June 2, 2025 • 31 mins
This episode is for the moments when your brain says, "That’s all I’ve got.”
Because that voice? It’s lying to you.
Today, I’m breaking down the myth of our limits—the mental stories we tell ourselves when we’re tired, unsure, or just plain scared. Whether you’re chasing a fitness goal, building something meaningful, or just trying to become a little better than you were yesterday, I want this episode to remind you of one thing: you’ve got more in the tank.
I talk about:
- What happened when I thought I was done after 11 miles… but laced up again anyway
- Why your brain puts up mental roadblocks (and how to push through them)
- The two things that kill most dreams: uncertainty and pain
- How Stoic philosophy (especially the “premeditation of evils”) helps you prepare for discomfort
- Why the only real growth happens when things get hard
- And how my brother Drew lost nearly 60 pounds and ran a marathon by showing up daily
This is a real look at what it takes to push your limits when no one’s watching, when no one’s cheering, and when every part of you wants to stop.
If you’ve ever said, “I’m just not ready,” or “Maybe someday,” I hope this episode gets in your head the same way those doubts have—and fights back harder.
You’re not done.
You’re just getting started.
Let’s keep getting after it.
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Brett (00:00):
Welcome back to the show, my friends.
I'm Brett and today I want todismantle a lie, not some
political lie, not some socialmedia lie, a lie that you've
been telling to yourself, thelie that says that's all I got,
this is all I have.
Because I'll tell you right nowit's not.
This episode is about whathappens when you keep going,
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even when your brain says thatyou can't do it.
This episode is about whathappens when you keep going,
even when your brain says thatyou can't do it.
It's about the differencebetween real limits and the
imaginary ones that we build tokeep ourselves comfortable.
Let's talk about pushing pastthat line and what you find when
you get there.
Without further ado, let's divein.
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What an interesting week.
It's been a good one.
I was down in Arizona and downthere with my wife as she
commutes in Mesa.
She flies planes, as many ofyou know, but I was down there
and excited just to spend sometime with family and be in my
hometown.
And I wanted to test myselfbecause I mentioned in the last
episode, I've been reading thisbook by Cameron Haynes called
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Undeniable, and in it he talksabout when he first started
pushing his limits and what thatwas like for him when he pushes
limits once.
It opened a door to an entirelynew experience that he didn't
think that he was capable of.
To sum it up very quickly thisguy started by dropping out of a
10K race and now he runs 250mile races, all to get him aimed
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and prepped for bow hunting.
That's his real passion is bowhunting.
And it got me thinking about myown limitations and the stories
that I tell myself aboutwhether or not I can push past
the discomfort, the uncertainty,the pain, to see if I can give
more, see if I can push myselfjust a little bit further.
(01:52):
And I had to sit down and havean honest conversation with with
me.
And one example was on onWednesday.
I um, I talked to my brotherearlier that week and I was like
, hey, my goal for this week isI want to see how much I can run
outside and just start gettingthose reps back in.
And on Wednesday I went to thegym in the morning and I did leg
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day, which is about 50 minutesof leg exercises, and then I ran
five miles.
So big, big exercise in themorning, right, but the entire
day I was like man.
I wonder if I could just go runoutside after work, like I
wonder if I can get a few moremiles in, and I was a little bit
nervous to do it.
But I was like you know what Igot to try?
I got to at least test mylimits and so, sure enough, when
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I got back from work I laced upmy shoes and I ran outside,
just quick three mile run.
But at the end of the day I waslike you know what?
That wasn't as bad as I thought.
It did take time.
I will say that it was.
You know an extra 20 minutes, Ithink, is the how long the run
took me.
But you know it's in.
Then you have to shower.
It just takes time out of yourday to go that that hard.
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And the thing is is I wanted topush myself, I wanted to see
what my limits were, and thattakes taking a chance on
yourself and being a little bituncomfortable in the beginning,
because I'm learning what ittruly means to push my limits.
And spoiler, spoiler alert,it's a little bit more than I
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thought it was.
And I'm not talking about inany kind of like fake Instagram
caption kind of way, like oh,you know, you got this, you can
do this, you can push past this,but in the real raw way of like
, hey, I still wake up sore andI'm still going to go do the
thing, that kind of way.
And I realize this is that yourmind doesn't put limits on you
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because you're weak.
That's one thing I want to makevery clear is that your mind is
not trying to put theselimitations on you to keep you
in a safe spot.
That's not what it's trying todo.
It does this because it thinksit's protecting you and your
brain is running on softwarethat has been around for about
200,000 years and it wasdesigned to keep you alive and
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not necessarily to thrive.
Right, and you might be feelinglike, oh yeah, I'm doing what
I'm comfortable with and like mylife is great, like I don't
really have any challenges oranything like that.
But what I'm trying to tell youtoday is that if you question
that, if you ask yourself, can Igive it a little bit more?
And you can take this principleand you can apply it to fitness
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.
You can apply it to your job,your family relationships, your
own personal hobbies, whateveryou want to aspire to be.
Ask yourself if you're pushingyour own limitations and if you
remember the last conversationwe had on this podcast, it was
all about taking action, takingthat first step, and I posted a
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clip on TikTok where I talkedabout that quote fear is a mile
wide and an inch deep and gotsome good feedback from it.
Like, I think people don'tunderstand because I didn't.
They don't understand that fearis just something our brain
makes to protect us.
And you might say like, well,I'm scared of clowns yeah,
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because your brain wants you notto go around clowns.
I'm scared of the ocean right,because maybe someone in your
ancestor history line whateverthat is your family tree may
have fallen into the ocean andthey died.
And you know, your great, greatgrandpa was like, hey, I'm
going to remember this so Inever fall into the ocean, and
that somehow got programmed intoyour mind.
So our brains are really goodat protecting us.
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What they're not great at isseeing if you can run an extra
mile, seeing if you want to askthat person out, or speaking up
during a meeting.
Our challenges have changed.
They're no longer as fatal asthey used to be, but they feel
fatal.
They feel like it's the end ofthe road If you get to that
point, that's not the problem.
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The problem is the ownconversation that we have with
ourselves, whether or not we canpush past.
So as I was thinking about this, I came up with a hypothesis
that I think most people neverchase.
Their potential comes down totwo reasons, and that's
uncertainty and pain.
That's it.
The unknown and theuncomfortable, those are the two
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things that always stallprogress and always put a
roadblock in the middle of yourgoal.
It's you're worried about thepain, you're worried about the
uncertainty, which is valid.
Those are valid things to beworried about.
But when you step into it, whenyou push yourself a little bit
more, from my own experience,it's not as bad as you thought
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it was and you realize that, hey, you know what?
