The Loneliness Epidemic: Eva Mendes on Lasting Love, Digital Disconnection & Building Real Relationships

Are you tired of feeling isolated in a world that’s supposedly hyper-connected? Wonder why so many of us feel lonely, even in our marriages or relationships, or when surrounded by hundreds of "friends" on social media? In this transformative episode, host Julie Lokun sits down with celebrated author and couples therapist Eva Mendes to unpack the “loneliness epidemic” of the digital age.

Eva shares deeply insightful strategies for rekindling connection—whether you’re dating, single, married, or navigating neurodiverse relationships (including autism and ADHD). Listen in for practical advice to help you nurture real, face-to-face relationships, create strong communities, and build resilient, lasting love—no matter your stage of life.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• Why Loneliness is Rising Even in Our 'Connected' World
• Eva explains the structural shift away from community living and how social media doesn't replace real human contact.
• How Digital Life Impacts Relationships
• Learn why scrolling and swiping are affecting our patience and ability to invest in meaningful connections.
• Actionable Tips for Overcoming Isolation
• From joining local classes to building neighborhood groups, discover simple ways to foster authentic connections.
• Marriage & Long-term Partnership Real Talk
• Hear Eva’s expert, honest takes on why relationships are hard, the rise of “gray divorces,” and why self-reflection is key.
• Repairing Broken Marriages & Relationships
• Is it possible after betrayal or drift? Eva tells you the signs to watch for and how to approach healing.
• Dating Advice for the Digital Age
• The one question you must ask yourself before entering a new relationship (Hint: Would you want your child dating this person?).
• Neurodiverse Relationships
• How to navigate love when one or both partners has autism or ADHD—and why “doing the work” matters even more.
• The Habit that Predicts Relationship Success
• Why having hobbies and your own life lays the groundwork for lasting love.

Highlighted Quotes:

• “We have 500 Facebook friends, but who will bring you tea when you’re sick?” – Eva Mendes
• “There are no shortcuts in life—especially in relationships. You have to do the work.” – Eva Mendes
• “Relationships are mirrors—when you’re alone, you think you’re awesome. The moment you’re with someone, you see your real issues.” – Julie Lokun

Recommended Resources:

• Eva Mendes' Books:
• Marriage and Lasting Relationships with Asperger Syndrome (flagship book): Marriage and Lasting Relationships with Asperger's Syndrome (Autism Spectrum Disorder): Mendes, Eva A.: 9781849059992: Amazon.com: Books
• Eva Mendes’ Website: Eva Mendes » Psychotherapy & Coaching

Action Steps:

• Share this episode with a friend, partner, or family member who could use support in building real connection.

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