July 20, 2024 • 23 mins
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Entertain your Well-Being and listen to outtakes of Ginny's interview with Leah Van Dolder on self-accountability. Get a taste for what coaching is all about as Ginny opens up with listeners on nurturing her wins producing this podcast.
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Ever wondered how taking complete ownership of your actions can lead to a more fulfilling life? Join us as Leah Van Dolder, a Weight Loss Dietician, Mindset Coach, and Entrepreneur, unpacks her journey of self-accountability. Leah shares how embracing responsibility over fleeting motivation has not only fueled her passion for preventive healthcare but also driven her entrepreneurial spirit. She dives into the balancing act of nurturing her feminine side through creativity while tackling the challenges that come with personal development. Leah's insights are bound to inspire you to reclaim your energy and confidence.
Leah also explores the beauty of adopting a long-term mindset and savoring the journey rather than rushing to a finish line. Learn about the creation of Leah's "Wealth and Wellness" summit in Collingwood, Ontario. A transformative event designed to uplift and empower women. Leah opens up about her passion for physical activities like aerial silks, mountain biking, and surfing, and how these pursuits have been instrumental in building emotional resilience and character. Whether you're looking for ways to enjoy the process, overcome analysis paralysis, or find a community that supports your goals, Leah's story offers a powerful blueprint for personal growth and well-being.
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Leah Van Dolder (00:04):
I mean, it's so easy to be like, yeah, I just
need to be more accountable, butit's like why, why aren't we
showing up for ourselves?
What emotional stuff likewhat's, what's the shtick, like
what's getting in the way to me?
It's taking that ownership,that personal sense of ownership
, like that is huge in creatingthe life that you want.
(00:27):
I find a lot of power in thatradically accepting that
ownership, accountability toself.
That, to me, is very powerful,like very, very powerful.
That, to me, is very powerful,like very, very powerful.
(00:48):
That I find is more powerfulthan motivation, because
motivation is so transient.
Motivation is just one of thoseemotions that comes and goes
every day.
You can show up in a differentcapacity, right, but when you
show up, it's the energy of yourbody just saying like, all
right, I'm, I'm here, I'mshowing up for myself, I did it.
That little action, feel that.
That moves that energy throughyou.
Ginny Connon (01:12):
Are you ready to entertain your wellbeing?
Hi, I'm Ginny Connan andwelcome to Nurturing.
You just listened to the wordsand energy of weight loss
dietician, mindset coachentrepreneur Leah Vandolder.
I interviewed Leah onself-accountability and what I
learned is nurturing myaccountability put me back into
(01:32):
my mindset of victory, sweetvictory, and when you are ready
to receive, that's the beautifulcreation you could get from
Leah's coaching.
Enjoy her wisdom, her personalstory.
I'll be checking back in,sharing my process and giving
you ideas to journal.
Get ready to entertain yourwell-being on Nurturing.
Leah Van Dolder (02:00):
For me, I just knew from a young age that I
wanted to be in healthcare.
I really like the preventativeapproach in terms of, you know,
teaching people to take care ofthemselves and really empowering
them through choice.
I really like the preventativeapproach versus the treatment
(02:20):
approach.
And I think that goes back toas I was a kid.
I always wanted to be my ownboss.
I grew up in a family of a lotof entrepreneurs, like amazing
businessmen.
What I kind of took out of thatas a kid and why I wanted to be
my own boss, is because whatdoesn't fly with me is somebody
else telling me how much money Iget to earn every year, what my
(02:43):
capability is, what mypotential is.
I don't like feeling capped.
It's almost like how daresomebody else tell me what I am
capable of?
So that is like a huge drivewithin me because I feel like I
would be doing a disservice tomy maker creator if I didn't
(03:06):
live my full potential and Itruly believe in myself now.
Ginny Connon (03:25):
No one else.
That's me.
I'm unbreakable, unstoppable me.
I'm creative and I've got a lotof things to share with
everyone, shining brighter thanthe sun.
I'm me, unbreakable,unstoppable good question.
Leah Van Dolder (03:41):
Good question.
I love the creative stuff and Iyeah, I create like 90% of my
own content.
I create everything within myprogram.
I mean the creativity part ofit makes me me.
It almost it honors thatfeminine part of me because I
know that I have, like I've gota lot of male energy and like
(04:01):
male role models and stuff in mylife.