Maybe I am capable of a littlebit more.
But those two things pain anduncertainty have buried millions
of people's dreams, millions,including mine at times.
Let me give you an example.
Like I just, not too long ago,made some changes to this
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podcast, to where I wanted to bemore impactful for the
listeners, because I startedthis thing with the motto and
the idea and the principlebehind it all that if I'm able
to help one person, then thiswhole thing will become a
success to me and I stand bythat.
And so in my mind I'm like,okay, well, what can I do to
maybe make it a little bit morerelevant to the people that are
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listening, make it more helpfulto them?
And I think it's by sharing myown experiences, which I have
before but I haven't reallygiven you like a daily, weekly
kind of insight into my life,which I'm I'm I'm going to start
doing now, because I want youto understand the mental battles
that go through my head and howI get through them.
So on Saturday, this pastSaturday, I was in Arizona, like
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I mentioned and the whole plan.
We went out with my brother andhis wife the night before and
we stayed out, we playedpickleball, we went to dinner,
we had fun, and we kind of wenthome early because the whole
idea was like I was going towake up early so I could beat
the heat, get in front of, getin front of the sun if I could,
which was going to mean like 5amrunning, and I had 15 miles on
the docket and woke up at nine,30.
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Boom, it's already a hundreddegrees in Arizona at that time,
hot as hell.
And so I defaulted and I waslike, okay, well, I'm going to
go to the gym get them, get somemiles in, uh, see what I can do
, see how far I can go.
Because, let's be honest, thetreadmill is hard as hell
sometimes to stay on and youjust fall into these cycles of
man, this is boring.
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And then you start talkingyourself out of things like oh
man, that pain in my knee isreally bad.
And then you just stop and notreally testing your limitations.
And so I recognize that I got11 miles in on the treadmill on
Saturday.
But the whole day he was naggingat me.
I was like I told everyone Iwas gonna run outside.
I told my brother, I toldmyself, I told my wife they all
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think I'm gonna be runningoutside.
But I ran on the treadmill andI didn't even get all my miles
in.
I got 11 out of the 15 I wassupposed to do.
And so we get back from goingout to dinner with my
brother-in-law and hisgirlfriend and I just decided I
was like, okay, I'm going to gorun four miles.
My body, mind you, at this pointwas very tired and like I laid
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on the bed when we got home andI was like this feels good, I am
comfortable, I want to go, Iwant to take a nap, I want to go
to bed.
Right now this feels nice.
But I pushed past that.
I didn't listen to that voice,because how many times have I
said on this podcast that youshouldn't be listening to the
comfort voice?
It's good at times, but whenyou have goals, when you have
things that you want toaccomplish, it's not going to be
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helpful in many of thosesituations.
And so I fought that point andI decided to just go run four
miles In the desert, in the dark.
And the point was is I thoughtI was done.
You know, I ran 11 miles and byeveryone else's perspective,
that could be a great day, andfor me I mean, running 11 miles
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is a big deal.
It's a hard thing to do, but Iwasn't done and that wasn't my
limit and I wanted to prove tomyself that that was true.
So little things like that likewhen you think you're done, when
you think you've given it yourall, maybe take a step back and
say is there more I can do here?
And whether it's a project atwork, whether it's spending time
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with your spouse, it doesn'tmatter.
Are you giving it your all, areyou trying to push boundaries?
Because if you're not, I don'tthink you're going to grow.
But if you do, if you do decideto take some chances on
yourself and decide to work alittle bit harder, decide to
grit your teeth and just get itdone, whatever has to be done,
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and you just stay in the game,you stay in the fight, you will
open up doors that you neverthought were possible.
I know that will happen becauseit's happened to me.
And one thing that helps me getthrough trying to push my limits
is I think about the stoicprinciple and practice of the
premeditation of evils, which Ifreaking love.
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That name that's such a goodname.
It sounds really intimidating,but really all it is is that the
stoics would imagine everysingle hardship.
Imagine every single hardship,every single challenge that
could come into their way, sothat they could prepare their
minds for it If it did ever comeup.
Why?
Why would they do that?
Because once you anticipatepain, it stops controlling you.
When you say I know this is notgoing to be easy, this is going
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to be something that's going totake a lot of effort on my part
, but I'm willing to stay in it,I'm willing to try, then it
doesn't control you.
At this point and that quote,fear is a mile wide, but an inch
deep comes, comes to life, andyou begin to see that in daily
actions.
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Marcus Aurelius wrote this.
He said if you are distressedby anything external, the pain
is not due to the thing itself,but to your estimate of it, and
this and this you have the powerto revoke at any moment.
I'm going to reread thatbecause I didn't do a great job.
If you're distressed byanything external, the pain is
not due to the thing itself, butto your estimate of it, and
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this you have the power torevoke at any moment.
What is he saying there?
Some of these guys, they writereally, really, really deep and
sometimes it's hard tounderstand.
But to break it down, really,what he's saying is if something
is bothering you, it's notbecause of that thing, it's
because of the stories thatyou're telling yourself about it
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, and you have the power,because you have agency, to be
able to say no, hey, listen,we're thinking about something
else.
Or, if it is bothering you, tosay, okay, what's the worst that
can happen?
You take my running exampleOkay, I'm going to go try and
run four miles in the desertright now and in my head I was
like, oh well, if you know, ifmy body starts hurting, I only
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get a mile in.
I can live with that, right.
And so just trying to come upwith all the worst case
scenarios, as weird as it mightsound, helps you battle them
when they actually happen.
Tim Ferriss has this exercisecalled fear setting, which is
his take on goal setting, butit's pretty much.
If he has a goal, like, let'ssay, he wants to start a
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business, then he will listeverything wrong that could
happen to him, his company, thepeople that he employs,
everything wrong that could go.
You know, everything that couldgo wrong.
He pretty much listed out in asimple, clear way and then he
asked himself he says if thesethings do happen right, will I
live, will I be okay?
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And if his answer is yes, thenhe'll take that risk.
I think it's a powerful exerciseto try, and if you haven't done
something like that, I wouldpush you to do it Because, like
I mentioned, most of it comesfrom our own minds and we have
power to control our thoughts,and so doing this exercise at
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least gets you an idea of howyour brain thinks, what you're
actually worried about.
And then it gives you a momentto say if that did happen, how
would I be?
Would I be okay?
And usually the answer is yes,hopefully it is.
But we build pain in our heads,we forecast the worst case
scenarios and we use that fearto justify staying comfortable.
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So we say things like oh,that's not for me or I'm not
ready for that, I'm going towait for the right time, or
it'll never happen, even if I dotry, maybe.
Maybe those things are true,but maybe they they that, that
goal that you have.
