Cry About It: Crying with Confidence

Let me tell you why crying is your new best friend. It's free, it's accessible, it's the most underrated tool in your health and healing toolbox. Listen to hear how crying detoxes your stress, increases your pain tolerance, brings you to a better place than you were before, and so much more.

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Episode Transcript

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I'm Savannah Harding and this is Getting Better.

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Hi my name is Savannah Harding and welcome to the first ever episode of my new podcast
Getting Better. Whether you struggle from chronic illness or chronic pain, heartache
or heartbreak, or whether you're feeling fine and are just looking to advance or enhance
your health, welcome to a space that understands that health and healing is a constant practice

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and that we are all continually getting better. See what I did there? Okay. Today we're talking
about the most underrated health regulator that you have most likely already done before
and it was probably the first thing you did after your very first breath. Today we are
talking about crying and diving into the reasons why shedding tears can have such a profound

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impact on your well-being. If you're like me, you don't like crying, I don't know people
who do. Well, actually now that I say that I have learned to appreciate it, I wouldn't
say love it but even though I've come to appreciate it, crying for me still comes at a cost but

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the benefits have greatly outweighed those costs. Let's get into it. You might be wondering
why is crying the first episode of this podcast and crying is the one thing that got me really
researching what is beneficial for my health and how do I recover and heal and try to kind

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of get my life back after multiple surgeries in a row with some trauma and health issues
and lots of pain and grieving and the past few years kind of starting from my whole life,
I've had eye surgeries, I've had I think 13 and it will be 14 as of next month and with

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those surgeries I wasn't able to cry because it would jeopardize the cornea, transplants
or the shunt that I put in for pressures and long story short it would just jeopardize
the eye health and risk losing eyesight and I would be in immense pain. Crying is always
painful but I would have cloudy vision for days if not a week after I couldn't see out

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of the eye my eyes would be so swollen and red and puffy and painful and it just was
not what I wanted to do when my eyes were already in so much pain but I had all this
pent up trauma that I had to process and this grief of time and ability and desires in my

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dreams and you don't have to go into that but what I'm saying is when I would cry it
would just, it wouldn't be like a little cry I couldn't just open this out and have only
like a little few tears trickle out it was a whole fire hydrant just bursting which
wouldn't help because then I wouldn't want to cry for a while after that because it

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would always be so intense and painful and I would just reap the pain for the next couple
of days so I was desperate to find another way to release my pent up emotions and find
a loophole to the messy painful practice that is crying and what I've found will make

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you want to cry but before we get into things gotta say a disclaimer I'm not a doctor this
content is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice diagnoses
or treatment it's information that I have sourced from scientifically backed research
and I myself am skeptical about shared information and sometimes random statistics but at university

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I studied how to discern what a sound research compared to unsupported claims and I'll be
sharing my resources if you'd care to take a look yourself I encourage it I enjoy research
about our bodies and behavior and I have personally benefited from applying this information to
my own life so if I can be a conduit for even one person's health or well-being I've reached

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my goal so grab your tissues and let's talk about crying so before we get into the benefits
I think it's important to mention that we have three types of tears basal reflex and
emotional basal tears. Basal are the continuous tears that lubricate our eyes and fight infections

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reflex tears are your onion tears they help clear debris from your eyes like smoke and
dust and sometimes they can overwhelm your drainage system in your eye and that's why
they can sometimes come down your face like emotional tears but the last type emotional
tears are what we are going to be focusing on today there are a lot of fun facts about

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crying and we're going to cover a lot today but the main points that I want to get across
where if you don't want to listen to the rest of the episode just trust me and take it to
the heart that crying detoxes your body of stress it expels cortisol from your body it

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increases your pain tolerance when you cry and it self soothes your body and the stress
and works with the stress adaptogens to make you feel better it enhances our social support
and helps regulate our emotions and keep us at a balanced state to continue with our lives

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and what brings us joy you don't have to listen to the rest of the episode now but let's go
we all deal with stress in our lives and at this time in society there's a lot to make
us anxious a lot to make us stressed and depressed and it's hard to not go to our distractions

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when we feel so overwhelmed but I want to encourage you to listen to this podcast and
to think about times when you feel so overwhelmed and you want to cry but you stop yourself
ask yourself why you stop yourself are you in a social setting and it feels embarrassing
have you just done your makeup and you're not going to waste that money by crying and

