July 27, 2023 • 30 mins
Feeling stuck is a good indicator that something needs to be released from your life. Yet when it regularly feels like the chaos of running kids, making sure they're fed and bathed while also taking care of the household and your relationship with your spouse (and hopefully even yourself) dictates your life, it may make the thought of letting go of anything seem impossible.
Which is why it's essential to carve out time in your schedule to actually focus on the task of letting go.
In this episode, you'll learn:
- Why releasing is essential to your action-taking nature
- How to know when it's time to release something
- What a releasing ritual is
- How to create your own releasing ritual
In your life releasing might look like getting rid of physical things that are cluttering up your home environment or digital clutter on your device or in your inbox, or it might look like mental clutter that's taking up precious real estate in your big beautiful mind.
Just like physical clutter can make you feel more chaotic, stressed or contracted, mental and emotional clutter can do the same.
You don't have to live with the mental and emotional clutter anymore.
And when you are able to let go of whatever is stuck in your brain, you experience freedom and flow...and it's beautiful!
A releasing ritual or ceremony helps you place intention around whatever it is you want or need to let go of in life.
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Cathy (00:00):
Feeling stuck is a good indicator that something needs
to be released from your life.
Yet.
When it regularly feels like thechaos of running kids, making
sure they're fed and bathedwhile also taking care of the
household.
And your relationship with yourspouse and hopefully even
yourself.
Seems to dictate your life.
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It may make the thought ofletting go of anything, seem
impossible.
Which is why it's essential tocarve out time in your schedule
to actually focus on the task ofletting go.
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Hey friends.
Welcome to episode 82 of thepodcast.
We are trucking right along withthis show.
And.
I just want to put the bug outthere that if you have ideas of
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(02:09):
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But if there's something youwant to learn about here about,
or someone that you think wouldbe a great person for me to
interview on the show let meknow, I would love to hear from
you.
We are coming right up on a fullmoon, this coming Tuesday.
So we were talking all aboutletting go today.
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Full moon signify the start ofthe releasing process.
Today's episode is brought toyou by the daily rhythms
tracker.
Since we are talking all aboutreleasing today.
There is an ideal time for youto release whether you are using
nature's rhythms or your ownbody's rhythms.
There's an ideal time that thatstarts to want to happen.
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I'm going to preface this with,I don't exactly take into
account all of what the cosmosare doing.
So most of the time, planets arealso doing other things, whether
they're in retrograde orcrossing certain nodes or moving
into a certain sign and.
I don't do all that astrologystuff.
What I do is help you use thenatural rhythms around you, as
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well as your body's rhythms tohelp you get stuff done,
including time for yourself,without the guilt that might
want to creep in.
When it comes to thinking aboutdoing stuff for yourself.
So, this is a very basic way oflooking at when to release and
when you need to release andwhat those ideal times are.
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In today's episode, I'm going toshare with you why releasing is
essential to your action- takingnature.
How to know when it's time torelease something.
What a releasing ritual isbecause yes, we are going to
talk releasing rituals.
And then how to create your ownreleasing ritual.
So why would you even want tolet something go or release
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something?
And I've touched on this in someof the other episodes that I've
done, uh, like the declutteringepisode.
And then the episode that I didabout phase four of your
energetic rhythm cycle.
I believe.
So you can head back and checkthose episodes out when you get
a free moment after you havelistened to this episode.
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The reason we need to let stuffgo in our lives or surrender
stuff or release things that mayno longer be serving us is
because otherwise they clog upyour energy.
They stay stuck in you.
And that leads to body aches,body pains, which we are going
to talk about the psychosomaticor mind- body relationship in
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another episode, coming up, butanything that you're still
holding onto, be it mental,emotional, or physical, maybe
even spiritual clogs up thepositive flow of energy in your
body and in who you are.
And so if you're not intentionalabout actually seeing a chapter
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close or seeing a book close inyour life, seeing things that
need to come to an end.
Sometimes they just linger outthere in space and continue to
suck from your energy, eventhough you think you are done
with them, or even though you'vesaid I'm done with it or thought
that you have let something go.
So it's important to beintentional about letting go.
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So much of letting go has tohappen in the mental, emotional
part of you.
It's not just about takingthings to the donation center or
selling them on marketplace.
Although when we physically letgo of things, it does
communicate to our bodies areleasing in a way.
Your mind still has to processand let go of things though in
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its own time.
Now, the easy thing is thatclutter that sitting around your
house, that you bring it to thedonation center, you physically
see that you say goodbye to itand you let it go.
You release it.
that's a lot easier to let go ofthen some of the mental,
emotional gunk that we tend tohold on to.
Physical stuff is a little biteasier, although even sometimes
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when we let go of physicalstuff, there's still a longing
for it.
There is still a place in ourhearts and, and maybe this is
talking about.
Um, death as well.
When we lose a loved one.
There's still sometimes thatlonging.
And that grief process that wehave to go through.
There's really no linear path ortimeline to when the mind and
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the emotions, let something goor beginning to begin to let go
and feel that closure of it.
But so often we don't have thephysical stuff to just drop off
at the donation center.
Allowing our brains to separatefrom it.
Instead we carry with us mentaland emotional beliefs and wounds
that sometimes aren't so easy tolet go of.
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And if we don't tend to them orpay attention to them, They have
a tendency to come out in otherways, like in physical ailments
or disease within the body.
As I mentioned.
A moment ago.
Releasing or letting go isactually an essential part of
productivity.
It's normal to think ofproductivity in terms of just
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checking things off your listand getting things done because.
That's who you are most likely.
If you're listening to thispodcast, you like to have the
list, check the things off andreally feel good about yourself
because you accomplished allthese things.
But what about the times that.
You don't actually checkanything off the list because
the projects are so big andthey're taking forever.
