Etched in Stone: The Art of Remembering

In this episode, Mike O’Connell joins Pete Waggoner for a deeply insightful conversation about monuments. 

They explore why headstones matter, how design choices tell a story, and what most families don’t know about the planning process. From costs to colors, Mike shares decades of wisdom to help you approach monument decisions with care and creativity.

Whether you’re preplanning or honoring a loved one, this episode will help you understand the value behind these lasting tributes—and how to avoid common mistakes.

Episode Highlights (Timestamps):

• [00:01:00] Why cemeteries are peaceful places for reflection

• [00:02:00] Partnering with Melgard Monument for creative, affordable designs

• [00:04:00] Understanding size limitations, layouts, and regulations

• [00:06:00] Granite types, color families, and weather durability

• [00:08:00] Rules about markers vs. upright monuments

• [00:10:00] One cost includes installation, engraving, delivery, and more

• [00:11:00] Companion vs. single monuments and modern trends

• [00:13:00] Clip art, symbols, etchings, and personalizing a monument

• [00:16:00] The permanence of engraving—and how to avoid errors

• [00:22:00] Polished finishes, contracts, and sign-offs

• [00:26:00] Flower vases, solar lights, and weather risks

• [00:28:00] Cleaning and caring for your monument (toilet bowl cleaner, really!)

• [00:30:00] Resetting and cemetery liability

Takeaways:

• Monument design is an extension of storytelling—your legacy in stone.
  

• One size doesn’t fit all. Style, size, and cemetery rules matter.
  

• Mistakes in engraving are permanent—always double-check before signing.
  

• Trust funds and prepaying can simplify everything for your family.
  

• Adding personal artwork, quotes, or symbols captures who someone really was.
  

Memorable Quotes from Mike O’Connell:

• “If it can be drawn, it can be blasted.”

• “You bought it. It’s yours. The care and cleaning of the monument belongs to the family.”

• “We’re not just marking a grave, we’re honoring a life.”