Maybe it would happen if youdid try, if you pushed yourself
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just a little harder, if youstopped waiting for a sign and
instead actually became the signRight.
You're the one that makes thesechoices.
You decide whether or not youhave the endurance, the
resilience and the fight in youto keep after these goals.
To get after these goals.
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It all comes from you.
Getting after it is a choice.
We talked about that, allie andI talked about that not too
long ago.
But it is a choice that youhave to make daily and, as
someone who lives the gettingafter a lifestyle, you have to
put those thoughts aside.
You have to put those fears outthe window, because if I didn't,
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this podcast wouldn't be athing.
If I didn't, I wouldn't berunning, because there's a lot
of fear that goes into that.
Oh man, I got 10 miles in themountains.
Really, that's going to hurt.
My body's going to hurt so bad.
What if I don't have enoughwater?
What if I don't have enoughfuel?
What if a mountain lion comesout and attacks me?
You see, you can talk yourselfout of all these scenarios.
You can build up the worst casescenario in your head so your
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brain's ready for it.
But that won't do anythingunless you take action.
So become the sign.
And with all things, you need tostart small, because small
shifts create big impacts.
Here's the truth.
You don't need that radicalshift because you just need to
do one thing better than you didyesterday.
That's it.
And you've heard the phrase,I'm sure you have of try and aim
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to be 1% better each and everyday.
Just work on being 1% better,because that 1% will snowball
into by the end of the year,because that 1% will snowball
into by the end of the year,36.5% better, right.
And if we're all getting 36.5%better every single year, that's
pretty good.
That's not bad, I'll take it.
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I just think my math might beoff on that.
Ah, someone spot check me on mymath.
But you get.
What I'm saying is that there isa constant snowball effect
where you are continuouslygetting better, but it starts by
you have to take action, youhave to push yourself, you have
to test your limits and when youthink that you've given it your
all, see if you can takeanother step.
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Do one more.
Like, if things come up likeyou didn't get your run in in
the morning, do it after work.
You might be tired, but see ifyou can do it after work.
Like you didn't get your run inin the morning, do it after
work.
You might be tired, but see ifyou can do it after work.
If you didn't get that job youwanted, then figure out why.
See if you can fix somethingand then send 10 more
applications out.
Say I'm better because of this.
I want to write a book, and soone thing I need to do is just
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100 words a day that could be inmy journal, but to get me into
the practice of trying to becomea better writer and that's it.
It's just a start and that'swhat I'm aiming for you to try
and do.
And so we want these big,dramatic changes to come and
happen overnight because they'resexy, right Like.
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We see people on social mediaall the time who seem to be
overnight successes, but whatyou don't see is the work that's
done day by day, hour by hour,and late into the night, early
in the morning.
Everything that they're doingto grind to get to where they're
at now.
That's not an overnight success.
It might seem like it, becausewhen one thing goes viral, then
the whole thing does right.
People know about you, whatever, but that's not how it starts.
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It might, you know, be a dreamto be an overnight success, but
I'm telling you that's not longlasting.
What's long lasting is youbuild these habits day by day to
create that big impact.
That's how real transformationworks.
It's quiet, it's boring, it'slacing up your shoes when you
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don't really want to, it'schoosing the salad when you
really want those damn fries,and it's about studying reading
rather than scrolling TikTok.
Discipline isn't about intensity, it's about consistency, and
I've talked about that too manytimes.
I'm not going to cover it onthis one.
But all these principles playinto this and I just think you
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know we are all capable of doinggreat things, but a lot of that
means we're going to have tostep into pain, we're going to
have to step into uncertaintyand be willing to see where that
road takes us.
So think about it.
What's the worst that canhappen?
And if you're okay withwhatever, the worst case
scenario is that you've come upwith in your brain, take that
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first step.
There's not a perfect time.
The perfect time is yesterday,so start now.
Now, who are some real lifeexamples that we can look at at
this?
And I've talked about DavidGoggins, I've talked about
Cameron Haynes, but I want totalk about my brother, drew, a
little bit.
Because, drew, we were laughingat this when we went out to
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dinner with him and his wife onFriday.
We were talking about mywedding photos and in the
wedding photos, drew is about200 and 250 pounds, maybe 260.
He might be on 260 pounds.
He was a beefy boy and he had along hair that was down to his
shoulders Pretty much.
We told him he wasn't lookinggreat at the time, which drew
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you might.
You might get mad at me.
I'll put a picture up of himright here.
He might get mad at me for this, but if you're watching this,
now's a good time to watch.
Okay, it's gone.
Anyways, I'm so proud of thatdude because he is a living
example of what discipline,consistency and stepping into
that fear looks like.
He was kind of a bigger guy fora few years and he always
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talked about how he wanted tolose weight.
He wanted to get in shape.
He wanted to.
You know, try and look better,right, as we all do.
Let's be honest with ourselves.
You know, try and look better,right, as we all do.
Let's be honest with ourselves.
And it wasn't up until theNovember that I got married.
So November 2023, when he'slike I'm going to start running,
brett, will you help me out?
And he asked me for some helpand I gave him a very basic
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coaching plan and, gotta behonest, didn't know if he would
stick with it or not, becauserunning is hard.
It is a painful thing to do,especially when you're that much
um, when you're that heavy,like your joints are going to
take a beating at the beginning.
And Drew didn't care.
He's like I committed to thisgoal, I want to see if I can be
a runner, and he pushed himselfhard.
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He really did.
Now we were talking at dinnerand he's 203 pounds, he's built,
he's got some good muscle onhim.
He looks a lot better.
Um, he actually kind of lookslike my twin and not saying I'm
a handsome man, but I'm justsaying he looks better.
And all of that came from work.
I can't tell you how many timesDrew called me saying things
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like man.
I don't even know if this isworking Like.
I don't know if I'm going to bea good runner.
Guess what?
That guy ran a marathon in 2024.
And he's lost so much weight.
He's lost almost 60 pounds.
It's amazing to see his progressand it didn't start out big.
Like I said in the beginning,it was not some overnight change
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.
What it started with was withthought, and in that thought I
know he felt a lot ofuncertainty.
I know he knew there was goingto be a lot of pain If he went
after this goal the pain of asore body, the pain of hunger
because he was going to have toeat less and eat better foods,
and all these different thingsthat would stack up into the big
impact that he now is of a203-pound man who is signed up
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for an ultramarathon that he'srunning with me in October and
in April of next year, we'regoing on a 50-mile run together.
That's amazing.
That is discipline embodied,and that is consistency every
single day for a goal that hewas initially afraid to go after
and it can happen to you too.
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I'm proud of that guy for whathe's done, because he's a living
example of the things that Italk about and getting after it
and how they work.
