July 14, 2025 • 19 mins
We’re all running out of time.
That’s not a dramatic opener—it’s just the truth. This episode is a solo reflection on something that’s been weighing on me lately: presence, purpose, and the short window we’re all given to do something that matters.
While on vacation, I read Whale Fall, a story about a man swallowed by a whale who finds clarity about his broken relationship with his father—just a little too late. It hit home, because isn’t that how so many of us live? Waiting. Delaying. Postponing healing, connection, meaning—for some better “later” that may never come.
In this episode, I talk about:
- The guilt I feel when I’m not working.
- How hard it is to just be still.
- Why time, once spent, is never coming back.
- And how Getting After It is not just about productivity—it’s about presence.
I open up about what gives my life meaning: faith, love, growth, community. And I challenge you to ask yourself what gives yours.
Because the clock’s ticking. And the worst thing isn’t failing. The worst thing is never trying.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I want to tell you I love you way every day.
Yeah, I want to be with younight and I'll spare you.
I won't do it.
I'm excited.
Thanks for joining me today.
I, as you can see I hope you cansee if you're watching this we
got our first getting aftershirts.
Live, not live.
(00:21):
Um, I wish we got them in themail.
We're just getting someprototypes done, but, um, I mean
, this is kind of what it'sstarting to look like and I'm
really pumped to start offeringthese to all of you guys.
Um, just to build a community.
I don't know.
I feel like anytime you see agroup of people with the same
shirt on, you're like they'retogether.
(00:41):
They must be doing something.
So I'm excited for that rolloutand I hope you are too in at
least rocking some of thegetting after it stuff.
But it's not what we're talkingabout today.
I have had a lot on my mindabout being present and trying
to live in the moment, trying tomake the most of whatever
(01:03):
you're trying to do, and tryingto live in the moment, trying to
make the most of whateveryou're trying to do, because
something I've realized and yeah, brett, this is real obvious.
But time is final, and it's theonly resource that we can't
make more of.
The reason I've been thinkingabout this is I was just on
vacation.
Last week, my wife and I wewent to California to spend some
(01:25):
time with my family.
It was a lot of fun, it wasnice to decompress a little bit
I don't really do that too oftenand it was just kind of nice to
get away and spend time withher and my family.
So I always have this problem,though, when I go on vacation,
that I feel guilty.
I feel like I should be doingsomething.
I feel like I should be doingsomething.
(01:45):
I feel like I should be workingand whether it's getting after
it, if it's on my job, if it'sworking out like I feel like I
need to be doing something allthe time, which is sad because I
want to enjoy those times whereI am on vacation, like with my
family there and go to the beachwith them and try to be fully
present.
But it's something I'm workingon.
I'm not perfect at it and, asweird as that sounds like yeah,
(02:09):
brett, you're not good atvacation, what a problem to have
, but it bothers me, it reallydoes.
I wish I was a little bit morerelaxed and was able to take
some time just to decompress alittle bit.
But anyways, I was reading thisbook on the beach that my dad
gave me, called whale fall, andwasn't really expecting much of
(02:29):
it.
It's a nonfiction book about adiver who his dad spoiler alert
if you don't want to read it orif you don't want to listen to
this, skip forward a little bit.
Spoiler alert his dad passesaway and he had a pretty bad
relationship with his dad.
Um, and his family's kind ofwritten him off, a little bit
(02:50):
like because he wasn't therewhen his dad wanted him there
and he was passing away.
Really sad story.
And he gets this idea in hishead where, you know, his dad
was lost at sea.
He died at sea.
And he says, if I go andrecover the bones of my dad,
maybe my family will let me comeback into the fold and be one
(03:11):
with them again.
And so he puts on all his divegear and heads out into the
ocean to try and find his dad'sremains and a lot happens.
But basically he ends upgetting swallowed by a whale and
he's in this whale, whichapparently was anatomically
(03:33):
correct.
You know where the body iscorrect, but the diver, studied
different whales and all thestomachs and that kind of thing
and made sure that the stomachwas going to be big enough to
hold this guy.
