May 6, 2025 • 12 mins
We explore the toxic cycle of self-hatred and how to break free from the critical inner voice that keeps us feeling worthless and undeserving. This message offers hope for anyone struggling with negative self-talk by revealing how God's vision for our lives is infinitely greater than our limited self-perception.
• Identifying signs of self-hatred: explicit self-criticism, chronic insecurity, neglect of self-care, and inability to accept happiness
• Self-hatred robs us of ambition for a better tomorrow and limits our ability to pursue our purpose
• God's vision for our lives is much larger than the ceilings we create based on past failures or trauma
• Nobody has it all together—even those who appear perfectly confident often battle severe self-loathing
• The enemy uses self-criticism as a weapon to make our lives miserable and keep us from God's purposes
• A powerful affirmation to combat self-hatred: "Jesus has something better for me"
When you feel those voices of self-hatred rising up, declare "Jesus has something better for me." This simple statement aligns with Scripture and gives you the strength to spend less time in the depths of self-loathing.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I hate myself.
I don't have anything going forme, I'm not attractive, I'm not
smart, I'm not rich.
I'm a bad person.
Of course, nobody cares aboutme.
I don't have a good job,nobody's calling me, nobody's
texting me, I'm not gettinginvited to the parties.
Why would I be?
I'm a loser, I'm good fornothing.
(00:22):
Have you ever said these kindsof things to yourself?
Because I'm good for nothing?
Have you ever said these kindsof things to yourself?
Because I have, I have.
I have Count me in.
Yes, I have.
It really hurts.
You don't even have to say thestuff out loud.
Just when you hear thosethoughts in your head, you just
want to cry.
You just want to hide.
The question for you is are youready to stop hating on yourself
(00:42):
and hear about where that comesfrom and why God has something
better for you?
By the end of this video,you're going to be feeling
stronger, you're going to beholding your head up just a
little bit higher, and then I'mgoing to leave you with a
powerful affirmation that'sgoing to make every day just
that much better, because youdon't have to live in that type
(01:04):
of self-hatred, thatself-condemnation.
We're going to dismantle that.
We're going to pull all thatdown.
Today we're going to plant aseed of confidence and dignity.
That's the type of victory I'mtalking about, jimmy James
Johnson guilt-free faith.
If you're looking for guilt,you're in the wrong place.
(01:25):
We don't get down like that.
Here we're going to get youfeeling good and walking in
victory today let's get into it.
Look, this cycle may feelimpossible because you've been
living like this for so long.
Some of us have been talking toourselves, hearing that voice,
that self-hatred, thatself-criticism in our heads
(01:48):
since we were little kids.
We don't even know what it'slike to live outside of that.
But I promise you we can breakthis cycle together.
So stick with me.
We're going to identify somesigns of self-hatred, we're
going to talk about where theycome from and then I'm going to
give you some tools to startbreaking them down.
So what is self-hatred?
(02:10):
How do we know if we hateourselves?
Of course there are literallythe words I hate myself, I suck
at this, I'm worthless, I haveno value, I'm the bottom of the
barrel.
So that's the self-criticismpart.
Then there's just theinsecurity part that naturally
follows, which is life'schallenges come up.
(02:30):
We don't feel like we canhandle them.
We don't have a kind word ofconfidence and inspiration for
ourselves to stand up to life'schallenges, to something coming
down the road.
It could be a fantasticopportunity, but with that voice
that's been in our head, we'reso insecure we just don't even
(02:51):
have the confidence to eventhink that we're going to be
able to turn this loss into awin.
We can also see this in justneglecting self-care.
Some of us that's like aphysical thing where we're just
not taking care of ourselves.
We're just eating crappy food.
We're not exercising, notshowering, we're not shaving.
(03:13):
We don't really care what welook like going out.
Have you ever been that?
I have.
Sometimes self-care is notsomething you're wearing on
yourself.
Sometimes it's something justinternally.
Some of us are living with somuch stress, so much guilt, so
much criticism on the inside wewon't give ourselves a break.
