‘forgive and forget’?
  • How can you tell if an apology is sincere...
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    February 17, 2022 54 min

    Therapy is crucial for our mental health, yet some people still look at it as unobtainable due to financial struggle. There is also still myths around Therapy that say you’re weak if you need to go, you’re less of a man if you want to talk about your emotions, and that Therapy is only for “other people who are broken.”

    In today’s episode, host Calan Breckon unpacks all you need to know about Therapy with licensed marriage and fa...

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    February 10, 2022 74 min

    Whether we're aware of it or not, we all have an inner victim within us that needs to be acknowledged. Processing this can be uncomfortable and triggering, but it is necessary in order to grow and evolve beyond it.

    In this episode, we're talking about victimhood both at the macro level as queer people, right down to the micro level as individuals. We are answering questions such as:

  • How have we been victimized as gay ...
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    February 3, 2022 53 min

    Your life is a series of choices. Sometimes those choices will ask you to bet on yourself - to pursue what you love, even if there is an emotional risk in doing so. When you bet on yourself, you awaken a world of possibility. When you bet against yourself, you always lose. 

    In this episode of, Michael is joined by Alex Ray as they talk about what it means to bet on yourself and why doing so can help you get unstuck and feeling m...

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    January 27, 2022 58 min

    We all have those days when motivation is hard to come by. Whether you’re lacking time, energy, or inspiration, this episode will give you the useful tips you need to get and stay motivated. We answer questions like:

  • What helps you get motivated?
  • What are your biggest motivation distractors and how do you avoid them?
  • What keeps you on track with your goals and deadlines?
  • By the end of the episode, you’ll be ready to slay your g...

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    In this episode Matt speaks with Gay Olympian, Kung Fu Master, QTBIPOC Counselor and Shaman Devante Love. They talk about how to heal and discover your most authentic self through connecting with the body. Here are the questions explored in this episode:

    ►What does authenticity mean to you? 

    ►What does embodiment mean to you?

    ►What is the connection between the body, our thoughts, our emotions?

    ►Why is it important for ...

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