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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Hi, I'm Alessandra Tolome Hard, aka Mrs Hard, and
this is Hard Times no More, apodcast for people who are tired
of struggling with boundaries,people-pleasing and relationship
problems.
I have overcome some hard times.
Within three years, I stoppeddrinking, my mom died of cancer
and my house burnt down in aCalifornia wildfire, and those
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are just the highlights.
I have a lot of reasons to bemiserable, but I'm not.
The truth is, life was morechallenging before these events
happened.
If you are tired of waiting foryour circumstances to change to
find happiness and peace ofmind, you are in the right place
.
Join me as I share the tools Iuse in love to transform
(00:43):
challenges into assets andinterview others about their
relationship journeys.
Together, let's learn how tohave a happy life full of
healthy, meaningfulrelationships and say goodbye to
hard times for good.
Hey there, welcome to the HardTimes no More Relationship
(01:04):
Podcast.
I'm Alessandra Tolomey Hard,aka Mrs Hard, your host.
This week I'm replaying one ofmy all-time favorite episodes
and it's one of the most popular, most downloaded episodes I
have as well.
In this episode, I'm joined bymy dear friend, healer and
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chiropractor, dr DebbieVictoria-Seale.
Dr Debbie is a holisticchiropractor and intuitive
healer, also known as aclairvoyant.
If you're not familiar withwhat a clairvoyant is, it's a
gift that allows her to seeenergy from your past and
present lives, helping youremove blocks that manifest as
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relationship issues, stress oranxiety, and guide you towards
healing and clarity so that youcan discover your truth, what is
true for you.
During our conversation, drDebbie will gift you with a
transmedium healing this istowards the end of the episode
and I'll guide you through agentle meditation to cultivate
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self-love and security.
I'm bringing back this powerfulepisode because Dr Debbie and I
have something super specialcoming up just for you.
We're hosting a retreat calledthe Awaken Retreat Mind, body,
soul.
This is going to be held onJune 2nd 2024 from 1pm to 5pm in
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This transformational retreatis designed for you, to empower
you to break free from fear anduncertainty, to recharge and
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you have so much more to giveand you can become empowered and
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feel like you have direction inlife, that you have clarity
about what you need, and this isgoing to be an amazing space to
deeply recharge and heal pastwounds that are holding you back
.
So the Awaken Retreat isperfect for you if you thrive
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So again, that's Awaken RetreatMindBodySoul, june 2nd 2024,
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You can find more details on mywebsite, mrsheartcom.
I'm going to put a link forthis in the show notes and you
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can find the link on myInstagram as well.
Now let's dive right into thepowerful healing conversation I
had with Dr Debbie from episode19, clairvoyant Guidance for
Anxiety Relief.
Let's talk about how chaos canbe a time of awakening which can
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feel confusing for peoplebecause it can feel like
everything's falling apart, butit's really falling into place.
What do you think about that?
Speaker 2 (04:47):
So what happens with that is, I feel we look outside
of ourselves and think that it'sour job to fix all of that,
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because we feel uncomfortablewhen we see the world falling
apart.
We see all this traumahappening for other people and
other places.
And yes, I'm not saying thatit's not, it doesn't affect us,
it's not something that's notimportant.
It is important we're part ofthis humanity, we're not
disconnected.
But how can we control that?
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We can't.
So you have to look inside ofyourself and say what can I do?
And when you're feeling thattrauma and that overwhelm, you
can't fix that, but you can carefor yourself and help yourself
(05:52):
so that you can feel stronger todo the things you can do to
make a change in the world,because whatever we do for
ourselves does resonate outward.
We're all connected.
We're all from the same source.
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We are experiencing, throughthis trauma, different parts of
ourselves that are gettingoverwhelmed, that are getting
beaten down, that are gettingtraumatized, and we feel all the
anxiety because we feelhopeless.
We feel that we have to justlay down and take it, or we get
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really angry and we feel like weneed okay, I need to get out
there and make a change reallyfast.
I need to do something to fixthis.
But that's not where our answerlies.
Our answer, when we firstexperience that trauma, is to go
inside of ourselves and findthat place that's wounded, find
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the place that needs healing,that needs attention, that needs
nurturing, and heal that,become whole and grounded within
yourself, within your life,within your body, so that you
can be strong enough to bepresent to honestly see what is
the thing that I can do to helpthis situation, this situation.
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So sometimes it just gets to beso overwhelming.
You know, we all go throughthat with loss and that's a
tough thing, a really toughthing, especially when you don't
have the support of a strongspiritual practice.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
I feel when you're relying on people, places and
things to make you feel whole orto make you feel stable.
Right.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
It feels like you just got the rug pulled under
you and the wind knocked out ofyou and you have no idea where
to go from there.
I mean losing my mother feltlike that to me, Like, wait, a
minute, she's my grounding post.
I still think of her.
You know that she's still here.
I can call wait, I'm going tocall mom.
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Oh, she's not in her bodyanymore.
She's not here on this earth,but she does exist within me.
And that's the thing is, youcan find that connection.
What is my connection to thistrauma?
What is my healing through thisand with that?
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When you heal yourself, thatresonates to the next person and
the next person and even goesoutward yeah, to the next person
and the next person and evengoes outward.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (08:45):
Because if each of us took that healing for ourselves
, then we'd be stronger inpresenting ourselves to the
world and how we interacted withthe world and realize that it's
okay to just take care ofyourself first, put your mask on
first.
(09:05):
How many times do we hear that?
Right, you put your oxygen maskon first in the airplane, when
the oxygen doesn't exist, so youcan help the person next to you
that needs help.
And that's what we have to dois find that place where we,
wounded within ourselves, wherewe traumatized within ourselves,
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heal ourselves, become wholeand start to ground in your body
, in your life, so you can bepresent and stronger for what
the next step is you need to doout there.
Speaker 1 (09:39):
Yeah, and I love how you've talked about this with me
before and you've talked aboutit in general how, like, when
things come up for us, they'rereflections, and so when we're
feeling really upset by theoutside world, like conflict or
people judging others or doingthings wrong that lights up like
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fairness within us and it'slike for us to heal that picture
, as you refer it to, that iscoming up and so, even though we
think it has to do with theoutside world, it's really
within us that we're doing thehealing.
Does that make sense?
I don't know if.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
I said it correctly?
Absolutely, you did say itright.
So this is what I believe andwhat I've learned through my
experience in healing myself andhelping others heal themselves
is that we are all connectedhere.
This is an earth school.
This is where we draw thoseexperiences and those people to
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us so that we can heal ourselves.
And when we do, not only do weheal ourselves, but the other
person also receives a healing.
Do we heal ourselves, but theother person also receives a
healing.
I remember when you came to mewith a trouble that you were
going through and saying I feelattacked because my loved ones
are being attacked and thisperson that I love is attacking
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them, and how do I deal withthis?
I said where is it in you whereyou can heal yourself?
Where you were attacked?
And we found out by doing ahealing on you that you were
attacked in a past life in thesame situation, and we were able
to heal that and bring thatenergy from the past into the
present.