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It can feel a little bitdefeating, but it's all part of
the process of productivity.
There's actually a four stepprocess that productivity
follows.
It's not just a do something.
Start something new, dosomething, check it off, start
something new.
It's a four step process.
And I've talked about thisbefore.
I'll share with you a little bitmore about it today.
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When you begin to think ofproductivity like this in these
four phases.
You're actually able to live inyour highest energetic state or
energetic presence in the world,which means you are flowing
instead of trying to controlthat seemingly uncontrollable
chaos around you.
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You are allowing, you aresurrendering in a way.
We'll go further into theproductivity conversation in
another episode, but for now youneed to know that the four
stages of my flow productivitymodel that I use are.
Number one free to rest andreceive.
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The second stage is the plansunfold, where you are beginning
to plan beginning to takeaction.
Number three is to own it, toactually do the things.
Take the action.
Change the mindset.
Number four is to witness theoutcome.
To just observe to notice whathas happened.
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What has changed since you movedthrough this process?
And it's that third phase, theowning it.
That releasing is initiated.
It doesn't complete necessarilythere.
Sometimes it takes movingthrough that fourth phase.
To actually complete the phaseof releasing, just like the full
moon.
It peaks.
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That's the peak of the moon.
And it starts releasing then.
Well, when you move into thatthird phase of productivity that
owning it, where you're takingaction, where you are doing the
things you need to do, that'sthe part where you are.
Starting the process ofreleasing.
Releasing aligns with the peakof summer or flowering in plants
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and the full moon in the naturalworld.
In your body, it aligns withovulation.
It's the time when you start toshed, what's no longer serving
you just as nature does that.
It's honoring the idea thatyou've done the and you're ready
to put it out there or thatsomething has been in your life
and served its purpose.
And you're now ready to let goof it.
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It's about taking ownership ofyour thoughts and actions and
letting go of those that don'tfully support you.
So, although it's very muchabout taking action at its peak,
it's also the beginning ofsurrender to the natural flow of
life.
Releasing clears out space forthe new and fresh, and it allows
the positive flow of energy tocontinue instead of keeping you
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stuck.
It's essential so that you canmove onto the next stage of the
cycle and bring closure toanything you're doing.
If you don't.
You'll be stuck, perpetuallyspinning your wheels and feeling
like you're not going anywhere,especially not flowing through
life.
Releasing is the bold move toput yourself out there that
might actually be taking actionon something instead of
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continually making plans to dosomething or using the excuse.
"When this happens, I'll de.
When I make this much money, Iwill...." in your life releasing
might look like getting rid ofphysical things that are
cluttering up your home orenvironment or the digital
clutter that lives on yourdevice or in your inbox?
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Or it might look like mentalclutter.
That's taking up precious realestate in your big, beautiful
mind.
We talked about the energeticsbehind decluttering and episode
62 of the show.
So go back and take a listen tothat when this episode is done,
if you haven't, because it is agood one.
But just like physical cluttercan make you feel more chaotic,
stressed, or contracted.
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Mental and emotional clutter canabsolutely do the same.
And we often take the leastamount of action when it comes
to that mental and emotionalclutter, because we think it's
just something we have to livewith, but I'm here to bust that
myth.
You don't have to live with themental and emotional clutter
anymore.
There is a way to let go of it.
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It takes a little bit of work.
It takes a little bit ofsurrender and it might take
reminding yourself that you'rereleasing it multiple times.
But it's absolutely possible.
And when you are able to let goof whatever is stuck in your
brain, you experience freedom.
And flow.
And let me tell you friends thatis beautiful.
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And this is where it might takethe help of other people in your
life to help you let go of thatmental, emotional clutter.
It might take help from a coach.
It might take help from atherapist.
It might take help from yourenergy worker.
Or you're a massage therapist.
It might take help from afriend, just lending a listening
ear, whatever it is, letting goof the mental, emotional clutter
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is definitely freeing.
Forgiving also falls into thiscategory as well.
So you may consider what needsto be forgiven in your life when
you're preparing for yourreleasing ritual.
So, how do you know when it'stime to release something?
Well, The easy way is when it'sbroken.
Right.
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And it's no, or it's no longeruseful to you in your house,
then get rid of it.
Don't let it sit in yourcupboard for months and months
and months get rid of it.
Don't let it sit next to thegarbage or in the garage for
months, because you don't knowwhat to do with it, and it
doesn't work anymore.
Just get rid of it, just throwit out, get rid of it.
Okay.
And.
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This is coming from the one whois like super environmentally
conscious and wants to recycleeverything.
And I don't know, do all thethings to save the planet.
But sometimes my goodness, youjust have to let stuff go and
throw it out.
You get rid of it because itfrees up all this other space in
your life.
You have to let things go.
In order to create space formore.
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Another good way to know whenit's time to let something go or
to release something is if youhaven't used it in a year or
more, Okay.
And it's time to let it go.
So.
Oh, I just had an interestingthought.
What about those thoughts?
That.
You maybe haven't used foranything.
Good.
In a year or more.
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Hmm.
Those.
Thoughts or, or negativeself-talk thoughts that are in
your head?
The self-doubt.
All of those things.
Have they been helpful to you?
Have you used them for somethingto help you out in a year or
more?
If not, maybe it's time to getrid of him.
Another good indicator that itis time to get rid of something,
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is that you don't actually goback to that email and read it
like you thought you would.
Right.
I'm completely 125% guilty ofthis.
I like to keep those emails.
Cause I think I'm just going togo back and read that at some
point or that's going to beuseful.
And then I never do.
Or if I do, it's like a year ormore later and like, I forgot
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why I would even want to keepthat email who knows.
So allow them to go it's okay.
Read them, skim them, readquickly, then let it go.
Another good indicator is if youare living with a heaviness in
your mind about something.
