September 5, 2024 • 42 mins
Ever found yourself overwhelmed by a big idea and didn't know where to start? This episode is your roadmap to transforming dreams into reality! Join me, Belinda Gaston, as we celebrate the final episode of our first season with the incredible Britt Knight, my podcast coach and strategist. Together, we reflect on our journey from the podcast's inception to reaching this significant milestone. Britt shares her invaluable expertise on creating tailored strategies that align with individual visions, especially for women leaders. You'll gain practical insights on turning your great ideas into successful projects and the importance of influence and leadership.
What are the common pitfalls when implementing a new idea, and how can you navigate them successfully? Britt and I dive into the nuts and bolts of overcoming obstacles, emphasizing the power of writing down ideas, conducting thorough research, and breaking tasks into manageable pieces to avoid feeling overwhelmed. We introduce the WAVE acronym, a biblical metaphor for the challenges women in leadership often face, and offer actionable advice on setting clear goals and seeking support from a coach. This episode is packed with wisdom to help you stay on course and achieve your goals.
Authenticity and divine guidance are the cornerstones of this episode. We discuss the importance of clarity on who you want to help and why, and the value of saying no to external pressures in favor of staying true to your passion. As we wrap up, we provide practical steps for moving from idea to implementation: take small, actionable steps, maintain a clear vision, and engage with like-minded communities. This heartfelt conversation will inspire you to lead authentically and effectively, all while grounding your endeavors in faith and purpose.
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Belinda Gaston (00:08):
Welcome to the Graced to Lead podcast.
I'm Belinda Gaston, your host,and listen.
If you are a Christian womanwho leads at work, in your own
business or even in ministry,you are in the right place.
Here.
You'll find practical adviceand encouragement as you lead
through real conversations thatwill challenge and inspire you.
So join me on this journey tobecoming better leaders God's
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way.
Are you ready?
Let the journey begin.
Welcome to the Graced to Leadpodcast.
I am Belinda Gasson, your host,and listen.
This is a very special episode.
This is our last episode of thefirst season.
And listen, this is a veryspecial episode.
This is our last episode of thefirst season.
Now, before you go crazy, herewe are coming back with our
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season two, bigger and Better.
But this is a celebration,y'all, because I started this
podcast really being obedient toGod, not knowing what I've been
doing and trying to figure allof these things out, and God has
just placed some great peoplein my life to help support me.
Those of you who are mylisteners, who've been
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consistently listening.
You've given me feedback andI'm going to take that feedback
and make things better for thesecond season.
But this is episode 20 of theGraced to Lead podcast and in
our 20 episodes we have had, atleast as of today, of this
recording.
So by the time this airs, thisnumber may have changed, but we
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have had 600 downloads, 106cities in three countries across
this world, and I, for one, amgrateful.
I am so excited and so thankyou, thank you.
Thank you for all of you whohave supported me and the Graced
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to Lead podcast, and today Ithink it's only fitting that I
have someone special as my finalguest for this season.
This woman has beeninstrumental in coaching me
through the podcast experience,and so today we're not only
going to talk to her about kindof how she supported me, but
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also she is the ultimatestrategist and she is great at
helping folks get from idea tostrategy and implementation, and
so I am excited to have her.
Please welcome Britt Knight tothe show.
Now let me tell you about Brittbefore I welcome her.
Listen.
Britt is a digital coach, she'sa speaker, she's an influencer,
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she is the queen of strategyand she has a passion for
guiding individuals in theirunique social media journey.
Since about 2016, she'simmersed herself in the online
world and teaching and bloggingand podcast hosting and
community building, reachingover 100,000 people across
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social media platforms, which isamazing.
As an influencer, she's had theopportunity to collaborate with
multi-million dollar beautybrands such as Anastasia,
beverly Hills, juvia's Place,covergirl and many more.
From green rooms to Graced,she's assisted behind the scenes
for stage and video productions.
Rooms to Graced Laird, she'sassisted behind the scenes for
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stage and video productions,transitioning from being the
teacher to becoming the studentand cherishing every lesson
along the way.
Now she is taking all of thosethings and the skills and tools
and tips that she's acquiredthrough her many years of
experience and she's taken theminto the coaching space and
she's had the privilege ofreally coaching a diverse range
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of clients.
She has coached everyone, fromathletes, mindset coaches, real
estate investors, food bloggersand cosmetic brand owners.
Her approach is really aboutcreating a tailored path that
aligns with your vision anddeveloping custom plans that fit
you.
That for my listeners.
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That's the part that was mostbeneficial to me.
I didn't have to do whateveryone else is doing.
So now, Graced to Leadlisteners, if you would do me a
favor and virtually welcome mycoach, my friend, my prayer
partner, my oh my goodness, mystrategizer, queen of strategies
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here, ms Britt Knight, to theGraced to Lead podcast.
Welcome, britt.
Britt Knight (04:36):
Hello, I have been behaving so much and trying to
keep all my sounds and thethings to myself, but hey, thank
you so much for having me onhere and I've been just like
silently clapping witheverything that you've been
accomplishing.
Belinda Gaston (04:52):
So thank you for having me on here.
I'm so excited.
I am excited too, and I thinkif you would have asked me in
April or I think we started ourprocess actually in February
thinking through like I think Iwant to do this podcast.
This is what God has put in myheart.
I don't know anything aboutthis space, I don't want to
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necessarily do this, but I feelled to do this till now.
I just am amazed at what God isdoing.
You know, here's the thingleaders, we talked about this in
the very beginning.
As a leader, your influencematters and for me, being able
to influence 600 people whetherthey are influenced in the space
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of confidence in theirleadership, isolation in their
leadership, all of the thingsleading well, all of those
topics that we talked about thisseason for me that matters.
And so, britt, you came alongwhen I had this idea and you
encouraged me and you got mestarted and listen for my
listeners.
It was literally just an idea.
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I didn't.
I had I think I had a title.
Did I have a title?
Yet I don't know if I even hada title, britt, did I?
Not officially, but when we hadthe conversations, Graced was
something that is.
I know that was very much onyour heart, and leading was
something also very much on yourheart, and we, like you, came
up with the idea of Graced tolead and I said, oh, that's it,
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that's magnified like exactlywhat you're talking about.
Yeah, so let's start whatyou're talking about.
Yeah, so let's start at thebeginning.
Here In the coaching space,people come to you with the goal
right and they say this is whatI want to do, and sometimes
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it's hard to get started, and soI'd love for us to start there.
Can you start with giving folksan idea of where they should
start if they have a great idea?
Let's say, you have a greatidea for a podcast or business
or whatever leaders do, all thethings in leaders' hands.
Where should they start?
Britt, I would say honestly,the first thing it sounds really
simple is literally to write itout.
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I'm a big fan of brain dumpingand mind mapping Because I think
sometimes, especially when youare someone that is creative or
you get those kind of ideas, theidea can be so large.
It kind of seems like, okay, Ihave this idea, but I have no
idea how in the world I couldpull it off, or you can see it
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going in so many differentroutes and directions.
So I would say the first thingto do is, when you get that kind
of idea, just grab a notebook,grab your notes out of your
phone, voice, memo it, anythingthat you can do to capture it
write it down, that everythingthat's coming to your mind in
that moment, get it out, so thatwhen you have everything out,
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you can look at it or you canlisten to it and you can
actually see, okay, what are thethings in this moment that I
actually have the ability to do,like, what are the things that
I'm writing down that are reallyspeaking to me the most?
Because sometimes we can have alot of things that we want to
do, but of course, we can't doall the things in that exact
moment.
So what are the pieces for methat are most important that
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stick out to me and that I thinkthe people that I'm trying to
talk to are going to really need?
And then from there we canstart pulling and we can start
building, and then those otherthings can maybe come on
eventually.
But let's start with the coreof it and then we can develop it
from there.
That's a great point.
I think in this process a lot oftimes, particularly if you have
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a great idea, you have so muchin your head and it's like you
feel overwhelmed, and I thinkthat might be part of why people
never really move, and so yourfirst tip for us is to write it
down.
Is there another tip that youcan share?
For when you have this greatidea, where should you start?
I would say start to research.
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Honestly and I know that's kindof like a bad, a dirty word
sometimes like cause, it takes,it takes work.
But if there's something thatyou're wanting to do, see if
there's things out there thatare already kind of similar to
it.
Find out what you like aboutwhat you see there, like what
would you?
What would you tweak?
Like what would you dodifferently?
