July 16, 2024 • 23 mins
Hey, Heartbreakers! We all have amazing stories of parties, vacations, and heartfelt surprises. Today Elsa is going to share some of her favorite stories from partying with professional athletes looks like to the time that she used a str**p-on on her cheating ex-husband. Later, she’s going to give us the answers to her social media questions!
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Straw Hut Media.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Hey, Heartbreakers, So this is another story Time special. My
producers came up with some questions that lead to very
interesting stories of course, and then after that I'm going
to answer some fan questions, so stay tuned. So question
(00:42):
number one, what is the worst and best party you've
been to? Honestly, any party for a rapper is trash.
Oh you know what. Okay, So I've never really been
to these parties, but when athletes are traveling, they have
like these little parties in their hotel rooms that where
the wives and girlfriends don't see. And then they'll make
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the girls put the phone in like a basket, so
like the girls can't record and tell the wives of
the girlfriends. Unfortunately, and fortunately I've never been to them,
but I would say that that would totally, hands down
be like the worst party story, even though that wasn't
the question. And who knows what goes on. There also
company parties like these these companies that are like, okay,
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it's art Basle or it's you know, swim week. I
don't know. They just always think that it's a good
idea to throw a party, and nobody goes to parties anymore.
They're so boring. They're so boring. When you see me
at them, just know that I'm bored. Okay, next question,
the worst way a friend has betrayed me? Well, obviously,
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I've had a friend I've talked about it before that
slept with my favorite like hookup male friend that I
had for seven years. That was actually really heartbreaking for
me because I couldn't look at him the same I
talked about it before, but he didn't know that it
was my friend. Blah blah blah blah blah. It is
what it is. Yeah, that was very upsetting for me
because I lost my number one hookup that I was
really comfortable with. And then I had a friend that
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stole my favorite butterfly necklace. But I know she did
it because I put it in a very specific spot
that only she saw that literally nobody would find. Yeah,
she stole my favorite butterfly necklace. Just so you know.
I know, Okay, because I know she listens to this stuff. Okay.
The best or most petty revenge you've ever gotten before?
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One time, one time I was getting divorced and the
guy wouldn't sign the papers, so I sent him. He
lived in a different country and I sent him this paperwork.
I served him, and this was really messed up for
me to do. But I was only like nineteen, and
I really wanted to get divorced, but I wanted it
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to be annulled. Actually, that's what I was trying to
do at first. So I served him with the papers.
I put in the papers that we never consummated the
marriage because I always had to choose this strap on
and so it technically doesn't count as consummating the marriage,
so I could get the annulment, because that's one way
that you're able to get an annulment is if you
never consummated your marriage. And so then he texted and
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he was like, you think you're funny. You think you're funny,
But yeah, I guess that would be like a little
bit of some revenge just to embarrass someone. I kind
of feel bad now saying that out loud, that I
did that. Whatever, the best drama you've got to witness,
but not be a part of hum. There was a
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celebrity singer whatever he used to sleep with all of
the girls in the industry, not me, Just to clarify,
a handful of them. He gave them all. I think
it was gonar Villa, and he infected the whole industry
because it goes so cool when one person gets it,
and it's not so imagine like five people having it.
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We almost had to shut down, Like goner hea got
so bad that we almost went into a moratorium just
to clean it up. I wish I could drop his name, sicko.
Top three things you've crossed off your bucket list? You know,
I really wanted to do skydiving, and I did that
last year, like a year and a half ago, and
it was so scary and not worth it. I'm not
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gonna lie. It was outside of my comfort level for sure.
I was really crying. Once you get up in the air,
they don't let you stay on the plane, by the way,
so you have to jump. At least that's where I went.
They told me I had to jump. It felt honestly
like suicidal for me, Like once I got up there
was like, I don't want to do this anymore. And
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then another one is I just actually shot the cover
up in Style magazine and that comes out in a
couple of weeks, maybe a couple of months, And yeah,
that was one of my big bucket list things this year,
was that specific magazine and I worked very hard to
get it because of my you know, my past. It's
not that easy crossing over to mainstream. And then I
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guess I sold this house. But I bought a house
last year, and that's all I ever wanted in life
was to have like a house that I owned. Even though,
like I said, I sold it, I still am checking
it off of my bucket list. And maybe I'll put
it back on there and to rebuy another home in
a different state. But yeah, best and worst surprise you've
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ever gotten. My best And this is going to make
me sound materialistic, but one time, this old man surprised
me with a purple Ostrich Burgen. I told him, like
as a joke. I was like, I wanted this very
specific purple that I knew was really hard to find it.