That doesn't seem to go away nomatter what you do to try to fix
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or control it.
Something that feels heavy inlife is definitely a good
indicator that you may need toexamine it and see if it needs
to go.
Um, one of my favorite questionsto ask my kids is, was that
helpful or hurtful?
Now, if you're a parent, you'veprobably heard this before, but
if you're not a parent.
This works really well with thethoughts in your mind as well.
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Is it helpful or is it hurtful?
Right.
It can also be used when knowingwhen to get rid of something, is
this helpful?
Or is it hindering me?
From moving forward in life.
Just a thought that just came tome and I thought I should share
that.
Another good indicator of how toknow when to get rid of
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something would be, if you feelstuck in a particular area of
life, perhaps it's with feelinglike you don't have the time to
give to yourself to work out orpractice yoga or meditate or
journal.
And in that case, what is thebarrier that's keeping you
stuck?
Is it needing help with the kidsso that you can do that or
having a conversation with yourspouse so that he, or she can
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take some of the load and youcan give back to yourself or
other habits.
Or could it be other habits thatare getting in your way of
giving time to yourself?
Or lack of motivation, or maybeit's just a belief pattern about
working out or movement that'skeeping you stuck.
Whatever it is when you feelstuck, it's a good indicator
that something is calling foryour attention to be released.
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And that's when you have theinvitation to dig in or lean in
or dive deep into what might bekeeping you stuck.
Enter the releasing ritual.
All right.
Now remember from one of theprevious episodes that I did
about rituals.
That a ritual is a sacred way ofputting your spirit and
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authenticity into a habit togive it more meaning in your
life.
It's an intentional act thatresults from an increase in the
amount of attention or energyyou put into it.
All right.
So it's taking a regular oldhabit.
And putting meaning behind it,basically.
I talk more about the benefitsof making mundane tasks or
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habits you do regularly into aritual and an intention setting
ritual episode.
I shared recently.
Again, you can check that out.
When you're done listening tothis episode.
When we talk about intentionsetting and releasing.
They are rituals because there'ssomething that you ideally want
to do at least monthly.
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And when you make itritualistic, you're more likely
to enjoy it and stick with itand look forward to it.
It's a time to look at the pastmonth.
At releasing ritual is a time tolook at the past month forgive
what needs to be forgiven andlet go of that, which no longer
is serving you, whatever feelsheavy in life.
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And a releasing ritual orceremony helps you place
intention around whatever it isyou want or need to let go of.
So, how do you create your ownreleasing ritual?
Super simple friends.
Don't overthink it.
Don't overcomplicate it.
I know some of you out there.
Are much like me and we like tooverthink things over, analyze.
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Resist the urge to do that.
This is one of those times whereyou get to listen to your inner
guidance and do what feels best.
I'm going to give you someguidelines, but really honey, do
what feels best.
Okay.
The full moon is a beautifultime to do this process because
it aligns with nature's rhythmto begin the process of
releasing.
But another good time to do thereleasing ritual is mid cycle of
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your menstrual cycle.
It's right around ovulation.
It's a time to let emotions out.
The full moon is all aboutemotions and bringing them to
the surface.
It's bringing the inside worldout.
And that's what happens when thesun reflects on the moon and it
recreates a full moon.
It's reflecting the inner out.
There's another episode on thattoo.
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I'm sure, but I don't know whatit is right now.
So you'll just have to scrollback and look at the episodes.
But.
The full moon is all aboutemotions and bringing them to
the surface.
So it's a conscious way ofacknowledging and honoring
whatever it is you are feeling,and then letting it breathe.
And that's because the energythat comes with a full moon and
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often with ovulation is excessenergy.
It's expansive and it's active.
There may be tension because ofhigh emotional vibrations.
So it may be like that time whenyou get a little antsy or itchy.
But that's just because of allthe energy that's flowing
through, your has the potentialto be flowing to you.
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It's when your full potential ispeaking.
The full moon and ovulationsignify your full potential
peaking.
It's the peak of feminineenergy.
releasing in the menstrual cyclelooks like.
The beginning of your bodyletting go of all the hormones
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that have been building up inyour system over the past two
weeks, if you're on a 28 daycycle.
It's when your body begins torelease the egg, to begin the
journey to either fertilizationor disintegration.
So it is the start of releasingin your body.
So here's how you create thatreleasing ritual for yourself.
Similar to an intention settingritual.
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Create a sacred space to dothis, to give it meaning.
Light some candles, some Sage,Palo Santo, your space, grab
your essential oils or whateverelse helps you create a sacred
space and feeling.
Then come into presence somehow,whether that's taking a few deep
breaths, listening to somemusic, Practicing yoga first.
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Just getting into a space whereyou can be fully aware.
Usually that involves breathingand breath, doing a little bit
of breath work or, um, three tofour deep breaths.
That's the easiest and simplestway that you can relax your body
into a place of presence.
Then tune in to your mind, yourbody, your emotions and your
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spirit in the moment and breathefully into your body.
Find that voice of your innerguidance and ask yourself.
"What is it that I need to mostlet go of right now?" Or
something similar to that.
Consider anything from the pastmonth that is no longer serving
you and that you want torelease, or that you are ready
to give to the world.
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Write it on a piece of paper andspend some time acknowledging
it.
And the place that it had inyour life.
I like to encourage you to signit and date it so that, you
know, you're kind of likesealing the deal I'm done with
this.
Sign, your name, put the date onit.
And then maybe do a little bitof visualization.
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Now.
It might not look exactly likethis, but here's an idea of what
it could look like.
Close your eyes.
Visualize the item in front ofyou.
And then see the item wrapped inyour love with a pink glow or
light surrounding it.
Then choose to release,attachment to that item in front
of you by visualizing yourselfeither releasing it into the air
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and watching it until it cannotbe seen anymore.