I got a lot of male energy andmale role models and stuff.
In my life.
I've got a lot of masculineenergy, but I feel like the
creative side it really honorsthat feminine side of me and I
find that it's just so freakingfun.
The creative stuff is the funstuff and I get to put my own
twist on it and I find thatthere's been a lot of healing of
myself and really knowing who Iam through that creative outlet
(04:25):
too.
Ginny Connon (04:39):
And create via us.
She created her Reclaim programto get us feeling more
energized and confident.
Every day when I listen to theReclaim podcast, it's like she's
in my kitchen sharing an easyrecipe.
She's stirring up myaccountability.
Producing this podcast Leah,allowed me time to reclaim my
(04:59):
creativity, work through mycreator again when a lot was
getting in the way.
I'm truly grateful.
Leah Van Dolder (05:07):
And that's where my accountability started
to get messy in the kitchen oflife the first thing that comes
out to me, the very firstthought, is I struggled with the
accountability when I didn'thave a direction, when I didn't
know how to get to where Iwanted to go.
So I think for me it's like Iknew that, I knew that I wanted
(05:31):
to have an online program, Iknew that I wanted to be my own
boss, but I, like, I had thevision but I didn't know where,
what step one was, and I had areally hard time being
accountable to that because,yeah, I just didn't know where
to start.
I was overwhelmed, and that iswhen I made that no-nonsense
(05:51):
decision to hire a businesscoach.
So that's what was mostchallenging for me is when, yeah
, it was tough to be accountablewhen I didn't know the steps
that I needed to take to get towhere I wanted to go Personal
development, investing in myself, investing in coaches and
(06:13):
mentors and just getting thatleadership around me.
Yeah, like I it's so funny whenyou asked Jenny, like where did
the motivation come from?
Like I don't even know, I justthink it was placed in my heart,
like I always had that biggervision.
But I feel like over the yearsit's like all right, girl, like
you're anointed to do this.
(06:34):
Like you go, you go.
The momentum has just beenamazing and there was a I
remember a feeling the one daycause one of my mindset mentors.
He asked me and he's likewhat's the rush?
What's like getting to whereyou're going?
He's like are you going to bedoing this for the rest of your
life?
He's like do you know in yourheart that you are like here on
(06:55):
this earth to like impact womenand like empower them and like
all that stuff?
I'm like, yeah.
He's like, so what's the rush?
I'm like, oh my gosh, likeyou're right.
So I've just had so much morefun in the process and I've
really learned how to surrenderthe outcome.
I'm not chasing a finish line.
It's only up from here.
Ginny Connon (07:15):
Cause there's no one else.
Imagine racing towards a finishline.
What's going through your headnow?
Imagine no finish line.
What does that do to your body?
I completely just relaxed.
Leah just helped us staycommitted to our goals by
(07:37):
regulating our pace.
That's a coaching win.
Leah Van Dolder (07:41):
I think it was, was like November-ish November
of 2023.
And like these words were kindof coming to me it's like no
holding back, like no holdingback in 2024.
And then I just had this idea.
It's like okay, leah, you'regoing to host a summit or I
didn't even know it was going tobe a summit.
I'm like girl, like you'regoing to host an event Touch
(08:02):
base with a local chick here intown.
Her name's Jess Flynn and shejust helped me kind of like
build this, this vision.
It was so interesting because,as I was in the process of
building this event and kind ofthinking like no holding back,
like I want to create this eventto help women just feel so
powerful and inspired and justto trust themselves and like
(08:25):
really put themselves out thereand, you know, just show
themselves in the world whatthey got, the coolest thing that
came out of that summit was, Irealized I'm like I created the
universe, was like put this ideain my head.
It's like you are going tocreate this thing without you
(09:01):
and realizing it, like thatevent is going to be that
transformational thing that youneeded to finally like no
holding back in terms of likesharing, like my personal stuff,
and no holding back in terms oflike truly owning what you've
done and what you've created,like really being proud of that
(09:22):
versus downplaying it.
It was so cool too, because atthe end of the summit which was
pure magic, by the way we hadabout 22 women there in the room
.
It was like intimate andamazing and like so awesome,
like high vibe, total, down toearth women.
And at the end of it I thoughtit was so ironic that I was like
(09:45):
Leah, you built this thingbecause you know it was like no
holding back, like no holdingback 2024.
But yet I still held back at thesummit, like I didn't share my
personal story.
