July 1, 2024 • 19 mins
Transform your chaotic mornings into moments of calm and productivity with our latest episode of Hot Mess Mom Health! Discover how I turned my own frazzled starts into structured, fulfilling routines, all thanks to insights from the 75 Hard challenge. You'll learn how setting out workout clothes the night before and planning your exercise can make a world of difference. This episode is loaded with practical tips for busy moms looking to create a morning routine that not only fits their hectic schedules but also enhances their mental well-being and reduces stress.
Even if you're not a natural early bird, there's hope! Starting small, like waking up just 10 minutes earlier, can pave the way for a peaceful and positive morning. Whether it's reading, meditating, or savoring a quiet cup of tea, these little changes can have a big impact. Plus, I'll share the benefits of involving your spouse in your morning routine, and how a simple morning walk can bring you closer and set a positive tone for the rest of the day. Tune in to learn how manageable steps can lead to a more organized and fulfilling life.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Hey there, welcome to the Hot Mess Mom Health Podcast
.
Do you wish you could find asustainable way to get healthy
and not feel overwhelmed in theprocess?
Do you find yourself up late atnight scouring Pinterest for
meal prep ideas and quickworkouts?
Do you wake up with big,ambitious goals only to feel
stressed out and disappointedwhen you fall back in your old
habits?
Drive to the Chick-fil-Adrive-thru for the second time
(00:25):
this week, all while the freshproduce you just bought goes bad
?
Hey, I'm Rebecca.
I too am a working mom of twolittles and self-proclaimed hot
mess mom.
All my life I've struggled withtrying to maintain a healthy
weight and feel good in my skin.
I could add yo-yo dieter to myresume.
After I packed on 50 pluspounds with two pregnancies, I
decided to change for good.
(00:46):
I wanted to stop obsessingabout food, stay consistent and
set a good, healthy example formy kids, but I kept telling
myself that I didn't have thetime, the energy or
accountability to stay on trackuntil I changed my mindset and
created one healthy habit at atime.
In this podcast, you will findsimple, actionable steps so you
can create a healthy lifestyleand get relief from the
(01:07):
overwhelm.
Spray that dry shampoo.
Grab your iced coffee, turn upthe volume and let's get healthy
.
Hey there, happy Monday andwelcome back to another episode
of Hot Mess Mom Health.
I cannot believe that we are inthe week of Thanksgiving already
.
It's so crazy and it is superfreezing in New Jersey.
(01:28):
In South Jersey it has gonefrom last Saturday wearing a
t-shirt and jeans outside tothis Sunday being at my son's
soccer game in a full parka,winter coat, scarves, hand
warmers in my gloves, freezingmy butt off.
So I don't know where you arein the world listening to this,
but if it's cold, I feel you, itstinks.
(01:48):
I do not like being cold andespecially the drastic changes
of weather.
I'm just not really down forthat.
There's no seasons anymore herein New Jersey.
It seems like it goes rightfrom summer straight into winter
and it stinks.
So anyway, we're in toThanksgiving week and something
that I've been thinking aboutlately is the morning routine
that I've kind of created and itkind of had me thinking about,
(02:11):
you know, about a year ago, whenI would just wake up, work out,
not really have a strictroutine, and how I was feeling
at that time versus how I feeltoday, and also during my
journey of 75 Hour with myhusband.
That really was kind of whatmade my morning routine what it
is now and all of the benefitsthat I've got from that I want
(02:34):
to share with you today.
And also just five little quickways that I think you can kind
of you know, put a morningroutine together or a way you
can strategize creating one foryourself to really make yourself
feel better throughout the day.
I think it's a really goodfoundation having some type of
morning routine and I'm notsaying your morning routine is
going to look like mine, butmaybe you can take some tips or
(02:55):
tricks from what I do.
Or you can say you know what.
That's definitely not what Iwant to do, but I would like to
do this.
But I think there's value to, asa busy working mom who is
probably not, probably doesn'thave much time for herself, if
you're listening to this andyou're trying to figure out what
on earth you're going to evenhave five minutes for yourself,
it may become the morning isyour only option, right?
And obviously I love sleep,like I value sleep so much.
(03:19):
But I also value my sanity andhaving my morning routine be my
kids waking me up and me rushingthem, rushing myself in the
shower, rushing out the doorwasn't serving me at all.
It was actually reallyaffecting my mental health and
my stress levels and just how mywhole day was going.
And I acknowledge that a longtime ago.
(03:40):
But, like I said, 75 hardreally forced me up against a
wall to say these are the thingsI have to do before I leave.
And I really was able to say Ienjoy these things way more than
I thought I ever would and itwas kind of eye opening to me
about just the beauty of amorning routine and how it sets
that foundation for your entireday and how it does that in a
(04:01):
really positive way.