So, anyways, he gets swallowedby a whale and it's not until
this part where he starts makingamends with his dad.
(03:55):
He starts making peace with hisdad.
Obviously he's not there, butit's just interesting that in
this story it took this guy, themain character, jay.
It took him getting swallowedby a whale for him to reconsider
how he felt about his father,and it made me sad because he
(04:16):
could have done that when hisdad was alive and obviously it's
a book, so there wouldn't be astory if he did that.
Obviously it's a book, so therewouldn't be a story if he did
that.
But really, though we have a lotof time, that we don't really
take time to do the things thatmatter most a lot.
I don't know if it's because weare distracted I'm often
(04:42):
distracted by many things butthat's the thing.
You have to kind of understandwhat is important to you and
what deserves your attention.
Is it mending relationships, isit working on yourself, trying
to provide better for yourfamily, or whatever that is.
But I thought about this more,and I wrote on my blog a whole
(05:06):
journal entry about this and Ijust want to read it.
It's going to be story timewith Brett for a second, but
it's called no Time to Wastewe're all running out of time.
That's not a dramatic statement, it's just the truth.
You can make more money, buildmore muscle, grow more influence
, but time, once it's gone, it'sgone.
(05:29):
I think about that a lot,especially when I catch myself
wishing for long, slow days withmy wife, days where we wake up
with nowhere to be, no one elseto please, days where we want to
just be together.
That would be beautiful, butlife doesn't always give us that
luxury.
So we work with what we haveand we make it count.
(05:53):
While on vacation.
Here it comes.
While on vacation, I read abook called Whale Fall.
It's a heavy story.
The main character, jay, has abroken relationship with his dad
.
It's only when he's swallowedby a whale and he's forced to
confront death that he findshealing and perspective.
He remembers the love, thesacrifice, the lessons, but by
then the clock's nearly out.
That hit me hard.
How often do we wait to saywhat matters?
How many dreams get shelved forlater?
(06:14):
How many relationships gounmended because pride gets in
the way.
We act like we'll always havemore time.
We won't.
I don't have all the answers onhow to live a meaningful life,
but I've figured out a fewthings.
It's not about fame or wealthor social clout.
It's not about checking offachievements for the sake of
optics.
It's not about hustle withoutdirection.
(06:37):
For me, life is meaningful whenI'm helping others grow, when I
feel close to Christ throughprayer and faith, when I hold my
wife Allie and feel peace inknowing I'm where I'm meant to
be.
That's the good stuff Notflashy, not loud, but real.
It's easy to get caught up inthe grind, it's easy to mistake
motion for meaning, but I'mlearning that real fulfillment
(06:59):
often shows up in quiet ways.
When my little nephew asked meto dig him a hole at the beach,
when a friend just needs to talkand I make space to listen,
when I laugh at the dinner tablewith my family, phones away,
fully present.
Those aren't distractions,they're the point.
And when I start thinking Ihave to choose between ambition
and presence, I remind myselfgetting after.
(07:21):
It isn't just about pushingyourself.
It's about doing it for thepeople you love.
It's about using your gifts tobless others.
Time is finite.
It's the one resource we don'tget to refill.
So mend the relationship, startthe project, say the words
you've been holding in.
Take the risk you've beenafraid of.
Your life is meaningful rightnow if you decide to treat it
(07:47):
that way.
For me, that looks like beingfaithful to God, loving my wife
deeply, staying connected tofamily and friends and
continuing to build, gettingafter it into a community with
purpose.
I'm only 27, and I already feellike the luckiest man on earth
because I've deemed it so.
So now it's your turn.
Whatever time you've got, useit, because there's no time to
(08:10):
waste.
And that was it.
I um, I was just thinking aboutthat because of, like I said,
that book just made me rethink alittle bit about what's
important and that we don't havetime.
We don't have time to do thethings that we want to all the
(08:33):
time.
So you have to make time, andit's the one thing that we
cannot get back.
