July 9, 2025 • 22 mins
Grace Over Grind with Charis Jones is back, turning chaos into clarity—and today we’re living in Beyoncé’s world. In this episode, “The Beyoncé Blueprint: 5 Power Moves Every Woman Should Learn,” Charis breaks down how Queen Bey built her legacy—managing her own career, launching Parkwood Entertainment, and always betting on her own inner voice. You’ll discover how to:
- Architect your own legacy by honoring your goals and writing your own story
- Obsess over excellence so you rehearse like your life depends on it
- Control your narrative by sharing less, but more intentionally
- Reinvent yourself without apology or permission
- Cultivate quiet confidence that thrives beyond applause
Whether you’re a die-hard fan or just curious about Beyoncé’s strategies, you’ll walk away with actionable mindset shifts to apply in your life today. Tune in now, subscribe, leave a review, and share with a sister who needs the reminder that she’s the main character. Which of these five power moves will you start practicing first? Let us know in the comments or send a voice note!
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Charis Jones (00:00):
Welcome back to Grace Over Grind with Charis
Jones.
This is the podcast where weturn chaos into clarity.
And dear, we have such a topicfor you today.
It's hot off the presses.
It is of the moment.
It is very much now.
Okay, this is we're just livingin Beyonce's world.
Do you understand?
We're just all living inBeyonce's world and we are just
(00:22):
trying to glean and learn andget tickets.
That is it.
So today's topic is actuallyvery near and dear to my heart.
But whether you are a fan ornot, it is not important.
That is not the topic.
What is incredibly important isthat you learn what you can
take away from today's topic,which is the Beyonce blueprint,
(00:43):
five power moves that everyEvery woman should learn.
I'm so excited.
From her Parkwood Entertainmentmoves to surprise album and
visual drops to no visuals atall.
All of these power moves are,we're going to break down sort
(01:03):
of like in a case study way asto how we can actually glean and
learn from what Beyonce hasdone.
Let's get into it.
Shift number one, being thearchitect of your own legacy.
So let's take it back to whereBeyonce was actually being
(01:24):
managed by her father in theearly days.
Can you imagine how difficultof a decision it was to say,
hey, I'm going to start managingmyself and hey, I'm going to
build out ParkwoodEntertainment.
That had to take somefortitude.
I'm sure she was talked out ofit, but there was such evidence
that she was willing to bet onher own inner voice and willing
(01:49):
to prioritize her own knowing,whether it made sense or not.
I want you to think about theessence of familiarity and how
that actually tends to hold usback because things are
comfortable and we know them andwe would rather deal with the
crazy that we know rather thanthe crazy that we don't know,
right?
And in Beyonce's career, shehas worked always, always gone
(02:16):
against the grain.
So the question here is how inyour life can you be the
architect of your own legacy?
Does that look like coming outof a place of worry and into a
place of empowerment where youare the author of your today and
your tomorrow?
Does that look like a place ofactually respecting your own
(02:38):
boundaries and doing the thingsthat you said that you would do
for yourself, right?
We We tend to set a lot ofgoals at the beginning of the
year and all throughout theyear.
And this is your opportunity tobe an architect, right?
But now we're mid-year, rightaround now the season.
I want you to look back on thethings that you intended for
yourself this year and see ifyou actually wrote that story
(03:01):
out.
What does that biography, whatdoes that novel, what does that
literature actually look likefor you, right?
Are you walking out?
Are you architecting?
the things that you said thatyou would do for yourself.
And that self-introspection isall it takes to be the own
(03:22):
architect of your legacy.
Girl, it's just that simple.
So really it is coming into amindset of not being here short
term.
It's legacy empire, long-termbuilding mindset.
So those goals and all of thosedreams that we have for
ourselves, staying true to them,regardless of what anybody has
(03:45):
to say, I know know they calledBeyonce crazy and you know they
talked about her because you didand so did I, right?
But it made no difference as tohow she wrote her own legacy.
So that is the very firstfoundational mindset shift
before we get into the rest ofthem that we must adapt and be
(04:07):
okay with because honey, that isthe foundation.
Mindset shift number two.
Obsessive.
