August 13, 2024 • 19 mins
We’re back Heartbreakers with another solo episode today! Elsa is going to give all of you a quick update on her life and her travels but more importantly Esty is no longer selling s*x toys! She is going to tell us how to deal with it and answer some heartbreaking questions!
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Straw Hot Media.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
All right, Heartbreakers, So here's another solo episode. I'm gonna
go over hot topics. Blah blah blah. You know the questions.
You guys already know how it goes. But a little
update on my life. You know, I'm always out and
about do a methang. I went on a nice, little
like getaway my friend's staff. She's in the room right now.
(00:42):
Should we all clap for stuff? Just kidding, just kidding.
My good friend's Steph comes over to my house one
day and she's like, oh my god, I have like
a really good guy for you. I think he'd be
a great, you know, great person for you to meet.
She has this really nice time in Vegas with them.
They loved to gamble and stuff. So I go out
(01:02):
on a date with the guy. I meet him at
like a place in his house in Malibu and it
was very nice. Then the next day I wasn't feeling
so well, so I didn't see him. And then the
following day he messages and he's like, Hey, we're taking
the PJ to Vegas if you want to tag along.
So I was like, oh my god, I can totally
(01:24):
be ready in an hour and meet you there of course,
right when you say, PJ, I want to, you know,
jump on it. You know, I'm a what's it called
a gold digger, That's what I just getting. But anyways,
I have a great time. He's a very nice guy.
He gets this grand sweet villa thing at the Belagio.
(01:46):
I had to do a photo shoot so I really needed,
like I actually really needed that day to be getting
my nails done and all types of stuff. So he
had the nail people come to me. You know. It
was just a great time. Then I wanted stuff to
be there, and he sent a plane back for staff,
and like it was just great and I met his
friends and whatever. So yeah, that's my little like date.
(02:08):
If you want to date me, that's what you gotta
do for me. I'm just kidding. I don't need all
of that online. But it was like a you know,
such a good memory. And I love when, obviously, when
somebody is very generous and very kind and just does
the most for me, because it makes me obviously feel good.
Anybody would feel good if that's that's not what I
(02:28):
expect though, and he knows that, he knows that I
actually don't need much. The only thing that I need
for my guy is peonies. That's the only thing that
I asked for. I don't need jewelry, I don't need bags,
I don't need my rent paid. I do want peonies,
Italian paonies. That's the only thing that guys need to
buy me.
Speaker 1 (02:48):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
You don't know what peonies are. Oh, they're like there's
it's a certain kind of flower. You've never seen them.
If I showed you a photo of them, you'd be like, okay,
But I love them. I don't know what it is.
It's because like when they open, I feel like you
get three different types of flowers. So it's like they
start off clothes if they if they get them on time,
and then they slowly open and it literally looks like
three different flowers. Don't something does? What the fuck is
(03:27):
this piece of shit? Etsy bans sex toy sales across
the entire platform. Let me before I go over the
bullet points. I am sad about this. Why I got
a sex toy from Etsy. It was a butt plug
and I put somebody's name and it was like, let's
just say John John slut on there. And then I
got two of them so in case we had threesomes.
(03:50):
The girl could also wear them as like a surprise,
and the guy really liked it, and the person like
they had to make it themselves, and like yeah, and
like put the name and everything on it. This is
not a sex toy. But I also got somebody's name.
I couldn't wear it for them because they broke up
with me. It was a thong that said the person's
name on the back, and I got that from Etsy too.
(04:10):
But anyways, the e commerce platform will no longer allow
adult toys sexual accessories like butt plugs sorry to be
sold on their website. The company announced in their recent
memo that has been met with frustration and anger by
its value vendors. So let's see why why would they
(04:31):
stop doing that? Maybe it's for sanitary reasons. Starting July
twenty ninth, Etsy will remove listings that advertise sex toys
such as dildos, vibrators, similar products. The head of Etsy's
trust in safety, Tea Alice, said it will keep underage
users safe. Okay, and now I get why they're doing that.