So you could be stronger inyourself in this relationship
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and be more neutral and lovingto yourself and this other
person, so that you could bestronger in seeing how you need
to interact with them not from aplace of woundedness, but from
a place of strength andwholeness.
Speaker 1 (11:37):
Yeah, and I remember what advice you gave me or what
you saw was that the otherperson was feeling exactly the
same way.
I was Like I was feeling likeput in a corner about what this
person was saying honestly onsocial media and I felt like it
was attacking, like you said,people I love and you said that
when you read this otherperson's energy, that they were
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feeling that same attackedfeeling, and that really helped
me to change my perspective andto be like, oh my, my gosh, like
I wouldn't want that person tofeel the way I do, and it helped
me cultivate compassion forthem and empathy for like, oh,
they're feeling the same way.
I am just like flipped.
And it really helped to movethrough that process and, like
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you said, get to that neutralspace, right?
Speaker 2 (12:23):
Yeah, right, yeah.
So often we will victimizeourselves because we get what we
call in psychic speak.
We get lit up, these picturesof this energy gets lit up
within us so that we can heal it, and we feel these emotions and
feel like this is wrong.
I need to.
That person is horrible and I'mnever going to speak to them
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again, but you love them andthat's what you said.
This is somebody that I reallycare about.
So let's be compassionate andstep back, rather than pointing
the finger and say how can?
What is it in me that needs toheal in this relationship?
What is it in me that is beingstimulated?
And when you do, then you cansee the other person in that
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neutral space, in that place ofcompassion, and allow them to
have their own healing, not thatyou have to fix it for them,
but that you can see.
Oh, they are wounded too in away, and they're lashing out in
a way.
And they're lashing out Because, from the energy that we were
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talking about in this situation,we were talking about the third
chakra.
The third chakra is about ourwill and how we control things
in our bodies, in our lives, andthere are two reactions to that
, and this has been a commontheme in my life.
It's either you're a victim oryou're angry.
So those are two reactions.
And I come across a lot ofpeople who are very angry at me
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and I usually victimize myselfand say why are they so?
They're horrible, that personis horrible.
How could they even say that tome?
I, you know what did I do wrongand you know I'll victimize
myself and see this person asvery angry.
So I'll tell you a funny storythat demonstrates this.
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When I was in my practice inanother space, I had this
landlord that was a bulldog.
Basically, I had this landlordthat was a bulldog.
Basically, this person wasalways very angry, always very
loud, always controlling thingsin your face, and I said you
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know, what I'm going to do isI'm going to turn around and
give this person what they need.
They need compassion, they needto be seen, they need to be
loved.
And I would just, every time Isaw this person, I would say
what a great job you're doing onthis space here.
I'm so happy that you're mylandlord because you're taking
care of things and I love howyou want it to always be a
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beautiful space and I see howyou're upgrading things and from
then on she and I were bestfriends.
Wow, because she was thinking Ihave to control this because
it's my job, and if I don'tcontrol it, then you know, and I
remember she would chase peopleoff the property if they were
doing something that she didn'tlike because it was her property
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.
And you know, and I just triedto be compassionate and
understand, she's controlling itbecause she feels like she.
You know, she doesn't havecontrol, so that's why she has
to push outwardly.
And if not, if you, if you goagainst her, she's angry.
And so, rather than beingvictimized by it, I decided,
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okay, I'm going to try and seeit from her side.
Try to see.
And I was watching something onsocial media and this person who
was a US spy I guess a formerUS spy came out and said it's
all about either perspective orperception.
So our perception is onlywithin us.
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We have control of that, butnobody else has that same
perception.
So why not take a look atperspective and look at the
other person's perspective, seehow they're seeing the world?
When you do that, it's almostlike you have a superpower, you
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have a psychological step upbecause you're understanding and
seeing how the other person isoperating, so that's a dramatic
way of looking at the same thing.
Speaker 1 (16:42):
And I love how you're also not taking it personally,
like you're bringing in yourwisdom to be like oh, this has
nothing to do with me.
And that is like the first stepof creating awareness around
most of the people who are angryin this world it has nothing to
do with you.
And then moving into thatperspective shift is like the
second step, because that'swhere you can cultivate the
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compassion.
But you have to know that ithas nothing to do with you,
right?
Speaker 2 (17:07):
right and in arguments.
I would say that would be oneof the first things you do is
you give yourself time to havethose emotions step away, have
those emotions calm down and tryto look at that perspective,
their perspective, and seeing itrather than, oh, that person, I
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feel like a victim.
Why are they doing this to me?
And realize they're in theirown loop too.
They're in that place wherethey feel out of control.
So that's why they're lashingout.
And when you see it from theirperspective, then you start to
understand oh, we're both, youknow, we're both working the
same thing, but on differentsides of the coin.
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And all of us humans, we're allhealing.
Every single one of us, eventhough you don't think you are,
we are.
Everything that happens, everyexperience that you have, is a
healing for you to take, for youto take a step up or not?
Speaker 1 (18:05):
Yeah, it's like an opportunity for healing.
Speaker 2 (18:07):
It's not a guarantee.
Right, right.
That's why we're here and wehave the same pictures coming up
over and over again.
You know, you think you fixedsomething?
Oh okay, wait till it comesback in a different way.
Yeah, and that's okay.
Speaker 1 (18:22):
you know, laughing about it sometimes is a good
thing, yeah I love how in one ofedgar toley's talks he talked
about if you think you're reallyspiritually evolved, go spend a
week with your parents oh,that's a good one, now that
we're coming up to the holidays.
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (18:46):
Because our parents, we love them so much, but they
trigger our, like, deepestwounds, sometimes Absolutely Our
lifelong journeys.
Speaker 1 (18:50):
Yeah, that's what family is.
Yeah, and I love theperspective, how you talked
about life as a school and myspiritual perspective, and you
may share the same one that,like, I chose all of these
events in my life and thesestruggles to happen before I
came down here, and I'll neverforget this woman.
She was a spiritual counselorof mine and I met her when I was
17.
And I was really depressed whenI was 17 years old because my
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mom wasn't around very muchbecause she was having to work
so much and my dad was sick andI really took on a lot of his
illness and so, like, I carriedhis weight of health on my
shoulders and I didn't reallyknow how to cope or what to do
with it, because I was young, Ididn't have a lot of tools and
she framed my life as, like,honey, you chose this before you
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came down here and what it didis it shifted this like
victimhood of like why is thisalways happening to me?
To an empowerment of like oh mygosh, look at all the lessons my
father has taught me.
Or, like, look at the giftsthat have come from this and
like, what are the gifts thatare coming from, the challenges
I'm experiencing in this life?
Because I set them up before Icame down here as a soul, to
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level up as a soul, and so like,how can I move through them and
get the lesson from them?
So, also, I don't have toexperience them again and again
and again, right, exactly?
Speaker 2 (20:07):
And that's where these tools, that that you and I
are teaching, come in.
