The Truth About Healing No One Told You + Meditation

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Most people think healing is a straight line — constant progress, constant breakthroughs, constant clarity. But what if the real truth is far more human… and far more compassionate than that?

In this episode, I share the deeper side of healing that many people never talk about — the spirals, the setbacks, the hidden layers, and the moments that make you question everything. Together, we explore what healing actually feels like inside the nervous system, why old wounds resurface even when you're “doing the work,” and how to meet yourself with gentleness when the journey gets messy. You’ll also experience a soothing guided meditation to help you reconnect with compassion, calm your body, and return to yourself with more softness and clarity.

✨ One breath. One step. One breakthrough at a time.

With love,
 Dr. Evette Rose

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Episode Transcript

Speaker (00:06):
Welcome to Heal Within.
Here with me, Dr.
Evette Rose, trauma therapistand also creator of Metaphysical
Anatomy Technique.
And this podcast is your safeplace to explore emotional
healing, nervous system repair,and also deep inner
transformation.
And if you are ready to godeeper and you would like to be

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supported on your journey, youcan always book a one-on-one
session with me or with any ofmy certified metapsychology
coaching practitioners.
You can join us also for ourupcoming live healing events,
workshops, or retreats atmetaphysicalanatomy.com.
Now, let's begin our journeyback to wholeness with one

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breath and one breakthrough at atime.
And I wholeheartedly welcomeyou to today's episode where
we're gonna dive into healingand what people don't tell.
You see, healing is not justabout fixing symptoms.
This at least was my beliefwhen I first started my healing

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journey.
I don't know if you can relate.
Do you know when you when youstarted and it was new and we
were you know exploring what isout there, what do you resonate
with?
And then we startedexperimenting.
And I definitely experimentedwith a lot of techniques, a lot
of processes where I wastouching on the expressions, the

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symptoms of my trauma, ratherthan actually the root cause of
it.
At the time, little did I knowthat I was actually doing that.
And there was there's such adeep process with unlearning and
and rewiring to really trulystart to reclaim your whole

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sense of self.
And I want to touch a littlebit on some myths and some
truths, and we're gonna have anice conversation here.
And I would love for you to youknow join in on the comment
section later if you wish toconnect and also let me know
what your experiences were aswell as in your perspectives.

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So to start with, a myth is alot of people say that healing
means constant progress.
You see, the truth of itactually is that healing
actually looks a little bit likea spiral, right?
And it can sometimes be up, itcan be down, it can be

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revisiting old wounds on adeeper level level.
Of course, you would say, butbut that's progress.
Well, if let me tell you, whenyou have a re trigger, it
doesn't feel like progress atthe time.
So it's important thatexpectations are properly
introduced and understood.

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So for me, I wish someone toldme at the time that you will
make progress, but there's gonnabe plateau phases where you
feel like you're back at squareone.
Right?
So sometimes we and and and thethe challenge is that progress,
and I'm gonna share my ownpersonal experience here because
it might be different for you.

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But the challenge is when youmake progress and you heal, and
now you you you backtrack alittle bit, there's a there's a
deeper layer that you were notaware of, and now it's coming up
and it's really putting youback, it's really upsetting,
it's very distressing.
And sometimes this new layercan be so just so stressful for

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someone that they almost can'tget out of it by themselves.
And so this can create a newset of distressing symptoms.
And sometimes when we are inthat state where we feel like, I
don't know what to do, I don'tknow how to get out of this, we
we reach out for these instantgratifications and and you know

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we we throw everything on thewall and we see what sticks
approach, right?
I'm sure you can relate becauseI have absolutely done that
myself as well.
And we do that because we weneed that relief, we need that
break from that constantpressure, from that constant
strain, and and sometimes thedisappointment of feeling, wow,

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I just invested so much money ingetting better.
I was just about to, you know,take off, and you know, things
were going really well, and thenI have a setback.
So that's for me something Ireally truly wish that I knew in
the beginning because it it'squite confusing when people say
you will make progress.