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He found that that same day and brought it to
me the next day, and I still have the bag today.
I barely I love that bag. The worst surprise maybe,
like I wanted to say, accidentally getting practiced, like the
worst surprise ever, Like literally it's the worst. I don't know,
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worst surprise would be when you get cheated on. That's
like the worst surprise, is it? Supposed to be someone
like wanting to do something nice and then you don't
like it. Is that the question or just like you're
shocked in general, because I'm definitely gonna say being cheated
on on Valentine's Day that was my Valentine's say president
one year. Okay, Next, one weirdest travel experience in the
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US or abroad. You know, my real name actually got
leaked because I was in Malaysia and I was in
the airport and one of the staff members came up
and was like, can I check your passport? And I
was like okay, but I hadn't even checked my bag yet.
They took a photo of it on their phone and
I was like, that's interesting that that guy did that,
but again I'm in a foreign country. Later that night,
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the guy DMed me and was like I was the
one that checked your passport at the airport, blah blah blah,
sent me a photo of my passport and I was like, okay,
so now my identity is stolen. Good. That was the
weirdest thing that was in Malaysia. And then for the US,
I got kicked out of a hotel once in Philadelphia
because my ex husband kept calling he would stock every
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single place that I would travel to, and he would
stalk me and he would call each place and tell
them just like horrific lies that I was doing in
the room. And I used to feature dance just to clarify.
And I got kicked out of the hotel. They called me.
The security was like, you gotta go right now. I
don't know what he told them. I never asked. I
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was just too scared. And yeah, that was that was
probably the worst. But I just ended up writing the
train to New York instead, which is way better. Something
you can't live without red oh, I love red Bull.
I love Red Bull. I drink it every day, which
I shouldn't. And again my religious background, I cannot live
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without some type of like religion or like spiritual connection.
It really like going back to my cover for in Style,
I actually really prayed hard for that for a couple
of months, and it's crazy that the opportunity just like
you know, fell into my lap. Honestly, someone just offered
it to me and I ended up doing it. And yeah,
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I mean those are two things in my head. Tachi,
which I ryan knows what that is. You don't what
a hatachi is. Okay, oh yeah, because I'm obsessed. Yep.
So those are my three things. Okay, guys, So I
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actually reached out on my Instagram. I wanted to try
something new. Typically I do it on Twitter, but I
wanted to ask two questions that for me are important.
One of them is what's your biggest dick that prevents
you from wanting to further into a relationship with someone.
Somebody said clingy and over attached needed to know where
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someone is at all time, getting upset if someone doesn't
message back immediately or one hundred times throughout the day.
That is an ick for me that really turns me off.
I'm someone that's very busy all the time, and I
don't want to have to report back to someone, especially
when I'm not doing anything wrong. It really feels clingy
to me. I've had relationships in the past where I've
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ignored that and played too much into it, and it
feels way too possessive for me, way way way too possessive.
So I really agree with that. Someone also said her
inability to disassociate herself with her toxic co workers and
how much they really influence her actions and behaviors. That's
an dick for me. Also, I'm gonna also say friendships
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not just co workers. I don't like when I meet
a guy and all of his friends are bad people,
because why are you associated with people that aren't good?
Another thing is like why are you allowing people to
influence your actions and behaviors? That is a red flag
because you don't have an identity. If you're just taking
on everybody else's opinions, I really nah no. The next
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one is when you act super arrogant, like you're hot shit,
think you're rich, look down on people who aren't as fortunate.
Success takes hard work, but you got to tone a
mother effort down a bit. It be humble. Yeah, I
am very turned off and it does give me the
ick when someone shows off too much. I love a
humble guy. I love someone where you don't know that
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they're wealthy, and then when you later get to know them,
they they're wealthy, and I think that that's really powerful
in itself. I can't stand that. It just makes it
seem like they don't really have the money when they
act like that, or they just don't know how to,
you know, save, And that's an ick for me. Someone
that doesn't know how to save another ick for me,
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and I know I'm going to kind of like get
in trouble for this one. But I don't like when
I'm trying to date someone or I'm thinking about dating
them and they have children. That's not an ick is
the children part. But I don't like when the guy
provides fully for the mother. I think it's okay to
provide for the child and give a certain amount, but
if you're funding the mother's life, like everything, her car,
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her house, so she doesn't have to work at all,
it gives me such an ick because then when you
have a significant other that wants to come in, the
mother of the child feels like she has some type
of control, and she also feels threatened because she feels
like it's going to take away the income from her.