That would be something elsethat I would.
That I would do as well.
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Yeah, those are great strategies, and so we write it down, we do
our research, we finalize kindof this is where we want to do,
and then the next thing isreally our implementation of it,
and I think this is wherepeople fall short how we go from
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this I have the idea toimplementation.
Are there things we need tokeep in mind as we go from idea
to implementation.
Yes, so one of the ways that Ilike to look at it because I say
I try to create a roadmap foryou.
So, like you have the idea, youhave the vision of it.
So then it's about reallygetting kind of clarity behind
it, like, what are the solutionsthat you want to achieve for
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the people that you're reachingto?
What is the mission for it?
What are the values?
Again, who is it actually thatyou are trying to reach?
If you don't know, and why?
How do you want to show up forit?
Are you someone that wouldprefer to present as a speaker,
someone that would show up as acommunity builder in online
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spaces?
How do you want to show up?
So, get clarity on that first,and then the strategies can
start coming behind it, and thatcould be like okay, well, what
are my goals going to be?
What do I want to talk about?
What are the themes, what arethe topics for it?
Like, how do I then begin toengage with people?
Like, what is my content goingto look like?
How will I show up?
Where will I show up?
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Like it's so many differentkinds of things and I think
again, that's where it can startleading into the overwhelm.
So the biggest thing I wouldsay is, when it comes to doing
that, really just take it pieceby piece.
Don't allow yourself to getoverwhelmed.
And that's one of the thingsthat that we were working on,
cause we would I think we spentthe first maybe three sessions,
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um, just really just defining,like, okay, what is what is this
?
Um, you know, like, cause wewere talking about.
First we were talking about thewe actually the podcast wasn't
even the first thing, cause wewere talking about potentially
doing like five minute livesections.
And then we were talking about,okay, well, maybe we can start
doing the blogging again.
And you know, and there was afew different ways that we
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approached it, and so werealized, okay, maybe the
podcast actually is the way todo it, because you have a lot to
say, you're very articulate,you pull on things really well,
you have great conversations andyou're very passionate about it
and you have the people in yoursurroundings that you can pull
to get that information and havethose kinds of conversations.
So, yeah, it is, but firstthings first, you have to have
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clarity.
So, yeah, it is, but firstthings first, you have to have
clarity, and I think that's thevalue, I think, of having a
coach, and we'll maybe talkabout some ways that people can
be supported through thisprocess.
But sometimes it's difficultfor us to get clarity on our own
and you go through one path andthen it's not working and
you're like, oh, I have to startover when.
If you had that clarity fromthe beginning, maybe your road
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would be a little easier.
Can we talk a little bit aboutsome of the pitfalls, because
you said something that reallystuck out with me, and that's
the feeling of overwhelm.
Us who are starting somethingnew, whether they are starting a
new leadership position orstarting a new business or a new
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ministry or something new, somekind of new effort.
I would say that overwhelm,particularly for women who lead,
is probably one of the biggesthurdles to overcome, and so
there are some things, I'm sure,that lead to that, and you said
that lack of clarity is one ofthem.
But are there other pitfalls toour implementation as we go
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from idea to strategy toimplementation?
Are there other things that youcan think of that would be
considered pitfalls orchallenges that we have to
overcome in this process?
Yeah, yeah, so I'm going to.
I'm going to go just a littlebiblical for a second, if that's
okay.
That's fine, that's fine.
So the way, the way that itstarted kind of coming to me
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right Was I was thinking aboutthe, the disciples, like after
they had, you know, fed, the fed, the, the masses, and they were
getting in the boat and theywere going to be crossing over
to go to the next place that youknow, that Jesus had told them
to go to.
And as they were there, youknow, they faced the storm and
there was like all these, youknow, like just the waves and
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the wind and just all this, this, that was that was surrounding
them and they were trying tofollow these directions that
were given to them.
But it's like, how do they keeppushing forward?
And as I was thinking aboutthat and I was reading on it,
the father gave me this downloadof WAVES as an acronym.
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So the things that can hinder us, especially as we are trying to
push forward, like we don'twant to stop it, there's
hindrances, there's pitfalls,there's obstacles in the way.
So for W, it would be thatthere's wavering.
So we may not necessarily beentirely sure.
Like okay, well, I'm not surehow to do this.
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Like oh, I think I've seenother people doing things like
this before Like I don't know ifthis is really the right
decision for me?
Should I even be doingsomething like this?
And we begin to waver and thatcan hold us back.
And then there's alienation,where maybe we have tried to do
these types of things before onour own, or we've stepped out in
other ventures and you know,and we either were were hurt by
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someone, we were let down bysomeone, we were on a team and
it felt like, oh, I'm the onlyone that's holding everything up
and I don't want to go throughthat again, or it could be
anything that separates us andmakes us feel that we have to do
it on our own and the thoughtof doing that is just too much
and we just step away like Ican't do that again.
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Then there's vacillation and Ifeel like for me, this is, this
is the biggest one, because it'slike I have so many ideas.
I could do this, I could dothis, maybe I could do this.
This is where the clarity comesfrom.
I could be doing this, I couldbe doing this, I could be doing
this.
Well, but maybe if I starteddoing this, but well, what's
going to happen?
But then how am I going to beable to reach these people?
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Because I need and you havelike all of these thoughts that
continue to like just kind of gothrough your mind and there's
so much.
It's just like I can't thinkabout this right now.
I can't do this.
And instead of picking like theone thing because sometimes I
feel like when we pick the onething, we feel like we're not
doing enough because we have somany things that we want to get
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done Like no, I can't focus onjust this one, because I have
this whole.
I have this whole thing.
I got to get taken care of.
So there's, yes, I think Ithink we need to pause for a
second, because this is a lot ofwisdom here.
Britt Knight (16:24):
I want to Sorry.
Belinda Gaston (16:25):
Oh my goodness, no, no, no.
This is really good.
This is why you're the greatest.
So I think I want to go backand unpack the first, a couple
of the first ones, before we getinto the E.
So we talked about wavering andwhat happens, and that really
is kind of tied to clarity, andso I think for our listeners,
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one of the keys it sounds likehere is clarity, clarity,
clarity whether you do that byyourself or whether you do that
you know, in your own personaltime, or whether you get a coach
.
Clarity is important aboutalienation, and we talked about
isolation and loneliness inleading, and I think it's
important to pull that out,britt, because whenever you do
something new, it can make youfeel like you're the only one,
and so that alienation is big.
But this last one ofvacillation, britt, oh my
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goodness.
Britt Knight (17:23):
What is?
Belinda Gaston (17:24):
it that you think why do you think that is?
I mean, we're going to get tothe end, I promise, but I want
to pause.
I feel like we need to pausefor a minute, because
vacillation is something thathappens.
And you said it's like, youfeel like, but it's not enough.
Like, where do you think thatcomes from for women who leave
when it's?
I just can't do this.
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I can't put my focus on thisone thing.
I have to multitask, I have todo all these things.
Where do you think that comesfrom?
The thing that keeps screamingto me is just perfectionism.
It's just, it's perfectionism.
I think we really do.
We have this, this vision ofwhat it is that we're wanting to
, what we're wanting to achieve,what we're wanting to build.
We're thinking about, like allthese people that we want to
help, and it's kind of like,well, if I don't do this right
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now, like how am I ever going toget?
How am I going to get that?
Like we put this pressure on usthat wasn't intended to, that
wasn't intended to to be there.
And I think sometimes, like wejust we just kind of feel like,
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if we're not again, maybe thisand this is just my thoughts I'm
going to school to be aChristian counselor, but this is
, yeah, you get it.
But I don't know.
I just feel like sometimes wejust don't think that the little
things are enough.
But you know, like what is theverse don't despise, don't
despise small get.
Yeah, like we're.
You know, we're always tolddon't despise small beginnings.
And I mean we're always tolddon't despise small beginnings.
And I mean, if it's in the word, then there's a reason why.
Because it's something that wedo deal with.
Like we think that if it'ssmall, then we're never going to
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see the fruit from it.
Like, if we plant the seedwe're never gonna see it
actually grow.
Or we know, eventually we willsee it grow, but like we maybe
don't have the patience to seethe fruition of it, you know.
So I don't know, maybe it's,maybe that's why, like it's, the
little things sometimes justaren't enough for us.
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Like we want to actually seethe results of all the work that
we're putting in.
Yeah, yeah, perfectionism,that's good.
So we've got.
We're talking about waves.
