August 15, 2024 • 46 mins
Have you ever felt bound by others' expectations or your own limiting beliefs? How has that impacted your ability to lead? What if you could emerge from that place and walk in purpose while confidently leading? This week on the Graced to Lead podcast, we are joined by Certified Life Coach Cheryl Singletary. Cheryl's heartfelt testimony takes us through her journey of overcoming personal loss and transforming her pain into a mission that empowers others, particularly women, to realize their God-given potential. With vivid imagery and passionate insights, Cheryl illuminates the path from despair to destiny, urging leaders to breathe, stand confidently, and harness their unique gifts to make a lasting impact.
Leadership isn't just about managing others; it's about knowing yourself deeply. Cheryl walks us through the essential process of investigating the root causes that impact our leadership. Cheryl reassures those feeling overwhelmed, emphasizing that this work is crucial to avoid burnout and lead authentically. Leaders, it's time to EMERGE!
Despite last week's technical difficulties, we are back and committed to supporting your leadership journey every week. Join us and discover how to rise, shine, and activate your inner genius.
Mentioned during the show:
- Emerge Mentoring Program: www.bit.ly/womenemerge
- Connect with Cheryl!
- Facebook: Cheryl Singletary
- Instagram: @Dreamgirl30101
- TikTok: @cherylsingtary0
- Facebook Group: Dreamer of Dreams International
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Belinda Gaston (00:08):
Welcome to the Graced to Lead podcast.
I'm Belinda Gaston, your host,and listen.
If you are a Christian womanwho leads at work, in your own
business or even in ministry,you are in the right place here.
You'll find practical adviceand encouragement as you lead
through real conversations thatwill challenge and inspire you.
So join me on this journey tobecoming better leaders, god's
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way.
Are you ready?
Let the journey begin.
Welcome to the Graced to Leadpodcast.
I am Belinda Gaston, your host,and listen.
Today we are talking aboutemerging, about your impact as a
leader and even how yourleadership impacts others.
And I am excited about ourguest today.
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We have none other than CherylSingletary on the show.
Listen, let me tell you aboutCheryl.
Cheryl is an author, she's amentor, she's a coach, she is an
entrepreneur.
She is ordained to speak theword of God.
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Listen, her mantra is allthings new, and it is her
passion to see the body ofChrist free from old stuff, old
baggage.
To see the body of Christ freefrom old stuff, old baggage and
any obstacle that impedesprogress in moving forward in
this life's journey.
And that means your leadershipjourney too, and Cheryl is an
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expert here because she is nostranger to obstacles, as she's
endured the tragedy oftremendous loss in her life.
Her testimony envelops the lifeof a young widow who lost not
only her husband, but parents,sister and closest friends
within a five-year span.
But she did not let theoverwhelming grief and pain make
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her throw in the towel.
Instead, she pushed forward andput her whole trust in God and
worshiped through her tears andpraise, through her pain, and
now she is helping other people,other women, to emerge and to
follow their dreams and theirvisions and to really have
change.
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You know, change starts fromthe inside, and Cheryl believes
that, and so she uses every gift, every talent.
She even has a prophetic giftand she interprets dreams.
She has so many gifts.
We'll have her talk about it.
But listen, if you are in theplace where you are feeling like
you need to emerge into abetter leader, if you feel like
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you want to have a greaterimpact on those you lead, or
even if you're struggling withhow leadership is impacting you,
you are in the right place.
So go ahead, have a seat, getyour notebook and listen up as
we welcome Cheryl Singletary tothe show.
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Cheryl, welcome to the Grace toLead podcast.
Cheryl Singletary (03:06):
Oh my God, how are you?
I am so honored to be here withyou.
I am elated just to sit hereand have a conversation about my
passion, and that is to helpwomen emerge.
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Help women take every God-givengift within them and emerge.
It's a collision of purpose andpotential, so I'm happy to be
here with you.
Belinda Gaston (03:49):
I'm so excited.
I'm so excited because I know,Cheryl, you have poured
personally into me and helped meas a leader, and so I'm excited
for our listeners to gain someof your wisdom.
And so I think we should startwith that word emerge, because I
know that you also have acoaching program called Women
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Emerge, and in that program yourgoal is to help transform
leaders, transform theirGod-given purpose by activating
their inner genius, and so Ifeel like you are the expert of
emerging and impact here.
And so let's talk about.
Let's kind of take ourlisteners through this journey
for a moment.
Tell us what you mean by emerge.
Cheryl Singletary (04:35):
Oh, my goodness, what does emerge mean
to me?
So every time, every time I seethe word emerge, I see this
picture, and you must know thatI am very visual.
My imagination is out of thisworld.
But every time I see the wordemerge, I see souls, with not
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any particular face, rising upfrom dark places, particular
face rising up from dark places,whether it is a bottomless sea
or a pit of dark gravel dirt.
I see souls arise andpowerfully break through.
It's a journey to freedom Ialways see.
It's so vivid to me to seesomeone come out of a bound
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place or a stuck place andemerge, or even blossom into who
God intended them to be.
Belinda Gaston (05:39):
That's what emerge means to me I've never
quite thought about emerge thatway before.
And I think it's so relevantfor our leaders because a lot of
leaders, particularly womenleaders, we are stuck.
Some people are in places wherethey're stuck in their
leadership journey, they'restuck in their life, they're
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stuck trying to find theirpurpose and all of that has
impact on leadership and soemerging in the way that you've
just described it, with comingout of a bound place or coming
out of a stuck place, andemerging despite, you said, soul
.
So emerging despite what may beon the outside how they look,
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how they dress, how they.
But why is this concept ofemerging so important for those
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who are in leadership spaces?
Cheryl Singletary (06:53):
Now, in the continued picture of which I
vision or envision when I amworking with individuals.
The first thing that happenswhen they come to surface is
breathe.
The first thing is they let outa breath of finally reaching a
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place where they can be free,where they can breathe.
And the second thing they do isstand.
I see them standing like superwomen, with muscles built up and
powerfully confident, ready toimpact the world with their
purpose and their faith renewed.
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So the call to emerge is not acliche or a slogan.
It is a demand for you to shinein this dark, perverse world.
So it's indeed a journey.
It's a journey to find thatthing, to find the true you that
God put his hands on when hefearfully and wonderfully made
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you.
The intended purpose of thesegifts and these characteristics
that God gave you, it'spotential.
And you know what potentialmeans All of our gifts, all of
our characteristics, that camefrom the omnipotent God.
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The omnipotent, all-sufficient,full of power and potential God
.
It's that thing, this God thatis so full of everything all the
time places his breath upon usand he does that.
His breath contains the powerto become.
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His breath contains all that weare to do to impact this world.
