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Speaker 1 (00:10):
Hi everyone, yvette Rose here, founder and also
author of Metaphysical Anatomybook and technique as well.
It's a big book of 679 medicalailments where I write and talk
a lot about the similaritiesthat we have between all of us
and talk a lot about thesimilarities that we have
between all of us from all thepeople in the world that have
certain specific trauma triggerpoints behind certain ailments,
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exasperating it and how to callour power back from learning to
understand what the body istrying to tell us and also what
our ancestry is trying to tellus through our DNA lineage, and
how all these challenges expressthemselves.
And guys, so welcome here tothis course.
I am so excited to be divinginto this here with you.
We're going to be looking athow can we start to shift our
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mindset, how can we start toshift and to heal from our past?
Because ultimately, let's behonest, why are we all here
today?
Why is it that we do what we dowhen we start to dive into
personal development?
Of course, we don't really gointo these aspects.
We don't look at these parts ofour lives when things are going
really well.
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It means that there's somethingin your life that is just not
working for you.
There's something that is notin alignment with you in terms
of, maybe, how you would like tofeel or where you're trying to
move to in your life.
Maybe there's self-sabotage,maybe there's fears, maybe
there's self-rehabilitatingpatterns that you just can't
quite shake or get rid of orknowing how to overcome that,
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and sometimes we are consciouslyalso aware of what it is in our
past that we would like to letgo.
But most of the time, a lot ofpeople actually don't know what
are root traumas or what tookplace or why is it that they
behave or act the way that theydo and how that is showing up in
their lives.
At the moment.
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The only thing that most peopleactually just see is
destructive.
You know, coping mechanisms,anxiety, depression.
What we tend to see in today'sage is the aftermath of what
happened in the past.
Now, this is something that I'mvery deeply connected to, and
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also because of my own historywith healing my life.
You know, having gone from youknow a father that was
clinically diagnosed sociopathand an alcoholic and also
self-medicated drug addict,being the only child as well,
and my mom just trying tobalance everything and just keep
everything together.
It was a very stressful life.
It was a very rude introductionto what life is like because
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when, when we're born, when wecome into the world, our family
environment and the people thatwe have access to, immediately
they become our reference forwhat life is, how to act, how to
react, what is love, what isconnection, what is bonding or
what is the absence of that.
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Now these dynamics set forththe foundation by which we start
to live our life by.
It sets forward the foundationin terms of how we act and react
, what we like, what we don'tlike.
So many things that happenedhere is driving or motivating us
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, consciously or subconsciously,to do the things that we're
doing Now.
To heal from our past can feelreally intimidating.
Let me tell you, I know what itfeels like because I've been
there.
I know and I deeply understandwhat it's like to have this idea
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of what we think happens andthen when we kind of like meet
it face to face and we go, oh mygod, this is, this is, this is
really what happened.
This is how it made me feel.
When we start to bring thatconscious awareness in
relationship to how we felt inthe past, or perhaps what
happened, the things that we'vebeen trying to suppress.
We can sometimes be rudelysurprised by the depth of the
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stress, the strain that we'vebeen feeling, because we're pain
avoidant, we are discomfortavoidant.
So when something does happenor did happen in the past, and
it caused in the past and itcaused you tremendous stress, it
caused you tremendous problems,then absolutely now we're going
to have a problem.
And so what we're looking at?
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When we have this problem, whenwe realize, well, there's
something not working right now,we move away and we move away
and further away.
And that is a coping mechanism.
It's a safety trigger that wehave to protect ourselves.
Sometimes it can come forward,so strong that it comes forward
in the form of amnesia.
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We actually don't consciouslyremember what happened, but the
emotional body right, theemotional body, what I write
about a lot about in here itremembers and it's those
messages that get stored, itgets recorded, it gets locked in
because, at the end of the day,when we look at, as we mature,
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as we grow up, what happens, wehave emotions happens.
We have emotions positive,negative, but we have desires,
we have, you know, motivation,we have intentions.
Now, all of this causesemotions to flow and move
throughout the body.
You know that when you feel anemotion, sometimes you can feel
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it coming up in the heart area,you might feel it in the gut,
you might feel it coming forwardand as a headache or a lot of
stress, a lot of mental stress.
And when we look at it now fromthis perspective, the moment
when there is discomfort, whatdo we do?
There's either a shock reactionor there's an avoidance
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reaction.
Now, the moment when there's anavoidance reaction, what
happens?
We block, we stop.
It's called almost an energeticboundary.
We don't want to feel that, sowe stop.
And it's almost like thatfeeling sometimes.
Have any of you ever felt likein your heart?
Sometimes it feels like there'sa lot of tension.
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You feel really uncomfortable,like it's like there's a stone
on it.
That is normally a fear ofgiving and receiving and there's
an energetic block therebecause that block is showing
you there was a part of you thatdecided love is not safe, or I
can't give or show my emotionsbecause I get attacked.
It's not safe.
So what happens?
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There's a block in the flow ofthe energy, in the flow of
connecting or trying to orwanting to connect, because at
the end of the day, regardlessof what it is that you want to
do.
When emotions are flowing,they're flowing for a reason.
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There's a purpose for thatemotion, either to tell you that
you're angry, either to tellyou that you're really, really
happy right now, or that youwanted to celebrate something.
And that emotion normally has ahealthy or an unhealthy outlet.
Really depends if it's positiveor negative.
Now, of course, positiveemotions can also have a
negative outlet, and that is ifit's too heightened.
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You know, when you're overlyexcited sometimes you can say
the wrong thing at the wrongtime.
So that's a really greatexample of that.
But the initial intention is,of course, positive.
Now it's just a matter of howwell can we regulate these
emotions when they are setforward, in motion, as the body
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is feeling it throughout everysingle cell, because we have the
cognitive mind that you knowmoves around all these messages
and the sensations, and then wehave the nervous system that
also allows us to for messagesto be sent forward, back forth,
back forth.
We have organs that can alsohave their own.
You know, emotional littlepersonalities like, for example,
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restore resentment in kidneys.
The liver restored a lot ofanger.
You'll see people who arealcoholics to have an enlarged
liver, of course because ofalcoholism, but also because
they have a tremendous amount ofsuppressed anger now at the end
of the day.
So, at the end of the day, whenwe look at how we respond to
stress, how we, you know, justtry to regulate ourselves after
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a stressful event, because Iknow that you know, once you've
had a stressful event in yourlife, the only thing that we
want to have an experience themost is relief.
We want escape, relief.
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We want this guy, we want 100hands down relief.
We want to self-regulate,whether it's conscious or
subconscious.
But there is a part of you thatwants to, and needs to,
emotionally, physically andpsychologically regulate, to go
back to your neutral innerequilibrium, because it is our
natural state to be harmonious,to be neutral.
If our bodies were designed tolive in this heightened state of
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distress, we wouldn't have allthese energetic blocks.
That's just, you know, blockingoff the flow of energy, because
the reason why it gets blockedoff is because it's either
unpleasant, stressful or not inalignment with your true nature
and where it is that you wouldlike to move into and to be in
your life.
So what do we do?
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When something doesn't feelright, when something feels
imbalanced?
We either it, we move away fromit, or we fight against it or
we run away from it.
It really depends what is yourdefault coping strategy, which
is something that we all haveLike, for example, mine used to
be freezing.
I would sometimes just freezeand I will get stuck in bad
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situations.
I will get stuck in badcircumstances or a bad career
and I will not make changes.
I will just be like, okay, I'mjust going to try to do my best.
I'm just going to try to, youknow, go under the radar and
just do what I can.
It's almost like there becomesa sense of desensitizing to what
it is that you really trulyneed, because the moment, what I
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found in my personal experienceis that when I'm doing
something and it's not workingfor me and I feel that feeling
of discontent, I try to fightagainst it.
I try to overcome it.
Now, this can go, of course, twoways.
One is really truly where yourlife path is showing you with
this discontent or thedestruction, or maybe the
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disconnect or the numbness,whatever negative experience it
is that you're having.
Are they showing you that thisis not for you, or it's showing
you that maybe it's bringing upsomething in you that needs to
be addressed so that you canfall into alignment with this
path and actually really trulybe happy in that.
Now, what's the difference?
We're going to be getting tothat a little bit later, because
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there is a very fine line inthat specific topic in itself
and almost probably, of course,whole on its own.
But when we look at our pastfirst of all, what is really
really important and somethingthat really tremendously helped
me, and regardless of what yourpast is, this is now absolutely
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irrelevant.
This is now more so.
Just looking at what happenedand looking at where are you in
your life right now, and we'regoing to be taking it from this
perspective and almost likepretending that we're looking
back and we're looking back atthe past from a different, third
person perspective.
So one of the biggest challengesthat I see with people who are
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in a healing journey, who wouldlike to start to shift and to
heal their past, is theirattachment to the past.
I'll repeat it it is a person'sattachment to their past
Because, firstly, what happensand this attachment can take
many, many different forms thisattachment can now come forward
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and look as though it's.
Maybe there's a part of youthat can't let go of something
that happened, because you'restill waiting for, maybe a
certain type of acknowledgementor an apology, or to get the
love that you always wanted froma certain person, or to have
the victory that you alwayswanted to have, or maybe to have
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the revenge that you've justbeen waiting for so that you can
feel the justice of theinjustices that you might have
experienced.
I absolutely went through allof them.
Let me I kid you not.
I wrote so much about this on myautobiography book called
finding your own voice.
If any of you guys ever want toread it, highly recommend it,
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because there I critiqued myselfin positive ways, but also in
ways where I would be looking atmy patterns.
I really put my patterns onblack and white on paper, really
assessing my behavior and how Ireacted, especially to my past
and especially when I started tofeel it.
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And so now, when we come backto this attachment to the past
as well, there's something thatwe feel unresolved in Now.
Of course, that's one of themain reasons why it can be
challenging to kill from thepast.
It's not wanting to let go ofthe injustice.
For me, I found that if I had tolet go, then I was angry.
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This topic would trigger thehell out of me, because I would
think that, well, that bastardis now going to get away with
everything that they did to meand everything is now just going
to have to be okay, that's whatit's going to be.
What about me?
Where's my fairness?
Where's my justice?
Now, what I learned was there'sa difference in terms of how we
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can actually approach this, andone that worked really well for
me was to realize that itdoesn't mean that the person has
to be forgiven for what they'vedone.
However, what is important isto let go of how it's
influencing you, because thatyou can control.
You can start to slowly takesmall steps in terms of how you
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can control that so that itdoesn't affect your quality of
life, because the real injusticeright now is how that person
from the past continues to ruinyour life in the present moment
and into the future.
That's really what it is, that,for me, that was the real
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injustice, and so the way that Iwas able to call and revoke my
power back was to not allow whatthat person has done to me and
the experience that I have withsomeone or with several people
not allowing that to continue toinfiltrate into my future
Because our behavior, ourpatterns, our personality, our
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way of coping, all these littleactions and bits and pieces that
start to come together as awhole unit in terms of who you
are, that is constantly andactively, always contributing to
your future.
Every decision that you make,every step that you take is
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contributing and building yourfuture.
So, if you are always pissedoff and angry at someone from
the past, you are activelymanifesting that anger into your
future relationships, yourfuture career, your future,
whatever it is that you're doingand that you want to create.
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But then, at the same time, wealso try to have freedom from
the anger.
We try to have freedom from theinjustice, we're trying to find
our peace, but our inability tosee this just from a different
perspective.
I'm not saying you have to letgo at this point, because a lot
of you might not be ready tohear that, and that is okay, I
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have been there too.
Forget even about having to letgo.
However, I do invite you tolook at this just from a
different perspective.
That's it.
That is already going to be agreat start for today.
Just a different perspective.
A great start for today, just adifferent perspective.
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And that is, asking yourselfthe question do I want to
continue to give this person orthis situation the power to
constantly ruin my future thatI'm trying to build that is free
from this trauma and stress anddistress?
That is a very importantquestion.
And the answer to that questionis even more important Because
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what I realized from my past andone of the many reasons why it
was hard for me to let go isthat the anger, the anger that I
felt as a result of it, becausethat's another form of feeling
powerless, something thathappened and made you feel
completely out of control orvery unsafe or very unprotected,
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and it's normal to react in astate of anger.
Normally people can go into theopposite.
They go into the state ofcomplete you know detachment,
wanting to hide, becoming thevictim, but then at some point,
at some point, the body reachesits threshold, of feeling stuck
in the victim state, because thebody is starting to realize I'm
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not surpassing this.
If I stay in the victim state,I can't get to where I need to
be, because your body isdesigned to support you to can't
get to where I need to beBecause your body is designed to
support you, to keep you alive,to keep you moving, to keep you
shaking.