You know we have opportunitiesto heal these situations or not.
We can just go around andaround and going how come this
is happening again in adifferent way with a different
person?
It's kind of in thatrelationship, you know.
You see in movies, right, thisrelationship thing where the
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person gets so angry at theperson that they're with so they
just get up and move to anothertown.
New people, new situations,right?
Speaker 1 (20:39):
Different partner, same stuff again, yeah, and I
personally experienced that overand over again.
Speaker 2 (20:48):
I think we all have to some extent and um, and it's
all good.
That's why we're here, Ibelieve.
I believe we're all here tohave those opportunities to take
a step up, you know, and and Ialso want to to validate each of
you for how far you've come.
You know, look at yourself 10years back, 20 years back, and
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and say, wow, I am not the sameperson.
I've learned so much.
Wow, I am not the same person.
I've learned so much, I'vegrown so much.
We all have these opportunitiesin our lives, but oftentimes we
don't acknowledge I've donepretty good.
I mean, look at where you arein your relationship with
yourself, in your relationshipwith your family, in your
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relationship with your partner.
Where are you?
Validate those wins as well.
I love that.
Speaker 1 (21:39):
I love that with your partner.
Where are you?
You know, validate those winsas well.
I love that.
Yeah, I love that.
Would you?
Speaker 2 (21:49):
want to do a reading for the people who are listening
today?
Sure, so we're going to work onbeing anxious and overwhelmed.
Let's take a look.
So I am going to start with aprayer and you can just sit back
and relax, maybe, with theblessings of the Supreme being,
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that she shine her countenanceupon us and bring us peace and
body, mind and spirit.
Amen, as peace in body, mindand spirit, amen.
So we're all releasing anunconscious energy above our
seventh chakra.
This is our communication withthe Supreme being and where we
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feel alone and separate fromeverything and everyone.
This communication is alwayshere for us.
It's a deep and intimatelistening.
It's a grace that we can bringinto our lives.
It's a peace, if you like, andcoming in as we start to heal
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this unconscious energy.
We're releasing the anger, theseparateness, the victimization,
and bringing in this beauty,this grace, this connection with
our higher selves, with eachother.
And that color is a beautiful,sparkly pink, with gold.
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In our fifth chakras there isthis anger that we spew out
that's coming from this placewhere we're not heard, where
we're not seen, where no onelistens or hears us.
That's a deep, red, dark energythat mucks up this
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communication space.
It affects the way we're heard.
It affects the way we're notheard, the way we can't hear
ourselves sometimes, becausethat's where our answers lie
truly is within us.
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We're releasing that red energyand bringing in this deep green
.
This deep green is knowing andunderstanding ourselves and
hearing our own truths each day,each moment, in each lesson
that we bring forth forourselves.
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That deep green is tinged withgold as well.
The next thing I see is in ourfourth chakras.
This is our self-affinity,where we love and give to
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ourselves.
It's this place where we're toobusy, we're too overwhelmed,
we're tied up with the emotions,we're tied up in trying to fix
things.
We're separate from the world.
We're in up with the emotions.
We're tied up in trying to fixthings.
We're separate from the world.
We're in this alone and we'rereleasing that energy that is a
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brown.
It sits in that fourth chakra,around us and in our
relationship with ourselves andothers.
As we release that, we'rebringing in this beautiful light
, blue, where there's compassionand understanding for ourselves
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.
We're also releasing some energyfrom our second chakra in our
relationship space and in ourintimate relationships with
ourselves and others, with ourmain partner and how we and how
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we hold on to anger, hold on andsit in the muck of these
pictures, so to speak.
This experience that we have,thinking that it's just what's
in front of us, that there'snothing more, and we're
releasing that energy that's adeep purple.
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As we start to release that,we're bringing in that beautiful
, sparkly blue and some pink,clearing out what I call the UPS
of our second chakra is wherewe hold on to all of these
trauma, all this trauma, allthese projects that other people
give us, releasing all thatenergy so we can create for
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ourselves, create those miraclesin our lives.
Have these beautifulexperiences to find that place
of neutrality and giving toourselves, releasing some red
energy out of the first chakra.
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And this is that place where wefeel separate.
We're using some brown and redenergies there.
There we go and then runningthat beautiful blue, sparkly
blue, through our whole spaceand realizing that we are not
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disconnected, we belong, webelong to the whole, we belong
to each other, we're connected,we're inseparable.
My experience is your experience.
We can experience that joytogether.
As we heal ourselves, we healeach other.
It's beautiful.
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Take a breath, feel that space,how clear it is.
I'm going to bring some goldsuns in for you that space, how
clear it is.
I'm going to bring some goldsuns in for you.
This is replenishing yourenergy with your pure energy,
yours and yours alone.
Just notice how your body feels.
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Notice that quiet, that beauty,that grace.
Be with the blessings of theSupreme being.
This reading and healing iscomplete.
Amen.
Thank you, you're welcome.
You asked me for a reading, butI'm a healer so I always go
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into healing, so there's afreebie for you.
Speaker 1 (28:58):
Yeah, and it's amazing.
I always love your meditationsand your healings.
Speaker 2 (29:03):
Yeah, wonderful, that was really sweet.
Yeah, everybody did night, didreally well.
Speaker 1 (29:11):
Yeah, I love how you talked about us not being alone
and not being separate, becauseI feel like that's the lie that
our ego tells us, and when webelieve that we're the only one
experiencing whatever we'regoing through and that it's not
for a greater purpose, that'swhen everything feels so heavy
and I loved how you reallytouched on that and touched on
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the connectedness and that Ihope that people, when they
listen to this healing, whenthey're listening on the podcast
, they know that many, manypeople will listen to the same
healing and feel thatconnectedness and it's like,
even if we're not listening atthe same time, it's like a crazy
dimensional thing that bringsus back to that moment.
Speaker 2 (29:53):
Absolutely.
So you can listen to thishealing on this podcast and you
can do it over and over againand share it.
Share it with your family,share it with your friends, so
that your community can start tohave this healing as well, and
it's even more powerful for youas you do this.
So this is an unselfish waythat you can help heal your
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tribe, heal your family, healyour relationships, heal the
world, and this is somethingthat will reach everyone.
Speaker 1 (30:26):
And I love how it's so simple.
You don't have to do anythingRight, you can just receive it
Right, and that's where thepower is, isn't that powerful?
Speaker 2 (30:34):
Yeah, it's so powerful.
It is powerful.
So that thought ofconnectedness, it reminds me of
BJ Palmer, who's the developerof chiropractic.
He said something like younever know how far reaching
something you do today willaffect the lives of millions
tomorrow.
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So we can have that community,we can have that healing, and
the way you do that is byhealing yourself I love that so
amazing it sounds so simple, butit is quite the journey it is,
but we can always come back toit.
(31:14):
Yeah, we always have that, thatpower to do that yeah it is a
superpower.
Yeah, we always have that withus.
Speaker 1 (31:22):
Yeah, so every time you heal yourself, you are
healing the planet and I lovehow that brings the focus back
into like a manageable space.