You said the W was for wavering,the A is for alienation, the V
is for vacillation.
Now let's get to this E.
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What does that stand for?
Okay, so the E is error andfeel like we're going to get
into it and we're going to.
We're going to mess up, we'regoing to do it wrong.
We're going to get into it andwe're gonna mess up, we're gonna
do it wrong.
We're gonna think about themistakes that we made in the
past not because of anybody else, just the mistakes that we made
.
We're gonna think about the waythat we tried before and it
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failed.
Maybe the way that we tried todo something and the people
around us made us feel bad.
It's like, see, I told you, Itold you what was going to
happen if you try to do this,maybe just feeling that I should
be doing this, I should bedoing this, but it's not working
right.
It's not.
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People aren't, the peoplearen't coming, the numbers
aren't where they're supposed tobe, like, so I must be doing
something wrong.
I see how they're doing this,so if they're doing it, I'm not
understanding.
Maybe this isn't what I'msupposed to be doing right now,
you know.
So I think that's.
That's another, another factorof it.
We're just.
There's this fear of droppingthe ball of feet, the fear of
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not being successful, successful, the fear of, like I'm going to
start helping these people, butI'm not going to be able to
maintain it and I'm going todrop it.
The fear that I'm not going tobe able to steward this well
enough.
So I'm not even going to putthat responsibility on me and
I'm just going to step away andI'll let somebody else take care
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of it.
So yeah, so wavering alienation, isolation and error.
So yeah, so wavering alienation, isolation and error.
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I'm pausing intentionallybecause I think that you've hit
some things that we allexperience in our leadership
journey, whether we're startingsomething new or whether we're
going throughout our routine forlack of a better term
leadership experiences, and Ithink when you have an idea and
you're excited about it and youwant to implement it, it's
really easy to fall into one ofthese spaces and then just stay
there.
So I am grateful that youshared that.
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So the WAVE acronym, I think,is something that is very
valuable, that we can take withus, and so that's about showing
up for yourself.
It's about making sure that youhave things in place to keep
you from blocking in this space,and I'll just share
transparently and I would lovefor you to share a time when you
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may have dealt with this, britt, but I remember a point in my
podcast journey in this firstseason where I was really
excited because I think I had150 downloads, right.
I was so excited and I sharedthat with someone and they said,
well, that's really small.
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You know, the top podcasts havethousands and thousands and
thousands of downloads.
I mean, they get 2,500downloads in a week.
You know, you're not, that'sreally really small.
And I almost felt like, well,gosh, you know, there's nothing.
And I stopped talking about thenumbers.
I literally would get thereports and just stop talking
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about it.
And I had a session with youwhere I was.
We were kind of going throughplanning for the rest of the.
I think it was towards my lastsession with you.
We were planning the.
We were the halfway mark and Isaid, yeah, I've reached this
number of people.
And you were so excited.
You were like, oh my gosh,that's so great.
That's great.
I mean the way you werecheering.
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I was like and I don't know ifyou even remember saying this,
but what you said to me is youthat's, if you imagine that,
being in a room, that's like 150people in a room and I thought,
wow, wow, do you remembersaying that to me?
Britt Knight (23:32):
I vaguely remember that, but I was like wow that's
good.
Belinda Gaston (23:36):
It's like it's essentially as if I there were
150 people in the room and theyheard something and listened all
the way through, because that'sthe other thing.
It's listening all the waythrough for 30 or 40 minutes to
find value in what was said.
And so I think, when it comesto even this concept of errors,
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it's as if we are focused onmaking those small beginnings oh
, it's terrible, it's not enoughwithout really chanking it into
perspective.
That's 150 people more than Iwould have been able to reach on
my own in another way, right?
And so when I say I'm excitedabout where we are right now and
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again, this episode has an air.
Maybe that'll give us a fewmore folks.
It's because I know that theimpact matters, right.
And so, britt, can you share,because you're the
extraordinaire here, you're thestrategy extraordinaire.
I mean, you know how to do this, you know the mechanics behind
it.
You help with, you know brandsfrom cosmetics to athletics.
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Have you ever personally had atime and please, only share what
you're comfortable with buthave you personally had a time
where you experienced any one ofthese in your wave acronym and,
if so, can you tell us how youovercame that, how you move
forward Continuously?
Continuously, honestly, I havebeen in it for the last,
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probably like the I want to saythe last several months, but
maybe like the last year.
Because what I do now becauseyou read my bio, like I was in a
completely different, differentarea, you know, different
industry.
I was doing things with beautyand the lives, teaching, doing
all the things, and I was doingreally, really well with that.
And so when I made this shiftto actually go into the coaching
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and I do the ministry aspect ofas well, it was different for
me and people were seeing me inthis new light and they were,
you know, seeing me speakdifferently, speaking about
things differently.
I wasn't as vulnerable andtransparent on the other side of
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things as I was now and becausepeople began to see me speaking
in a different way, of course,I mean, you know, some people
understood, some people didn't,and that was great and that was
something else that I had tolearn how to accept.
But it also, with that came thewell-intentioned wisdom of how
I should be moving and therewould be people that would give
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advice about well, maybe youshould do this Well, if you're
doing social media, maybe youshould be doing this, you should
be.
Oh, maybe you should do this.
Well, if you're doing socialmedia, maybe you should be doing
this you should be doing, maybeyou should go into marketing,
maybe you should go intomanagement, maybe you should be
doing this.
And to me, I knew I was like,well, I don't really feel like
one that I have the capacity todo that One, I don't think that
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I would really enjoy it, like,yes, it's something that
technically I could do.
I didn't understand and itsounds silly, but I didn't
understand that I had the choiceto say no, and so I would take
on everybody's idea.
So that was for me.
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It was the vacillation.
I was like, okay, well, I couldbe doing this.
Well, maybe let me create aplan for how this would look,
because I'm really good at doingthings like that too, like
creating ideas, creating plans,like structuring out the way it
could look, like creating likepackages and all the different
type of things.
So I could do it and I thinkthat's another thing really
quick as well, I think,sometimes, because we think we
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can do it, it's what we shouldbe doing, it's what we should be
doing in that moment, but it'snot what I really wanted to do.
But I was kind of in this modeof well, if they think I can do
it and I know that I can do itmaybe I should be doing it.
So for me, it took learning howto say no.
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What do I have the capacity for?
What do I have the actual driveand passion for?
If I do this for someone, am Igoing to be able to do this for
the long run?
Is this something that I couldsee myself doing for the long
run?
Or would I tire out, burn outand again with that stewardship,
not stewarded?
So for me, that's what it isand that's what I've been
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dealing with.
I've gotten to the point nowwhere I have the clarity on who
it is that I want to talk to inthis capacity.
Who it is that I want to talkto when it comes in this
capacity.
Who it is that I want to talkto, who my ideal like clientele,
like, or your what do we say?
Your avatars, like, like allthe, the business lingo, like.
I have an understanding of that, but I understand also why it
is that I want to help them andI think by understanding that,
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that helped me to move pastthose obstacles.
And so now, if an opportunitypresents itself and maybe it's
something in line with what Iused to do.
I know that thank you, butthat's not for me anymore.
Or thank you, that's not whereI am anymore.
Or if someone wants to ask mesomething that is within the
online realm, but it's notsomething that I particularly
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work in, I can say I appreciatethe thought, thank you for
considering, but that's notsomething that I do right now
and maybe I can refer to someoneelse.
So I think, again it's back toclarity.
Again, you have to have theclarity and understanding what
it is that you want to do, whatyou have the passion to do, what
you have the capacity to do.
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You want to do what you havethe passion to do, what you have
the capacity to do, and I think, once you understand those
things, that will help to moveit through.
I do have another wave, but Ican give it to you at a later
moment and that actually it fitsinto moving past the obstacles,
into moving forward.
I would love to hear the secondwave that you have as well.
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This idea of well well, I thinkyou called it well intentioned
wisdom is something that I thinkwe can really get caught up in
receiving other people's advice,especially if it's someone that
we admire.
They have experience in aparticular area, they know us
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well air quote know us well.
It's easy for us to yield totheir well-intentioned wisdom.
And what I hear you saying isno, you don't have to do that.
You can receive that and maybepark it for another time.
But what is it that God istelling you to do?
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What is it that you have thecapacity to do, and what is your
passion and purpose in thismoment?
You may be really good atwriting stories, but right now,
your passion could be incoaching other people and
writing their story right, andso you can.