Now I'm definitely going totell you I'm not a morning
person, but I have come toreally appreciate that time in
the morning that I have tomyself or that I have to just
have free space to think orspeak to my husband or just
without the interruption of theworkday and children, because,
let's face it, those thingscombined and those things
(04:22):
individually are stressfulenough.
Just trying to hear your ownthoughts during the day
sometimes are difficult.
So if you're anything like meand you've been thinking about a
morning routine, or maybeyou've dabbled in doing some
things and you're really lookingto elevate your morning routine
.
I hope this episode helps you.
So just to give you a little bitof idea what my morning routine
looks like most days, I wouldsay six out of seven days I
(04:43):
would say five to six out ofseven days.
Before I go to bed the nightbefore I put my workout clothes
on, I literally call out myworkout.
I say what I'm doing for themorning, I say what time I'm
going to wake up, and sometimesI'll say this to my husband
because I want to know whetherhe's waking up with me or not,
because having thataccountability in the morning is
pretty nice.
But if he's not working out, Istill put my workout clothes out
(05:06):
the night before and I mentallyeither look on my apps and pick
my workouts or I call out myworkouts.
I know exactly what I'm doing.
I already have everything setto go.
I decide whether I'm having teaor coffee, hot or iced All
these things that are kind ofplaying out in my head and I
wake up at 5 am.
(05:26):
That's my wake up time.
I try my hardest not to hitsnooze, because I try to Mel
Robbins my 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 way outof my bed if I'm feeling tired
and I go right into my bathroom,put my contacts in, go to the
bathroom and put my workoutclothes on and head right to the
basement.
That's something that, like Isaid, five to six days of the
(05:46):
week, that's definitely whathappens.
I try to give myself one day aweek to sleep in on the weekends
, depending upon the crazinessof our life.
But even the day I'm recordingthis Sunday, the night before
this goes out, because I don'thave my whole life together, I'm
still last minute on thispodcast and I did set my alarm
for six this morning instead offive.
I was like, okay, that's agreat compromise.
(06:06):
Our life is going to be crazytoday, with soccer and just
trying to put Christmasdecorations out and knowing that
I still had to record thispodcast, so I wasn't gonna be
able to work out at night.
I basically said to myself allright, I'm going to sacrifice
sleeping in like I normallywould and I'm going to wake up
at six, give myself an extrahour, but I'm still going to
(06:30):
have that hour from six to sevento do my workout, get a shower
and all that stuff, before thekids go in full force and before
we had to like kind of getgoing on our day.
So you know that's pretty muchmy morning routine.
Then I get in the shower, workout, get in the shower, then I
have my tea or coffee.
So my reward for getting up, Iguess, and working out is having
my morning tea or coffee, andthen I try to make it so that I
have about 10 to 15 minutes toread while I'm drinking my tea
(06:52):
or coffee.
Doesn't always happen, but Ireally do value reading in the
morning and that's somethingthat was a big takeaway from me
from 75 hard, because typicallywhat I did was I tried to read
before I went to bed and I stilldo but I only get through like
a page before the books hit meright in the head because I'm
just tired and I need to go tosleep.
So if you're anything like me,where you really like to read
(07:14):
but it's not working for you atnight, try reading in the
morning, even if working out'snot going to happen in the
morning, you have no desire todo that and you really just want
10 minutes to yourself.
Say, maybe I'm going to try toread with a cup of coffee, just
so you can have that mental timeto do something that you want
to do that's a calming space.
Maybe it's meditation, maybeit's just sitting in front of a
(07:37):
red light, maybe it's walking,whatever it could be for,
whatever it looks like for you,but something that brings your
mind into just a calm space.
I try my hardest during thiswhole morning to not look at my
phone too much, because you canget really roped into the day
that way and you can really getthat high stress kicked off
right away.
It's hard, don't get me wrong,but if I'm able to, I try my
(08:01):
hardest not to look at my phoneunless it's to set my Peloton
app for like a walk outside orsomething or something to do
with my workout or my aura ringfrom the night before.
But I try not to open up socialmedia, not to open up work
emails, not to check my regularemails, just to kind of stay in
the zone of like this is my time, I'm going to own it and this
is like sacred to me, you know.
(08:25):
So, with all that being said,by the time five o'clock I'm
waking up.
By the time we get the kids up,it's between seven and 715.
So I have like a good two hoursalmost where the world's not
requiring me to do something forthem, right Like there's two
hours where I can get a showerin peace, I can blow dry my hair
, I can read, I can have a cupof tea or coffee, I can work out
if I want, I can meditate if Iwant.
So I just value that time somuch.