Yes, because it's sooverwhelming when we think about
everything going on and how wehave no control over it it just
riddles us with anxiety.
But when you bring it back tojust your space and your
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immediate environment and howpowerful and impactful that can
be, it becomes so much moremanageable.
Speaker 2 (31:49):
Right, right.
Also, maybe we can share a fewpractical things.
Yeah, that we can do.
Speaker 1 (31:58):
Yeah, practical things that we can do, yeah, one
that came to mind during yourhealing was for people to take
some time every day, just acouple minutes, to either write
or imagine what they want inlife, and not only what they
want externally, but how theywant to feel in life and connect
with that feeling.
Maybe it's to feel more secureor to have more peace of mind,
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or to let things go a little bitmore and to find their security
within themselves or connectingto whatever they believe in,
whether it's a higher power or areligious body or entity.
To make time to create a visionfor what you love in your life
and then also what you want tocreate in your life, because
(32:44):
that, I think, shifts ourthoughts from, once again, the
chaos and the external thingsthat are going so wrong to our
immediate environment andourselves, and the positivity
instead of the negative.
Speaker 2 (32:58):
Absolutely.
That's very powerful to havethat basically vision statement
for your life.
Speaker 1 (33:04):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (33:05):
And you know it can be upgraded whenever you feel
the need.
And I think you know that goesback to what I do on a regular
basis and what I found to be avery helpful practice is
gratitude and meditation, andthat's how I start my day and
(33:28):
that's how I end my day, beinggrateful for, first of all, I
open my eyes and I say thank youfor this beautiful life, thank
you for this day, because we'renot guaranteed.
You know we don't think aboutthat often and I'm not trying to
be dark here, but I want to saythat we are given this gift and
(33:50):
life is a gift and to embracethat and radiate in that living
is a very powerful thing.
And by meditating, what you'redoing is you're connecting to
your source, you're connectingto who you are.
It's not a woo-woo thing.
It really is a tool foreveryday living and it does
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change your physiology.
We can say, you know, oh, I'mnot into that spiritual stuff.
But it's not just about beingspiritual.
It really is about how yourbrain works and how your body
works.
You're coming out of fight orflight that we can tend to do
that we close our eyes, turningour phones off or leaving them
(34:34):
on all night, um, and we, um, wego into.
Oh, I'm gonna, you know, jumpout of bed and go grab my coffee
, but start your day with alittle bit of meditation, just
some quiet space, even justconnecting to yourself, to your
higher self, self even toyourself, even just to your body
(34:54):
.
Speaker 1 (34:54):
If you don't know how to connect to your higher self
yet, yeah, lately I've beenpracticing this new meditation
because I always like to kind ofhave a practice or a theme when
I'm meditating instead of justsitting in silence.
Sometimes I do that, but I liketo have a focus, and so
recently I've been tuning intomy heart space and imagining
(35:15):
myself feeling safe in my heartspace and what that feels like.
And so I'm cultivating thispractice so that when things in
life make me anxious orchallenges arise, I can go to
that space and I know that spaceand that it feels familiar to
me and that I've made thoseneural connections in my brain
to that sense of security andsafety within me, and so that I
(35:37):
can, when in a challengingsituation, find a safe space
within me without having to doanything.
Speaker 2 (35:43):
Oh, can we do that right?
Speaker 1 (35:45):
now.
Speaker 2 (35:45):
Yeah, I want to.
Yeah, I want to do that withyou, yeah.
So what I would say is let'sput our hands over our hearts,
crush one hand over the otherand, alessandra, go ahead and
lead us through this.
Speaker 1 (35:56):
Okay, so take a couple of deep breaths into your
chest, feel your ribs expandand contract, and then imagine
yourself in a comfortableposition, whether it's seated or
laying down in your heart space.
(36:17):
Look around you and imaginewhat you see.
Maybe you're in your room athome your bedroom.
Maybe you're at your parents'house.
Maybe you're in your room athome your bedroom.
Maybe you're at your parents'house.
Maybe you're in the forest.
Maybe you're at the beach.
(36:41):
Choose a place that feels safeto you and notice if you're
alone, or is your significantother with you, or maybe your
best friend, or maybe your dog,and feel grounded in this space.
Feel that you're safe andprotected in this space.
(37:04):
Nothing can harm you in thisspace, and this space is full of
love.
Take a deep breath into thatfeeling of security and love and
know that this space is for youwhenever you need it.
(37:27):
You can come back here and feelrecharged, and make sure to
visit this space often, so thatit's so familiar and easy to
access, no matter what is goingon in your external life.
All right.
Speaker 2 (37:48):
Oh, it was beautiful, it's great.
Speaker 1 (37:52):
Sometimes I imagine my husband, like holding my hand
in that space because he makesme feel really safe and I know
we don't always want to bringpeople into our space, or
energies into our space, butwhen it's someone really close
to us or I imagine we don't havea dog, someday we'll have a dog
but that connection you havewith your animal could give you
that same sense of security.
Right, and I just love playingwith that.
(38:15):
That's fun, yeah.
I love it.
That's beautiful, all right, Ihope you enjoyed that episode.
I love sharing Dr Debbie'sgifts with you because she has
made such a huge impact in mylife in my healing journey.
She really works to empowerothers to find their truth and
(38:36):
heal themselves and, as she said, when you heal yourself, you
are also healing yourrelationships.
You are also healing the planet.
Healing yourself is a veryunselfish act and it allows you
to show up as your full, best,brightest self in your life.
So don't forget to put on youroxygen mask first before helping
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others, and the best way to dothat is to sign up for the
Awaken Retreat, june 2nd 2024,from 1pm to 5 pm.
Like I said, this will be adeeply recharging, restorative
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(39:20):
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This is going to be anincredible experience and, if
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(39:43):
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(40:05):
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details on my website.
Mrshardcom, you can find a linkin the show notes, you can find
it on my Instagram, and if youwant to learn more about Dr
Debbie, I'll add her links tothe show notes as well.
I look forward to seeing youthere at the Awaken Retreat on
(40:26):
June 2nd, and until next time,take care.
Hi, I'm Alessandra Tolome Hard, aka Mrs Hard, and
this is Hard Times no More, apodcast for people who are tired
of struggling with boundaries,people-pleasing and relationship
problems.
I have overcome some hard times.
Within three years, I stoppeddrinking, my mom died of cancer
and my house burnt down in aCalifornia wildfire, and those
(00:22):
are just the highlights.
I have a lot of reasons to bemiserable, but I'm not.
The truth is, life was morechallenging before these events
happened.
If you are tired of waiting foryour circumstances to change to
find happiness and peace ofmind, you are in the right place
.
Join me as I share the tools Iuse in love to transform
(00:43):
challenges into assets andinterview others about their
relationship journeys.
Together, let's learn how tohave a happy life full of
healthy, meaningfulrelationships and say goodbye to
hard times for good.
Hey there, welcome to the HardTimes no More Relationship
(01:04):
Podcast.