To influence this world, wehave everything we need
God-given need to find ourpurpose and what we need to do
in this world for his kingdom.
Belinda Gaston (09:03):
Thank you for sharing that, and so it sounds
like what I hear you saying isthat part of why emerging is so
important is because it doesallow you to first breathe.
And when I heard you saybreathe, I immediately thought
about the weight of leadershipand how some of us are leading
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in spaces where we feel like wecan't breathe because of
responsibilities, because ofbeing misaligned with our
purpose, because of not feelingjoy or passion or whatever those
things are.
It's that it's stifling.
And so what I hear you sayingis that, as you go through this
process of emerging into theleader that you are destined to
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be, that you're ordained by Godto be, it allows you to have
that freedom, but also, you said, to stand, and I think so often
many of us who lead are inplaces where we are not
confident in standing in thoseplaces, and so for leaders,
women who lead, it's reallyimportant that we go through
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this process where we can emergeto be all that God has called
us to be.
Cheryl Singletary (10:16):
You know that breathing, when you even say
breath, we have to understand.
The scripture says that whenthe Lord blew into the nostrils
of man, he became a living soul.
And we, as believers, asleaders, as emerging women, we
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forget about our soul.
We forget about our will, ourintellect and our emotions and
therefore we get so overwhelmedwith trying to be what we create
that we forget to breathe.
And the Ruach of God, thatbreath is just not for a one and
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done thing.
He teaches us that his breath,his breath, is our power to live
.
His breath is the reason thatwe are who.
We are living souls.
And when we neglect our soul,when we neglect our will, our
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mind and our emotions, when weneglect those places, we find
ourselves in bondage.
We find ourselves closed in,closed off and not able to not
just breathe but to even movecorrectly.
Without the breath in yourlungs, when your breath is taken
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away, you are incapable ofreally thinking, moving.
Everything is affected by ourbreath.
So when we come through thisfreedom process, if you will,
when we come through thisfreedom journey or this journey
to freedom, the first thing thatwe realize we're not breathing,
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the first thing that we realizeis that I haven't taken a
breath in a long time and I likethis part of the journey and in
the journey to emerge, thefirst thing that we realize is
we go into places to free usfrom the bondage of what people
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think we should be and free usinto living in what God says,
who we are free us into livingin what God says, who we are.
Belinda Gaston (12:52):
Wow, and I want to take a minute to highlight
something that you said and haveyou expound on it a little bit.
One of the things that you saidis that in this process of
emerging, we get to the pointwhere we stop trying to be what
we created us to be.
And then you said that it alsohelps us to free ourselves from
being what other people say weshould be, and so I'd love for
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you to expand on that, because Ithink that leadership in
general, especially as you gethigher in leadership levels in
corporate spaces, as you beginto lead your own businesses or
organizations or ministries,oftentimes we have a set idea of
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what we think a leader shouldbe, how they should respond, how
they should act, and so we putall of these preconceived
notions on ourselves, which alsobrings unrealistic expectations
for us, that's true, and thenwe try to live up to these
things and become these things,and what I hear you saying is no
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, god's already created theblueprint.
We just have to get in touchwith that.
So can you talk more about that,about getting in touch with
God's blueprint and strippingaway the expectation of others
and stripping away ourmisconceived notions of who we
should be.
Cheryl Singletary (14:18):
Right.
Everything starts underground.
Underground, and what I mean bythat.
It is the place that we don'tallow others to see, or the
place that we hide from others.
This place underground is ahumbled place of the real you.
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It's often hidden behindbackground noise and background
voices, but getting to who Godsays you are is wrapped in the
package of him presentinghimself as the I am.
You know, moses was called as agreat deliverer, but it wasn't
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until he was in the trenches andin the throes of actually being
killed because of who heactually was, that he was
humbled in a place and the I amcame to speak with him and to
encourage him to be who I saidyou are.
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It's amazing that God says thathe is the I am.
I am that I am, and in emerging,we explore rooted areas and
closed off areas that has keptus bound into others' thinking,
or even our thinking closed inenslaved, and dig up the roots
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that have kept us under, if youwill, kept us from the ability
to rise.
I kind of parallel it with thework of abolitionists like
Harriet Tubman.
She's my favorite abolitionist.
One of the things that she saidthat really really made me
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think was I would have freedmany more if they knew they were
slaves.
If they knew they were slaves,they knew they were slaves If
they knew they were slaves.
And a lot of times we are boundby what others have said or what
others expect from us, and wehave closed off who we are.
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We are left in a place we don'tknow who we are, and you can't
be free if you don't know thatyou're in bondage.
And so when you when one of theworks that I do as a certified
life coach is to bring peopleout of their own bondage, the
bondage from knowing them, thebondage of being free, by
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allowing them to go into thesedark places, into these untold
places or these places that havebeen buried by other people's
thoughts, or even your thoughts,and pull them up out from the
enslaved version of themselvesand bring them to freedom.
Belinda Gaston (17:24):
That's amazing and it's necessary work, and I
think that's a moment where wepause as leaders during this
conversation and just reflect onthat.
The question of am I somewhatbound by other people's
expectations or even unrealisticthoughts of who I should be as
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I lead?
Wow and so I like, because Itold Cheryl, you seem like you
have it all together, I mean youhave it all together.
You have all the answers and Iknow in the bio I shared that
you've kind of walked throughsome things.
But do you mind sharingpersonally how maybe in a way I
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know you can't tell the tell awhole story here, but is there
in your own leadership journey?
No-transcript.
Cheryl Singletary (18:33):
Absolutely.
My journey actually began as ayoung lady when my first husband
passed away from a heart attack.
My husband was also a worshiper.
He was a musician, played thebass guitar.
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We loved the Lord, we were theChristian and for those of you
who can't see, I'm putting upair quotes.
We were the Christian familywho came to church and not only
served the Lord through ourgifts, but we served the people
and we were very influential inthe young adults.
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We were the house that peoplecame over to have over.
The young adults would comeover to have dinner and just to
hang out and just to be underour skirts, if you will.
We loved the Lord, we had fun,we lived life like we should.
We had, you know, the threekids, you know house, car,
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picket, fence, you name it.
And one Wednesday we came homefrom Bible study late, put the
kids to bed and my husband fellslain to a heart attack.
I was awakened to his fall andcrashed to the ground and I want
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to tell you that my whole worldshifted in that moment.
I didn't know what to dophysically, emotionally.
I kept trying to push my faithforward instead of fear, and
pray those prayers.
You know the prayers.
We're taught to pray Satan.
You lose my husband.
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You get up while I have 911 onthe other line trying to
vacillate through CPR andnothing was working.
Nothing was working.
He lay there, the strong manthat he was.