And when I say, girl, when Isay obsessive excellence, it's
admirable, yet also questionableand admirable.
(04:29):
But we're here to siphon outall of the positive mindsets
about it.
And listen, any one of us cansay Beyonce is a workaholic, and
she is.
Right?
and as she deserves to be, butshe is doing exactly what she
loves to do, and she is livingand operating in her full-bodied
purpose.
So by successful people'sdefinition, that is not work.
(04:55):
Girl.
All right, so let's think backto Coachella.
At Coachella, she had justdelivered the twins, and in her
documentary, she clearly statedthat she would never do this
again.
I am a twin mom.
I understand what it does toyour body, your hips, your
bones, just pregnancy alone, letalone having two babies in your
(05:18):
body.
Delivering them and going intosomething as physically and as
mentally demanding so early inyour motherhood.
And so the lesson here is notto be the best in the whole
world.
By default, she ended up beingthe best.
But it's really about beingyour best.
And at Coachella, she justwanted to test the limits of her
(05:41):
body.
She wanted to, call it crazy ornot, but successful people have
always wanted always gone offthe rails, gone against the
grain, and really pushed thepedal all the way down to
maximize the limits of theirpotential.
Because there is a delusionalcuriosity about what can I do?
(06:02):
How far can I actually go?
What are the limitations ofthese things?
And the more you learn thatabout yourself and your life and
your capabilities, the moreintelligence you gain about what
you can do, about where yourlimits actually reside.
Are there limits?
And I can tell you some of itjust being slightly successful
(06:25):
comparative to Beyonce, but verysuccessful in my own right.
There are no limits.
They're only ones that you puton yourself.
So the takeaway is Beyoncerehearses like her life depends
on it.
Your rhetorical questioning foryourself is how are you
(06:45):
rehearsing like your lifedepends on it?
Are we just showing upwilly-nilly?
Or are we incrediblyintentional about walking it out
and being prepared andresearching and being
well-spoken and showing up wellenergetically, physically,
spiritually?
How much are you wateringyourself?
(07:07):
How much are you rehearsing sothat when that next level that
you have prayed for, when itpresents itself, how well can
you stay and how well can yoube?
Those things are incrediblydependent on how well you're
rehearsing.
Mindset shift number three isto control your narrative.
(07:27):
Yeah, yeah.
Beyonce is incredibly powerfuland incredibly private.
You are not seeing interviews.
And I remember there was apoint in time where you were
seeing interviews left andright.
But...
there came a point where shejust stopped and she puts out
(07:47):
her own content.
She focused on her gifts.
Telling her story is showing upthrough her work.
So she doesn't actually need todo press.
She doesn't need to do all ofthe interviews or magazine
interviews.
So we actually count it as abliss and joy and delight when
we do get a sneak peek, when weactually do get to see Rumi on
(08:08):
stage and we do get to see Blue,because then it's more of a je
ne sais quoi, right?
There's that mystery aroundwhat actually goes on in her
life.
And I'm going to tell you, whenshe actually does decide to put
work of arts out, she'sproducing it.
She is actually the producer,the director.
(08:29):
She's incredibly involved.
She's telling everyone wherethe lights go.
And you can call that obsessivecontrol.
And it is.
And it is.
But what can we learn fromthat?
She's not leaving anything, anydetail up for chance, any
detail up for misunderstoodinterpretation.
It is all deliberatelyintentional.
(08:51):
So the mindset shift for you isto be fully intentional.
and deliberately intentional onwhat you share and what you
show.
The rhetorical questioning hereis, how can I show up in a way
that is advantageous of valuefor who it is that I am here to
(09:13):
serve, right?
And so if we're just giving,giving, giving, giving, giving,
when you do bring your best,it's not even notice because
your factory default setting isto give.
But, but what if, what if youonly spoke when there was
something to say and you wentinto a place where you're doing
(09:36):
more with less?
So the lesson here is that youdon't owe access to everyone in
your day-to-day life.
That looks like Do I have spaceand do I have energy available
to reply to this text message,to reply to this email, to give
(09:56):
my yes, to give my all, to givemy physicality, to give my
relationship, my advice?
All of those things are teenytiny micro ways that we can show
up with more intention withoutburning out.