(04:55):
The problems come when people who have been handcrafting custom
sex toys and supporting their entire livelihood with Etsy have
had their stores burned to the ground. I mean, I
could see how this needs to be done. I'm not
gonna lie. Once they said they want to control the
(05:15):
underage people buying sex toys, I didn't really think that
that was a thing, but it's true. When you're buying
sex toys like online, you have to agree that you're
over the eighteen to even get on the site, to
even see the sex toys. And I've been on Etsy
when I bought the butt plugs. They didn't ask me
if I was eighteen and above or whatever this standard
(05:36):
thing is, So I could see that that's like a concern.
I wouldn't want that either, Like if I had children,
I wouldn't want there to be a site that allows
or doesn't control the age. Also, how do you make
sure that this stuff is clean if the person's handcrafting,
How do I know that that's actually what they're putting
(05:58):
into the mold? How do I know that? Obviously you
want to clean your sex toys as soon as you
get them when you order them online, But how do
I know that? Like, I don't know. I just now
thought of that that I put that but plug in
like that, And I didn't like even I don't know
like that. I'm even worried for myself. I did clean
it before, but I actually think it's a must needed solution.
(06:20):
I feel like, isn't there other sites that you could
sell handcrafted sex toys on? Like? Are you allowed to
on Amazon? I've bought sex toys on Amazon? Are you
allowed to have like what is it is? Shopped? Is
that it it's called like shopped something like that Poshmark?
Are you led to sell sex toys on there? I
(06:42):
feel like there's other sites that you're gonna be able
to do that. Etsy is very I know, that's like
your homemade like when you want like a homemade blanket,
if you want a homemade you know. I've even bought
rings on Etsy that are custom made. But I personally
am going to agree with this or put.
Speaker 1 (06:57):
Like a age restriction on certain Can you.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
Just do that with Yeah? I mean I feel like
they I don't see why Etsy can't make you upload
your ID like you do with every site, Like every
site now you have to upload some type of ID.
But I guess they could just use the idea of
their parent or the idea of a sibling or something
like that. But I mean, people could do that with anything.
These days, they could do that on every single site.
(07:21):
So I'm going to take back what I said. I
think this is a lazy solution because there's totally ways
that they can control what's going on. Whether it be
an agreement terms and condition, it's not my problem if
you agreed to it, you know what I mean, or
if you can upload an ID. I think people should
be able to use their Etsy for their homemade you know,
(07:43):
sex toys. Okay, next one, feel like your friends are
drifting away? You're not alone. In their recent piece for
The Guardian, writer and Alisa Barberi asked a vital question
about friendships as adults, Why do we feel like our
friend are drifting away? It's completely normal for friendships to
(08:03):
end and grow distant, is it, though? May I guess
it is? Let me just keep reading before I comment.
We move around, we have careers, kids, a thousand other
things that pull us apart. It's much harder to end
a friendship. But nothing has been wrong or happened, and
we are really taught the ins and outs of navigating
(08:24):
life changing situations and friendships. When we have such little time,
while reaching out to old friends, may feel like the
right thing to do at the moment. Can you force
a relationship that another person doesn't want to put effort into? Okay,
let's see. I mean I have definitely had friendships where
I have moved around a million places and I've just
(08:47):
lost connections with them. I've literally been so busy that
I've forgotten to answer friends. Like that's a real thing
for me. Like I said, I moved to plenty of
different cities. I don't know. It's like, are you still
friends with the people that you were friends with in
high school? Most people aren't, right, most people move away.
Your adult friendships are the ones that personally, for me,
(09:11):
are the most important. And I feel like sometimes it's
one of your friend's jobs to keep the effort, and
then it's the other friends jobs. I've definitely had friends
still in my life now where it is all on
me to keep that friendship. It is all on me.
