July 2, 2024 • 43 mins
We’re back Heartbreakers! In today’s episode, VH1’s own Steph Ball sits down with Elsa to spill some tea and a bit more. The pair are going to dive deep into Steph’s cartel history and how she and her husband both run her Only Fan’s page and a few thought-provoking hot topics like how a woman tried to poison her husband with bleach!
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Straw Hot Media. Hey, Heartbreakers, Today, I have steph Ball.
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She is a very special guest becauseshe's able to talk about what it's like
to be a child to someone thatis in the cartel, and how nice
it is to have a husband thatsupports her only fans unlus. We get
into hot topics and of course ourfan questions. So stay tuned. All
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right, Heartbreakers, So I amback and I have a special guest,
Stephanie Ball. Stephanie, you wereon Cartel Crew, right, I was
for three seasons. Oh wow,so that's quite a bit. Yes,
so it was on VH one.So basically our shows about children now grown
up that had parents that were involvedin the drug business and the cartel's narcles
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basically, so this is just uscoming together, having this like you know,
bond with the trauma and going throughthat process of what life looks like
after. Sorry, but I didn'tknow they had a show about the Cartel.
I was actually surprised because the cartelis like really serious, right,
It's very serious, And the onlyreason why we get to speak about it
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is because my dad already did fedtime. Some of the cast members parents
are deceased, some of them arenot in the business no more so.
We were very respectful towards what peoplewanted to share. And you can only
speak on things you've already been,you know, kids of and done your
time and that was it. Howhas it changed your like your life at
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all, just being on the show? Has it changed or is it just
absolutely so? It's insane because whenI got the opportunity to do the show,
it was kind of like a shockerbecause I never thought that my upbringing
was something people cared to care that'sso interesting, you know, like it's
something that you know, you don'tgo around telling people. You know,
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my name is Stephanie. My dadused to be a part of the cartel.
You know, you just don't saythose things. You you process because
there was a lot of hurt andyou know, my dad was gone for
many years of my life and mymom kind of stepped in to be mom
and dad. So it was alot of a lot of pain. So
then when I got this opportunity todo this show, I was kind of
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like confused at first, and thenyou know, when I spoke to my
parents, I spoke to both ofthem, and you know, I'm like,
are you guys comfortable with me sharingmy story, you know, my
version, because you know, myparents have of an opinion. You know,
I have my own, and youknow, I just kind of go
through this this whole I guess liketheory of like you know, what IEN
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through and what I would like todo different. Right, So my parents
gave me their blessing and then Iwhen I signed up to do Kartoku,
I'm like, you know, I'mgoing to be one hundred percent authentic.
I'm going to be honest. I'mgoing to be raw, and people are
gonna love me or they're going tohate me. So which one was it?
I think I think you know itwould love you. They they loved
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me, but then there was thislove and hate situation because I see people
out. Yeah, you know,I go hard for the people that I
love. I'm very loyal, andyou know, it was kind of like
the fighter in the show, veryopiniated, you know, and some people
love that and was like, youknow, she's the realist one on the
show, and some people were like, she's so annoying. Why is she
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talking again? I know that whenpeople just say that in general. Where
was it filmed. It was filmedin Miami, Okay, because in the
eighties and nineties the cartels were liveand well in that in that era,
a lot of our parents were doingbusiness there. What's your favorite thing about
your upbringing with your dad being inthe cartel any like fond memories or it
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was? I mean it was great. The lifestyle was amazing. I had
everything I could imagine when I wasa kid. It was just a lot
of Christmases were great, parties wereyou know, all out going, all
out. We never lacked for anything. Our house was always the best house
of our family. It was theone everyone wanted to come to. So
it felt good as a kid andnever never to lack for anything, especially
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you know, you're the es centrals, right, that was the upside of
it. You know, we dida lot of trips Disney. We were
you know, traveling bougie stuff.But it did come with a price for
sure. Man, I have likea fetish for like cartel man. Like
I'm not even like I have tolike I've never dated one. It sounds
really bad, but I love justlike aggressive just by man. So so
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that's funny that you say that becausejust just going a little off topic,
because because of my upbringing. Iwas so scared and terrified to be with
anybody that had anything to do withdrugs or just crime in general. Crime.
It was just it was just something. I was like, Oh you
do card fraud? Oh no,no, oh oh you're a dope boy.
No no, no. I justcouldn't see myself repeating my my story
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to my children. I'm like,I would feel like I failed. Then
I met my husband, Chris,right, and he's in the Cards Out.
No, he's not in the CardsOut. But he has a legal
cannabis business. Okay, but that'sfine, that's legal. Everybody does that
now. It's very profitable, veryprofitable. But at first I was like,
what is what's legal? You know, it's like is there a grey
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area? How does that work?And I guess like me not knowing was
my hesitation at first to give myhusband like the green light. But he
should do shrooms next, because that'slike, you know, I started doing
shrooms. Yeah, you like thatwhen I want to, like, you
know, just get a little bitmore relaxed and just you know, it
reacts, is it picks me up, like it picks me up. But
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what I mean relaxes me is thatI'm naturally like I'm always were very aware
of my surroundings. I'm controlling.I want to make sure everything flows.
I'm the mama bear. Yeah,but when I'm on shrooms, I'm not.
I don't give no fus giv me. You know, so shrooms gives
me that care free energy. Yeah, just like whatever, I love shrooms,
I stopped doing them. I actuallytook like I talk a lot about
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it, but I was like depressedat one point. I had a lot
of anxiety and I took a shroom, just a microdosa day and somebody told
me, do that for six monthsand it will cure your depression. And
it did because I would take itin the morning. It was like a
caffeine pill and it kind of justreset me. But I didn't feel like
you know how when you take toomany shrooms or like a lot of them,
you feel like you know you're doingYeah, but just I didn't even
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notice. It was like I dranka red bull or something. I talk
very highly of shrooms for certain people. To be honest, it's my drug
of choice. Yes, I managedrugs in my life, but shrooms is
just for me like weed. Yeah, it brings out the best version.