Because Beyonce will show upand show out and then go back in
(10:16):
hiding.
This is her cycle.
Show up, show out, and then goback in hiding.
But for whatever reason, someof us have mindsets where it's
show out, show out, show out,show out, show out, show out,
show out, show out.
And there is absolutely nohiding, no recuperation, no
recovery, no preservation.
(10:37):
And those things are so, oh,they are so important in
controlling your narrative.
Because here's the other thing.
How do you even know what thenarrative is.
If we've not taken time toactually define that and write
that out for ourselves anddecide what it is and where it
(10:58):
is that we are going We just outhere willy-nilly.
We just out here flying by theseat of our pants.
Beyonce has perfectedcontrolling her narrative.
You see what she only wants youto see.
And by her giving us the 1% or2% of her life, we think it's
100%.
We think we know her.
We do.
(11:20):
We do.
We done seen Rumi, honey.
We know Rumi's favorite food.
We know everything, right?
But really, that is 10 minutesout of Rumi's 24-hour day.
Right.
Beyonce doing concert when weget to see her two hours, three
hours.
My date is coming up inAtlanta.
Right.
But on solid two strong hours.
(11:42):
And she gives us so much.
And we think we knoweverything.
But in the grand scheme oftime, we do not.
Right.
But she has curated andcontrolled her narrative so well
that when she does deliver,it's so full bodied and vibrant
and verbose and deep that wefeel so connected and we feel so
(12:05):
known, even by and seen by her,right?
So in your life, the questionis, and the mindset is, how can
you show up in a way thatMindset shift number four that
we can all learn from Beyonce.
Reinvention is your superpower.
(12:26):
From Destiny's Child toRenaissance, from body changes
to image changes to genrechanges, she does it without
apology.
And often, actually always, letme correct that, without
permission.
Here's the goal in life.
(12:47):
The goal in life actually is tobe side-eyed rather than
predictable.
Everyone around you in yourfield and what you do, because
as an expert, we do itincredibly well, right?
But the goal is to get out of aplace of prediction, but into a
place of superpower.
So much so that there is anaudacity from everyone around
(13:12):
you that is like, who the heckdoes she think she is?
Right?
You're going to get thatquestion, but also through that
level of audacity, there is suchimmense inspiration.
You are inspiring everyone inyour universe that they can do
the same, that they are able tostep out without permission.
And oftentimes it's our ownpermission that we seek and need
(13:34):
the most.
But sometimes you got to do thething without your own
permission.
Sometimes you got to do thething without having it all
figured out.
And I am quite sure that whenBeyonce decided to go into and
to step deeper into her countryroots, she didn't have it all
figured out up front.
She agreed on one thing, that Iwill continually and
(13:54):
perpetually reinvent myself asoften as required, as often as
necessary.
Stagnation occurs when youthink you have all the answers.
Stagnation occurs when youthink you know exactly what
you're doing.
But the superpower in themindset shift is to remain
uncomfortable and constantlylean into new, uncharted
(14:17):
territory.
I'm quite sure she didn't haveall the features and all of
these things figure out, but sheagreed to figure it out along
the way.
She agreed to continuallyreinvent.
Even from show to show on thisCowboy Carter tour that she's on
right now, every single show issomewhat different.
(14:37):
From the hair to the wardrobeto the set to the set list, all
of it is overall unpredictable.
Do you think every singleinkling of that was...
Most of it, yeah.
But also there's a lot of roomfor spontaneity.
There's a lot of room forinnuendos.
(14:58):
There's a lot of room left forlearning.
So having it all figured out isthe enemy of you reinventing
yourself, right?
Because we don't give ourselvesthe ability and the space to
fuck around and find out.
Clearly put, right?
So growth is not, it's notbetrayal.
(15:19):
It is essentially the agreementof you moving forward from
everything that you have knownand moving into a space of the
unknown.
And yes, it is scary.
Been there a thousand timesthere today, right?
But that is the place ofgrowth.
(15:42):
And that is also the placewhere we get to develop a new
skill.
Personal story, I have agreedto do a thing.
And this particular thing Ihave struggled with for the last
four years.