That person will not do anything unless it's and they
won't speak to me unless it's beneficial for them or
(09:32):
nless I could give them advice or less I could
do something for them. I don't think that that's okay.
I think that you got to cut those people off
people just get busy, people have kids, you outgrow people,
like it says in here, and then what are you
supposed to do? I think that sitting down and kind
of analyzing your friends, Doctor Tara, that one episode had
me analyze all of my friends and break down who
(09:54):
I talk to the most and who I want to
keep in my life and who I didn't, And it
actually really helped me. And I really did go through
the people where I was like, is it all on
me to keep this relationship or is this person doing
like these things and like kind of you know, doing
their part, and a lot of them they weren't doing that,
and I just got rid of them. And if I
(10:14):
noticed that me getting rid of them didn't help them,
you know, communicate better, didn't help them want to be
my friend more. And so I think that if you
just let things be, and if you see someone or
if you feel like that urge don't want to check
in with them, I think you should always do that, like, hey,
I haven't thought of you in a while, like or
I've been thinking about you, haven't I haven't hit you
(10:34):
up in a while. Those are like great things to
do or if you can remember that it's someone's birthday.
But if it's all on you, those aren't your friends.
They're just not. There's nothing you can really do about it.
It sucks when you're sitting there and you're like, damn,
this person doesn't want to be here right now. They
want to be with their other friends. You got to
get rid of them. You got to just move on
(10:56):
be with people that also have maybe the same type
of lifestyle as you. Maybe they don't have kids, or
if you have kids, they also have kids, so then
you know, you guys can hang out with your kids together,
stuff like that. All right, Oh my god, this is sad.
(11:35):
Please help me get past being love bombed and given
an STD. I, twenty one year old female, recently broke
up with a very short term fling, twenty four year
old male after what I thought was the man I
would marry. The intimacy came very quickly. The sex was great,
and my friends loved him. I felt I was in
(11:56):
love with him until last week. I noticed something weird
bumps above my couchie. Naturally, I went to the clinic
and got tested and ended up having herpes. I confronted
the guy about this and he came clean. He said
he was sleeping with other people. I feel sick, angry
and ready to not be responsible for my actions. What
(12:20):
should I do?
Speaker 1 (12:21):
Guys?
Speaker 2 (12:22):
This is so sad, especially a long term like lifelong STD.
You know, you can sue him. Actually, if he knew
that he had this STD, and you have evidence that
he knew he had this STD, you could actually sue
him and you could actually win millions, just so you know.
So if you really wanted to, like go hard and
(12:43):
you have text messages and you can even get him
to admit, I wouldn't say that you're gonna sue him,
but if you could get him to admit and text
messages that he knew he had herpes and he willingly
gave it to you, it is illegal. You can sue
someone for it, especially a lifelong SDD. I mean, this
is very hard to like work through having something that
(13:05):
you now have to explain to other people and that
honestly might scare people away. You know, he's so disgusting.
This is so disgusting. It'd be one thing if it
was like chlamydia and you could get treated, But a
lifelong STD like this is disgusting. I say sue him.
I say hire a lawyer that will take a percentage
so you don't have to pay them per hour, because
(13:28):
you know that's on them. If you don't win, they
don't get anything, and you don't go into debt trying
to sue this person. But that's my advice, is finding
a lawyer that will take a percentage. And if this person,
I mean they're twenty four, maybe they don't have money,
but he will have to pay you out for the
rest of his life. Every single check that he gets
will go to you. And I think that he deserves
that for giving you a lifelong STD. Seriously. Oh and
(13:52):
he love bombed you too, Well, he love bombed you
because he knew that he had an STD and he's
purposely sleeping around with no protection because he almost wants
to hurt people, and he wants also people to be
stuck with him because he doesn't want to explain to
people that he has an STD. Have I gottenn STD
from someone? Well, I've gotten an STD in the adult
industry and it made me quit and it was very hurtful.
(14:14):
It was felt like a huge invasion to my privacy.