Somebody would come and comealong and say, hey, you need to
(30:38):
get those stories writtenbecause those can be monetized
really easily.
And you're thinking, oh well,this is a good, yeah, I should
do that.
Or would you follow yourpassion and help other people?
And I think that that's areally good wisdom nugget for
our listeners.
And then the other thing isjust recognizing that you can be
good at something, but it maynot be what you're supposed to
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be doing in this season.
That's a part of the stretchingand the growing process, so I
would love for you to tell usthe second wave, so give us a
second wave, britt.
So the first wave was aboutovercoming the obstacles with
implementation.
You talked about wavering, youtalked about alienation, and
it's what is seeking the wisdomof the father, and then also it.
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I'm not saying that we cannotgo to people for wisdom, because
, you know, the Bible speaks somuch about wisdom and counsel,
you know, and and going to,going to people.
So I think, with wisdom, it'sabout knowing who you trust,
going to them, letting them know.
Hey, these are my thoughts,these are my frustrations.
This is what I'm working onright now.
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What do you think?
This is where I'm stuck andgoing to them, receiving the
wisdom you know, and, as yousaid, then you have to make the
choice.
You have to make the decision.
Okay, is this something that Iam going to receive?
Is this something that I amgoing to receive?
Is this something that is awell intentioned wisdom?
Is this something that I canuse to implement right now?
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Is this something that I maynot be able to actually
implement at the time, but, asyou said, I can write it down, I
can put it on the shelf.
So seek out wisdom when you arestuck, when you're facing those
hindrances.
The next one is action.
How can you take action in thismoment?
It doesn't have to be a bigpicture action, it doesn't have
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to go into that.
Okay, I've got this huge thingI want to do.
Let me jump on 50 millionthings.
Let me write down a list of 20things I can take care of right
now.
Sometimes a single action isall you need.
It's like a single phone call,Like I said, the research
looking to see how you can begin.
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How is something structured?
Okay, if you know you'rewanting to start a business,
okay, what does getting an LLClook like?
What does it require?
Who are coaches that focus onthis particular thing?
So, yeah, so the second one istaking action.
The third one is the vision, andthat really is like what is the
vision that you have?
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What does it look like?
And I think it's important tounderstand the vision because,
again, sometimes you have, youcan be someone that gets a
vision and as you are thinkingabout it, you see, like all
these sprouts starting to,starting to shoot out from it,
and you see all these differentthings that the single, the
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vision that you have initially,what it could become.
So then, instead of focusing onthis.
You start focusing on this andstart focusing on this.
No, let's begin with where youhave, let's begin with that idea
and then from there, if itgrows, if we start seeing the
blooms, that's amazing, that'swonderful.
I'm happy for you.
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But you're not going to get thesprouts without the vine, okay.
So let's start there first.
And then the third one is engage.
Are there communities that havesimilar interests to you, where
you can see how people arecommunicating about the things
that you're interested in?
How can you begin to engage andthis is a big thing with the
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alienation, so you don't feellike you are alone Are there
mentorship groups?
Are there communities out there?
What are the ways that you canbegin to engage, so you're not
putting yourself in this littlebox all by yourself, but you're
like that, you're expanding andreaching out.
So that's the second wave.
Thank you for sharing that.
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I think both waves are exactlywhat we need as we think about
going from an idea, a creativeidea, into implementation and
making that thing a reality.
So thank you, thank you, thankyou for sharing that.
Before we move on, I just wantto know if there are, if there's
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any final thoughts that youhave, as we've had this.
This has been an amazingconversation, but are there any
final thoughts you want to giveour listeners on moving from
idea into implementation orovercoming roadblocks in
implementation?
Yeah, I mean honestly, I wouldsay that it's so cliche like I
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almost hesitate saying it.
But, in whatever you choose todo, just do it in a way that is
authentic, in a way that getsthe numbers, in a way that it
gets the views and all thosethings.
And we seek to imitate it or toreplicate it.
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Not get inspiration from it tosee how you would do it, but
literally to go in and say, okay, well, I'm going to do it this
way because that's how peopleseem to resonate, this is what
they seem to go to.
So do it authentically and thisis what they seem to go to.
So do it authentically, truly,I mentioned it earlier.
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But make sure that, as you areseeking to move from strategy to
implementation, that what youare moving towards you have a
passion for.
It's not something that you arejust kind of like, oh yeah, I
could do this, because, yeah,you could do it, but how long
are you gonna do it?
Is it something that you arejust kind of like, oh yeah, I
could do this because, yeah, youcould do it, but how long are
you going to do it?
Is it something that you wakeup wanting to do?
Is it something that you wakeup to and you're like and you
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get excited about it?
Is this something that you havea notebook full of just kind of
different ideas and mind mapsand things like that?
Do you have, like, the passionand the strategy?
I mean, do you have the passionand the desire to actually do
this?
And then why, understanding thewhys behind it it's so important
?
It's so important because youwant to make sure that you're
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doing it for purpose.
I feel like so often people getinto something either because
they think it's the popularthing to do, it's a, it's an
easy way to to monetize, it willbring the followers in, it can
give you a good recognizablename and brand.
But yeah, I just, I just thinkit's so important to understand
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the why, because when you dothat, it will keep you from
straying off course.
I think it's so important tounderstand the why because when
you do that, it will keep youfrom straying off course.
I think that that is wherewe'll end this conversation,
britt.
Thank you so much for sharingyour wisdom.
It has been amazing.
I know our listeners want toknow what you're up to and how
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to reach you and all of thethings.
So can you share anything you'dlike us to know about what
you're doing, as well as howpeople can reach you?
Yeah, so I can be reached on mywebsite.
It is authentically-britcom.
That's where you can find me todo coaching.
I do one-on-one coaching.
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I also do what's called ameetup.
I haven't done them for a while, but I'm going to be starting
those back up again and meetupis where, once a month, we get
together and it's a group ofabout five to six of us.
And if there's something thatyou're working on, that you're
stuck, that you needbreakthrough, that you need
clarity on, we work in sessionsthat go from about three to four
hours at a time.
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We figure out what the block is, we do actual work while we're
in there, we break, we come back, we do all the things.
So that is something that I doas well, and also because I'm so
passionate about seeing peopleget away from that place of
being stuck, because there's somuch good that we can do if we
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can just get past that block.
So another way that I havestarted to begin to push people
is actually just making theresources available so they can
push.
So locally in my area, ifyou're in the Louisville
Kentucky area or SouthernIndiana area, I have actually
opened up a content creationstudio.
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You can use it for podcasting,you can use it for team meetings
, for client meetings, you cando it for live streaming.
If you're a photographer, ithas backdrops that you can do,
photography in product shots,like as many things as I can
think of off the top of my headthat you would need to do
content creation for the spacesavailable.
(39:38):
So, yeah, those are the thingsthat I am doing right now and
I'm just I'm so excited.
Thank you for having me on hereagain.
Thank you for being my partnerand for our listeners.
All of the information thatBritt just shared I will put in
the show's notes in thedescription box under the
episode, so you'll be able toget those and listen.
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Britt, I just have to saypublicly that and I am not going
to cry, see, I'm looking awayfrom you I have to say publicly
that the Graced to Lead podcastwould not exist had God not
partnered us together, becauseit really was this idea I felt
led to do I wasn't quite sure ifthis was it and you walked with
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me, held my hand and took methrough all of the waves the
wave one and wave two to get toa place where I was able to do
what I believe I'm supposed todo.
And I just want to publiclythank you for being my coach in
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this space.
I could not have done itwithout you and for our
listeners, you need a Brit inyour life.
If you got an idea, you need aBrit in your life.
Now I'm an idea.
You need a Brit in your life.
Now I'm plugging Brit, butthere are other people out there
I'm sure that can help you, butBrit has been able to help me
get to the place that Godintended me to be, and done so
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without judgment, and allowed meto be able to be authentically
me.
And so, thank you, thank you,thank you, britt, thank you,
thank you.
Britt Knight (41:18):
Absolutely.
Belinda Gaston (41:19):
I'm so proud of you.
Britt Knight (41:20):
I'm so proud of you.
Belinda Gaston (41:23):
But let's just get one big again celebration
for season one ending.
We are so excited, thank you,thank you.
Thank you for all of you whohave listened.
We will be back.
Please make sure that you arestaying in touch.
I will have information on howyou can sign up for our mailing
(41:44):
list so you can get all of theupdates.