I often think of getting afterit, the whole podcast, the
community I'm trying to build,that we're building together.
I think about it a lot becausethe podcast is almost four years
(08:53):
old and I've learned so muchjust from taking a chance on
myself, and this is not meant tomake me look real good for you
guys right now.
I'm just telling you how I feeland what I've learned.
I used to be a timid man boy,you might you might say could
(09:15):
call me a boy, child.
Whatever, I used to be a timidlittle boy.
Uh, when I moved up to Utah, Itook a risk on myself, and when
I first started the podcast, Ihad some direction on where I
wanted it to go, but didn'treally understand the future of
it.
Through doing it, though, I'velearned so much about what it
(09:36):
takes to push myself, and it'sgoing to look different for
everyone.
That's definitely one thingI've learned with getting after
it is everyone has their ownunique perspectives and everyone
has their own unique habits,and that's why I've been trying
to have so many different peoplecome on and share their own
stories about what they're doingwith their lives, how they're
(09:57):
getting after it and whatthey're using their discipline
and their consistency to worktowards, because I think it
offers you guys, the listeners,a little bit more of a hands-on
approach to be like okay, well,brett does these things.
I don't want to do that.
That sounds crazy.
And maybe Michael, who justcame on and talked about Javelin
.
Maybe there's some things Icould take from him.
Maybe there's some things Icould take from Bryn Brynley,
(10:19):
who came on and talked about PT.
You know, and that's the thingis, we all have so much to learn
from each other and that onlytakes.
I mean, the reason that comesand you're able to learn from
other people is through askingthem questions and building
(10:41):
those relationships with them.
That's one thing that I havelearned from my wife that I'm so
glad I have is the value ofrelationships, because prior to
starting getting after it, priorto marrying my wife, I only
really cared about my familyrelationships, and you can ask
all my friends when I was sick,I didn't reach out to one of
(11:03):
them and I'm sure that waspretty messed up on my part.
I know it was messed up on mypart because they were worried
about me, but I didn't care.
I was like, yeah, you know whatmy family is, what matters most
to me.
But that's not true.
That is not true.
A community is a group of peoplewho decide to get better
together and that's what gettingafter it is.
(11:29):
It's a community where we'veall agreed to push each other.
We've all agreed to sign up anddo something.
That's difficult becausethrough that we know we'll be
forged into better people.
A relationship, it's the samething.
I heard Simon Sinek talk onChris Williamson's podcast about
that and he said his definitionof a relationship is two people
who agree to help each other orto grow with each other.
And that's really it.
(11:52):
I've missed that a lot of mylife, having that desire to
build relationships with people,to learn about them, find out
what they're doing, what they'reinterested in, how I could
potentially help them, how theycould potentially help me,
whatever it is.
But people are the mostvaluable thing that we have to
(12:14):
build our own communities around.
I know that sounds so stupid,but just throwing things out
there, um, and it's gottenimportant to me and so, like how
I think about the finite timethat I have, I want to have a
big portion of it working onbuilding and building myself,
(12:35):
getting after it myrelationships, um, others trying
to help them with them, withwhatever they might be
struggling with.
That's why I love to coach.
I love to see people succeedand I love to see how excited
they get when they do somethingthat they didn't think they
possibly could in the past, andthat's one way I love to build
my time or spend my time.
(12:56):
I also love spending it withGod.
God has played a significantrole in my life, and it might be
taboo to talk about him on apodcast where it's all about
self-improvement, but I would bea hypocrite if I didn't say
that most of thatself-improvement came because I
wanted to be better for God.
(13:17):
I know who he thinks I canbecome and who he knows I can
become, and I trust that,through some of the things I'm
doing, I will become that personthat God envisions I can be.
And peace comes from spendingtime with God.
It comes from studying his wordthrough scripture.
(13:39):
It comes from living theprinciples of his gospel, which,
if you think about it, if youthink about what, are the two
main things that we should befocusing on if we want to live a
.