I just felt like such an invasion that I really
was really hurtful. So I can't imagine like a lifelong one.
I get tested like every single time I have sex
with someone right away after three days, and I always
spiral for those three days if I had unprotected sex
with them, and I'm like, oh, I'm shaking getting my
(14:36):
blood taken. You know what's funny. I saw this thing
on Instagram and it was like this guy saying how
do women decide who they fuck raw and not?
Speaker 1 (14:45):
Like?
Speaker 2 (14:45):
What is it? That was like, Oh, Okay, this person
I'm gonna I'm gonna have raw sex with this person
not and like there's not much of a difference. And
the guy was asking. I thought, in my head, what
what is it that I decide makes me want to
have sex with the person raw? Because I'm gonna be
honest with you. It's not me asking if they're tested,
because if I do and they just say yes, that's
(15:07):
not good enough. I think that for me, if I
see the person's lifestyle and I feel like they're not
sleeping around and they feel like they're being honest, I
will then have raw sex with them and then still
go get tested. But yeah, Also, what's that medication that
you could take? Vowtrex And I'm not a doctor. I
don't know if this is true. I feel like if
(15:29):
you take Voaltrex every day and you go to your
partner and you say, I take my vowel Trex every day,
I want to say that it's hard to give it
to them. But you cannot go to somebody and not
tell them that you have that, no matter how hard
it is. If you want to do it through text,
you have to tell the person before because you don't
want to do what somebody did to you, no matter
(15:51):
how angry you are. I would really sue the person.
I would, Okay, is it worth the gamble of ruining
a friendship to pursue a relationship? I, twenty one male,
have been the best of friends with this girl twenty
one female for a few years and are currently going
to the same college. We both had our moments of
(16:13):
almost kissing or getting left alone and whatnot. I really
like this girl. In one night, I almost told her
before she stopped me and told me that she liked
me but was too scared to lose me if our
relationship didn't work out. I recognize that this is very valid.
(16:34):
I like her more than my fear of losing her.
What can I say or do for us to get
together or is it even worth it at all? I
think it's worth it. I think you guys are young.
I think that if you want to try to be
in a relationship, I think, at twenty one, try it.
I think if you're thirty one, don't try it. I
(16:56):
think keep that friendship. I think that you've gone so
long when you're older, like friendships are better than relationships.
I get sad or what I lose a friendship over
a relationship, like it will hurt me for a long time,
like that's one of my people. That's like, that's my person.
Relationships come and go, but friendships, they really can be lifelong.
(17:19):
There's no complications. Usually once you start being intimate with
someone you know, it brings out sometimes the worst in people,
especially because you're so young. I would have to say
that it's probably not going to last, and you probably
will ruin your friendship. But if you really like this person,
you never know if it's supposed to be for you. Guys,
you don't know if this is like a lesson for you.
(17:42):
You don't know what could come from this. I just say,
don't get pregnant. Don't get pregnant. And don't get married,
just stay in a relationship, go through college, have your
college experience together. And you guys have a great foundation
already because you have a friendship, so it could be
very beautiful. I think it something that you should try
really genuinely. You guys are the same age. Hopefully you
(18:04):
guys are going for the same thing. Yeah, I say,
go to her, tell her exactly what you told me.
My fear doesn't outweigh how much I want to be
with you. I think that you're a great person. I
value our friendship so much, and because we have such
a great friendship, I think we're gonna have a really
great relationship. And say it just like that. Especially if
(18:25):
you guys have already oh they've almost kissed, I say,
just try it or go slow, Like I love to
try to take you out on dates first. We don't
have to kiss yet, but let's try to, like maybe
do something a little bit more romantic and see how
that feels. And if it's not good after the first date,
then you can always backtrack. There's no kissing, there's no sex.