And now he's reading more andhe's he's taking more risks and
he's he's one of my heroes.
Honestly, drew is one of myheroes, and and it's because
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he's one of the hardest workingpeople I've met but he faced
everything that we do too, thatuncertainty and that pain, but
he stepped into it and he wasn'tgoing to let him stop it, and
he was always asking himself isthat my limit?
You know what impresses me mostabout that story Is that he got
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comfortable with beinguncomfortable, which, if you
want to achieve anything in life, you're going to have to learn
to do.
Be uncomfortable, embrace it,make it your ally, make it your
friend, because only then willthese changes happen.
And then everyone's going tosay, dang Johnny over, there is
an overnight success, when inreality, they didn't see the two
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years that you spent workinghard as hell on it.
So think about that for amoment.
Think about how your life couldchange if you achieve the goals
that you wanted to.
Because you can.
You just have to be willing towork hard enough to be
disciplined and consistent andlearn to adapt along the way.
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Adaptation is so importantbecause as you get better, like
with Drew, we'll bring him backinto this.
As he got better with running,the training was no longer hard
for him, it became easy, and sowe had to ramp up the training
to get him uncomfortable again.
And now he's achieving thingsthat he never thought was
possible, and so am I, so isAllie, so is everyone else that
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embodies this.
Getting after mindset.
It all starts with a choice,and if you're willing to embrace
it, if you're willing to stepinto it and fight the battle for
who knows how long the goalswill come the results will
happen.
I would say, to go down thispath, you need to build
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something that I would call aresilience formula, and here's
how I would say you buildresilience.
It's not by avoiding pain so ifyou think it was, you're very
wrong but it's by choosing toshow up while you're still in it
by saying, yeah, I'm tired, I'mstressed, I'm doubting myself
and I'm still going.
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Seneca, another famous Stoic,says difficulties strengthen the
mind as labor does the body.
Now I talk about fitness a lot.
Seneca here is talking aboutlabor on the body.
I talk about fitness because Ibelieve that it bleeds into
every aspect of life.
When you're sitting under abench press trying to push as
hard as you can, and you'restruggling and you feel like
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you're going to die, then thatmoment will teach you that like
hey, when things come up, youcan push past it a little bit,
you can push into the pain, youcan push it away and fight and
be stronger through it.
But training your body isequally as important as training
the mind.
I would argue the mind might bemore important to train,
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because you have to learn to beresilient.
We need to stop seeking ease,stop confusing comfort with
peace, because that's not whatit is.
Start recognizing struggle asthe training ground for your own
mental strength and your ownstrength in general, because
that voice in your head, whenit's telling you to quit, use it
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as a signal.
That's where the work begins.
This is where you implement allthe principles I've talked
about.
When you're telling yourselfI'm done.
I want to stop, but don't do it.
If the goal is that importantto you, do not give up.
That will lead to a life ofregret.
See what you can do to pushthrough it.
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Ask for help if you need to.
I've mentioned many times if youever need anything, if you ever
are struggling with a goal, dmme, because I would love to help
you out, because everyone iscapable of doing great things.
And can you imagine a world ofpeople who are getting after it
all the time, who areconsistently trying to push
themselves, who are trying toget better and make the world a
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better place alongside of it?
It'll be a very different worldthat we live in.
And I love the quote that youknow.
Anybody who's doing better thanyou will never, will never come
down and bully you.
Really, they won't.
They won't do anything to getyou um, to make you feel bad
about them or to make you feelbad about yourself.
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They won't do that because theyunderstand that hard work.
It's admirable because they'vebeen there before, because they
know what it's like to feel likethe whole weight of the world
is on your shoulders, to doubtyourself relentlessly, but still
push past it.
They know what it's like towork out super hard throughout
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the week and then when Saturdaycomes and they have a long run
to still show up and get it done, because they've been there
before.
Those are the people that youneed to reach out to to ask for
help, and they're around.
You just have to look for them.
You are made for more.
Your limits were never real, sowhatever limits are in your
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mind, throw it out the window.
There's too many examples inthis world of people who have
pushed past their limits, whohave done difficult things on a
regular basis to get to wherethey're at now.
It's why I love ultra marathons, because in an ultra marathon,
the only thing you're reallythinking about is pain.
You're in so much pain, yourlegs are aching, your body's
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fatigued, you're trying toconsistently get food down and
drink, but the mountains requirea lot of you, and so seeing
these men and women pushthemselves 100 plus miles and
carve a path, for myself tobuild the belief that, hey, if
they can do it, then I can aswell that is motivating for me.
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If someone's done it, odds areyou can too.
You just have to make thechoice to progress every day,
and it's not easy.
Comfort is a siren I love thatword A siren from Homer's the
Odyssey.
You know, comfort will say toyou hey, come over here.
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You've been working hard, letme rub your shoulders a little
bit.
Let me just put on a show foryou here.
You want this slice of pizzaand you're just like, ooh, this
is nice.
This comfort person's reallynice.
And then, as you're sittingthere eating your pizza watching
a show getting your shouldersrub, comfort takes a dagger and
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plunges it right into your heartand says, ha, I got you, you're
mine now.
You're not going anywhere.
But guess what?
You can rip that knife out andstab it right back into
comfort's neck and say, hey, youcaught me, but I'm pushing past
this.
And then you go and you getshit done.
You're made for more, but thatdoesn't mean you're going to
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have fanfare along the way.
You're not going to have peoplecheering you on.
It shows up when you get theresults.
But those results are going tobe far down the road and your
dreams aren't as far as youthink.
I promise you that, becausewhen you test your limits, then
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you learn to test it again, notwith a leap, but with a single
step forward.
Like I said, it's the smallactions that get you there.
One more rep, one more coldcall, one more mile, one more
page Doesn't matter.
Try and push yourself when youfeel like you're tired, because,
as Teddy Roosevelt says andthis is the reason that this
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quote sits around my neck everysingle day the credit belongs to
the man who actually is in thearena, who strives violently,
who errs, who comes short againand again, but who does actually
strive to do the deeds.
And one of my favorite parts ofthat quote is that he will
never be known with those cold,timid souls who didn't have the
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guts to try.
That's you.
You're in the arena and you'vestill got more in the tank.
So get after it Every damn day,because if you don't, someone
else will, and that dream thatyou have is going to be theirs.
If you don't, someone else will, and that dream that you have
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is going to be theirs.
If this episode at all hit homefor you, share it with someone
who needs a reminder thatthey're capable of more, that
they're not done yet.
We're not done when we're tired.
We're done when we're finished,and that's a mantra you need to
live by.
That's part of getting after it.
You're not done when you'retired.
