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SPEAKER_00 (00:01):
Hi, I'm Nicole and
you're listening to Glow Wild.
Hey everyone, welcome back toGlow Wild.
I'm Nicole and this is thepodcast where we don't fake
fine, we don't chase perfection,and we definitely don't
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apologize for needing a momentto breathe, cry, rage, rest, or
all of the above.
Today's episode is deeplypersonal.
I mean, aren't they all?
But this one comes straight froma raw, messy situation I walked
through the past couple weeks.
I had a little bit of a menteebee or a mental breakdown about
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a week ago, and that's becausemy eldest daughter Reese came
down with pneumonia and But itwasn't the pneumonia that
triggered me.
It was during her scans that thedoctors found a soft tissue mass
on her trachea.
Now, for anyone, that'sterrifying.
But if you know me and you knowmy story, you know that my
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younger daughter, Parker, hasalready gone through stage four
cancer.
We've seen the hospital rooms.
We've been there.
I have had that fear and it allcame rushing back.
So when I heard the word mass, Iwasn't just scared.
I started to spiral.
My nervous system rememberedeverything all of a sudden.
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It was the most wild experience.
I remember the waiting rooms,the worry, the white-knuckled
hope, and it all came rushingback, and I felt sick, and I
started to cry, which I hadn'tdone since Parker had been
diagnosed.
I had held strong for over twoyears.
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And it all came down on me likea pile of bricks.
And the strength that I thoughtI had curated or created
suddenly cracked.
And I realized something.
I'm not above breaking down andnone of us are.
And that brings me to thisepisode.
Because in that moment, theperson that came to mind wasn't
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a motivational speaker or aself-help guru.
It was with Simone Biles, and weall know and love her, and we're
all so proud of what she diddespite all the controversy it
caused.
She is the greatest gymnast ofall time, not because she won
gold medals, but because she hadthe audacity to say, I'm not
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okay, and I need to protect mypeace.
Today, we're diving into whatmade that moment so
revolutionary and why, moreimportantly, you can learn from
it.
I'm not just telling her story.
I'm handing you her experience.
toolkit, the one she used.
It's packed with six tools youcan use to protect your mind,
body, and spirit, especiallywhen life feels upside down.
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So if you're tired ofpretending, performing, and
powering through, this episode'sfor you.
You're right where you're meantto be, so let's dive in.
The moment that shocked theworld, it was Tokyo 2020.
Everyone was watching.
The world was watching.
Simone Biles, expected todominate, steps up to compete
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and then steps away.
She pulls out voluntarily.
The reason?
The twisties.
It's not just a cute nickname.
It's not cute at all, in fact.
It's a terrifying, dangerousmental block where your body and
brain disconnect midair.
Imagine flipping through the airand suddenly forgetting where
you are.
It's not just scary.
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It can be deadly.
Simone chose not to pushthrough.
She didn't sacrifice her safetyfor all the expectations on her.
She said, I'm not okay.
I need to take care of my mentalhealth.
It completely shocked the worldand started a global
conversation about what itreally means to be strong.
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Simone wasn't just carrying herOlympic dreams.
She was carrying with her thelegacy of survivors, the weight
of her country, the expectationsof an entire world watching.
You and I may not have all ofthose expectations on us, but we
do have things in our life thatfeel familiar.
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We're not on a balance beam, butI bet we've all felt that
pressure to perform, to beperfect, productive, to not mess
up, and that rest is weak.
This is where we bring in toolnumber one.
Do a self-check-in.
Do it every day.
Maybe do it at the beginning ofyour week.
Do it as you wake up.
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Think of it as your inner GPS.
I want you to ask yourself everysingle day, how am I really
doing?
Not how should I be feeling orwhat do they need from me or
what should I be doing rightnow?
I want you to just ask, what isgoing on with me?
I want you to really ruminate onit and think about how you're
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feeling right Because after Iwas triggered by this mass on
Reese's trachea and all thefeelings of Parker's cancer
journey came rushing back, I gotsick.
I got really sick and it forcedme to be in bed for two days.
I could barely get up to go tothe bathroom.
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I felt so wiped out.
And that was my body's way ofsaying, it's okay to rest.
You're not weak.
You're human.
We've been taught that realstrength means pushing through,
hustling harder, and ignoringthat pain or that exhaustion.
Simone said, nope.
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She showed us that sometimesstrength means saying, I love
myself enough to know when it'stime to stop.
So tool number two is I want youto reframe the idea of quitting
as strategic rest.
She didn't quit.
She hit pause.
