Narcissistic abuse is a type of emotional abuse where the abuser only cares about themselves and may use words and actions to manipulate the behavior of others and their emotional state. Most of the information online is about Narcissistic abuse in dating relationships. Narcissists in relationships do gaslight and emotionally abuse others in their tiny kingdoms.
Narcissists focus on admiration where they are the center of things. It is all about them. Most narcissists live in their tiny kingdoms where they are immersed in their grandiosity. There are two sets of rules for narcissists: theirs, and yours. You do not live by the same rules as the narcissist; they cannot conceive fairness in relationships. They will abide by society’s rules for the most part because they want to look good, but when it comes to relationships, forget it.
Narcissists can look like anti-socials and even borderlines with the way they are abusive towards others. The abuse is thoughtless and ruthless because it is all about them.
Narcissists frequently run small businesses and they talk about how their business is going to grow and be something huge.
I think that many narcissists hide in the shadows because they burn out people. Narcissists who are engaged in abuse must find someone who is naïve to abuse.
From time to time, I hear of news stories about some celebrities being narcissists, and they probably are. They are the fortunate ones who have some kind of incredible talent to become notable.
Anyway, most people only realize narcissistic abuse after it has passed. Again, narcissists tend subconsciously to pick people who are naïve . . . people who do not know any better.
If you think that you have been the victim of narcissistic abuse, I first want to say that I am sorry. There is no simple answer to recovery.
I think part of the journey of recovery is to discover the truth, that the gaslighting comments were BS and that the narcissist was wrong. You may even need to work on forgiving yourself for allowing yourself to hanging around as long as you did and taking the abuse. You may need to talk with a therapist about how to recover.
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