(08:47):
And, like I said, with 75 hard,it forces you to do stuff before
you leave the door becausethere's almost no time you can
do it all in your day, so if youdon't do some of it beforehand,
so you know, a morning routinesuch as walking with my husband
in the morning was somethingthat we did every day for 75
days and I didn't you know atthe time it was like, oh my gosh
, like we have to work out thenthen we have to work out again
(09:12):
and it seemed like such atedious thing.
But we actually reallythoroughly enjoyed our morning
workouts together, our morningwalks, because it was always
just a walk.
We did our 75 hard through thesummer month.
So it was nice weather, it wassuper, like there's a good low
humidity.
The sun was like not really upyet, so it's pretty dark, the
world's quiet at that time andit allowed us time to actually
talk to each other without kidsinterrupting, without the day to
(09:34):
day chaos and without us bothbeing exhausted, because it
really was a great way to wakeup, hit the day with whatever
thoughts you're thinking,whatever happened the day before
, being able to talk to yoursignificant other without just
the pressure of all the otherstuff going on at the same time.
And, honestly, I really missthat.
I cannot wait till the summeror the spring so we can start
doing it again, because there'sone thing that I'm not, and it's
(09:56):
I'm not a lover of cold weatherand I'm not going to be at 5am
bundling up in a park and ascarf and all this jazz to go
outside.
It's just not going to happen.
Um, as much as I love that walk, it's just not going to happen.
So, um, something that I'mlooking forward to doing in the
warmer months, for sure.
But so you know all that to say.
You know, waking up early isnot easy, but there's no
(10:20):
pressure on you, don't have towake up two hours before you
have to walk out the door.
You don't have to wake up anhour.
Even if it's just something assmall as 10 minutes, it could
really help you.
And again, I'm all aboutstarting things small.
So if you know that right nowall you're capable of doing is
waking up 10 minutes early, thenset your alarm tomorrow for 10
minutes early.
5, 4, 3, 2, 1, your way.
(10:44):
As Mel Robbins would say up 10minutes early and give yourself
that time, even if it's just the10 minutes to sit there and
read a book, even if it's just10 minutes to sit in silence in
a room with a cup of warm tea.
Maybe you want to journal, likeI said.
Maybe you want to meditate,whatever that looks like for you
.
Start somewhere with a goodmorning routine, take one to two
things and then build upon it.
Maybe eventually you do want towork out, but right now you're
(11:06):
like let me see if I can tacklethe 10 minutes, let me see if I
can do that consistently andprove to myself that I'm going
to do this and that I feelbetter when I do this, and then
add on another 10 minutes andsee what you can do in those 10
minutes.
Maybe it's that you want to adda gratitude journal to it.
Maybe you want to meditate.
Maybe you want to take a 10minute walk.
Maybe that's all you can doright now.
(11:26):
Try that and then take noticeto how you feel.
So I kind of put together fivethings that, if you know, I was
starting out with a morningroutine kind of where I would go
with all of this.
So first off, I would say,figure out what works for you.
Like I said, maybe it's notworking out.
Maybe you know you'd like towork out in the afternoon or
(11:47):
you'd like to work out at night.
Maybe it's simply just havingthat cup of coffee or tea and
just having a moment of silencebefore all hell breaks loose in
your house.
I totally get it.
Maybe it's adding the readingto it, maybe it's adding
listening to a podcast, whateverit is that you could own that
time.
Figure out what works for you,like what would give you that
space in the morning to feellike you had something of your
(12:11):
own today, you know, because Itotally get that feeling where
it feels like everyone'sconstantly taking all of your
time every second of the day.
So figure out what might workfor you, whether it's walking,
reading, meditating, journaling,whatever it is.
Try to figure it out.
Number two be willing to trydifferent things and get out of
the mindset that you're not amorning person.
(12:31):
So if you constantly aretelling yourself you're not a
morning person and you'retelling other people you're not
a morning person, well guesswhat Waking up in the morning is
going to suck.
What if you just stop sayingthat?
What if you just got out of themindset of saying it and just
started believing that you canbe a morning person or you may
actually enjoy waking up beforethe rest of the world, because
there's so much value to havingthat time to yourself when
(12:53):
everyone else is sleeping.
And, like I said, I don'tnecessarily enjoy thinking about
getting up early, but I knowand it's so powerful knowing how
I feel the rest of the day whenI do wake up early that that's
how I get myself out of bed,because I've done it enough and
I've proven to myself that it'sbetter, I feel better, I can
tackle my day better when I wakeup early.
(13:14):
So there's not a lot ofpressure around it, but be
willing to try different thingsand get out of that mindset that
you're not a morning person,because what you consistently
tell yourself becomes reality.
Honestly, all right.
