Why Mess Feels So Triggering

Why does a messy house feel so overwhelming? In this episode, Dr. Becky unpacks the deeper emotional roots behind why physical clutter—like the laundry pile or the half-unpacked suitcase—can feel like a personal failure instead of just “stuff.” She explores how mess stirs feelings of chaos, shame, and “not enoughness,” especially for parents carrying the invisible mental load.

You’ll hear why mess taps into childhood messages, cultural myths around “good moms,” and our very real need for control and completion. Plus: practical tools for separating self-worth from clutter, listener questions, and a powerful reminder—you are not your mess.

If you've ever felt like the state of your home says something about you, this episode is for you.

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