She chose herself over the crowdand the expectations, and then
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she came back on her owntimeline, not the world's.
I want you to ask yourself,where am I grinding through
something that's draining me?
And where do I need to pull backand not just push forward?
Rest isn't weakness, it's yourcomeback fuel.
Simone got help.
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She didn't muscle through italone.
She worked with professionalsand she normalized therapy for
the entire world.
And thank God she did.
Let me say it loud.
Therapy is a tool.
It's not a punishment.
It's not a last resort.
Not for crazy people.
And it's not something youshould whisper about.
It's a resource for your mind.
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So tool number three, get theright support.
If you're struggling, talk tosomeone.
It doesn't have to be atherapist.
It could be a coach, a group.
or a really good friend.
Let yourself be seen.
I want to add that when I wasgoing through my struggles with
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my own health issues beforeParker's cancer, I learned
something very valuable thatit's okay to not be okay.
But you want people in yourcorner that actually understand
that and believe that.
And the people that I thoughtwould be there for me weren't.
And strangers were there for me.
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And I learned a lot about thatsaying because I see it posted
everywhere.
It's okay to not be okay.
But you really need to know thatand the people that you're
around or that you surroundyourself with, they need to also
really live up to that abilityto be there for you.
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When you're talking to someone,Just tell them you don't need
advice or solutions.
You just want to be heard.
You don't have to do it alone.
So your inner circle, like wejust talked about, shapes your
sanity.
Simone credits her ability tostep away with the strength of
her inner circle, her family,her teammates, her therapists,
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and her coaches.
Who is in your circle right now?
Are they lifting you up orwearing you down?
Tool number four is I want youto audit your inner circle.
Ask yourself, who makes me feelsafe to be the real me?
Who honors my boundaries?
And I want you to ask, whodrains my energy every time I'm
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with them?
It isn't about cutting peopleoff.
It's about protecting your ownpeace.
You don't owe access to peoplewho dim your light.
I want you to design your ownhealing plan because it's
different for everyone.
Simone said it best.
Everyone's mental health journeyis different.
There is no one size fits alland thank God for that.
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So tool number five is buildyour personal power plan.
Take out a piece of paper and dothis.
List five things that actuallyhelp you feel more like
yourself.
List five things that triggeryou.
Pick one small habit to try thisweek.
So for a personal example, acouple of things that help me
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feel more like myself for movingmy body, which I haven't been
able to do for a couple of weekswith reset of school, with
pneumonia, dealing with my ownexhaustion and my own triggers.
So health scares really triggerme.
I learned that this week.
And that's a trigger.
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So that's on to number two islist five things that trigger
you.
And then the small habit I'mgoing to pick up this week is
Getting back into my normalmorning routine where I wake up
early, I move my body right offthe bat.
You better know it.
Right after this episode, I amgetting my body to move because
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I feel completely lost rightnow, like not myself.
And I know that moving my bodywill shift my state of mind and
kind of bring me back to myself.
Remember that small wins becomebig shifts.
When Simone stepped back, peoplecalled her weak and a quitter.
But what she really did wasredefine bravery.
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Because real courage is beingable to say, I can't do it
today.
And that's okay.
So tool number six is that youneed to be both soft and strong.
You can cry and still bepowerful.
And man, I learned that thisweek.
You can rest and still bedriven.
I felt like I lost all my drivein two days of being in bed.
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And that is sad.
That is just our cultureinstilling in us that you need
to go, go, go, go, go and nevertake any rest.
I will say it takes a lot ofwork to build a business and
start a podcast and geteverything done with the family,
but we do need our rest.
You can say not today and stillbe a leader.
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This vulnerability is not aliability.
It's your strength and itcreates motion.
Let's stick the landing likeSimone taught us.
Here's your recap.
I want you to do some selfcheck-ins.
I want you to know that quittingdoes not equal failure, but
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strategic rest.
And that therapy is wisdom andnot weakness.
Your inner circle is your energyfield.
And your healing is your ownpersonal formula.
And courage is choosing honestyover hustle.
You don't need the world'spermission to take care of your
mind.
You need your own.
Here it is for today.
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You're not lazy.
You're not done.
You're just human.
And you're doing your best.
And that's more than enough.
Thank you for being here with metoday.
This episode hit home in someway.
I would love if you shared it tosomeone who needs to hear it.
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rate and review and hitsubscribe.
But more than anything, takecare of you and take care of
your mind and your body.
Protect your peace becausethat's all we have.
You don't have to glow for theworld.
You just need to glow wild foryourself.
I'll talk to you guys next time.