Um, or maybe by burning it orburying it.
Or sending it into a black holeor a vacuum, maybe flushing it
down the toilet, whatever it maybe.
However you want to visualizeyourself getting rid of that
item, perhaps it's even justcutting the cords of it and
sending it away.
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To be gone forever.
So some place where it can'tcome back, okay?
Choose how you want to visualizethat.
And that doesn't even have to besomething you decide on
beforehand.
It might just be what comes toyou in the moment, because you
are so in tune with listening toyour inner guidance and that's
beautiful.
Then after you finished thatvisualization, take the paper or
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papers that you wrote the thingon and burn it or throw it away
forever for good.
Declare"I'm now ready torelease...." fill in the blank.
And then end it with,"and so itis." Then let go of any
emotional attachment to it.
Do some sort of releasingmovement, like shaking to
stimulate your nervous system orbrushing it off or clearing your
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aura or brushing your aura,maybe even some dancing in the
Moonlight.
My husband thinks I'm supercrazy when I do that, but he
doesn't even say anything aboutit.
He just walks about doing hisnormal life.
Or sitting by the campfire andI'm the silly one dancing by the
fire.
So now, you know, a little bitof how I do these releasing
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rituals when it's nice outside.
And he loves me for all mycraziness.
So I love him as well.
Find someone like that in yourlife.
Okay.
All right.
Um, or, you know, even if youdon't do some sort of.
Releasing movement then maybeyou just go outside or stand at
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the window and look up at themoon and take in a little bit of
a moon bath.
If you can see the moon.
And if you can't, you just haveto trust that the moon is full
and it's honoring the process ofreleasing.
This isn't about worshiping themoon.
This is about hunting, thenatural rhythm of things and the
natural rhythm of productivitythat it takes releasing in order
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to move in to the next phase.
Which is getting closure andcelebrating and just being in
that space.
Then after you've done thatreleasing just sit quietly and
notice the lighter energy thatyou might now be experiencing.
Now it might take a few timesreleasing something in order for
it to actually feel lighter inyour body and in order for it to
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actually actually release fromyou.
This is just one way to do areleasing ritual.
Another idea.
If you're not so into doing allof those steps of the ritual
might be that you even dosomething as simple as
journaling on something thatyou're ready to let go of, or
maybe writing a letter forgiving past hurts and either
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sending it or.
Never sending it at all, butinstead burning it to signify
your commitment to being donewith it.
A good practices even to do alittle releasing or mental
clearing out at the end of theday, which the daily rhythms
tracker has space for stressorsto let go of each day.
So that's a great place to beginthe releasing or to continue the
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releasing.
Um, on a daily basis throughoutthe month as you're using that
daily rhythms tracker.
So let's wrap this up.
Uh, in order to flow with life,you have to be able to let go to
release.
What's no longer serving you orto put out into the world what
you have to offer the world sothat you can move on to the next
stage of productivity.
Which is celebrating, but sooften perfectionism fear or not
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knowing what action to takestops us when we get stuck in
the cycle of planning and doingfor the sake of doing without
actually placing an intentionbehind the doing or action
taking.
This is your invitation to putyourself out there or to let go
of something that you've beenholding onto because it's become
comfortable or out of fear ofwhat might happen if you do let
go of it.
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It's a full moon in just a fewdays.
So use this information to beginplanning your full moon,
releasing ritual.
You already know how to get allthis stuff done, but is it the
right stuff to be helping youcreate more health, harmony and
happiness in your life?
Or does it feel like it's anuphill battle all the time?
Like the chaos will never end.
And for the time being in thisstage of life, you're just going
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to have to live with it.
Guess what you don't have to,you can indeed create the
opportunities for you to connectwith yourself intentionally and
by doing so, create the bestpossible energetic state or
presence for yourself.
You can feel that inner harmony,even in the midst of the chaos
that might surround you.
Be it, the kids home for thesummer or stress induced by work
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or other family issues.
And one of the ways to createthat connection time with
yourself, just like yogameditation or the intention
setting ritual I encourage youto do each month.
Is also to do a releasing ritualeach month.
It doesn't have to take a lot oftime and it can be as simple or
as elaborate as you choose.
It doesn't have to look theexact same each month.
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It's just you being intentionalabout connecting with yourself
and allowing your mind to let goof whatever isn't serving you
anymore.
Or to put something out thereinto the world that needs to be
birthed.
That needs to be shared.
Okay.
There is a correlation betweenfull moons and babies being
born.
Also hospitals have statisticson it.
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So just so you know, full moonsare also a great time to birth
things into the world.
Be it people or projects.
Or boldness in your own self.
Releasing is a part of nature'snatural rhythm.
We see it with the moon, theseasons flowers, the female
body, all these things do itnaturally.
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But with your mind, it's not asautomatic.
You have to create that space tohelp your mind, heart, spirit,
and body.
Let go of things sometimes.
Because you know that once youtruly can let go of something in
your mind and cut that cord yourbody will most certainly respond
positively and physical ailmentswill likely shift and change for
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the better.
You just have to make the choiceto let go.
And a releasing ritual can helpyou do that.
So next Tuesday, when the fullmoon is out, grab some paper,
light, a candle, or a campfireand ask your inner guidance.
What it is you need to releasemost.
You might not even have to ask.
You might just know.
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Then write it down, sign it anddate it.
Thank it for being in your life.
See yourself being blessed byit, even if it was challenging,
surround it with love.
And imagine it leaving you inwhatever way works for you.
Maybe it's floating away,burning it, cutting the cord
with it, flushing it down thetoilet, whatever feels most
natural to you.
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Then burn that piece of paper orthose pieces of paper that you
wrote it on.
And do some self-regulatingmovement to release the energy
from your body and regulate yournervous system.
And remember that.
This might have to be done morethan once.