Number three start small, evenif it's five or 10 minutes
before everyone in your housewakes up.
So, like I said so many timesin so many other episodes,
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starting small is key.
If you know that waking upearly is just not your thing, or
you definitely don't believeit's your thing at this very
moment, try five minutes, try 10minutes.
Wherever you think you can do,wherever you think you can start
, start there and figure outsomething that makes you happy.
Maybe it is simply just takinga shower, without little tiny
(13:57):
humans knocking on the showerdoor or calling mom, because
that can be your sacred time too, just letting more water roll
down your body and having noother tiny humans trying to get
your attention, because I get it.
Or even just going to thebathroom.
I mean seriously just going tothe potty without somebody
saying mom, mom, or trying tocome in the bathroom, like what
(14:17):
is with these kids these days, Idon't know.
I digress.
Number four don't be afraid toask your spouse to do it with
you, because I cannot tell you,like I mentioned a few minutes
ago, that time in the morningwas so valuable to us, being
able to walk and talk andactually have that 45 minutes of
a routine together.
(14:38):
It was just like life-changing,honestly, and being able to
talk about our dreams and thingsthat we're looking forward to,
and just having that time tokind of talk about the day
before, kind of things that aregoing on in our lives that we
may not necessarily have beenable to either talk about,
because we would have forgottenthem by the time we got together
again.
But just having that time alonewith somebody else, even if
(14:59):
it's just 10 minutes withoutinterruption, can be so valuable
.
And how do you know that?
Maybe your spouse isn't cravingsomething like that too.
So it doesn't hurt to ask.
If you're having a hard timegetting up in the morning or
even thinking about the morningroutine, mention it to your
significant other and see ifthey'd be game to doing it with
you.
Whether it's, like I said, awalk, maybe it's just
significant other, and see ifthey'd be game to doing it with
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you.
Whether it's, you know, like Isaid, a walk, maybe it's just
brewing coffee and watchingbirds outside, I don't know.
Whatever it is that you guyscan do together.
That is a valuable time.
Maybe it's reading in silence.
You know, taking that time foryourselves and the quiet and the
stillness in the day so thatyou can really just have such a
healthy, good mental healthstart to your day is amazing.
(15:41):
Also, you can bond better bondwith your partner If that's
something that maybe you'restruggling with, if your
relationship is strugglingbecause kids and life is just
hectic and chaos, this candefinitely bring you guys closer
.
I know me and my husband justnot having a lot of time to
connect on a regular day.
It really gave us that time todo so.
Or maybe your spouse is cravingsome accountability on working
(16:02):
out and they don't know how toexpress it to you.
Maybe you can be the lead inthat.
Maybe you do go for a walk,maybe you challenge each other
with doing, like, some push-upsand burpees and high knees or
something for 10 minutes or fiveminutes.
You can find creative ways tokeep each other motivated too
during that time, which I love.
Ways to keep each othermotivated too during that time,
(16:23):
which I love.
All right.
And number five use the timethat you have wisely, where you
are not scrolling Facebook orInstagram right, you're not
putting those, like all thatsocial media stuff, into your
brain early in the morning.
Maybe not even watch the news,because the news can be flooded
with negativity too.
Really, using the time foryourself, for your own space,
for a space to build onsomething that's going to either
benefit you emotionally, yourmental health, educational,
(16:49):
whether you're going to bereading something that you
really have been interested infor a long time.
You know, really taking thattime so that you are benefiting
yourself in a positive way, sothat you are starting your day
in a really great place ratherthan before.
So the fifth and final thing,kind of to recap, that is, just
take note how you're waking upnow, how your day is starting
(17:09):
now and then how your day feelsversus if you take some time in
the morning for yourself, andhow the rest of your day, to the
end, feels, how it looks like.
Are you starting to feel likeless stress during the day?
Are you starting to make betteroverall health choices?
Are you starting to just have alittle extra pep in your step?
You know, really take note tothe things that you're doing and
(17:30):
hopefully you're seeing apositive change.
I'm really thinking that youwill, because a morning routine
can really be life-changing.
I truly believe that, and thisis coming from someone who
really worked against themselvesfor a really long time before
admitting that I needed aroutine in the morning and now
that I do it, I could notimagine my life without it, and
even the days that are kind ofthrown off because of life, I
(17:53):
don't feel as good.
I feel kind of off it's thebest way I can describe it is
just feeling off.
You get so used to your routineand not that you know when you
go on vacation and there's timesin your life where you're just
going to be off your routine.
But when there's something thatlike I don't wake up and I kind
of knew I should have, or thekids wake up abnormally, you do
feel off because your wholeroutine got thrown off.