He lay there and my life laythere with him.
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Like who was I outside of, whohe was?
And when he was pronounced dead, I died too, because I married
him out of my mother's house.
I was a young wife, I was only20 when I got married and
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everything that I was lie therein the lifeless body of my
husband.
My life for the next few yearswas about finding myself.
I lost who I was.
My identity was lost in hislifeless body, my identity of
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what I was told I was and evenwhat I felt a good wife should
be, one that is under theleadership of her husband and
being his help meet, helping himmeet the goals that he should.
So I somewhere lost myself inthe joining of becoming one in
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the marriage, and so when hedied, the me that I thought I
was died too.
So I was clinging, trying tofind who was I anyway.
And I was sitting back One dayin the Lord said to me Moses, my
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servant, is dead, and thatsentence he said, to put my
husband's name there.
But he has work for me.
And I began to emerge from thegrave of grief, the grave of who
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I thought I would die, you know, or be raptured from.
And I became, through intensestudies, worship, understanding,
even therapy, finding who I was.
And one of the things thathelped me greatly was finding
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those things that God said aboutme.
What was I called to do?
How was I called to influence?
What was I called to influence.
How was I to live outside ofwho I was?
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That's one of my stories ofemerging.
I found that the gift ofdeliverance, which is what all
emerging is, is being deliveredfrom a place to impact the world
, of what god intended with hisfingers when he fearfully and
wonderfully put his hands on us.
When his hands were on usbefore we were anything, we were
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a purpose, and so getting tothose points by investigating
and taking deep, soulful divesinto us is how we emerge into
being what we're called to be,and that's where we make the
most impact.
We make the most impact when weknow our purpose and everything
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we do is knitted together inknowing our purpose of why we
were created.
Belinda Gaston (24:34):
Thank you for your transparency and sharing
that.
I've heard bits and pieces ofthat story, that portion of your
story, your journey, before,but I don't think I've heard it
in that way, and I am indeedmoved and also inspired, because
I think that you'vedemonstrated why emerging is so
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important.
Had you not emerged from thatplace, all the women who have
been impacted, all the leaderswho have been impacted through
the Emerge program, would nothave had the opportunity to do
so, and so thank you for sharingthat and for our listeners
asking you this question of whatare those places that are
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impacting your leadership thatyou need to investigate.
That's the word that Cherylused investigate, go deeper in.
One of the things we've talkedabout on another episode is that
, whether you know it or not,leader, these things are
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impacting how you lead, how youtalk to people, how you handle
situations.
All goes back to that deeperplace, and so, cheryl, I'd love
if you could give maybe somepractical tips first, and maybe
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I want to break this down intotwo areas.
So we'll start with the firstarea.
Is what if I'm a listenerleading now and I'm thinking I
need to emerge from some place,from a place, from several
places, or maybe thinking Idon't know if this is me, but
I'm feeling something.
What kind of tips or practicaladvice would you give to that
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person, that leader who is inthe place saying either I don't
know if I need to emerge fromsomeplace, but something here is
resonating with me and I needto emerge, but I don't know
where to start.
Cheryl Singletary (26:48):
Well, the first part, as we have said a
couple of times here, is doingsome root work, root causes of
who you are, because the root iswhere everything springs up
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from right, the root.
So going and doing the dirtywork you know, I mentioned
Harriet Tubman and how she was agreat deliverer and she worked
through dirty systems at night.
Having to deep places, placesthat are underground, is a
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grueling work, becausediscovering you has to begin at
the root.
And so doing some introspectivework, finding what came from
your generation.
We have generational blessingsand we have generational curses,
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but the only way we know how todifferentiate the two is going
deep and finding rooted areas,rooted problems.
We all have them, we all havedysfunction, we all have things
in our roots that we don't wantto talk about, that we don't
want to even see.
So we have to go through those.
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To the dirty work first,beneath the ground, beneath the
skin, and that is going beneathwhat people see, into what only
you see.
Going into walls and rooms ofplaces that you know in our
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house that we keep secret, thecloset full of the everything,
or the drawer full of theeverything that we keep secret.
Going in those places andfinding the things that we are
rooted in.
Once we find the root, weuproot those things, and we do
that through the power of prayer, but also surrendering and
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understanding, saying yes tothis is who I am.
This is who I am, this is whatI've been hiding.
But the Lord gives us grace touncover, not to expose us, but
to free us and to understand whowe are.
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We walk in the truth of who heis.
We walk in the truth.
Knowing the truth makes us free.
So the truth is not our truth,the truth is Jesus.
And in the program, when we getto this point about walking in
truth, you know how we love.
Especially women say this is mytruth and I'm going to stand in
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it.
You know how we love.
Especially women say this is mytruth and I'm going to stand in
it.
Jesus is the way, the truth andlife.
So we have to understand histruth, his word, who he is, who
he made us to gain freedom, toemerge.
Then we find the courage toemerge.
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Then we find the courage.
Courage is a great thing and beencouraged is throughout the
Bible.
A tremendous amount ofscripture starts out with be
encouraged, be encouragedFinding the boldness that comes
in the freedom of knowing whoyou are and standing in that,
you gain courage, you gain themuscles of faith, and then we
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are competent enough to arise.
Let all those things go andemerge victoriously.
So it's processes, and theprocess is all about you.
It's this emerging is agrueling work of sitting back,
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taking off all your hats, allthe things that make you you,
and understanding the God in you, his potential, his breath, his
breath of purpose, allows youto be free.
It gives you a strength, agreat strength, to walk in this
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world and make the impact thatis needed, that you are called
to do.
Belinda Gaston (31:41):
This sounds like a lot of work.
I mean, as a leader, I'mthinking well, we're already
leading the people or theprojects or the things, and now
I'm seeing that, oh, this mightbe a issue for me.
I need to explore, to uncover,to investigate, but I don't know
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if I can do this.
What if somebody say that Idon't know if I can do this and
I don't know if I can do thisalone.
I don't even know if there'stime for this.
What would you say to thatperson?
Cheryl Singletary (32:15):
even know if there's time for this.
What would you say to thatperson?
Well, what happens is, asyou're doing all the things that
you are required to do as aleader whether you're leading a
corporation or leading run intoyourself again.
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Or you run from yourself againthe nights that no one sees you
after you've completed the fifthgrant, or you've completed the
training, or whatever you doafter you've completed ministry,
and you lay in bed and you findout that you are tired,
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withdrawn, really burdened downwith doing it all by yourself,
with the untruth of who you are,by yourself, with the untruth
of who you are.
So is it grueling?
Is it time filled?
Yes, but it's necessary,because you'll run into walls.
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You'll keep running into wallsof tiredness and running from
those things that make you notsleep and trying to please
others.