It's designed for you tofulfill your purpose.
But if you stay in this statethat is unresourceful, the
body's like, hey, how do I shiftthis block?
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This is not working for me.
The energy needs to startflowing, because if it doesn't,
it can cause a dysfunction inyour frequencies and in your
energy alignment, in your bodyas well, and that can translate
over time into physicaldysfunction.
And now what you're probablyhearing is potential ailments,
potential bad health.
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Now what happens is, when we'restuck in that unresourceful
state, we sometimes often revertto the fight instinct.
And that is anger, that boost,that burst of power, of cortisol
, of adrenaline that's needed toalmost, like, knock you out of
this state.
That's what anger is normallyfor.
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That's the purpose of anger.
It has many purposes, but,specifically now for today's
topic, that is what anger does.
And so the anger comes andcomes up.
Hard enough, hard enough.
Just get out of my way, bum.
And so what happens now?
Subconsciously, we think, ohgod, I'm liberated.
This anger feels good, I feelpowerful, I feel strong.
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When I have all this cortisoland all this anger, all this
frustration and irritationrunning through me, now,
suddenly, it's easy to say nonow, suddenly to to command and
demand what I want to have.
Now, look what's happening.
In a very, very subtle way, weform a positive association with
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this burst of energy, thisanger.
Now, initially it can be verypositive if it serves the
purpose by breaking this habit,by breaking this pattern, which
it did.
But now we think, oh wow, Ilike this feeling, so I need to
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feel angry so that I can feel mypower and I can feel confident
and I can move forward.
Now have you noticed that youfluctuate in and out of that
anger?
You go from feeling reallyangry back to just wanting to
hide, back to feeling like wheredid my confidence just go?
The reason why you dip in andout of it is because anger and
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this fight and flight instinct,this cortisol, all this
adrenaline running through yourbody, all these hormones, these
stress responses being released,it is exhausting, it is
absolutely exhausting.
So what's happening is, whenyou plummet, what your body's
actually telling you?
I'm tired, I don't have thenutrients, the diet or the
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resources, emotionally andnutritional-wise, to cope with
this heightened levels of stress.
I don't have it.
But then we sometimes try topush through that.
We go no, I have to be strong,I have to keep going, and we
don't listen to the body sayinglet's just time out now a little
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bit, let's just rest a littlebit.
I'm not in in a strong state.
Let's go into a retreat state,but it's not a safe state to be
in, because there you feelunresourceful, you don't feel
like you're taking action, youdon't feel like you're achieving
something, you don't feel likeyou're being safe, because it's
hard to feel ready to guardourselves and to be defensive if
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we're in a rest state.
But of course we can be in arest state with discernment, but
just being quiet, just being,you know, flying under the radar
, just resting, just observing,just being an observer.
Now, this is one of the many,many pitfalls that I had in my
life and that was theassociation that I had with
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anger and how I thought itserved me, but at the end of the
day it alienated me.
I was extremely unhappy.
Here I am trying to findhappiness, but I'm such an angry
person.
You're in the opposite state ofwhat you're trying to create.
Of course, you're not afrequency match to people that
will make you happy, not afrequency match to the career
that will make you happy.
You're not in alignment withthe intended goal and outcome
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that you want not in alignmentwith the intended goal and
outcome that you want.
Now I had to let go of thinking.
I need the anger to succeed, tobe successful, to be heard, to
be seen, to be able to speak andto find my place of neutralness
and to feel safe in that, tofeel heard in that, to feel that
I can be acknowledged in a waythat is safe in that place and
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space.
Now, that's one point to lookat.
That's one point to start tothink about.
How is anger showing up in yourlife?
Because a lot of people don'tknow how to even be angry.
They're angry in a violent beangry.
They're angry in a violent wayor they're angry in a very
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suppressed way.
Anger, at the end of the day,just needs an outlet, but it's
how we let go of that.
That is what can beconstructive or destructive.
Now, when we look at how topoint, of how to heal from our
past in a way that is healthy,when we look at anger, we're
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also now looking at lack ofstructure.
We're looking at lack ofconsistency in your life as well
.
Here are now two more importantelements to bring your focus to
when in your life can youcreate more structure?
Because normally trauma orstress gets locked into the body
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when the body doesn't have asupport system or some sense of
structure that can give us asense of safety.
Because structure gives us asense of predictability.
Because we hate the unknown,we're biologically designed to
avoid the unknown because it canmean instant death to the
biology of the body.
I know cognitively doesn't makesense, but now we're talking
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about the body and how thatfunctions, because we have two
different ways of functioning.
One is cognitively, where wehave the ability to
intellectualize our experiencesthrough the hippocampus, our
emotional brain, also thefrontal cortex, and that's how
we perceive information in thehere and now, and then our
visceral system, our biology ofthe body, our instinctive
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responses, which is solelyfocused on life or death.
Is this situation going to bepro life or against life?
And the body starts to reactbased on these types of
decisions and it happens inseconds.
It doesn't even need yourconscious involvement.
You have no idea that your bodyis actually doing this on a
second-to-second basis.
It never rests Actually, that'swhat I would say.
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Never rests, it never sleeps.
It's always, always feeling andsensing what is going on around
you Now when we look at again.
I'm going to come back tostructure.
Where in your life?
Do you?
need more structure, maybe yourrelationships, maybe your career
, maybe just something as simpleas a routine, a daily routine,
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afternoon routine, eveningroutine, something to look
forward to, something that youknow.
Ah, I know what to expect here,because that subconsciously
already calms the body down,because the body loves to know
what's going to happen.
Now, when we also look atconsistency Because hang on, I'm
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just going to backtrack here Ijust got another thought here I
want to share with you.
I'm actually going to backtrackhere.
When we look at structure, a lotof people can actually get
bored with structure.
That was me, and the reason whyis because when you come from a
home where there was a lot oftrauma, a lot of heightened
stress, you are programmed forheightened experiences.
That's why a lot of people getyou know into violence, you know
high risk activities.
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They do everything to theextreme because they're looking
for that heightened, pivotalmoment, that emotional peak, and
so structure can actually beperceived as being boring.
But I changed my perspectivearound it and I said structure
gives me peace.
I repeat that Structure givesme inner peace, and it's the
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same with consistency, becausesuccess is created with
consistency, but, of course,with discernment.
You don't want to keep doingthe same thing for 20 years if
you can see it's not getting youto where you want to be.
So of course, discernment isneeded there.
But I'm speaking now generallyspeaking consistency.
So maybe where in your life areyou being inconsistent, whereas
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if you are just 10% or 20% moreconsistent, it can already
start to improve your quality oflife, because normally
inconsistency is an end resultof our childhood being
inconsistent.
That's your reference chaos.
Have any of you here can yourelate if I have to say, do you
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know how to create success orabundance or what you want in
your life without needing panic,without needing a crisis,
without needing stress?
If you can't imagine that, thenI'm talking to you, absolutely
talking to you right now,because that is where
consistency is absolutely key,because that inconsistency
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creates the stress, it createsthe panic, and then we go into
that high of that hormonaladrenaline and cortisol, going
into a crisis, and then we feedoff of that energy and feeling
like, oh, I'm alive, I'm doingsomething, we're accomplishing
something, but what it's doingis it's just pulling you out of
the present moment where youjust really don't like to be.
So people tend to use chaos,they tend to use stress, to
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avoid.
Not to create, but to avoid.
It's to avoid, but at the sametime, feel like they're doing
something, but actually whatthey're not doing is a lot,
because when you look atwhatever it is that you did, you
might have to go back and fix afew things because you were not
as grounded as you needed to bewhen you were perhaps doing
that something Now.
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That's also another element tobe looking at.
Another part as to why it can behard to heal from your past is
we have a false identity.
We identify with our past.
We identify with the trauma.
I see a lot of people saying Iam a survivor of this, this,
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this, this.
That I am a survivor of sexualassault.
I am a survivor of this.
A lot of people go to thesealcoholic classes where they
support each other, or at leastthey are supposed to support
each other.
They stand up there and say hi,my name is X, I'm an alcoholic.
No, no, that's not right.
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What you just did is you justreinforce the false identity?
No, if you quit drinking, andeven just for one day, and
you're now new in your journey,you deserve to say I was,
because you're now moving out ofthat state.
You have to speak your realityin terms of where it is that you
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want to go.
You want it to be in the past?
Okay, great, let's reinforce itas being in the past.
I cannot tell you howincredibly important this is.
This is often to people'sdetriment, because how can you
be a hero if you're a victim atthe same time?
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How can you be the hero of yourown life if you still hold
these wounds?
People qualify and becomeheroes because they're now
willing to put their pastexactly where it needs to be in
the past.
It's called the past becauseit's behind you.
It's not real anymore, itdoesn't exist anymore.
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But our anger, our need forjustice, our inability to let go
and how we perceive ourselveswithin this dynamic of the past
is what emotionally keeps itreal.
That is what emotionally makesyou feel it's still real, it's
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still alive.
Well, okay, yeah, you can keepit alive, because if you
continue to feel it in thepresent moment I know what I
said earlier it continues toform part of the future.
It continues to form part ofyour new reality, and that is
how we keep the past alive.
The past itself is not alive.
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We keep the memory of it alive,but allowing it to continue to
infiltrate our behavior and ouractions in the future.
Now, another part as to why itcan be really, really hard to
heal our lives and to heal fromthe past is when we look at our
coping mechanisms.
Many coping mechanisms arehealthy.
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They're there to actually helpus to improve our quality of
life.
I get it, I have them too.
But when we look at copingmechanisms and when we look at
coping strategies and how thesestrategies that, if they're done
over time, too many times, orit starts to cause stress, like,
for example, a lot of peoplemight say well, I love to run a
lot, so OK, perfect, go for arun.
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But now, if they keep runningand running and running and
their body is now maybe out ofbalance, they don't have the
right nutrients, they don't havethe right omega oils, oils
maybe this might start to havestress in their tendons and the
muscle might start to becomeproblematic or the tendons
become problematic.
Now they start to have pain.
But this coping strategy ofrunning to just release all the
stress, which is great, but nowtrying to push beyond that
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barrier of pain and trying to be, you know, the martyr, I'm
going to keep running becausethis is my strategy.
Now the body gets injured.
Now coping strategy became avery detrimental strategy as
well.
And when we look at it from allthese different perspectives and
all these different angles, atthe end of the day, now you
might create a new copingstrategy, because you can't do
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the running anymore, you mightbe resting temporarily.
But now you create other copingstrategies because you don't
like the way that you feel,because you're't do the running
anymore, you might be restingtemporarily, but now you create
other coping strategies becauseyou don't like the way that you
feel, because you're running fora reason.
Of course they can say it's forenjoyment, but at the end of
the day let's be honest it's torelease stress.
I love to run 20 minutes tohalf an hour in the morning at
least three times per week, andI find it is amazing way to
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self-regulate stress that youbuild up, build up, build up,
build up, you up.
I call it silent stress thatjust needs to be released.
It's fantastic.
But when I look at you knowthis pattern.
Now, when we come back to thatinjury and now there's other
coping mechanisms that thatstarts to form, now we just have
a new problem and sometimescoping mechanisms can be so
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unhealthy it can be.
So you know, to your detriment,that these coping mechanisms
needs new coping mechanisms oftheir own, because the one that
you have originally is creatinganother problem, and then that
problem needs another copingmechanism or way to cope or deal
with it.
So it becomes this vicious,nasty cycle of this coping
mechanism or way to cope or dealwith it.
So it becomes this vicious,nasty cycle of this coping
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mechanism after coping mechanismafter coping mechanism, and
that's why so many people feelthey're not making progress in
their life, because they thinkthat the step that they're
taking to help them is going tobring them the relief that they
want.
But it's just anothersubconscious escape.
Sometimes, when we don'tunderstand what problem it is
that we're dealing with, it'shard to apply the correct tools
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or the correct strategy to putan end to the cycle, to put an
end to the habit or the pattern.
And that moment is because lackof awareness, because we don't
like to feel.
We don't like to feel ouremotions.
We are biologically designed,guys, to feel our emotions.
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Emotions is your gps.
It's your gps in your life.
Now, when we look at it fromthis perspective, the very thing
that's meant to guide us.
We're suppressing it, we areavoiding it, we don't want to
feel it, we don't want to beconnected to it.
But this is the very thingthat's also connected to your
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intuition.
Are you making the connectionsnow?
If you struggle with yourintuition, then you struggle
with your emotions hands downPeriod intuition then you
struggle with your emotionshands down period.
So, at the end of the day,coping strategies can be good,
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but it really depends.