(18:14):
So anytime you can take thattime for yourself in the morning
and having that real structuredmorning routine that's
consistent to you, whatever thatlooks like, I think it could be
completely life-changing to youand it can really help motivate
all the other health goals thatyou have.
So because I know this helps meso much, I really hope that it
helps you and if you have anyquestions or you need any help
(18:36):
with this, please reach out tome.
I would love to hear from myaudience and my email is
hotmessmomhealth at gmailcom.
Thank you so much and have ahappy Thanksgiving.
Thank you so much for tuning inand listening to this episode
of Hot Mess Mom Health.
If you love this episode,please leave me an iTunes review
.
It would mean the world to meand it would help me get the
(18:58):
word out about helping othermoms reclaim their health.
Thank you so much.
Hey there, welcome to the Hot Mess Mom Health Podcast
.
Do you wish you could find asustainable way to get healthy
and not feel overwhelmed in theprocess?
Do you find yourself up late atnight scouring Pinterest for
meal prep ideas and quickworkouts?
Do you wake up with big,ambitious goals only to feel
stressed out and disappointedwhen you fall back in your old
habits?
Drive to the Chick-fil-Adrive-thru for the second time
(00:25):
this week, all while the freshproduce you just bought goes bad
?
Hey, I'm Rebecca.
I too am a working mom of twolittles and self-proclaimed hot
mess mom.
All my life I've struggled withtrying to maintain a healthy
weight and feel good in my skin.
I could add yo-yo dieter to myresume.
After I packed on 50 pluspounds with two pregnancies, I
decided to change for good.
(00:46):
I wanted to stop obsessingabout food, stay consistent and
set a good, healthy example formy kids, but I kept telling
myself that I didn't have thetime, the energy or
accountability to stay on trackuntil I changed my mindset and
created one healthy habit at atime.
In this podcast, you will findsimple, actionable steps so you
can create a healthy lifestyleand get relief from the
(01:07):
overwhelm.
Spray that dry shampoo.
Grab your iced coffee, turn upthe volume and let's get healthy
.
Hey there, happy Monday andwelcome back to another episode
of Hot Mess Mom Health.
I cannot believe that we are inthe week of Thanksgiving already
.
It's so crazy and it is superfreezing in New Jersey.
(01:28):
In South Jersey it has gonefrom last Saturday wearing a
t-shirt and jeans outside tothis Sunday being at my son's
soccer game in a full parka,winter coat, scarves, hand
warmers in my gloves, freezingmy butt off.
So I don't know where you arein the world listening to this,
but if it's cold, I feel you, itstinks.
(01:48):
I do not like being cold andespecially the drastic changes
of weather.
I'm just not really down forthat.
There's no seasons anymore herein New Jersey.
It seems like it goes rightfrom summer straight into winter
and it stinks.
So anyway, we're in toThanksgiving week and something
that I've been thinking aboutlately is the morning routine
that I've kind of created and itkind of had me thinking about,
(02:11):
you know, about a year ago, whenI would just wake up, work out,
not really have a strictroutine, and how I was feeling
at that time versus how I feeltoday, and also during my
journey of 75 Hour with myhusband.
That really was kind of whatmade my morning routine what it
is now and all of the benefitsthat I've got from that I want
(02:34):
to share with you today.
And also just five little quickways that I think you can kind
of you know, put a morningroutine together or a way you
can strategize creating one foryourself to really make yourself
feel better throughout the day.
I think it's a really goodfoundation having some type of
morning routine and I'm notsaying your morning routine is
going to look like mine, butmaybe you can take some tips or
(02:55):
tricks from what I do.
Or you can say you know what.
That's definitely not what Iwant to do, but I would like to
do this.
But I think there's value to, asa busy working mom who is
probably not, probably doesn'thave much time for herself, if
you're listening to this andyou're trying to figure out what
on earth you're going to evenhave five minutes for yourself,
it may become the morning isyour only option, right?
And obviously I love sleep,like I value sleep so much.
(03:19):
But I also value my sanity andhaving my morning routine be my
kids waking me up and me rushingthem, rushing myself in the
shower, rushing out the doorwasn't serving me at all.
It was actually reallyaffecting my mental health and
my stress levels and just how mywhole day was going.
And I acknowledge that a longtime ago.
(03:40):
But, like I said, 75 hardreally forced me up against a
wall to say these are the thingsI have to do before I leave.
And I really was able to say Ienjoy these things way more than
I thought I ever would and itwas kind of eye opening to me
about just the beauty of amorning routine and how it sets
that foundation for your entireday and how it does that in a
(04:01):
really positive way.
Now I'm definitely going totell you I'm not a morning
person, but I have come toreally appreciate that time in
the morning that I have tomyself or that I have to just
have free space to think orspeak to my husband or just
without the interruption of theworkday and children, because,
let's face it, those thingscombined and those things
(04:22):
individually are stressfulenough.