If you're listening to thispodcast, you're made for more.
That's when you're tired.
If you're listening to thispodcast, you're made for more.
That's why you're trying tolearn about getting after it,
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because you want to see whatyou're capable of doing.
And I'm telling you, you've gotmore in the tank.
Push your limits.
Question yourself when you havethose thoughts of man, I'm done
.
Ask yourself is that true or amI just giving up?
If you're the kind of personwho's out there running, riding,
building, lifting, loving andstill showing up when it's hard,
you're part of this tribe.
Keep going, keep pushing, keepgetting after it.
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I'll see you guys next week.
Thanks for tuning in.
Welcome back to the show, my friends.
I'm Brett and today I want todismantle a lie, not some
political lie, not some socialmedia lie, a lie that you've
been telling to yourself, thelie that says that's all I got,
this is all I have.
Because I'll tell you right nowit's not.
This episode is about whathappens when you keep going,
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even when your brain says thatyou can't do it.
This episode is about whathappens when you keep going,
even when your brain says thatyou can't do it.
It's about the differencebetween real limits and the
imaginary ones that we build tokeep ourselves comfortable.
Let's talk about pushing pastthat line and what you find when
you get there.
Without further ado, let's divein.
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What an interesting week.
It's been a good one.
I was down in Arizona and downthere with my wife as she
commutes in Mesa.
She flies planes, as many ofyou know, but I was down there
and excited just to spend sometime with family and be in my
hometown.
And I wanted to test myselfbecause I mentioned in the last
episode, I've been reading thisbook by Cameron Haynes called
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Undeniable, and in it he talksabout when he first started
pushing his limits and what thatwas like for him when he pushes
limits once.
It opened a door to an entirelynew experience that he didn't
think that he was capable of.
To sum it up very quickly thisguy started by dropping out of a
10K race and now he runs 250mile races, all to get him aimed
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and prepped for bow hunting.
That's his real passion is bowhunting.
And it got me thinking about myown limitations and the stories
that I tell myself aboutwhether or not I can push past
the discomfort, the uncertainty,the pain, to see if I can give
more, see if I can push myselfjust a little bit further.
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And I had to sit down and havean honest conversation with with
me.
And one example was on onWednesday.
I um, I talked to my brotherearlier that week and I was like
, hey, my goal for this week isI want to see how much I can run
outside and just start gettingthose reps back in.
And on Wednesday I went to thegym in the morning and I did leg
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day, which is about 50 minutesof leg exercises, and then I ran
five miles.
So big, big exercise in themorning, right, but the entire
day I was like man.
I wonder if I could just go runoutside after work, like I
wonder if I can get a few moremiles in, and I was a little bit
nervous to do it.
But I was like you know what Igot to try?
I got to at least test mylimits and so, sure enough, when
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I got back from work I laced upmy shoes and I ran outside,
just quick three mile run.
But at the end of the day I waslike you know what?
That wasn't as bad as I thought.
It did take time.
I will say that it was.
You know an extra 20 minutes, Ithink, is the how long the run
took me.
But you know it's in.
Then you have to shower.
It just takes time out of yourday to go that that hard.
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And the thing is is I wanted topush myself, I wanted to see
what my limits were, and thattakes taking a chance on
yourself and being a little bituncomfortable in the beginning,
because I'm learning what ittruly means to push my limits.
And spoiler, spoiler alert,it's a little bit more than I
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thought it was.
And I'm not talking about inany kind of like fake Instagram
caption kind of way, like oh,you know, you got this, you can
do this, you can push past this,but in the real raw way of like
, hey, I still wake up sore andI'm still going to go do the
thing, that kind of way.
And I realize this is that yourmind doesn't put limits on you
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because you're weak.
That's one thing I want to makevery clear is that your mind is
not trying to put theselimitations on you to keep you
in a safe spot.
That's not what it's trying todo.
It does this because it thinksit's protecting you and your
brain is running on softwarethat has been around for about
200,000 years and it wasdesigned to keep you alive and
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not necessarily to thrive.
Right, and you might be feelinglike, oh yeah, I'm doing what
I'm comfortable with and like mylife is great, like I don't
really have any challenges oranything like that.
But what I'm trying to tell youtoday is that if you question
that, if you ask yourself, can Igive it a little bit more?
And you can take this principleand you can apply it to fitness
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.
You can apply it to your job,your family relationships, your
own personal hobbies, whateveryou want to aspire to be.
Ask yourself if you're pushingyour own limitations and if you
remember the last conversationwe had on this podcast, it was
all about taking action, takingthat first step, and I posted a
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clip on TikTok where I talkedabout that quote fear is a mile
wide and an inch deep and gotsome good feedback from it.
Like, I think people don'tunderstand because I didn't.
They don't understand that fearis just something our brain
makes to protect us.
And you might say like, well,I'm scared of clowns yeah,
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because your brain wants you notto go around clowns.
I'm scared of the ocean right,because maybe someone in your
ancestor history line whateverthat is your family tree may
have fallen into the ocean andthey died.
And you know, your great, greatgrandpa was like, hey, I'm
going to remember this so Inever fall into the ocean, and
that somehow got programmed intoyour mind.
So our brains are really goodat protecting us.
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What they're not great at isseeing if you can run an extra
mile, seeing if you want to askthat person out, or speaking up
during a meeting.
Our challenges have changed.
They're no longer as fatal asthey used to be, but they feel
fatal.
They feel like it's the end ofthe road If you get to that
point, that's not the problem.
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The problem is the ownconversation that we have with
ourselves, whether or not we canpush past.
So as I was thinking about this, I came up with a hypothesis
that I think most people neverchase.
Their potential comes down totwo reasons, and that's
uncertainty and pain.
That's it.
The unknown and theuncomfortable, those are the two
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things that always stallprogress and always put a
roadblock in the middle of yourgoal.
It's you're worried about thepain, you're worried about the
uncertainty, which is valid.
Those are valid things to beworried about.
But when you step into it, whenyou push yourself a little bit
more, from my own experience,it's not as bad as you thought
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it was and you realize that, hey, you know what?
Maybe I am capable of a littlebit more.
But those two things pain anduncertainty have buried millions
of people's dreams, millions,including mine at times.
Let me give you an example.
Like I just, not too long ago,made some changes to this
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podcast, to where I wanted to bemore impactful for the
listeners, because I startedthis thing with the motto and
the idea and the principlebehind it all that if I'm able
to help one person, then thiswhole thing will become a
success to me and I stand bythat.
And so in my mind I'm like,okay, well, what can I do to
maybe make it a little bit morerelevant to the people that are
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listening, make it more helpfulto them?