I felt like I've kind ofguarded a lot about myself.
So I'm really glad that we'redoing this interview because
(10:07):
it's helping me just chat aboutthis stuff out loud, because I
feel like I've downplayed a lotof what I've been able to
accomplish, instead of steppinginto that ownership and saying
like, like you're the one that'screated this life, like you are
the one that has put in all thework, all the effort have been
like so diligent and devoted tothe bigger vision over time.
(10:31):
So I'm stepping into that spacewhere I'm totally owning, like
what I have created.
Instead of downplaying and likekind of pushing it off and not
really talking about talkingabout it, want to take a trip to
the wild side.
Want to learn how to be brave.
(10:53):
Take what's mine.
Ginny Connon (10:57):
Want to learn about what's on the inside.
No holding back.
That felt good.
What words are coming to youright now?
Say them out loud.
I heard them.
So the summit Leah created iscalled Wealth and Wellness, and
her vision brought togetherlike-minded women who shared
(11:20):
their expertise, celebratedlittle victories, big victories
and nurtured the seeds for morevictories to come.
Now I just summed up a lot ofwork in a few sentences, so
listen in as you get some adviceon how Leah took her vision
into creation and held herselfaccountable.
Leah Van Dolder (11:46):
Yeah, I like the decisions, the
self-discipline, I kind of liketo call it self, the devotion
For me.
I find what is the biggestchallenge in the self
accountability or actuallyfollowing through on stuff is
thinking too much about it.
Analysis, paralysis is what Icall it.
So if I am, if I have a task athand and I find myself thinking
(12:11):
about it, I'm like, oh girl,you are screwing yourself so
hard right now.
So I'm like, don't even thinkabout it, just do it.
Because once I started thinkingabout it, then it's like I
start to rationalize and tellmyself that I can do it later.
Or, you know, maybe I shouldfit this in my schedule, like at
a different time.
It's just like I haveconversations with myself all
(12:33):
the time.
It's like, leah, don't eventhink about it, just fricking,
do it, just do it.
So that's a big one that I'velearned to master over time.
I mean, I still have my days.
Like there's still an emailthat you know I haven't done
over the last 24 hours, but likeI've been thinking about it.
So after this, I'm not going tothink about it, I'm just going
(12:53):
to hammer it out.
It's like almost not evengiving yourself the choice.
It's like, am I going to dothis today, am I not?
Because once we start hummingand hawing about something, then
, yeah, we start to talkourselves out of it, and I think
that's what so many of us andlike me personally, I get really
frustrated with myself when Istart to second guess and hum
(13:17):
and haw and like talk myself outof things.
It's like, oh my gosh, likethat mental capacity alone, like
I just think to myself I'm likeyou wouldn't be dealing with
all this mental like angst andjust that taxing energy If you
just did the stuff versusthinking about it.
That's a big one for me.
(13:37):
Self-accountability to me meansyou do what you say you're
going to do.
I really value that integritybecause I think that's something
that our world is losing.
Our word doesn't mean muchanymore, and to me it does.
When I say I'm going to dosomething, when I get an idea
(13:58):
about something and I trulybelieve, too, that any idea that
is placed in my head, like itis so meant for me and I follow
through quickly.
That's what I've learned how todo follow through quickly on
stuff.
If I could go back to my, youknow, to three years ago, I
(14:18):
would just put my hands on myown shoulder and be like girl,
like you know, you're in thisfor the long haul.
You're exactly where you'resupposed to be.
You do not have to do all ofthis stuff today because this is
your long term path term hasand that confirmation, I feel,
(14:42):
is huge.
And like reminding yourself ofthe things that you feel you're
lacking, like if you feel likeyou don't have enough time in a
day to get things done, or youfeel like, oh my gosh, I'm never
going to get all of thiscompleted, I like to remind
myself that it's like, leah, youhave the time to do this.
Leah, you have the knowledge todo this.
You know, leah, this is not agame about your capabilities or
(15:06):
your smarts, you know, or yourknow-how.
Like this is like you get tobuild that emotional resilience
here and like this is the likeit's part of the game.
You're exactly where you'resupposed to be.
Don't rush and everything willfall into place as it should
long-term.
(15:27):
I actually realized that a lotabout myself, like, ever since I
was little, I had this uh, likelong-term mentality.
You know, building a businessor you, you know tackling any
vision of yours.