(18:46):
You're fine, chay it like that? All right, Heartbreakers, that's
it for my solo episode. Please keep watching. Make sure
you subscribe to all the platforms. Make sure you don't
get to subscribe to the Instagram, my Instagram, and yeah,
writing your questions. If you have some hot topics you
(19:07):
think I should discuss, just let me know. Bye guys,
Straw Hot Media.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
All right, Heartbreakers, So here's another solo episode. I'm gonna
go over hot topics. Blah blah blah. You know the questions.
You guys already know how it goes. But a little
update on my life. You know, I'm always out and
about do a methang. I went on a nice, little
like getaway my friend's staff. She's in the room right now.
(00:42):
Should we all clap for stuff? Just kidding, just kidding.
My good friend's Steph comes over to my house one
day and she's like, oh my god, I have like
a really good guy for you. I think he'd be
a great, you know, great person for you to meet.
She has this really nice time in Vegas with them.
They loved to gamble and stuff. So I go out
(01:02):
on a date with the guy. I meet him at
like a place in his house in Malibu and it
was very nice. Then the next day I wasn't feeling
so well, so I didn't see him. And then the
following day he messages and he's like, Hey, we're taking
the PJ to Vegas if you want to tag along.
So I was like, oh my god, I can totally
(01:24):
be ready in an hour and meet you there of course,
right when you say, PJ, I want to, you know,
jump on it. You know, I'm a what's it called
a gold digger, That's what I just getting. But anyways,
I have a great time. He's a very nice guy.
He gets this grand sweet villa thing at the Belagio.
(01:46):
I had to do a photo shoot so I really needed,
like I actually really needed that day to be getting
my nails done and all types of stuff. So he
had the nail people come to me. You know. It
was just a great time. Then I wanted stuff to
be there, and he sent a plane back for staff,
and like it was just great and I met his
friends and whatever. So yeah, that's my little like date.
(02:08):
If you want to date me, that's what you gotta
do for me. I'm just kidding. I don't need all
of that online. But it was like a you know,
such a good memory. And I love when, obviously, when
somebody is very generous and very kind and just does
the most for me, because it makes me obviously feel good.
Anybody would feel good if that's that's not what I
(02:28):
expect though, and he knows that, he knows that I
actually don't need much. The only thing that I need
for my guy is peonies. That's the only thing that
I asked for. I don't need jewelry, I don't need bags,
I don't need my rent paid. I do want peonies,
Italian paonies. That's the only thing that guys need to
buy me.
Speaker 1 (02:48):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
You don't know what peonies are. Oh, they're like there's
it's a certain kind of flower. You've never seen them.
If I showed you a photo of them, you'd be like, okay,
But I love them. I don't know what it is.
It's because like when they open, I feel like you
get three different types of flowers. So it's like they
start off clothes if they if they get them on time,
and then they slowly open and it literally looks like
three different flowers. Don't something does? What the fuck is
(03:27):
this piece of shit? Etsy bans sex toy sales across
the entire platform. Let me before I go over the
bullet points. I am sad about this. Why I got
a sex toy from Etsy. It was a butt plug
and I put somebody's name and it was like, let's
just say John John slut on there. And then I
got two of them so in case we had threesomes.
(03:50):
The girl could also wear them as like a surprise,
and the guy really liked it, and the person like
they had to make it themselves, and like yeah, and
like put the name and everything on it. This is
not a sex toy. But I also got somebody's name.
I couldn't wear it for them because they broke up
with me. It was a thong that said the person's
name on the back, and I got that from Etsy too.
(04:10):
But anyways, the e commerce platform will no longer allow
adult toys sexual accessories like butt plugs sorry to be
sold on their website. The company announced in their recent
memo that has been met with frustration and anger by
its value vendors. So let's see why why would they
(04:31):
stop doing that? Maybe it's for sanitary reasons. Starting July
twenty ninth, Etsy will remove listings that advertise sex toys
such as dildos, vibrators, similar products. The head of Etsy's
trust in safety, Tea Alice, said it will keep underage
users safe. Okay, and now I get why they're doing that.