Is it the correct solution thatyou are applying to the problem
part that you're trying to dealwith Now?
Another part also as to why itcan be harder to heal from our
past is because we stick to whatfeels safe.
We are discomfort avoidant, weare pain avoidant.
The body doesn't like theunknown, it doesn't like to feel
fear, so, of course, it sticksto what feels safe, even though
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it's not creating the outcomethat it wants.
This is a pure biologicalreaction and what is important
here and what helped metremendously, is when I started
to tell myself, when I do feelunsafe, when I do feel
challenged, I am safe.
I am safe now.
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Just that affirmation already,and focusing on your breath as
well, just making sure you'rebreathing in and breathing out,
is consistent and equally aslong, because when we are in a
state of fight and flight, ourbreath becomes more shallow and
that means the vagus nerve isnow starting oxygen and now it's
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sending the stress signals toall the organs.
It's completely flipped upsidedown.
Now it's really upset, and thatalready helps the nervous
system to calm down if the bodycan just get adequate oxygen,
because that then tells thewhole body and the visceral
system well, I'm okay, I'm okay,I'm okay, I'm okay.
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And then consciously lookingaround you and observing but is
there really truly a threataround me?
Is there really somethingaround me right now to confirm
what I'm feeling?
If the answer is no, perfectOkay.
So let's feel and see thesafety, the immediate safety
that we are surrounded by rightnow.
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That's another point.
Now here is one of my favoriteones and one that I see a lot of
people being challenged with.
A lot of people are truly anddeeply struggling with this, and
that is fear of change.
It's fear of change.
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What do we do when we want toheal?
It requires change.
So now, if you have a fear ofchange, you're walking with your
head right into a wall if youthink well, I want to heal my
life, I want to heal the past, Iwant to break free.
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You see how these two don't govery well together.
They kind of like need tobecome friends, meaning let go
of negative associationsassociated with change.
Because if you have traumaassociated with change, now we
have a problem.
Because what happens now?
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You think I want to heal mylife.
Consciously, it looks.
We think it's fantastic, ofcourse, you're going to be
happier, you're going to be moresuccessful.
You're going to be happier,you're going to be more
successful, you're going to bemore abundant, you're going to
have great relationships.
What's bad about it?
Nothing.
But now, consciously, that'swhat you think and feel, because
that's the positive intention.
But subconsciously what'shappening is that the
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subconscious mind is like, okay,wait, wait, wait, wait, perfect
.
So let's see, what do we haveassociated with change in the
past?
Now the conundrum starts,because now the subconscious
mind is digging up all these oldnegative memories perhaps, or
traumas and emotions andsensations associated with times
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when you did change or when youdid try to create some kind of
change, whether it's a careerchange, friendship change,
whatever change is change.
Right now, when that memorystarts to come up, what's
happening?
Your body is now flooded withthe biochemical messages of
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these suppressed memories andyour body is now reacting to it.
Consciously.
You might not make theconnection and realize what is
being triggered.
The only thing that you'refeeling is anxiety, stress,
panic.
Your legs feel a little bitwobbly, you feel like you want
to hide.
Maybe you feel like you want tohide, maybe you feel like you
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want to run away, maybe you justfeel like freezing.
A whole wave of new emotionscan now start to come up because
of that.
So now, when we look at it fromthis perspective, I had to
learn how to befriend change andto see and understand that when
I change something, I can do itin a way that something I can
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do it in a way that is safe.
I can do it in a way that makesme feel in control, because
it's our fear of losing controlthat we don't like change,
because maybe in the past youdid lose control of something in
one way or another and ittriggered that feeling of
feeling unsafe, because when thebody feels out of control, of
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course it feels unsafe.
Now, befriend change, learn andunderstand the power of change
and how that can actually becomeyour biggest and most positive
ally on your healing journey.
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Now, another part that can causeto heal from your past really
super hard is secondary gains.
So, guys, I hope that you likethis, because I'm sharing all
these pitfalls with you with theintention for you to explore
where is it that I need to shiftmy perspective, where is it
that I maybe need to dig alittle bit deeper or do some
more research or start tounravel some places where I feel
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stuck Now?
Secondary gain, of course, isthe very big issue and problem
that we all have.
We've all been there, meincluding as well.
Now, the best question that Iask myself is when there's
something that I want to do andI find myself either
procrastinating or revertingback to old habits.
I always ask myself this onemillion dollar question are you
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guys ready?
What am I life will change thatI'm not ready to change if I
shifted or healed this issue inmy life right now?
What am I life will change if Ichange or heal this issue in my
life right now that I might notwant to change?
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The answer to that that isgoing to become your biggest
point of focus, because that isthe block that you want to shift
, because automatically yoursecondary gains will just fall
apart.
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Now, another aspect that I foundon my healing journey, when I
try to heal from my past, wastrying to fit in with false
values and false beliefs.
This was almost the absoluteend of me.
Now, why do we adapt to falsevalues and beliefs, meaning we
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try to believe what other peoplebelieve in, we try to follow
other people's footsteps, we tryto always say yes, yes, yes,
that's so right.
I agree with everything thatyou're saying, the placater that
is because we're trying torelate, we're trying to be and
feel accepted, and because ofthat deep feeling of feeling
unaccepted, a lot of people arewilling to subconsciously
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sacrifice their values, theirbeliefs, their identity and what
they stand for.
What a disservice it is toyourself, but not just to
yourself, but to your future, towho it is that you want to
become.
How can you become who you wantto be or to create the success
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that you want, if you're notallowing your true values and
beliefs to shine?
Because that is what'slong-term.
I say that is what's long-termgoing to give you what you want,
because if you follow someoneelse's values and beliefs.
I'm sure that you've noticedit's really hard.
It's hard to uphold somethingthat you're not really truly in
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alignment with.
You might admire it, it mightmake you feel good when you
think about it, when youtemporarily try to step into
that, but have you noticed thatit's hard to stay in that?
Because if it was easy to beand to stay in that, then of
course you would have achievedthe success or the ideal outcome
that it is that you wanted.
Because what if you connect tothe first place?
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There's an outcome or specifictype of outcome at least, that
you wanted, but you're not ableto create or establish that
because you can't stay in thatstate.
And the reason why you can't?
Because it's not natural.
It's not natural, it's not you.
You are meant to be you in thislifetime.
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That's why you exist.
The world needs you to be whoyou really truly are, because
that's part of your purpose.
If you make yourself yourpurpose, that is when your
purpose will start to serve youperiod.
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And I have absolutely seen that,because I noticed how I started
to shift my focus and energyback to me and making me my
purpose, how I started to shineeven more in my finding my true
values, my true beliefs.
One, it is that I really wantedto contribute to the world and
not try to do something, becauseI see how it contributed to
someone else's life.
By being a certain way, I foundmy own signature, I found my
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own style, and that is one ofthe most powerful places that
you can be in your life, becauseyou will not have one more day
where someone can challenge yourboundaries or invalidate you or
make you feel less than whatyou really truly are, because if
you found your true value, yourtrue beliefs, and you live it
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and you breathe it, and it justbecomes part of your lifestyle,
because it just is now we'reliving a life that is graceful,
that is more gentle, powerfuland it's more conscious, meaning
you're more connected to yourrelationships, to your people,
to your career and to what it isthat you want to do in your
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life as well.
Because something else thatcorrelates really strongly to
this as well why people don'theal as well as they would like
to is that their happiness isconnected to what they do for
other people.
Now, that means that they needto constantly sacrifice or
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abandon or suppress something inthem because it makes someone
else happy if they behave andact in a certain way, and then
they get the gratification fromseeing someone else happy.
But what that means now is thatperson is not always going to
stay happy.
So if they go back into theirstate of you know meaning,
feeling discontent or unhappy,then actions have to be taken
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again where there's further andfurther disconnect from the
sense of self through the placeof self-sacrificing, whatever it
is that you're sacrificing tomake someone else happy.
Because if you try to makesomeone else happy, then what
does it mean?
You are not your focus anymore.
For me, the most powerful placewas to make myself the focus in
terms of what I'm doing, andthen other people tremendously
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benefit from that, and that'swhere I dive into the benefits.
Okay, you're benefiting fromthis Fantastic.
Let's dive more into that.
Because now I'm approaching itfrom a place where I am in my
power and not from a place ofself-sacrifice, because if you
are in a place of self-sacrifice, you are literally deep,
fragmenting your sense of self,you're defragmenting it.
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So it's time to come back tothe self, it's time to come back
to you.
So that's one another aspectthat I want to share with you in
terms of why and how we tend tosabotage this so much.
And one more point that I wantto share here with you as well
is our association withhappiness.
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We want to be happy, we want tobe happy.
We want to share here with youas well is our association with
happiness.
We want to be happy, we want tobe happy, we want to be happy.
But if you experience traumaand moments when you were happy,
there's a very strongpossibility that you might have
clicked in and associatedhappiness with a negative
feeling.
So now what happens is when wewant to heal.
Of course, we know that'swhat's going to make us happy,
because we're free fromsomething that's causing us to
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feel stuck or held back.
But the more we think I want tobe happy, I want to move toward
happiness, the more it's goingto hold you back, because
subconsciously the mind's likeokay, well, let's look at the
times when you were happy, let'sgo dive into that supposed to
be euphoric state.
What happens?
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It feels the trauma or thedistress or the disconnect or
abandonment and isolationassociated with the happiness.
Great example here is, just forthose of you who might be a bit
like well, I'm not sure I'mfollowing.
So what that, for example,would look like is I remember I
came home and I had, as a child,a very big fear of public
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speaking, like in the class.
I don't know if you guys had todo it as well.
This was back in the 80s, whereyou have to, once a week, speak
for half an hour on a certaintopic, and I hated this because
speaking was just not safe,because I was attacked or
punished or some kind ofnegative reaction would always
come from my dad, becausechildren had to be seen and not
heard.
And so I came home and I'm like,whoa, this was so great.
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You know, it was one speechthat I absolutely nailed because
I talked about something that Ilove.
So I was so in my element inclass and it actually went
really well.
And I came into the house andI'm like this mom, this, I did
it and I'm like this is soreally good.
And my dad was at home that dayand he was actually having a
nap and so I woke him up and itwas absolute.
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All hell to pay.
Long story short, I'm not goingto go into it because it was
not a pretty outcome.
And so that moment where I feltthis euphoric joy of
accomplishment, of success andjust happiness going yeah and
just bam, and that traumaconnected with that happiness.
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So that happy moment when I feltlike celebrating something,
when I felt happy or I'm aboutto achieve something, I actually
felt myself pulling back.
This was a massiveself-sabotaging cycle that I had
actually felt myself pullingback.
This was a massiveself-sabotaging cycle that I had
.
I pulled back because,subconsciously, my little girl,
my inner child, was like no, no,no, no, no, we can't do that.
You're gonna get punished,you're gonna punch, you're gonna
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get beaten up.
Don't do that.
And so that feeling, thatsubconscious anxiety, the
subconscious state of distress,stop me dead on my tracks.
So my $1 million question toyou right now is to think if you
heal from your past, whatoutcome is it that you want?
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This is a very importantquestion for later in our
session together.
When you heal from your past,what outcome is it that you want
?
For me, it was happiness.
Now, when you have the answerto that, I want you to write it
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down, be with it.
Or if you don't have the answerright now, that's okay.
Think about it.
We planted the seed in thesubconscious mind.
Now Just be with that, becauseat the end of the day, just
coming back to our conversation.
At the end of the day, we havesuch a misconception of what the
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past is, what it means, because, guys, there's a 99.
Of the chance of the time butit's just not real anymore.
It doesn't exist anymore.
But the subconscious mind, as Isaid, can keep it alive because
we have 90 000 thoughts atleast, more or less, per day.
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Some say it's 70, some say it's90, I don't know, it's a, it's
a lot of thoughts, right.
And then 75,000 thoughts, or atleast 75 of those 90,000
thoughts, are repeated the nextday.
Now, of course, thoserepetitive thoughts will be the
ones that's bothering you themost, meaning the dominant ones,
and then they become part ofthe reality again and again, and
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again and again and again.
So, cognitively, we rewireourselves for these negative
beliefs and thoughts, and thatis why it's so important to
start to shift even justperspective.
That already disrupts thesynapses, that layering them in
with these negative messages,with these negative thoughts,
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with these negative messages,with these negative thoughts,
and when we look at how this cancause us to feel that our past
is still alive, because of thebiochemical feeling, because of
the biochemical reaction,because, at the end of the day,
your past is not your realityanymore.
Basically, what you're seeingright now in the here and now,
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this is the present moment.