For me it's a Christ-centeredlife, but for you it might be
different, but I think theprinciple applies it's you love
God.
That's number one.
(13:59):
And then the second is, likeunto it, you love your neighbor.
And what I'm talking about withrelationships, with building up
people, I believe it comes fromthat.
I believe it comes from thefact that I love God and I love
his children, which we are allhis children.
We're all God's children.
(14:19):
Um, and it's it's interestingto me because, like the time
that we have should be spenttrying to help other people,
building ourselves up, improvingourselves, because we don't
have a lot of it.
You know, there's going tobecome a.
There's going to be a time whenyou look back on your life and
you're like you will have theopportunity to either say I'm
(14:42):
proud of what I did or I wish Ihad more time to do X, y and Z.
I don't think you want thatsecond option.
I know I don't.
I don't want to live a life ofregret or a life where I'm
questioning if I could have gavemore.
So what's the solution?
I think it's just go all in.
Go all in in whatever you'redoing.
(15:03):
If it's your job, if that'swhere you want to focus, be your
best, do the best you can.
If it's podcasting, learn, tryto be the best.
You can be there.
You want to work on yourrelationships.
You want to do whatever it is,go all in.
Don't half-ass motivationsometimes.
(15:28):
Do it to make yourself proud and, like I said in that blog post,
if there's a project thatyou've wanted to start, if you
wanted to start a business, ifyou've wanted to start a family,
what the hell are you waitingfor?
Are you waiting for the righttime, because odds are it won't
(15:49):
show up?
The right time is a myth thatwe tell ourselves.
It is a illusion that we buildup in our minds to trick us and
to help us feel more comfortablethat the right time will show
up at some point in our lives.
But it's not today.
Counter argument here from me.
(16:10):
What if it is today?
What if you started today, nomatter how small the first step
might feel like?
What if you started today andyou just tried something new, or
you had that hard conversationwith someone and you want to
build that relationship back towhere it used to be?
But you know, and they know,that it's going to take work to
(16:30):
get there.
So what are you waiting for?
Pride is something that can bedangerous and pride, I think,
for me at least, gets into myhead and says, yeah, but there's
other people who are doing itbetter, like with these shirts
that I want to launch.
I want to build a website, sendthem out to everyone so people
(16:52):
can wear getting after itapparel and um show their people
.
You know they're part of acommunity that wants to improve
and that community is aimed tohelp each other grow as well.
Um, I want to do that and it'sbeen something I've wanted to do
since the beginning.
And why did I wait so long?
Honestly, fear I made up theexcuse that, man, I'm so busy.
(17:18):
Yeah, I might be, but it'simportant to me, so I try and
make the time for it, and samegoes for you.
If you want to get into shape,don't wait until January 1st.
That's five more months fromnow.
Don't wait until that moment.
Start now.
You'll become so much better.
(17:39):
If you start now and then, byJanuary 1st, you're like okay,
well, let's make more specificgoals here.
What else can I do?
Time is precious.
We all have 24 hours in a day.
You decide how you want tospend them, and the last thing
I'll say on this is if you spendyour time wisely, you will not
(18:06):
live a life of regret.
Not live a life of regret, andthe definition for me of
spending time wisely is doingthings that give your life
meaning.
That doesn't mean it's notgoing to be hard.
It doesn't mean it's going tobe easy all the time.
Because, let me tell you,running is something that I
(18:27):
think gives myself meaning.
It gives me time to think, itlets me exercise my, my body,
but it's hard as hell, but Ifeel great every time I do it
and it's not easy, but it'smeaningful to me.
Podcasting same thing.
Spending time with those that Ilove that's not really a hard
thing to do, but it's verymeaningful for me.
(18:48):
And so, if you are struggling tounderstand what is meaningful
to you, take out a journal andjust start writing some things
down right at the top, thatquestion what is meaningful to
me, and then start brainstorming.
You know, think about it as likeyou're back in elementary
school and you're trying to makea bubble chart just brainstorm.