And really the reason that youwere created again was in that
breath that God gave you.
So finding the purpose that hebreathed his breath in your
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lungs is really finding afreedom to do what he's called
you to do, because you've beenequipped with that.
He put that potential in you.
So I would tell them that yes,it is.
I would agree.
Definitely time consuming,definitely something that takes
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time, but the reward isfulfilling.
It's necessary.
It's necessary.
Belinda Gaston (34:27):
I feel like we've heard this before in a
previous episode, when DrStephanie Kirkland talked about
identity.
It's one of those things thatyou don't have a choice not to.
You don't.
And so for those people who aresaying, okay, I'm willing to do
the work, but I don't knowwhere to start, are there
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resources that can help peopleget started that can?
Cheryl Singletary (34:54):
help people get started.
Sure, sure.
There's resources, there areall types of venues, practices,
coaches that can help you get tothe true and intended you.
Whatever you're road you take,just understand, whether it's
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therapy, whether it's coaching,whether it's setting time to go
through a wonderful program likeEmerged, it is important that
you find someone that can coachyou through.
Find someone that can influenceyou, which is another great
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word for impact, because greatleaders understand the humility
and the humbleness of comingunder and serving or being
teachable, being under those ofinfluence, so you can influence
too.
The Bible says that we are to besalt, which is an influenced
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thing, and light.
So to burst through and to beinfluenced or to be impactful,
you must first be impacted withthose who have gone through,
those who have gone through thetrail of freedom, those who have
know the way and know how toget you there, through the dark,
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through the mud, through placesof discovery, those who have
tread the path themselves.
First, get you a good coach,get you a coach who knows the
Lord, get you a coach whounderstands the scripture, the
word of God, because it's theword of God that fulfills us,
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it's our faith, it's ourunderstanding of faith,
understanding the truth of whoGod is.
That helps us understand that Iam, of who we are.
So get your coach.
Find a program.
I would love for you to findEmerge, but find a program that
will help you find you and findthe potential that collides with
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purpose and influence, who youwill be in the earth.
Belinda Gaston (37:28):
Thank you for that.
I think that you have said itall, I know, but I highly
recommend the Emerge program andwe'll share that information in
a minute.
But, cheryl, I think thatyou've given us a lot to think
about, I think, as listeners.
I'm sure that there's at leastone person and that's what we're
trying to do here at Grace toLead is to if there's just one
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person that's impacted.
That's what we want, and so Ibelieve there's at least one
person right now thinking man.
Cheryl has put into wordseverything I've been feeling,
and now I'm ready to emerge, andso, before I ask you to share
anything you have going on andhow people can connect with you,
I do want to give you anopportunity to share any final
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thoughts.
You have shared quite a bit, sothere may not be more to say,
but do you have any finalthoughts or anything you'd like
to leave with the audiencebefore we say our farewell?
Cheryl Singletary (38:30):
Absolutely.
I want to talk just brieflyabout God given framework in
helping people emerge, givenframework in helping people
emerge.
And it actually came from adream.
It came from a dream and I wokeup from the dream and the Lord
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said to me I call you Sharus,and I was just like I know that
has to be some type of Hebrewword or something.
What in the world is shawroots?
And I found out that the wordshawroots it means gold, yellow
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gold, and it talks about therefinement of becoming and how
you have to go through therefiner's fire or go through
understanding, burning off whatwas, and becoming what God
called you in and called youforth.
(39:36):
From that, just from that word,just from that meeting, is how
Emerge Women's Mentorship camethrough, and it's from a
Charut's framework.
And those framework includeclarity, holistic development,
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action planning, resilience,understanding self and others,
and transformational learningand support network.
That's the framework of findingyourself, the framework of
getting clarity of how to move,whether it's corporately,
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whether it's spiritually, how tomove with what you are made,
understanding the clarity,holistic development, action
planning, resilience, building,understanding self and others,
and then transformationallearning.
And I wanted to say that isbecause this framework, although
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it was God-given and framed inthis word.
For me, those essential thingsare paramount in helping you
rise to what you're called to be.
Belinda Gaston (41:00):
So, please, please, please, find you a great
coach that can help you, andI'll plug here that Cheryl is a
great coach.
So, cheryl, tell us how peoplecan connect with you and if
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there's anything else you'd liketo share that you're working on
.
But how can people reach youand how can people connect with
you?
Cheryl Singletary (41:29):
Well, in order to, to go to the website,
at bitly forward slash, womenplural emerge and there you'll
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find out all that you want toknow about our program.
We're excited.
We take 12 women at a time sowe can make sure that we're
spending time with you.
12 women, 12 weeks, 12 emergingprinciples, where potential
collides meets with purpose.
That's how you can reach me forthe program.
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Our summer session starts andit's full, but our winter
session starts September 9th,but our winter session starts
December the 2nd and there arepeople waiting there.
So what I would do if I wereyou is go ahead, say I'm ready,
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pay for your winter classes,because I'm telling you as soon
as it's open.
I hardly get to open.
I'm on my second core cohortand by the time it's time for me
to open registration, it's full.
So go there, get in a good,godly led program that will help
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you rise and come forth.
Belinda Gaston (43:03):
Do you have another place that people can
reach you?
Cheryl Singletary (43:06):
Yes, you can reach me on Facebook under my
name, cheryl Singletary.
That's Cheryl with a CS-I-N-G-L-E-T-A-R-Y, and you can
also meet me over on my page,dreamer of Dreams, and I'm also
(43:27):
on Instagram as the Dream Girl Ithink Dream Girl, and I'm also
on TikTok.
All of your social mediaplatforms I am on, but my
favorite places to meet you atis Cheryl Singletary, facebook,
(43:51):
and then, of course, through mywebsite, women Emerge Mentorship
Program Amen.
Belinda Gaston (43:59):
Excellent.
Thank you, and for ourlisteners, I will place all of
the ways that you can connectwith Cheryl, including the
information about the WomenEmerge Mentoring Program.
Again, the fall session hasalready filled up to capacity.
It starts in September, but shealso has a winter session
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starting December 2nd, that youcan actually go on to that site
and, if you're interested, goahead and secure your spot now
before it fills up.
12 Women is a very intimategroup, and so you can imagine
that they fill up quickly.
Cheryl, I just want to say thankyou so much for the wisdom and
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transparency that you gave ustoday.
I think that those of us wholead are probably leaving this
conversation thinking about haveI emerged fully and wholly and,
if not, what kind of work do Ineed to do to get to that place?
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And because, as leaders, we allwant to stand and we all want
to breathe, and I think emerging, as you've described it, is the
way to do it.