Release attachment to theoutcome and just see what
happens.
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That's all I've got for youtoday, friends.
If this episode was helpful,would you so kindly share it
with at least one other personor maybe even share it in your
social media stories and tag mein it so that more people can
find this podcast and canbenefit from it.
Until next time I'm CathyStruecker, helping you find and
use the rhythms in and aroundyou in all you do.
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Cheers to cultivating your ownversion of health, harmony, and
happiness in your life.
Feeling stuck is a good indicator that something needs
to be released from your life.
Yet.
When it regularly feels like thechaos of running kids, making
sure they're fed and bathedwhile also taking care of the
household.
And your relationship with yourspouse and hopefully even
yourself.
Seems to dictate your life.
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It may make the thought ofletting go of anything, seem
impossible.
Which is why it's essential tocarve out time in your schedule
to actually focus on the task ofletting go.
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Hey friends.
Welcome to episode 82 of thepodcast.
We are trucking right along withthis show.
And.
I just want to put the bug outthere that if you have ideas of
things you would like to hearabout on the podcast.
Please send them my way.
Um, my email is everywhere on mywebsite.
So you can head over toCairnYogaWellness.com and shoot
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me an email or shoot me amessage.
However...
through Instagram or Facebook,however you would like.
But if there's something youwant to learn about here about,
or someone that you think wouldbe a great person for me to
interview on the show let meknow, I would love to hear from
you.
We are coming right up on a fullmoon, this coming Tuesday.
So we were talking all aboutletting go today.
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Full moon signify the start ofthe releasing process.
Today's episode is brought toyou by the daily rhythms
tracker.
Since we are talking all aboutreleasing today.
There is an ideal time for youto release whether you are using
nature's rhythms or your ownbody's rhythms.
There's an ideal time that thatstarts to want to happen.
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I'm going to preface this with,I don't exactly take into
account all of what the cosmosare doing.
So most of the time, planets arealso doing other things, whether
they're in retrograde orcrossing certain nodes or moving
into a certain sign and.
I don't do all that astrologystuff.
What I do is help you use thenatural rhythms around you, as
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well as your body's rhythms tohelp you get stuff done,
including time for yourself,without the guilt that might
want to creep in.
When it comes to thinking aboutdoing stuff for yourself.
So, this is a very basic way oflooking at when to release and
when you need to release andwhat those ideal times are.
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In today's episode, I'm going toshare with you why releasing is
essential to your action- takingnature.
How to know when it's time torelease something.
What a releasing ritual isbecause yes, we are going to
talk releasing rituals.
And then how to create your ownreleasing ritual.
So why would you even want tolet something go or release
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something?
And I've touched on this in someof the other episodes that I've
done, uh, like the declutteringepisode.
And then the episode that I didabout phase four of your
energetic rhythm cycle.
I believe.
So you can head back and checkthose episodes out when you get
a free moment after you havelistened to this episode.
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The reason we need to let stuffgo in our lives or surrender
stuff or release things that mayno longer be serving us is
because otherwise they clog upyour energy.
They stay stuck in you.
And that leads to body aches,body pains, which we are going
to talk about the psychosomaticor mind- body relationship in
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another episode, coming up, butanything that you're still
holding onto, be it mental,emotional, or physical, maybe
even spiritual clogs up thepositive flow of energy in your
body and in who you are.
And so if you're not intentionalabout actually seeing a chapter
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close or seeing a book close inyour life, seeing things that
need to come to an end.
Sometimes they just linger outthere in space and continue to
suck from your energy, eventhough you think you are done
with them, or even though you'vesaid I'm done with it or thought
that you have let something go.
So it's important to beintentional about letting go.
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So much of letting go has tohappen in the mental, emotional
part of you.
It's not just about takingthings to the donation center or
selling them on marketplace.
Although when we physically letgo of things, it does
communicate to our bodies areleasing in a way.
Your mind still has to processand let go of things though in
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its own time.
Now, the easy thing is thatclutter that sitting around your
house, that you bring it to thedonation center, you physically
see that you say goodbye to itand you let it go.
You release it.
that's a lot easier to let go ofthen some of the mental,
emotional gunk that we tend tohold on to.
Physical stuff is a little biteasier, although even sometimes
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when we let go of physicalstuff, there's still a longing
for it.
There is still a place in ourhearts and, and maybe this is
talking about.
Um, death as well.
When we lose a loved one.
There's still sometimes thatlonging.
And that grief process that wehave to go through.
There's really no linear path ortimeline to when the mind and
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the emotions, let something goor beginning to begin to let go
and feel that closure of it.
But so often we don't have thephysical stuff to just drop off
at the donation center.
Allowing our brains to separatefrom it.
Instead we carry with us mentaland emotional beliefs and wounds
that sometimes aren't so easy tolet go of.
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And if we don't tend to them orpay attention to them, They have
a tendency to come out in otherways, like in physical ailments
or disease within the body.
As I mentioned.
A moment ago.
Releasing or letting go isactually an essential part of
productivity.
It's normal to think ofproductivity in terms of just
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checking things off your listand getting things done because.
That's who you are most likely.
If you're listening to thispodcast, you like to have the
list, check the things off andreally feel good about yourself
because you accomplished allthese things.
But what about the times that.
You don't actually checkanything off the list because
the projects are so big andthey're taking forever.
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It can feel a little bitdefeating, but it's all part of
the process of productivity.
There's actually a four stepprocess that productivity
follows.
It's not just a do something.
Start something new, dosomething, check it off, start
something new.
It's a four step process.
And I've talked about thisbefore.
I'll share with you a little bitmore about it today.
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When you begin to think ofproductivity like this in these
four phases.
You're actually able to live inyour highest energetic state or
energetic presence in the world,which means you are flowing
instead of trying to controlthat seemingly uncontrollable
chaos around you.