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having to wipe it off do you just not want to look like you've been crying or is it
that you're not ready or willing or accepting these emotions that are building up maybe
you don't even know what the emotions are but you just feel like you've reached that
window of tolerance and you feel the urge to cry but you just you don't because crying

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isn't fun it hurts it sometimes makes you look swollen and red and there are reasons
to this so take a second think about why you might not cry and keep that in the back of
your mind while you are listening to the rest of the podcast so the first reason why you
should cry is that crying detoxifies your body when we cry we release cortisol which

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is the stress hormone that builds up in our system so when you think cortisol think stress
not all cortisol and stress is bad for us but it is good to be able to release the stress
cortisol in our bodies so there have been fascinating studies that show how crying can
help expel that cortisol from our bodies in the late 90s scientists conducted a study

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where they measured cortisol levels in women's saliva before and after watching an emotional
movie the woman who had more intense crying during the film had less cortisol in their
saliva after the movie compared to the group that cried less so that is telling us that

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more crying gets out more stress so it's leaving your body you're left with less stress inside
of our bodies which I think we can all have a little bit more of that and a similar study
was done with rhesus monkeys and I would call this a fun fact but I really don't want to
believe it we are the only animals that produce emotional tears other animals cannot produce

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emotional tears which is really sad because like you see videos of these really cute dogs
like tearing up maybe that's just their reflex tears or basal tears I don't know but just
like other animals the rhesus monkey mothers couldn't produce emotional tears but they
let out loud distress calls for their babies and the monkeys who had more distress calls

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also had fewer stress hormones afterward even though we're not monkeys there's something
to be said about the relief we can feel when we let out a good cry or even a good scream
it's physically expelling stress from our bodies and while I was trying to find a loophole
for all of my emotions I tried screaming instead of crying it was into my pillow and it did

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help release some emotion but I was still craving a cathartic cry to be honest every
time I stepped out of numbing myself to try to help process I would be overcome by the
fact that I was still in so much pain and dealing with so much trauma and honestly despair

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and it was like okay if I'm not actually doing the thing doing half of the thing just made
me more frustrated and kind of added to the built up emotions that led me here looking
up if crying is really worth it if there are other ways to release the stress hormones
besides letting my eyes get red and painful and puffy and going through that and so after

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the detox after I was like okay that makes sense like I can scream a little I can cry
a little what's next next is oxytocin a hormone also called the love jug oxytocin is what
babies get from their breastfeeding mothers it is what you feel when you get a big hug
after a hard day you get a flood of it when you experience orgasm and well like I said

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it's the love drug oxytocin decreases cortisol levels decreases anxiety oxytocin reduces
our response to threats especially in social events so those with social anxiety oxytocin
is your friend it increases our calmness and our overall well being think of like little

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babies latching on to their mom and makes them feel safe it makes them feel warm so whether
you're crying alone or with someone oxytocin will accompany your tears so you're releasing
you're feeling that that oxytocin and that all sounds really good okay oxytocin this
oxytocin that but why is it important oxytocin is also referred to as the bonding hormone

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again think of those babies when you cry illicit in oxytocin it's like you're bonding to the
stress allowing your body to familiarize itself with your response to the stress so your body
is familiarizing itself with the stress trigger like stubbing your toe and then you cry you

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might cry the first time but the second round your body is so familiar to it you have actually
built up a tolerance to the pain of stubbing your toe so this next time you just went and
what's crazy is that studies show that when we cry for long periods of time our bodies
also release endogenous opioids opioids you're thinking drugs right you're like whoa so endogenous

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opioids also known as endorphins which ease both our physical and emotional pain which
is kind of crazy physical and emotional pain so crying is like a natural pain killer for
not just your body but also your emotions this is saying that a good solid cry can heighten

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your pain tolerance letting your body react in a better less painful natural way so just
ditch the drugs and grab some tissues onto the next it's also helpful to mention that
evidence shows sadness is associated with low oxytocin levels so contrary to popular

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belief crying can actually make you happier it doesn't mean that you're a sadder person
afterwards you might be ready to cry already but before you do let me tell you how you
can level up your crying the trick is to cry with a confidant someone you trust who will

