Get Your Sexy Back

In this episode of the Get Your Sexy Back Podcast for Couples, we unpack the dynamics of sacred polarity and share how presence, safety, and honest communication create the foundation for deep, lasting intimacy.

💫 What you’ll hear in this episode:

• Why emotional safety is the foundation for feminine surrender
• What grounded masculine leadership looks and feels like
• How to lead with presence instead of pressure and why it changes eve...

From the sacred fire of Phoenix Rising Retreats… comes the Get Your Sexy Back Podcast. In this week’s episode, we open up about one of the most tender edges in a relationship: how to invite your partner into deeper intimacy, without nagging, pushing, or trying to fix him. We unpack real examples from our journey and offer grounded, heart-led tools you can start using today.
 

✨ Here’s what we cover:

• The shift from “I wish he would...

Even after years of tantra, pleasure work, and healing, you can still find yourself having disconnected sex, obligation sex, or even “Let’s just get it over with” sex.

And you’re not broken for that.

In this episode, Pleasure Is a Practice: Why Good Sex Doesn’t Just Happen, we pull back the curtain on our own sexual evolution, what we used to believe was “good sex” (think: drunk, performative, porn-scripted), and how it’s now becom...

Real talk… Most couples wait until they’re hanging on by a thread before they even think about going to a retreat. We get it—we’ve been there. But what if we told you that waiting until things hit rock bottom is one of the biggest mistakes you can make for your relationship?

 In this episode, we dive into a raw and honest conversation about..

• Why do most couples wait too long before going on a retreat
• How can you shift from crisi...

Let’s talk about blowjobs.

Not the performative, porn-scripted kind. And not the kind you give just to “get it over with.” We’re talking about the ones that are offered from genuine turn-on, deep connection, and sovereign choice.

In this week’s episode, we open up about a very real part of our journey- how something that used to feel like a chore (for Kim) became a space of embodied pleasure, sacred play, and deep trust between us.

An...

Desire isn’t something you chase.  It’s something you create together. We used to think desire was about how we looked, the outfit, the hair, and the moment. But now, after everything we’ve navigated together, we know it’s so much deeper than that.

 In this episode, we share…

• What desire truly means to us now as a couple who’s done the healing, unlearning, and re-embodying
• How our ideas of desire have changed over the years
• What a...

And we are back with another episode! This time, let’s talk about something that holds the key to deeper intimacy — communication. 

Because when you create a space of safety and presence, you not only open the door to better communication… you unlock the full potential of love, joy, and sexy connection in your relationship.

In this week’s episode, we explored…

• How many of us (yes, both women and men) have been conditioned to hold...

We’re Kim and Roberto, and we’re thrilled to be co-hosting this journey together, both on podcasts and in life ❤️We're excited to bring a fresh perspective on certain topics and offer a unique view on various aspects as a couple. 

In this episode, we will share about…

• How our relationship evolved from early “can’t-believe-this-is-happening” moments to launching Phoenix Rising Retreats up on our lakeside sanctuary
• Transitioning fr...

There’s a sacred shift that happens when a woman stops trying to do it all and starts asking, “What would it look like to actually live in balance?” Bliss isn’t a destination—it’s a frequency you can embody daily.

In this episode, Danite and I go deep about...

• What happens when the life you built no longer fits the woman you’ve become?
• Could bliss be something you tune into, not chase after?
• Are you leading with your mind... or yo...

Feeling more like roommates than lovers lately? Wondering how to reignite that spark without overhauling your whole life? 

You might be asking yourself as well, what it really takes to keep passion alive in long-term relationships—especially when life feels chaotic.

In this heart-to-heart conversation I have with sensual embodiment coach Jannine MacKinnon, we go deep about...

• What if the spark never left—what if you just stopped ...

What if the missing piece in your journey to wholeness wasn’t more hustle, more proving, or more striving—but a deeper connection to your own sensuality? Feminine embodiment doesn't begin in your mind—it starts in your body, in the soft, sacred remembering of your own desire.

In this episode, Willeke and I converse about...

• What if your sensuality isn’t a luxury, but a lifeline?
• How have you been performing instead of embodying?
• W...

For this week’s episode, it will be slightly different as I will be doing it solo. It has been a while since I did a solo podcast, but I am very much excited to share with you a couple of things that have been going on in my life.

Now, in this episode, I will be sharing some updates on the following: 

• The Get Your Sexy Back podcast
• The launch of the Phoenix Rising Retreats
• Packages and other practices that I have for you all

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What if being deeply loved didn’t require you to do it all? What if the magic starts when you pause, soften, and let yourself be held?  

Many of us—especially women—were raised to override our needs, abandon our bodies, and prioritize others in exchange for love. But what if real partnership doesn’t require overgiving? What if true intimacy begins the moment we come home to ourselves?

In this week’s episode, Lindsay and I talk about...

Let’s talk about the deep, juicy transformation that happens in midlife—the kind of shift that turns everything you thought you knew about yourself upside down. This conversation is all about reclaiming your body, your sensuality, and your inner wisdom as you transition through midlife and beyond. This stage of life isn’t about fading into the background—it’s about unlocking a whole new level of passion, wisdom, and sensuality.

In ...

Have you ever looked at your life and thought, “Why does it seem perfect on the outside, but something still feels… off?” You tell yourself you should be happy—you have the relationship, the family, the life you worked so hard to build. But deep down, there’s this nagging feeling, a quiet knowing that something isn’t right. So, you push it down, stay busy, and keep going. Until one day, you can’t ignore it anymore.

In this week’s e...

Your body has been speaking to you—whispering, nudging, sometimes even screaming. But have you been listening?

When we disconnect, whether due to trauma, societal pressures, or daily stress, we override the signals that guide us toward pleasure, safety, and alignment. This disconnection often manifests as chronic pain, anxiety, digestive issues, or even numbness.

Healing doesn’t come from pushing harder—it comes from allowing space, ...

Grief has a way of reshaping relationships, making intimacy and communication feel like uphill battles. When loss enters a partnership, it can create a disconnect—one person may need to talk while the other withdraws, leaving both feeling more alone than ever. So, how do you bridge that gap without pushing each other further away?

In this week’s episode, Kate and I, talk about...

• Why traditional advice on communication doesn’t a...

Let go of the nice Girl & step into your power. 

Do you ever feel like you’re always giving but not receiving the same in return? Many women get stuck in the cycle of saying “yes” to avoid conflict, but standing in your truth doesn’t mean being unkind—it means being true to yourself. If you’re constantly running on empty, it might be time to take a closer look at where your energy is going.

In this week’s episode, Alexa and I, talk ...

Ever feel like some parts of your body are more sensitive than others? You’re not alone! Many people go through life disconnected from certain sensations, but with healing and awareness, you can heighten pleasure and truly feel every touch in a deeper, more fulfilling way. 

The Erotic Blueprints reveal how you naturally experience desire—whether you crave teasing and anticipation (Energetic), love deep, sensual touch (Sensual), enjo...