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You are allowing, you aresurrendering in a way.
We'll go further into theproductivity conversation in
another episode, but for now youneed to know that the four
stages of my flow productivitymodel that I use are.
Number one free to rest andreceive.
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The second stage is the plansunfold, where you are beginning
to plan beginning to takeaction.
Number three is to own it, toactually do the things.
Take the action.
Change the mindset.
Number four is to witness theoutcome.
To just observe to notice whathas happened.
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What has changed since you movedthrough this process?
And it's that third phase, theowning it.
That releasing is initiated.
It doesn't complete necessarilythere.
Sometimes it takes movingthrough that fourth phase.
To actually complete the phaseof releasing, just like the full
moon.
It peaks.
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That's the peak of the moon.
And it starts releasing then.
Well, when you move into thatthird phase of productivity that
owning it, where you're takingaction, where you are doing the
things you need to do, that'sthe part where you are.
Starting the process ofreleasing.
Releasing aligns with the peakof summer or flowering in plants
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and the full moon in the naturalworld.
In your body, it aligns withovulation.
It's the time when you start toshed, what's no longer serving
you just as nature does that.
It's honoring the idea thatyou've done the and you're ready
to put it out there or thatsomething has been in your life
and served its purpose.
And you're now ready to let goof it.
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It's about taking ownership ofyour thoughts and actions and
letting go of those that don'tfully support you.
So, although it's very muchabout taking action at its peak,
it's also the beginning ofsurrender to the natural flow of
life.
Releasing clears out space forthe new and fresh, and it allows
the positive flow of energy tocontinue instead of keeping you
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stuck.
It's essential so that you canmove onto the next stage of the
cycle and bring closure toanything you're doing.
If you don't.
You'll be stuck, perpetuallyspinning your wheels and feeling
like you're not going anywhere,especially not flowing through
life.
Releasing is the bold move toput yourself out there that
might actually be taking actionon something instead of
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continually making plans to dosomething or using the excuse.
"When this happens, I'll de.
When I make this much money, Iwill...." in your life releasing
might look like getting rid ofphysical things that are
cluttering up your home orenvironment or the digital
clutter that lives on yourdevice or in your inbox?
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Or it might look like mentalclutter.
That's taking up precious realestate in your big, beautiful
mind.
We talked about the energeticsbehind decluttering and episode
62 of the show.
So go back and take a listen tothat when this episode is done,
if you haven't, because it is agood one.
But just like physical cluttercan make you feel more chaotic,
stressed, or contracted.
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Mental and emotional clutter canabsolutely do the same.
And we often take the leastamount of action when it comes
to that mental and emotionalclutter, because we think it's
just something we have to livewith, but I'm here to bust that
myth.
You don't have to live with themental and emotional clutter
anymore.
There is a way to let go of it.
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It takes a little bit of work.
It takes a little bit ofsurrender and it might take
reminding yourself that you'rereleasing it multiple times.
But it's absolutely possible.
And when you are able to let goof whatever is stuck in your
brain, you experience freedom.
And flow.
And let me tell you friends thatis beautiful.
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And this is where it might takethe help of other people in your
life to help you let go of thatmental, emotional clutter.
It might take help from a coach.
It might take help from atherapist.
It might take help from yourenergy worker.
Or you're a massage therapist.
It might take help from afriend, just lending a listening
ear, whatever it is, letting goof the mental, emotional clutter
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is definitely freeing.
Forgiving also falls into thiscategory as well.
So you may consider what needsto be forgiven in your life when
you're preparing for yourreleasing ritual.
So, how do you know when it'stime to release something?
Well, The easy way is when it'sbroken.
Right.
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And it's no, or it's no longeruseful to you in your house,
then get rid of it.
Don't let it sit in yourcupboard for months and months
and months get rid of it.
Don't let it sit next to thegarbage or in the garage for
months, because you don't knowwhat to do with it, and it
doesn't work anymore.
Just get rid of it, just throwit out, get rid of it.
Okay.
And.
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This is coming from the one whois like super environmentally
conscious and wants to recycleeverything.
And I don't know, do all thethings to save the planet.
But sometimes my goodness, youjust have to let stuff go and
throw it out.
You get rid of it because itfrees up all this other space in
your life.
You have to let things go.
In order to create space formore.
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Another good way to know whenit's time to let something go or
to release something is if youhaven't used it in a year or
more, Okay.
And it's time to let it go.
So.
Oh, I just had an interestingthought.
What about those thoughts?
That.
You maybe haven't used foranything.
Good.
In a year or more.
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Hmm.
Those.
Thoughts or, or negativeself-talk thoughts that are in
your head?
The self-doubt.
All of those things.
Have they been helpful to you?
Have you used them for somethingto help you out in a year or
more?
If not, maybe it's time to getrid of him.
Another good indicator that itis time to get rid of something,
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is that you don't actually goback to that email and read it
like you thought you would.
Right.
I'm completely 125% guilty ofthis.
I like to keep those emails.
Cause I think I'm just going togo back and read that at some
point or that's going to beuseful.
And then I never do.
Or if I do, it's like a year ormore later and like, I forgot
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why I would even want to keepthat email who knows.
So allow them to go it's okay.
Read them, skim them, readquickly, then let it go.
Another good indicator is if youare living with a heaviness in
your mind about something.
That doesn't seem to go away nomatter what you do to try to fix
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or control it.
Something that feels heavy inlife is definitely a good
indicator that you may need toexamine it and see if it needs
to go.
Um, one of my favorite questionsto ask my kids is, was that
helpful or hurtful?
Now, if you're a parent, you'veprobably heard this before, but
if you're not a parent.
This works really well with thethoughts in your mind as well.
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Is it helpful or is it hurtful?
Right.
It can also be used when knowingwhen to get rid of something, is
this helpful?