I think they're gonna leak it.I think it is maybe, I don't
know. We got to do someresearch. Yeah, so you just got
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recently married. Yes, how longwere you together before you got married?
So I got engaged seven months afterbeing together. Love it, he says,
when you know you know? Yep. And then we started planning a
wedding. It was so I hadmy I had my my my terms.
When I met my husband, Iwas thirty four, and I was like,
I'm not here to play games.Yeah, like, if you are
going to come in, I've alreadydated my fair share of guys that have
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played with me. I've wasted alot of time, and I'm here for
the real deal. So he's like, let me show you what I'm what
I can do. So we starteddating. Seven months later, I was
engaged and then he's like, Ican only do legal cannabis in California.
And I lived at Miami at thetime, so I was like, I'm
not moving for a boyfriend. No, of course, And I know we're
engaged, but people can be engagedfor years and never get right. Yeah,
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that's what it's called. It's kindof shut. But thats what to
give me a promise. Right,yeah, exactly, So we're not doing
that. So then yeah, soI told them, I said, we
need to have a date, depositon the actual venue, and I'll move
good friend you. So then wedid just that and then we once he
did, we picked the venue,we gave the deposit. I moved to
La So, Miami with my home. It's always been my home for my
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My whole life is where I wasborn and raised. There's a culture in
Miami you cannot get anywhere else.But my life began here now with Chris.
So, so, how long haveyou guys been together? Like total,
we've been together total, it's gonnabe it's two and a half years,
it'll be three years. And sometimesI see I love being married.
I live. When I asked you, I was like, what do you
want to talk about? You're like, I just got married. I just
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told someone the other day, Iwas like, listen, after six months,
that need to have a ring.Like I know that that sounds crazy
and that is like a short amountof time, which it is. I
need that, And like I alsolike to go places and have a ring
so people know that I'm just takenalready, Like I don't like explaining to
men and in public that I'm takingand yeah, I like just them coming
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up to me seeing that I havea ring and then them just walking away.
And I love being married. I'vebeen married three times. I talk
a lot about it. Yes,I don't want I've probably been in just
one relationship where I haven't been engaged. It has to be talked about.
Like, I also came from likea religious family, so it's important to
me. I don't see why peopledate without marriage. And I'm not against
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it like people that are like,oh, I've been together ten years and
it's just not for me. Yeah, and it wasn't and isn't for me
either. I will tell you justlike you, I am sure. And
I'm not speaking for every woman.I'm only speaking for most women that I
know and us right, I havebeen on both sides. I've been the
girlfriend. I've been the relationship thatI think we're in a relationship, but
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we're we're jish and we're sleeping together. But are you my man? I
don't know, but I'm leaving afterafter we have sex. I'm like,
well, you know, like I'vebeen in those situations, and I've been
in a seven year relationship where Iwas like, am I ever going to
be your wife? Yeah? SoI've been stuck in a lot of scenarios
and I will say I love beingmarried. The fact that I do not
have to wonder how committed you areis a peace of mind I have never
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experienced until now. I wonder whatit is for certain men that don't like
they are okay with that long termbecause I asked somebody. I asked the
guy. He's like, it's it'sfor the female, Like I'll marry someone
for them because it's like a statusthing for the female and like it makes
them feel like comfortable, you know. But they say that it's not for
the men. I think that menneed to learn to enjoy marriage. It's
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a great thing. Like who wantsto so men? This is what my
husband tells me. Men naturally won'twant to search for you know, the
lock down. Yeah, right.And I've heard men say, oh,
yeah, marriage doesn't matter. Whatdoes it matter? What difference does it
make? But I've also heard mensay, yeah, I don't really feel
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like I need to be faithful untili'm married, So I'm not going to
be married. That's why you gottalock them down six months, right,
exactly. We can agree with this. Marriage comes with responsibility, absolutely,
it comes with accountability. And thereis a difference between being legally legally bonded
with somebody and not. So you'renot You're not going to walk away that
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easy from someone. You have alot more. You have to hire a
lawyer. So then with that,with that, with that being said,
you know there is there is asecond thought. How do you feel about
prenups? You know, I don'tlike them if you're not if they're not
my way right, So if it'slike the man putting on a prenup,
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No, if I need to puta man on a prenup, then you're
not richer than me, and thatprobably wouldn't work. I like, I
like prenups my my other marriages,I or my first first three because I'm
going to get married a fourth time. I don't care what anyone says.
You're like Pamela Energy, I loveher and I was watching her documentary thing
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and she was like, all yougot to do is tell a guy that
you would never marry them, andthey'll marry you. And I used to
tell people that all the time.I was like, just tell them that
I would never marry you it makesthem want to get married, but I
would sign. I would sign aprenup now only because in the past I've
been married to men that I thoughtmade more than me and they did at
the beginning. And then I'm verylike hard working, I'm very ambitious and
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like, I only want to increasemy income and I only see that for
myself, so I don't want tohave to pay like if I were to
have a child with any of myexes, I'd be paying them child support.
Oh and I thought about that likethe last couple of years. I
was like, I want to preventthat. So, you know, I
think there's like a catfish for finances, like there's a catfish for physical appearance.