(03:34):
So on the inside we're inflamedand in pain.
We look fine on the outside.
How many times do we see amusician or a Hollywood star,
somebody that you know?
On the outside they haveeverything, they look good,
their bank account's right,their career's blowing up, and
(03:55):
then they turn up dead.
That's self-care.
Maybe they were doing it on theoutside, maybe they were on the
treadmill twice a day.
But, man, they've neglectedthemselves, they've neglected
their spirit and they justcrumble from the inside
Self-hatred.
Sometimes this manifests as arefusal to be happy.
Sometimes we hate ourselves somuch, we're so down on ourselves
(04:19):
, we're so unkind to ourselvesthat even when something good
does happen, we can't enjoy it,because to us either it's just a
really temporary thing, we'reabout to fall back into some
other disaster, or we don't evenwant to get our hopes up
because on the inside I don'tdeserve this, or good things
never happen to me, or we can'ttake just a legitimate
(04:40):
compliment.
Hey, you look nice today.
Hey, you did a good job on thatproject.
Hey, I noticed that you'regetting out for some exercise,
you're becoming a betterlistener, you're working on
being a better friend.
But, man, when you have thatvoice, when you have the accuser
in your head, you just can'taccept those things, because the
(05:01):
voice in here is louder thanthe voice out there.
It's louder than the voice ofyour pastor, of your friend, of
your spouse.
Nobody can talk louder than thevoice inside your head.
One of the things that reallysucks about this whole thing is
that those voices, thoseaccusations, those critiques in
(05:21):
your head can rob you of yourambition.
And what do I mean by ambition?
I'm not just talking about moneyor getting rich, or driving a
fly car or living in a big houseor having a certain person on
your arm or a certain degree onyour wall.
I'm not talking about justthose things.
(05:41):
There's nothing wrong withthose things.
I'm talking about the ambitionfor a better tomorrow, the
ambition for a better tomorrow.
I'm talking about the ambitionfor survival, about to soak up
life, to find your purpose, toride that out, to walk that out,
to be engaged with people inrelationships that are rewarding
(06:04):
, that are bi-directional, whereboth of you are blessed from
having met one another.
I'm talking about yourspiritual ambition, how close
you can get to God, how closethat you can feel the Holy
Spirit growing up and welling upin you, empowering you to do
(06:24):
amazing things.
It may be literally workingmiracles, it may be touching
lives in all types of ways, bigor small.
Only God knows what all he hasin store for you, but one
thing's for sure his vision forus, his vision for you, is much
larger than your vision foryourself.
(06:46):
You have a ceiling for yourselfright now.
Maybe it's because of thingsthat happened to you, maybe
because you were abused, maybebecause you were fired, maybe it
was because you got sick.
But you have a ceiling rightnow in your mind.
This is as far as I go.
I can't.
I've tried to get beyond this.
(07:07):
I keep getting knocked down.
This is, I guess, this is it.
But God's like hey, man, youneed to take those limits off.
God's like you don't think,with all that I've done, all
that I've created, all that I'veplanned, all that, I know that
I can't exceed this little limitin your mind, that I can't take
(07:29):
you beyond that, that I can'theal you, that I can't deliver
you, that I can't embrace you,that I can't put you in a
position of leadership.
I can't put you in that job,that position, that relationship
.
God's telling you, man, takethat limit off.
You have no idea what God hasplanned for you.
(07:53):
God's plans are higher thanwhat we understand, but we know
that he's planned for us a goodfuture to bless us, to nurture
us.
The Word says this explicitly.
Some people take that as oh well, that just happens in heaven,
(08:18):
that just happens in theafterlife.
I don't know, maybe.
But you know, when I hear Godsay on earth as it is in heaven,
I'm talking about right now.
I'm talking about seeing someof those miracles right now.
I'm talking about God revvingup the horsepower in your life,
in your spirit, right now, today, this week, this month, this
(08:38):
year.
I believe that you're going tolook back on the first time you
saw this video and be like man.
I remember when I was stuck backin that place.
I thought God had forgottenabout me.