Or is it hindering me?
From moving forward in life.
Just a thought that just came tome and I thought I should share
that.
Another good indicator of how toknow when to get rid of
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something would be, if you feelstuck in a particular area of
life, perhaps it's with feelinglike you don't have the time to
give to yourself to work out orpractice yoga or meditate or
journal.
And in that case, what is thebarrier that's keeping you
stuck?
Is it needing help with the kidsso that you can do that or
having a conversation with yourspouse so that he, or she can
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take some of the load and youcan give back to yourself or
other habits.
Or could it be other habits thatare getting in your way of
giving time to yourself?
Or lack of motivation, or maybeit's just a belief pattern about
working out or movement that'skeeping you stuck.
Whatever it is when you feelstuck, it's a good indicator
that something is calling foryour attention to be released.
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And that's when you have theinvitation to dig in or lean in
or dive deep into what might bekeeping you stuck.
Enter the releasing ritual.
All right.
Now remember from one of theprevious episodes that I did
about rituals.
That a ritual is a sacred way ofputting your spirit and
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authenticity into a habit togive it more meaning in your
life.
It's an intentional act thatresults from an increase in the
amount of attention or energyyou put into it.
All right.
So it's taking a regular oldhabit.
And putting meaning behind it,basically.
I talk more about the benefitsof making mundane tasks or
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habits you do regularly into aritual and an intention setting
ritual episode.
I shared recently.
Again, you can check that out.
When you're done listening tothis episode.
When we talk about intentionsetting and releasing.
They are rituals because there'ssomething that you ideally want
to do at least monthly.
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And when you make itritualistic, you're more likely
to enjoy it and stick with itand look forward to it.
It's a time to look at the pastmonth.
At releasing ritual is a time tolook at the past month forgive
what needs to be forgiven andlet go of that, which no longer
is serving you, whatever feelsheavy in life.
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And a releasing ritual orceremony helps you place
intention around whatever it isyou want or need to let go of.
So, how do you create your ownreleasing ritual?
Super simple friends.
Don't overthink it.
Don't overcomplicate it.
I know some of you out there.
Are much like me and we like tooverthink things over, analyze.
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Resist the urge to do that.
This is one of those times whereyou get to listen to your inner
guidance and do what feels best.
I'm going to give you someguidelines, but really honey, do
what feels best.
Okay.
The full moon is a beautifultime to do this process because
it aligns with nature's rhythmto begin the process of
releasing.
But another good time to do thereleasing ritual is mid cycle of
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your menstrual cycle.
It's right around ovulation.
It's a time to let emotions out.
The full moon is all aboutemotions and bringing them to
the surface.
It's bringing the inside worldout.
And that's what happens when thesun reflects on the moon and it
recreates a full moon.
It's reflecting the inner out.
There's another episode on thattoo.
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I'm sure, but I don't know whatit is right now.
So you'll just have to scrollback and look at the episodes.
But.
The full moon is all aboutemotions and bringing them to
the surface.
So it's a conscious way ofacknowledging and honoring
whatever it is you are feeling,and then letting it breathe.
And that's because the energythat comes with a full moon and
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often with ovulation is excessenergy.
It's expansive and it's active.
There may be tension because ofhigh emotional vibrations.
So it may be like that time whenyou get a little antsy or itchy.
But that's just because of allthe energy that's flowing
through, your has the potentialto be flowing to you.
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It's when your full potential ispeaking.
The full moon and ovulationsignify your full potential
peaking.
It's the peak of feminineenergy.
releasing in the menstrual cyclelooks like.
The beginning of your bodyletting go of all the hormones
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that have been building up inyour system over the past two
weeks, if you're on a 28 daycycle.
It's when your body begins torelease the egg, to begin the
journey to either fertilizationor disintegration.
So it is the start of releasingin your body.
So here's how you create thatreleasing ritual for yourself.
Similar to an intention settingritual.
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Create a sacred space to dothis, to give it meaning.
Light some candles, some Sage,Palo Santo, your space, grab
your essential oils or whateverelse helps you create a sacred
space and feeling.
Then come into presence somehow,whether that's taking a few deep
breaths, listening to somemusic, Practicing yoga first.
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Just getting into a space whereyou can be fully aware.
Usually that involves breathingand breath, doing a little bit
of breath work or, um, three tofour deep breaths.
That's the easiest and simplestway that you can relax your body
into a place of presence.
Then tune in to your mind, yourbody, your emotions and your
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spirit in the moment and breathefully into your body.
Find that voice of your innerguidance and ask yourself.
"What is it that I need to mostlet go of right now?" Or
something similar to that.
Consider anything from the pastmonth that is no longer serving
you and that you want torelease, or that you are ready
to give to the world.
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Write it on a piece of paper andspend some time acknowledging
it.
And the place that it had inyour life.
I like to encourage you to signit and date it so that, you
know, you're kind of likesealing the deal I'm done with
this.
Sign, your name, put the date onit.
And then maybe do a little bitof visualization.
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Now.
It might not look exactly likethis, but here's an idea of what
it could look like.
Close your eyes.
Visualize the item in front ofyou.
And then see the item wrapped inyour love with a pink glow or
light surrounding it.
Then choose to release,attachment to that item in front
of you by visualizing yourselfeither releasing it into the air
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and watching it until it cannotbe seen anymore.
Um, or maybe by burning it orburying it.
Or sending it into a black holeor a vacuum, maybe flushing it
down the toilet, whatever it maybe.
However you want to visualizeyourself getting rid of that
item, perhaps it's even justcutting the cords of it and
sending it away.
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To be gone forever.
So some place where it can'tcome back, okay?
Choose how you want to visualizethat.
And that doesn't even have to besomething you decide on
beforehand.