We won't have podcast episodes,but I will be sharing a few
things over the next few weeksfor you, to kind of keep you in
the reminder of Graced to Leadand until we hear each other
talk again, you listen again,you tune in again.
Remember that indeed, you areGraced to Lead.
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Thank you so much for yoursupport.
Have a wonderful week, bye-bye.
Welcome to the Graced to Lead podcast.
I'm Belinda Gaston, your host,and listen.
If you are a Christian womanwho leads at work, in your own
business or even in ministry,you are in the right place.
Here.
You'll find practical adviceand encouragement as you lead
through real conversations thatwill challenge and inspire you.
So join me on this journey tobecoming better leaders God's
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way.
Are you ready?
Let the journey begin.
Welcome to the Graced to Leadpodcast.
I am Belinda Gasson, your host,and listen.
This is a very special episode.
This is our last episode of thefirst season.
And listen, this is a veryspecial episode.
This is our last episode of thefirst season.
Now, before you go crazy, herewe are coming back with our
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season two, bigger and Better.
But this is a celebration,y'all, because I started this
podcast really being obedient toGod, not knowing what I've been
doing and trying to figure allof these things out, and God has
just placed some great peoplein my life to help support me.
Those of you who are mylisteners, who've been
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consistently listening.
You've given me feedback andI'm going to take that feedback
and make things better for thesecond season.
But this is episode 20 of theGraced to Lead podcast and in
our 20 episodes we have had, atleast as of today, of this
recording.
So by the time this airs, thisnumber may have changed, but we
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have had 600 downloads, 106cities in three countries across
this world, and I, for one, amgrateful.
I am so excited and so thankyou, thank you.
Thank you for all of you whohave supported me and the Graced
(01:58):
to Lead podcast, and today Ithink it's only fitting that I
have someone special as my finalguest for this season.
This woman has beeninstrumental in coaching me
through the podcast experience,and so today we're not only
going to talk to her about kindof how she supported me, but
(02:20):
also she is the ultimatestrategist and she is great at
helping folks get from idea tostrategy and implementation, and
so I am excited to have her.
Please welcome Britt Knight tothe show.
Now let me tell you about Brittbefore I welcome her.
Listen.
Britt is a digital coach, she'sa speaker, she's an influencer,
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she is the queen of strategyand she has a passion for
guiding individuals in theirunique social media journey.
Since about 2016, she'simmersed herself in the online
world and teaching and bloggingand podcast hosting and
community building, reachingover 100,000 people across
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social media platforms, which isamazing.
As an influencer, she's had theopportunity to collaborate with
multi-million dollar beautybrands such as Anastasia,
beverly Hills, juvia's Place,covergirl and many more.
From green rooms to Graced,she's assisted behind the scenes
for stage and video productions.
Rooms to Graced Laird, she'sassisted behind the scenes for
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stage and video productions,transitioning from being the
teacher to becoming the studentand cherishing every lesson
along the way.
Now she is taking all of thosethings and the skills and tools
and tips that she's acquiredthrough her many years of
experience and she's taken theminto the coaching space and
she's had the privilege ofreally coaching a diverse range
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of clients.
She has coached everyone, fromathletes, mindset coaches, real
estate investors, food bloggersand cosmetic brand owners.
Her approach is really aboutcreating a tailored path that
aligns with your vision anddeveloping custom plans that fit
you.
That for my listeners.
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That's the part that was mostbeneficial to me.
I didn't have to do whateveryone else is doing.
So now, Graced to Leadlisteners, if you would do me a
favor and virtually welcome mycoach, my friend, my prayer
partner, my oh my goodness, mystrategizer, queen of strategies
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here, ms Britt Knight, to theGraced to Lead podcast.
Welcome, britt.
Britt Knight (04:36):
Hello, I have been behaving so much and trying to
keep all my sounds and thethings to myself, but hey, thank
you so much for having me onhere and I've been just like
silently clapping witheverything that you've been
accomplishing.
Belinda Gaston (04:52):
So thank you for having me on here.
I'm so excited.
I am excited too, and I thinkif you would have asked me in
April or I think we started ourprocess actually in February
thinking through like I think Iwant to do this podcast.
This is what God has put in myheart.
I don't know anything aboutthis space, I don't want to
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necessarily do this, but I feelled to do this till now.
I just am amazed at what God isdoing.
You know, here's the thingleaders, we talked about this in
the very beginning.
As a leader, your influencematters and for me, being able
to influence 600 people whetherthey are influenced in the space
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of confidence in theirleadership, isolation in their
leadership, all of the thingsleading well, all of those
topics that we talked about thisseason for me that matters.
And so, britt, you came alongwhen I had this idea and you
encouraged me and you got mestarted and listen for my
listeners.
It was literally just an idea.
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I didn't.
I had I think I had a title.
Did I have a title?
Yet I don't know if I even hada title, britt, did I?
Not officially, but when we hadthe conversations, Graced was
something that is.
I know that was very much onyour heart, and leading was
something also very much on yourheart, and we, like you, came
up with the idea of Graced tolead and I said, oh, that's it,
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that's magnified like exactlywhat you're talking about.
Yeah, so let's start whatyou're talking about.
Yeah, so let's start at thebeginning.
Here In the coaching space,people come to you with the goal
right and they say this is whatI want to do, and sometimes
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it's hard to get started, and soI'd love for us to start there.
Can you start with giving folksan idea of where they should
start if they have a great idea?
Let's say, you have a greatidea for a podcast or business
or whatever leaders do, all thethings in leaders' hands.
Where should they start?
Britt, I would say honestly,the first thing it sounds really
simple is literally to write itout.
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I'm a big fan of brain dumpingand mind mapping Because I think
sometimes, especially when youare someone that is creative or
you get those kind of ideas, theidea can be so large.
It kind of seems like, okay, Ihave this idea, but I have no
idea how in the world I couldpull it off, or you can see it
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going in so many differentroutes and directions.
So I would say the first thingto do is, when you get that kind
of idea, just grab a notebook,grab your notes out of your
phone, voice, memo it, anythingthat you can do to capture it
write it down, that everythingthat's coming to your mind in
that moment, get it out, so thatwhen you have everything out,
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you can look at it or you canlisten to it and you can
actually see, okay, what are thethings in this moment that I
actually have the ability to do,like, what are the things that
I'm writing down that are reallyspeaking to me the most?
Because sometimes we can have alot of things that we want to
do, but of course, we can't doall the things in that exact
moment.
So what are the pieces for methat are most important that
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stick out to me and that I thinkthe people that I'm trying to
talk to are going to really need?
And then from there we canstart pulling and we can start
building, and then those otherthings can maybe come on
eventually.
But let's start with the coreof it and then we can develop it
from there.
That's a great point.
I think in this process a lot oftimes, particularly if you have
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a great idea, you have so muchin your head and it's like you
feel overwhelmed, and I thinkthat might be part of why people
never really move, and so yourfirst tip for us is to write it
down.
Is there another tip that youcan share?
For when you have this greatidea, where should you start?
I would say start to research.
(08:56):
Honestly and I know that's kindof like a bad, a dirty word
sometimes like cause, it takes,it takes work.
But if there's something thatyou're wanting to do, see if
there's things out there thatare already kind of similar to
it.
Find out what you like aboutwhat you see there, like what
would you?
What would you tweak?
Like what would you dodifferently?
That would be something elsethat I would.
That I would do as well.
(09:19):
Yeah, those are great strategies, and so we write it down, we do
our research, we finalize kindof this is where we want to do,
and then the next thing isreally our implementation of it,
and I think this is wherepeople fall short how we go from
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this I have the idea toimplementation.
Are there things we need tokeep in mind as we go from idea
to implementation.
Yes, so one of the ways that Ilike to look at it because I say
I try to create a roadmap foryou.
So, like you have the idea, youhave the vision of it.
So then it's about reallygetting kind of clarity behind
it, like, what are the solutionsthat you want to achieve for
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the people that you're reachingto?
What is the mission for it?
What are the values?
Again, who is it actually thatyou are trying to reach?
If you don't know, and why?
How do you want to show up forit?
Are you someone that wouldprefer to present as a speaker,
someone that would show up as acommunity builder in online
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spaces?
How do you want to show up?
So, get clarity on that first,and then the strategies can
start coming behind it, and thatcould be like okay, well, what
are my goals going to be?
What do I want to talk about?
What are the themes, what arethe topics for it?
Like, how do I then begin toengage with people?
Like, what is my content goingto look like?
