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Straw Hut Media. Hey, everybodyon heartbreakers today, I'm going to be
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answering some friendship deal breakers. Obviously, I'm going to put my personal input
on this because you know, Ihave a bad history of friends. So
I hope this is really helpful foryou guys. So listen up. And
these are questions that you guys haveasked on social media, which is very
helpful. So next run with questions. I really want you guys to really
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think of stuff that you've been wantingto ask, and I'll post it.
You guys can click right there andask your questions. All right, what
are some deal breakers? Some saydisrespecting service stack big one. I feel
like that is the number one thing. I will not be around people if
they are disrespectful to any type ofservice people whatsoever. I think that is
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disgusting behavior. I don't want tobe around that. I also feel like
people who purposely complain at restaurants abouttheir dishes twenty four to seven, Like,
have you ever got out with someoneand they're always complaining, They're never
happy? Deal breaker for me.I will not be their friend. It's
a turn off. Nobody wants tobe around a negative Nancy when your best
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friend hides something from me, regardlessof what it is. Hmmm. I
feel like if one of my friendshides something from me and it's about me,
that's a deal breaker. But ifsomeone doesn't want to tell me what's
going on in their life, that'sup to them to expose that to me.
I don't want anybody telling me thingsthat they don't want me to know.
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And some people are more private thanothers. Some people find embarrassment and
things that maybe not be embarrassing foryou unless it's about me. I don't
feel like that's really a deal breaker. It's also some people are too nosy.
You don't need to know everything that'sgoing on in your friend's life.
I feel like this day and agewhere a little bit we invade people's privacy
too much, and we got tostop doing that. I think that comes
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from social media. Jealous of anew romantic relationship, cut it off,
don't even have a conversation with theperson. Your friends should never be jealous
of anything that is good for you. That is not a friend, not
someone that you want around. Iknow that I've had friends that have been
very jealous, and they become verydestructive and I feel like jealous people are
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looking to steal an opportunity from you, and you want to keep that away
from them. Someone that is jealouspotentially could want to steal that person from
you, and you don't want thatand you don't want to deal with it.
When you're in a fresh relationship,you want it to be all like
happy like you know, you wantyour friends to be cheering you on and
being there for maybe when the relationshippossibly could end. You want that person
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there. You don't want it tobecome a dark energy source from you from
your friends being jealous. You don'twant that. Cut that person off.
It's not even worth having a conversation. They won't hear it. Jealous people
can't hear. Those people can't hearSorry. Sleeping with your ex or your
current partner, guys, come on, that is a deal breaker. You
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guys know how it is for me. I've had a lot of friends try
to sleep with my partners while I'mwith them. I've also had a lot
of friends sleep with my exes.You don't want somebody in your circle that
wants somebody that you've had, andespecially if it's an ex, that means
that they probably most likely did somethingto you that you don't agree with.
And just like how you don't wanta friend who's a friend of someone that's
done something terrible to you, itreally shows who they are. I've had
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a lot of friends sleep with myexes. I just don't like that.
Like if I even feel like Ilike someone, or I'm saying I'm going
on on a date with someone andmaybe I haven't even been intimate with that
person, I feel like that personis off the table for my friends.
I don't care. You cannot touchthat person, you cannot reach out to
that person. That is like adifferent level of dishonesty. And that's on
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your partner too. It's one thingif it's a threesome and you guys are
all having a conversation and like drinksare flowing and like it's a mutual agreement.
Fine, I've done that plenty oftimes. It's been great experiences.
I don't see my friends any differentlyby doing that. But I would never
accept a friend then reaching out tomy partner and going behind my back.
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You gotta cut that person off holdingan emotional space for them when they won't
do that for you. Yeah,one sided friendships are not good. They're
hard to cut off. Also,they're exhausting. Your friends are there for
you because you need them to bethere emotionally, and that's what friends are
for, and it can't be onesited. It's got to be like if
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they come to you and they can'teven ask you how you're doing, or
they can't even hear what you're goingthrough, that is someone that is very
selfish and honestly potentially narcissistic. I'vedefinitely had that. I've definitely this year
really cleaned up my friend groups thathave been like that towards me, because
you need that safety net, youneed that support system from people. You
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can't keep that around you at all. It's sad. They got to learn,
they got to learn that they can'tbe like that, and the only
way they can is by losing friends. Okay, believing in conspiracy theories.
I stopped talking to one of myfriends because he believed in weird shit after
the lockdowns. Yeah, I tryto really stay away from conspiracy theories and
also like politics with friends. Ifeel like some people think that that's important
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for me, it's not. Ialso try to like not force my religious
views on people, like those arethe two things where it's like conspiracy or
three things conspiracy theories, religious andpolitic views. I was always taught growing
up that like conspiracy theories and stufflike that is like almost like a private
thing. But I understand that itcan get very annoying, especially in the
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pandemic, because there was so manyconspiracy theories that people really thought that they
need to devoice their opinion. Andpeople just don't have the same opinions.
They don't want to hear it thatyou can't convince them. They'll find any
type of evidence or facts to backit up. It's just not worth fighting
over. Okay, this is agood one. This is actually a really
good question, guys, because Ifeel like this happens a lot to people
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more than you think. If youhad the opportunity to meet someone that you
thought you could only meet in yourdreams and you had the chance to meet
them in real life, how wouldyou stay calm and not be nervous?
Okay, guys, my favorite thingto do, and my therapist taught me
this is if you breathe in andyou hold your breast to say you breathe
in for eight seconds and you'll exhalesixteen. It really calms down your nervous
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system, like it really really does. You can even like this is some
like emdr shit and like therapy stuff, but like if you're by yourself,
like tapping yourself like this and eventapping yourself on your face actually really calms
you down and distracts you. AndI love to do that in any situation
that I'm nervous when I'm going upto a guy, I just breathe in,
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hold my breath for eight seconds,exhale for sixteen, and it really
calms me down. And I alsotry to tell myself, I know this
person is like my dream person,my ideal person, but if I really
want them, I got to calmmyself down. And people can sense nervousness
and you got to just take asecond to yourself before you go up to
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them. Don't rush up to them. If you're feeling nervous, go to
the bathroom, calm yourself down,get some fresh air, breathe in and
out slowly, calm yourself down.Convince yourself that you're confident, not convince
yourself. Tell yourself you're confident enoughto go up to this person and meet
them and talk to them because thisis your ideal person. You don't want
to miss your opportunity. Don't putthat pressure on yourself. It's not worth
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it. All right, Heartbreakers,thanks for listening, See you guys next
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