So thank you for your timetoday with our Graced to Lead
podcast and our listeners, andso for our listeners, thank you.
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Remember you can always contactus if you're listening on the
podcast, if you're listening onthe Buzzsprout page, you can
actually text me and it comesdirectly to me, but you can also
contact me through the Gracedto Lead page and that
information is listed in thedescription box.
And finally, just remember thatwe are here every week.
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Last week we had some technicaldifficulties.
I did get your messages.
Thank you for checking, but weare back and, as always,
remember you are indeed grace tolead.
Until we speak again next week,have a wonderful week and a
very blessed day.
Welcome to the Graced to Lead podcast.
I'm Belinda Gaston, your host,and listen.
If you are a Christian womanwho leads at work, in your own
business or even in ministry,you are in the right place here.
You'll find practical adviceand encouragement as you lead
through real conversations thatwill challenge and inspire you.
So join me on this journey tobecoming better leaders, god's
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way.
Are you ready?
Let the journey begin.
Welcome to the Graced to Leadpodcast.
I am Belinda Gaston, your host,and listen.
Today we are talking aboutemerging, about your impact as a
leader and even how yourleadership impacts others.
And I am excited about ourguest today.
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We have none other than CherylSingletary on the show.
Listen, let me tell you aboutCheryl.
Cheryl is an author, she's amentor, she's a coach, she is an
entrepreneur.
She is ordained to speak theword of God.
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Listen, her mantra is allthings new, and it is her
passion to see the body ofChrist free from old stuff, old
baggage.
To see the body of Christ freefrom old stuff, old baggage and
any obstacle that impedesprogress in moving forward in
this life's journey.
And that means your leadershipjourney too, and Cheryl is an
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expert here because she is nostranger to obstacles, as she's
endured the tragedy oftremendous loss in her life.
Her testimony envelops the lifeof a young widow who lost not
only her husband, but parents,sister and closest friends
within a five-year span.
But she did not let theoverwhelming grief and pain make
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her throw in the towel.
Instead, she pushed forward andput her whole trust in God and
worshiped through her tears andpraise, through her pain, and
now she is helping other people,other women, to emerge and to
follow their dreams and theirvisions and to really have
change.
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You know, change starts fromthe inside, and Cheryl believes
that, and so she uses every gift, every talent.
She even has a prophetic giftand she interprets dreams.
She has so many gifts.
We'll have her talk about it.
But listen, if you are in theplace where you are feeling like
you need to emerge into abetter leader, if you feel like
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you want to have a greaterimpact on those you lead, or
even if you're struggling withhow leadership is impacting you,
you are in the right place.
So go ahead, have a seat, getyour notebook and listen up as
we welcome Cheryl Singletary tothe show.
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Cheryl, welcome to the Grace toLead podcast.
Cheryl Singletary (03:06):
Oh my God, how are you?
I am so honored to be here withyou.
I am elated just to sit hereand have a conversation about my
passion, and that is to helpwomen emerge.
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Help women take every God-givengift within them and emerge.
It's a collision of purpose andpotential, so I'm happy to be
here with you.
Belinda Gaston (03:49):
I'm so excited.
I'm so excited because I know,Cheryl, you have poured
personally into me and helped meas a leader, and so I'm excited
for our listeners to gain someof your wisdom.
And so I think we should startwith that word emerge, because I
know that you also have acoaching program called Women
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Emerge, and in that program yourgoal is to help transform
leaders, transform theirGod-given purpose by activating
their inner genius, and so Ifeel like you are the expert of
emerging and impact here.
And so let's talk about.
Let's kind of take ourlisteners through this journey
for a moment.
Tell us what you mean by emerge.
Cheryl Singletary (04:35):
Oh, my goodness, what does emerge mean
to me?
So every time, every time I seethe word emerge, I see this
picture, and you must know thatI am very visual.
My imagination is out of thisworld.
But every time I see the wordemerge, I see souls, with not
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any particular face, rising upfrom dark places, particular
face rising up from dark places,whether it is a bottomless sea
or a pit of dark gravel dirt.
I see souls arise andpowerfully break through.
It's a journey to freedom Ialways see.
It's so vivid to me to seesomeone come out of a bound
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place or a stuck place andemerge, or even blossom into who
God intended them to be.
Belinda Gaston (05:39):
That's what emerge means to me I've never
quite thought about emerge thatway before.
And I think it's so relevantfor our leaders because a lot of
leaders, particularly womenleaders, we are stuck.
Some people are in places wherethey're stuck in their
leadership journey, they'restuck in their life, they're
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stuck trying to find theirpurpose and all of that has
impact on leadership and soemerging in the way that you've
just described it, with comingout of a bound place or coming
out of a stuck place, andemerging despite, you said, soul
.
So emerging despite what may beon the outside how they look,
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how they dress, how they.
But why is this concept ofemerging so important for those
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who are in leadership spaces?
Cheryl Singletary (06:53):
Now, in the continued picture of which I
vision or envision when I amworking with individuals.
The first thing that happenswhen they come to surface is
breathe.
The first thing is they let outa breath of finally reaching a
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place where they can be free,where they can breathe.
And the second thing they do isstand.
I see them standing like superwomen, with muscles built up and
powerfully confident, ready toimpact the world with their
purpose and their faith renewed.
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So the call to emerge is not acliche or a slogan.
It is a demand for you to shinein this dark, perverse world.
So it's indeed a journey.
It's a journey to find thatthing, to find the true you that
God put his hands on when hefearfully and wonderfully made
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you.
The intended purpose of thesegifts and these characteristics
that God gave you, it'spotential.
And you know what potentialmeans All of our gifts, all of
our characteristics, that camefrom the omnipotent God.
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The omnipotent, all-sufficient,full of power and potential God
.
It's that thing, this God thatis so full of everything all the
time places his breath upon usand he does that.
His breath contains the powerto become.
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His breath contains all that weare to do to impact this world.
To influence this world, wehave everything we need
God-given need to find ourpurpose and what we need to do
in this world for his kingdom.
Belinda Gaston (09:03):
Thank you for sharing that, and so it sounds
like what I hear you saying isthat part of why emerging is so
important is because it doesallow you to first breathe.
And when I heard you saybreathe, I immediately thought
about the weight of leadershipand how some of us are leading
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in spaces where we feel like wecan't breathe because of
responsibilities, because ofbeing misaligned with our
purpose, because of not feelingjoy or passion or whatever those
things are.
It's that it's stifling.
And so what I hear you sayingis that, as you go through this
process of emerging into theleader that you are destined to
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be, that you're ordained by Godto be, it allows you to have
that freedom, but also, you said, to stand, and I think so often
many of us who lead are inplaces where we are not
confident in standing in thoseplaces, and so for leaders,
women who lead, it's reallyimportant that we go through
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this process where we can emergeto be all that God has called
us to be.