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Yeah, I hear it is.We should make that a thing because
I feel like men date for beautyand we date for stability. So I
think, like, you got toreally upfront on what you bring to the
table, sir, because when Iget pregnant, I don't need to feel
like I got to work out wheni'm you know, work when I'm nine
months pregnant and wobbling because you don'tgot your shit together. No, of
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course, So Where's where's the conteis hard when they present themselves like no
like that. I've had men likeyou know, they'll pull up in the
rolls Royce or whatever and then thenit's rented for the weekend or yeah,
like seriously stuff like that and likeyou don't really not that Like I care
because I actually genuinely don't am verycomfortable like taking care of myself actually,
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like I take a lot of pridein that, but I want someone to
match that. I'm not gonna lieonly because they feel so insecure. If
they figure out that the female makesmore, it like really like affects them
and I don't want that insecurity thatthat's actually a good point. I'm more
of a I want to be ableto work. I don't want to feel
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like I need to. Yeah,you know, my husband, he's forty
six years old. I was gonnaask how old he was. He's ten
years older than me, So they'rethey're came a standard. Okay, you're
ten years older. You have waitedthis long to be married. When you're
going to like bond your life togetherand mix it around, I need to
know because my next chapter is beingpregnant. Yeah. Also you want to
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have kids. Yeah, so we'reactually trying right now. Good, and
I'm very excited because it's it's themost exciting, scary thing I have ever
experienced because I've been a model forso long. Yeah, and I have
complete control of how I look,and I take pride in working out and
being this bad bitch. Well youstill can being pregnant. Thank you for
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the for the reassurance, because it'sjust like, what is it going to
look like after you know? Well, you never know, and sometimes sometimes
people look even better though I've seengirls like really look good after pregnancy.
I'm praying for that. Oh,plastic surgery is always help. It's always
an option. But you can alwayswork out while you're pregnant. I work
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out now, so I hope thatyou know, pregnancy allows me to that
I'm not sick or whatever. Butyeah, that's that's the plan, to
stay as healthy as fine as though. That's fine, I've only been pregnant
by accident. Oh, you don'thave any no a drend living. I
don't have any kids. Don't changethe something. What the fuck is this
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piece of shit? We have somehot topics and this is actually about marriage.
So Vogue writer. Her name isHannah Klugston. Am I saying that
right? Hannah? I think it'llbe okay. Reported the challenges and lessons
she learned after getting married at twentytwo. Here is the rough guy to
making things work and knowing when it'stime to quit. By the time you're
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thirty year a completely different person.Twenty to twenty five your baby years of
adult. You still have a lotof growth to do and understand what it
means to be an adult. Doyou like agree with that? I personally,
I definitely agree with I agree forsure. I feel like sometimes there's
a rare occasion where someone's super maturewhen they're in their early twenties. But
I'm definitely once I hit twenty five, I don't know what it was.
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I'm gonna be twenty eight this year, so maybe it will be different for
me when i'm thirty again. Butfor me, twenty five is when I
really changed as a person. Ithink my soul's been here a few times
because I've always been very mature formy age. I can see it.
You know. People are like,oh, when you get to this age,
it's gonna hit you and you're gonnawant to do all these things,
Like I was yawning at the clublike at twenty two, like why am
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I here? Here? I'm like, why am I here? You know,
like that type of energy and peoplelike it's gonna hit you watch You're
gonna want to do these things,And I'm like never card, it's very
sick and I'm waiting for that moment. And I think, you know,
if if we do reincarnate, Ithink I've been here too many times.
Like I think at this point,my soul doesn't need to do everything.
Yeah, some people like do thingsonce. I don't have an interest me
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too. I'm very that's just likewhat's it called, not old spirit or
an old soul? Old soul?That's what it is. Yeah, I
definitely am. It says, also, your person is not your entire world.
Yes, I mean you're supposed tobe. They are, so it
says it might be cliche, butthis is a mistake to rely on one
person for everything. Agreed. Agreed. I don't want to have to take
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care of a man and I don'twant someone Also, like my past relationship,
I felt like the guy relied onme for everything. It was so
draining, Like I was like yougotta take care of something. Let me
ask you a question. Do youthink there is a world where when you
present yourself you're so independent? Igot it. I'm the boss here,
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and the guy's like, well,if she's gonna take that role, absolutely,
and maybe you're you're not allowing orthe roles get switched along the Relationally,
I'm super I'm not gonna say I'mmasculine, but I am very dominant,
okay, And I know that Ican take over everything and I'll just
gladly do it over waiting for someoneto do something. For sure. I'm
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dating immature men that allow me tojust take over, and I need someone
that's like dominant, that shuts medown. So are you going to be
okay with that? Because I feellike sometimes we're dating the same thing because
we're just not okay what the oppositeis? No? Maybe? Maybe?
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Yeah? Maybe I was really hardbecause see, I found my husband and
he was my person, but Ididn't know it at the time because I
denied him for eighteen months. Ididn't I didn't feel like I wanted to
be with him. That's a longtime, yeah, eighteen relationships. Yeah,
because I was scared, first ofall, I was like, what
are you going to tell me?I haven't heard yet. You live in
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LA I live in Miami house.It's going to work. And I was
like, you, I dated acertain type. And then I was like,
you know, my husband was alittle different than what I was used
to, and I had to reallywrap my head around that, because if
you don't step out of your norm, because we don't even do it on
purpose, Yeah, it's what we'reattracting. No, I know, I
know I need to chill out withit's masculine energy. Maybe I need someone
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that's like super super submissive that justlets me. But then that's exhausting because
then they're gonna be like, yeah, I'm waiting. They're like, what
are you waiting for? Just doyou? And they're like, but but
that's not how it's Yeah, okay, never wait, had changed. I'm
just thinking of a different option surveyself while I'm a single. It also
says it's okay to ask for helpat any point in your marriage. It's
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easy to fall into your ego inyour twenties, and marriage is not a
lifeline honeymoon. To think otherwise isfoolish. Yeah, I agree, you
absolutely have to go to your personand you can't. I saw this thing
with Michelle Obama and she was like, sometimes a marriage is seventy thirty.
Sometimes it's fifty to fifty. Sometimesit's sixty forty. And I agree with
that. Sometimes you at certain pointsin your life need a little bit more
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help and then that person can steppenif you're married to the right person.
Yeah, no, No, forsure, there's moments of fluctuation. I
mean our relationships like the weather,like you just never know what to expect.