How will I show up?
Where will I show up?
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Like it's so many differentkinds of things and I think
again, that's where it can startleading into the overwhelm.
So the biggest thing I wouldsay is, when it comes to doing
that, really just take it pieceby piece.
Don't allow yourself to getoverwhelmed.
And that's one of the thingsthat that we were working on,
cause we would I think we spentthe first maybe three sessions,
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um, just really just defining,like, okay, what is what is this
?
Um, you know, like, cause wewere talking about.
First we were talking about thewe actually the podcast wasn't
even the first thing, cause wewere talking about potentially
doing like five minute livesections.
And then we were talking about,okay, well, maybe we can start
doing the blogging again.
And you know, and there was afew different ways that we
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approached it, and so werealized, okay, maybe the
podcast actually is the way todo it, because you have a lot to
say, you're very articulate,you pull on things really well,
you have great conversations andyou're very passionate about it
and you have the people in yoursurroundings that you can pull
to get that information and havethose kinds of conversations.
So, yeah, it is, but firstthings first, you have to have
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clarity.
So, yeah, it is, but firstthings first, you have to have
clarity, and I think that's thevalue, I think, of having a
coach, and we'll maybe talkabout some ways that people can
be supported through thisprocess.
But sometimes it's difficultfor us to get clarity on our own
and you go through one path andthen it's not working and
you're like, oh, I have to startover when.
If you had that clarity fromthe beginning, maybe your road
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would be a little easier.
Can we talk a little bit aboutsome of the pitfalls, because
you said something that reallystuck out with me, and that's
the feeling of overwhelm.
Us who are starting somethingnew, whether they are starting a
new leadership position orstarting a new business or a new
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ministry or something new, somekind of new effort.
I would say that overwhelm,particularly for women who lead,
is probably one of the biggesthurdles to overcome, and so
there are some things, I'm sure,that lead to that, and you said
that lack of clarity is one ofthem.
But are there other pitfalls toour implementation as we go
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from idea to strategy toimplementation?
Are there other things that youcan think of that would be
considered pitfalls orchallenges that we have to
overcome in this process?
Yeah, yeah, so I'm going to.
I'm going to go just a littlebiblical for a second, if that's
okay.
That's fine, that's fine.
So the way, the way that itstarted kind of coming to me
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right Was I was thinking aboutthe, the disciples, like after
they had, you know, fed, the fed, the, the masses, and they were
getting in the boat and theywere going to be crossing over
to go to the next place that youknow, that Jesus had told them
to go to.
And as they were there, youknow, they faced the storm and
there was like all these, youknow, like just the waves and
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the wind and just all this, this, that was that was surrounding
them and they were trying tofollow these directions that
were given to them.
But it's like, how do they keeppushing forward?
And as I was thinking aboutthat and I was reading on it,
the father gave me this downloadof WAVES as an acronym.
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So the things that can hinder us, especially as we are trying to
push forward, like we don'twant to stop it, there's
hindrances, there's pitfalls,there's obstacles in the way.
So for W, it would be thatthere's wavering.
So we may not necessarily beentirely sure.
Like okay, well, I'm not surehow to do this.
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Like oh, I think I've seenother people doing things like
this before Like I don't know ifthis is really the right
decision for me?
Should I even be doingsomething like this?
And we begin to waver and thatcan hold us back.
And then there's alienation,where maybe we have tried to do
these types of things before onour own, or we've stepped out in
other ventures and you know,and we either were were hurt by
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someone, we were let down bysomeone, we were on a team and
it felt like, oh, I'm the onlyone that's holding everything up
and I don't want to go throughthat again, or it could be
anything that separates us andmakes us feel that we have to do
it on our own and the thoughtof doing that is just too much
and we just step away like Ican't do that again.
(15:22):
Then there's vacillation and Ifeel like for me, this is, this
is the biggest one, because it'slike I have so many ideas.
I could do this, I could dothis, maybe I could do this.
This is where the clarity comesfrom.
I could be doing this, I couldbe doing this, I could be doing
this.
Well, but maybe if I starteddoing this, but well, what's
going to happen?
But then how am I going to beable to reach these people?
(15:44):
Because I need and you havelike all of these thoughts that
continue to like just kind of gothrough your mind and there's
so much.
It's just like I can't thinkabout this right now.
I can't do this.
And instead of picking like theone thing because sometimes I
feel like when we pick the onething, we feel like we're not
doing enough because we have somany things that we want to get
(16:07):
done Like no, I can't focus onjust this one, because I have
this whole.
I have this whole thing.
I got to get taken care of.
So there's, yes, I think Ithink we need to pause for a
second, because this is a lot ofwisdom here.
Britt Knight (16:24):
I want to Sorry.
Belinda Gaston (16:25):
Oh my goodness, no, no, no.
This is really good.
This is why you're the greatest.
So I think I want to go backand unpack the first, a couple
of the first ones, before we getinto the E.
So we talked about wavering andwhat happens, and that really
is kind of tied to clarity, andso I think for our listeners,
(16:58):
one of the keys it sounds likehere is clarity, clarity,
clarity whether you do that byyourself or whether you do that
you know, in your own personaltime, or whether you get a coach
.
Clarity is important aboutalienation, and we talked about
isolation and loneliness inleading, and I think it's
important to pull that out,britt, because whenever you do
something new, it can make youfeel like you're the only one,
and so that alienation is big.
But this last one ofvacillation, britt, oh my
(17:22):
goodness.
Britt Knight (17:23):
What is?
Belinda Gaston (17:24):
it that you think why do you think that is?
I mean, we're going to get tothe end, I promise, but I want
to pause.
I feel like we need to pausefor a minute, because
vacillation is something thathappens.
And you said it's like, youfeel like, but it's not enough.
Like, where do you think thatcomes from for women who leave
when it's?
I just can't do this.
(17:48):
I can't put my focus on thisone thing.
I have to multitask, I have todo all these things.
Where do you think that comesfrom?
The thing that keeps screamingto me is just perfectionism.
It's just, it's perfectionism.
I think we really do.
We have this, this vision ofwhat it is that we're wanting to
, what we're wanting to achieve,what we're wanting to build.
We're thinking about, like allthese people that we want to
help, and it's kind of like,well, if I don't do this right
(18:08):
now, like how am I ever going toget?
How am I going to get that?
Like we put this pressure on usthat wasn't intended to, that
wasn't intended to to be there.
And I think sometimes, like wejust we just kind of feel like,
(18:29):
if we're not again, maybe thisand this is just my thoughts I'm
going to school to be aChristian counselor, but this is
, yeah, you get it.
But I don't know.
I just feel like sometimes wejust don't think that the little
things are enough.
But you know, like what is theverse don't despise, don't
despise small get.
Yeah, like we're.
You know, we're always tolddon't despise small beginnings.
And I mean we're always tolddon't despise small beginnings.
And I mean, if it's in the word, then there's a reason why.
Because it's something that wedo deal with.
Like we think that if it'ssmall, then we're never going to
(18:52):
see the fruit from it.
Like, if we plant the seedwe're never gonna see it
actually grow.
Or we know, eventually we willsee it grow, but like we maybe
don't have the patience to seethe fruition of it, you know.
So I don't know, maybe it's,maybe that's why, like it's, the
little things sometimes justaren't enough for us.
(19:12):
Like we want to actually seethe results of all the work that
we're putting in.
Yeah, yeah, perfectionism,that's good.
So we've got.
We're talking about waves.
You said the W was for wavering,the A is for alienation, the V
is for vacillation.
Now let's get to this E.
(19:34):
What does that stand for?
Okay, so the E is error andfeel like we're going to get
into it and we're going to.
We're going to mess up, we'regoing to do it wrong.
We're going to get into it andwe're gonna mess up, we're gonna
do it wrong.
We're gonna think about themistakes that we made in the
past not because of anybody else, just the mistakes that we made
.
We're gonna think about the waythat we tried before and it
(19:54):
failed.
Maybe the way that we tried todo something and the people
around us made us feel bad.
It's like, see, I told you, Itold you what was going to
happen if you try to do this,maybe just feeling that I should
be doing this, I should bedoing this, but it's not working
right.
It's not.
(20:15):
People aren't, the peoplearen't coming, the numbers
aren't where they're supposed tobe, like, so I must be doing
something wrong.
I see how they're doing this,so if they're doing it, I'm not
understanding.
Maybe this isn't what I'msupposed to be doing right now,
you know.