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accept and affirm your emotions there's a social aspect to crying it's an outward sign
that we could use some help or comfort some say that we can even smell crying on someone
else even if we don't witness it but research shows that crying with a confidant is better
for your stress levels than crying alone and it can even boost your mood not just soothe

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it so not only are you bringing yourself back to a baseline you're feeling even better
than you did before you cried when it comes to choosing a confidant like a friend women
choose other women and men unsurprisingly also choose other women let this be encouragement

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for healthy men to actively practice being empathetic affirming confidants we'll get
into that a little later now if you're by yourself and crying I encourage you to try
to knock on your person's door or call them on the phone I will often text my people and

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ask if they're able to be cried at or hold emotions with me and other times I just FaceTime
them and one by one until someone can answer and be there with me and it feels selfish
and like you're dumping on them and it feels super uncomfortable at first but it doesn't
take a long time to recognize that that's what good friends and true confidants are

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for that's the gift of being vulnerable and sharing with people because it makes you feel
safe and heard and understood and it soothes your emotions and for someone like me who
prefers not to cry for a long time crying with my friends takes way less time to work

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through than crying by myself and remember that crying has a bonding factor that oxytocin
so even if it's uncomfortable at first it's so good for you and your relationships to
cry with someone and honestly if you can just take that as your one take away that's fine

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with me cry with people and here's a little tip if you truly don't want to talk to someone
yet set up your phone and videotape yourself or audio yourself as if you're talking to
a friend and you yourself can be that friend or it could be like a prayer up to God or

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the earth or whatever you want to talk to it helps work through those emotions but if
you just want to cry it out alone to yourself we've got some more tips for you because I
totally do that all the time just cry by myself now at this point I know some of you are
thinking I'm a guy guys shouldn't cry don't need to do that or crying shows weakness I'm

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going to do about myself or I just can't cry I don't know why it's just not me and to
start with this I would regret not touching on the subject of men and crime as taboo as
it may be biologically there may be a reason why women cry more than men testosterone a

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hormone more prevalent in men may inhibit crime the testosterone makes it harder to
cry while the hormone prolactin found in a higher levels in women may even promote it
so men have more of the hormone that makes it harder to cry and women have more of the
hormone that makes it easier to cry on average American women cry 5.3 times per month and

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men cry 1.3 times per month so if a gal is crying once a week a guy is crying maybe once
a month this can be due to the hormonal differences like we just talked about but I also think
it's fair to say that people perceive crime as a sign of weakness we think this because
crime shows that you aren't ready to fight it activates your parasympathetic nervous

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system your arrest and digest so in our species that champions strength to survive it's no
wonder why men think that they can't cry in front of others and I personally think this
connects to the fact that in America middle-aged white men hold the highest rate for suicide
and in 2021 men died by suicide almost four times more than women crazy do I think that

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crying with a confidant can single handedly solve suicide no obviously but I think that
we could move towards healthier mental states if we held a better space for men's emotions
and encourage the healthy release of them I know that was pretty heavy but it's something

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I feel passionate about is men's mental health so ladies I encourage you to just be there
for the guys and positively reinforce their emotions and I'll say this again later but
accepting emotions and affirming that it's okay to feel that way doesn't mean you are

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agreeing with the reason why they're crying so you can be there but it doesn't mean you
agree with with the exact same emotional process and men I really encourage you to think about
why you don't cry and if you've ever cried with a friend and if you have in the last
like year and adulthood how you felt after and if it was a positive experience even if

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you felt uncomfortable like if you felt like you could trust your friend more and that they
were there for you there's a lot of times where we are vulnerable and express our emotions
or even say hey you hurt me and it's met with defense or even offense and that definitely
reinforces us to be like oh I'm never gonna cry my friend again but I would just really

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encourage you and hopefully after listening to this podcast you realize that it is so
good for you and that it is something that we all want I think is to feel accepted in
our emotions and feel like we have a safe space to talk about them and it's just really
good for your health and this brings us to our next segment.
Onto spicy crying.

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The question here is crying a turn on.
Some people are wildly turned on by a partner sharing their emotions.
A lot of women are and there is a paraphilia a kink known as dacryphilia where some people
are actually aroused by tears like a cry kink and this leads me to an interesting study.