This is your reality, not inmost cases, not what you're
actually feeling.
Whether it's turmoil, whetherit's the anxiety, whether it's
depression, stress or tension,these are all just triggers,
like the ramifications, they'relike echoes of something that
happened a really, really longtime ago.
And now, something that wastremendously also very helpful
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for me when I was on my journeyof overcoming my past and
healing from that is the powerof reassurance.
The power of reassurance Icannot stress this enough, and
when I say stress it enough, Imean it, of course, in a good
way, because when we look atthat moment, when we feel the
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panic, when we feel the stress,it's because something within
you, your inner dialogue,whether it's conscious,
subconscious, of course, in mostcases this is happening very
subtly, very subconsciously onthe biochemical level in the
body is that you start toescalate to levels of panic, to
levels of stress, and by thetime you start to realize that
something is wrong is when youfeel the full fledge feeling of
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that anxiety, that feeling ofloss of control, whether it's
vulnerability, insecurity, panic.
You know, some days you justwake up and you just feel really
, really vulnerable and justfeel like, oh my God, where did
all my confidence go?
Maybe something happened theprevious day that your
subconscious mind was processingand it was trying to act it out
and play it out in dreams thatyou might not even have
remembered.
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And then you wake up in thatstate of feeling vulnerable,
which is maybe the way that youfelt at a certain point of time
in your past.
But again you wake up feelingthat way.
We don't necessarily alwaysunderstand why we feel the way
that we do, but we then acceptit as part of our reality and we
incorporate that into our life,subconsciously of course, and
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that now becomes part of yourday.
So we bring this past into allof our activities, our dynamics,
our relationships and, ofcourse, now it becomes as a part
of our future.
So the power of reassurance ofself-reassurance as well
tremendously powerful for me.
I mean, I cannot speak highlyenough of this.
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This is something that deeply,deeply contributed to my quality
of life and it's somethingthat's so easy to use, something
that's so effective.
And that is when you feel thatmoment of distress, when you
feel that moment of panic.
Look around you, look at yourenvironment of panic.
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Look around you, look at yourenvironment.
Is there really truly somethingright now that is proving or
validating any need for you tofeel the way that you do?
Is there?
Something as simple as this hasreally helped me to kind of
lose like, and it's a feeling oflike this bah, I just feel like
I just come back into my body.
Now some of you who might golike that's bullshit, you know,
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that's just yeah, that doesn'twork.
Well, think again, because thereason why this might not
resonate is because it's notchallenging enough, there's not
enough stress involved, it'sboring, it doesn't challenge you
enough.
Well, now we need to look at,maybe, what is your association,
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what is your addictive patternto adrenaline, to drama, to
chaos, to a crisis, to stress.
So all these aspects is reallyreally super important to
explore.
And before we move on to ourhealing session, which we will
in one minute, I would love foryou to connect with me here, and
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what we're going to do now iswe're going to assess and look a
little bit.
Where are you at in your liferight now?
I would love for you to justtake a nice deep breath Just Now
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.
My question to you is I wouldlike for you to assess what is
your reality right now.
How much of your past is reallytruly real right now?
Meaning now, right now, in themoment, here with me, in the
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present, and when you have theanswer, I have another question
for you what do you need tobelieve in yourself right now in
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order to believe in your truereality that you are
experiencing right now?
I'll repeat the question whatdo you need to believe in
yourself right now in order tobelieve in your true reality
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that you are experiencing rightnow?
What do you need to believe inyou?
An emotional resource, acapability, a talent, something?
What do you need to believe inyourself right now in order to
believe in your true realitythat you are experiencing right
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now?
And when I say true reality, Imean a reality that really
actually is free from this past.
And once you have the answer tothat, I would like you to hold
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on to that, because we'reactually going to now be
shifting and moving over to mystudio, so let's get ready Now.
We have already answered thequestion of what do you need to
believe in yourself in order toknow that you can overcome this
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past, or that you can overcome,or any stress that it is that
you might have Now, or even justa challenge.
It doesn't have to be somethingbig, it doesn't have to be
something necessarily specific.
Be something necessarilyspecific might just be a general
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feeling of just feeling anxious, or maybe depressed, or just
feeling really, really down.
It can be anything at thispoint.
So what I would like for us todo right now is just to start by
taking a nice deep breath.
Let's just come into the bodyand, as you're breathing, I
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invite you becoming aware ofyour breath as you're inhaling
and exhaling, and also justbecoming aware of your heartbeat
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, that beautiful, powerful organthat is always just beating and
pumping all that blood throughyour body, contributing every
second and split second to yourlife, your purpose and your
quality of life and your healthand vitality.
Feeling the power of yourheartbeat and also I invite you
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now to hear, feel, see or sensea beautiful light or waterfall.
Letting go of all theconversations that we had, the
questions that I asked you, justlet it go.
Just going, going, going.
Being fully focused and awarewith me right now, in the here
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and now, fully present, hearingmy voice, feeling the surface
beneath your body and as you'refeeling the surface beneath your
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body, allowing it just to bringyou back and anchor you back
into the present moment, wherenothing else exists or is real
anymore other than your heartbeating, the breath that you're
inhaling and exhaling andhearing my voice in the here and
now and the surface that youfeel beneath you, and allowing
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you to be now in this fullypresent state of beingness and
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just being present with that fora few seconds with me.
And if you see me swaying fromside to side, I normally do this
when I'm happy.
If I do this when I'm everteaching or speaking, you know
that I'm happy.
I'm in a really great place andspace.
I find a lot of refuge,calmness and peace in this
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present state, because thispresent state reminds me that
everything that I'm worryingabout, whether it's something in
the past or the future, is notreal right now.
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What is real is where I shiftmy focus, is where I shift my
energy, is where I shift myemotions, and I invite you now
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to hear, feel, see or sense thatbeautiful light, any color of
your choice, flowing throughyour body, through every single
cell in your body, releasing,releasing and releasing, and
stress, tiredness and fatigue.
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And now while that light isflowing through, through you,
allowing that light now toseparate yours, your identity
and other people's stress thatyou might have taken on feeling
how it's just draining out ofyour body just down, down, down,
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down, down down into the earth.
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And now I also invite you toobserve that question that I
asked you earlier what do youneed to believe in yourself in
order to know that you canovercome certain challenges from
your past past?
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Whatever the answer was to thatquestion?
Let's say, for example, youwould say confidence or safety
or protection or support.
Whatever that answer was, wherein your body do you feel the
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absence of that?
Where do you feel an emptinessor a void or a hole or a
weakness inside of your body?
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And once you have that place inspace, allowing now your full
awareness, I'd like for you toshift it now to your right hand,
just to the palm of your righthand, just shifting it to there
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right now.
Your full focus and awarenessis there now and you might start
to feel a tiny little, even ifit's just 1%, a little bit of
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tingling, maybe some sensations,but you can't put your finger
on what are these sensations.
Your hand might start to feellike it's buzzing or just that,
this movement, something ishappening and now bringing up
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your left hand and allowing thefull focus and awareness that
you had in the right hand.
You must now jump to the lefthand, to the palm of your hand.
Keep your right hand up up.
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You might start to feelsomething is happening.
You, the power of yourawareness.
I didn't tell you anything aboutwhat awareness is, how it works
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, but you knew what to do withit.
That's because we tapped intothe natural capacity to heal,
because the best way to heal isto replace in the power of
awareness, because normally,energy becomes stuck in the body
because of lack of awareness.
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We're so busy, something'salways happening, always an
autopilot mode, and this allowsthe flow and the energy to move
again, to become unstuck and toreturn to that part in your body
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where you did feel that absenceof a resource that we were
talking about earlier.
What did you need to believe inyourself in order to know that
you can be free from all thesechallenges?
All these challenges, and aswe're tapping into that, going
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to that place where you might befeeling that void, I invite you
now to bring your full focusand awareness to that, just the
same way that you brought to thepalm of your hand.
Now we're bringing it to thatarea where you might be feeling
the void or the absence of it,and just keeping that there,
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with that awareness and withthat awareness, holding the
intention for release andhealing.
Release and healingno-transcript, you might be not
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Meaning.
What false identity do you feel, perhaps convinced of that you
are or might be.
Some people might say I feellike I'm a victim, I am
powerless, I am something that'snegative, just feeling into
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that.
What could that perhaps be for?
You.
As you're in that place andspace, whatever that negative
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identity is.
I invite you now to out loudaffirm with me and acknowledge
the difference between myidentity and feeling like a, or
feeling the false identity.
Let's affirm out loud right nowthe difference between that,
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because the moment when we speakit, we bring the disconnection
of that false belief and neuralpathway and the programming of
that into our conscious andsubconscious mind and also our
emotional body.
Again I acknowledge thedifference between my true
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identity and feeling.
I invite you to repeat thatthree times and now.
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I also invite you to just thinkof change, wanting to change,
whatever it is that comes tomind that is negative.
Maybe you think of change andyou think of panic, or you think
of change and now you feel outof control.
Whatever, the negative initialresponse is to change, be with
it.
I invite you to actually beokay with how you feel in that
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moment, that part of us that'sconstantly trying to say no, no,
no.
We can't feel that.
It's not okay to feel that Ineed to push this away.
I need to push it down.
That is actually what causesthat part to become anchored
into the conscious andsubconscious mind and the
emotional body as well, evenmore.
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But the more awareness we bringto it, the more light we bring
to it and we actually allow itto dissipate and release to it,
and we actually allow it todissipate and release.
So now I invite you once again,we're going to affirm this
disconnection.
In our affirmation, Iacknowledge the difference
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between change and feeling thenegative reaction that you felt.
I want you to really cognitivelyunderstand and realize what
you're saying, that you areacknowledging the difference
between something that is sopositive, such as change, and
this all negative past emotionalreaction that you have from the
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past.
So I acknowledge the differencebetween change and three times I
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invite you now to see the oldversion of you, the part of you
right now, in this moment, thatis so much wiser and stronger
with all this powerful knowledgeand information that you are
integrating, and seeing an olderversion of you, meaning that
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part of you before this event,because, yes, you are so much
wiser and informed right now,believe it or not.
Putting that old part of you onis just maybe a piece of cloud
or something away from you, partof you, and it's just maybe a
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piece of cloud or something awayfrom you.
And hearing, feeling, seeingand sensing how that part of you
is now just moving away,further and further and further
and further away, away, away,away, becoming smaller and
smaller and smaller and smallerand smaller.
And as that part of you isbecoming smaller and smaller,
the more and more you'restarting to feel the absence of
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the pressure and the burden ofthat old identity and, in the
absence of that, starting tofeel lighter and lighter and
lighter and lighter.
Almost to a point where you feellike you are expanding,
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expanding into your greatness,expanding into that part of you
that is conscious, that is aware, that is in the present moment,
that part of you that is somuch wiser and stronger and more
informed.
And now just feeling that partof you just moving even further
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and further away, becomingsmaller and smaller and smaller
and smaller and smaller, Moreand more and more insignificant,
releasing just going, going,going, God, God, God God,
Evaporating like water on a hotsummer's day, Going going.
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God, and if there's any part ofyou that's like, oh, I don't
know if I can let go, I'm goingto call you on that now.
Make that decision.
Now.
I choose to let go, and so itis.
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It is your divine birth rightto express this boundary into
the quantum field, to say enoughis enough, I have had enough, I
have had enough.
And as you're integrating thatawareness, that beautiful new
state and phase of awareness,let's breathe into the alpha
brainwave state which is in themouth, out the nose, because
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we're breathing 13 times andmidway through the breathing, I
want to start the bowls.
You're going to hold yourbreath at the end for as long as
you can and you're going todrop into that beautiful place
of silence as you start to comeforward even more and more.
So let's start Breathing in themouth, out the nose.
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In the mouth out the nose in themouth out the nose in the mouth
out the nose.
Nice deep breaths in the mouthout the nose in the mouth out,
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the nose in the mouth out, thenose in the mouth out the nose.
Breathe on your own.
So You're starting to pick upthe pace, breathing in the mouth
, out the nose in the mouth outthe nose in the mouth, out the
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nose in the mouth, out the nosein the mouth and hold your
breath.
Hold it as long as you can,dropping into that dizziness,
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feeling how you're moving intothat alpha brainwave state that
is resetting your nervous system.
Thank you, the power of thedivine power is in the presence
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of the divine power, just takingone more nice, deep breath Now,
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just also bringing once againyour awareness to the bottom of
your face, to both feet, to theleft and the right.
No-transcript beautifuldivinity that is within you,
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that who you are is not yourpast.
Who you are is who you chose tobe.
Thank you so much for beinghere with me today and until
next time, guys, be the lightthat you are.