So I think that's.
That's another, another factorof it.
We're just.
There's this fear of droppingthe ball of feet, the fear of
(20:38):
not being successful, successful, the fear of, like I'm going to
start helping these people, butI'm not going to be able to
maintain it and I'm going todrop it.
The fear that I'm not going tobe able to steward this well
enough.
So I'm not even going to putthat responsibility on me and
I'm just going to step away andI'll let somebody else take care
(20:58):
of it.
So yeah, so wavering alienation, isolation and error.
So yeah, so wavering alienation, isolation and error.
(21:26):
I'm pausing intentionallybecause I think that you've hit
some things that we allexperience in our leadership
journey, whether we're startingsomething new or whether we're
going throughout our routine forlack of a better term
leadership experiences, and Ithink when you have an idea and
you're excited about it and youwant to implement it, it's
really easy to fall into one ofthese spaces and then just stay
there.
So I am grateful that youshared that.
(21:51):
So the WAVE acronym, I think,is something that is very
valuable, that we can take withus, and so that's about showing
up for yourself.
It's about making sure that youhave things in place to keep
you from blocking in this space,and I'll just share
transparently and I would lovefor you to share a time when you
(22:12):
may have dealt with this, britt, but I remember a point in my
podcast journey in this firstseason where I was really
excited because I think I had150 downloads, right.
I was so excited and I sharedthat with someone and they said,
well, that's really small.
(22:32):
You know, the top podcasts havethousands and thousands and
thousands of downloads.
I mean, they get 2,500downloads in a week.
You know, you're not, that'sreally really small.
And I almost felt like, well,gosh, you know, there's nothing.
And I stopped talking about thenumbers.
I literally would get thereports and just stop talking
(22:54):
about it.
And I had a session with youwhere I was.
We were kind of going throughplanning for the rest of the.
I think it was towards my lastsession with you.
We were planning the.
We were the halfway mark and Isaid, yeah, I've reached this
number of people.
And you were so excited.
You were like, oh my gosh,that's so great.
That's great.
I mean the way you werecheering.
(23:15):
I was like and I don't know ifyou even remember saying this,
but what you said to me is youthat's, if you imagine that,
being in a room, that's like 150people in a room and I thought,
wow, wow, do you remembersaying that to me?
Britt Knight (23:32):
I vaguely remember that, but I was like wow that's
good.
Belinda Gaston (23:36):
It's like it's essentially as if I there were
150 people in the room and theyheard something and listened all
the way through, because that'sthe other thing.
It's listening all the waythrough for 30 or 40 minutes to
find value in what was said.
And so I think, when it comesto even this concept of errors,
(23:59):
it's as if we are focused onmaking those small beginnings oh
, it's terrible, it's not enoughwithout really chanking it into
perspective.
That's 150 people more than Iwould have been able to reach on
my own in another way, right?
And so when I say I'm excitedabout where we are right now and
(24:21):
again, this episode has an air.
Maybe that'll give us a fewmore folks.
It's because I know that theimpact matters, right.
And so, britt, can you share,because you're the
extraordinaire here, you're thestrategy extraordinaire.
I mean, you know how to do this, you know the mechanics behind
it.
You help with, you know brandsfrom cosmetics to athletics.
(24:44):
Have you ever personally had atime and please, only share what
you're comfortable with buthave you personally had a time
where you experienced any one ofthese in your wave acronym and,
if so, can you tell us how youovercame that, how you move
forward Continuously?
Continuously, honestly, I havebeen in it for the last,
(25:10):
probably like the I want to saythe last several months, but
maybe like the last year.
Because what I do now becauseyou read my bio, like I was in a
completely different, differentarea, you know, different
industry.
I was doing things with beautyand the lives, teaching, doing
all the things, and I was doingreally, really well with that.
And so when I made this shiftto actually go into the coaching
(25:35):
and I do the ministry aspect ofas well, it was different for
me and people were seeing me inthis new light and they were,
you know, seeing me speakdifferently, speaking about
things differently.
I wasn't as vulnerable andtransparent on the other side of
(25:55):
things as I was now and becausepeople began to see me speaking
in a different way, of course,I mean, you know, some people
understood, some people didn't,and that was great and that was
something else that I had tolearn how to accept.
But it also, with that came thewell-intentioned wisdom of how
I should be moving and therewould be people that would give
(26:19):
advice about well, maybe youshould do this Well, if you're
doing social media, maybe youshould be doing this, you should
be.
Oh, maybe you should do this.
Well, if you're doing socialmedia, maybe you should be doing
this you should be doing, maybeyou should go into marketing,
maybe you should go intomanagement, maybe you should be
doing this.
And to me, I knew I was like,well, I don't really feel like
one that I have the capacity todo that One, I don't think that
(26:39):
I would really enjoy it, like,yes, it's something that
technically I could do.
I didn't understand and itsounds silly, but I didn't
understand that I had the choiceto say no, and so I would take
on everybody's idea.
So that was for me.
(27:00):
It was the vacillation.
I was like, okay, well, I couldbe doing this.
Well, maybe let me create aplan for how this would look,
because I'm really good at doingthings like that too, like
creating ideas, creating plans,like structuring out the way it
could look, like creating likepackages and all the different
type of things.
So I could do it and I thinkthat's another thing really
quick as well, I think,sometimes, because we think we
(27:21):
can do it, it's what we shouldbe doing, it's what we should be
doing in that moment, but it'snot what I really wanted to do.
But I was kind of in this modeof well, if they think I can do
it and I know that I can do itmaybe I should be doing it.
So for me, it took learning howto say no.
(27:42):
What do I have the capacity for?
What do I have the actual driveand passion for?
If I do this for someone, am Igoing to be able to do this for
the long run?
Is this something that I couldsee myself doing for the long
run?
Or would I tire out, burn outand again with that stewardship,
not stewarded?
So for me, that's what it isand that's what I've been
(28:06):
dealing with.
I've gotten to the point nowwhere I have the clarity on who
it is that I want to talk to inthis capacity.
Who it is that I want to talkto when it comes in this
capacity.
Who it is that I want to talkto, who my ideal like clientele,
like, or your what do we say?
Your avatars, like, like allthe, the business lingo, like.
I have an understanding of that, but I understand also why it
is that I want to help them andI think by understanding that,
(28:29):
that helped me to move pastthose obstacles.
And so now, if an opportunitypresents itself and maybe it's
something in line with what Iused to do.
I know that thank you, butthat's not for me anymore.
Or thank you, that's not whereI am anymore.
Or if someone wants to ask mesomething that is within the
online realm, but it's notsomething that I particularly
(28:50):
work in, I can say I appreciatethe thought, thank you for
considering, but that's notsomething that I do right now
and maybe I can refer to someoneelse.
So I think, again it's back toclarity.
Again, you have to have theclarity and understanding what
it is that you want to do, whatyou have the passion to do, what
you have the capacity to do.
(29:11):
You want to do what you havethe passion to do, what you have
the capacity to do, and I think, once you understand those
things, that will help to moveit through.
I do have another wave, but Ican give it to you at a later
moment and that actually it fitsinto moving past the obstacles,
into moving forward.
I would love to hear the secondwave that you have as well.
(29:32):
This idea of well well, I thinkyou called it well intentioned
wisdom is something that I thinkwe can really get caught up in
receiving other people's advice,especially if it's someone that
we admire.
They have experience in aparticular area, they know us
(29:56):
well air quote know us well.
It's easy for us to yield totheir well-intentioned wisdom.
And what I hear you saying isno, you don't have to do that.
You can receive that and maybepark it for another time.
But what is it that God istelling you to do?
(30:16):
What is it that you have thecapacity to do, and what is your
passion and purpose in thismoment?
You may be really good atwriting stories, but right now,
your passion could be incoaching other people and
writing their story right, andso you can.
Somebody would come and comealong and say, hey, you need to
(30:38):
get those stories writtenbecause those can be monetized
really easily.
And you're thinking, oh well,this is a good, yeah, I should
do that.
Or would you follow yourpassion and help other people?
And I think that that's areally good wisdom nugget for
our listeners.
And then the other thing isjust recognizing that you can be
good at something, but it maynot be what you're supposed to
(30:59):
be doing in this season.
That's a part of the stretchingand the growing process, so I
would love for you to tell usthe second wave, so give us a
second wave, britt.
So the first wave was aboutovercoming the obstacles with
implementation.
You talked about wavering, youtalked about alienation, and
it's what is seeking the wisdomof the father, and then also it.