Just trying to hear your ownthoughts during the day
sometimes are difficult.
So if you're anything like meand you've been thinking about a
morning routine, or maybeyou've dabbled in doing some
things and you're really lookingto elevate your morning routine
.
I hope this episode helps you.
So just to give you a little bitof idea what my morning routine
looks like most days, I wouldsay six out of seven days I
(04:43):
would say five to six out ofseven days.
Before I go to bed the nightbefore I put my workout clothes
on, I literally call out myworkout.
I say what I'm doing for themorning, I say what time I'm
going to wake up, and sometimesI'll say this to my husband
because I want to know whetherhe's waking up with me or not,
because having thataccountability in the morning is
pretty nice.
But if he's not working out, Istill put my workout clothes out
(05:06):
the night before and I mentallyeither look on my apps and pick
my workouts or I call out myworkouts.
I know exactly what I'm doing.
I already have everything setto go.
I decide whether I'm having teaor coffee, hot or iced All
these things that are kind ofplaying out in my head and I
wake up at 5 am.
(05:26):
That's my wake up time.
I try my hardest not to hitsnooze, because I try to Mel
Robbins my 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 way outof my bed if I'm feeling tired
and I go right into my bathroom,put my contacts in, go to the
bathroom and put my workoutclothes on and head right to the
basement.
That's something that, like Isaid, five to six days of the
(05:46):
week, that's definitely whathappens.
I try to give myself one day aweek to sleep in on the weekends
, depending upon the crazinessof our life.
But even the day I'm recordingthis Sunday, the night before
this goes out, because I don'thave my whole life together, I'm
still last minute on thispodcast and I did set my alarm
for six this morning instead offive.
I was like, okay, that's agreat compromise.
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Our life is going to be crazytoday, with soccer and just
trying to put Christmasdecorations out and knowing that
I still had to record thispodcast, so I wasn't gonna be
able to work out at night.
I basically said to myself allright, I'm going to sacrifice
sleeping in like I normallywould and I'm going to wake up
at six, give myself an extrahour, but I'm still going to
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have that hour from six to sevento do my workout, get a shower
and all that stuff, before thekids go in full force and before
we had to like kind of getgoing on our day.
So you know that's pretty muchmy morning routine.
Then I get in the shower, workout, get in the shower, then I
have my tea or coffee.
So my reward for getting up, Iguess, and working out is having
my morning tea or coffee, andthen I try to make it so that I
have about 10 to 15 minutes toread while I'm drinking my tea
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or coffee.
Doesn't always happen, but Ireally do value reading in the
morning and that's somethingthat was a big takeaway from me
from 75 hard, because typicallywhat I did was I tried to read
before I went to bed and I stilldo but I only get through like
a page before the books hit meright in the head because I'm
just tired and I need to go tosleep.
So if you're anything like me,where you really like to read
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but it's not working for you atnight, try reading in the
morning, even if working out'snot going to happen in the
morning, you have no desire todo that and you really just want
10 minutes to yourself.
Say, maybe I'm going to try toread with a cup of coffee, just
so you can have that mental timeto do something that you want
to do that's a calming space.
Maybe it's meditation, maybeit's just sitting in front of a
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red light, maybe it's walking,whatever it could be for,
whatever it looks like for you,but something that brings your
mind into just a calm space.
I try my hardest during thiswhole morning to not look at my
phone too much, because you canget really roped into the day
that way and you can really getthat high stress kicked off
right away.
It's hard, don't get me wrong,but if I'm able to, I try my
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hardest not to look at my phoneunless it's to set my Peloton
app for like a walk outside orsomething or something to do
with my workout or my aura ringfrom the night before.
But I try not to open up socialmedia, not to open up work
emails, not to check my regularemails, just to kind of stay in
the zone of like this is my time, I'm going to own it and this
is like sacred to me, you know.
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So, with all that being said,by the time five o'clock I'm
waking up.
By the time we get the kids up,it's between seven and 715.
So I have like a good two hoursalmost where the world's not
requiring me to do something forthem, right Like there's two
hours where I can get a showerin peace, I can blow dry my hair
, I can read, I can have a cupof tea or coffee, I can work out
if I want, I can meditate if Iwant.
So I just value that time somuch.
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And, like I said, with 75 hard,it forces you to do stuff before
you leave the door becausethere's almost no time you can
do it all in your day, so if youdon't do some of it beforehand,
so you know, a morning routinesuch as walking with my husband
in the morning was somethingthat we did every day for 75
days and I didn't you know atthe time it was like, oh my gosh
, like we have to work out thenthen we have to work out again
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and it seemed like such atedious thing.