I didn't think God had anythingfor me and the voice in my head
told me that I wasn't worth it,I wasn't never going to amount
(08:59):
to nothing.
Here's the secret you got tokeep in mind.
No one and I mean no one has itall together.
No one is walking around withjust a happy, joyous, fantastic
voice in their head.
Nobody gets through life thatway.
Some of the people you thinklove themselves so much can't
(09:22):
even look in the mirror withouta bottle.
There's people who can't lookin the mirror without throwing
up in the toilet.
We can have everything we want,or people can think we have
everything that we want and onthe inside we hate ourselves.
It's an epidemic.
And it's an epidemic becausethat's what the devil, that's
(09:42):
what the accuser, that's one ofthe avenues that he uses to make
our lives miserable.
You can hear that demonicsoundtrack playing anytime you
goof up.
Anytime somebody doesn'tappreciate what you did for them
.
Anytime somebody doesn't have acompliment or doesn't notice
anything good about you.
(10:03):
Anytime somebody insults you.
Anytime you drop the ball.
There he is, there's thatsoundtrack.
It's playing.
See, jimmy, I told you youain't worth nothing, man.
You're useless, doesn't matterif you're here or not, and it
just plays on and on until westand against that in the name
of Jesus.
And that's what we're going todo here.
(10:24):
Here, let me leave you with anaffirmation that's going to make
you stronger and more confidentand feel better about yourself.
When you start hating onyourself, when you start talking
down on yourself, I want you tosay Jesus has something better
for me, just that simple.
Jesus has something better forme.
(10:45):
Go ahead, just say it with me.
Jesus has something better forme than this.
Oh, okay, I'm a loser, I'm toofat, I'm too skinny, I'm a nerd
or I'm dumb or I'm not cool, I'mnot popular, I'm not cool, I'm
(11:07):
not popular.
I can't make no friends, Ican't get no girls, no matter
what it is.
Jesus has something better forme, because Jesus does have
something better for you.
And what I believe is whenyou're declaring that you're not
only saying something that's inline with Scripture, but you're
giving yourself thatfortification, you're giving
yourself that strength, you'regiving yourself that momentum to
(11:29):
spend less time in the depthsinstead of wallowing down here.
Believe me, when you startsaying Jesus has something
better for me, it's going tostart picking you up.
You are going to feel a burstof energy.
It's going to be harder andharder and harder and harder for
the enemy to put you down,because the enemy doesn't want
(11:53):
you to know that Jesus hassomething better for you.
Hang in there, I'm in yourcorner.
I hate myself.
I don't have anything going forme, I'm not attractive, I'm not
smart, I'm not rich.
I'm a bad person.
Of course, nobody cares aboutme.
I don't have a good job,nobody's calling me, nobody's
texting me, I'm not gettinginvited to the parties.
Why would I be?
I'm a loser, I'm good fornothing.
(00:22):
Have you ever said these kindsof things to yourself?
Because I'm good for nothing?
Have you ever said these kindsof things to yourself?
Because I have, I have.
I have Count me in.
Yes, I have.
It really hurts.
You don't even have to say thestuff out loud.
Just when you hear thosethoughts in your head, you just
want to cry.
You just want to hide.
The question for you is are youready to stop hating on yourself
(00:42):
and hear about where that comesfrom and why God has something
better for you?
By the end of this video,you're going to be feeling
stronger, you're going to beholding your head up just a
little bit higher, and then I'mgoing to leave you with a
powerful affirmation that'sgoing to make every day just
that much better, because youdon't have to live in that type
(01:04):
of self-hatred, thatself-condemnation.
We're going to dismantle that.
We're going to pull all thatdown.
Today we're going to plant aseed of confidence and dignity.
That's the type of victory I'mtalking about, jimmy James
Johnson guilt-free faith.
If you're looking for guilt,you're in the wrong place.
(01:25):
We don't get down like that.
Here we're going to get youfeeling good and walking in
victory today let's get into it.
Look, this cycle may feelimpossible because you've been
living like this for so long.