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Fitty.
If you can't tell by now I'm like very into this kind of stuff.
I don't want to just say science but I studied psychology and medicine.
I was pre-med I'm not like actually a doctor and neuropsychology and I'm getting my master's
in public health for mental health so this is like my bread and butter.

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I hope you enjoy this information too.
So the interesting study.
Men smelled vials of women's tears versus saline and the sexual arousal went significantly
down I believe they were watching like a sexual movie and so when they smelled the vial of

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saline nothing happened but when they smelled the vial of women's tears their sexual arousal
went significantly down.
So crying might not be a universal turn on but it makes sense that a reaction to sadness
wouldn't be this jacked up energy when you actually need calming comfort but I don't

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want you to forget about crying and the big O we talked about earlier oxytocin the love
drug it is still the best bonding hormone it reminds me of in failure to launch no spoilers
here but in order to get Matthew McConaughey to fall in love with Sarah Jessica Parker

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it was her second move to cry over her like dying dog it wasn't actually dying and have
him comfort her the dog lived but the crying bonding worked and I'm not saying to lie but
you can't cry and the only friends I know that don't like when guys aren't touched with

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their emotions are those who are out of touch themselves and just won't admit it so even
though it's a turn off it will bond you with the person you're with.
This part was something I was totally not expecting and ever since I learned this it

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has changed my everyday practices it's the patterns that happen when you cry they also
happen when you do a bunch of other things as well but besides shedding tears and blowing
your nose when you cry you might find yourself making certain noises kind of like you know

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the crying sounds like you're sniffling your huffing sometimes you're wailing sometimes
you're like bobbing your head like shaking it or even swaying side to side or front and
back when you're really sobbing and these repeated patterns of behavior are called
stereotypies it's not stereotypes I promise it's like stereotypies but it's spelled like

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stereotypes.
These repeated behaviors like chewing on something picking at your skin or shaking your leg are
regarded as coping responses to our emotions.
Interestingly these behaviors result from the release of opioids making it easier for
us to respond to stressful situations so if you're really wanting to cry it out try really

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crying in the same pattern if you can or shaking it out and when you take those sharp deep
breaths that brings in cold air and lowers the temperature of your brain which is more
pleasurable to your body so taking in those deep breaths really helps calm you down and

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this is also noticeable when people are just kind of anxious or if you have too much coffee
and you're anxious from that kind of like tapping your finger clicking a pen or like
bouncing your knee up and down these are all stereotypes it's releasing the opioids making
it easier for us to respond to this stressful situations so as annoying as it is you can

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recognize it in yourself as trying to get rid of this energy this antsiness and I started
kind of like wringing my hands out dancing jumping up and down but you know what's so
beautiful about these is that so many things that bring you comfort or joy whether it's
dancing singing laughing working out or engaging in repetitive physical or emotional activities

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like chanting or clapping or and I say Jai rating I don't know these are repetitive behaviors
have the similar effects it's the repeated pattern of behavior that decreases our heart
rate it decreases our stress it increases those oxytocin levels and increases our overall

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calmness it's wild so shake it out dance it out hum it out do what you can to soothe
your body through moving your body that even is moving your voice as well all of this is
to kind of bring our body back to a baseline and it's crazy that it can even bring us to

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a better state of feeling even better off than we were before you know researchers say that
crying restores our equilibrium you cry when you've gone past your sad tolerance you cry
when you're past your happy tolerance when we feel overwhelmed by our emotions whether
they're positive or negative crying helps us release those intense feelings and find

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balance once again it's like a reset button for our emotional well-being I also think
of it as like a post nut clarity but post cry clarity a little bit more accessible so for
those of you who are on antidepressants you may find it difficult to cry because antidepressants

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numb your emotions so it's not easy for you to reach the overwhelming levels where you
would cry out of sadness or happiness so whether you're not able to cry from antidepressants
or other medications or maybe you're inhibited some other way try those repetitive actions
like shaking out your hands jumping up and down letting out some big noises or repetitive

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humming to elicit a similar response in your body another tip is to heighten your senses
so that's something like holding an ice cube taking a hot bath snuggling into something
really soft laying in the sun or listening to music the things that used to bring you

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joy might not bring as much joy on the medications but continuing to do them and be mindful of
them while widen your emotional bandwidth which is healthy and I hope helpful with processing
some emotions before I wrap up I have some great questions from my lovely listeners we're