I'm Alessandra Tolomey Hard,aka Mrs Hard, your host.
This week I'm replaying one ofmy all-time favorite episodes
and it's one of the most popular, most downloaded episodes I
have as well.
In this episode, I'm joined bymy dear friend, healer and
(01:24):
chiropractor, dr DebbieVictoria-Seale.
Dr Debbie is a holisticchiropractor and intuitive
healer, also known as aclairvoyant.
If you're not familiar withwhat a clairvoyant is, it's a
gift that allows her to seeenergy from your past and
present lives, helping youremove blocks that manifest as
(01:45):
relationship issues, stress oranxiety, and guide you towards
healing and clarity so that youcan discover your truth, what is
true for you.
During our conversation, drDebbie will gift you with a
transmedium healing this istowards the end of the episode
and I'll guide you through agentle meditation to cultivate
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self-love and security.
I'm bringing back this powerfulepisode because Dr Debbie and I
have something super specialcoming up just for you.
We're hosting a retreat calledthe Awaken Retreat Mind, body,
soul.
This is going to be held onJune 2nd 2024 from 1pm to 5pm in
(02:30):
Napa California.
This transformational retreatis designed for you, to empower
you to break free from fear anduncertainty, to recharge and
step into your fullest potential, because when you really light
up yourself, when you fillyourself with your own energy,
you have so much more to giveand you can become empowered and
(02:53):
feel like you have direction inlife, that you have clarity
about what you need, and this isgoing to be an amazing space to
deeply recharge and heal pastwounds that are holding you back
.
So the Awaken Retreat isperfect for you if you thrive
when you're in tune with spirit,when you're in tune with the
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divine, your divine self.
But lately, life's hustle hasdrowned out your inner voice and
you're ready to reawaken to theconnection you have with
yourself.
So join us on June 2nd for anunforgettable experience filled
with aura healing, hands-onhealing, transmedium healing and
(03:36):
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meditation and so much more.
And if you're listening to thisepisode close to when it's
released, don't miss out onearly bird pricing.
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(03:56):
transformative experience thatwould typically cost twice as
much.
So again, that's Awaken RetreatMindBodySoul, june 2nd 2024,
1pm to 5pm in downtown Napa.
You can find more details on mywebsite, mrsheartcom.
I'm going to put a link forthis in the show notes and you
(04:18):
can find the link on myInstagram as well.
Now let's dive right into thepowerful healing conversation I
had with Dr Debbie from episode19, clairvoyant Guidance for
Anxiety Relief.
Let's talk about how chaos canbe a time of awakening which can
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feel confusing for peoplebecause it can feel like
everything's falling apart, butit's really falling into place.
What do you think about that?
Speaker 2 (04:47):
So what happens with that is, I feel we look outside
of ourselves and think that it'sour job to fix all of that,
(05:09):
because we feel uncomfortablewhen we see the world falling
apart.
We see all this traumahappening for other people and
other places.
And yes, I'm not saying thatit's not, it doesn't affect us,
it's not something that's notimportant.
It is important we're part ofthis humanity, we're not
disconnected.
But how can we control that?
(05:29):
We can't.
So you have to look inside ofyourself and say what can I do?
And when you're feeling thattrauma and that overwhelm, you
can't fix that, but you can carefor yourself and help yourself
(05:52):
so that you can feel stronger todo the things you can do to
make a change in the world,because whatever we do for
ourselves does resonate outward.
We're all connected.
We're all from the same source.
(06:12):
We are experiencing, throughthis trauma, different parts of
ourselves that are gettingoverwhelmed, that are getting
beaten down, that are gettingtraumatized, and we feel all the
anxiety because we feelhopeless.
We feel that we have to justlay down and take it, or we get
(06:34):
really angry and we feel like weneed okay, I need to get out
there and make a change reallyfast.
I need to do something to fixthis.
But that's not where our answerlies.
Our answer, when we firstexperience that trauma, is to go
inside of ourselves and findthat place that's wounded, find
(06:58):
the place that needs healing,that needs attention, that needs
nurturing, and heal that,become whole and grounded within
yourself, within your life,within your body, so that you
can be strong enough to bepresent to honestly see what is
the thing that I can do to helpthis situation, this situation.
(07:32):
So sometimes it just gets to beso overwhelming.
You know, we all go throughthat with loss and that's a
tough thing, a really toughthing, especially when you don't
have the support of a strongspiritual practice.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
I feel when you're relying on people, places and
things to make you feel whole orto make you feel stable.
Right.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
It feels like you just got the rug pulled under
you and the wind knocked out ofyou and you have no idea where
to go from there.
I mean losing my mother feltlike that to me, Like, wait, a
minute, she's my grounding post.
I still think of her.
You know that she's still here.
I can call wait, I'm going tocall mom.
(08:16):
Oh, she's not in her bodyanymore.
She's not here on this earth,but she does exist within me.
And that's the thing is, youcan find that connection.
What is my connection to thistrauma?
What is my healing through thisand with that?
(08:37):
When you heal yourself, thatresonates to the next person and
the next person and even goesoutward yeah, to the next person
and the next person and evengoes outward.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (08:45):
Because if each of us took that healing for ourselves
, then we'd be stronger inpresenting ourselves to the
world and how we interacted withthe world and realize that it's
okay to just take care ofyourself first, put your mask on
first.
(09:05):
How many times do we hear that?
Right, you put your oxygen maskon first in the airplane, when
the oxygen doesn't exist, so youcan help the person next to you
that needs help.
And that's what we have to dois find that place where we,
wounded within ourselves, wherewe traumatized within ourselves,
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heal ourselves, become wholeand start to ground in your body
, in your life, so you can bepresent and stronger for what
the next step is you need to doout there.
Speaker 1 (09:39):
Yeah, and I love how you've talked about this with me
before and you've talked aboutit in general how, like, when
things come up for us, they'rereflections, and so when we're
feeling really upset by theoutside world, like conflict or
people judging others or doingthings wrong that lights up like
(10:01):
fairness within us and it'slike for us to heal that picture
, as you refer it to, that iscoming up and so, even though we
think it has to do with theoutside world, it's really
within us that we're doing thehealing.
Does that make sense?
I don't know if.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
I said it correctly?
Absolutely, you did say itright.
So this is what I believe andwhat I've learned through my
experience in healing myself andhelping others heal themselves
is that we are all connectedhere.
This is an earth school.
This is where we draw thoseexperiences and those people to
(10:36):
us so that we can heal ourselves.
And when we do, not only do weheal ourselves, but the other
person also receives a healing.
Do we heal ourselves, but theother person also receives a
healing.
I remember when you came to mewith a trouble that you were
going through and saying I feelattacked because my loved ones
are being attacked and thisperson that I love is attacking
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them, and how do I deal withthis?
I said where is it in you whereyou can heal yourself?
Where you were attacked?
And we found out by doing ahealing on you that you were
attacked in a past life in thesame situation, and we were able
to heal that and bring thatenergy from the past into the
present.