Like it's not a quick, you knowit's not a like instant
gratification.
It's uh, yeah, it's.
It can be a tough space to livein.
(15:48):
Is the instant gratification,it's these things that you have
these bigger visions, like it'slong-term game and it requires a
different headspace, adifferent mindset to be in.
It's the patience.
It's the patience and the grace.
You know, the self-grace ishuge.
(16:09):
I've been waiting for just theright time.
Now I'm ready to change how itfeels, like I'm ready to play
the game Adrenaline or I can'tbe tamed.
Ginny Connon (16:39):
Okay, I made a big mental note here If I don't
follow through quickly and Istill follow through, that's
nurturing my wins.
Just follow through quickernext time.
Breathing in self-compassion,exhaling patience, Ah.
Leah Van Dolder (17:03):
I heard like I totally hear you on that.
Yeah, cause, anytime that I'mlike hitting a wall or I'm like
having a roadblock or something,or it's kind of like getting
out of the victim, it's like, oh, why is this happening to me?
I, I'm I now say it's like, whyis this happening for me?
Right, even the accountabilitypiece is the accountability
piece in that it's like makingit more of a positive yeah.
(17:28):
It's like, hey, this isn'thappening to me.
This whole experience,circumstance, is happening for
me because there's a lesson hereor, you know, there's something
that I got to work on over herebefore I get to the next thing.
So, yeah, I take thoseroadblocks as a sign from a
greater power that there'ssomething that's got to be
(17:50):
learned over here before we getyou up here.
For me, what's been reallyhelpful with that self
accountability is surroundingmyself with people that are
doing what I want to be doing,because I think it's really
powerful to see people and saylike, damn, like, if she can do
(18:13):
it, so can I.
I feel like that's reallyhelped.
My own accountability becauseit so I don't even like the word
inspiring, but empowering.
It's very empowering to see,you know, a woman just totally
own what she's got and likegoing for what she wants.
I surround myself with peoplethat you know I can say like,
(18:35):
wow, she did it.
So can I.
She created the life that shewanted for herself.
You know they're looking forsome direction.
They need some direction, theyneed some guidance, some action
steps to help them where they'regoing.
So that's really helpful withthe accountability piece is
knowing you know what to do on aday.
It's like your non negotiables,right, your non negotiables.
(18:56):
What are you being intentionalabout today?
And having space to actuallyreflect, reflect and see what's
actually going on.
What is what's getting in theway of you showing up for
yourself?
What are those things that makeit easier for you to show up
(19:16):
for yourself?
So kind of like pulling backthe layers.
Ginny Connon (19:35):
Pulling back the layers, pulling back the layers
of silk, and that's anotherthing.
Leah coaches balance ofresponsibility and having fun.
I asked Leah what she does forfun and I'm excited to share
with you what she's doing next.
Leah Van Dolder (20:01):
I love.
I love physical things.
Um, I'm part of the circus herein Collingwood and I love
aerial silks.
So I told you I grew up doingfigure skating and I find that
aerial silks is a beautiful,like creative way, uh, to just
like just go have some fun.
Go have some fun in the air andalso like scare yourself a
little bit with these drops andbackflips and all that stuff,
but uh, so that's one of them,uh, or mountain biking I really
(20:24):
enjoy mountain biking and again,it's like you're doing an
activity that like totally takesyour mind off of anything else
because you have to like superfocus in on, like, where your
body is, your placement.
Uh, so that's a big one too.
And surfing surfing's anotherone.
And I feel like thoseactivities have helped me
(20:46):
massively with building thatemotional resistance.
And again, it's like thelong-term game, like those
things are challenging and it'slike it builds that emotional,
the character.
That's what it is.
It's like character buildingbecause you know you're not
(21:06):
going to hit a wave, like onyour first try.
Like silks, I've been doing itfor three years.
Ginny Connon (21:25):
You know it's like long-term game, but yeah,
that's what I do for fun, andthat's exactly what Leah has
planned next.
She's going to take you on atrip to the circus At her next
event Rebel.
You're going to allow yourselfto try something new and hang
from silks Release yourexpectations.
(21:48):
And then she's taking you tolunch where you're going to get
a deeper connection to food andnutritional strategies from the
expert.
Even with that full schedule,visit my show notes for all
Leah's information and her nextonline events as well.