Yeah, it has a stronghold onme, something serious.
However, It's not theagreement, but it's also in your
(16:06):
decision-making.
There is a difference in doingversus deciding.
And when you have decided thatI am going to move forward
regardless of what happens,regardless, I am committed to
growth.
I am committed to wild,unfamiliar, crazy, side-eyish
(16:32):
growth.
growth.
And that might not all andshould not all be outward.
Most of it is inward.
And that is how you upgradefrom the inside.
And that is how you continuallygive yourself the permission
and the access to reinventyourself.
And that's exactly what Beyoncehas done.
(16:53):
We have seen all kinds ofdifferent hairstyles.
We have seen all kinds ofdifferent art forms.
We have even seen her reinventher voice and her bravado and
her sound.
How beautiful is that?
She didn't need anything.
of our permission to do that.
We accept it as art and we havelearned in some way, shape or
(17:14):
form, in some way, shape orform, honey, to be inspired by
that and to take whatever it isthat we can take out of her
life, which is a servantlifestyle and figure out how we
can use that for ourselves.
So reinvention, it is yoursuperpower.
(17:35):
Mindset shift number five thatwe can learn from Beyonce is
your quiet confidence over andit being greater than loud
applause.
Honey, you may struggle withthis.
And the reason that you mightstruggle with this, it stems
from childhood.
Let me just affirm that.
But it comes from a place ofsometimes not feeling enough.
(17:56):
And also, even if you do feelenough, you need validation and
you need confirmation that youare headed in the right
direction.
So one of the ways that wereceive that as humans is by
being performative and then inreturn receiving an applause.
Just think of performing.
Right.
If you're a singer, a dancer orwhatever it is, you are looking
for that round of applause atthe end.
(18:18):
And us as humans have beenconditioned to expect and need
that round of applause in orderto have confirmation that we're
moving in the right direction orthat we have done a good job.
So the work here that Beyoncehas perfected, the takeaway for
your mindset is to be your ownround of applause, that quiet
(18:42):
confidence.
that doesn't need anything fromanyone that is overall detached
from outcome and overalldetached from applause and
external validation in order foryou to feel whole, in order for
you to know that you've done agood job, and in order for you
to agree to continue to moveforward in your own life and
(19:03):
with your own dreams, your owndestiny, and your own goals.
Here's the other thing too.
Beyonce rarely claps back.
Responding is also a form ofneeding applause.
Girl, let me break this downfor you.
Quiet confidence looks likethey can have it.
(19:24):
It looks like let them.
It looks like they can thinkwhat they want to think.
I am solid on my plan.
I am agreeing to move forwardand I know exactly what I am
doing.
Even if I don't, I know my nextstep or I think I have an idea
of what I want my next step tobe.
When you get negative feedbackor when you get someone speaking
against what it is that you'redoing or who it is that you are
(19:46):
or something that you've done,right, we feel the innate need
to defend.
But quiet confidence isactually not caring and letting
them say whatever they want tosay.
They can have the story.
It belongs to them.
There's nothing that you can doto change it.
So why invest any energy, anymind space, any thought into
(20:08):
altering what that narrative is?
Our takeaway number one wasbeing the author of your own
narrative, right?
So if we're the author of ourown narrative, then why do we
need to control anyone else's?
Put it down.
Let them have it.
You have yours.
(20:29):
Everyone's right.
Whatever you believe, you'reright.
Whatever you believe, you'reright.
And let that be.
Be so incredibly hyper-focusedon your own voice that you don't
feel the need to over-explainyour worth.
That you don't feel the needto, not even over-explain, but
(20:53):
just to explain.
That you don't feel the need tofill in every single blank
space.
God created all these humans onearth.
Everyone has their own space tofill.
The more that we understandthat we are not in control, the
more we focus on ourselves, thebrighter we glow, the brighter
(21:14):
we grow, and the farther you cango.
And that's what quietconfidence is all about.
It's about knowing yourself,and being so super solid on your
own internal worth that it hasabsolutely nothing to do with
external validation or requiringany kind of applause.
(21:36):
So listen.
Whether you're a fan, whetheryou're not, again, not the
topic.