So you could be stronger inyourself in this relationship
(11:21):
and be more neutral and lovingto yourself and this other
person, so that you could bestronger in seeing how you need
to interact with them not from aplace of woundedness, but from
a place of strength andwholeness.
Speaker 1 (11:37):
Yeah, and I remember what advice you gave me or what
you saw was that the otherperson was feeling exactly the
same way.
I was Like I was feeling likeput in a corner about what this
person was saying honestly onsocial media and I felt like it
was attacking, like you said,people I love and you said that
when you read this otherperson's energy, that they were
(11:58):
feeling that same attackedfeeling, and that really helped
me to change my perspective andto be like, oh my, my gosh, like
I wouldn't want that person tofeel the way I do, and it helped
me cultivate compassion forthem and empathy for like, oh,
they're feeling the same way.
I am just like flipped.
And it really helped to movethrough that process and, like
(12:20):
you said, get to that neutralspace, right?
Speaker 2 (12:23):
Yeah, right, yeah.
So often we will victimizeourselves because we get what we
call in psychic speak.
We get lit up, these picturesof this energy gets lit up
within us so that we can heal it, and we feel these emotions and
feel like this is wrong.
I need to.
That person is horrible and I'mnever going to speak to them
(12:46):
again, but you love them andthat's what you said.
This is somebody that I reallycare about.
So let's be compassionate andstep back, rather than pointing
the finger and say how can?
What is it in me that needs toheal in this relationship?
What is it in me that is beingstimulated?
And when you do, then you cansee the other person in that
(13:07):
neutral space, in that place ofcompassion, and allow them to
have their own healing, not thatyou have to fix it for them,
but that you can see.
Oh, they are wounded too in away, and they're lashing out in
a way.
And they're lashing out Because, from the energy that we were
(13:29):
talking about in this situation,we were talking about the third
chakra.
The third chakra is about ourwill and how we control things
in our bodies, in our lives, andthere are two reactions to that
, and this has been a commontheme in my life.
It's either you're a victim oryou're angry.
So those are two reactions.
And I come across a lot ofpeople who are very angry at me
(13:54):
and I usually victimize myselfand say why are they so?
They're horrible, that personis horrible.
How could they even say that tome?
I, you know what did I do wrongand you know I'll victimize
myself and see this person asvery angry.
So I'll tell you a funny storythat demonstrates this.
(14:14):
When I was in my practice inanother space, I had this
landlord that was a bulldog.
Basically, I had this landlordthat was a bulldog.
Basically, this person wasalways very angry, always very
loud, always controlling thingsin your face, and I said you
(14:35):
know, what I'm going to do isI'm going to turn around and
give this person what they need.
They need compassion, they needto be seen, they need to be
loved.
And I would just, every time Isaw this person, I would say
what a great job you're doing onthis space here.
I'm so happy that you're mylandlord because you're taking
care of things and I love howyou want it to always be a
(14:57):
beautiful space and I see howyou're upgrading things and from
then on she and I were bestfriends.
Wow, because she was thinking Ihave to control this because
it's my job, and if I don'tcontrol it, then you know, and I
remember she would chase peopleoff the property if they were
doing something that she didn'tlike because it was her property
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.
And you know, and I just triedto be compassionate and
understand, she's controlling itbecause she feels like she.
You know, she doesn't havecontrol, so that's why she has
to push outwardly.
And if not, if you, if you goagainst her, she's angry.
And so, rather than beingvictimized by it, I decided,
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okay, I'm going to try and seeit from her side.
Try to see.
And I was watching something onsocial media and this person who
was a US spy I guess a formerUS spy came out and said it's
all about either perspective orperception.
So our perception is onlywithin us.
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We have control of that, butnobody else has that same
perception.
So why not take a look atperspective and look at the
other person's perspective, seehow they're seeing the world?
When you do that, it's almostlike you have a superpower, you
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have a psychological step upbecause you're understanding and
seeing how the other person isoperating, so that's a dramatic
way of looking at the same thing.
Speaker 1 (16:42):
And I love how you're also not taking it personally,
like you're bringing in yourwisdom to be like oh, this has
nothing to do with me.
And that is like the first stepof creating awareness around
most of the people who are angryin this world it has nothing to
do with you.
And then moving into thatperspective shift is like the
second step, because that'swhere you can cultivate the
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compassion.
But you have to know that ithas nothing to do with you,
right?
Speaker 2 (17:07):
right and in arguments.
I would say that would be oneof the first things you do is
you give yourself time to havethose emotions step away, have
those emotions calm down and tryto look at that perspective,
their perspective, and seeing itrather than, oh, that person, I
(17:28):
feel like a victim.
Why are they doing this to me?
And realize they're in theirown loop too.
They're in that place wherethey feel out of control.
So that's why they're lashingout.
And when you see it from theirperspective, then you start to
understand oh, we're both, youknow, we're both working the
same thing, but on differentsides of the coin.
(17:49):
And all of us humans, we're allhealing.
Every single one of us, eventhough you don't think you are,
we are.
Everything that happens, everyexperience that you have, is a
healing for you to take, for youto take a step up or not?
Speaker 1 (18:05):
Yeah, it's like an opportunity for healing.
Speaker 2 (18:07):
It's not a guarantee.
Right, right.
That's why we're here and wehave the same pictures coming up
over and over again.
You know, you think you fixedsomething?
Oh okay, wait till it comesback in a different way.
Yeah, and that's okay.
Speaker 1 (18:22):
you know, laughing about it sometimes is a good
thing, yeah I love how in one ofedgar toley's talks he talked
about if you think you're reallyspiritually evolved, go spend a
week with your parents oh,that's a good one, now that
we're coming up to the holidays.
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (18:46):
Because our parents, we love them so much, but they
trigger our, like, deepestwounds, sometimes Absolutely Our
lifelong journeys.
Speaker 1 (18:50):
Yeah, that's what family is.
Yeah, and I love theperspective, how you talked
about life as a school and myspiritual perspective, and you
may share the same one that,like, I chose all of these
events in my life and thesestruggles to happen before I
came down here, and I'll neverforget this woman.
She was a spiritual counselorof mine and I met her when I was
17.
And I was really depressed whenI was 17 years old because my
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mom wasn't around very muchbecause she was having to work
so much and my dad was sick andI really took on a lot of his
illness and so, like, I carriedhis weight of health on my
shoulders and I didn't reallyknow how to cope or what to do
with it, because I was young, Ididn't have a lot of tools and
she framed my life as, like,honey, you chose this before you
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came down here and what it didis it shifted this like
victimhood of like why is thisalways happening to me?
To an empowerment of like oh mygosh, look at all the lessons my
father has taught me.
Or, like, look at the giftsthat have come from this and
like, what are the gifts thatare coming from, the challenges
I'm experiencing in this life?
Because I set them up before Icame down here as a soul, to
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level up as a soul, and so like,how can I move through them and
get the lesson from them?
So, also, I don't have toexperience them again and again
and again, right, exactly?