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I get that.
But, and here's the but thatprogress might apply to some
people, but I have seen wherepeople would come up with a
second layer that would be sostrong that it actually sets
them back.
And even though we're climbingand we climb, some for some

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people the ramifications of thatif they can't get um the right
tools or resources or support oryou know for themselves to to
move out of that, that progresscan actually be a
re-traumatizing situation aswell.
So just keep that one in mindbecause yeah, I I really wish

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that I wish I knew that when Istarted.
Because the challenge is whenwe create changes, it's not just
about, well, I healed that, sokaboom, that's it.
The brain rewires throughrepetition, and so that now
means that you know these oldpatterns can sometimes surface

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and they need to be rewired.
And if if we give up too fastbecause it starts to feel really
uncomfortable, we cannot fullyintegrate that progress, right?
That change so that it canstick.
So another myth that we have isthat and I hear people say this

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a lot healing is all in yourmind, just think positive.
Yeah, I don't know.
If if that was true, this wholeworld would be healed like that
instantly, right?
And I'm sure you can agree tothat.
Healing, from my perspective,is embodied.

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Your nervous system decideswhether you feel safe enough to
relax and therefore then acceptthe healing that you're trying
to create in your life.
And the polyvagal theory talksabout this that safe state, that
ventral vagal, right, thatequals connection, growth.

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And now what happens is whenwe're stuck in these survival
states, right, that that fight,flight, that freeze, um, fawn.
This is what's blockinghealing.
The body can't heal when it'sstuck in a state of distress and
fight and flight instinctiveresponses.

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Now, another myth, um, let methink.
Okay, we'll start with thisone.
Another myth is um if you weremore self-aware, you wouldn't
get triggered.
I haven't found that to be truefor me personally, because many

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triggers, and here's why, manytriggers are subconscious, they
are hidden by the brain toactually protect you.
And the reason why we don'talways see them, and hence why
they can be so unexpected and soinstant, trauma is stored in

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implicit memory.
It's not always accessibleconsciously.
So now what happens?
The body is going to speak toyou through pain, through
tension, through reactionsbefore the mind can catch up.
And we know that the worldcultural conditioning teaches us

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to suppress our emotions.
It doesn't teach us how to dealwith trauma.
Instead, it teaches us how tofight, how to be successful, um,
how to how to be competitive.
So an example of this could be,say, shoulder pain.
It could be psychosomatic inthat you're carrying the weight

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of responsibility.
And this can sometimes um onlybecome to your awareness, right?
Until it becomes a chronic painor frozen shoulder or um
inflammation or the list can goon.
That's another example.
And let's see, goodness,there's quite a quite a few

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myths.
Let's see what's the next one.
Ah, so there's another one thatsays you have to heal yourself
alone before you can love orconnect.
You see, from my perspective atleast, we heal in safe
connection with others.

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Co-regulation is great.
However, it's important for usto also find our own
independence in being able toregulate ourselves by ourselves.
Co-regulation is an added,added process that we can add to
that, which is it's abiological necessity, it's a

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need, it's important for us tobe surrounded by people and um
to have you know that thatconnection in our environment.
Because neuroscience shows usthat the nervous system, you
know, is wired forco-regulation, you know, safe
eye contact, safe voices, safeconnection, like you know, safe
hugs, and so forth.
Another myth that I want toshare here with you is there's a

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myth where they say thathealing means getting rid of
pain or negative emotions.
Now I see it as healing meanslearning to listen, to um
integrate, and to responddifferently.
You see, emotional pain iscommunication, it's not a flaw,

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it's not something that you'redoing wrong.
No one is above pain, we allexperience that.
And when we look at that frommy perspective, from my
metaphysical lens, every symptomit carries a message.
And when it's heard, the bodyno longer needs to shout out.

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So when we look at a gentlesummary of what we have touched
on today, is that healing is notlinear, the nervous system also
decides safety.
So we have to teach it whatsafe safety feels like if it was

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wired incorrectly based ontraumatic circumstances, because
for the nervous system then tounderstand what is safe and what
is not safe, it it's it's it'sa very it's a blurred line.
And a big truth for mepersonally speaking is that
triggers hide until we areready.

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Triggers hide until we areready.
And healing also, healinghappens in connection, it
supports regulation, it's notthe ultimate, um, it's not the
ultimate source of regulationbecause what if the people in

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your environment's not healthy?
What are you regulating with?
Right?
So and another point is pain isa messenger, it's not the
enemy, you're not goingbackwards.
So a very powerful key takeawayhere is to really truly

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understand, and something thattook me such a long time to
really grasp is that you are notbroken, you are healing even
when it feels messy.
And the truth is, healing isabout coming home to yourself,

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not about who or what you shouldbe for someone else, or for the
sake of someone else to loveyou more or like you more or
whatever the reason is.
That motivation should be foryou.
Wonderful.
And so now, as with most of mypodcasts, I would love to talk