Hi everyone, yvette Rose here, founder and also
author of Metaphysical Anatomybook and technique as well.
It's a big book of 679 medicalailments where I write and talk
a lot about the similaritiesthat we have between all of us
and talk a lot about thesimilarities that we have
between all of us from all thepeople in the world that have
certain specific trauma triggerpoints behind certain ailments,
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exasperating it and how to callour power back from learning to
understand what the body istrying to tell us and also what
our ancestry is trying to tellus through our DNA lineage, and
how all these challenges expressthemselves.
And guys, so welcome here tothis course.
I am so excited to be divinginto this here with you.
We're going to be looking athow can we start to shift our
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mindset, how can we start toshift and to heal from our past?
Because ultimately, let's behonest, why are we all here
today?
Why is it that we do what we dowhen we start to dive into
personal development?
Of course, we don't really gointo these aspects.
We don't look at these parts ofour lives when things are going
really well.
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It means that there's somethingin your life that is just not
working for you.
There's something that is notin alignment with you in terms
of, maybe, how you would like tofeel or where you're trying to
move to in your life.
Maybe there's self-sabotage,maybe there's fears, maybe
there's self-rehabilitatingpatterns that you just can't
quite shake or get rid of orknowing how to overcome that,
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and sometimes we are consciouslyalso aware of what it is in our
past that we would like to letgo.
But most of the time, a lot ofpeople actually don't know what
are root traumas or what tookplace or why is it that they
behave or act the way that theydo and how that is showing up in
their lives.
At the moment.
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The only thing that most peopleactually just see is
destructive.
You know, coping mechanisms,anxiety, depression.
What we tend to see in today'sage is the aftermath of what
happened in the past.
Now, this is something that I'mvery deeply connected to, and
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also because of my own historywith healing my life.
You know, having gone from youknow a father that was
clinically diagnosed sociopathand an alcoholic and also
self-medicated drug addict,being the only child as well,
and my mom just trying tobalance everything and just keep
everything together.
It was a very stressful life.
It was a very rude introductionto what life is like because
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when, when we're born, when wecome into the world, our family
environment and the people thatwe have access to, immediately
they become our reference forwhat life is, how to act, how to
react, what is love, what isconnection, what is bonding or
what is the absence of that.
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Now these dynamics set forththe foundation by which we start
to live our life by.
It sets forward the foundationin terms of how we act and react
, what we like, what we don'tlike.
So many things that happenedhere is driving or motivating us
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, consciously or subconsciously,to do the things that we're
doing Now.
To heal from our past can feelreally intimidating.
Let me tell you, I know what itfeels like because I've been
there.
I know and I deeply understandwhat it's like to have this idea
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of what we think happens andthen when we kind of like meet
it face to face and we go, oh mygod, this is, this is, this is
really what happened.
This is how it made me feel.
When we start to bring thatconscious awareness in
relationship to how we felt inthe past, or perhaps what
happened, the things that we'vebeen trying to suppress.
We can sometimes be rudelysurprised by the depth of the
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stress, the strain that we'vebeen feeling, because we're pain
avoidant, we are discomfortavoidant.
So when something does happenor did happen in the past, and
it caused in the past and itcaused you tremendous stress, it
caused you tremendous problems,then absolutely now we're going
to have a problem.
And so what we're looking at?
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When we have this problem, whenwe realize, well, there's
something not working right now,we move away and we move away
and further away.
And that is a coping mechanism.
It's a safety trigger that wehave to protect ourselves.
Sometimes it can come forward,so strong that it comes forward
in the form of amnesia.
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We actually don't consciouslyremember what happened, but the
emotional body right, theemotional body, what I write
about a lot about in here itremembers and it's those
messages that get stored, itgets recorded, it gets locked in
because, at the end of the day,when we look at, as we mature,
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as we grow up, what happens, wehave emotions happens.
We have emotions positive,negative, but we have desires,
we have, you know, motivation,we have intentions.
Now, all of this causesemotions to flow and move
throughout the body.
You know that when you feel anemotion, sometimes you can feel
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it coming up in the heart area,you might feel it in the gut,
you might feel it coming forwardand as a headache or a lot of
stress, a lot of mental stress.
And when we look at it now fromthis perspective, the moment
when there is discomfort, whatdo we do?
There's either a shock reactionor there's an avoidance
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reaction.
Now, the moment when there's anavoidance reaction, what
happens?
We block, we stop.
It's called almost an energeticboundary.
We don't want to feel that, sowe stop.
And it's almost like thatfeeling sometimes.
Have any of you ever felt likein your heart?
Sometimes it feels like there'sa lot of tension.
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You feel really uncomfortable,like it's like there's a stone
on it.
That is normally a fear ofgiving and receiving and there's
an energetic block therebecause that block is showing
you there was a part of you thatdecided love is not safe, or I
can't give or show my emotionsbecause I get attacked.
It's not safe.
So what happens?
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There's a block in the flow ofthe energy, in the flow of
connecting or trying to orwanting to connect, because at
the end of the day, regardlessof what it is that you want to
do.
When emotions are flowing,they're flowing for a reason.
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There's a purpose for thatemotion, either to tell you that
you're angry, either to tellyou that you're really, really
happy right now, or that youwanted to celebrate something.
And that emotion normally has ahealthy or an unhealthy outlet.
Really depends if it's positiveor negative.
Now, of course, positiveemotions can also have a
negative outlet, and that is ifit's too heightened.
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You know, when you're overlyexcited sometimes you can say
the wrong thing at the wrongtime.
So that's a really greatexample of that.
But the initial intention is,of course, positive.
Now it's just a matter of howwell can we regulate these
emotions when they are setforward, in motion, as the body
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is feeling it throughout everysingle cell, because we have the
cognitive mind that you knowmoves around all these messages
and the sensations, and then wehave the nervous system that
also allows us to for messagesto be sent forward, back forth,
back forth.
We have organs that can alsohave their own.
You know, emotional littlepersonalities like, for example,
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restore resentment in kidneys.
The liver restored a lot ofanger.
You'll see people who arealcoholics to have an enlarged
liver, of course because ofalcoholism, but also because
they have a tremendous amount ofsuppressed anger now at the end
of the day.
So, at the end of the day, whenwe look at how we respond to
stress, how we, you know, justtry to regulate ourselves after
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a stressful event, because Iknow that you know, once you've
had a stressful event in yourlife, the only thing that we
want to have an experience themost is relief.
We want escape, relief.
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We want this guy, we want 100hands down relief.
We want to self-regulate,whether it's conscious or
subconscious.
But there is a part of you thatwants to, and needs to,
emotionally, physically andpsychologically regulate, to go
back to your neutral innerequilibrium, because it is our
natural state to be harmonious,to be neutral.
If our bodies were designed tolive in this heightened state of
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distress, we wouldn't have allthese energetic blocks.
That's just, you know, blockingoff the flow of energy, because
the reason why it gets blockedoff is because it's either
unpleasant, stressful or not inalignment with your true nature
and where it is that you wouldlike to move into and to be in
your life.
So what do we do?
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When something doesn't feelright, when something feels
imbalanced?
We either it, we move away fromit, or we fight against it or
we run away from it.
It really depends what is yourdefault coping strategy, which
is something that we all haveLike, for example, mine used to
be freezing.
I would sometimes just freezeand I will get stuck in bad
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situations.
I will get stuck in badcircumstances or a bad career
and I will not make changes.
I will just be like, okay, I'mjust going to try to do my best.
I'm just going to try to, youknow, go under the radar and
just do what I can.
It's almost like there becomesa sense of desensitizing to what
it is that you really trulyneed, because the moment, what I
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found in my personal experienceis that when I'm doing
something and it's not workingfor me and I feel that feeling
of discontent, I try to fightagainst it.
I try to overcome it.
Now, this can go, of course, twoways.
One is really truly where yourlife path is showing you with
this discontent or thedestruction, or maybe the
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disconnect or the numbness,whatever negative experience it
is that you're having.
Are they showing you that thisis not for you, or it's showing
you that maybe it's bringing upsomething in you that needs to
be addressed so that you canfall into alignment with this
path and actually really trulybe happy in that.
Now, what's the difference?
We're going to be getting tothat a little bit later, because
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there is a very fine line inthat specific topic in itself
and almost probably, of course,whole on its own.
But when we look at our pastfirst of all, what is really
really important and somethingthat really tremendously helped
me, and regardless of what yourpast is, this is now absolutely
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irrelevant.
This is now more so.
Just looking at what happenedand looking at where are you in
your life right now, and we'regoing to be taking it from this
perspective and almost likepretending that we're looking
back and we're looking back atthe past from a different, third
person perspective.
So one of the biggest challengesthat I see with people who are
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in a healing journey, who wouldlike to start to shift and to
heal their past, is theirattachment to the past.
I'll repeat it it is a person'sattachment to their past
Because, firstly, what happensand this attachment can take
many, many different forms thisattachment can now come forward
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and look as though it's.
Maybe there's a part of youthat can't let go of something
that happened, because you'restill waiting for, maybe a
certain type of acknowledgementor an apology, or to get the
love that you always wanted froma certain person, or to have
the victory that you alwayswanted to have, or maybe to have
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the revenge that you've justbeen waiting for so that you can
feel the justice of theinjustices that you might have
experienced.
I absolutely went through allof them.
Let me I kid you not.
I wrote so much about this on myautobiography book called
finding your own voice.
If any of you guys ever want toread it, highly recommend it,
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because there I critiqued myselfin positive ways, but also in
ways where I would be looking atmy patterns.
I really put my patterns onblack and white on paper, really
assessing my behavior and how Ireacted, especially to my past
and especially when I started tofeel it.
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And so now, when we come backto this attachment to the past
as well, there's something thatwe feel unresolved in Now.
Of course, that's one of themain reasons why it can be
challenging to kill from thepast.
It's not wanting to let go ofthe injustice.
For me, I found that if I had tolet go, then I was angry.
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This topic would trigger thehell out of me, because I would
think that, well, that bastardis now going to get away with
everything that they did to meand everything is now just going
to have to be okay, that's whatit's going to be.
What about me?
Where's my fairness?
Where's my justice?
Now, what I learned was there'sa difference in terms of how we
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can actually approach this, andone that worked really well for
me was to realize that itdoesn't mean that the person has
to be forgiven for what they'vedone.
However, what is important isto let go of how it's
influencing you, because thatyou can control.
You can start to slowly takesmall steps in terms of how you
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can control that so that itdoesn't affect your quality of
life, because the real injusticeright now is how that person
from the past continues to ruinyour life in the present moment
and into the future.
That's really what it is, that,for me, that was the real
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injustice, and so the way that Iwas able to call and revoke my
power back was to not allow whatthat person has done to me and
the experience that I have withsomeone or with several people
not allowing that to continue toinfiltrate into my future
Because our behavior, ourpatterns, our personality, our
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way of coping, all these littleactions and bits and pieces that
start to come together as awhole unit in terms of who you
are, that is constantly andactively, always contributing to
your future.
Every decision that you make,every step that you take is
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contributing and building yourfuture.
So, if you are always pissedoff and angry at someone from
the past, you are activelymanifesting that anger into your
future relationships, yourfuture career, your future,
whatever it is that you're doingand that you want to create.
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But then, at the same time, wealso try to have freedom from
the anger.
We try to have freedom from theinjustice, we're trying to find
our peace, but our inability tosee this just from a different
perspective.
I'm not saying you have to letgo at this point, because a lot
of you might not be ready tohear that, and that is okay, I
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have been there too.
Forget even about having to letgo.
However, I do invite you tolook at this just from a
different perspective.
That's it.
That is already going to be agreat start for today.
Just a different perspective.
A great start for today, just adifferent perspective.
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And that is, asking yourselfthe question do I want to
continue to give this person orthis situation the power to
constantly ruin my future thatI'm trying to build that is free
from this trauma and stress anddistress?
That is a very importantquestion.
And the answer to that questionis even more important Because
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what I realized from my past andone of the many reasons why it
was hard for me to let go isthat the anger, the anger that I
felt as a result of it, becausethat's another form of feeling
powerless, something thathappened and made you feel
completely out of control orvery unsafe or very unprotected,
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and it's normal to react in astate of anger.
Normally people can go into theopposite.
They go into the state ofcomplete you know detachment,
wanting to hide, becoming thevictim, but then at some point,
at some point, the body reachesits threshold, of feeling stuck
in the victim state, because thebody is starting to realize I'm
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not surpassing this.
If I stay in the victim state,I can't get to where I need to
be, because your body isdesigned to support you to can't
get to where I need to beBecause your body is designed to
support you, to keep you alive,to keep you moving, to keep you
shaking.
