Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships

Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships

Are you struggling to move on from the heartbreak of a narcissistic relationship? Is your self-esteem at level zero with your sanity feeling shaky trying to figure out if you're crazy and if any of it was real? Heartbreak to Wholeness is your go-to guide for healing from the chaos and confusion of narcissistic relationships (and narcissistic abuse) so you can become a secure, confident woman who loves herself again. Host Bre Wolta, Relationship Clarity Coach and EFT Practitioner, understands firsthand the nuance and pain of rebuilding herself after a mindf*ck of a toxic relationship. Every Wednesday, grab a cup of tea as she reveals how to…
 * Get through your grief and end your pain * Move past your I’ll-be-alone-forever fears/anxieties * Rebuild your self-worth (so you’ll never get sucked into narcissistic relationships again) You’ll hear from empathetic women who’ve moved from confusion to confidence, showing you the way, and you'll get drops of actionable wisdom from Bre herself, so you can put into motion all the self-help you've been doing. At the end of each episode, we also pull an oracle card which will help you practice trusting your intuition again. First time here? I got you. Check out our fan-favorite episode #47. Was Any Of It Real? Signs You've Been Deceived In A Narcissistic Relationship & How To Finally Understand It With Hilary Buckwalter-Wilde (Part 1) https://pod.fo/e/277854

Episodes

October 1, 2025 19 mins

Have you looked in the mirror after a relationship ended and actually didn’t recognize yourself anymore?

When you’ve been consumed by someone else’s needs, opinions, and control, it’s easy to lose sight of who you are. This episode dives into why recovery feels impossible after losing yourself in a narcissistic relationship, and the shift that will help you find your way back.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

  • The hidden ways iden...
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Have you ever caught yourself missing your narcissistic ex—even while knowing he manipulated, belittled, and broke you down—and thought, “What is wrong with me?”

If you’ve felt ashamed or confused about longing for someone who hurt you, you are not alone. That pull isn’t proof you’re weak or broken; it’s a human response to the cycle of abuse. 

In this episode, you’ll discover:

  • The 3 reasons you miss your ex despite how ...
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What do you do when the sadness and anger feel endless, and no matter what you try, nothing makes it stop?

Emotional overwhelm can make you feel stuck, disconnected, and hopeless—but it doesn’t have to be permanent.

In this episode, you’ll discover how to:

  • Understand why your sadness and anger keep coming back, no matter what you try
  • Break free from the self-blame and shame that deepen emotional pain.
  • Learn the first steps toward sa...
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Have you ever found yourself swept up in the obsessive highs of a new relationship, only to crash into confusion and self-doubt?

This episode explores the difference between the addictive rush that can keep you stuck in unhealthy relationships and the steady, secure feelings of genuine attraction.

By listening, you’ll discover:

  • How to tell the difference between healthy chemistry vs. toxic attraction
  • Why early attachment wounds can...
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Have you ever wondered if you’ll ever be able to trust again after betrayal — especially when right now, you can’t even trust yourself?

Betrayal can leave you feeling like you’re drowning in doubt, hypervigilance, and shame — convinced that you’ll either pick the wrong person again or keep missing the red flags. 

So in this episode you will discover:

  • The reason we overlook red flags instead of act on them
  • What you actually nee...
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What do you do when the person you thought was your soulmate reveals a side of themselves you never saw coming?

The hardest part of healing from a narcissistic relationship isn’t just leaving, it’s reconciling the loving, attentive person you fell for with the controlling, dismissive, or cruel partner they became.

In this episode, you will discover:

  • The survival mechanisms that keep you holding onto hope
  • How to grieve someone who’s...
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Have you gone back to someone who’s hurt you even when you swore it was the last time?

If you've ever felt like you're stuck in a loop of breaking no-contact, unblocking him at 3 a.m., or restarting a relationship you know is toxic, it’s time to understand what's really going on in your brain and body.

In this episode, you'll discover:

  • Why no-contact keeps failing (it’s not just willpower)
  • The brain chemistry behind why he feels li...
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Have you ever stayed in a relationship far too long because you believed your love, support, or patience could save or fix him?

If you’ve felt emotionally trapped in a relationship with a narcissist, convinced that with just the right therapist, one more book, or enough compassion, you could help him change—this episode is for you.