And I feel like there should just be a standard.
This is what a child costs, this is how much
the child needs, this is the child's lifestyle. But you
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do not need to be funding the mother's lifestyle. Also,
I don't like that. I hate that. I hate yeah,
never really, I'm just like such a soft every leg whatever.
It just bothers me so much when females get pregnant
on purpose to try to have an income from someone.
I don't think that children are meant to be brought
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into the world so you can live off of them.
It really really bothers me. That's what I mean by that. Okay,
so should I read Actually the icks that were on
my phone have some more? Oh, my friend's mom answered one.
So I'm gonna say what hurts is people that are
miserable in general, like nothing makes them happy, doesn't matter
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if they have love in their life, doesn't matter if
they have money. They're just miserable. So just negative people.
I agree. My friend said bad hygiene. Yes, I feel
like if you went and did an activity where like
you have no choice but to like be sweaty and smelly,
that's one thing. Or if you eat something and it
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makes your breath steak a little bit, I could understand that,
But like if you have chronic bad breath or like
chronic you know, staky pits, I don't like that. I
don't like that. I think it's disrespectful. Gross feet. I
think dirty feet. You can't control what your feet look like,
and a lot of people have ugly feet, So that
sounds a little harsh, But like if you're if you
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get in bed and the person's feet are dirty, that's
really not right, you know, when the bottom is like
black and then yeah no, okay, let me scroll a
little bit more. Oh, someone who doesn't feel inspired or
isn't ambitious, that is an ick. Basically a lazy person.
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I agree with that. You gotta like have some type
of motivation. Sorry, I shouldn't laugh at this, but someone says,
sending fifty thousand dollars to a fake Elsagene account, that's sad.
I hope that didn't actually happen. I hope that really
didn't happen. I am verified on all of my stuff, Like,
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I don't know what else to do, and I never
asked people for money. It's been ten years. Okay, some
of these people are just a little bit hair implants.
That's messed up. I think that's messed up to say
some people have no choice but to get hair implants. Eyeboogory.
Somebody said it's an ick for them. These people are, man,
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it's harsh. It's harsh in this world people that use
the word ick. Okay, fine, I don't know what else
you want me to say. Yeah, a lot of people
about hygiene, smacking their mouths when they're eating. Yeah, I
actually have to like get up and walk, like get
out of the room. If I could hear someone chewing
really loud, it makes me like really angry. It's there's
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actually like a word for it. When you can't stand
someone chewing a lot about hygiene. Man, people must be
struggling with that. A girl said when a guy pretends
he's being chased, acting like cocky and like a lot
of women want him, but the girl could tell that
nobody really wants them. Someone sent to selfie, that's funny.
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If they live in a filthy apartment, not cleaning up
after themselves big for me. I don't like that. I
think it's obviously okay to have a housekeeper, but I
also don't like when they leave just complete mess for
the housekeeper to clean up everything. I think it's disrespectful.
I think that they're there for like to make sure
like all the cracks and stuff like that are clean
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into like, But I can't stand with people let stuff
pile up and just rely on other people to clean
it up. Bad hygiene, bad hygiene, alcoholism. Yeah, that's it
for me. I don't like men that over drink but
actually scares me. And I don't like people that over
indulge in drugs. I'm not saying that drugs are okay,
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but like once in a while maybe, I don't know,
as long as it doesn't mess your life up. That's
probably not good to say. You guys know what I mean.
Little weed spoken here and there is what I meant. Okay,
let's do the next question. What are some ways that
you love to strengthen your relationship with your partner? Surprise dates,
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random flowers, making dinner for them, drawing a bath with
some candles, hell yeah, and a glass of wine. Who
is this man? A female must answered this having no
secrets in building trusts, like letting her have access to
your phone twenty four to seven. I don't think letting
someone have access to your phone twenty four to seven
is a smart thing, because if you're searching for something,
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you're gonna find something. I will never ever allow some
to have access twenty four to seven. It's not that
I'm against someone looking. I would never just like snatch
my phone away if someone wanted to order themselves something
or like they needed to. I don't know. You know,
sometimes you're like Okay, just jump on my phone and
send it to yourself or whatever is going on. But
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I don't want someone having my pass code again. And
it's not because I'm scared that I'm gonna get caught
with anything. It's just when someone is wanting that, it
means that they're doing something wrong and that they're purposely
going to find something. But I love this surprise date nights.
I love. There's nothing for me better than random flowers.