(19:11):
No one's going to make a bubblechart, just brainstorm.
No one's going to tell you howto live your life, no one's
going to tell you how to spendyour time.
That's all up to you and youeither have the opportunity to
make the most of it or waste it.
But it's a valuable resourceand you should treat it as such.
I appreciate you guys forlistening to this episode.
(19:31):
I know it was a little bit of ashorter one.
It's a solo one.
I haven't done that in a while,but we got some good guests
coming up soon and I'm excitedfor them to join me on the
conversation couch.
So you guys, keep pushing hard,spend your time wisely, figure
out what makes your lifemeaningful, ask me for help if
you need it and, as always, keepgetting after it.
I want to tell you I love you way every day.
Yeah, I want to be with younight and I'll spare you.
I won't do it.
I'm excited.
Thanks for joining me today.
I, as you can see I hope you cansee if you're watching this we
got our first getting aftershirts.
Live, not live.
(00:21):
Um, I wish we got them in themail.
We're just getting someprototypes done, but, um, I mean
, this is kind of what it'sstarting to look like and I'm
really pumped to start offeringthese to all of you guys.
Um, just to build a community.
I don't know.
I feel like anytime you see agroup of people with the same
shirt on, you're like they'retogether.
(00:41):
They must be doing something.
So I'm excited for that rolloutand I hope you are too in at
least rocking some of thegetting after it stuff.
But it's not what we're talkingabout today.
I have had a lot on my mindabout being present and trying
to live in the moment, trying tomake the most of whatever
(01:03):
you're trying to do, and tryingto live in the moment, trying to
make the most of whateveryou're trying to do, because
something I've realized and yeah, brett, this is real obvious.
But time is final, and it's theonly resource that we can't
make more of.
The reason I've been thinkingabout this is I was just on
vacation.
Last week, my wife and I wewent to California to spend some
(01:25):
time with my family.
It was a lot of fun, it wasnice to decompress a little bit
I don't really do that too oftenand it was just kind of nice to
get away and spend time withher and my family.
So I always have this problem,though, when I go on vacation,
that I feel guilty.
I feel like I should be doingsomething.
I feel like I should be doingsomething.
(01:45):
I feel like I should be workingand whether it's getting after
it, if it's on my job, if it'sworking out like I feel like I
need to be doing something allthe time, which is sad because I
want to enjoy those times whereI am on vacation, like with my
family there and go to the beachwith them and try to be fully
present.
But it's something I'm workingon.
I'm not perfect at it and, asweird as that sounds like yeah,
(02:09):
brett, you're not good atvacation, what a problem to have
, but it bothers me, it reallydoes.
I wish I was a little bit morerelaxed and was able to take
some time just to decompress alittle bit.
But anyways, I was reading thisbook on the beach that my dad
gave me, called whale fall, andwasn't really expecting much of
(02:29):
it.
It's a nonfiction book about adiver who his dad spoiler alert
if you don't want to read it orif you don't want to listen to
this, skip forward a little bit.
Spoiler alert his dad passesaway and he had a pretty bad
relationship with his dad.
Um, and his family's kind ofwritten him off, a little bit
(02:50):
like because he wasn't therewhen his dad wanted him there
and he was passing away.
Really sad story.
And he gets this idea in hishead where, you know, his dad
was lost at sea.
He died at sea.
And he says, if I go andrecover the bones of my dad,
maybe my family will let me comeback into the fold and be one
(03:11):
with them again.
And so he puts on all his divegear and heads out into the
ocean to try and find his dad'sremains and a lot happens.
But basically he ends upgetting swallowed by a whale and
he's in this whale, whichapparently was anatomically
(03:33):
correct.
You know where the body iscorrect, but the diver, studied
different whales and all thestomachs and that kind of thing
and made sure that the stomachwas going to be big enough to
hold this guy.
So, anyways, he gets swallowedby a whale and it's not until
this part where he starts makingamends with his dad.
(03:55):
He starts making peace with hisdad.
Obviously he's not there, butit's just interesting that in
this story it took this guy, themain character, jay.