But we actually reallythoroughly enjoyed our morning
workouts together, our morningwalks, because it was always
just a walk.
We did our 75 hard through thesummer month.
So it was nice weather, it wassuper, like there's a good low
humidity.
The sun was like not really upyet, so it's pretty dark, the
world's quiet at that time andit allowed us time to actually
talk to each other without kidsinterrupting, without the day to
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day chaos and without us bothbeing exhausted, because it
really was a great way to wakeup, hit the day with whatever
thoughts you're thinking,whatever happened the day before
, being able to talk to yoursignificant other without just
the pressure of all the otherstuff going on at the same time.
And, honestly, I really missthat.
I cannot wait till the summeror the spring so we can start
doing it again, because there'sone thing that I'm not, and it's
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I'm not a lover of cold weatherand I'm not going to be at 5am
bundling up in a park and ascarf and all this jazz to go
outside.
It's just not going to happen.
Um, as much as I love that walk, it's just not going to happen.
So, um, something that I'mlooking forward to doing in the
warmer months, for sure.
But so you know all that to say.
You know, waking up early isnot easy, but there's no
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pressure on you, don't have towake up two hours before you
have to walk out the door.
You don't have to wake up anhour.
Even if it's just something assmall as 10 minutes, it could
really help you.
And again, I'm all aboutstarting things small.
So if you know that right nowall you're capable of doing is
waking up 10 minutes early, thenset your alarm tomorrow for 10
minutes early.
5, 4, 3, 2, 1, your way.
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As Mel Robbins would say up 10minutes early and give yourself
that time, even if it's just the10 minutes to sit there and
read a book, even if it's just10 minutes to sit in silence in
a room with a cup of warm tea.
Maybe you want to journal, likeI said.
Maybe you want to meditate,whatever that looks like for you
.
Start somewhere with a goodmorning routine, take one to two
things and then build upon it.
Maybe eventually you do want towork out, but right now you're
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like let me see if I can tacklethe 10 minutes, let me see if I
can do that consistently andprove to myself that I'm going
to do this and that I feelbetter when I do this, and then
add on another 10 minutes andsee what you can do in those 10
minutes.
Maybe it's that you want to adda gratitude journal to it.
Maybe you want to meditate.
Maybe you want to take a 10minute walk.
Maybe that's all you can doright now.
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Try that and then take noticeto how you feel.
So I kind of put together fivethings that, if you know, I was
starting out with a morningroutine kind of where I would go
with all of this.
So first off, I would say,figure out what works for you.
Like I said, maybe it's notworking out.
Maybe you know you'd like towork out in the afternoon or
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you'd like to work out at night.
Maybe it's simply just havingthat cup of coffee or tea and
just having a moment of silencebefore all hell breaks loose in
your house.
I totally get it.
Maybe it's adding the readingto it, maybe it's adding
listening to a podcast, whateverit is that you could own that
time.
Figure out what works for you,like what would give you that
space in the morning to feellike you had something of your
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own today, you know, because Itotally get that feeling where
it feels like everyone'sconstantly taking all of your
time every second of the day.
So figure out what might workfor you, whether it's walking,
reading, meditating, journaling,whatever it is.
Try to figure it out.
Number two be willing to trydifferent things and get out of
the mindset that you're not amorning person.
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So if you constantly aretelling yourself you're not a
morning person and you'retelling other people you're not
a morning person, well guesswhat Waking up in the morning is
going to suck.
What if you just stop sayingthat?
What if you just got out of themindset of saying it and just
started believing that you canbe a morning person or you may
actually enjoy waking up beforethe rest of the world, because
there's so much value to havingthat time to yourself when
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everyone else is sleeping.
And, like I said, I don'tnecessarily enjoy thinking about
getting up early, but I knowand it's so powerful knowing how
I feel the rest of the day whenI do wake up early that that's
how I get myself out of bed,because I've done it enough and
I've proven to myself that it'sbetter, I feel better, I can
tackle my day better when I wakeup early.
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So there's not a lot ofpressure around it, but be
willing to try different thingsand get out of that mindset that
you're not a morning person,because what you consistently
tell yourself becomes reality.
Honestly, all right.
Number three start small, evenif it's five or 10 minutes
before everyone in your housewakes up.
So, like I said so many timesin so many other episodes,
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starting small is key.
If you know that waking upearly is just not your thing, or
you definitely don't believeit's your thing at this very
moment, try five minutes, try 10minutes.
Wherever you think you can do,wherever you think you can start
, start there and figure outsomething that makes you happy.
Maybe it is simply just takinga shower, without little tiny
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humans knocking on the showerdoor or calling mom, because
that can be your sacred time too, just letting more water roll
down your body and having noother tiny humans trying to get
your attention, because I get it.