There are tons of mindsetshifts that Beyonce has made
that we can learn from and thatyou can apply very easily into
your everyday life.
So honey, let's hold hands.
Let's jump out into thisbeautiful world and keep forging
(21:57):
forward together.
Text a friend, text a sister,text a cousin this video and
inspire them to continue to moveforward.
word regardless just likeBeyonce did thank you so much
for tuning in to today's podcastwhether you're listening
anywhere podcasts are heard orwhether you're watching right
(22:18):
here on YouTube for the visualsI want you to tell me what your
biggest takeaway was and whichof the five mindsets you're
going to start implementingtoday be sure to subscribe
comment below let me know andturn on your notifications so
that you get all the tea untilnext time remember you You are
the main character.
(22:40):
Beyonce just reminded you.
Welcome back to Grace Over Grind with Charis
Jones.
This is the podcast where weturn chaos into clarity.
And dear, we have such a topicfor you today.
It's hot off the presses.
It is of the moment.
It is very much now.
Okay, this is we're just livingin Beyonce's world.
Do you understand?
We're just all living inBeyonce's world and we are just
(00:22):
trying to glean and learn andget tickets.
That is it.
So today's topic is actuallyvery near and dear to my heart.
But whether you are a fan ornot, it is not important.
That is not the topic.
What is incredibly important isthat you learn what you can
take away from today's topic,which is the Beyonce blueprint,
(00:43):
five power moves that everyEvery woman should learn.
I'm so excited.
From her Parkwood Entertainmentmoves to surprise album and
visual drops to no visuals atall.
All of these power moves are,we're going to break down sort
(01:03):
of like in a case study way asto how we can actually glean and
learn from what Beyonce hasdone.
Let's get into it.
Shift number one, being thearchitect of your own legacy.
So let's take it back to whereBeyonce was actually being
(01:24):
managed by her father in theearly days.
Can you imagine how difficultof a decision it was to say,
hey, I'm going to start managingmyself and hey, I'm going to
build out ParkwoodEntertainment.
That had to take somefortitude.
I'm sure she was talked out ofit, but there was such evidence
that she was willing to bet onher own inner voice and willing
(01:49):
to prioritize her own knowing,whether it made sense or not.
I want you to think about theessence of familiarity and how
that actually tends to hold usback because things are
comfortable and we know them andwe would rather deal with the
crazy that we know rather thanthe crazy that we don't know,
right?
And in Beyonce's career, shehas worked always, always gone
(02:16):
against the grain.
So the question here is how inyour life can you be the
architect of your own legacy?
Does that look like coming outof a place of worry and into a
place of empowerment where youare the author of your today and
your tomorrow?
Does that look like a place ofactually respecting your own
(02:38):
boundaries and doing the thingsthat you said that you would do
for yourself, right?
We We tend to set a lot ofgoals at the beginning of the
year and all throughout theyear.
And this is your opportunity tobe an architect, right?
But now we're mid-year, rightaround now the season.
I want you to look back on thethings that you intended for
yourself this year and see ifyou actually wrote that story
(03:01):
out.
What does that biography, whatdoes that novel, what does that
literature actually look likefor you, right?
Are you walking out?
Are you architecting?
the things that you said thatyou would do for yourself.
And that self-introspection isall it takes to be the own
(03:22):
architect of your legacy.
Girl, it's just that simple.
So really it is coming into amindset of not being here short
term.
It's legacy empire, long-termbuilding mindset.
So those goals and all of thosedreams that we have for
ourselves, staying true to them,regardless of what anybody has
(03:45):
to say, I know know they calledBeyonce crazy and you know they
talked about her because you didand so did I, right?
But it made no difference as tohow she wrote her own legacy.
So that is the very firstfoundational mindset shift
before we get into the rest ofthem that we must adapt and be
(04:07):
okay with because honey, that isthe foundation.
Mindset shift number two.
Obsessive.
And when I say, girl, when Isay obsessive excellence, it's
admirable, yet also questionableand admirable.
(04:29):
But we're here to siphon outall of the positive mindsets
about it.
And listen, any one of us cansay Beyonce is a workaholic, and
she is.
Right?
and as she deserves to be, butshe is doing exactly what she
loves to do, and she is livingand operating in her full-bodied
purpose.