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They make me so happy. I love that over any
other gift. And the bath thing is really cute because
I can't imagine coming home and like the bath's drawn,
and then you have candles and a glass of wine,
glass of opus one that's my favorite wine. For any
men that want to date me and are listening, someone
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said dancing while cooking, that's really cute. A lot of
it is men saying that planning the dates, are surprising
their significant other with a date. I think that that
goes really far in a relationship. It's really special for
women if they don't have to pick the restaurant. We
want to not think about those things, but we love
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those things, and I think that's really special. Someone says,
always find some way to surprise, enjoy, no matter how
small it is. I agree with that. I love even
when I'm traveling just picking up something really small. It
doesn't have to be expensive, even going back to keychains
or a magnet. I even bought a guy scratch off tickets.
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He loved it. He loved that I went into the
gas station bought like a five dollars scratch off ticket.
I think that just little small gestures it doesn't have
to be expensive. I think people just automatically assume that
things got to be expensive to wow someone over, and
for me personally, doesn't have to be. It doesn't have
to be like that at all. For myself. Some things
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that when I've been in relationships, I and this is
my secret weapon. I love too once a week on
and I would always say Fridays because it was easy
for me to remember. But I would ask them, and
my therapist taught me this is there something anything that
you need or anything that you want to talk about?
Before they would even bring it up to me. I'm
not even saying that they have to be hinting that
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something's wrong, but I always asked, once a week is
there anything you want to talk about? Is there anything
that I could do for you, and ninety nine percent
of the time, if not one hundred percent of the time,
because I can't think of one time that someone actually
said like, oh, yeah, can you go do They just
want to hear that you are thinking ahead. That really
is my secret weapon. It goes so far to being
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like is there anything I can do for you this week,
or like that you need done, especially if a person
works very hard. I think taking a guy out on
a date makes them very happy when you actually you
don't got to do it all the time, but once
in the while, if you pay and take them out,
they really like it. It makes them feel so special.
They feel like a little girl and they just want
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to get dressed up and it kind of like you know,
you know that song by Usher cheating places, listen to it.
That's what you got to do for them. I think
also to strengthen the relationship is letting them talk to
you without saying anything, letting them vent to you and
make sure they know that you're listening, but just let
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them ramble. And sometimes people need that. Sometimes you don't
want to hear someone's opinion, or you are just telling
someone because you need to get it off their chest
about whatever's going on in your life, and it goes
again a long way. Listening to people. Yeah, and if
you just allow someone to talk to you and not
say anything back, I really believe that they'll tell you
how they want to be loved and they'll just let
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it out. And if you just listen, well, it's really
strengthens your relationship. I'm telling you, Okay, I'm going to
go through just some more Instagram messages really quick. Let
me go back to the other one. My friend's mom
keeps answering them. She's like, Okay, he makes me laugh
even though he gets on my nerves. And I know
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exactly who she's talking about, obviously, her husband. I love it, Okay,
ways to strengthen the relationship late night talks, opening up
about insecurities and worries. Love it. That is a great way.
Playing golf together. That's really cute. That's actually a good thing.
Like doing an activity together that you guys both don't know,
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or like something that you guys can learn together, like
a cooking class, golf lessons. But yeah, something that you're
both interested in and or maybe even just one person
is interested in, and then you will be surprised on
what you end up liking. A lot of people say
small gestures and just communication. Communication. I mean almost every
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single one is about talking and communication, deep chats. People
need to be heard and they need to also speak
out what's bothering them. And it really is a bonding
experience when like another person says long deep conversations and honestly,
it feels good to bond with someone that you feel
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like you can't tell anybody else. People love it. Try
to be that person's number one supporter. Oh my god,
someone said narcotics, tweat drugs together. Sorry, no, we're not
supporting that. Wow, jeez. Maybe they answered the wrong one.
Maybe they meant that for the ick, because that is
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an eck. Let's see helping each other. You know, what's
an easy thing is if you just think of the
love languages that can help. Like if you're trying to
think of something like acts of service, receiving as college times,
words of affirmation, and physical touch. For me personally, I
love words of affirmation. I love hearing that like somebody's
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proud of me, or like you know, compliment to me.
That is my love language for sure. So if you're
trying to think of ways to bond. Just look at
those five things and that could easily pop something in
your brain to do. But yeah, thank you guys. I
love answering your questions. I love doing these solo episodes.
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Sometimes it's hard when I'm having a guest and you
know there's only limited time. So I love just doing
these where I can answer a bunch for you guys.