Yeah, you know, some daysyou're up and the sun is out
and you feel great, and somedays you know, I'm pmsing, I'm
upset, I'm in my feelings.Sometimes he had a really bad day at
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work and he's not wanting to beso talkative and knowing that it's not always
about you. Yeah, I'm thetype of person when my husband walks in
through the door and he's not hisusual self, it's hard for me to
not take it personal, like whathappened, what's wrong? No? Nothing,
I'm like, why why are nottalking to me? What did I
do? And it's like it's nottaking it personal and allowing someone to have
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a bad day. I know I'mnot good at that either. I'll be
like, what the hell you're gonnaleave me right like this? Are you
thinking that this is not good forus? Like what, I'm being a
little dramatic, but you know,your mind goes there, you know sometimes.
So the next discussion is kind ofwe're switching gears here. It says
teachers turn to only fans because oflow wages and crippling student loan because you
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have an only fans right ideah,you do really quick? How does that
affected your music and public life atall? So my music life has taken
a step down. Okay, youknow I was Little Wayne's artist. I
was signed to Young Money. Imean, I was in this mode of
music, and then I got intothe TV business. HM was on Cartel
Crew because of Covid or whatever.I was on and off this journey with
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VH one for five years, puttingmy whole life out there, and my
life and my career was in motion. But I didn't have the things that
I would pray for as a littlekid. Yeah, I didn't have the
love of my life. I didn'thave a home with my person, I
wasn't married, I didn't have children. So it's sometimes it's not that you
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can't have both. But I feellike I had a lot of things that
I was doing at the time,but I didn't have the things that I
really wanted. So now my lifeis just taking Other things have taken a
stop, so other things can moveforward. So but the Only Fans hasn't
affected that, right, It wasactually my husband's idea. Nice. Yeah,
I like your husband, very supportive. Yeah, I'm with a bad
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bitch. Whatever makes you feel comfortable. I want you to flourish. My
husband doesn't stop me from being me. We have a shared folder of what
goes in only Fans, so wedo things tastefully and there's no you know,
inappropriate things. But my husband allowsme to be sexy. He allows
me to dress how I want todress and express myself. He's like,
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I married that person. Yeah,I love that you have a great husband.
Yeah, it's going to really keepup for now. Yeah. So
teachers are I guess, getting introuble for creating only fans because they're trying
to pay off their debt and they'reit's low wages. Some teachers are being
able to pull in an extra fiveto ten thousand a month from their only
fans. But several teachers are gettingfired and actually they're pulling their license from
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them. But they are saying thatthe average Wow, the average wage for
teacher is actually forty three thousand peryear or roughly twenty eight thousand after taxes,
and second jobs are almost impossible forthem to hold down. I'm not
gonna lie. When you're working withchildren, I don't think you should have
sexual content. But that's just mypersonal opinion. I mean, i'm a
big onlyfan supporter, obviously, Ithink that it's I think that it's really
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helped a lot of people. Ijust feel like maybe when it comes to
if you're working with children, yougot to keep it separate. I saw
in the Daily Mail the other daythough, like a teacher getting in trouble
for like taking photos at this schooland stuff, and I'm like, why
would you do that? Why wouldyou be taking nude photos in front of
the children's books. So that's crazy. Maybe someone and OnlyFans paid her and
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said this is my fantasy, pleasedo this, But that's sick if you
think about right, they're doing itfor a twisted way. It's not just
because she's a sexy teacher because youcan. You can make a fake chalkboard
in your home and act like you'redoing a lesson. This is my stance
on only fans, I think becauseit says only fans and that website itself
because there's so many people that dothis, they think everyone else does that
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and that, and that's the thing. If you're a teacher, what does
your content look like? That's true? Let me see because I go on
my newsfeed and some girls are cookingon there and they're doing workout videos.
And I think because being in myagency, there is just a little shift
in only fans that they want alittle bit more of everything. So are
you a teacher talking about your dailylife? Are you blogging? Are you,
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you know, showing your life outsideof teaching? Are you doing povs
in the school bathroom? That's whatI saw was going on. That's what
she was doing. So those girlsneed to get fired, yes, because
you're not teaching my kid, andthen you know, doing doing that stuff
on your own time. No,I would definitely not allow that. But
if you're using content in a positiveway and you're just being sexy and beautiful,
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I can't say she's doing wrong.I'm doing no, I agree,
you know what I'm saying. Ido other things and I'm a wife,
right, people will be like,oh, how are you a wife?
And how are you respecting yourself?If you have only fans see clere,
we're putting it like on this clichething. So let's step off side of
that. If you're a teacher,what does your content look like? I
never thought about that. I justalways assume people are doing straight sex scenes
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and you know and so. ButI never thought about that too. Like
even people put their podcasts up ontheir own things, a lot of great
things. I mean, we coulddo a shift and we just allow the
person to have a platform and seewhat they do. I don't think they
deserve getting their license taken away.I think we need to look further.
Yeah, to be an investigation AIagents and look into their their social media.
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If it's inappropriate, then you gottago. I agree, this one's
a good one. Women charged withputting bleach in husband's coffee but avoids jail
time. So recently, Melody Johnsonwas charged in Arizona with attempted murder after
she slipped small amounts of bleach inher husband's coffee every morning. Johnson and
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her husband were living together with theirchild while finalizing their divorce. On multiple
occasions, she had spiked the husband'scoffee with bleach. The husband noticed the
taste and set up a camera andcaught Johnson. After getting arrested, the
husband asked the court to not giveher jail time so she could still be
a mother to their child. Johnsongot three years of probation and did not
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officially explain why she tried to poisonhim. The husband stated that he believed
Johnson was trying to kill him.Well, no shit to collect insurance money.
Well, I'm trying to process onwhy he thought that she would be
able to be a good mother aftertrying to kill someone, especially the father.