Some of us have been talking toourselves, hearing that voice,
that self-hatred, thatself-criticism in our heads
(01:48):
since we were little kids.
We don't even know what it'slike to live outside of that.
But I promise you we can breakthis cycle together.
So stick with me.
We're going to identify somesigns of self-hatred, we're
going to talk about where theycome from and then I'm going to
give you some tools to startbreaking them down.
So what is self-hatred?
(02:10):
How do we know if we hateourselves?
Of course there are literallythe words I hate myself, I suck
at this, I'm worthless, I haveno value, I'm the bottom of the
barrel.
So that's the self-criticismpart.
Then there's just theinsecurity part that naturally
follows, which is life'schallenges come up.
(02:30):
We don't feel like we canhandle them.
We don't have a kind word ofconfidence and inspiration for
ourselves to stand up to life'schallenges, to something coming
down the road.
It could be a fantasticopportunity, but with that voice
that's been in our head, we'reso insecure we just don't even
(02:51):
have the confidence to eventhink that we're going to be
able to turn this loss into awin.
We can also see this in justneglecting self-care.
Some of us that's like aphysical thing where we're just
not taking care of ourselves.
We're just eating crappy food.
We're not exercising, notshowering, we're not shaving.
(03:13):
We don't really care what welook like going out.
Have you ever been that?
I have.
Sometimes self-care is notsomething you're wearing on
yourself.
Sometimes it's something justinternally.
Some of us are living with somuch stress, so much guilt, so
much criticism on the inside wewon't give ourselves a break.
(03:34):
So on the inside we're inflamedand in pain.
We look fine on the outside.
How many times do we see amusician or a Hollywood star,
somebody that you know?
On the outside they haveeverything, they look good,
their bank account's right,their career's blowing up, and
(03:55):
then they turn up dead.
That's self-care.
Maybe they were doing it on theoutside, maybe they were on the
treadmill twice a day.
But, man, they've neglectedthemselves, they've neglected
their spirit and they justcrumble from the inside
Self-hatred.
Sometimes this manifests as arefusal to be happy.
Sometimes we hate ourselves somuch, we're so down on ourselves
(04:19):
, we're so unkind to ourselvesthat even when something good
does happen, we can't enjoy it,because to us either it's just a
really temporary thing, we'reabout to fall back into some
other disaster, or we don't evenwant to get our hopes up
because on the inside I don'tdeserve this, or good things
never happen to me, or we can'ttake just a legitimate
(04:40):
compliment.
Hey, you look nice today.
Hey, you did a good job on thatproject.
Hey, I noticed that you'regetting out for some exercise,
you're becoming a betterlistener, you're working on
being a better friend.
But, man, when you have thatvoice, when you have the accuser
in your head, you just can'taccept those things, because the
(05:01):
voice in here is louder thanthe voice out there.
It's louder than the voice ofyour pastor, of your friend, of
your spouse.
Nobody can talk louder than thevoice inside your head.
One of the things that reallysucks about this whole thing is
that those voices, thoseaccusations, those critiques in
(05:21):
your head can rob you of yourambition.
And what do I mean by ambition?
I'm not just talking about moneyor getting rich, or driving a
fly car or living in a big houseor having a certain person on
your arm or a certain degree onyour wall.
I'm not talking about justthose things.
(05:41):
There's nothing wrong withthose things.
I'm talking about the ambitionfor a better tomorrow, the
ambition for a better tomorrow.
I'm talking about the ambitionfor survival, about to soak up
life, to find your purpose, toride that out, to walk that out,
to be engaged with people inrelationships that are rewarding
(06:04):
, that are bi-directional, whereboth of you are blessed from
having met one another.
I'm talking about yourspiritual ambition, how close
you can get to God, how closethat you can feel the Holy
Spirit growing up and welling upin you, empowering you to do
(06:24):
amazing things.
It may be literally workingmiracles, it may be touching
lives in all types of ways, bigor small.
Only God knows what all he hasin store for you, but one
thing's for sure his vision forus, his vision for you, is much
larger than your vision foryourself.