So stay tuned for my next solo episode.
Straw Hut Media.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Hey, Heartbreakers, So this is another story Time special. My
producers came up with some questions that lead to very
interesting stories of course, and then after that I'm going
to answer some fan questions, so stay tuned. So question
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number one, what is the worst and best party you've
been to? Honestly, any party for a rapper is trash.
Oh you know what. Okay, So I've never really been
to these parties, but when athletes are traveling, they have
like these little parties in their hotel rooms that where
the wives and girlfriends don't see. And then they'll make
(01:05):
the girls put the phone in like a basket, so
like the girls can't record and tell the wives of
the girlfriends. Unfortunately, and fortunately I've never been to them,
but I would say that that would totally, hands down
be like the worst party story, even though that wasn't
the question. And who knows what goes on. There also
company parties like these these companies that are like, okay,
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it's art Basle or it's you know, swim week. I
don't know. They just always think that it's a good
idea to throw a party, and nobody goes to parties anymore.
They're so boring. They're so boring. When you see me
at them, just know that I'm bored. Okay, next question,
the worst way a friend has betrayed me? Well, obviously,
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I've had a friend I've talked about it before that
slept with my favorite like hookup male friend that I
had for seven years. That was actually really heartbreaking for
me because I couldn't look at him the same I
talked about it before, but he didn't know that it
was my friend. Blah blah blah blah blah. It is
what it is. Yeah, that was very upsetting for me
because I lost my number one hookup that I was
really comfortable with. And then I had a friend that
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stole my favorite butterfly necklace. But I know she did
it because I put it in a very specific spot
that only she saw that literally nobody would find. Yeah,
she stole my favorite butterfly necklace. Just so you know.
I know, Okay, because I know she listens to this stuff. Okay.
The best or most petty revenge you've ever gotten before?
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One time, one time I was getting divorced and the
guy wouldn't sign the papers, so I sent him. He
lived in a different country and I sent him this paperwork.
I served him, and this was really messed up for
me to do. But I was only like nineteen, and
I really wanted to get divorced, but I wanted it
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to be annulled. Actually, that's what I was trying to
do at first. So I served him with the papers.
I put in the papers that we never consummated the
marriage because I always had to choose this strap on
and so it technically doesn't count as consummating the marriage,
so I could get the annulment, because that's one way
that you're able to get an annulment is if you
never consummated your marriage. And so then he texted and
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he was like, you think you're funny. You think you're funny,
But yeah, I guess that would be like a little
bit of some revenge just to embarrass someone. I kind
of feel bad now saying that out loud, that I
did that. Whatever, the best drama you've got to witness,
but not be a part of hum. There was a
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celebrity singer whatever he used to sleep with all of
the girls in the industry, not me, Just to clarify,
a handful of them. He gave them all. I think
it was gonar Villa, and he infected the whole industry
because it goes so cool when one person gets it,
and it's not so imagine like five people having it.
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We almost had to shut down, Like goner hea got
so bad that we almost went into a moratorium just
to clean it up. I wish I could drop his name, sicko.
Top three things you've crossed off your bucket list? You know,
I really wanted to do skydiving, and I did that
last year, like a year and a half ago, and
it was so scary and not worth it. I'm not
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gonna lie. It was outside of my comfort level for sure.
I was really crying. Once you get up in the air,
they don't let you stay on the plane, by the way,
so you have to jump. At least that's where I went.
They told me I had to jump. It felt honestly
like suicidal for me, Like once I got up there
was like, I don't want to do this anymore. And
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then another one is I just actually shot the cover
up in Style magazine and that comes out in a
couple of weeks, maybe a couple of months, And yeah,
that was one of my big bucket list things this year,
was that specific magazine and I worked very hard to
get it because of my you know, my past. It's
not that easy crossing over to mainstream. And then I
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guess I sold this house. But I bought a house
last year, and that's all I ever wanted in life
was to have like a house that I owned. Even though,
like I said, I sold it, I still am checking
it off of my bucket list. And maybe I'll put
it back on there and to rebuy another home in
a different state. But yeah, best and worst surprise you've
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ever gotten. My best And this is going to make
me sound materialistic, but one time, this old man surprised
me with a purple Ostrich Burgen. I told him, like
as a joke. I was like, I wanted this very
specific purple that I knew was really hard to find it.
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He found that that same day and brought it to
me the next day, and I still have the bag today.