It doesn't feel like she'd be capable. You know what I think it
is he's got guilt. Yeah,absolutely, I'm thinking that he was obviously
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in an abusive relationship and he's liketrying to you know how, you like
give the person the benefit of thedoubt. Would you be forgiving No?
No, right, I don't think. I don't. I don't think there's
a world unless you are molesting mychild. Yeah, it would be that
it would be my child. Youare hurting them, you're molesting them,
(27:11):
you're raping them. It would besomething that I'm like, you're gonna die
slot that's yeah, you know whatI mean. But other than that,
I think I I'll just take thehigh road and leave you, leave your
ass, and you know, andbe like we're done here, Like I
fall asleep to forensic files the same, Oh my god, but you know,
I don't know. We had aguest therapist and she says that women's
(27:34):
brain. I forget why, butit's always it actually calms our brain,
and it calms me. My husband'slike should I be worried? No,
you're watching these mysteries and these unsolvedand the like forensics and he killed his
wife and the wife killed the husband. That literally, I don't know why.
It's just because it's monotone. Andand I think the women, even
though we don't want to admit it, we're like the more vulnerable species.
(27:56):
So we'relways trying to figure out howdo we protect ourselves? Oh my god,
how do with and like red flags? And can this guy hurt me?
Because we always a little bit onedge of trying to protect ourselves.
Yeah, do you think that Ithink I think it's that I think that
I like documentaries in general. Ijust don't find many things fascinating, and
it's very fascinating to me how peoplecan take it to that level, like
(28:19):
in the coffee. Yeah, liketake it to that level seems so crazy,
it really does. There's a there'sa documentary on Hulu. It's called
Snapped. Oh. I used towatch it as a Kids on the Couch
girl. It's just women that dothese crazy things. They just snap and
they kill their their husbands. Thatstory, to me is very bizarre.
(28:41):
But I do not want to wantto judge only because what was the man
doing. But either way, thereis no excuse. Yeah, there's no
excues. I think she should havegotten some jail time absolutely something something something,
but three years probation. I didn'trealize. I said to go to
mask. Well, I didn't realizeif you ask for someone not to get
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jail time, they don't get jailtime. Because that's how I'm reading it.
Well, because maybe he's the onethat would press charge. He dropped
charges and had he had to,he must have been fucking her friend or
something. Yeah, like he didsomething, motherfucker. He did something really
bad. It's a really bad guy. I already realized this. It's okay,
babe. I know that it tasteda little sour in my coffee,
(29:26):
but yes, absolutely he did.Let's put the blame on him. I
will Typically the only way to mapis mapping in my brain. I don't
know, okay, So here's somefan questions. My boyfriend thirty one is
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a obsessed with fashion and fashion shows. It's becoming concerning. I, twenty
seven female, have noticed a concerningtrend with my boyfriend. He spends close
to four hundred a month, mostlyon credit cards for fashion. For both
of us. We both look great. I have a good job, but
it's not exactly the money that wehave. Almost everything on his feed I'm
guessing Instagram is fashion tips, fits, clips from a number of catwalks.
(30:26):
He's known to hyper fixate on things, but it's starting to become concerning how
much he's spending. What can Ido? I'd love to have a boyfriend
that loves fashion. I feel likeyou always have to like so both of
them. So this is my opinion. I'm a libra. This is the
sign that that's September right, itis October okay for me, but September
(30:48):
for other people. I like tohave balance. Too much of one thing
is bad. So if he isspending large amounts of money in one thing,
there has to be other things thatare suffering that he's showing signs of
bipolar actually, or someone no beingserious. If someone hyperfixates on one thing,
that's like signs of bipolar. SoI can see how. I don't
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think she's actually concerned about the fashionpart. I think she's concerned about the
hyperfixating on things. I would liketo ask her a few more questions because
it's like, is he doing allthe right things in all the right areas
and this is just his hobby becauseif everything else is checked out, then
who cares? Right? But ifthere's so many things you guys are not
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doing because he's got this addiction that'scalled an addiction. Maybe it's a shopping
addiction. Maybe it's not really afashion addiction. But let it be on
me and not on you. Yeah, she says that he buys for the
both of them. I like that, and I know maybe she's concerned about
the amount that he's spending and maybeshe's thinking that it could get worse and
worse. That's how I'm reading it, Like if they don't have that money,
(31:52):
or it's getting a little bit close, and maybe he just doesn't care.
I can see how that can belike a lot again. Okay,
you know, it's fashion, it'sfun, it's you know, you guys
are both trending. You guys arewearing the best clothes. It's always new
stuff, new this. But Ithink it's like prioritizing. I think she
needs to have a more adult conversationwith him, like this is cool,
(32:15):
but I'm trying to go up here. I'm trying to elevate in this way.
Are you still trying to just dofashion? Or are we buying houses?
Yeah? What were doing? So? I think it's just a conversation
of pulling them aside and saying,listen, this was cool for now.
It was cool for the moment.Now I'm moving on to something else.
Elevation. But if you love fashionso much, open up like maybe a
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store something right, make it profitable, yes, exactly, Then more power
to you do whatever you want.Okay, so make it profitable. That
is all our advice. Okay.The next one is my girlfriend wants to
start in OnlyFans. I think Imight dump her. I don't like this
already. Male thirty one recently foundout that my girlfriend wants to start in
OnlyFans as a job, and Idon't support it. She recently lost her
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job in tech and struggling to finda new one. She told me last
week she's thinking about making a pageto make ends meet. We live together
with the costs. I have noproblem picking up for the slack of the
bills, but she feels like it'sa handout. I don't want anyone else
to see her naked. She toldme that I would be the only one
if she needed a guy, butI have very specific tattoos and anyone who
(33:20):
knows me would know it's me andher videos. I love her to death
and would rather work overtime, butshe seems set on doing this. What
should I do? I mean,this is great for you because your husband
allows you to have a I shouldn'tsay allow, yeah, but he does
support it. I think it's thecompromise. Okay, So wait, here's
the compromise. She gets an onlyfans. Her content's got to be to
(33:43):
where he feels it's respective. Yeah. If that's not going to work for
her, then she's not compromising.I think that him letting her have an
only fans and having content that's appropriateis where he's going to compromise. So
what concerns me is people like this. It's like they think that they're gonna
make an only fans with no fanbase and it's gonna be lucrative. It's
(34:05):
not like you have to have afan base otherwise I could see that,
like, what if she's only makingyou know, one hundred dollars a month
and then you know, feeling herrelationship, Yeah, it's costing her relationship.