And I think it's by sharing myown experiences, which I have
before but I haven't reallygiven you like a daily, weekly
kind of insight into my life,which I'm I'm I'm going to start
doing now, because I want youto understand the mental battles
that go through my head and howI get through them.
So on Saturday, this pastSaturday, I was in Arizona, like
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I mentioned and the whole plan.
We went out with my brother andhis wife the night before and
we stayed out, we playedpickleball, we went to dinner,
we had fun, and we kind of wenthome early because the whole
idea was like I was going towake up early so I could beat
the heat, get in front of, getin front of the sun if I could,
which was going to mean like 5amrunning, and I had 15 miles on
the docket and woke up at nine,30.
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Boom, it's already a hundreddegrees in Arizona at that time,
hot as hell.
And so I defaulted and I waslike, okay, well, I'm going to
go to the gym get them, get somemiles in, uh, see what I can do
, see how far I can go.
Because, let's be honest, thetreadmill is hard as hell
sometimes to stay on and youjust fall into these cycles of
man, this is boring.
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And then you start talkingyourself out of things like oh
man, that pain in my knee isreally bad.
And then you just stop and notreally testing your limitations.
And so I recognize that I got11 miles in on the treadmill on
Saturday.
But the whole day he was naggingat me.
I was like I told everyone Iwas gonna run outside.
I told my brother, I toldmyself, I told my wife they all
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think I'm gonna be runningoutside.
But I ran on the treadmill andI didn't even get all my miles
in.
I got 11 out of the 15 I wassupposed to do.
And so we get back from goingout to dinner with my
brother-in-law and hisgirlfriend and I just decided I
was like, okay, I'm going to gorun four miles.
My body, mind you, at this pointwas very tired and like I laid
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on the bed when we got home andI was like this feels good, I am
comfortable, I want to go, Iwant to take a nap, I want to go
to bed.
Right now this feels nice.
But I pushed past that.
I didn't listen to that voice,because how many times have I
said on this podcast that youshouldn't be listening to the
comfort voice?
It's good at times, but whenyou have goals, when you have
things that you want toaccomplish, it's not going to be
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helpful in many of thosesituations.
And so I fought that point andI decided to just go run four
miles In the desert, in the dark.
And the point was is I thoughtI was done.
You know, I ran 11 miles and byeveryone else's perspective,
that could be a great day, andfor me I mean, running 11 miles
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is a big deal.
It's a hard thing to do, but Iwasn't done and that wasn't my
limit and I wanted to prove tomyself that that was true.
So little things like that likewhen you think you're done, when
you think you've given it yourall, maybe take a step back and
say is there more I can do here?
And whether it's a project atwork, whether it's spending time
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with your spouse, it doesn'tmatter.
Are you giving it your all, areyou trying to push boundaries?
Because if you're not, I don'tthink you're going to grow.
But if you do, if you do decideto take some chances on
yourself and decide to work alittle bit harder, decide to
grit your teeth and just get itdone, whatever has to be done,
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and you just stay in the game,you stay in the fight, you will
open up doors that you neverthought were possible.
I know that will happen becauseit's happened to me.
And one thing that helps me getthrough trying to push my limits
is I think about the stoicprinciple and practice of the
premeditation of evils, which Ifreaking love.
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That name that's such a goodname.
It sounds really intimidating,but really all it is is that the
stoics would imagine everysingle hardship.
Imagine every single hardship,every single challenge that
could come into their way, sothat they could prepare their
minds for it If it did ever comeup.
Why?
Why would they do that?
Because once you anticipatepain, it stops controlling you.
When you say I know this is notgoing to be easy, this is going
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to be something that's going totake a lot of effort on my part
, but I'm willing to stay in it,I'm willing to try, then it
doesn't control you.
At this point and that quote,fear is a mile wide, but an inch
deep comes, comes to life, andyou begin to see that in daily
actions.
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Marcus Aurelius wrote this.
He said if you are distressedby anything external, the pain
is not due to the thing itself,but to your estimate of it, and
this and this you have the powerto revoke at any moment.
I'm going to reread thatbecause I didn't do a great job.
If you're distressed byanything external, the pain is
not due to the thing itself, butto your estimate of it, and
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this you have the power torevoke at any moment.
What is he saying there?
Some of these guys, they writereally, really, really deep and
sometimes it's hard tounderstand.
But to break it down, really,what he's saying is if something
is bothering you, it's notbecause of that thing, it's
because of the stories thatyou're telling yourself about it
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, and you have the power,because you have agency, to be
able to say no, hey, listen,we're thinking about something
else.
Or, if it is bothering you, tosay, okay, what's the worst that
can happen?
You take my running exampleOkay, I'm going to go try and
run four miles in the desertright now and in my head I was
like, oh well, if you know, ifmy body starts hurting, I only
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get a mile in.
I can live with that, right.
And so just trying to come upwith all the worst case
scenarios, as weird as it mightsound, helps you battle them
when they actually happen.
Tim Ferriss has this exercisecalled fear setting, which is
his take on goal setting, butit's pretty much.
If he has a goal, like, let'ssay, he wants to start a
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business, then he will listeverything wrong that could
happen to him, his company, thepeople that he employs,
everything wrong that could go.
You know, everything that couldgo wrong.
He pretty much listed out in asimple, clear way and then he
asked himself he says if thesethings do happen right, will I
live, will I be okay?
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And if his answer is yes, thenhe'll take that risk.
I think it's a powerful exerciseto try, and if you haven't done
something like that, I wouldpush you to do it Because, like
I mentioned, most of it comesfrom our own minds and we have
power to control our thoughts,and so doing this exercise at
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least gets you an idea of howyour brain thinks, what you're
actually worried about.
And then it gives you a momentto say if that did happen, how
would I be?
Would I be okay?
And usually the answer is yes,hopefully it is.
But we build pain in our heads,we forecast the worst case
scenarios and we use that fearto justify staying comfortable.
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So we say things like oh,that's not for me or I'm not
ready for that, I'm going towait for the right time, or
it'll never happen, even if I dotry, maybe.
Maybe those things are true,but maybe they they that, that
goal that you have.
Maybe it would happen if youdid try, if you pushed yourself
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just a little harder, if youstopped waiting for a sign and
instead actually became the signRight.
You're the one that makes thesechoices.
You decide whether or not youhave the endurance, the
resilience and the fight in youto keep after these goals.
To get after these goals.
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It all comes from you.
Getting after it is a choice.
We talked about that, allie andI talked about that not too
long ago.
But it is a choice that youhave to make daily and, as
someone who lives the gettingafter a lifestyle, you have to
put those thoughts aside.
You have to put those fears outthe window, because if I didn't,
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this podcast wouldn't be athing.