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going to do it kind of quick some people have proclivity for crying while others might
find it harder to cry or they only cry at beautiful things not you know feeling sad
and your genes hormones traumas environment and even prejudices they all contribute to
your body's openness to cry so if you're only crying at certain things it could be that

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you don't feel as comfortable or as experienced with certain emotions you could be suppressing
more than you thought and it's not necessarily a bad thing but if you are concerned or just
curious about why some emotions you know don't feel you don't feel as comfortable with them

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talking with a counselor or psychologist could really help you dig through what could be
underneath and I think psychological care is one of the best things you can ever do
for yourself and for others and it's expensive but I encourage you to be honest when asking

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yourself why you don't cry or cannot cry in certain situations it could just be the
way you are but digging a little deeper could bring massive benefit in a later episode as
well I'm going to be talking about how to find physicians including therapists and mental
health professionals with or without insurance because that's something that I have a passion

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for we do not have really accessible healthcare like this and so many people don't understand
how their insurance works it's so complicated I definitely think there's some corruption
somewhere there but look out for that later on to the next why does crying hurt my head
I definitely feel this it hurts so bad I hate it when you're crying you're tensing

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facial muscles for a prolonged period and that leads to a tension headache blood is rushing
to your face to help those muscles that you're tensing so you'll feel heavy in your head
what I've done that I think is really helpful is just keep like two spoons in the freezer

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and once you're done crying just like run them across your face or get a cheap ice roller
I love my ice roller it was like four dollars on Amazon I'll put it on the website or link
it somewhere here but that definitely helps ease the post cry pain and just as a side
note cold temperatures help with anxiety and depression like that cold air on our brain

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it's very soothing to our nervous system so even having an ice roller or spoons and just
putting them across your face will hopefully help calm down some of those overwhelming
emotions do I need to hydrate post cry session I've even thought about this too it's like
are we losing all that water so you are losing electrolytes because they're in your tears

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but it's not enough to make you unhelpfully dehydrated or just like normally dehydrated
when I didn't want to cry and kind of how to stop myself I do these two things first
as I heard of this kindergarten story where this kindergarten teacher every time someone
would cry in her class she would give them a glass of water because it would stop them

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from crying you know you have to breathe when you're drinking so you get your breathing
under control and it stops you kind of crying for a moment and she told her class you know
when you cry you need to rehydrate because you're losing all that water and so next
time someone cried in her class all these kindergartners ran to grab water and give

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them to the friend and I just think of that it's so sweet so I myself take a water bottle
with me like to my therapy sessions I'm like able to cry a little bit more now but before
I would just kind of like take little sips and then I always have water next to my bed
and so if you're trying not to cry it's a good way to kind of abate that practice of

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crying and it's great to hydrate but you don't need to hydrate here it can just help is there
a time when it's helpful to not cry or to not validate the emotions behind the reason
why you want to cry you know when when you know that you won't be received with sympathy
from someone else I would say maybe don't cry if you're not comfortable with yourself

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if you're not secure in your crying because we can definitely be more hurt than helped
if we're met with apathy or offense you know if we're like scorned for crying in front
of someone so that's what I would say maybe don't cry if you're not secure with that
if you're secure with yourself crying which I hope you get to that point I say let it

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rip but another time when you might not want to cry is like if you don't want to turn
off a male who's smelling it now I don't know if it's good to occasionally not cry to validate
your emotions but what I do think is important to share is that there's a huge difference
between validating emotions and agreeing with the reasoning behind the emotion so if someone

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is crying over their fear of corn if I'm comforting them that doesn't mean I now fear corn as
well but I don't know why I chose corn but it's important to let emotions exist outside
of logical reasoning they can be connected for sure but you're there to comfort people
on their feelings not argue if they're allowed to be feeling anything and this goes for yourself

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I do this honestly where I reason my emotions and don't sit with them and that's almost
as bad as stifling them instead of processing and getting the growth strength physical benefit
from human emotion unto the next why are tears salty it's because they contain electrolytes

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sodium potassium chloride and also oil and proteins and your emotional tears have less
sodium which is salt so that the water is moving towards your salty eyes making your
eyes puffy also your blood vessels open around your eyes and your nose and your face and

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that's what makes you puffy aside don't electrolytes give electricity to power our brain and move
our muscles and so it is good to hydrate and have those electrolytes and it's interesting
that they kind of fall out of your eyes when you're crying but they actually had this hypothesis