(04:55):
The problems come when people who have been handcrafting custom
sex toys and supporting their entire livelihood with Etsy have
had their stores burned to the ground. I mean, I
could see how this needs to be done. I'm not
gonna lie. Once they said they want to control the
(05:15):
underage people buying sex toys, I didn't really think that
that was a thing, but it's true. When you're buying
sex toys like online, you have to agree that you're
over the eighteen to even get on the site, to
even see the sex toys. And I've been on Etsy
when I bought the butt plugs. They didn't ask me
if I was eighteen and above or whatever this standard
(05:36):
thing is, So I could see that that's like a concern.
I wouldn't want that either, Like if I had children,
I wouldn't want there to be a site that allows
or doesn't control the age. Also, how do you make
sure that this stuff is clean if the person's handcrafting,
How do I know that that's actually what they're putting
(05:58):
into the mold? How do I know that? Obviously you
want to clean your sex toys as soon as you
get them when you order them online, But how do
I know that? Like, I don't know. I just now
thought of that that I put that but plug in
like that, And I didn't like even I don't know
like that. I'm even worried for myself. I did clean
it before, but I actually think it's a must needed solution.
(06:20):
I feel like, isn't there other sites that you could
sell handcrafted sex toys on? Like? Are you allowed to
on Amazon? I've bought sex toys on Amazon? Are you
allowed to have like what is it is? Shopped? Is
that it it's called like shopped something like that Poshmark?
Are you led to sell sex toys on there? I
(06:42):
feel like there's other sites that you're gonna be able
to do that. Etsy is very I know, that's like
your homemade like when you want like a homemade blanket,
if you want a homemade you know. I've even bought
rings on Etsy that are custom made. But I personally
am going to agree with this or put.
Speaker 1 (06:57):
Like a age restriction on certain Can you.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
Just do that with Yeah? I mean I feel like
they I don't see why Etsy can't make you upload
your ID like you do with every site, Like every
site now you have to upload some type of ID.
But I guess they could just use the idea of
their parent or the idea of a sibling or something
like that. But I mean, people could do that with anything.
These days, they could do that on every single site.
(07:21):
So I'm going to take back what I said. I
think this is a lazy solution because there's totally ways
that they can control what's going on. Whether it be
an agreement terms and condition, it's not my problem if
you agreed to it, you know what I mean, or
if you can upload an ID. I think people should
be able to use their Etsy for their homemade you know,
(07:43):
sex toys. Okay, next one, feel like your friends are
drifting away? You're not alone. In their recent piece for
The Guardian, writer and Alisa Barberi asked a vital question
about friendships as adults, Why do we feel like our
friend are drifting away? It's completely normal for friendships to
(08:03):
end and grow distant, is it, though? May I guess
it is? Let me just keep reading before I comment.
We move around, we have careers, kids, a thousand other
things that pull us apart. It's much harder to end
a friendship. But nothing has been wrong or happened, and
we are really taught the ins and outs of navigating
(08:24):
life changing situations and friendships. When we have such little time,
while reaching out to old friends, may feel like the
right thing to do at the moment. Can you force
a relationship that another person doesn't want to put effort into? Okay,
let's see. I mean I have definitely had friendships where
I have moved around a million places and I've just
(08:47):
lost connections with them. I've literally been so busy that
I've forgotten to answer friends. Like that's a real thing
for me. Like I said, I moved to plenty of
different cities. I don't know. It's like, are you still
friends with the people that you were friends with in
high school? Most people aren't, right, most people move away.
Your adult friendships are the ones that personally, for me,
(09:11):
are the most important. And I feel like sometimes it's
one of your friend's jobs to keep the effort, and
then it's the other friends jobs. I've definitely had friends
still in my life now where it is all on
me to keep that friendship. It is all on me.
That person will not do anything unless it's and they
won't speak to me unless it's beneficial for them or
(09:32):
nless I could give them advice or less I could
do something for them. I don't think that that's okay.