If I didn't, I wouldn't berunning, because there's a lot
of fear that goes into that.
Oh man, I got 10 miles in themountains.
Really, that's going to hurt.
My body's going to hurt so bad.
What if I don't have enoughwater?
What if I don't have enoughfuel?
What if a mountain lion comesout and attacks me?
You see, you can talk yourselfout of all these scenarios.
You can build up the worst casescenario in your head so your
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brain's ready for it.
But that won't do anythingunless you take action.
So become the sign.
And with all things, you need tostart small, because small
shifts create big impacts.
Here's the truth.
You don't need that radicalshift because you just need to
do one thing better than you didyesterday.
That's it.
And you've heard the phrase,I'm sure you have of try and aim
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to be 1% better each and everyday.
Just work on being 1% better,because that 1% will snowball
into by the end of the year,because that 1% will snowball
into by the end of the year,36.5% better, right.
And if we're all getting 36.5%better every single year, that's
pretty good.
That's not bad, I'll take it.
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I just think my math might beoff on that.
Ah, someone spot check me on mymath.
But you get.
What I'm saying is that there isa constant snowball effect
where you are continuouslygetting better, but it starts by
you have to take action, youhave to push yourself, you have
to test your limits and when youthink that you've given it your
all, see if you can takeanother step.
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Do one more.
Like, if things come up likeyou didn't get your run in in
the morning, do it after work.
You might be tired, but see ifyou can do it after work.
Like you didn't get your run inin the morning, do it after
work.
You might be tired, but see ifyou can do it after work.
If you didn't get that job youwanted, then figure out why.
See if you can fix somethingand then send 10 more
applications out.
Say I'm better because of this.
I want to write a book, and soone thing I need to do is just
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100 words a day that could be inmy journal, but to get me into
the practice of trying to becomea better writer and that's it.
It's just a start and that'swhat I'm aiming for you to try
and do.
And so we want these big,dramatic changes to come and
happen overnight because they'resexy, right Like.
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We see people on social mediaall the time who seem to be
overnight successes, but whatyou don't see is the work that's
done day by day, hour by hour,and late into the night, early
in the morning.
Everything that they're doingto grind to get to where they're
at now.
That's not an overnight success.
It might seem like it, becausewhen one thing goes viral, then
the whole thing does right.
People know about you, whatever, but that's not how it starts.
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It might, you know, be a dreamto be an overnight success, but
I'm telling you that's not longlasting.
What's long lasting is youbuild these habits day by day to
create that big impact.
That's how real transformationworks.
It's quiet, it's boring, it'slacing up your shoes when you
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don't really want to, it'schoosing the salad when you
really want those damn fries,and it's about studying reading
rather than scrolling TikTok.
Discipline isn't about intensity, it's about consistency, and
I've talked about that too manytimes.
I'm not going to cover it onthis one.
But all these principles playinto this and I just think you
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know we are all capable of doinggreat things, but a lot of that
means we're going to have tostep into pain, we're going to
have to step into uncertaintyand be willing to see where that
road takes us.
So think about it.
What's the worst that canhappen?
And if you're okay withwhatever, the worst case
scenario is that you've come upwith in your brain, take that
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first step.
There's not a perfect time.
The perfect time is yesterday,so start now.
Now, who are some real lifeexamples that we can look at at
this?
And I've talked about DavidGoggins, I've talked about
Cameron Haynes, but I want totalk about my brother, drew, a
little bit.
Because, drew, we were laughingat this when we went out to
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dinner with him and his wife onFriday.
We were talking about mywedding photos and in the
wedding photos, drew is about200 and 250 pounds, maybe 260.
He might be on 260 pounds.
He was a beefy boy and he had along hair that was down to his
shoulders Pretty much.
We told him he wasn't lookinggreat at the time, which drew
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you might.
You might get mad at me.
I'll put a picture up of himright here.
He might get mad at me for this, but if you're watching this,
now's a good time to watch.
Okay, it's gone.
Anyways, I'm so proud of thatdude because he is a living
example of what discipline,consistency and stepping into
that fear looks like.
He was kind of a bigger guy fora few years and he always
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talked about how he wanted tolose weight.
He wanted to get in shape.
He wanted to.
You know, try and look better,right, as we all do.
Let's be honest with ourselves.
You know, try and look better,right, as we all do.
Let's be honest with ourselves.
And it wasn't up until theNovember that I got married.
So November 2023, when he'slike I'm going to start running,
brett, will you help me out?
And he asked me for some helpand I gave him a very basic
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coaching plan and, gotta behonest, didn't know if he would
stick with it or not, becauserunning is hard.
It is a painful thing to do,especially when you're that much
um, when you're that heavy,like your joints are going to
take a beating at the beginning.
And Drew didn't care.
He's like I committed to thisgoal, I want to see if I can be
a runner, and he pushed himselfhard.
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He really did.
Now we were talking at dinnerand he's 203 pounds, he's built,
he's got some good muscle onhim.
He looks a lot better.
Um, he actually kind of lookslike my twin and not saying I'm
a handsome man, but I'm justsaying he looks better.
And all of that came from work.
I can't tell you how many timesDrew called me saying things
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like man.
I don't even know if this isworking Like.
I don't know if I'm going to bea good runner.
Guess what?
That guy ran a marathon in 2024.
And he's lost so much weight.
He's lost almost 60 pounds.
It's amazing to see his progressand it didn't start out big.
Like I said in the beginning,it was not some overnight change
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.
What it started with was withthought, and in that thought I
know he felt a lot ofuncertainty.
I know he knew there was goingto be a lot of pain If he went
after this goal the pain of asore body, the pain of hunger
because he was going to have toeat less and eat better foods,
and all these different thingsthat would stack up into the big
impact that he now is of a203-pound man who is signed up
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for an ultramarathon that he'srunning with me in October and
in April of next year, we'regoing on a 50-mile run together.
That's amazing.
That is discipline embodied,and that is consistency every
single day for a goal that hewas initially afraid to go after
and it can happen to you too.
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I'm proud of that guy for whathe's done, because he's a living
example of the things that Italk about and getting after it
and how they work.
And now he's reading more andhe's he's taking more risks and
he's he's one of my heroes.
Honestly, drew is one of myheroes, and and it's because
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he's one of the hardest workingpeople I've met but he faced
everything that we do too, thatuncertainty and that pain, but
he stepped into it and he wasn'tgoing to let him stop it, and
he was always asking himself isthat my limit?
You know what impresses me mostabout that story Is that he got
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comfortable with beinguncomfortable, which, if you
want to achieve anything in life, you're going to have to learn
to do.
Be uncomfortable, embrace it,make it your ally, make it your
friend, because only then willthese changes happen.