Leah Van Dolder (22:08):
Being surrounded with people that have
the grit and grace to be wherethey're at but also want to
truly live their full potentialand know in their heart that
they've got you know like theywant to expand.
So I'm not chasing the finishline, I am having a total time,
(22:34):
a total blast, like in the messy, like middle.
You know, I've learned how tofall in love with the process of
just being and serving.
Truly loving, loving, wearingthem it's all that inner stuff.
(22:55):
It's all that inner stuff?
Yeah, totally, it's naturalaccountability, grit and grace.
Ginny Connon (23:03):
Thank you, leah Van Dolder, and thank you for
entertaining your well-being andnurturing your sweet victory.
I'm Ginny Connery and this isNurturing.
I mean, it's so easy to be like, yeah, I just
need to be more accountable, butit's like why, why aren't we
showing up for ourselves?
What emotional stuff likewhat's, what's the shtick, like
what's getting in the way to me?
It's taking that ownership,that personal sense of ownership
, like that is huge in creatingthe life that you want.
(00:27):
I find a lot of power in thatradically accepting that
ownership, accountability toself.
That, to me, is very powerful,like very, very powerful.
That, to me, is very powerful,like very, very powerful.
(00:48):
That I find is more powerfulthan motivation, because
motivation is so transient.
Motivation is just one of thoseemotions that comes and goes
every day.
You can show up in a differentcapacity, right, but when you
show up, it's the energy of yourbody just saying like, all
right, I'm, I'm here, I'mshowing up for myself, I did it.
That little action, feel that.
That moves that energy throughyou.
Ginny Connon (01:12):
Are you ready to entertain your wellbeing?
Hi, I'm Ginny Connan andwelcome to Nurturing.
You just listened to the wordsand energy of weight loss
dietician, mindset coachentrepreneur Leah Vandolder.
I interviewed Leah onself-accountability and what I
learned is nurturing myaccountability put me back into
(01:32):
my mindset of victory, sweetvictory, and when you are ready
to receive, that's the beautifulcreation you could get from
Leah's coaching.
Enjoy her wisdom, her personalstory.
I'll be checking back in,sharing my process and giving
you ideas to journal.
Get ready to entertain yourwell-being on Nurturing.
Leah Van Dolder (02:00):
For me, I just knew from a young age that I
wanted to be in healthcare.
I really like the preventativeapproach in terms of, you know,
teaching people to take care ofthemselves and really empowering
them through choice.
I really like the preventativeapproach versus the treatment
(02:20):
approach.
And I think that goes back toas I was a kid.
I always wanted to be my ownboss.
I grew up in a family of a lotof entrepreneurs, like amazing
businessmen.
What I kind of took out of thatas a kid and why I wanted to be
my own boss, is because whatdoesn't fly with me is somebody
else telling me how much money Iget to earn every year, what my
(02:43):
capability is, what mypotential is.
I don't like feeling capped.
It's almost like how daresomebody else tell me what I am
capable of?
So that is like a huge drivewithin me because I feel like I
would be doing a disservice tomy maker creator if I didn't
(03:06):
live my full potential and Itruly believe in myself now.
Ginny Connon (03:25):
No one else.
That's me.
I'm unbreakable, unstoppable me.
I'm creative and I've got a lotof things to share with
everyone, shining brighter thanthe sun.
I'm me, unbreakable,unstoppable good question.
Leah Van Dolder (03:41):
Good question.
I love the creative stuff and Iyeah, I create like 90% of my
own content.
I create everything within myprogram.
I mean the creativity part ofit makes me me.
It almost it honors thatfeminine part of me because I
know that I have, like I've gota lot of male energy and like
(04:01):
male role models and stuff in mylife.
I got a lot of male energy andmale role models and stuff.
In my life.
I've got a lot of masculineenergy, but I feel like the
creative side it really honorsthat feminine side of me and I
find that it's just so freakingfun.
The creative stuff is the funstuff and I get to put my own
twist on it and I find thatthere's been a lot of healing of
myself and really knowing who Iam through that creative outlet
(04:25):
too.
Ginny Connon (04:39):
And create via us.
She created her Reclaim programto get us feeling more
energized and confident.
Every day when I listen to theReclaim podcast, it's like she's
in my kitchen sharing an easyrecipe.
She's stirring up myaccountability.
Producing this podcast Leah,allowed me time to reclaim my
(04:59):
creativity, work through mycreator again when a lot was
getting in the way.