It's designed for you tofulfill your purpose.
But if you stay in this statethat is unresourceful, the
body's like, hey, how do I shiftthis block?
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This is not working for me.
The energy needs to startflowing, because if it doesn't,
it can cause a dysfunction inyour frequencies and in your
energy alignment, in your bodyas well, and that can translate
over time into physicaldysfunction.
And now what you're probablyhearing is potential ailments,
potential bad health.
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Now what happens is, when we'restuck in that unresourceful
state, we sometimes often revertto the fight instinct.
And that is anger, that boost,that burst of power, of cortisol
, of adrenaline that's needed toalmost, like, knock you out of
this state.
That's what anger is normallyfor.
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That's the purpose of anger.
It has many purposes, but,specifically now for today's
topic, that is what anger does.
And so the anger comes andcomes up.
Hard enough, hard enough.
Just get out of my way, bum.
And so what happens now?
Subconsciously, we think, ohgod, I'm liberated.
This anger feels good, I feelpowerful, I feel strong.
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When I have all this cortisoland all this anger, all this
frustration and irritationrunning through me, now,
suddenly, it's easy to say nonow, suddenly to to command and
demand what I want to have.
Now, look what's happening.
In a very, very subtle way, weform a positive association with
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this burst of energy, thisanger.
Now, initially it can be verypositive if it serves the
purpose by breaking this habit,by breaking this pattern, which
it did.
But now we think, oh wow, Ilike this feeling, so I need to
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feel angry so that I can feel mypower and I can feel confident
and I can move forward.
Now have you noticed that youfluctuate in and out of that
anger?
You go from feeling reallyangry back to just wanting to
hide, back to feeling like wheredid my confidence just go?
The reason why you dip in andout of it is because anger and
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this fight and flight instinct,this cortisol, all this
adrenaline running through yourbody, all these hormones, these
stress responses being released,it is exhausting, it is
absolutely exhausting.
So what's happening is, whenyou plummet, what your body's
actually telling you?
I'm tired, I don't have thenutrients, the diet or the
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resources, emotionally andnutritional-wise, to cope with
this heightened levels of stress.
I don't have it.
But then we sometimes try topush through that.
We go no, I have to be strong,I have to keep going, and we
don't listen to the body sayinglet's just time out now a little
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bit, let's just rest a littlebit.
I'm not in in a strong state.
Let's go into a retreat state,but it's not a safe state to be
in, because there you feelunresourceful, you don't feel
like you're taking action, youdon't feel like you're achieving
something, you don't feel likeyou're being safe, because it's
hard to feel ready to guardourselves and to be defensive if
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we're in a rest state.
But of course we can be in arest state with discernment, but
just being quiet, just being,you know, flying under the radar
, just resting, just observing,just being an observer.
Now, this is one of the many,many pitfalls that I had in my
life and that was theassociation that I had with
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anger and how I thought itserved me, but at the end of the
day it alienated me.
I was extremely unhappy.
Here I am trying to findhappiness, but I'm such an angry
person.
You're in the opposite state ofwhat you're trying to create.
Of course, you're not afrequency match to people that
will make you happy, not afrequency match to the career
that will make you happy.
You're not in alignment withthe intended goal and outcome
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that you want not in alignmentwith the intended goal and
outcome that you want.
Now I had to let go of thinking.
I need the anger to succeed, tobe successful, to be heard, to
be seen, to be able to speak andto find my place of neutralness
and to feel safe in that, tofeel heard in that, to feel that
I can be acknowledged in a waythat is safe in that place and
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space.
Now, that's one point to lookat.
That's one point to start tothink about.
How is anger showing up in yourlife?
Because a lot of people don'tknow how to even be angry.
They're angry in a violent beangry.
They're angry in a violent wayor they're angry in a very
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suppressed way.
Anger, at the end of the day,just needs an outlet, but it's
how we let go of that.
That is what can beconstructive or destructive.
Now, when we look at how topoint, of how to heal from our
past in a way that is healthy,when we look at anger, we're
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also now looking at lack ofstructure.
We're looking at lack ofconsistency in your life as well
.
Here are now two more importantelements to bring your focus to
when in your life can youcreate more structure?
Because normally trauma orstress gets locked into the body
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when the body doesn't have asupport system or some sense of
structure that can give us asense of safety.
Because structure gives us asense of predictability.
Because we hate the unknown,we're biologically designed to
avoid the unknown because it canmean instant death to the
biology of the body.
I know cognitively doesn't makesense, but now we're talking
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about the body and how thatfunctions, because we have two
different ways of functioning.
One is cognitively, where wehave the ability to
intellectualize our experiencesthrough the hippocampus, our
emotional brain, also thefrontal cortex, and that's how
we perceive information in thehere and now, and then our
visceral system, our biology ofthe body, our instinctive
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responses, which is solelyfocused on life or death.
Is this situation going to bepro life or against life?
And the body starts to reactbased on these types of
decisions and it happens inseconds.
It doesn't even need yourconscious involvement.
You have no idea that your bodyis actually doing this on a
second-to-second basis.
It never rests Actually, that'swhat I would say.
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Never rests, it never sleeps.
It's always, always feeling andsensing what is going on around
you Now when we look at again.
I'm going to come back tostructure.
Where in your life?
Do you?
need more structure, maybe yourrelationships, maybe your career
, maybe just something as simpleas a routine, a daily routine,
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afternoon routine, eveningroutine, something to look
forward to, something that youknow.
Ah, I know what to expect here,because that subconsciously
already calms the body down,because the body loves to know
what's going to happen.
Now, when we also look atconsistency Because hang on, I'm
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just going to backtrack here Ijust got another thought here I
want to share with you.
I'm actually going to backtrackhere.
When we look at structure, a lotof people can actually get
bored with structure.
That was me, and the reason whyis because when you come from a
home where there was a lot oftrauma, a lot of heightened
stress, you are programmed forheightened experiences.
That's why a lot of people getyou know into violence, you know
high risk activities.
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They do everything to theextreme because they're looking
for that heightened, pivotalmoment, that emotional peak, and
so structure can actually beperceived as being boring.
But I changed my perspectivearound it and I said structure
gives me peace.
I repeat that Structure givesme inner peace, and it's the
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same with consistency, becausesuccess is created with
consistency, but, of course,with discernment.
You don't want to keep doingthe same thing for 20 years if
you can see it's not getting youto where you want to be.
So of course, discernment isneeded there.
But I'm speaking now generallyspeaking consistency.
So maybe where in your life areyou being inconsistent, whereas
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if you are just 10% or 20% moreconsistent, it can already
start to improve your quality oflife, because normally
inconsistency is an end resultof our childhood being
inconsistent.
That's your reference chaos.
Have any of you here can yourelate if I have to say, do you
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know how to create success orabundance or what you want in
your life without needing panic,without needing a crisis,
without needing stress?
If you can't imagine that, thenI'm talking to you, absolutely
talking to you right now,because that is where
consistency is absolutely key,because that inconsistency
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creates the stress, it createsthe panic, and then we go into
that high of that hormonaladrenaline and cortisol, going
into a crisis, and then we feedoff of that energy and feeling
like, oh, I'm alive, I'm doingsomething, we're accomplishing
something, but what it's doingis it's just pulling you out of
the present moment where youjust really don't like to be.
So people tend to use chaos,they tend to use stress, to
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avoid.
Not to create, but to avoid.
It's to avoid, but at the sametime, feel like they're doing
something, but actually whatthey're not doing is a lot,
because when you look atwhatever it is that you did, you
might have to go back and fix afew things because you were not
as grounded as you needed to bewhen you were perhaps doing
that something Now.
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That's also another element tobe looking at.
Another part as to why it can behard to heal from your past is
we have a false identity.
We identify with our past.
We identify with the trauma.
I see a lot of people saying Iam a survivor of this, this,
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this, this.
That I am a survivor of sexualassault.
I am a survivor of this.
A lot of people go to thesealcoholic classes where they
support each other, or at leastthey are supposed to support
each other.
They stand up there and say hi,my name is X, I'm an alcoholic.
No, no, that's not right.
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What you just did is you justreinforce the false identity?
No, if you quit drinking, andeven just for one day, and
you're now new in your journey,you deserve to say I was,
because you're now moving out ofthat state.
You have to speak your realityin terms of where it is that you
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want to go.
You want it to be in the past?
Okay, great, let's reinforce itas being in the past.
I cannot tell you howincredibly important this is.
This is often to people'sdetriment, because how can you
be a hero if you're a victim atthe same time?
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How can you be the hero of yourown life if you still hold
these wounds?
People qualify and becomeheroes because they're now
willing to put their pastexactly where it needs to be in
the past.
It's called the past becauseit's behind you.
It's not real anymore, itdoesn't exist anymore.
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But our anger, our need forjustice, our inability to let go
and how we perceive ourselveswithin this dynamic of the past
is what emotionally keeps itreal.
That is what emotionally makesyou feel it's still real, it's
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still alive.
Well, okay, yeah, you can keepit alive, because if you
continue to feel it in thepresent moment I know what I
said earlier it continues toform part of the future.
It continues to form part ofyour new reality, and that is
how we keep the past alive.
The past itself is not alive.
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We keep the memory of it alive,but allowing it to continue to
infiltrate our behavior and ouractions in the future.
Now, another part as to why itcan be really, really hard to
heal our lives and to heal fromthe past is when we look at our
coping mechanisms.
Many coping mechanisms arehealthy.
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They're there to actually helpus to improve our quality of
life.
I get it, I have them too.
But when we look at copingmechanisms and when we look at
coping strategies and how thesestrategies that, if they're done
over time, too many times, orit starts to cause stress, like,
for example, a lot of peoplemight say well, I love to run a
lot, so OK, perfect, go for arun.
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But now, if they keep runningand running and running and
their body is now maybe out ofbalance, they don't have the
right nutrients, they don't havethe right omega oils, oils
maybe this might start to havestress in their tendons and the
muscle might start to becomeproblematic or the tendons
become problematic.
Now they start to have pain.
But this coping strategy ofrunning to just release all the
stress, which is great, but nowtrying to push beyond that
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barrier of pain and trying to be, you know, the martyr, I'm
going to keep running becausethis is my strategy.
Now the body gets injured.
Now coping strategy became avery detrimental strategy as
well.
And when we look at it from allthese different perspectives and
all these different angles, atthe end of the day, now you
might create a new copingstrategy, because you can't do
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the running anymore, you mightbe resting temporarily.
But now you create other copingstrategies because you don't
like the way that you feel,because you're't do the running
anymore, you might be restingtemporarily, but now you create
other coping strategies becauseyou don't like the way that you
feel, because you're running fora reason.
Of course they can say it's forenjoyment, but at the end of
the day let's be honest it's torelease stress.
I love to run 20 minutes tohalf an hour in the morning at
least three times per week, andI find it is amazing way to
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self-regulate stress that youbuild up, build up, build up,
build up, you up.
I call it silent stress thatjust needs to be released.
It's fantastic.
But when I look at you knowthis pattern.
Now, when we come back to thatinjury and now there's other
coping mechanisms that thatstarts to form, now we just have
a new problem and sometimescoping mechanisms can be so
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unhealthy it can be.
So you know, to your detriment,that these coping mechanisms
needs new coping mechanisms oftheir own, because the one that
you have originally is creatinganother problem, and then that
problem needs another copingmechanism or way to cope or deal
with it.
So it becomes this vicious,nasty cycle of this coping
mechanism or way to cope or dealwith it.
So it becomes this vicious,nasty cycle of this coping
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mechanism after coping mechanismafter coping mechanism, and
that's why so many people feelthey're not making progress in
their life, because they thinkthat the step that they're
taking to help them is going tobring them the relief that they
want.
But it's just anothersubconscious escape.
Sometimes, when we don'tunderstand what problem it is
that we're dealing with, it'shard to apply the correct tools
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or the correct strategy to putan end to the cycle, to put an
end to the habit or the pattern.
And that moment is because lackof awareness, because we don't
like to feel.
We don't like to feel ouremotions.
We are biologically designed,guys, to feel our emotions.
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Emotions is your gps.
It's your gps in your life.
Now, when we look at it fromthis perspective, the very thing
that's meant to guide us.
We're suppressing it, we areavoiding it, we don't want to
feel it, we don't want to beconnected to it.
But this is the very thingthat's also connected to your
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intuition.
Are you making the connectionsnow?
If you struggle with yourintuition, then you struggle
with your emotions hands downPeriod intuition then you
struggle with your emotionshands down period.
So, at the end of the day,coping strategies can be good,
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but it really depends.