It took him getting swallowedby a whale for him to reconsider
how he felt about his father,and it made me sad because he
(04:16):
could have done that when hisdad was alive and obviously it's
a book, so there wouldn't be astory if he did that.
Obviously it's a book, so therewouldn't be a story if he did
that.
But really, though we have a lotof time, that we don't really
take time to do the things thatmatter most a lot.
I don't know if it's because weare distracted I'm often
(04:42):
distracted by many things butthat's the thing.
You have to kind of understandwhat is important to you and
what deserves your attention.
Is it mending relationships, isit working on yourself, trying
to provide better for yourfamily, or whatever that is.
But I thought about this more,and I wrote on my blog a whole
(05:06):
journal entry about this and Ijust want to read it.
It's going to be story timewith Brett for a second, but
it's called no Time to Wastewe're all running out of time.
That's not a dramatic statement, it's just the truth.
You can make more money, buildmore muscle, grow more influence
, but time, once it's gone, it'sgone.
(05:29):
I think about that a lot,especially when I catch myself
wishing for long, slow days withmy wife, days where we wake up
with nowhere to be, no one elseto please, days where we want to
just be together.
That would be beautiful, butlife doesn't always give us that
luxury.
So we work with what we haveand we make it count.
(05:53):
While on vacation.
Here it comes.
While on vacation, I read abook called Whale Fall.
It's a heavy story.
The main character, jay, has abroken relationship with his dad
.
It's only when he's swallowedby a whale and he's forced to
confront death that he findshealing and perspective.
He remembers the love, thesacrifice, the lessons, but by
then the clock's nearly out.
That hit me hard.
How often do we wait to saywhat matters?
How many dreams get shelved forlater?
(06:14):
How many relationships gounmended because pride gets in
the way.
We act like we'll always havemore time.
We won't.
I don't have all the answers onhow to live a meaningful life,
but I've figured out a fewthings.
It's not about fame or wealthor social clout.
It's not about checking offachievements for the sake of
optics.
It's not about hustle withoutdirection.
(06:37):
For me, life is meaningful whenI'm helping others grow, when I
feel close to Christ throughprayer and faith, when I hold my
wife Allie and feel peace inknowing I'm where I'm meant to
be.
That's the good stuff Notflashy, not loud, but real.
It's easy to get caught up inthe grind, it's easy to mistake
motion for meaning, but I'mlearning that real fulfillment
(06:59):
often shows up in quiet ways.
When my little nephew asked meto dig him a hole at the beach,
when a friend just needs to talkand I make space to listen,
when I laugh at the dinner tablewith my family, phones away,
fully present.
Those aren't distractions,they're the point.
And when I start thinking Ihave to choose between ambition
and presence, I remind myselfgetting after.
(07:21):
It isn't just about pushingyourself.
It's about doing it for thepeople you love.
It's about using your gifts tobless others.
Time is finite.
It's the one resource we don'tget to refill.
So mend the relationship, startthe project, say the words
you've been holding in.
Take the risk you've beenafraid of.
Your life is meaningful rightnow if you decide to treat it
(07:47):
that way.
For me, that looks like beingfaithful to God, loving my wife
deeply, staying connected tofamily and friends and
continuing to build, gettingafter it into a community with
purpose.
I'm only 27, and I already feellike the luckiest man on earth
because I've deemed it so.
So now it's your turn.
Whatever time you've got, useit, because there's no time to
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waste.
And that was it.
I um, I was just thinking aboutthat because of, like I said,
that book just made me rethink alittle bit about what's
important and that we don't havetime.
We don't have time to do thethings that we want to all the
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time.
So you have to make time, andit's the one thing that we
cannot get back.
I often think of getting afterit, the whole podcast, the
community I'm trying to build,that we're building together.
I think about it a lot becausethe podcast is almost four years
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old and I've learned so muchjust from taking a chance on
myself, and this is not meant tomake me look real good for you
guys right now.
