S2 E3: Unlearning Mainstream Education through In-Bodied Wisdom with Denise Graham

What happens when the system you trusted no longer fits? When your body says no—but the world says yes?

In this episode of Happily Ever After.. What Now?, I’m joined by Denise Graham, an In-Bodied Horsewoman, movement medicine artist, and founder of Embody the Herd. We explore what it means to truly trust your body wisdom which is key to reconnect with your body, break free from outdated systems, and reconnect with the wild, wise, full-colour version of yourself.

Denise doesn’t just teach embodiment—she lives it. After leaving her career in mainstream education, she followed her body’s knowing toward a life grounded in somatic awareness, nature-based learning, and the deep, honest feedback loop of horse herd dynamics.

If you’ve ever felt like your life has lost its colour or you’re navigating a “what now?” moment of your own—this episode will feel like a breath of fresh air.

💬 In this episode, we talk about:
- Denise’s “What Now?” moment during the COVID mandates—and how her body led the way
- What horses can teach us about emotional integrity and nervous system regulation
- Why communication starts with the body (not the mouth)
- How Denise supports women experiencing burnout, disconnection, and deep transition
- The philosophy behind her Nature School and why kids (and adults) need unlearning too
- Reclaiming your body wisdom—through movement, cycles, and embodied boundaries as well as how to listen to your body
- Her best and worst advice (spoiler: follow the feel might change everything)

00:00 Introduction: When Life No Longer Fits
00:23 Meet Denise Graham: Embodiment Coach and Horse Wisdom
02:29 Denise's 'What Now' Moment: A Personal Transformation
05:21 The Wisdom of Horses: Healing and Embodiment
13:52 Practical Embodiment: Daily Practices and Insights
23:55 Nature School and Unlearning: Trusting Ourselves
33:53 What More Women Need to Know
37:39 Final Thoughts and Advice: Follow the Feel

Connect with Denise Graham:
Want to learn more about Denise’s work or join her women’s circles?
You can find her here:
🔗 Website: www.embodytheherd.com
📸 Instagram: @embodytheherd
📘 Facebook: facebook.com/embodytheherd

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