Is it the correct solution thatyou are applying to the problem
part that you're trying to dealwith Now?
Another part also as to why itcan be harder to heal from our
past is because we stick to whatfeels safe.
We are discomfort avoidant, weare pain avoidant.
The body doesn't like theunknown, it doesn't like to feel
fear, so, of course, it sticksto what feels safe, even though
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it's not creating the outcomethat it wants.
This is a pure biologicalreaction and what is important
here and what helped metremendously, is when I started
to tell myself, when I do feelunsafe, when I do feel
challenged, I am safe.
I am safe now.
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Just that affirmation already,and focusing on your breath as
well, just making sure you'rebreathing in and breathing out,
is consistent and equally aslong, because when we are in a
state of fight and flight, ourbreath becomes more shallow and
that means the vagus nerve isnow starting oxygen and now it's
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sending the stress signals toall the organs.
It's completely flipped upsidedown.
Now it's really upset, and thatalready helps the nervous
system to calm down if the bodycan just get adequate oxygen,
because that then tells thewhole body and the visceral
system well, I'm okay, I'm okay,I'm okay, I'm okay.
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And then consciously lookingaround you and observing but is
there really truly a threataround me?
Is there really somethingaround me right now to confirm
what I'm feeling?
If the answer is no, perfectOkay.
So let's feel and see thesafety, the immediate safety
that we are surrounded by rightnow.
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That's another point.
Now here is one of my favoriteones and one that I see a lot of
people being challenged with.
A lot of people are truly anddeeply struggling with this, and
that is fear of change.
It's fear of change.
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What do we do when we want toheal?
It requires change.
So now, if you have a fear ofchange, you're walking with your
head right into a wall if youthink well, I want to heal my
life, I want to heal the past, Iwant to break free.
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You see how these two don't govery well together.
They kind of like need tobecome friends, meaning let go
of negative associationsassociated with change.
Because if you have traumaassociated with change, now we
have a problem.
Because what happens now?
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You think I want to heal mylife.
Consciously, it looks.
We think it's fantastic, ofcourse, you're going to be
happier, you're going to be moresuccessful.
You're going to be happier,you're going to be more
successful, you're going to bemore abundant, you're going to
have great relationships.
What's bad about it?
Nothing.
But now, consciously, that'swhat you think and feel, because
that's the positive intention.
But subconsciously what'shappening is that the
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subconscious mind is like, okay,wait, wait, wait, wait, perfect
.
So let's see, what do we haveassociated with change in the
past?
Now the conundrum starts,because now the subconscious
mind is digging up all these oldnegative memories perhaps, or
traumas and emotions andsensations associated with times
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when you did change or when youdid try to create some kind of
change, whether it's a careerchange, friendship change,
whatever change is change.
Right now, when that memorystarts to come up, what's
happening?
Your body is now flooded withthe biochemical messages of
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these suppressed memories andyour body is now reacting to it.
Consciously.
You might not make theconnection and realize what is
being triggered.
The only thing that you'refeeling is anxiety, stress,
panic.
Your legs feel a little bitwobbly, you feel like you want
to hide.
Maybe you feel like you want tohide, maybe you feel like you
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want to run away, maybe you justfeel like freezing.
A whole wave of new emotionscan now start to come up because
of that.
So now, when we look at it fromthis perspective, I had to
learn how to befriend change andto see and understand that when
I change something, I can do itin a way that something I can
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do it in a way that is safe.
I can do it in a way that makesme feel in control, because
it's our fear of losing controlthat we don't like change,
because maybe in the past youdid lose control of something in
one way or another and ittriggered that feeling of
feeling unsafe, because when thebody feels out of control, of
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course it feels unsafe.
Now, befriend change, learn andunderstand the power of change
and how that can actually becomeyour biggest and most positive
ally on your healing journey.
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Now, another part that can causeto heal from your past really
super hard is secondary gains.
So, guys, I hope that you likethis, because I'm sharing all
these pitfalls with you with theintention for you to explore
where is it that I need to shiftmy perspective, where is it
that I maybe need to dig alittle bit deeper or do some
more research or start tounravel some places where I feel
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stuck Now?
Secondary gain, of course, isthe very big issue and problem
that we all have.
We've all been there, meincluding as well.
Now, the best question that Iask myself is when there's
something that I want to do andI find myself either
procrastinating or revertingback to old habits.
I always ask myself this onemillion dollar question are you
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guys ready?
What am I life will change thatI'm not ready to change if I
shifted or healed this issue inmy life right now?
What am I life will change if Ichange or heal this issue in my
life right now that I might notwant to change?
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The answer to that that isgoing to become your biggest
point of focus, because that isthe block that you want to shift
, because automatically yoursecondary gains will just fall
apart.
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Now, another aspect that I foundon my healing journey, when I
try to heal from my past, wastrying to fit in with false
values and false beliefs.
This was almost the absoluteend of me.
Now, why do we adapt to falsevalues and beliefs, meaning we
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try to believe what other peoplebelieve in, we try to follow
other people's footsteps, we tryto always say yes, yes, yes,
that's so right.
I agree with everything thatyou're saying, the placater that
is because we're trying torelate, we're trying to be and
feel accepted, and because ofthat deep feeling of feeling
unaccepted, a lot of people arewilling to subconsciously
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sacrifice their values, theirbeliefs, their identity and what
they stand for.
What a disservice it is toyourself, but not just to
yourself, but to your future, towho it is that you want to
become.
How can you become who you wantto be or to create the success
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that you want, if you're notallowing your true values and
beliefs to shine?
Because that is what'slong-term.
I say that is what's long-termgoing to give you what you want,
because if you follow someoneelse's values and beliefs.
I'm sure that you've noticedit's really hard.
It's hard to uphold somethingthat you're not really truly in
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alignment with.
You might admire it, it mightmake you feel good when you
think about it, when youtemporarily try to step into
that, but have you noticed thatit's hard to stay in that?
Because if it was easy to beand to stay in that, then of
course you would have achievedthe success or the ideal outcome
that it is that you wanted.
Because what if you connect tothe first place?
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There's an outcome or specifictype of outcome at least, that
you wanted, but you're not ableto create or establish that
because you can't stay in thatstate.
And the reason why you can't?
Because it's not natural.
It's not natural, it's not you.
You are meant to be you in thislifetime.
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That's why you exist.
The world needs you to be whoyou really truly are, because
that's part of your purpose.
If you make yourself yourpurpose, that is when your
purpose will start to serve youperiod.
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And I have absolutely seen that,because I noticed how I started
to shift my focus and energyback to me and making me my
purpose, how I started to shineeven more in my finding my true
values, my true beliefs.
One, it is that I really wantedto contribute to the world and
not try to do something, becauseI see how it contributed to
someone else's life.
By being a certain way, I foundmy own signature, I found my
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own style, and that is one ofthe most powerful places that
you can be in your life, becauseyou will not have one more day
where someone can challenge yourboundaries or invalidate you or
make you feel less than whatyou really truly are, because if
you found your true value, yourtrue beliefs, and you live it
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and you breathe it, and it justbecomes part of your lifestyle,
because it just is now we'reliving a life that is graceful,
that is more gentle, powerfuland it's more conscious, meaning
you're more connected to yourrelationships, to your people,
to your career and to what it isthat you want to do in your
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life as well.
Because something else thatcorrelates really strongly to
this as well why people don'theal as well as they would like
to is that their happiness isconnected to what they do for
other people.
Now, that means that they needto constantly sacrifice or
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abandon or suppress something inthem because it makes someone
else happy if they behave andact in a certain way, and then
they get the gratification fromseeing someone else happy.
But what that means now is thatperson is not always going to
stay happy.
So if they go back into theirstate of you know meaning,
feeling discontent or unhappy,then actions have to be taken
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again where there's further andfurther disconnect from the
sense of self through the placeof self-sacrificing, whatever it
is that you're sacrificing tomake someone else happy.
Because if you try to makesomeone else happy, then what
does it mean?
You are not your focus anymore.
For me, the most powerful placewas to make myself the focus in
terms of what I'm doing, andthen other people tremendously
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benefit from that, and that'swhere I dive into the benefits.
Okay, you're benefiting fromthis Fantastic.
Let's dive more into that.
Because now I'm approaching itfrom a place where I am in my
power and not from a place ofself-sacrifice, because if you
are in a place of self-sacrifice, you are literally deep,
fragmenting your sense of self,you're defragmenting it.
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So it's time to come back tothe self, it's time to come back
to you.
So that's one another aspectthat I want to share with you in
terms of why and how we tend tosabotage this so much.
And one more point that I wantto share here with you as well
is our association withhappiness.
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We want to be happy, we want tobe happy.
We want to share here with youas well is our association with
happiness.
We want to be happy, we want tobe happy, we want to be happy.
But if you experience traumaand moments when you were happy,
there's a very strongpossibility that you might have
clicked in and associatedhappiness with a negative
feeling.
So now what happens is when wewant to heal.
Of course, we know that'swhat's going to make us happy,
because we're free fromsomething that's causing us to
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feel stuck or held back.
But the more we think I want tobe happy, I want to move toward
happiness, the more it's goingto hold you back, because
subconsciously the mind's likeokay, well, let's look at the
times when you were happy, let'sgo dive into that supposed to
be euphoric state.
What happens?
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It feels the trauma or thedistress or the disconnect or
abandonment and isolationassociated with the happiness.
Great example here is, just forthose of you who might be a bit
like well, I'm not sure I'mfollowing.
So what that, for example,would look like is I remember I
came home and I had, as a child,a very big fear of public
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speaking, like in the class.
I don't know if you guys had todo it as well.
This was back in the 80s, whereyou have to, once a week, speak
for half an hour on a certaintopic, and I hated this because
speaking was just not safe,because I was attacked or
punished or some kind ofnegative reaction would always
come from my dad, becausechildren had to be seen and not
heard.
And so I came home and I'm like,whoa, this was so great.
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You know, it was one speechthat I absolutely nailed because
I talked about something that Ilove.
So I was so in my element inclass and it actually went
really well.
And I came into the house andI'm like this mom, this, I did
it and I'm like this is soreally good.
And my dad was at home that dayand he was actually having a
nap and so I woke him up and itwas absolute.
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All hell to pay.
Long story short, I'm not goingto go into it because it was
not a pretty outcome.
And so that moment where I feltthis euphoric joy of
accomplishment, of success andjust happiness going yeah and
just bam, and that traumaconnected with that happiness.
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So that happy moment when I feltlike celebrating something,
when I felt happy or I'm aboutto achieve something, I actually
felt myself pulling back.
This was a massiveself-sabotaging cycle that I had
actually felt myself pullingback.
This was a massiveself-sabotaging cycle that I had
.
I pulled back because,subconsciously, my little girl,
my inner child, was like no, no,no, no, no, we can't do that.
You're gonna get punished,you're gonna punch, you're gonna
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get beaten up.
Don't do that.
And so that feeling, thatsubconscious anxiety, the
subconscious state of distress,stop me dead on my tracks.
So my $1 million question toyou right now is to think if you
heal from your past, whatoutcome is it that you want?
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This is a very importantquestion for later in our
session together.
When you heal from your past,what outcome is it that you want
?
For me, it was happiness.
Now, when you have the answerto that, I want you to write it
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down, be with it.
Or if you don't have the answerright now, that's okay.
Think about it.
We planted the seed in thesubconscious mind.
Now Just be with that, becauseat the end of the day, just
coming back to our conversation.
At the end of the day, we havesuch a misconception of what the
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past is, what it means, because, guys, there's a 99.
Of the chance of the time butit's just not real anymore.
It doesn't exist anymore.
But the subconscious mind, as Isaid, can keep it alive because
we have 90 000 thoughts atleast, more or less, per day.
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Some say it's 70, some say it's90, I don't know, it's a, it's
a lot of thoughts, right.
And then 75,000 thoughts, or atleast 75 of those 90,000
thoughts, are repeated the nextday.
Now, of course, thoserepetitive thoughts will be the
ones that's bothering you themost, meaning the dominant ones,
and then they become part ofthe reality again and again, and
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again and again and again.
So, cognitively, we rewireourselves for these negative
beliefs and thoughts, and thatis why it's so important to
start to shift even justperspective.
That already disrupts thesynapses, that layering them in
with these negative messages,with these negative thoughts,
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with these negative messages,with these negative thoughts,
and when we look at how this cancause us to feel that our past
is still alive, because of thebiochemical feeling, because of
the biochemical reaction,because, at the end of the day,
your past is not your realityanymore.
Basically, what you're seeingright now in the here and now,
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this is the present moment.
This is your reality, not inmost cases, not what you're
actually feeling.