I'm truly grateful.
Leah Van Dolder (05:07):
And that's where my accountability started
to get messy in the kitchen oflife the first thing that comes
out to me, the very firstthought, is I struggled with the
accountability when I didn'thave a direction, when I didn't
know how to get to where Iwanted to go.
So I think for me it's like Iknew that, I knew that I wanted
(05:31):
to have an online program, Iknew that I wanted to be my own
boss, but I, like, I had thevision but I didn't know where,
what step one was, and I had areally hard time being
accountable to that because,yeah, I just didn't know where
to start.
I was overwhelmed, and that iswhen I made that no-nonsense
(05:51):
decision to hire a businesscoach.
So that's what was mostchallenging for me is when, yeah
, it was tough to be accountablewhen I didn't know the steps
that I needed to take to get towhere I wanted to go Personal
development, investing in myself, investing in coaches and
(06:13):
mentors and just getting thatleadership around me.
Yeah, like I it's so funny whenyou asked Jenny, like where did
the motivation come from?
Like I don't even know, I justthink it was placed in my heart,
like I always had that biggervision.
But I feel like over the yearsit's like all right, girl, like
you're anointed to do this.
(06:34):
Like you go, you go.
The momentum has just beenamazing and there was a I
remember a feeling the one daycause one of my mindset mentors.
He asked me and he's likewhat's the rush?
What's like getting to whereyou're going?
He's like are you going to bedoing this for the rest of your
life?
He's like do you know in yourheart that you are like here on
(06:55):
this earth to like impact womenand like empower them and like
all that stuff?
I'm like, yeah.
He's like, so what's the rush?
I'm like, oh my gosh, likeyou're right.
So I've just had so much morefun in the process and I've
really learned how to surrenderthe outcome.
I'm not chasing a finish line.
It's only up from here.
Ginny Connon (07:15):
Cause there's no one else.
Imagine racing towards a finishline.
What's going through your headnow?
Imagine no finish line.
What does that do to your body?
I completely just relaxed.
Leah just helped us staycommitted to our goals by
(07:37):
regulating our pace.
That's a coaching win.
Leah Van Dolder (07:41):
I think it was, was like November-ish November
of 2023.
And like these words were kindof coming to me it's like no
holding back, like no holdingback in 2024.
And then I just had this idea.
It's like okay, leah, you'regoing to host a summit or I
didn't even know it was going tobe a summit.
I'm like girl, like you'regoing to host an event Touch
(08:02):
base with a local chick here intown.
Her name's Jess Flynn and shejust helped me kind of like
build this, this vision.
It was so interesting because,as I was in the process of
building this event and kind ofthinking like no holding back,
like I want to create this eventto help women just feel so
powerful and inspired and justto trust themselves and like
(08:25):
really put themselves out thereand, you know, just show
themselves in the world whatthey got, the coolest thing that
came out of that summit was, Irealized I'm like I created the
universe, was like put this ideain my head.
It's like you are going tocreate this thing without you
(09:01):
and realizing it, like thatevent is going to be that
transformational thing that youneeded to finally like no
holding back in terms of likesharing, like my personal stuff,
and no holding back in terms oflike truly owning what you've
done and what you've created,like really being proud of that
(09:22):
versus downplaying it.
It was so cool too, because atthe end of the summit which was
pure magic, by the way we hadabout 22 women there in the room
.
It was like intimate andamazing and like so awesome,
like high vibe, total, down toearth women.
And at the end of it I thoughtit was so ironic that I was like
(09:45):
Leah, you built this thingbecause you know it was like no
holding back, like no holdingback 2024.
But yet I still held back at thesummit, like I didn't share my
personal story.
I felt like I've kind ofguarded a lot about myself.
So I'm really glad that we'redoing this interview because
(10:07):
it's helping me just chat aboutthis stuff out loud, because I
feel like I've downplayed a lotof what I've been able to
accomplish, instead of steppinginto that ownership and saying
like, like you're the one that'screated this life, like you are
the one that has put in all thework, all the effort have been
like so diligent and devoted tothe bigger vision over time.
(10:31):
So I'm stepping into that spacewhere I'm totally owning, like
what I have created.
Instead of downplaying and likekind of pushing it off and not
really talking about talkingabout it, want to take a trip to
the wild side.
Want to learn how to be brave.