I barely I love that bag. The worst surprise maybe,
like I wanted to say, accidentally getting practiced, like the
worst surprise ever, Like literally it's the worst. I don't know,
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worst surprise would be when you get cheated on. That's
like the worst surprise, is it? Supposed to be someone
like wanting to do something nice and then you don't
like it. Is that the question or just like you're
shocked in general, because I'm definitely gonna say being cheated
on on Valentine's Day that was my Valentine's say president
one year. Okay, Next, one weirdest travel experience in the
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US or abroad. You know, my real name actually got
leaked because I was in Malaysia and I was in
the airport and one of the staff members came up
and was like, can I check your passport? And I
was like okay, but I hadn't even checked my bag yet.
They took a photo of it on their phone and
I was like, that's interesting that that guy did that,
but again I'm in a foreign country. Later that night,
(07:04):
the guy DMed me and was like I was the
one that checked your passport at the airport, blah blah blah,
sent me a photo of my passport and I was like, okay,
so now my identity is stolen. Good. That was the
weirdest thing that was in Malaysia. And then for the US,
I got kicked out of a hotel once in Philadelphia
because my ex husband kept calling he would stock every
(07:28):
single place that I would travel to, and he would
stalk me and he would call each place and tell
them just like horrific lies that I was doing in
the room. And I used to feature dance just to clarify.
And I got kicked out of the hotel. They called me.
The security was like, you gotta go right now. I
don't know what he told them. I never asked. I
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was just too scared. And yeah, that was that was
probably the worst. But I just ended up writing the
train to New York instead, which is way better. Something
you can't live without red oh, I love red Bull.
I love Red Bull. I drink it every day, which
I shouldn't. And again my religious background, I cannot live
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without some type of like religion or like spiritual connection.
It really like going back to my cover for in Style,
I actually really prayed hard for that for a couple
of months, and it's crazy that the opportunity just like
you know, fell into my lap. Honestly, someone just offered
it to me and I ended up doing it. And yeah,
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I mean those are two things in my head. Tachi,
which I ryan knows what that is. You don't what
a hatachi is. Okay, oh yeah, because I'm obsessed. Yep.
So those are my three things. Okay, guys, So I
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actually reached out on my Instagram. I wanted to try
something new. Typically I do it on Twitter, but I
wanted to ask two questions that for me are important.
One of them is what's your biggest dick that prevents
you from wanting to further into a relationship with someone.
Somebody said clingy and over attached needed to know where
(09:30):
someone is at all time, getting upset if someone doesn't
message back immediately or one hundred times throughout the day.
That is an ick for me that really turns me off.
I'm someone that's very busy all the time, and I
don't want to have to report back to someone, especially
when I'm not doing anything wrong. It really feels clingy
to me. I've had relationships in the past where I've
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ignored that and played too much into it, and it
feels way too possessive for me, way way way too possessive.
So I really agree with that. Someone also said her
inability to disassociate herself with her toxic co workers and
how much they really influence her actions and behaviors. That's
an dick for me. Also, I'm gonna also say friendships
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not just co workers. I don't like when I meet
a guy and all of his friends are bad people,
because why are you associated with people that aren't good?
Another thing is like why are you allowing people to
influence your actions and behaviors? That is a red flag
because you don't have an identity. If you're just taking
on everybody else's opinions, I really nah no. The next
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one is when you act super arrogant, like you're hot shit,
think you're rich, look down on people who aren't as fortunate.
Success takes hard work, but you got to tone a
mother effort down a bit. It be humble. Yeah, I
am very turned off and it does give me the
ick when someone shows off too much. I love a
humble guy. I love someone where you don't know that
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they're wealthy, and then when you later get to know them,
they they're wealthy, and I think that that's really powerful
in itself. I can't stand that. It just makes it
seem like they don't really have the money when they
act like that, or they just don't know how to,
you know, save, And that's an ick for me. Someone
that doesn't know how to save another ick for me,
(11:23):
and I know I'm going to kind of like get
in trouble for this one. But I don't like when
I'm trying to date someone or I'm thinking about dating
them and they have children. That's not an ick is
the children part. But I don't like when the guy
provides fully for the mother. I think it's okay to
provide for the child and give a certain amount, but
if you're funding the mother's life, like everything, her car,
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her house, so she doesn't have to work at all,
it gives me such an ick because then when you
have a significant other that wants to come in, the
mother of the child feels like she has some type
of control, and she also feels threatened because she feels
like it's going to take away the income from her.
And I feel like there should just be a standard.