So by successful people'sdefinition, that is not work.
(04:55):
Girl.
All right, so let's think backto Coachella.
At Coachella, she had justdelivered the twins, and in her
documentary, she clearly statedthat she would never do this
again.
I am a twin mom.
I understand what it does toyour body, your hips, your
bones, just pregnancy alone, letalone having two babies in your
(05:18):
body.
Delivering them and going intosomething as physically and as
mentally demanding so early inyour motherhood.
And so the lesson here is notto be the best in the whole
world.
By default, she ended up beingthe best.
But it's really about beingyour best.
And at Coachella, she justwanted to test the limits of her
(05:41):
body.
She wanted to, call it crazy ornot, but successful people have
always wanted always gone offthe rails, gone against the
grain, and really pushed thepedal all the way down to
maximize the limits of theirpotential.
Because there is a delusionalcuriosity about what can I do?
(06:02):
How far can I actually go?
What are the limitations ofthese things?
And the more you learn thatabout yourself and your life and
your capabilities, the moreintelligence you gain about what
you can do, about where yourlimits actually reside.
Are there limits?
And I can tell you some of itjust being slightly successful
(06:25):
comparative to Beyonce, but verysuccessful in my own right.
There are no limits.
They're only ones that you puton yourself.
So the takeaway is Beyoncerehearses like her life depends
on it.
Your rhetorical questioning foryourself is how are you
(06:45):
rehearsing like your lifedepends on it?
Are we just showing upwilly-nilly?
Or are we incrediblyintentional about walking it out
and being prepared andresearching and being
well-spoken and showing up wellenergetically, physically,
spiritually?
How much are you wateringyourself?
(07:07):
How much are you rehearsing sothat when that next level that
you have prayed for, when itpresents itself, how well can
you stay and how well can yoube?
Those things are incrediblydependent on how well you're
rehearsing.
Mindset shift number three isto control your narrative.
(07:27):
Yeah, yeah.
Beyonce is incredibly powerfuland incredibly private.
You are not seeing interviews.
And I remember there was apoint in time where you were
seeing interviews left andright.
But...
there came a point where shejust stopped and she puts out
(07:47):
her own content.
She focused on her gifts.
Telling her story is showing upthrough her work.
So she doesn't actually need todo press.
She doesn't need to do all ofthe interviews or magazine
interviews.
So we actually count it as abliss and joy and delight when
we do get a sneak peek, when weactually do get to see Rumi on
(08:08):
stage and we do get to see Blue,because then it's more of a je
ne sais quoi, right?
There's that mystery aroundwhat actually goes on in her
life.
And I'm going to tell you, whenshe actually does decide to put
work of arts out, she'sproducing it.
She is actually the producer,the director.
(08:29):
She's incredibly involved.
She's telling everyone wherethe lights go.
And you can call that obsessivecontrol.
And it is.
And it is.
But what can we learn fromthat?
She's not leaving anything, anydetail up for chance, any
detail up for misunderstoodinterpretation.
It is all deliberatelyintentional.
(08:51):
So the mindset shift for you isto be fully intentional.
and deliberately intentional onwhat you share and what you
show.
The rhetorical questioning hereis, how can I show up in a way
that is advantageous of valuefor who it is that I am here to
(09:13):
serve, right?
And so if we're just giving,giving, giving, giving, giving,
when you do bring your best,it's not even notice because
your factory default setting isto give.
But, but what if, what if youonly spoke when there was
something to say and you wentinto a place where you're doing
(09:36):
more with less?
So the lesson here is that youdon't owe access to everyone in
your day-to-day life.
That looks like Do I have spaceand do I have energy available
to reply to this text message,to reply to this email, to give
(09:56):
my yes, to give my all, to givemy physicality, to give my
relationship, my advice?
All of those things are teenytiny micro ways that we can show
up with more intention withoutburning out.
Because Beyonce will show upand show out and then go back in
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hiding.
This is her cycle.
Show up, show out, and then goback in hiding.
But for whatever reason, someof us have mindsets where it's
show out, show out, show out,show out, show out, show out,
show out, show out.