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you through a healingmeditation.
And so, when you are ready,let's start by taking a nice
deep breath.
And as we're starting to bringour full focus and awareness

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back to our breath, back intothe body.
The intention for today'spodcast is, and especially for
this meditation, actually, is towitness any feelings of
distress with self-compassion,to reignite self-compassion,

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especially during these momentswhen your healing journey
doesn't go according to plan.
Sometimes you feel you'reyou're that rubber band, you you
make progress, and then yousnap back, or at least you feel
that you do.
And those moments and timeswhere maybe you feel unsafe to

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feel safe.
Let's tap on some of thesemoments.
And I invite you now to findyourself standing in an open
space.
And this can be in a spacewhere you feel safe, where you

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feel peaceful, a place thatbrings ease to your nervous
system.
And I invite you now to findyourself as you are in that

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space, standing under a healingwaterfall.
Feeling that warm, healingwater flowing from your head

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down your body, out your feet,allowing that healing waterfall
to very gently release maybetension that you had from today.

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Maybe you woke up maybe alittle bit unsettled, maybe
something happened during theday that was upsetting for you,
and you maybe there's a part ofyou that's still carrying that,
allowing this healing waterfallto release that now, and now I

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invite you, as you're findingyourself in that safe open
space, notice now perhaps thatsensation or that feeling

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emotion that could perhaps causeyou to feel uncomfortable right
now.
It can even be like a lingeringfeeling.
Maybe there was a triggertoday?

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Where in your body do you feelthat stress?

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Maybe there's tension when youthink of the emotional stress in
your somewhere specificallylocated in your body.

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Maybe you feel pain flaring upin a certain part of your body.
Maybe you just feel yourawareness is just spontaneously

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drawn to a certain part of yourbody.
And as you feel that now, Iinvite you to shift your full

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focus and awareness to that partin your body.
And if it's your whole body,then your awareness is just
wrapped around your whole body.
As you notice this, what aboutthis emotion, this feeling is

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causing you to feel thisdiscomfort and this distress?
What feels the most intense orstrongest about it?

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Notice also what story may youhave told yourself about this?

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What story may you have toldyourself about this?
And now I invite you to haveawareness of the emotion or the

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sensation, the story that youmay have told yourself about it.
And in that moment, as you areaware of the judgment that you
have around this challenge, Iinvite you now to hear, feel,

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see, or sense a beautiful, soft,healing waterfall flowing over
that part of you that's carryingthe weight of this judgment.
A beautiful self-compassionatehealing waterfall is now flowing

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over you.
Feeling that healing waterfallis bringing so much love, so
much understanding, and so muchunconditional compassion.

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Notice and feel how thatself-compassion is just it's
just opening up this spacewithin your heart for you,
towards yourself, towards youremotions, and towards your story

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as well, and notice the morethese emotions and this story is
just bathed and held in thisbeautiful light of compassion,

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the more and more it starts tolose its power, the more and
more it starts to lose itsimpact on you finding yourself

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taking a nice deep breath.
Very good, and while you'restanding under that healing
waterfall, let's also affirmsome several healing
affirmations.
Healing does not have to belinear to be real.

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Every step forward or back ispart of my growth, and I embrace
it with ease and with grace.
My body knows how to return tosafety and balance.

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I honor and listen to themessages that pain carries in my
body.
I'm patient and gentle with myhealing process.

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I release the belief and theprogram that I must heal
perfectly.
Each breath helps me to rewirefor calm and peace.

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I welcome the layers of myhealing with compassion.
I do not walk my healing pathalone.

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Because connection is alsohealing medicine.
I trust the timing of myhealing journey.
And I invite you now to bringyour full focus and awareness

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back to your breath.
Notice your breathing.
Feeling the surface beneathyour body.
Bringing a full focus andawareness to the bottom of your

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faith.
Grounding you back into thehere and now.
Well done.
Giving yourself a nice bigstretch, allowing yourself to

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really gently integrate thatthroughout the day and night,
and knowing that you are exactlywhere you need to be in your
life.
And also remember you're notalone.
Remember that you're healingone step at a time and one
breath at a time.
And the affirmation for todayis every day I heal.

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And remember, if this episodetouched you, then please share
it with someone who's also maybenow on the healing journey as
well.
And as always, breathe deep,listen within, and stay gently
curious.
I love you, and until nexttime, be the light that you are.
Bye for now.