Who We Are Now: Plural Life, Survival, and Becoming with Sandi James, Plural Psychologist

📝 Episode Overview

What does it really mean to live as a system in a world obsessed with being “just one person”? This week, we’re joined by psychologist, researcher, and unapologetic plural Sandi James. Together, we dive deep into the lived realities of Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) and plural life—unpacking treatment trauma, internal disconnect, and the everyday magic (and chaos) of showing up in a world that often doesn’t see you.

Sandy shares unfiltered truths about:

* Surviving—and thriving—after treatment that missed the mark

* The funny and frustrating sides of dissociation (like dog-sitting for strangers!)

* The real reasons systems “drop off the planet”—and why connection still matters

* Practical tips for co-fronting, calendar hacks, and making therapy work for your system

* How therapists and allies can better show up for plurals

Whether you’re a system, a clinician, or someone who loves and supports either—this conversation promises validation, laughter, and hope.

🕰️ Episode Timestamps

* 00:00 – Welcome! Meet Sandi James and today’s big questions

* 01:00 – Sandi’s story: treatment-resistant research, and why labels matter

* 03:15 – Deconstructing myths: “Manipulative,” “attention-seeking,” and “resistant”—what’s really going on?

* 06:00 – The clinical blind spot: “I don’t remember” ≠ lying

* 07:00 – Loneliness, masking, and the ache for connection in plural life

* 10:30 – Getting out the door: swings, surfboards, and sensory hacks

* 13:30 – Bright shoes and reclaiming the gaze: system pride in public

* 16:00 – Negotiating who fronts in social settings—and building internal trust

* 21:00 – System imposter syndrome: Who’s the “real” me, anyway?

* 28:00 – Holding space for others, even with internal doubt

* 33:30 – Calendar color-coding, alarms, and planning for plural life

* 42:00 – Partners who don’t know you’re plural: navigating silence and safety

* 51:00 – Friendships, “ghosting,” and parts with different social needs

* 57:00 – Hope for systems who feel like “too much”

* 1:04:00 – Harmony isn’t perfection: it’s persistence

* 1:12:00 – “I don’t want to go back—I want to discover who I am now.”

* 1:16:00 – Closing: Healing doesn’t require perfection or performance

💡 Who Should Listen?

* Plurals and systems seeking real talk and solidarity

* Therapists, case managers, and support teams wanting deeper understanding

* Friends & loved ones who want to show up better for the systems in their lives

🌈 Why You’ll Love This Episode

Prepare for laughter, honesty, and a gentle reminder: you’re not too much, and you’re definitely not alone. Tune in for validation, practical tips, and hope—no matter where you are on the journey.

Listen now, and re-discover what it means to be plural and becoming.💫

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