If she really feels like it couldbe super lucrative, then I think
that's great, like having those boundariesand stuff. But I think people really
think I'm just gonna make a flatthirty thousand a month and it's not the
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case. And I really want themto be cautious because, like we said,
the association with OnlyFans can also costa job, like a legit job,
and she doesn't have a job,I know, but a future job.
So this is the only advice Icould give him. If he loves
her and she feels very passionate aboutjust having her own money, because sometimes
it's just about having your little fewcents. It makes you feel dependent.
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It makes you feel dependent, itmakes you feel strong. It doesn't make
you feel like, oh my god, I'm just relying on this man.
If you ever left me, Idon't even have anything to go get my
own little part. No, that'sscared. It's a very scary thought.
And it's also it's like men kindof Some men dangle it in your face.
Oh, I pay for everything here. Yeah, what do you do?
Yeah, and you're like control.It's a control thing. So if
that's where she's coming from, Like, look, just give me a little
(35:13):
independence. I would do a sharedfolder like me and my husband do.
I like that. I think that'sreally And I put in my content and
if there's anything that he's like thisis inappropriate, then it comes right off.
Yeah, and there is no discussion. There's no room for error.
Like I feel like my husband alreadysupports the only fans. If my content
is not appropriate, then I haveto respect them. Yeah, so there's
(35:35):
the compromise. I mean, maybeshe doesn't have to do nude. Maybe
she would just do Sometimes there's moremystery and just the in between. Yeah.
Absolutely, So that's what it is, guys, that's my advice to
you. I like it. Ireally like it. You're very like smart.
Seriously, just the middle. That'sjust mind the middle. Yeah,
okay, So last question is Ineed help with ways to get over an
(35:57):
axe. I recently got dumped outof nowhere. It was like someone just
pulled the plug. One day Inoticed something was off with my girlfriend.
Next day, she called me andtold me that we were done and she
was leaving and there was nothing Icould do to fix anything because she just
needed to work on herself and dealwith the feelings of dumping her ex.
Damn. That's basically saying I wantto go back to my ex, but
(36:19):
I'll read the next things I sawon her Instagram that she already was with
a new guy that broke me.I don't want her back, but I'm
looking for advice to try to gether out of my mind. I just
need help finding ways to stop thinkingabout her. Oh, I don't love
her anymore. Yeah, it's agood but it feels like she's taken a
part of my soul and I can'tget her off my mind. Man,
(36:40):
I know how that feels when you'relike I don't like this person, like
they should have never been with me. But there's something about I think it's
the rejection that people get obsessed withand it's hard to rationalize, like why
would she dump me? You knowwhat I mean? Being used to someone
is almost as it's almost stronger thanlove. Yeah. For me, I'm
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a routine kind of person. Sowhen I have someone that I let into
my life for a certain period oftime and you take that person away because
I have no choice because of disrespector whatever, I feel naked, I
feel vulnerable, I feel I gota process. It doesn't feel right.
I wake up in the mornings andI feel like someone died. Yeah,
(37:22):
so there's a pain in my heart, even if they're not for me,
And eventually you know it was forthe best. But in that process,
the pain is confusing, it is. And then someone one or the other
moves on quicker, and I liketo make my next move my best move.
Yeah, so I don't move quick, and maybe the person I'm crying
(37:42):
or pain and you know, havingpain for already has a new person.
Yeah. I mean that's what peopletypically do, and they're the problem for
sure. They want to convince themselvesthat you're not the problem. My thing
when I was like super obsessed withsomeone, I was like, I don't
love this person, but like Icouldn't stop thinking about them. I told
my friends, do not say hisname, do not bring him up,
do not ask me about him.And still to this day, they we
(38:04):
don't use his name like at all. That was something that helped me,
and anytime I thought about him,I had to actively be like no,
I got to think about something different. Like I like to journal a lot.
I think that you could maybe journalyour feelings out and burn the note
because I feel like that kind oflike helps you feel like okay, now
you know. See I'm the opposite. Yeah, like to talk about I'm
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the one that talks it out withmy friends and they talk me out of
going back. Yeah, like doyou have any idea who you are?
Do you know who you are?And I'm like, who am I?
Who am I? You're that bitch? That is who you are? And
maybe those conversations where I just letit out and the person is telling me
(38:47):
what I already know but what I'mdoubting is like my therapy. I also
become the best fucking version of myself. You have to I will kit it
on the gram to the point whereit would fucking break you. When I
out love it, I'm like,you're gonna see my videos and you're gonna
see my photos now, and you'regonna be like, what did I do?
(39:08):
I lost that? Yeah, youlost that. So I think it's
doing the inner work right. Soif he's a talker, talk it out.
If you are the person that needsto journal, journal, if you
want to just don't bring it up, then that works too. It all
works depending on the person. Itreally does help working on yourself. That's
something that I also did, andI was like, should I not be
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doing this because am I giving ittoo much of my energy trying to like
do this like revenge? But itdoes. It distracts you so much and
eventually you will be over the personbecause you will bring in good people.
Time. Yeah, and also time. You have to give it time.
Nobody. Let me say this again, nobody dies for nobody. Yeah.