And then everyone's going tosay, dang Johnny over, there is
an overnight success, when inreality, they didn't see the two
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years that you spent workinghard as hell on it.
So think about that for amoment.
Think about how your life couldchange if you achieve the goals
that you wanted to.
Because you can.
You just have to be willing towork hard enough to be
disciplined and consistent andlearn to adapt along the way.
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Adaptation is so importantbecause as you get better, like
with Drew, we'll bring him backinto this.
As he got better with running,the training was no longer hard
for him, it became easy, and sowe had to ramp up the training
to get him uncomfortable again.
And now he's achieving thingsthat he never thought was
possible, and so am I, so isAllie, so is everyone else that
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embodies this.
Getting after mindset.
It all starts with a choice,and if you're willing to embrace
it, if you're willing to stepinto it and fight the battle for
who knows how long the goalswill come the results will
happen.
I would say, to go down thispath, you need to build
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something that I would call aresilience formula, and here's
how I would say you buildresilience.
It's not by avoiding pain so ifyou think it was, you're very
wrong but it's by choosing toshow up while you're still in it
by saying, yeah, I'm tired, I'mstressed, I'm doubting myself
and I'm still going.
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Seneca, another famous Stoic,says difficulties strengthen the
mind as labor does the body.
Now I talk about fitness a lot.
Seneca here is talking aboutlabor on the body.
I talk about fitness because Ibelieve that it bleeds into
every aspect of life.
When you're sitting under abench press trying to push as
hard as you can, and you'restruggling and you feel like
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you're going to die, then thatmoment will teach you that like
hey, when things come up, youcan push past it a little bit,
you can push into the pain, youcan push it away and fight and
be stronger through it.
But training your body isequally as important as training
the mind.
I would argue the mind might bemore important to train,
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because you have to learn to beresilient.
We need to stop seeking ease,stop confusing comfort with
peace, because that's not whatit is.
Start recognizing struggle asthe training ground for your own
mental strength and your ownstrength in general, because
that voice in your head, whenit's telling you to quit, use it
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as a signal.
That's where the work begins.
This is where you implement allthe principles I've talked
about.
When you're telling yourselfI'm done.
I want to stop, but don't do it.
If the goal is that importantto you, do not give up.
That will lead to a life ofregret.
See what you can do to pushthrough it.
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Ask for help if you need to.
I've mentioned many times if youever need anything, if you ever
are struggling with a goal, dmme, because I would love to help
you out, because everyone iscapable of doing great things.
And can you imagine a world ofpeople who are getting after it
all the time, who areconsistently trying to push
themselves, who are trying toget better and make the world a
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better place alongside of it?
It'll be a very different worldthat we live in.
And I love the quote that youknow.
Anybody who's doing better thanyou will never, will never come
down and bully you.
Really, they won't.
They won't do anything to getyou um, to make you feel bad
about them or to make you feelbad about yourself.
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They won't do that because theyunderstand that hard work.
It's admirable because they'vebeen there before, because they
know what it's like to feel likethe whole weight of the world
is on your shoulders, to doubtyourself relentlessly, but still
push past it.
They know what it's like towork out super hard throughout
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the week and then when Saturdaycomes and they have a long run
to still show up and get it done, because they've been there
before.
Those are the people that youneed to reach out to to ask for
help, and they're around.
You just have to look for them.
You are made for more.
Your limits were never real, sowhatever limits are in your
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mind, throw it out the window.
There's too many examples inthis world of people who have
pushed past their limits, whohave done difficult things on a
regular basis to get to wherethey're at now.
It's why I love ultra marathons, because in an ultra marathon,
the only thing you're reallythinking about is pain.
You're in so much pain, yourlegs are aching, your body's
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fatigued, you're trying toconsistently get food down and
drink, but the mountains requirea lot of you, and so seeing
these men and women pushthemselves 100 plus miles and
carve a path, for myself tobuild the belief that, hey, if
they can do it, then I can aswell that is motivating for me.
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If someone's done it, odds areyou can too.
You just have to make thechoice to progress every day,
and it's not easy.
Comfort is a siren I love thatword A siren from Homer's the
Odyssey.
You know, comfort will say toyou hey, come over here.
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You've been working hard, letme rub your shoulders a little
bit.
Let me just put on a show foryou here.
You want this slice of pizzaand you're just like, ooh, this
is nice.
This comfort person's reallynice.
And then, as you're sittingthere eating your pizza watching
a show getting your shouldersrub, comfort takes a dagger and
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plunges it right into your heartand says, ha, I got you, you're
mine now.
You're not going anywhere.
But guess what?
You can rip that knife out andstab it right back into
comfort's neck and say, hey, youcaught me, but I'm pushing past
this.
And then you go and you getshit done.
You're made for more, but thatdoesn't mean you're going to
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have fanfare along the way.
You're not going to have peoplecheering you on.
It shows up when you get theresults.
But those results are going tobe far down the road and your
dreams aren't as far as youthink.
I promise you that, becausewhen you test your limits, then
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you learn to test it again, notwith a leap, but with a single
step forward.
Like I said, it's the smallactions that get you there.
One more rep, one more coldcall, one more mile, one more
page Doesn't matter.
Try and push yourself when youfeel like you're tired, because,
as Teddy Roosevelt says andthis is the reason that this
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quote sits around my neck everysingle day the credit belongs to
the man who actually is in thearena, who strives violently,
who errs, who comes short againand again, but who does actually
strive to do the deeds.
And one of my favorite parts ofthat quote is that he will
never be known with those cold,timid souls who didn't have the
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guts to try.
That's you.
You're in the arena and you'vestill got more in the tank.
So get after it Every damn day,because if you don't, someone
else will, and that dream thatyou have is going to be theirs.
If you don't, someone else will, and that dream that you have
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is going to be theirs.
If this episode at all hit homefor you, share it with someone
who needs a reminder thatthey're capable of more, that
they're not done yet.
We're not done when we're tired.
We're done when we're finished,and that's a mantra you need to
live by.
That's part of getting after it.
You're not done when you'retired.
If you're listening to thispodcast, you're made for more.
That's when you're tired.
If you're listening to thispodcast, you're made for more.
That's why you're trying tolearn about getting after it,
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because you want to see whatyou're capable of doing.
And I'm telling you, you've gotmore in the tank.
Push your limits.
Question yourself when you havethose thoughts of man, I'm done
.
Ask yourself is that true or amI just giving up?
If you're the kind of personwho's out there running, riding,
building, lifting, loving andstill showing up when it's hard,
you're part of this tribe.
Keep going, keep pushing, keepgetting after it.
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I'll see you guys next week.
Thanks for tuning in.
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