I'm just telling you how I feeland what I've learned.
I used to be a timid man boy,you might you might say could
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call me a boy, child.
Whatever, I used to be a timidlittle boy.
Uh, when I moved up to Utah, Itook a risk on myself, and when
I first started the podcast, Ihad some direction on where I
wanted it to go, but didn'treally understand the future of
it.
Through doing it, though, I'velearned so much about what it
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takes to push myself, and it'sgoing to look different for
everyone.
That's definitely one thingI've learned with getting after
it is everyone has their ownunique perspectives and everyone
has their own unique habits,and that's why I've been trying
to have so many different peoplecome on and share their own
stories about what they're doingwith their lives, how they're
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getting after it and whatthey're using their discipline
and their consistency to worktowards, because I think it
offers you guys, the listeners,a little bit more of a hands-on
approach to be like okay, well,brett does these things.
I don't want to do that.
That sounds crazy.
And maybe Michael, who justcame on and talked about Javelin
.
Maybe there's some things Icould take from him.
Maybe there's some things Icould take from Bryn Brynley,
(10:19):
who came on and talked about PT.
You know, and that's the thingis, we all have so much to learn
from each other and that onlytakes.
I mean, the reason that comesand you're able to learn from
other people is through askingthem questions and building
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those relationships with them.
That's one thing that I havelearned from my wife that I'm so
glad I have is the value ofrelationships, because prior to
starting getting after it, priorto marrying my wife, I only
really cared about my familyrelationships, and you can ask
all my friends when I was sick,I didn't reach out to one of
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them and I'm sure that waspretty messed up on my part.
I know it was messed up on mypart because they were worried
about me, but I didn't care.
I was like, yeah, you know whatmy family is, what matters most
to me.
But that's not true.
That is not true.
A community is a group of peoplewho decide to get better
together and that's what gettingafter it is.
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It's a community where we'veall agreed to push each other.
We've all agreed to sign up anddo something.
That's difficult becausethrough that we know we'll be
forged into better people.
A relationship, it's the samething.
I heard Simon Sinek talk onChris Williamson's podcast about
that and he said his definitionof a relationship is two people
who agree to help each other orto grow with each other.
And that's really it.
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I've missed that a lot of mylife, having that desire to
build relationships with people,to learn about them, find out
what they're doing, what they'reinterested in, how I could
potentially help them, how theycould potentially help me,
whatever it is.
But people are the mostvaluable thing that we have to
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build our own communities around.
I know that sounds so stupid,but just throwing things out
there, um, and it's gottenimportant to me and so, like how
I think about the finite timethat I have, I want to have a
big portion of it working onbuilding and building myself,
(12:35):
getting after it myrelationships, um, others trying
to help them with them, withwhatever they might be
struggling with.
That's why I love to coach.
I love to see people succeedand I love to see how excited
they get when they do somethingthat they didn't think they
possibly could in the past, andthat's one way I love to build
my time or spend my time.
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I also love spending it withGod.
God has played a significantrole in my life, and it might be
taboo to talk about him on apodcast where it's all about
self-improvement, but I would bea hypocrite if I didn't say
that most of thatself-improvement came because I
wanted to be better for God.
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I know who he thinks I canbecome and who he knows I can
become, and I trust that,through some of the things I'm
doing, I will become that personthat God envisions I can be.
And peace comes from spendingtime with God.
It comes from studying his wordthrough scripture.
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It comes from living theprinciples of his gospel, which,
if you think about it, if youthink about what, are the two
main things that we should befocusing on if we want to live a
.
For me it's a Christ-centeredlife, but for you it might be
different, but I think theprinciple applies it's you love
God.
That's number one.
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And then the second is, likeunto it, you love your neighbor.
And what I'm talking about withrelationships, with building up
people, I believe it comes fromthat.
I believe it comes from thefact that I love God and I love
his children, which we are allhis children.
We're all God's children.
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Um, and it's it's interestingto me because, like the time
that we have should be spenttrying to help other people,
building ourselves up, improvingourselves, because we don't
have a lot of it.