(10:53):
Take what's mine.
Ginny Connon (10:57):
Want to learn about what's on the inside.
No holding back.
That felt good.
What words are coming to youright now?
Say them out loud.
I heard them.
So the summit Leah created iscalled Wealth and Wellness, and
her vision brought togetherlike-minded women who shared
(11:20):
their expertise, celebratedlittle victories, big victories
and nurtured the seeds for morevictories to come.
Now I just summed up a lot ofwork in a few sentences, so
listen in as you get some adviceon how Leah took her vision
into creation and held herselfaccountable.
Leah Van Dolder (11:46):
Yeah, I like the decisions, the
self-discipline, I kind of liketo call it self, the devotion
For me.
I find what is the biggestchallenge in the self
accountability or actuallyfollowing through on stuff is
thinking too much about it.
Analysis, paralysis is what Icall it.
So if I am, if I have a task athand and I find myself thinking
(12:11):
about it, I'm like, oh girl,you are screwing yourself so
hard right now.
So I'm like, don't even thinkabout it, just do it.
Because once I started thinkingabout it, then it's like I
start to rationalize and tellmyself that I can do it later.
Or, you know, maybe I shouldfit this in my schedule, like at
a different time.
It's just like I haveconversations with myself all
(12:33):
the time.
It's like, leah, don't eventhink about it, just fricking,
do it, just do it.
So that's a big one that I'velearned to master over time.
I mean, I still have my days.
Like there's still an emailthat you know I haven't done
over the last 24 hours, but likeI've been thinking about it.
So after this, I'm not going tothink about it, I'm just going
(12:53):
to hammer it out.
It's like almost not evengiving yourself the choice.
It's like, am I going to dothis today, am I not?
Because once we start hummingand hawing about something, then
, yeah, we start to talkourselves out of it, and I think
that's what so many of us andlike me personally, I get really
frustrated with myself when Istart to second guess and hum
(13:17):
and haw and like talk myself outof things.
It's like, oh my gosh, likethat mental capacity alone, like
I just think to myself I'm likeyou wouldn't be dealing with
all this mental like angst andjust that taxing energy If you
just did the stuff versusthinking about it.
That's a big one for me.
(13:37):
Self-accountability to me meansyou do what you say you're
going to do.
I really value that integritybecause I think that's something
that our world is losing.
Our word doesn't mean muchanymore, and to me it does.
When I say I'm going to dosomething, when I get an idea
(13:58):
about something and I trulybelieve, too, that any idea that
is placed in my head, like itis so meant for me and I follow
through quickly.
That's what I've learned how todo follow through quickly on
stuff.
If I could go back to my, youknow, to three years ago, I
(14:18):
would just put my hands on myown shoulder and be like girl,
like you know, you're in thisfor the long haul.
You're exactly where you'resupposed to be.
You do not have to do all ofthis stuff today because this is
your long term path term hasand that confirmation, I feel,
(14:42):
is huge.
And like reminding yourself ofthe things that you feel you're
lacking, like if you feel likeyou don't have enough time in a
day to get things done, or youfeel like, oh my gosh, I'm never
going to get all of thiscompleted, I like to remind
myself that it's like, leah, youhave the time to do this.
Leah, you have the knowledge todo this.
You know, leah, this is not agame about your capabilities or
(15:06):
your smarts, you know, or yourknow-how.
Like this is like you get tobuild that emotional resilience
here and like this is the likeit's part of the game.
You're exactly where you'resupposed to be.
Don't rush and everything willfall into place as it should
long-term.
(15:27):
I actually realized that a lotabout myself, like, ever since I
was little, I had this uh, likelong-term mentality.
You know, building a businessor you, you know tackling any
vision of yours.
Like it's not a quick, you knowit's not a like instant
gratification.
It's uh, yeah, it's.
It can be a tough space to livein.
(15:48):
Is the instant gratification,it's these things that you have
these bigger visions, like it'slong-term game and it requires a
different headspace, adifferent mindset to be in.
It's the patience.
It's the patience and the grace.
You know, the self-grace ishuge.
(16:09):
I've been waiting for just theright time.
Now I'm ready to change how itfeels, like I'm ready to play
the game Adrenaline or I can'tbe tamed.
Ginny Connon (16:39):
Okay, I made a big mental note here If I don't
follow through quickly and Istill follow through, that's
nurturing my wins.