It might just be what comes toyou in the moment, because you
are so in tune with listening toyour inner guidance and that's
beautiful.
Then after you finished thatvisualization, take the paper or
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papers that you wrote the thingon and burn it or throw it away
forever for good.
Declare"I'm now ready torelease...." fill in the blank.
And then end it with,"and so itis." Then let go of any
emotional attachment to it.
Do some sort of releasingmovement, like shaking to
stimulate your nervous system orbrushing it off or clearing your
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aura or brushing your aura,maybe even some dancing in the
Moonlight.
My husband thinks I'm supercrazy when I do that, but he
doesn't even say anything aboutit.
He just walks about doing hisnormal life.
Or sitting by the campfire andI'm the silly one dancing by the
fire.
So now, you know, a little bitof how I do these releasing
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rituals when it's nice outside.
And he loves me for all mycraziness.
So I love him as well.
Find someone like that in yourlife.
Okay.
All right.
Um, or, you know, even if youdon't do some sort of.
Releasing movement then maybeyou just go outside or stand at
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the window and look up at themoon and take in a little bit of
a moon bath.
If you can see the moon.
And if you can't, you just haveto trust that the moon is full
and it's honoring the process ofreleasing.
This isn't about worshiping themoon.
This is about hunting, thenatural rhythm of things and the
natural rhythm of productivitythat it takes releasing in order
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to move in to the next phase.
Which is getting closure andcelebrating and just being in
that space.
Then after you've done thatreleasing just sit quietly and
notice the lighter energy thatyou might now be experiencing.
Now it might take a few timesreleasing something in order for
it to actually feel lighter inyour body and in order for it to
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actually actually release fromyou.
This is just one way to do areleasing ritual.
Another idea.
If you're not so into doing allof those steps of the ritual
might be that you even dosomething as simple as
journaling on something thatyou're ready to let go of, or
maybe writing a letter forgiving past hurts and either
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sending it or.
Never sending it at all, butinstead burning it to signify
your commitment to being donewith it.
A good practices even to do alittle releasing or mental
clearing out at the end of theday, which the daily rhythms
tracker has space for stressorsto let go of each day.
So that's a great place to beginthe releasing or to continue the
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releasing.
Um, on a daily basis throughoutthe month as you're using that
daily rhythms tracker.
So let's wrap this up.
Uh, in order to flow with life,you have to be able to let go to
release.
What's no longer serving you orto put out into the world what
you have to offer the world sothat you can move on to the next
stage of productivity.
Which is celebrating, but sooften perfectionism fear or not
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knowing what action to takestops us when we get stuck in
the cycle of planning and doingfor the sake of doing without
actually placing an intentionbehind the doing or action
taking.
This is your invitation to putyourself out there or to let go
of something that you've beenholding onto because it's become
comfortable or out of fear ofwhat might happen if you do let
go of it.
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It's a full moon in just a fewdays.
So use this information to beginplanning your full moon,
releasing ritual.
You already know how to get allthis stuff done, but is it the
right stuff to be helping youcreate more health, harmony and
happiness in your life?
Or does it feel like it's anuphill battle all the time?
Like the chaos will never end.
And for the time being in thisstage of life, you're just going
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to have to live with it.
Guess what you don't have to,you can indeed create the
opportunities for you to connectwith yourself intentionally and
by doing so, create the bestpossible energetic state or
presence for yourself.
You can feel that inner harmony,even in the midst of the chaos
that might surround you.
Be it, the kids home for thesummer or stress induced by work
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or other family issues.
And one of the ways to createthat connection time with
yourself, just like yogameditation or the intention
setting ritual I encourage youto do each month.
Is also to do a releasing ritualeach month.
It doesn't have to take a lot oftime and it can be as simple or
as elaborate as you choose.
It doesn't have to look theexact same each month.
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It's just you being intentionalabout connecting with yourself
and allowing your mind to let goof whatever isn't serving you
anymore.
Or to put something out thereinto the world that needs to be
birthed.
That needs to be shared.
Okay.
There is a correlation betweenfull moons and babies being
born.
Also hospitals have statisticson it.
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So just so you know, full moonsare also a great time to birth
things into the world.
Be it people or projects.
Or boldness in your own self.
Releasing is a part of nature'snatural rhythm.
We see it with the moon, theseasons flowers, the female
body, all these things do itnaturally.
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But with your mind, it's not asautomatic.
You have to create that space tohelp your mind, heart, spirit,
and body.
Let go of things sometimes.
Because you know that once youtruly can let go of something in
your mind and cut that cord yourbody will most certainly respond
positively and physical ailmentswill likely shift and change for
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the better.
You just have to make the choiceto let go.
And a releasing ritual can helpyou do that.
So next Tuesday, when the fullmoon is out, grab some paper,
light, a candle, or a campfireand ask your inner guidance.
What it is you need to releasemost.
You might not even have to ask.
You might just know.
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Then write it down, sign it anddate it.
Thank it for being in your life.
See yourself being blessed byit, even if it was challenging,
surround it with love.
And imagine it leaving you inwhatever way works for you.
Maybe it's floating away,burning it, cutting the cord
with it, flushing it down thetoilet, whatever feels most
natural to you.
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Then burn that piece of paper orthose pieces of paper that you
wrote it on.
And do some self-regulatingmovement to release the energy
from your body and regulate yournervous system.
And remember that.
This might have to be done morethan once.
Release attachment to theoutcome and just see what
happens.
(29:42):
That's all I've got for youtoday, friends.
If this episode was helpful,would you so kindly share it
with at least one other personor maybe even share it in your
social media stories and tag mein it so that more people can
find this podcast and canbenefit from it.
Until next time I'm CathyStruecker, helping you find and
use the rhythms in and aroundyou in all you do.
(30:04):
Cheers to cultivating your ownversion of health, harmony, and
happiness in your life.
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