I have seen my mother. Mymother was in a twenty three, I
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think a twenty three twenty four yearmarriage with my dad, and my dad,
you know, left my mom,you know, in her in her
forties, her late forties, andshe was destroyed because she's like, you
know, I thought that me overlookingcertain things was going to eventually pay off.
And I've seen my mom destroyed,but I've also seen my mom lift
(40:15):
back up and anything is possible.Yeah. I have cried, I have
suffered for men that I've I've thoughtto myself, no one understands me.
Yeah, oh, I'm never gonnathis pain is never gonna go away.
But the best therapy is whatever youthink is best for you, talking it
out or not talking. But itis time. Yeah, time is the
best healer because it eventually the normwill be you again. And they also
(40:40):
say this saying in Spanish it's likeklawo sakaao meaning one nail takes out another
nail. Once you're done healing,someone will come into your life and give
you, it's so true, aperspective and be like, you know what,
that other person just wasn't for meeither, and you get excited again.
It's so true. I'm like alittle I say this often, but
like, for some reason, I'mthankful that all my exes cheated on me
(41:04):
too, because I'm like, yeah, because yeah, it made me leave.
At the time, it was reallyheartbreaking, but now looking back,
I'm like I'm thankful they messed itup. Like I have like great male
friends around me that are better,way better than my boyfriends ever were.
And they're just friends, you know. So yeah, there's not one x
you would go back to that Icould ever say, like I wish I
(41:29):
was back with them. Yeah.I look at them now and I'm like,
thank god it did not work out. I'm disgusted. I'm like,
why, yeah, Oh my god, it's embarrassing. Yeah, it's embarrassing.
I'm like, just it didn't happen. Who are you talking about?
I'm like, god, damn it. I'm a little embarrassed. On that
one. You're like, he's socute, girl, isn't he And all
your friends are like yeah, andthen after they're like, he's sorry,
(41:51):
he's a frog. Nobody wanted totell you. You want to plug anything
your Instagram? You're well, yeah, so my Instagram is steps underscore music.
You guys can follow me. I'mlike trying to transition into these like
reels now, so you noticed that, Like Instagram is just what TikTok.
I know, and I didn't knowwhen did this happened. I don't like
(42:14):
reels either, and I'm trying tocome up with ones that aren't the singing
ones because you probably like the sayingI don't want the monologue ones. Yeah,
I see, I can't do it. I'm just like, my brain
can't process it. But yeah,I'm like, because when I start recording
the real I'm like, hi,yeah, I don't know what to say.
So like when I'm doing the monologueand I'm being funny, people like
(42:35):
that. So I guess you know, you just got to find your niche.
But yeah, just follow me onInstagram. I'm working on some new
projects with a new show. Ican't say quite what it is, but
as soon as I can, Iwill be promoting that as well. And
there's just more ventures to come thanmy journey And no Twitter. No,
yeah, I have Twitter again,it's Steph's a music. I also have
(42:57):
TikTok. You can find me StephanieBall on there. I'm really trying to
feed all these social medias, butsometimes it's like life is just laughing and
I'm in my I'm in my feminineera, like Condre era, right this
off girl WiFi trying to have ababy making my house. Say, it's
just I think you're going to havea boy. Thank you. I want
a boy, Okay, I thinkyou're going to I want anything. Yeah,
(43:21):
oh it will happen. It willhappen. But it was a pleasure
talking to you. I really feelcomfortable here. Is this your home?
Yes it is. It's a veryvery cute home. Thank you, thank
you. Until next time, thankyou so much. Bye.
Straw Hot Media. Hey, Heartbreakers, Today, I have steph Ball.
(00:23):
She is a very special guest becauseshe's able to talk about what it's like
to be a child to someone thatis in the cartel, and how nice
it is to have a husband thatsupports her only fans unlus. We get
into hot topics and of course ourfan questions. So stay tuned. All
(00:47):
right, Heartbreakers, So I amback and I have a special guest,
Stephanie Ball. Stephanie, you wereon Cartel Crew, right, I was
for three seasons. Oh wow,so that's quite a bit. Yes,
so it was on VH one.So basically our shows about children now grown
up that had parents that were involvedin the drug business and the cartel's narcles
(01:12):
basically, so this is just uscoming together, having this like you know,
bond with the trauma and going throughthat process of what life looks like
after. Sorry, but I didn'tknow they had a show about the Cartel.
I was actually surprised because the cartelis like really serious, right,
It's very serious, And the onlyreason why we get to speak about it
(01:34):
is because my dad already did fedtime. Some of the cast members parents
are deceased, some of them arenot in the business no more so.
We were very respectful towards what peoplewanted to share. And you can only
speak on things you've already been,you know, kids of and done your
time and that was it. Howhas it changed your like your life at
(01:57):
all, just being on the show? Has it changed or is it just
absolutely so? It's insane because whenI got the opportunity to do the show,
it was kind of like a shockerbecause I never thought that my upbringing
was something people cared to care that'sso interesting, you know, like it's
something that you know, you don'tgo around telling people. You know,
(02:19):
my name is Stephanie. My dadused to be a part of the cartel.
You know, you just don't saythose things. You you process because
there was a lot of hurt andyou know, my dad was gone for
many years of my life and mymom kind of stepped in to be mom
and dad. So it was alot of a lot of pain. So
then when I got this opportunity todo this show, I was kind of
(02:39):
like confused at first, and thenyou know, when I spoke to my
parents, I spoke to both ofthem, and you know, I'm like,
are you guys comfortable with me sharingmy story, you know, my
version, because you know, myparents have of an opinion. You know,
I have my own, and youknow, I just kind of go
through this this whole I guess liketheory of like you know, what IEN
(03:00):
through and what I would like todo different. Right, So my parents
gave me their blessing and then Iwhen I signed up to do Kartoku,
I'm like, you know, I'mgoing to be one hundred percent authentic.