Just follow through quickernext time.
Breathing in self-compassion,exhaling patience, Ah.
Leah Van Dolder (17:03):
I heard like I totally hear you on that.
Yeah, cause, anytime that I'mlike hitting a wall or I'm like
having a roadblock or something,or it's kind of like getting
out of the victim, it's like, oh, why is this happening to me?
I, I'm I now say it's like, whyis this happening for me?
Right, even the accountabilitypiece is the accountability
piece in that it's like makingit more of a positive yeah.
(17:28):
It's like, hey, this isn'thappening to me.
This whole experience,circumstance, is happening for
me because there's a lesson hereor, you know, there's something
that I got to work on over herebefore I get to the next thing.
So, yeah, I take thoseroadblocks as a sign from a
greater power that there'ssomething that's got to be
(17:50):
learned over here before we getyou up here.
For me, what's been reallyhelpful with that self
accountability is surroundingmyself with people that are
doing what I want to be doing,because I think it's really
powerful to see people and saylike, damn, like, if she can do
(18:13):
it, so can I.
I feel like that's reallyhelped.
My own accountability becauseit so I don't even like the word
inspiring, but empowering.
It's very empowering to see,you know, a woman just totally
own what she's got and likegoing for what she wants.
I surround myself with peoplethat you know I can say like,
(18:35):
wow, she did it.
So can I.
She created the life that shewanted for herself.
You know they're looking forsome direction.
They need some direction, theyneed some guidance, some action
steps to help them where they'regoing.
So that's really helpful withthe accountability piece is
knowing you know what to do on aday.
It's like your non negotiables,right, your non negotiables.
(18:56):
What are you being intentionalabout today?
And having space to actuallyreflect, reflect and see what's
actually going on.
What is what's getting in theway of you showing up for
yourself?
What are those things that makeit easier for you to show up
(19:16):
for yourself?
So kind of like pulling backthe layers.
Ginny Connon (19:35):
Pulling back the layers, pulling back the layers
of silk, and that's anotherthing.
Leah coaches balance ofresponsibility and having fun.
I asked Leah what she does forfun and I'm excited to share
with you what she's doing next.
Leah Van Dolder (20:01):
I love.
I love physical things.
Um, I'm part of the circus herein Collingwood and I love
aerial silks.
So I told you I grew up doingfigure skating and I find that
aerial silks is a beautiful,like creative way, uh, to just
like just go have some fun.
Go have some fun in the air andalso like scare yourself a
little bit with these drops andbackflips and all that stuff,
but uh, so that's one of them,uh, or mountain biking I really
(20:24):
enjoy mountain biking and again,it's like you're doing an
activity that like totally takesyour mind off of anything else
because you have to like superfocus in on, like, where your
body is, your placement.
Uh, so that's a big one too.
And surfing surfing's anotherone.
And I feel like thoseactivities have helped me
(20:46):
massively with building thatemotional resistance.
And again, it's like thelong-term game, like those
things are challenging and it'slike it builds that emotional,
the character.
That's what it is.
It's like character buildingbecause you know you're not
(21:06):
going to hit a wave, like onyour first try.
Like silks, I've been doing itfor three years.
Ginny Connon (21:25):
You know it's like long-term game, but yeah,
that's what I do for fun, andthat's exactly what Leah has
planned next.
She's going to take you on atrip to the circus At her next
event Rebel.
You're going to allow yourselfto try something new and hang
from silks Release yourexpectations.
(21:48):
And then she's taking you tolunch where you're going to get
a deeper connection to food andnutritional strategies from the
expert.
Even with that full schedule,visit my show notes for all
Leah's information and her nextonline events as well.
Leah Van Dolder (22:08):
Being surrounded with people that have
the grit and grace to be wherethey're at but also want to
truly live their full potentialand know in their heart that
they've got you know like theywant to expand.
So I'm not chasing the finishline, I am having a total time,
(22:34):
a total blast, like in the messy, like middle.
You know, I've learned how tofall in love with the process of
just being and serving.
Truly loving, loving, wearingthem it's all that inner stuff.
(22:55):
It's all that inner stuff?
Yeah, totally, it's naturalaccountability, grit and grace.
Ginny Connon (23:03):
Thank you, leah Van Dolder, and thank you for
entertaining your well-being andnurturing your sweet victory.
I'm Ginny Connery and this isNurturing.
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