I think that you got to cut those people off
people just get busy, people have kids, you outgrow people,
like it says in here, and then what are you
supposed to do? I think that sitting down and kind
of analyzing your friends, Doctor Tara, that one episode had
me analyze all of my friends and break down who
(09:54):
I talk to the most and who I want to
keep in my life and who I didn't, And it
actually really helped me. And I really did go through
the people where I was like, is it all on
me to keep this relationship or is this person doing
like these things and like kind of you know, doing
their part, and a lot of them they weren't doing that,
and I just got rid of them. And if I
(10:14):
noticed that me getting rid of them didn't help them,
you know, communicate better, didn't help them want to be
my friend more. And so I think that if you
just let things be, and if you see someone or
if you feel like that urge don't want to check
in with them, I think you should always do that, like, hey,
I haven't thought of you in a while, like or
I've been thinking about you, haven't I haven't hit you
(10:34):
up in a while. Those are like great things to
do or if you can remember that it's someone's birthday.
But if it's all on you, those aren't your friends.
They're just not. There's nothing you can really do about it.
It sucks when you're sitting there and you're like, damn,
this person doesn't want to be here right now. They
want to be with their other friends. You got to
get rid of them. You got to just move on
(10:56):
be with people that also have maybe the same type
of lifestyle as you. Maybe they don't have kids, or
if you have kids, they also have kids, so then
you know, you guys can hang out with your kids together,
stuff like that. All right, Oh my god, this is sad.
(11:35):
Please help me get past being love bombed and given
an STD. I, twenty one year old female, recently broke
up with a very short term fling, twenty four year
old male after what I thought was the man I
would marry. The intimacy came very quickly. The sex was great,
and my friends loved him. I felt I was in
(11:56):
love with him until last week. I noticed something weird
bumps above my couchie. Naturally, I went to the clinic
and got tested and ended up having herpes. I confronted
the guy about this and he came clean. He said
he was sleeping with other people. I feel sick, angry
and ready to not be responsible for my actions. What
(12:20):
should I do?
Speaker 1 (12:21):
Guys?
Speaker 2 (12:22):
This is so sad, especially a long term like lifelong STD.
You know, you can sue him. Actually, if he knew
that he had this STD, and you have evidence that
he knew he had this STD, you could actually sue
him and you could actually win millions, just so you know.
So if you really wanted to, like go hard and
(12:43):
you have text messages and you can even get him
to admit, I wouldn't say that you're gonna sue him,
but if you could get him to admit and text
messages that he knew he had herpes and he willingly
gave it to you, it is illegal. You can sue
someone for it, especially a lifelong SDD. I mean, this
is very hard to like work through having something that
(13:05):
you now have to explain to other people and that
honestly might scare people away. You know, he's so disgusting.
This is so disgusting. It'd be one thing if it
was like chlamydia and you could get treated, But a
lifelong STD like this is disgusting. I say sue him.
I say hire a lawyer that will take a percentage
so you don't have to pay them per hour, because
(13:28):
you know that's on them. If you don't win, they
don't get anything, and you don't go into debt trying
to sue this person. But that's my advice, is finding
a lawyer that will take a percentage. And if this person,
I mean they're twenty four, maybe they don't have money,
but he will have to pay you out for the
rest of his life. Every single check that he gets
will go to you. And I think that he deserves
that for giving you a lifelong STD. Seriously. Oh and
(13:52):
he love bombed you too, Well, he love bombed you
because he knew that he had an STD and he's
purposely sleeping around with no protection because he almost wants
to hurt people, and he wants also people to be
stuck with him because he doesn't want to explain to
people that he has an STD. Have I gottenn STD
from someone? Well, I've gotten an STD in the adult
industry and it made me quit and it was very hurtful.
(14:14):
It was felt like a huge invasion to my privacy.
I just felt like such an invasion that I really
was really hurtful. So I can't imagine like a lifelong one.