And there is absolutely nohiding, no recuperation, no
recovery, no preservation.
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And those things are so, oh,they are so important in
controlling your narrative.
Because here's the other thing.
How do you even know what thenarrative is.
If we've not taken time toactually define that and write
that out for ourselves anddecide what it is and where it
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is that we are going We just outhere willy-nilly.
We just out here flying by theseat of our pants.
Beyonce has perfectedcontrolling her narrative.
You see what she only wants youto see.
And by her giving us the 1% or2% of her life, we think it's
100%.
We think we know her.
We do.
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We do.
We done seen Rumi, honey.
We know Rumi's favorite food.
We know everything, right?
But really, that is 10 minutesout of Rumi's 24-hour day.
Right.
Beyonce doing concert when weget to see her two hours, three
hours.
My date is coming up inAtlanta.
Right.
But on solid two strong hours.
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And she gives us so much.
And we think we knoweverything.
But in the grand scheme oftime, we do not.
Right.
But she has curated andcontrolled her narrative so well
that when she does deliver,it's so full bodied and vibrant
and verbose and deep that wefeel so connected and we feel so
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known, even by and seen by her,right?
So in your life, the questionis, and the mindset is, how can
you show up in a way thatMindset shift number four that
we can all learn from Beyonce.
Reinvention is your superpower.
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From Destiny's Child toRenaissance, from body changes
to image changes to genrechanges, she does it without
apology.
And often, actually always, letme correct that, without
permission.
Here's the goal in life.
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The goal in life actually is tobe side-eyed rather than
predictable.
Everyone around you in yourfield and what you do, because
as an expert, we do itincredibly well, right?
But the goal is to get out of aplace of prediction, but into a
place of superpower.
So much so that there is anaudacity from everyone around
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you that is like, who the heckdoes she think she is?
Right?
You're going to get thatquestion, but also through that
level of audacity, there is suchimmense inspiration.
You are inspiring everyone inyour universe that they can do
the same, that they are able tostep out without permission.
And oftentimes it's our ownpermission that we seek and need
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the most.
But sometimes you got to do thething without your own
permission.
Sometimes you got to do thething without having it all
figured out.
And I am quite sure that whenBeyonce decided to go into and
to step deeper into her countryroots, she didn't have it all
figured out up front.
She agreed on one thing, that Iwill continually and
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perpetually reinvent myself asoften as required, as often as
necessary.
Stagnation occurs when youthink you have all the answers.
Stagnation occurs when youthink you know exactly what
you're doing.
But the superpower in themindset shift is to remain
uncomfortable and constantlylean into new, uncharted
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territory.
I'm quite sure she didn't haveall the features and all of
these things figure out, but sheagreed to figure it out along
the way.
She agreed to continuallyreinvent.
Even from show to show on thisCowboy Carter tour that she's on
right now, every single show issomewhat different.
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From the hair to the wardrobeto the set to the set list, all
of it is overall unpredictable.
Do you think every singleinkling of that was...
Most of it, yeah.
But also there's a lot of roomfor spontaneity.
There's a lot of room forinnuendos.
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There's a lot of room left forlearning.
So having it all figured out isthe enemy of you reinventing
yourself, right?
Because we don't give ourselvesthe ability and the space to
fuck around and find out.
Clearly put, right?
So growth is not, it's notbetrayal.
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It is essentially the agreementof you moving forward from
everything that you have knownand moving into a space of the
unknown.
And yes, it is scary.
Been there a thousand timesthere today, right?
But that is the place ofgrowth.
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And that is also the placewhere we get to develop a new
skill.
Personal story, I have agreedto do a thing.
And this particular thing Ihave struggled with for the last
four years.
Yeah, it has a stronghold onme, something serious.
However, It's not theagreement, but it's also in your
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decision-making.
There is a difference in doingversus deciding.
And when you have decided thatI am going to move forward
regardless of what happens,regardless, I am committed to
growth.
I am committed to wild,unfamiliar, crazy, side-eyish
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growth.
growth.
And that might not all andshould not all be outward.
Most of it is inward.
And that is how you upgradefrom the inside.
And that is how you continuallygive yourself the permission
and the access to reinventyourself.