Whether it's turmoil, whetherit's the anxiety, whether it's
depression, stress or tension,these are all just triggers,
like the ramifications, they'relike echoes of something that
happened a really, really longtime ago.
And now, something that wastremendously also very helpful
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for me when I was on my journeyof overcoming my past and
healing from that is the powerof reassurance.
The power of reassurance Icannot stress this enough, and
when I say stress it enough, Imean it, of course, in a good
way, because when we look atthat moment, when we feel the
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panic, when we feel the stress,it's because something within
you, your inner dialogue,whether it's conscious,
subconscious, of course, in mostcases this is happening very
subtly, very subconsciously onthe biochemical level in the
body is that you start toescalate to levels of panic, to
levels of stress, and by thetime you start to realize that
something is wrong is when youfeel the full fledge feeling of
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that anxiety, that feeling ofloss of control, whether it's
vulnerability, insecurity, panic.
You know, some days you justwake up and you just feel really
, really vulnerable and justfeel like, oh my God, where did
all my confidence go?
Maybe something happened theprevious day that your
subconscious mind was processingand it was trying to act it out
and play it out in dreams thatyou might not even have
remembered.
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And then you wake up in thatstate of feeling vulnerable,
which is maybe the way that youfelt at a certain point of time
in your past.
But again you wake up feelingthat way.
We don't necessarily alwaysunderstand why we feel the way
that we do, but we then acceptit as part of our reality and we
incorporate that into our life,subconsciously of course, and
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that now becomes part of yourday.
So we bring this past into allof our activities, our dynamics,
our relationships and, ofcourse, now it becomes as a part
of our future.
So the power of reassurance ofself-reassurance as well
tremendously powerful for me.
I mean, I cannot speak highlyenough of this.
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This is something that deeply,deeply contributed to my quality
of life and it's somethingthat's so easy to use, something
that's so effective.
And that is when you feel thatmoment of distress, when you
feel that moment of panic.
Look around you, look at yourenvironment of panic.
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Look around you, look at yourenvironment.
Is there really truly somethingright now that is proving or
validating any need for you tofeel the way that you do?
Is there?
Something as simple as this hasreally helped me to kind of
lose like, and it's a feeling oflike this bah, I just feel like
I just come back into my body.
Now some of you who might golike that's bullshit, you know,
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that's just yeah, that doesn'twork.
Well, think again, because thereason why this might not
resonate is because it's notchallenging enough, there's not
enough stress involved, it'sboring, it doesn't challenge you
enough.
Well, now we need to look at,maybe, what is your association,
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what is your addictive patternto adrenaline, to drama, to
chaos, to a crisis, to stress.
So all these aspects is reallyreally super important to
explore.
And before we move on to ourhealing session, which we will
in one minute, I would love foryou to connect with me here, and
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what we're going to do now iswe're going to assess and look a
little bit.
Where are you at in your liferight now?
I would love for you to justtake a nice deep breath Just Now
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.
My question to you is I wouldlike for you to assess what is
your reality right now.
How much of your past is reallytruly real right now?
Meaning now, right now, in themoment, here with me, in the
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present, and when you have theanswer, I have another question
for you what do you need tobelieve in yourself right now in
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order to believe in your truereality that you are
experiencing right now?
I'll repeat the question whatdo you need to believe in
yourself right now in order tobelieve in your true reality
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that you are experiencing rightnow?
What do you need to believe inyou?
An emotional resource, acapability, a talent, something?
What do you need to believe inyourself right now in order to
believe in your true realitythat you are experiencing right
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now?
And when I say true reality, Imean a reality that really
actually is free from this past.
And once you have the answer tothat, I would like you to hold
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on to that, because we'reactually going to now be
shifting and moving over to mystudio, so let's get ready Now.
We have already answered thequestion of what do you need to
believe in yourself in order toknow that you can overcome this
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past, or that you can overcome,or any stress that it is that
you might have Now, or even justa challenge.
It doesn't have to be somethingbig, it doesn't have to be
something necessarily specific.
Be something necessarilyspecific might just be a general
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feeling of just feeling anxious, or maybe depressed, or just
feeling really, really down.
It can be anything at thispoint.
So what I would like for us todo right now is just to start by
taking a nice deep breath.
Let's just come into the bodyand, as you're breathing, I
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invite you becoming aware ofyour breath as you're inhaling
and exhaling, and also justbecoming aware of your heartbeat
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, that beautiful, powerful organthat is always just beating and
pumping all that blood throughyour body, contributing every
second and split second to yourlife, your purpose and your
quality of life and your healthand vitality.
Feeling the power of yourheartbeat and also I invite you
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now to hear, feel, see or sensea beautiful light or waterfall.
Letting go of all theconversations that we had, the
questions that I asked you, justlet it go.
Just going, going, going.
Being fully focused and awarewith me right now, in the here
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and now, fully present, hearingmy voice, feeling the surface
beneath your body and as you'refeeling the surface beneath your
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body, allowing it just to bringyou back and anchor you back
into the present moment, wherenothing else exists or is real
anymore other than your heartbeating, the breath that you're
inhaling and exhaling andhearing my voice in the here and
now and the surface that youfeel beneath you, and allowing
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you to be now in this fullypresent state of beingness and
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just being present with that fora few seconds with me.
And if you see me swaying fromside to side, I normally do this
when I'm happy.
If I do this when I'm everteaching or speaking, you know
that I'm happy.
I'm in a really great place andspace.
I find a lot of refuge,calmness and peace in this
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present state, because thispresent state reminds me that
everything that I'm worryingabout, whether it's something in
the past or the future, is notreal right now.
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What is real is where I shiftmy focus, is where I shift my
energy, is where I shift myemotions, and I invite you now
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to hear, feel, see or sense thatbeautiful light, any color of
your choice, flowing throughyour body, through every single
cell in your body, releasing,releasing and releasing, and
stress, tiredness and fatigue.
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And now while that light isflowing through, through you,
allowing that light now toseparate yours, your identity
and other people's stress thatyou might have taken on feeling
how it's just draining out ofyour body just down, down, down,
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down, down down into the earth.
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And now I also invite you toobserve that question that I
asked you earlier what do youneed to believe in yourself in
order to know that you canovercome certain challenges from
your past past?
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Whatever the answer was to thatquestion?
Let's say, for example, youwould say confidence or safety
or protection or support.
Whatever that answer was, wherein your body do you feel the
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absence of that?
Where do you feel an emptinessor a void or a hole or a
weakness inside of your body?
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And once you have that place inspace, allowing now your full
awareness, I'd like for you toshift it now to your right hand,
just to the palm of your righthand, just shifting it to there
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right now.
Your full focus and awarenessis there now and you might start
to feel a tiny little, even ifit's just 1%, a little bit of
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tingling, maybe some sensations,but you can't put your finger
on what are these sensations.
Your hand might start to feellike it's buzzing or just that,
this movement, something ishappening and now bringing up
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your left hand and allowing thefull focus and awareness that
you had in the right hand.
You must now jump to the lefthand, to the palm of your hand.
Keep your right hand up up.
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You might start to feelsomething is happening.
You, the power of yourawareness.
I didn't tell you anything aboutwhat awareness is, how it works
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, but you knew what to do withit.
That's because we tapped intothe natural capacity to heal,
because the best way to heal isto replace in the power of
awareness, because normally,energy becomes stuck in the body
because of lack of awareness.
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We're so busy, something'salways happening, always an
autopilot mode, and this allowsthe flow and the energy to move
again, to become unstuck and toreturn to that part in your body
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where you did feel that absenceof a resource that we were
talking about earlier.
What did you need to believe inyourself in order to know that
you can be free from all thesechallenges?
All these challenges, and aswe're tapping into that, going
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to that place where you might befeeling that void, I invite you
now to bring your full focusand awareness to that, just the
same way that you brought to thepalm of your hand.
Now we're bringing it to thatarea where you might be feeling
the void or the absence of it,and just keeping that there,
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with that awareness and withthat awareness, holding the
intention for release andhealing.
Release and healingno-transcript, you might be not
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Meaning.
What false identity do you feel, perhaps convinced of that you
are or might be.
Some people might say I feellike I'm a victim, I am
powerless, I am something that'snegative, just feeling into
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that.
What could that perhaps be for?
You.
As you're in that place andspace, whatever that negative
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identity is.
I invite you now to out loudaffirm with me and acknowledge
the difference between myidentity and feeling like a, or
feeling the false identity.
Let's affirm out loud right nowthe difference between that,
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because the moment when we speakit, we bring the disconnection
of that false belief and neuralpathway and the programming of
that into our conscious andsubconscious mind and also our
emotional body.
Again I acknowledge thedifference between my true
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identity and feeling.
I invite you to repeat thatthree times and now.
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I also invite you to just thinkof change, wanting to change,
whatever it is that comes tomind that is negative.
Maybe you think of change andyou think of panic, or you think
of change and now you feel outof control.
Whatever, the negative initialresponse is to change, be with
it.
I invite you to actually beokay with how you feel in that
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moment, that part of us that'sconstantly trying to say no, no,
no.
We can't feel that.
It's not okay to feel that Ineed to push this away.
I need to push it down.
That is actually what causesthat part to become anchored
into the conscious andsubconscious mind and the
emotional body as well, evenmore.
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But the more awareness we bringto it, the more light we bring
to it and we actually allow itto dissipate and release to it,
and we actually allow it todissipate and release.
So now I invite you once again,we're going to affirm this
disconnection.
In our affirmation, Iacknowledge the difference
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between change and feeling thenegative reaction that you felt.
I want you to really cognitivelyunderstand and realize what
you're saying, that you areacknowledging the difference
between something that is sopositive, such as change, and
this all negative past emotionalreaction that you have from the
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past.
So I acknowledge the differencebetween change and three times I
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invite you now to see the oldversion of you, the part of you
right now, in this moment, thatis so much wiser and stronger
with all this powerful knowledgeand information that you are
integrating, and seeing an olderversion of you, meaning that
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part of you before this event,because, yes, you are so much
wiser and informed right now,believe it or not.
Putting that old part of you onis just maybe a piece of cloud
or something away from you, partof you, and it's just maybe a
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piece of cloud or something awayfrom you.
And hearing, feeling, seeingand sensing how that part of you
is now just moving away,further and further and further
and further away, away, away,away, becoming smaller and
smaller and smaller and smallerand smaller.
And as that part of you isbecoming smaller and smaller,
the more and more you'restarting to feel the absence of
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the pressure and the burden ofthat old identity and, in the
absence of that, starting tofeel lighter and lighter and
lighter and lighter.
Almost to a point where you feellike you are expanding,
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expanding into your greatness,expanding into that part of you
that is conscious, that is aware, that is in the present moment,
that part of you that is somuch wiser and stronger and more
informed.
And now just feeling that partof you just moving even further
(01:20:13):
and further away, becomingsmaller and smaller and smaller
and smaller and smaller, Moreand more and more insignificant,
releasing just going, going,going, God, God, God God,
Evaporating like water on a hotsummer's day, Going going.
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God, and if there's any part ofyou that's like, oh, I don't
know if I can let go, I'm goingto call you on that now.
Make that decision.
Now.
I choose to let go, and so itis.
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It is your divine birth rightto express this boundary into
the quantum field, to say enoughis enough, I have had enough, I
have had enough.
And as you're integrating thatawareness, that beautiful new
state and phase of awareness,let's breathe into the alpha
brainwave state which is in themouth, out the nose, because
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we're breathing 13 times andmidway through the breathing, I
want to start the bowls.
You're going to hold yourbreath at the end for as long as
you can and you're going todrop into that beautiful place
of silence as you start to comeforward even more and more.
So let's start Breathing in themouth, out the nose.
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In the mouth out the nose in themouth out the nose in the mouth
out the nose.
Nice deep breaths in the mouthout the nose in the mouth out,
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the nose in the mouth out, thenose in the mouth out the nose.
Breathe on your own.
So You're starting to pick upthe pace, breathing in the mouth
, out the nose in the mouth outthe nose in the mouth, out the
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nose in the mouth, out the nosein the mouth and hold your
breath.
Hold it as long as you can,dropping into that dizziness,
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feeling how you're moving intothat alpha brainwave state that
is resetting your nervous system.
Thank you, the power of thedivine power is in the presence
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of the divine power, just takingone more nice, deep breath Now,
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just also bringing once againyour awareness to the bottom of
your face, to both feet, to theleft and the right.
No-transcript beautifuldivinity that is within you,
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that who you are is not yourpast.
Who you are is who you chose tobe.
Thank you so much for beinghere with me today and until
next time, guys, be the lightthat you are.
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