Some of us didn’t choose to become lone wolves—we were shaped into them. Many gay men have learned to rely only on themselves, and while that self-sufficiency can feel empowering, it often comes at the cost of connection and intimacy.
In this personal and vulnerable episode, Michael and Matt open up about their own lone wolf energy—where it comes from, how it’s served them, and the moments when it became more isolating than empowering.
Together, we’re unpacking:
- The origin stories of our lone wolf instincts
- The protective thoughts that sound strong but hide deeper wounds
- What makes us want to cut people off—and what’s really underneath that urge
- How this energy shows up in dating and relationships
- And how to honour your need for space without shutting people out
Whether you identify as a lone wolf or love someone who does, this episode will help you navigate the delicate balance between fierce independence and meaningful connection.
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