And that's exactly what Beyoncehas done.
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We have seen all kinds ofdifferent hairstyles.
We have seen all kinds ofdifferent art forms.
We have even seen her reinventher voice and her bravado and
her sound.
How beautiful is that?
She didn't need anything.
of our permission to do that.
We accept it as art and we havelearned in some way, shape or
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form, in some way, shape orform, honey, to be inspired by
that and to take whatever it isthat we can take out of her
life, which is a servantlifestyle and figure out how we
can use that for ourselves.
So reinvention, it is yoursuperpower.
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Mindset shift number five thatwe can learn from Beyonce is
your quiet confidence over andit being greater than loud
applause.
Honey, you may struggle withthis.
And the reason that you mightstruggle with this, it stems
from childhood.
Let me just affirm that.
But it comes from a place ofsometimes not feeling enough.
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And also, even if you do feelenough, you need validation and
you need confirmation that youare headed in the right
direction.
So one of the ways that wereceive that as humans is by
being performative and then inreturn receiving an applause.
Just think of performing.
Right.
If you're a singer, a dancer orwhatever it is, you are looking
for that round of applause atthe end.
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And us as humans have beenconditioned to expect and need
that round of applause in orderto have confirmation that we're
moving in the right direction orthat we have done a good job.
So the work here that Beyoncehas perfected, the takeaway for
your mindset is to be your ownround of applause, that quiet
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confidence.
that doesn't need anything fromanyone that is overall detached
from outcome and overalldetached from applause and
external validation in order foryou to feel whole, in order for
you to know that you've done agood job, and in order for you
to agree to continue to moveforward in your own life and
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with your own dreams, your owndestiny, and your own goals.
Here's the other thing too.
Beyonce rarely claps back.
Responding is also a form ofneeding applause.
Girl, let me break this downfor you.
Quiet confidence looks likethey can have it.
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It looks like let them.
It looks like they can thinkwhat they want to think.
I am solid on my plan.
I am agreeing to move forwardand I know exactly what I am
doing.
Even if I don't, I know my nextstep or I think I have an idea
of what I want my next step tobe.
When you get negative feedbackor when you get someone speaking
against what it is that you'redoing or who it is that you are
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or something that you've done,right, we feel the innate need
to defend.
But quiet confidence isactually not caring and letting
them say whatever they want tosay.
They can have the story.
It belongs to them.
There's nothing that you can doto change it.
So why invest any energy, anymind space, any thought into
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altering what that narrative is?
Our takeaway number one wasbeing the author of your own
narrative, right?
So if we're the author of ourown narrative, then why do we
need to control anyone else's?
Put it down.
Let them have it.
You have yours.
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Everyone's right.
Whatever you believe, you'reright.
Whatever you believe, you'reright.
And let that be.
Be so incredibly hyper-focusedon your own voice that you don't
feel the need to over-explainyour worth.
That you don't feel the needto, not even over-explain, but
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just to explain.
That you don't feel the need tofill in every single blank
space.
God created all these humans onearth.
Everyone has their own space tofill.
The more that we understandthat we are not in control, the
more we focus on ourselves, thebrighter we glow, the brighter
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we grow, and the farther you cango.
And that's what quietconfidence is all about.
It's about knowing yourself,and being so super solid on your
own internal worth that it hasabsolutely nothing to do with
external validation or requiringany kind of applause.
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So listen.
Whether you're a fan, whetheryou're not, again, not the
topic.
There are tons of mindsetshifts that Beyonce has made
that we can learn from and thatyou can apply very easily into
your everyday life.
So honey, let's hold hands.
Let's jump out into thisbeautiful world and keep forging
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forward together.
Text a friend, text a sister,text a cousin this video and
inspire them to continue to moveforward.
word regardless just likeBeyonce did thank you so much
for tuning in to today's podcastwhether you're listening
anywhere podcasts are heard orwhether you're watching right
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here on YouTube for the visualsI want you to tell me what your
biggest takeaway was and whichof the five mindsets you're
going to start implementingtoday be sure to subscribe
comment below let me know andturn on your notifications so
that you get all the tea untilnext time remember you You are
the main character.
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Beyonce just reminded you.
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