I get tested like every single time I have sex
with someone right away after three days, and I always
spiral for those three days if I had unprotected sex
with them, and I'm like, oh, I'm shaking getting my
(14:36):
blood taken. You know what's funny. I saw this thing
on Instagram and it was like this guy saying how
do women decide who they fuck raw and not?
Speaker 1 (14:45):
Like?
Speaker 2 (14:45):
What is it? That was like, Oh, Okay, this person
I'm gonna I'm gonna have raw sex with this person
not and like there's not much of a difference. And
the guy was asking. I thought, in my head, what
what is it that I decide makes me want to
have sex with the person raw? Because I'm gonna be
honest with you. It's not me asking if they're tested,
because if I do and they just say yes, that's
(15:07):
not good enough. I think that for me, if I
see the person's lifestyle and I feel like they're not
sleeping around and they feel like they're being honest, I
will then have raw sex with them and then still
go get tested. But yeah, Also, what's that medication that
you could take? Vowtrex And I'm not a doctor. I
don't know if this is true. I feel like if
(15:29):
you take Voaltrex every day and you go to your
partner and you say, I take my vowel Trex every day,
I want to say that it's hard to give it
to them. But you cannot go to somebody and not
tell them that you have that, no matter how hard
it is. If you want to do it through text,
you have to tell the person before because you don't
want to do what somebody did to you, no matter
(15:51):
how angry you are. I would really sue the person.
I would, Okay, is it worth the gamble of ruining
a friendship to pursue a relationship? I, twenty one male,
have been the best of friends with this girl twenty
one female for a few years and are currently going
to the same college. We both had our moments of
(16:13):
almost kissing or getting left alone and whatnot. I really
like this girl. In one night, I almost told her
before she stopped me and told me that she liked
me but was too scared to lose me if our
relationship didn't work out. I recognize that this is very valid.
(16:34):
I like her more than my fear of losing her.
What can I say or do for us to get
together or is it even worth it at all? I
think it's worth it. I think you guys are young.
I think that if you want to try to be
in a relationship, I think, at twenty one, try it.
I think if you're thirty one, don't try it. I
(16:56):
think keep that friendship. I think that you've gone so
long when you're older, like friendships are better than relationships.
I get sad or what I lose a friendship over
a relationship, like it will hurt me for a long time,
like that's one of my people. That's like, that's my person.
Relationships come and go, but friendships, they really can be lifelong.
(17:19):
There's no complications. Usually once you start being intimate with
someone you know, it brings out sometimes the worst in people,
especially because you're so young. I would have to say
that it's probably not going to last, and you probably
will ruin your friendship. But if you really like this person,
you never know if it's supposed to be for you. Guys,
you don't know if this is like a lesson for you.
(17:42):
You don't know what could come from this. I just say,
don't get pregnant. Don't get pregnant. And don't get married,
just stay in a relationship, go through college, have your
college experience together. And you guys have a great foundation
already because you have a friendship, so it could be
very beautiful. I think it something that you should try
really genuinely. You guys are the same age. Hopefully you
(18:04):
guys are going for the same thing. Yeah, I say,
go to her, tell her exactly what you told me.
My fear doesn't outweigh how much I want to be
with you. I think that you're a great person. I
value our friendship so much, and because we have such
a great friendship, I think we're gonna have a really
great relationship. And say it just like that. Especially if
(18:25):
you guys have already oh they've almost kissed, I say,
just try it or go slow, Like I love to
try to take you out on dates first. We don't
have to kiss yet, but let's try to, like maybe
do something a little bit more romantic and see how
that feels. And if it's not good after the first date,
then you can always backtrack. There's no kissing, there's no sex.
(18:46):
You're fine, chay it like that? All right, Heartbreakers, that's
it for my solo episode. Please keep watching. Make sure
you subscribe to all the platforms. Make sure you don't
get to subscribe to the Instagram, my Instagram, and yeah,
writing your questions. If you have some hot topics you
(19:07):
think I should discuss, just let me know. Bye guys,
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