Speaker 2 (20:07):
And that's where these tools, that that you and I
are teaching, come in.
You know we have opportunitiesto heal these situations or not.
We can just go around andaround and going how come this
is happening again in adifferent way with a different
person?
It's kind of in thatrelationship, you know.
You see in movies, right, thisrelationship thing where the
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person gets so angry at theperson that they're with so they
just get up and move to anothertown.
New people, new situations,right?
Speaker 1 (20:39):
Different partner, same stuff again, yeah, and I
personally experienced that overand over again.
Speaker 2 (20:48):
I think we all have to some extent and um, and it's
all good.
That's why we're here, Ibelieve.
I believe we're all here tohave those opportunities to take
a step up, you know, and and Ialso want to to validate each of
you for how far you've come.
You know, look at yourself 10years back, 20 years back, and
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and say, wow, I am not the sameperson.
I've learned so much.
Wow, I am not the same person.
I've learned so much, I'vegrown so much.
We all have these opportunitiesin our lives, but oftentimes we
don't acknowledge I've donepretty good.
I mean, look at where you arein your relationship with
yourself, in your relationshipwith your family, in your
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relationship with your partner.
Where are you?
Validate those wins as well.
I love that.
Speaker 1 (21:39):
I love that with your partner.
Where are you?
You know, validate those winsas well.
I love that.
Yeah, I love that.
Would you?
Speaker 2 (21:49):
want to do a reading for the people who are listening
today?
Sure, so we're going to work onbeing anxious and overwhelmed.
Let's take a look.
So I am going to start with aprayer and you can just sit back
and relax, maybe, with theblessings of the Supreme being,
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that she shine her countenanceupon us and bring us peace and
body, mind and spirit.
Amen, as peace in body, mindand spirit, amen.
So we're all releasing anunconscious energy above our
seventh chakra.
This is our communication withthe Supreme being and where we
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feel alone and separate fromeverything and everyone.
This communication is alwayshere for us.
It's a deep and intimatelistening.
It's a grace that we can bringinto our lives.
It's a peace, if you like, andcoming in as we start to heal
(22:58):
this unconscious energy.
We're releasing the anger, theseparateness, the victimization,
and bringing in this beauty,this grace, this connection with
our higher selves, with eachother.
And that color is a beautiful,sparkly pink, with gold.
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In our fifth chakras there isthis anger that we spew out
that's coming from this placewhere we're not heard, where
we're not seen, where no onelistens or hears us.
That's a deep, red, dark energythat mucks up this
(23:44):
communication space.
It affects the way we're heard.
It affects the way we're notheard, the way we can't hear
ourselves sometimes, becausethat's where our answers lie
truly is within us.
(24:04):
We're releasing that red energyand bringing in this deep green
.
This deep green is knowing andunderstanding ourselves and
hearing our own truths each day,each moment, in each lesson
that we bring forth forourselves.
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That deep green is tinged withgold as well.
The next thing I see is in ourfourth chakras.
This is our self-affinity,where we love and give to
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ourselves.
It's this place where we're toobusy, we're too overwhelmed,
we're tied up with the emotions,we're tied up in trying to fix
things.
We're separate from the world.
We're in up with the emotions.
We're tied up in trying to fixthings.
We're separate from the world.
We're in this alone and we'rereleasing that energy that is a
(25:08):
brown.
It sits in that fourth chakra,around us and in our
relationship with ourselves andothers.
As we release that, we'rebringing in this beautiful light
, blue, where there's compassionand understanding for ourselves
(25:30):
.
We're also releasing some energyfrom our second chakra in our
relationship space and in ourintimate relationships with
ourselves and others, with ourmain partner and how we and how
(25:57):
we hold on to anger, hold on andsit in the muck of these
pictures, so to speak.
This experience that we have,thinking that it's just what's
in front of us, that there'snothing more, and we're
releasing that energy that's adeep purple.
(26:26):
As we start to release that,we're bringing in that beautiful
, sparkly blue and some pink,clearing out what I call the UPS
of our second chakra is wherewe hold on to all of these
trauma, all this trauma, allthese projects that other people
give us, releasing all thatenergy so we can create for
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ourselves, create those miraclesin our lives.
Have these beautifulexperiences to find that place
of neutrality and giving toourselves, releasing some red
energy out of the first chakra.
(27:16):
And this is that place where wefeel separate.
We're using some brown and redenergies there.
There we go and then runningthat beautiful blue, sparkly
blue, through our whole spaceand realizing that we are not
(27:45):
disconnected, we belong, webelong to the whole, we belong
to each other, we're connected,we're inseparable.
My experience is your experience.
We can experience that joytogether.
As we heal ourselves, we healeach other.
It's beautiful.
(28:09):
Take a breath, feel that space,how clear it is.
I'm going to bring some goldsuns in for you that space, how
clear it is.
I'm going to bring some goldsuns in for you.
This is replenishing yourenergy with your pure energy,
yours and yours alone.
Just notice how your body feels.
(28:31):
Notice that quiet, that beauty,that grace.
Be with the blessings of theSupreme being.
This reading and healing iscomplete.
Amen.
Thank you, you're welcome.
You asked me for a reading, butI'm a healer so I always go
(28:54):
into healing, so there's afreebie for you.
Speaker 1 (28:58):
Yeah, and it's amazing.
I always love your meditationsand your healings.
Speaker 2 (29:03):
Yeah, wonderful, that was really sweet.
Yeah, everybody did night, didreally well.
Speaker 1 (29:11):
Yeah, I love how you talked about us not being alone
and not being separate, becauseI feel like that's the lie that
our ego tells us, and when webelieve that we're the only one
experiencing whatever we'regoing through and that it's not
for a greater purpose, that'swhen everything feels so heavy
and I loved how you reallytouched on that and touched on
(29:33):
the connectedness and that Ihope that people, when they
listen to this healing, whenthey're listening on the podcast
, they know that many, manypeople will listen to the same
healing and feel thatconnectedness and it's like,
even if we're not listening atthe same time, it's like a crazy
dimensional thing that bringsus back to that moment.
Speaker 2 (29:53):
Absolutely.
So you can listen to thishealing on this podcast and you
can do it over and over againand share it.
Share it with your family,share it with your friends, so
that your community can start tohave this healing as well, and
it's even more powerful for youas you do this.
So this is an unselfish waythat you can help heal your
(30:17):
tribe, heal your family, healyour relationships, heal the
world, and this is somethingthat will reach everyone.
Speaker 1 (30:26):
And I love how it's so simple.
You don't have to do anythingRight, you can just receive it
Right, and that's where thepower is, isn't that powerful?
Speaker 2 (30:34):
Yeah, it's so powerful.
It is powerful.
So that thought ofconnectedness, it reminds me of
BJ Palmer, who's the developerof chiropractic.
He said something like younever know how far reaching
something you do today willaffect the lives of millions
tomorrow.
(30:54):
So we can have that community,we can have that healing, and
the way you do that is byhealing yourself I love that so
amazing it sounds so simple, butit is quite the journey it is,
but we can always come back toit.