This is what a child costs, this is how much
the child needs, this is the child's lifestyle. But you
(12:08):
do not need to be funding the mother's lifestyle. Also,
I don't like that. I hate that. I hate yeah,
never really, I'm just like such a soft every leg whatever.
It just bothers me so much when females get pregnant
on purpose to try to have an income from someone.
I don't think that children are meant to be brought
(12:30):
into the world so you can live off of them.
It really really bothers me. That's what I mean by that. Okay,
so should I read Actually the icks that were on
my phone have some more? Oh, my friend's mom answered one.
So I'm gonna say what hurts is people that are
miserable in general, like nothing makes them happy, doesn't matter
(12:51):
if they have love in their life, doesn't matter if
they have money. They're just miserable. So just negative people.
I agree. My friend said bad hygiene. Yes, I feel
like if you went and did an activity where like
you have no choice but to like be sweaty and smelly,
that's one thing. Or if you eat something and it
(13:12):
makes your breath steak a little bit, I could understand that,
But like if you have chronic bad breath or like
chronic you know, staky pits, I don't like that. I
don't like that. I think it's disrespectful. Gross feet. I
think dirty feet. You can't control what your feet look like,
and a lot of people have ugly feet, So that
sounds a little harsh, But like if you're if you
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get in bed and the person's feet are dirty, that's
really not right, you know, when the bottom is like
black and then yeah no, okay, let me scroll a
little bit more. Oh, someone who doesn't feel inspired or
isn't ambitious, that is an ick. Basically a lazy person.
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I agree with that. You gotta like have some type
of motivation. Sorry, I shouldn't laugh at this, but someone says,
sending fifty thousand dollars to a fake Elsagene account, that's sad.
I hope that didn't actually happen. I hope that really
didn't happen. I am verified on all of my stuff, Like,
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I don't know what else to do, and I never
asked people for money. It's been ten years. Okay, some
of these people are just a little bit hair implants.
That's messed up. I think that's messed up to say
some people have no choice but to get hair implants. Eyeboogory.
Somebody said it's an ick for them. These people are, man,
(14:38):
it's harsh. It's harsh in this world people that use
the word ick. Okay, fine, I don't know what else
you want me to say. Yeah, a lot of people
about hygiene, smacking their mouths when they're eating. Yeah, I
actually have to like get up and walk, like get
out of the room. If I could hear someone chewing
really loud, it makes me like really angry. It's there's
(15:01):
actually like a word for it. When you can't stand
someone chewing a lot about hygiene. Man, people must be
struggling with that. A girl said when a guy pretends
he's being chased, acting like cocky and like a lot
of women want him, but the girl could tell that
nobody really wants them. Someone sent to selfie, that's funny.
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If they live in a filthy apartment, not cleaning up
after themselves big for me. I don't like that. I
think it's obviously okay to have a housekeeper, but I
also don't like when they leave just complete mess for
the housekeeper to clean up everything. I think it's disrespectful.
I think that they're there for like to make sure
like all the cracks and stuff like that are clean
(15:49):
into like, But I can't stand with people let stuff
pile up and just rely on other people to clean
it up. Bad hygiene, bad hygiene, alcoholism. Yeah, that's it
for me. I don't like men that over drink but
actually scares me. And I don't like people that over
indulge in drugs. I'm not saying that drugs are okay,
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but like once in a while maybe, I don't know,
as long as it doesn't mess your life up. That's
probably not good to say. You guys know what I mean.
Little weed spoken here and there is what I meant. Okay,
let's do the next question. What are some ways that
you love to strengthen your relationship with your partner? Surprise dates,
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random flowers, making dinner for them, drawing a bath with
some candles, hell yeah, and a glass of wine. Who
is this man? A female must answered this having no
secrets in building trusts, like letting her have access to
your phone twenty four to seven. I don't think letting
someone have access to your phone twenty four to seven
is a smart thing, because if you're searching for something,
(16:55):
you're gonna find something. I will never ever allow some
to have access twenty four to seven. It's not that
I'm against someone looking. I would never just like snatch
my phone away if someone wanted to order themselves something
or like they needed to. I don't know. You know,
sometimes you're like Okay, just jump on my phone and
send it to yourself or whatever is going on. But
(17:16):
I don't want someone having my pass code again. And
it's not because I'm scared that I'm gonna get caught
with anything. It's just when someone is wanting that, it
means that they're doing something wrong and that they're purposely
going to find something. But I love this surprise date nights.
I love. There's nothing for me better than random flowers.