Cheryl Singletary (10:16):
You know that breathing, when you even say
breath, we have to understand.
The scripture says that whenthe Lord blew into the nostrils
of man, he became a living soul.
And we, as believers, asleaders, as emerging women, we
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forget about our soul.
We forget about our will, ourintellect and our emotions and
therefore we get so overwhelmedwith trying to be what we create
that we forget to breathe.
And the Ruach of God, thatbreath is just not for a one and
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done thing.
He teaches us that his breath,his breath, is our power to live
.
His breath is the reason thatwe are who.
We are living souls.
And when we neglect our soul,when we neglect our will, our
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mind and our emotions, when weneglect those places, we find
ourselves in bondage.
We find ourselves closed in,closed off and not able to not
just breathe but to even movecorrectly.
Without the breath in yourlungs, when your breath is taken
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away, you are incapable ofreally thinking, moving.
Everything is affected by ourbreath.
So when we come through thisfreedom process, if you will,
when we come through thisfreedom journey or this journey
to freedom, the first thing thatwe realize we're not breathing,
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the first thing that we realizeis that I haven't taken a
breath in a long time and I likethis part of the journey and in
the journey to emerge, thefirst thing that we realize is
we go into places to free usfrom the bondage of what people
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think we should be and free usinto living in what God says,
who we are free us into livingin what God says, who we are.
Belinda Gaston (12:52):
Wow, and I want to take a minute to highlight
something that you said and haveyou expound on it a little bit.
One of the things that you saidis that in this process of
emerging, we get to the pointwhere we stop trying to be what
we created us to be.
And then you said that it alsohelps us to free ourselves from
being what other people say weshould be, and so I'd love for
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you to expand on that, because Ithink that leadership in
general, especially as you gethigher in leadership levels in
corporate spaces, as you beginto lead your own businesses or
organizations or ministries,oftentimes we have a set idea of
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what we think a leader shouldbe, how they should respond, how
they should act, and so we putall of these preconceived
notions on ourselves, which alsobrings unrealistic expectations
for us, that's true, and thenwe try to live up to these
things and become these things,and what I hear you saying is no
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, god's already created theblueprint.
We just have to get in touchwith that.
So can you talk more about that,about getting in touch with
God's blueprint and strippingaway the expectation of others
and stripping away ourmisconceived notions of who we
should be.
Cheryl Singletary (14:18):
Right.
Everything starts underground.
Underground, and what I mean bythat.
It is the place that we don'tallow others to see, or the
place that we hide from others.
This place underground is ahumbled place of the real you.
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It's often hidden behindbackground noise and background
voices, but getting to who Godsays you are is wrapped in the
package of him presentinghimself as the I am.
You know, moses was called as agreat deliverer, but it wasn't
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until he was in the trenches andin the throes of actually being
killed because of who heactually was, that he was
humbled in a place and the I amcame to speak with him and to
encourage him to be who I saidyou are.
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It's amazing that God says thathe is the I am.
I am that I am, and in emerging,we explore rooted areas and
closed off areas that has keptus bound into others' thinking,
or even our thinking closed inenslaved, and dig up the roots
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that have kept us under, if youwill, kept us from the ability
to rise.
I kind of parallel it with thework of abolitionists like
Harriet Tubman.
She's my favorite abolitionist.
One of the things that she saidthat really really made me
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think was I would have freedmany more if they knew they were
slaves.
If they knew they were slaves,they knew they were slaves If
they knew they were slaves.
And a lot of times we are boundby what others have said or what
others expect from us, and wehave closed off who we are.
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We are left in a place we don'tknow who we are, and you can't
be free if you don't know thatyou're in bondage.
And so when you when one of theworks that I do as a certified
life coach is to bring peopleout of their own bondage, the
bondage from knowing them, thebondage of being free, by
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allowing them to go into thesedark places, into these untold
places or these places that havebeen buried by other people's
thoughts, or even your thoughts,and pull them up out from the
enslaved version of themselvesand bring them to freedom.
Belinda Gaston (17:24):
That's amazing and it's necessary work, and I
think that's a moment where wepause as leaders during this
conversation and just reflect onthat.
The question of am I somewhatbound by other people's
expectations or even unrealisticthoughts of who I should be as
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I lead?
Wow and so I like, because Itold Cheryl, you seem like you
have it all together, I mean youhave it all together.
You have all the answers and Iknow in the bio I shared that
you've kind of walked throughsome things.
But do you mind sharingpersonally how maybe in a way I
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know you can't tell the tell awhole story here, but is there
in your own leadership journey?
No-transcript.
Cheryl Singletary (18:33):
Absolutely.
My journey actually began as ayoung lady when my first husband
passed away from a heart attack.
My husband was also a worshiper.
He was a musician, played thebass guitar.
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We loved the Lord, we were theChristian and for those of you
who can't see, I'm putting upair quotes.
We were the Christian familywho came to church and not only
served the Lord through ourgifts, but we served the people
and we were very influential inthe young adults.
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We were the house that peoplecame over to have over.
The young adults would comeover to have dinner and just to
hang out and just to be underour skirts, if you will.
We loved the Lord, we had fun,we lived life like we should.
We had, you know, the threekids, you know house, car,
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picket, fence, you name it.
And one Wednesday we came homefrom Bible study late, put the
kids to bed and my husband fellslain to a heart attack.
I was awakened to his fall andcrashed to the ground and I want
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to tell you that my whole worldshifted in that moment.
I didn't know what to dophysically, emotionally.
I kept trying to push my faithforward instead of fear, and
pray those prayers.
You know the prayers.
We're taught to pray Satan.
You lose my husband.
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You get up while I have 911 onthe other line trying to
vacillate through CPR andnothing was working.
Nothing was working.
He lay there, the strong manthat he was.
He lay there and my life laythere with him.
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Like who was I outside of, whohe was?
And when he was pronounced dead, I died too, because I married
him out of my mother's house.
I was a young wife, I was only20 when I got married and
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everything that I was lie therein the lifeless body of my
husband.
My life for the next few yearswas about finding myself.
I lost who I was.
My identity was lost in hislifeless body, my identity of
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what I was told I was and evenwhat I felt a good wife should
be, one that is under theleadership of her husband and
being his help meet, helping himmeet the goals that he should.
So I somewhere lost myself inthe joining of becoming one in
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the marriage, and so when hedied, the me that I thought I
was died too.
So I was clinging, trying tofind who was I anyway.
And I was sitting back One dayin the Lord said to me Moses, my
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servant, is dead, and thatsentence he said, to put my
husband's name there.
But he has work for me.