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that our emotional tears have more protein in them so that they fall slower down your
face giving other people more time to see that you're sad or happy and then be there
for you so see how like we're already born with all of this in us it's so amazing to

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me and again I'm just saying utilize it it's so good for you and it's so well tailored
to bring us the best in our life and in our health okay so this is the last tip I started
taking pictures of myself when I would cry it's not because I look good in fact I look

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horrible but that's not the point the point is that it instantly takes me out of the emotional
fog and it grounds me I think because it's a photo it reminds me that it's just one
moment in time not a constant state and I do think that crying makes you look a little
pretty like it spells your lips it makes your eyes glisten for sure and it adds color to

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your cheeks but trust me these photos are not giving that there's like not my eyes are
unevenly swollen and it's just I look so pitiful and so sad but it helps me stop crying honestly
and I end up feeling better it also is a way for me to go back in time and give compassion

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to myself because I see where I've been and where I am now and will I ever share those
I want to say definitely not but who knows if it will encourage people let's go maybe
we'll start a trend of no I don't think that will be a trend of like posting your crying
photos but it's definitely something that I'd say like give it a go like I mentioned

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earlier even recording yourself is a way to kind of bring yourself out of feeling the
emotion and it's more of a descriptor of the emotion my good friend shared that her therapist
says shout out to Elizabeth because I know you're listening her therapist said that when

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it's cloudy it rains which means when you have a ton of emotions and stress those are
the clouds it's your body's way of releasing those emotions you don't have to know why
it rains you just realize that it will pass and it might be inconvenient but it's vital
for our survival so remember that crying has numerous benefits from detoxifying our bodies

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and releasing cortisol to improving our mood and enhancing our social support it literally
helps increase your pain tolerance emotional and physical so it's thinking like oh you
got broken up with oh you got called a bad name I don't know who's getting called a bad
name right now but if you cry about it the next time it happens you probably won't have

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to cry as long about it or you might not cry at all crying is still so good for you but
it's it's expanding that window of tolerance which is really good because we can survive
more things and feel better and feel prepared might not be the best word but it prepares
us more to take on more of what life will inevitably throw at us and it helps us then

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be there for other people who are going through through hardship so the next time you feel
the urge to cry don't hold back just give it even a social experiment just be like
hey can I cry at you or even with yourself if you haven't cried to yourself in a while
just let it happen one time and see how you feel after and if you really don't feel good

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after ask yourself why send me a message maybe we could talk through it who knows but be
comforted knowing that your body is taking care of you in so many ways and if you ever
need a confidant to share your emotions with don't hesitate to reach out to someone you
trust in fact if you can name at least one if not three confidants to yourself right

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now I encourage you to reach out to them and thank them or just let someone know that you
are a confidant for them you can even send this last audio part just saying thank you
for being there for me and I want you to know that I am here for you let it rip cry it out
have a great life thank you for listening to my pitch on crying I wouldn't be spending

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this much time on crying if I didn't genuinely think it would benefit your life and bring
actual healing and growth my eye has healed to the point where I've been able to cry
more and each time I don't have to cry as long or as intense and I cried today but it
was happy tears but even then I wouldn't let myself cry happy tears before which is just

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such a bummer and so I've implemented it I kind of like gave it a week where I was like
okay I'll let myself cry for a week whenever it happens and it didn't ruin my life and
my eye actually got better at healing after crying and so it's brought me to a better
place and I hope it encourages you to do the same so here's to crying with confidence I'm

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Savannah Harding and I can't wait to talk with you again my second episode is going
over the things that have really helped me on my journey of getting better I'd love it
if you would listen to it thank you for hanging in for my very first episode it's been a
long time coming and honestly if I didn't have surgery in a month I don't know if I

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would be posting this right now because I'm a perfectionist procrastinator and so nervous
to post this but please give the podcast a rating the episode a rating if you have any
comments or critiques let me know I am here just to make it better and to make it helpful
and it would mean a lot if you downloaded the episode because the number of downloads

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in 24 hours of the episode helps boost the reach of the episode so more people could
hear about this and more people can get on the health train of crying so thank you again
for being here I'm really excited for the next episode and just to see where this all
goes I'll talk to you soon here's to getting better.