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They make me so happy. I love that over any
other gift. And the bath thing is really cute because
I can't imagine coming home and like the bath's drawn,
and then you have candles and a glass of wine,
glass of opus one that's my favorite wine. For any
men that want to date me and are listening, someone
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said dancing while cooking, that's really cute. A lot of
it is men saying that planning the dates, are surprising
their significant other with a date. I think that that
goes really far in a relationship. It's really special for
women if they don't have to pick the restaurant. We
want to not think about those things, but we love
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those things, and I think that's really special. Someone says,
always find some way to surprise, enjoy, no matter how
small it is. I agree with that. I love even
when I'm traveling just picking up something really small. It
doesn't have to be expensive, even going back to keychains
or a magnet. I even bought a guy scratch off tickets.
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He loved it. He loved that I went into the
gas station bought like a five dollars scratch off ticket.
I think that just little small gestures it doesn't have
to be expensive. I think people just automatically assume that
things got to be expensive to wow someone over, and
for me personally, doesn't have to be. It doesn't have
to be like that at all. For myself. Some things
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that when I've been in relationships, I and this is
my secret weapon. I love too once a week on
and I would always say Fridays because it was easy
for me to remember. But I would ask them, and
my therapist taught me this is there something anything that
you need or anything that you want to talk about?
Before they would even bring it up to me. I'm
not even saying that they have to be hinting that
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something's wrong, but I always asked, once a week is
there anything you want to talk about? Is there anything
that I could do for you, and ninety nine percent
of the time, if not one hundred percent of the time,
because I can't think of one time that someone actually
said like, oh, yeah, can you go do They just
want to hear that you are thinking ahead. That really
is my secret weapon. It goes so far to being
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like is there anything I can do for you this week,
or like that you need done, especially if a person
works very hard. I think taking a guy out on
a date makes them very happy when you actually you
don't got to do it all the time, but once
in the while, if you pay and take them out,
they really like it. It makes them feel so special.
They feel like a little girl and they just want
(20:05):
to get dressed up and it kind of like you know,
you know that song by Usher cheating places, listen to it.
That's what you got to do for them. I think
also to strengthen the relationship is letting them talk to
you without saying anything, letting them vent to you and
make sure they know that you're listening, but just let
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them ramble. And sometimes people need that. Sometimes you don't
want to hear someone's opinion, or you are just telling
someone because you need to get it off their chest
about whatever's going on in your life, and it goes
again a long way. Listening to people. Yeah, and if
you just allow someone to talk to you and not
say anything back, I really believe that they'll tell you
how they want to be loved and they'll just let
(20:47):
it out. And if you just listen, well, it's really
strengthens your relationship. I'm telling you, Okay, I'm going to
go through just some more Instagram messages really quick. Let
me go back to the other one. My friend's mom
keeps answering them. She's like, Okay, he makes me laugh
even though he gets on my nerves. And I know
(21:10):
exactly who she's talking about, obviously, her husband. I love it, Okay,
ways to strengthen the relationship late night talks, opening up
about insecurities and worries. Love it. That is a great way.
Playing golf together. That's really cute. That's actually a good thing.
Like doing an activity together that you guys both don't know,
(21:32):
or like something that you guys can learn together, like
a cooking class, golf lessons. But yeah, something that you're
both interested in and or maybe even just one person
is interested in, and then you will be surprised on
what you end up liking. A lot of people say
small gestures and just communication. Communication. I mean almost every
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single one is about talking and communication, deep chats. People
need to be heard and they need to also speak
out what's bothering them. And it really is a bonding
experience when like another person says long deep conversations and honestly,
it feels good to bond with someone that you feel
(22:16):
like you can't tell anybody else. People love it. Try
to be that person's number one supporter. Oh my god,
someone said narcotics, tweat drugs together. Sorry, no, we're not
supporting that. Wow, jeez. Maybe they answered the wrong one.
Maybe they meant that for the ick, because that is
(22:39):
an eck. Let's see helping each other. You know, what's
an easy thing is if you just think of the
love languages that can help. Like if you're trying to
think of something like acts of service, receiving as college times,
words of affirmation, and physical touch. For me personally, I
love words of affirmation. I love hearing that like somebody's
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proud of me, or like you know, compliment to me.
That is my love language for sure. So if you're
trying to think of ways to bond. Just look at
those five things and that could easily pop something in
your brain to do. But yeah, thank you guys. I
love answering your questions. I love doing these solo episodes.
(23:21):
Sometimes it's hard when I'm having a guest and you
know there's only limited time. So I love just doing
these where I can answer a bunch for you guys.
So stay tuned for my next solo episode.
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