And I began to emerge from thegrave of grief, the grave of who
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I thought I would die, you know, or be raptured from.
And I became, through intensestudies, worship, understanding,
even therapy, finding who I was.
And one of the things thathelped me greatly was finding
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those things that God said aboutme.
What was I called to do?
How was I called to influence?
What was I called to influence.
How was I to live outside ofwho I was?
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That's one of my stories ofemerging.
I found that the gift ofdeliverance, which is what all
emerging is, is being deliveredfrom a place to impact the world
, of what god intended with hisfingers when he fearfully and
wonderfully put his hands on us.
When his hands were on usbefore we were anything, we were
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a purpose, and so getting tothose points by investigating
and taking deep, soulful divesinto us is how we emerge into
being what we're called to be,and that's where we make the
most impact.
We make the most impact when weknow our purpose and everything
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we do is knitted together inknowing our purpose of why we
were created.
Belinda Gaston (24:34):
Thank you for your transparency and sharing
that.
I've heard bits and pieces ofthat story, that portion of your
story, your journey, before,but I don't think I've heard it
in that way, and I am indeedmoved and also inspired, because
I think that you'vedemonstrated why emerging is so
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important.
Had you not emerged from thatplace, all the women who have
been impacted, all the leaderswho have been impacted through
the Emerge program, would nothave had the opportunity to do
so, and so thank you for sharingthat and for our listeners
asking you this question of whatare those places that are
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impacting your leadership thatyou need to investigate.
That's the word that Cherylused investigate, go deeper in.
One of the things we've talkedabout on another episode is that
, whether you know it or not,leader, these things are
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impacting how you lead, how youtalk to people, how you handle
situations.
All goes back to that deeperplace, and so, cheryl, I'd love
if you could give maybe somepractical tips first, and maybe
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I want to break this down intotwo areas.
So we'll start with the firstarea.
Is what if I'm a listenerleading now and I'm thinking I
need to emerge from some place,from a place, from several
places, or maybe thinking Idon't know if this is me, but
I'm feeling something.
What kind of tips or practicaladvice would you give to that
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person, that leader who is inthe place saying either I don't
know if I need to emerge fromsomeplace, but something here is
resonating with me and I needto emerge, but I don't know
where to start.
Cheryl Singletary (26:48):
Well, the first part, as we have said a
couple of times here, is doingsome root work, root causes of
who you are, because the root iswhere everything springs up
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from right, the root.
So going and doing the dirtywork you know, I mentioned
Harriet Tubman and how she was agreat deliverer and she worked
through dirty systems at night.
Having to deep places, placesthat are underground, is a
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grueling work, becausediscovering you has to begin at
the root.
And so doing some introspectivework, finding what came from
your generation.
We have generational blessingsand we have generational curses,
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but the only way we know how todifferentiate the two is going
deep and finding rooted areas,rooted problems.
We all have them, we all havedysfunction, we all have things
in our roots that we don't wantto talk about, that we don't
want to even see.
So we have to go through those.
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To the dirty work first,beneath the ground, beneath the
skin, and that is going beneathwhat people see, into what only
you see.
Going into walls and rooms ofplaces that you know in our
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house that we keep secret, thecloset full of the everything,
or the drawer full of theeverything that we keep secret.
Going in those places andfinding the things that we are
rooted in.
Once we find the root, weuproot those things, and we do
that through the power of prayer, but also surrendering and
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understanding, saying yes tothis is who I am.
This is who I am, this is whatI've been hiding.
But the Lord gives us grace touncover, not to expose us, but
to free us and to understand whowe are.
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We walk in the truth of who heis.
We walk in the truth.
Knowing the truth makes us free.
So the truth is not our truth,the truth is Jesus.
And in the program, when we getto this point about walking in
truth, you know how we love.
Especially women say this is mytruth and I'm going to stand in
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it.
You know how we love.
Especially women say this is mytruth and I'm going to stand in
it.
Jesus is the way, the truth andlife.
So we have to understand histruth, his word, who he is, who
he made us to gain freedom, toemerge.
Then we find the courage toemerge.
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Then we find the courage.
Courage is a great thing and beencouraged is throughout the
Bible.
A tremendous amount ofscripture starts out with be
encouraged, be encouragedFinding the boldness that comes
in the freedom of knowing whoyou are and standing in that,
you gain courage, you gain themuscles of faith, and then we
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are competent enough to arise.
Let all those things go andemerge victoriously.
So it's processes, and theprocess is all about you.
It's this emerging is agrueling work of sitting back,
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taking off all your hats, allthe things that make you you,
and understanding the God in you, his potential, his breath, his
breath of purpose, allows youto be free.
It gives you a strength, agreat strength, to walk in this
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world and make the impact thatis needed, that you are called
to do.
Belinda Gaston (31:41):
This sounds like a lot of work.
I mean, as a leader, I'mthinking well, we're already
leading the people or theprojects or the things, and now
I'm seeing that, oh, this mightbe a issue for me.
I need to explore, to uncover,to investigate, but I don't know
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if I can do this.
What if somebody say that Idon't know if I can do this and
I don't know if I can do thisalone.
I don't even know if there'stime for this.
What would you say to thatperson?
Cheryl Singletary (32:15):
even know if there's time for this.
What would you say to thatperson?
Well, what happens is, asyou're doing all the things that
you are required to do as aleader whether you're leading a
corporation or leading run intoyourself again.
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Or you run from yourself againthe nights that no one sees you
after you've completed the fifthgrant, or you've completed the
training, or whatever you doafter you've completed ministry,
and you lay in bed and you findout that you are tired,
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withdrawn, really burdened downwith doing it all by yourself,
with the untruth of who you are,by yourself, with the untruth
of who you are.
So is it grueling?
Is it time filled?
Yes, but it's necessary,because you'll run into walls.
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You'll keep running into wallsof tiredness and running from
those things that make you notsleep and trying to please
others.
And really the reason that youwere created again was in that
breath that God gave you.
So finding the purpose that hebreathed his breath in your
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lungs is really finding afreedom to do what he's called
you to do, because you've beenequipped with that.
He put that potential in you.
So I would tell them that yes,it is.
I would agree.
Definitely time consuming,definitely something that takes
(34:14):
time, but the reward isfulfilling.
It's necessary.
It's necessary.
Belinda Gaston (34:27):
I feel like we've heard this before in a
previous episode, when DrStephanie Kirkland talked about
identity.
It's one of those things thatyou don't have a choice not to.
You don't.
And so for those people who aresaying, okay, I'm willing to do
the work, but I don't knowwhere to start, are there
(34:51):
resources that can help peopleget started that can?
Cheryl Singletary (34:54):
help people get started.
Sure, sure.