(31:36):
I'm not saying that we cannotgo to people for wisdom, because
, you know, the Bible speaks somuch about wisdom and counsel,
you know, and and going to,going to people.
So I think, with wisdom, it'sabout knowing who you trust,
going to them, letting them know.
Hey, these are my thoughts,these are my frustrations.
This is what I'm working onright now.
(31:57):
What do you think?
This is where I'm stuck andgoing to them, receiving the
wisdom you know, and, as yousaid, then you have to make the
choice.
You have to make the decision.
Okay, is this something that Iam going to receive?
Is this something that I amgoing to receive?
Is this something that is awell intentioned wisdom?
Is this something that I canuse to implement right now?
(32:18):
Is this something that I maynot be able to actually
implement at the time, but, asyou said, I can write it down, I
can put it on the shelf.
So seek out wisdom when you arestuck, when you're facing those
hindrances.
The next one is action.
How can you take action in thismoment?
It doesn't have to be a bigpicture action, it doesn't have
(32:38):
to go into that.
Okay, I've got this huge thingI want to do.
Let me jump on 50 millionthings.
Let me write down a list of 20things I can take care of right
now.
Sometimes a single action isall you need.
It's like a single phone call,Like I said, the research
looking to see how you can begin.
(33:00):
How is something structured?
Okay, if you know you'rewanting to start a business,
okay, what does getting an LLClook like?
What does it require?
Who are coaches that focus onthis particular thing?
So, yeah, so the second one istaking action.
The third one is the vision, andthat really is like what is the
vision that you have?
(33:20):
What does it look like?
And I think it's important tounderstand the vision because,
again, sometimes you have, youcan be someone that gets a
vision and as you are thinkingabout it, you see, like all
these sprouts starting to,starting to shoot out from it,
and you see all these differentthings that the single, the
(33:43):
vision that you have initially,what it could become.
So then, instead of focusing onthis.
You start focusing on this andstart focusing on this.
No, let's begin with where youhave, let's begin with that idea
and then from there, if itgrows, if we start seeing the
blooms, that's amazing, that'swonderful.
I'm happy for you.
(34:03):
But you're not going to get thesprouts without the vine, okay.
So let's start there first.
And then the third one is engage.
Are there communities that havesimilar interests to you, where
you can see how people arecommunicating about the things
that you're interested in?
How can you begin to engage andthis is a big thing with the
(34:26):
alienation, so you don't feellike you are alone Are there
mentorship groups?
Are there communities out there?
What are the ways that you canbegin to engage, so you're not
putting yourself in this littlebox all by yourself, but you're
like that, you're expanding andreaching out.
So that's the second wave.
Thank you for sharing that.
(34:47):
I think both waves are exactlywhat we need as we think about
going from an idea, a creativeidea, into implementation and
making that thing a reality.
So thank you, thank you, thankyou for sharing that.
Before we move on, I just wantto know if there are, if there's
(35:10):
any final thoughts that youhave, as we've had this.
This has been an amazingconversation, but are there any
final thoughts you want to giveour listeners on moving from
idea into implementation orovercoming roadblocks in
implementation?
Yeah, I mean honestly, I wouldsay that it's so cliche like I
(35:34):
almost hesitate saying it.
But, in whatever you choose todo, just do it in a way that is
authentic, in a way that getsthe numbers, in a way that it
gets the views and all thosethings.
And we seek to imitate it or toreplicate it.
(35:58):
Not get inspiration from it tosee how you would do it, but
literally to go in and say, okay, well, I'm going to do it this
way because that's how peopleseem to resonate, this is what
they seem to go to.
So do it authentically and thisis what they seem to go to.
So do it authentically, truly,I mentioned it earlier.
(36:19):
But make sure that, as you areseeking to move from strategy to
implementation, that what youare moving towards you have a
passion for.
It's not something that you arejust kind of like, oh yeah, I
could do this, because, yeah,you could do it, but how long
are you gonna do it?
Is it something that you arejust kind of like, oh yeah, I
could do this because, yeah, youcould do it, but how long are
you going to do it?
Is it something that you wakeup wanting to do?
Is it something that you wakeup to and you're like and you
(36:41):
get excited about it?
Is this something that you havea notebook full of just kind of
different ideas and mind mapsand things like that?
Do you have, like, the passionand the strategy?
I mean, do you have the passionand the desire to actually do
this?
And then why, understanding thewhys behind it it's so important
?
It's so important because youwant to make sure that you're
(37:06):
doing it for purpose.
I feel like so often people getinto something either because
they think it's the popularthing to do, it's a, it's an
easy way to to monetize, it willbring the followers in, it can
give you a good recognizablename and brand.
But yeah, I just, I just thinkit's so important to understand
(37:29):
the why, because when you dothat, it will keep you from
straying off course.
I think it's so important tounderstand the why because when
you do that, it will keep youfrom straying off course.
I think that that is wherewe'll end this conversation,
britt.
Thank you so much for sharingyour wisdom.
It has been amazing.
I know our listeners want toknow what you're up to and how
(37:51):
to reach you and all of thethings.
So can you share anything you'dlike us to know about what
you're doing, as well as howpeople can reach you?
Yeah, so I can be reached on mywebsite.
It is authentically-britcom.
That's where you can find me todo coaching.
I do one-on-one coaching.
(38:11):
I also do what's called ameetup.
I haven't done them for a while, but I'm going to be starting
those back up again and meetupis where, once a month, we get
together and it's a group ofabout five to six of us.
And if there's something thatyou're working on, that you're
stuck, that you needbreakthrough, that you need
clarity on, we work in sessionsthat go from about three to four
hours at a time.
(38:31):
We figure out what the block is, we do actual work while we're
in there, we break, we come back, we do all the things.
So that is something that I doas well, and also because I'm so
passionate about seeing peopleget away from that place of
being stuck, because there's somuch good that we can do if we
(38:57):
can just get past that block.
So another way that I havestarted to begin to push people
is actually just making theresources available so they can
push.
So locally in my area, ifyou're in the Louisville
Kentucky area or SouthernIndiana area, I have actually
opened up a content creationstudio.
(39:17):
You can use it for podcasting,you can use it for team meetings
, for client meetings, you cando it for live streaming.
If you're a photographer, ithas backdrops that you can do,
photography in product shots,like as many things as I can
think of off the top of my headthat you would need to do
content creation for the spacesavailable.
(39:38):
So, yeah, those are the thingsthat I am doing right now and
I'm just I'm so excited.
Thank you for having me on hereagain.
Thank you for being my partnerand for our listeners.
All of the information thatBritt just shared I will put in
the show's notes in thedescription box under the
episode, so you'll be able toget those and listen.
(39:59):
Britt, I just have to saypublicly that and I am not going
to cry, see, I'm looking awayfrom you I have to say publicly
that the Graced to Lead podcastwould not exist had God not
partnered us together, becauseit really was this idea I felt
led to do I wasn't quite sure ifthis was it and you walked with
(40:22):
me, held my hand and took methrough all of the waves the
wave one and wave two to get toa place where I was able to do
what I believe I'm supposed todo.
And I just want to publiclythank you for being my coach in
(40:44):
this space.
I could not have done itwithout you and for our
listeners, you need a Brit inyour life.
If you got an idea, you need aBrit in your life.
Now I'm an idea.
You need a Brit in your life.
Now I'm plugging Brit, butthere are other people out there
I'm sure that can help you, butBrit has been able to help me
get to the place that Godintended me to be, and done so
(41:07):
without judgment, and allowed meto be able to be authentically
me.
And so, thank you, thank you,thank you, britt, thank you,
thank you.
Britt Knight (41:18):
Absolutely.
Belinda Gaston (41:19):
I'm so proud of you.
Britt Knight (41:20):
I'm so proud of you.
Belinda Gaston (41:23):
But let's just get one big again celebration
for season one ending.
We are so excited, thank you,thank you.
Thank you for all of you whohave listened.
We will be back.
Please make sure that you arestaying in touch.
I will have information on howyou can sign up for our mailing
(41:44):
list so you can get all of theupdates.
We won't have podcast episodes,but I will be sharing a few
things over the next few weeksfor you, to kind of keep you in
the reminder of Graced to Leadand until we hear each other
talk again, you listen again,you tune in again.
Remember that indeed, you areGraced to Lead.
(42:07):
Thank you so much for yoursupport.
Have a wonderful week, bye-bye.
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