Or even just going to thebathroom.
I mean seriously just going tothe potty without somebody
saying mom, mom, or trying tocome in the bathroom, like what
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is with these kids these days, Idon't know.
I digress.
Number four don't be afraid toask your spouse to do it with
you, because I cannot tell you,like I mentioned a few minutes
ago, that time in the morningwas so valuable to us, being
able to walk and talk andactually have that 45 minutes of
a routine together.
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It was just like life-changing,honestly, and being able to
talk about our dreams and thingsthat we're looking forward to,
and just having that time tokind of talk about the day
before, kind of things that aregoing on in our lives that we
may not necessarily have beenable to either talk about,
because we would have forgottenthem by the time we got together
again.
But just having that time alonewith somebody else, even if
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it's just 10 minutes withoutinterruption, can be so valuable
.
And how do you know that?
Maybe your spouse isn't cravingsomething like that too.
So it doesn't hurt to ask.
If you're having a hard timegetting up in the morning or
even thinking about the morningroutine, mention it to your
significant other and see ifthey'd be game to doing it with
you.
Whether it's, like I said, awalk, maybe it's just
significant other, and see ifthey'd be game to doing it with
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you.
Whether it's, you know, like Isaid, a walk, maybe it's just
brewing coffee and watchingbirds outside, I don't know.
Whatever it is that you guyscan do together.
That is a valuable time.
Maybe it's reading in silence.
You know, taking that time foryourselves and the quiet and the
stillness in the day so thatyou can really just have such a
healthy, good mental healthstart to your day is amazing.
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Also, you can bond better bondwith your partner If that's
something that maybe you'restruggling with, if your
relationship is strugglingbecause kids and life is just
hectic and chaos, this candefinitely bring you guys closer
.
I know me and my husband justnot having a lot of time to
connect on a regular day.
It really gave us that time todo so.
Or maybe your spouse is cravingsome accountability on working
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out and they don't know how toexpress it to you.
Maybe you can be the lead inthat.
Maybe you do go for a walk,maybe you challenge each other
with doing, like, some push-upsand burpees and high knees or
something for 10 minutes or fiveminutes.
You can find creative ways tokeep each other motivated too
during that time, which I love.
Ways to keep each othermotivated too during that time,
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which I love.
All right.
And number five use the timethat you have wisely, where you
are not scrolling Facebook orInstagram right, you're not
putting those, like all thatsocial media stuff, into your
brain early in the morning.
Maybe not even watch the news,because the news can be flooded
with negativity too.
Really, using the time foryourself, for your own space,
for a space to build onsomething that's going to either
benefit you emotionally, yourmental health, educational,
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whether you're going to bereading something that you
really have been interested infor a long time.
You know, really taking thattime so that you are benefiting
yourself in a positive way, sothat you are starting your day
in a really great place ratherthan before.
So the fifth and final thing,kind of to recap, that is, just
take note how you're waking upnow, how your day is starting
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now and then how your day feelsversus if you take some time in
the morning for yourself, andhow the rest of your day, to the
end, feels, how it looks like.
Are you starting to feel likeless stress during the day?
Are you starting to make betteroverall health choices?
Are you starting to just have alittle extra pep in your step?
You know, really take note tothe things that you're doing and
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hopefully you're seeing apositive change.
I'm really thinking that youwill, because a morning routine
can really be life-changing.
I truly believe that, and thisis coming from someone who
really worked against themselvesfor a really long time before
admitting that I needed aroutine in the morning and now
that I do it, I could notimagine my life without it, and
even the days that are kind ofthrown off because of life, I
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don't feel as good.
I feel kind of off it's thebest way I can describe it is
just feeling off.
You get so used to your routineand not that you know when you
go on vacation and there's timesin your life where you're just
going to be off your routine.
But when there's something thatlike I don't wake up and I kind
of knew I should have, or thekids wake up abnormally, you do
feel off because your wholeroutine got thrown off.
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So anytime you can take thattime for yourself in the morning
and having that real structuredmorning routine that's
consistent to you, whatever thatlooks like, I think it could be
completely life-changing to youand it can really help motivate
all the other health goals thatyou have.
So because I know this helps meso much, I really hope that it
helps you and if you have anyquestions or you need any help
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with this, please reach out tome.
I would love to hear from myaudience and my email is
hotmessmomhealth at gmailcom.
Thank you so much and have ahappy Thanksgiving.
Thank you so much for tuning inand listening to this episode
of Hot Mess Mom Health.
If you love this episode,please leave me an iTunes review
.
It would mean the world to meand it would help me get the
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word out about helping othermoms reclaim their health.
Thank you so much.
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