There's resources, there areall types of venues, practices,
coaches that can help you get tothe true and intended you.
Whatever you're road you take,just understand, whether it's
(35:20):
therapy, whether it's coaching,whether it's setting time to go
through a wonderful program likeEmerged, it is important that
you find someone that can coachyou through.
Find someone that can influenceyou, which is another great
(35:43):
word for impact, because greatleaders understand the humility
and the humbleness of comingunder and serving or being
teachable, being under those ofinfluence, so you can influence
too.
The Bible says that we are to besalt, which is an influenced
(36:09):
thing, and light.
So to burst through and to beinfluenced or to be impactful,
you must first be impacted withthose who have gone through,
those who have gone through thetrail of freedom, those who have
know the way and know how toget you there, through the dark,
(36:32):
through the mud, through placesof discovery, those who have
tread the path themselves.
First, get you a good coach,get you a coach who knows the
Lord, get you a coach whounderstands the scripture, the
word of God, because it's theword of God that fulfills us,
(36:54):
it's our faith, it's ourunderstanding of faith,
understanding the truth of whoGod is.
That helps us understand that Iam, of who we are.
So get your coach.
Find a program.
I would love for you to findEmerge, but find a program that
will help you find you and findthe potential that collides with
(37:20):
purpose and influence, who youwill be in the earth.
Belinda Gaston (37:28):
Thank you for that.
I think that you have said itall, I know, but I highly
recommend the Emerge program andwe'll share that information in
a minute.
But, cheryl, I think thatyou've given us a lot to think
about, I think, as listeners.
I'm sure that there's at leastone person and that's what we're
trying to do here at Grace toLead is to if there's just one
(37:49):
person that's impacted.
That's what we want, and so Ibelieve there's at least one
person right now thinking man.
Cheryl has put into wordseverything I've been feeling,
and now I'm ready to emerge, andso, before I ask you to share
anything you have going on andhow people can connect with you,
I do want to give you anopportunity to share any final
(38:12):
thoughts.
You have shared quite a bit, sothere may not be more to say,
but do you have any finalthoughts or anything you'd like
to leave with the audiencebefore we say our farewell?
Cheryl Singletary (38:30):
Absolutely.
I want to talk just brieflyabout God given framework in
helping people emerge, givenframework in helping people
emerge.
And it actually came from adream.
It came from a dream and I wokeup from the dream and the Lord
(38:50):
said to me I call you Sharus,and I was just like I know that
has to be some type of Hebrewword or something.
What in the world is shawroots?
And I found out that the wordshawroots it means gold, yellow
(39:16):
gold, and it talks about therefinement of becoming and how
you have to go through therefiner's fire or go through
understanding, burning off whatwas, and becoming what God
called you in and called youforth.
(39:36):
From that, just from that word,just from that meeting, is how
Emerge Women's Mentorship camethrough, and it's from a
Charut's framework.
And those framework includeclarity, holistic development,
(40:00):
action planning, resilience,understanding self and others,
and transformational learningand support network.
That's the framework of findingyourself, the framework of
getting clarity of how to move,whether it's corporately,
(40:24):
whether it's spiritually, how tomove with what you are made,
understanding the clarity,holistic development, action
planning, resilience, building,understanding self and others,
and then transformationallearning.
And I wanted to say that isbecause this framework, although
(40:48):
it was God-given and framed inthis word.
For me, those essential thingsare paramount in helping you
rise to what you're called to be.
Belinda Gaston (41:00):
So, please, please, please, find you a great
coach that can help you, andI'll plug here that Cheryl is a
great coach.
So, cheryl, tell us how peoplecan connect with you and if
(41:22):
there's anything else you'd liketo share that you're working on
.
But how can people reach youand how can people connect with
you?
Cheryl Singletary (41:29):
Well, in order to, to go to the website,
at bitly forward slash, womenplural emerge and there you'll
(41:53):
find out all that you want toknow about our program.
We're excited.
We take 12 women at a time sowe can make sure that we're
spending time with you.
12 women, 12 weeks, 12 emergingprinciples, where potential
collides meets with purpose.
That's how you can reach me forthe program.
(42:15):
Our summer session starts andit's full, but our winter
session starts September 9th,but our winter session starts
December the 2nd and there arepeople waiting there.
So what I would do if I wereyou is go ahead, say I'm ready,
(42:37):
pay for your winter classes,because I'm telling you as soon
as it's open.
I hardly get to open.
I'm on my second core cohortand by the time it's time for me
to open registration, it's full.
So go there, get in a good,godly led program that will help
(42:58):
you rise and come forth.
Belinda Gaston (43:03):
Do you have another place that people can
reach you?
Cheryl Singletary (43:06):
Yes, you can reach me on Facebook under my
name, cheryl Singletary.
That's Cheryl with a CS-I-N-G-L-E-T-A-R-Y, and you can
also meet me over on my page,dreamer of Dreams, and I'm also
(43:27):
on Instagram as the Dream Girl Ithink Dream Girl, and I'm also
on TikTok.
All of your social mediaplatforms I am on, but my
favorite places to meet you atis Cheryl Singletary, facebook,
(43:51):
and then, of course, through mywebsite, women Emerge Mentorship
Program Amen.
Belinda Gaston (43:59):
Excellent.
Thank you, and for ourlisteners, I will place all of
the ways that you can connectwith Cheryl, including the
information about the WomenEmerge Mentoring Program.
Again, the fall session hasalready filled up to capacity.
It starts in September, but shealso has a winter session
(44:20):
starting December 2nd, that youcan actually go on to that site
and, if you're interested, goahead and secure your spot now
before it fills up.
12 Women is a very intimategroup, and so you can imagine
that they fill up quickly.
Cheryl, I just want to say thankyou so much for the wisdom and
(44:42):
transparency that you gave ustoday.
I think that those of us wholead are probably leaving this
conversation thinking about haveI emerged fully and wholly and,
if not, what kind of work do Ineed to do to get to that place?
(45:03):
And because, as leaders, we allwant to stand and we all want
to breathe, and I think emerging, as you've described it, is the
way to do it.
So thank you for your timetoday with our Graced to Lead
podcast and our listeners, andso for our listeners, thank you.
(45:26):
Remember you can always contactus if you're listening on the
podcast, if you're listening onthe Buzzsprout page, you can
actually text me and it comesdirectly to me, but you can also
contact me through the Gracedto Lead page and that
information is listed in thedescription box.
And finally, just remember thatwe are here every week.
(45:49):
Last week we had some technicaldifficulties.
I did get your messages.
Thank you for checking, but weare back and, as always,
remember you are indeed grace tolead.
Until we speak again next week,have a wonderful week and a
very blessed day.
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