(06:46):
You have a ceiling for yourselfright now.
Maybe it's because of thingsthat happened to you, maybe
because you were abused, maybebecause you were fired, maybe it
was because you got sick.
But you have a ceiling rightnow in your mind.
This is as far as I go.
I can't.
I've tried to get beyond this.
(07:07):
I keep getting knocked down.
This is, I guess, this is it.
But God's like hey, man, youneed to take those limits off.
God's like you don't think,with all that I've done, all
that I've created, all that I'veplanned, all that, I know that
I can't exceed this little limitin your mind, that I can't take
(07:29):
you beyond that, that I can'theal you, that I can't deliver
you, that I can't embrace you,that I can't put you in a
position of leadership.
I can't put you in that job,that position, that relationship
.
God's telling you, man, takethat limit off.
You have no idea what God hasplanned for you.
(07:53):
God's plans are higher thanwhat we understand, but we know
that he's planned for us a goodfuture to bless us, to nurture
us.
The Word says this explicitly.
Some people take that as oh well, that just happens in heaven,
(08:18):
that just happens in theafterlife.
I don't know, maybe.
But you know, when I hear Godsay on earth as it is in heaven,
I'm talking about right now.
I'm talking about seeing someof those miracles right now.
I'm talking about God revvingup the horsepower in your life,
in your spirit, right now, today, this week, this month, this
(08:38):
year.
I believe that you're going tolook back on the first time you
saw this video and be like man.
I remember when I was stuck backin that place.
I thought God had forgottenabout me.
I didn't think God had anythingfor me and the voice in my head
told me that I wasn't worth it,I wasn't never going to amount
(08:59):
to nothing.
Here's the secret you got tokeep in mind.
No one and I mean no one has itall together.
No one is walking around withjust a happy, joyous, fantastic
voice in their head.
Nobody gets through life thatway.
Some of the people you thinklove themselves so much can't
(09:22):
even look in the mirror withouta bottle.
There's people who can't lookin the mirror without throwing
up in the toilet.
We can have everything we want,or people can think we have
everything that we want and onthe inside we hate ourselves.
It's an epidemic.
And it's an epidemic becausethat's what the devil, that's
(09:42):
what the accuser, that's one ofthe avenues that he uses to make
our lives miserable.
You can hear that demonicsoundtrack playing anytime you
goof up.
Anytime somebody doesn'tappreciate what you did for them
.
Anytime somebody doesn't have acompliment or doesn't notice
anything good about you.
(10:03):
Anytime somebody insults you.
Anytime you drop the ball.
There he is, there's thatsoundtrack.
It's playing.
See, jimmy, I told you youain't worth nothing, man.
You're useless, doesn't matterif you're here or not, and it
just plays on and on until westand against that in the name
of Jesus.
And that's what we're going todo here.
(10:24):
Here, let me leave you with anaffirmation that's going to make
you stronger and more confidentand feel better about yourself.
When you start hating onyourself, when you start talking
down on yourself, I want you tosay Jesus has something better
for me, just that simple.
Jesus has something better forme.
(10:45):
Go ahead, just say it with me.
Jesus has something better forme than this.
Oh, okay, I'm a loser, I'm toofat, I'm too skinny, I'm a nerd
or I'm dumb or I'm not cool, I'mnot popular, I'm not cool, I'm
(11:07):
not popular.
I can't make no friends, Ican't get no girls, no matter
what it is.
Jesus has something better forme, because Jesus does have
something better for you.
And what I believe is whenyou're declaring that you're not
only saying something that's inline with Scripture, but you're
giving yourself thatfortification, you're giving
yourself that strength, you'regiving yourself that momentum to
(11:29):
spend less time in the depthsinstead of wallowing down here.
Believe me, when you startsaying Jesus has something
better for me, it's going tostart picking you up.
You are going to feel a burstof energy.
It's going to be harder andharder and harder and harder for
the enemy to put you down,because the enemy doesn't want
(11:53):
you to know that Jesus hassomething better for you.
Hang in there, I'm in yourcorner.
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