(31:14):
Yeah, we always have that, thatpower to do that yeah it is a
superpower.
Yeah, we always have that withus.
Speaker 1 (31:22):
Yeah, so every time you heal yourself, you are
healing the planet and I lovehow that brings the focus back
into like a manageable space.
Yes, because it's sooverwhelming when we think about
everything going on and how wehave no control over it it just
riddles us with anxiety.
But when you bring it back tojust your space and your
(31:43):
immediate environment and howpowerful and impactful that can
be, it becomes so much moremanageable.
Speaker 2 (31:49):
Right, right.
Also, maybe we can share a fewpractical things.
Yeah, that we can do.
Speaker 1 (31:58):
Yeah, practical things that we can do, yeah, one
that came to mind during yourhealing was for people to take
some time every day, just acouple minutes, to either write
or imagine what they want inlife, and not only what they
want externally, but how theywant to feel in life and connect
with that feeling.
Maybe it's to feel more secureor to have more peace of mind,
(32:21):
or to let things go a little bitmore and to find their security
within themselves or connectingto whatever they believe in,
whether it's a higher power or areligious body or entity.
To make time to create a visionfor what you love in your life
and then also what you want tocreate in your life, because
(32:44):
that, I think, shifts ourthoughts from, once again, the
chaos and the external thingsthat are going so wrong to our
immediate environment andourselves, and the positivity
instead of the negative.
Speaker 2 (32:58):
Absolutely.
That's very powerful to havethat basically vision statement
for your life.
Speaker 1 (33:04):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (33:05):
And you know it can be upgraded whenever you feel
the need.
And I think you know that goesback to what I do on a regular
basis and what I found to be avery helpful practice is
gratitude and meditation, andthat's how I start my day and
(33:28):
that's how I end my day, beinggrateful for, first of all, I
open my eyes and I say thank youfor this beautiful life, thank
you for this day, because we'renot guaranteed.
You know we don't think aboutthat often and I'm not trying to
be dark here, but I want to saythat we are given this gift and
(33:50):
life is a gift and to embracethat and radiate in that living
is a very powerful thing.
And by meditating, what you'redoing is you're connecting to
your source, you're connectingto who you are.
It's not a woo-woo thing.
It really is a tool foreveryday living and it does
(34:13):
change your physiology.
We can say, you know, oh, I'mnot into that spiritual stuff.
But it's not just about beingspiritual.
It really is about how yourbrain works and how your body
works.
You're coming out of fight orflight that we can tend to do
that we close our eyes, turningour phones off or leaving them
(34:34):
on all night, um, and we, um, wego into.
Oh, I'm gonna, you know, jumpout of bed and go grab my coffee
, but start your day with alittle bit of meditation, just
some quiet space, even justconnecting to yourself, to your
higher self, self even toyourself, even just to your body
(34:54):
.
Speaker 1 (34:54):
If you don't know how to connect to your higher self
yet, yeah, lately I've beenpracticing this new meditation
because I always like to kind ofhave a practice or a theme when
I'm meditating instead of justsitting in silence.
Sometimes I do that, but I liketo have a focus, and so
recently I've been tuning intomy heart space and imagining
(35:15):
myself feeling safe in my heartspace and what that feels like.
And so I'm cultivating thispractice so that when things in
life make me anxious orchallenges arise, I can go to
that space and I know that spaceand that it feels familiar to
me and that I've made thoseneural connections in my brain
to that sense of security andsafety within me, and so that I
(35:37):
can, when in a challengingsituation, find a safe space
within me without having to doanything.
Speaker 2 (35:43):
Oh, can we do that right?
Speaker 1 (35:45):
now.
Speaker 2 (35:45):
Yeah, I want to.
Yeah, I want to do that withyou, yeah.
So what I would say is let'sput our hands over our hearts,
crush one hand over the otherand, alessandra, go ahead and
lead us through this.
Speaker 1 (35:56):
Okay, so take a couple of deep breaths into your
chest, feel your ribs expandand contract, and then imagine
yourself in a comfortableposition, whether it's seated or
laying down in your heart space.
(36:17):
Look around you and imaginewhat you see.
Maybe you're in your room athome your bedroom.
Maybe you're at your parents'house.
Maybe you're in your room athome your bedroom.
Maybe you're at your parents'house.
Maybe you're in the forest.
Maybe you're at the beach.
(36:41):
Choose a place that feels safeto you and notice if you're
alone, or is your significantother with you, or maybe your
best friend, or maybe your dog,and feel grounded in this space.
Feel that you're safe andprotected in this space.
(37:04):
Nothing can harm you in thisspace, and this space is full of
love.
Take a deep breath into thatfeeling of security and love and
know that this space is for youwhenever you need it.
(37:27):
You can come back here and feelrecharged, and make sure to
visit this space often, so thatit's so familiar and easy to
access, no matter what is goingon in your external life.
All right.
Speaker 2 (37:48):
Oh, it was beautiful, it's great.
Speaker 1 (37:52):
Sometimes I imagine my husband, like holding my hand
in that space because he makesme feel really safe and I know
we don't always want to bringpeople into our space, or
energies into our space, butwhen it's someone really close
to us or I imagine we don't havea dog, someday we'll have a dog
but that connection you havewith your animal could give you
that same sense of security.
Right, and I just love playingwith that.
(38:15):
That's fun, yeah.
I love it.
That's beautiful, all right, Ihope you enjoyed that episode.
I love sharing Dr Debbie'sgifts with you because she has
made such a huge impact in mylife in my healing journey.
She really works to empowerothers to find their truth and
(38:36):
heal themselves and, as she said, when you heal yourself, you
are also healing yourrelationships.
You are also healing the planet.
Healing yourself is a veryunselfish act and it allows you
to show up as your full, best,brightest self in your life.
So don't forget to put on youroxygen mask first before helping
(38:58):
others, and the best way to dothat is to sign up for the
Awaken Retreat, june 2nd 2024,from 1pm to 5 pm.
Like I said, this will be adeeply recharging, restorative
and healing event.
Get ready to ignite yourspiritual fire with us through
(39:20):
ancient healing modalities,including aura healing, hands-on
healing, transmedium healing,guided meditation and so much
more.
This is going to be anincredible experience and, if
you are listening close to whenthis podcast airs, like I said,
early bird pricing is availablenow, and this is available for a
(39:43):
super limited time.
We are also keeping the numberof people who are going to be
able to sign up for this retreatsuper limited, because this
kind of work is best done insmall groups, and so don't delay
, sign up today so that you cansave your seat.
And again, that's the AwakenRetreat, mindbodysoul, june 2nd,
(40:05):
from 1pm to 5pm in NapaCalifornia, and you can find the
details on my website.
Mrshardcom, you can find a linkin the show notes, you can find
it on my Instagram, and if youwant to learn more about Dr
Debbie, I'll add her links tothe show notes as well.
I look forward to seeing youthere at the Awaken Retreat on
(40:26):
June 2nd, and until next time,take care.
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