In this episode you will discover:

  • The one mindset shift that can finally set you free from try...
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Have you pulled away from friends who stopped showing up because you “always went back,” or you’ve convinced yourself it's safer to just figure out the pain of your relationship alone?

This conversation is for you if you’re silently suffering and craving connection but don’t know how to reach for it anymore.

In this episode, you’ll uncover:

  • How narcissistic abuse leads to painful isolation that’s hard to explain
  • The real reason you...
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Is your ex still taking up a ton of space in your head even though it’s over and you know the relationship was toxic?

This episode breaks down why those thoughts keep coming up and what they’re actually trying to tell you about your healing process.

In this episode you will:

  • Discover what’s really behind the urge to check your ex’s social media—and how to shift that energy back to your own healing
  • Learn how to b...
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Have you been obsessively racking your brain wondering how someone who claimed to love you could also lie, manipulate, and hurt you?

In this episode, I speak directly to the part of you that’s still trying to make it make sense.

In this episode you will:

  • Understand the surprising reason why you feel so stuck—and what to focus on to truly start healing
  • Discover what is draining your energy and mirroring the same dynamic that ke...
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Have you been trying to figure out if this relationship is right for you (and if you should stay) only to end up more confused and anxious?

If you've been in a relationship and noticing that you are second-guessing and deeply unsure of your own feelings, this episode offers a compassionate path back to yourself.

In this episode you will..

  • Understand the critical thing you need before you can clearly answer: “Is this relations...
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Does it ever confuse you that the most toxic relationship you’ve had also gave you the most intense, unforgettable sex of your life?

If you’ve felt torn between missing that high and knowing it wasn’t healthy, you’re not alone. This episode unpacks why that sexual connection felt so powerful—and how scary that level of manipulation can be.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

  • Why the most intoxicating sex of your life wasn’t really a...
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Are you post-relationship realizing that you don’t even recognize yourself anymore?

When you’ve spent so long making someone else comfortable, shrinking your needs, and questioning your own preferences, it can feel like you’re drifting alone in open water—disconnected from who you are.

In this episode, we’re exploring what really happens when your sense of self slowly gets swallowed up inside a narcissistic relationship.

In this episo...

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Is everyone around you soaking up summer fun while you’re just trying to get through the day?

If summer’s golden glow feels more like a harsh spotlight on your loneliness after getting out of a narcissistic relationship, you are so not alone and this episode will help you relieve the pressure to be sunny and social even when your heart is healing.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • 5 real ways (with zero toxic positivity) to...
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Have you ever asked yourself, “Why can’t I let go of someone who’s clearly hurting me?”

If you’ve been caught in the emotional highs and lows of a toxic or narcissistic relationship and felt too confused, ashamed, or overwhelmed to explain what was really happening, this episode is for you.

In this episode you will:

  • Understand what a trauma bond feels like and how its different than love
  • Be able to name the three red-flag 🚩 f...
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Have you ever been called "selfish" for setting a boundary, asking for space, or putting yourself first—and then spiraled into wondering if you’re the narcissist?

This episode helps you untangle the guilt from the growth—so you can stop confusing healthy self-focus with toxic behavior.

In this episode you will:

  • Learn the key differences between selfishness and narcissism so you can stop second-guessing yourself
  • Learn how to redisco...
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How do you heal when the person you trusted most didn’t just lie to you — they distorted your entire reality?

If you’ve been in a relationship with a narcissist, you know the pain is not just heartbreak, it’s betrayal at the deepest level. This episode explores why their lies cut so deep and why healing from their manipulation feels like a mindf*ck.

In this episode, you’ll gain:

  • A clear understanding of why narcissists use decepti...
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You’ve read the books. Listened to the podcasts. Googled everything about narcissists and betrayal. So why does it still hurt so damn much?

In this episode, I’m sharing a real story from a client session that cracked something wide open—not just about heartbreak, but about where healing actually begins.

In this episode you will:

  • Discover the real reason you’re still crying months later over your ex’s betrayal
  • Un...
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If you've ever found yourself stuck in a cycle of highs and lows with someone who keeps hurting you, you're not weak or crazy—you’re human.

This episode will help you understand why your heart keeps reaching for the person who broke it—and how to start untangling from that pull without shame.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

  • The real reason narcissistic relationships feel like an addiction, especially when trauma is involved
  • Why i...
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