You know, there's going tobecome a.
There's going to be a time whenyou look back on your life and
you're like you will have theopportunity to either say I'm
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proud of what I did or I wish Ihad more time to do X, y and Z.
I don't think you want thatsecond option.
I know I don't.
I don't want to live a life ofregret or a life where I'm
questioning if I could have gavemore.
So what's the solution?
I think it's just go all in.
Go all in in whatever you'redoing.
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If it's your job, if that'swhere you want to focus, be your
best, do the best you can.
If it's podcasting, learn, tryto be the best.
You can be there.
You want to work on yourrelationships.
You want to do whatever it is,go all in.
Don't half-ass motivationsometimes.
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Do it to make yourself proud and, like I said in that blog post,
if there's a project thatyou've wanted to start, if you
wanted to start a business, ifyou've wanted to start a family,
what the hell are you waitingfor?
Are you waiting for the righttime, because odds are it won't
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show up?
The right time is a myth thatwe tell ourselves.
It is a illusion that we buildup in our minds to trick us and
to help us feel more comfortablethat the right time will show
up at some point in our lives.
But it's not today.
Counter argument here from me.
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What if it is today?
What if you started today, nomatter how small the first step
might feel like?
What if you started today andyou just tried something new, or
you had that hard conversationwith someone and you want to
build that relationship back towhere it used to be?
But you know, and they know,that it's going to take work to
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get there.
So what are you waiting for?
Pride is something that can bedangerous and pride, I think,
for me at least, gets into myhead and says, yeah, but there's
other people who are doing itbetter, like with these shirts
that I want to launch.
I want to build a website, sendthem out to everyone so people
(16:52):
can wear getting after itapparel and um show their people
.
You know they're part of acommunity that wants to improve
and that community is aimed tohelp each other grow as well.
Um, I want to do that and it'sbeen something I've wanted to do
since the beginning.
And why did I wait so long?
Honestly, fear I made up theexcuse that, man, I'm so busy.
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Yeah, I might be, but it'simportant to me, so I try and
make the time for it, and samegoes for you.
If you want to get into shape,don't wait until January 1st.
That's five more months fromnow.
Don't wait until that moment.
Start now.
You'll become so much better.
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If you start now and then, byJanuary 1st, you're like okay,
well, let's make more specificgoals here.
What else can I do?
Time is precious.
We all have 24 hours in a day.
You decide how you want tospend them, and the last thing
I'll say on this is if you spendyour time wisely, you will not
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live a life of regret.
Not live a life of regret, andthe definition for me of
spending time wisely is doingthings that give your life
meaning.
That doesn't mean it's notgoing to be hard.
It doesn't mean it's going tobe easy all the time.
Because, let me tell you,running is something that I
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think gives myself meaning.
It gives me time to think, itlets me exercise my, my body,
but it's hard as hell, but Ifeel great every time I do it
and it's not easy, but it'smeaningful to me.
Podcasting same thing.
Spending time with those that Ilove that's not really a hard
thing to do, but it's verymeaningful for me.
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And so, if you are struggling tounderstand what is meaningful
to you, take out a journal andjust start writing some things
down right at the top, thatquestion what is meaningful to
me, and then start brainstorming.
You know, think about it as likeyou're back in elementary
school and you're trying to makea bubble chart just brainstorm.
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No one's going to make a bubblechart, just brainstorm.
No one's going to tell you howto live your life, no one's
going to tell you how to spendyour time.
That's all up to you and youeither have the opportunity to
make the most of it or waste it.
But it's a valuable resourceand you should treat it as such.
I appreciate you guys forlistening to this episode.
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I know it was a little bit of ashorter one.
It's a solo one.
I haven't done that in a while,but we got some good guests
coming up soon and I'm excitedfor them to join me on the
conversation couch.
So you guys, keep pushing hard,spend your time wisely, figure
out what makes your lifemeaningful, ask me for help if
you need it and, as always, keepgetting after it.
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