I'm going to be honest. I'mgoing to be raw, and people are
gonna love me or they're going tohate me. So which one was it?
I think I think you know itwould love you. They they loved
(03:23):
me, but then there was thislove and hate situation because I see people
out. Yeah, you know,I go hard for the people that I
love. I'm very loyal, andyou know, it was kind of like
the fighter in the show, veryopiniated, you know, and some people
love that and was like, youknow, she's the realist one on the
show, and some people were like, she's so annoying. Why is she
(03:43):
talking again? I know that whenpeople just say that in general. Where
was it filmed. It was filmedin Miami, Okay, because in the
eighties and nineties the cartels were liveand well in that in that era,
a lot of our parents were doingbusiness there. What's your favorite thing about
your upbringing with your dad being inthe cartel any like fond memories or it
(04:08):
was? I mean it was great. The lifestyle was amazing. I had
everything I could imagine when I wasa kid. It was just a lot
of Christmases were great, parties wereyou know, all out going, all
out. We never lacked for anything. Our house was always the best house
of our family. It was theone everyone wanted to come to. So
it felt good as a kid andnever never to lack for anything, especially
(04:30):
you know, you're the es centrals, right, that was the upside of
it. You know, we dida lot of trips Disney. We were
you know, traveling bougie stuff.But it did come with a price for
sure. Man, I have likea fetish for like cartel man. Like
I'm not even like I have tolike I've never dated one. It sounds
really bad, but I love justlike aggressive just by man. So so
(04:55):
that's funny that you say that becausejust just going a little off topic,
because because of my upbringing. Iwas so scared and terrified to be with
anybody that had anything to do withdrugs or just crime in general. Crime.
It was just it was just something. I was like, Oh you
do card fraud? Oh no,no, oh oh you're a dope boy.
No no, no. I justcouldn't see myself repeating my my story
(05:18):
to my children. I'm like,I would feel like I failed. Then
I met my husband, Chris,right, and he's in the Cards Out.
No, he's not in the CardsOut. But he has a legal
cannabis business. Okay, but that'sfine, that's legal. Everybody does that
now. It's very profitable, veryprofitable. But at first I was like,
what is what's legal? You know, it's like is there a grey
(05:40):
area? How does that work?And I guess like me not knowing was
my hesitation at first to give myhusband like the green light. But he
should do shrooms next, because that'slike, you know, I started doing
shrooms. Yeah, you like thatwhen I want to, like, you
know, just get a little bitmore relaxed and just you know, it
reacts, is it picks me up, like it picks me up. But
(06:01):
what I mean relaxes me is thatI'm naturally like I'm always were very aware
of my surroundings. I'm controlling.I want to make sure everything flows.
I'm the mama bear. Yeah,but when I'm on shrooms, I'm not.
I don't give no fus giv me. You know, so shrooms gives
me that care free energy. Yeah, just like whatever, I love shrooms,
I stopped doing them. I actuallytook like I talk a lot about
(06:23):
it, but I was like depressedat one point. I had a lot
of anxiety and I took a shroom, just a microdosa day and somebody told
me, do that for six monthsand it will cure your depression. And
it did because I would take itin the morning. It was like a
caffeine pill and it kind of justreset me. But I didn't feel like
you know how when you take toomany shrooms or like a lot of them,
you feel like you know you're doingYeah, but just I didn't even
(06:44):
notice. It was like I dranka red bull or something. I talk
very highly of shrooms for certain people. To be honest, it's my drug
of choice. Yes, I managedrugs in my life, but shrooms is
just for me like weed. Yeah, it brings out the best version.
I think they're gonna leak it.I think it is maybe, I don't
know. We got to do someresearch. Yeah, so you just got
(07:10):
recently married. Yes, how longwere you together before you got married?
So I got engaged seven months afterbeing together. Love it, he says,
when you know you know? Yep. And then we started planning a
wedding. It was so I hadmy I had my my my terms.
When I met my husband, Iwas thirty four, and I was like,
I'm not here to play games.Yeah, like, if you are
going to come in, I've alreadydated my fair share of guys that have
(07:34):
played with me. I've wasted alot of time, and I'm here for
the real deal. So he's like, let me show you what I'm what
I can do. So we starteddating. Seven months later, I was
engaged and then he's like, Ican only do legal cannabis in California.
And I lived at Miami at thetime, so I was like, I'm
not moving for a boyfriend. No, of course, And I know we're
engaged, but people can be engagedfor years and never get right. Yeah,
(07:58):
that's what it's called. It's kindof shut. But thats what to
give me a promise. Right,yeah, exactly, So we're not doing
that. So then yeah, soI told them, I said, we
need to have a date, depositon the actual venue, and I'll move
good friend you. So then wedid just that and then we once he
did, we picked the venue,we gave the deposit. I moved to
La So, Miami with my home. It's always been my home for my
(08:20):
My whole life is where I wasborn and raised. There's a culture in
Miami you cannot get anywhere else.But my life began here now with Chris.
So, so, how long haveyou guys been together? Like total,
we've been together total, it's gonnabe it's two and a half years,
it'll be three years. And sometimesI see I love being married.
I live. When I asked you, I was like, what do you
want to talk about? You're like, I just got married. I just
(08:41):
told someone the other day, Iwas like, listen, after six months,
that need to have a ring.Like I know that that sounds crazy
and that is like a short amountof time, which it is. I
need that, And like I alsolike to go places and have a ring
so people know that I'm just takenalready, Like I don't like explaining to
men and in public that I'm takingand yeah, I like just them coming
(09:03):
up to me seeing that I havea ring and then them just walking away.
And I love being married. I'vebeen married three times. I talk
a lot about it. Yes,I don't want I've probably been in just
one relationship where I haven't been engaged. It has to be talked about.
Like, I also came from likea religious family, so it's important to
me. I don't see why peopledate without marriage. And I'm not against
(09:26):
it like people that are like,oh, I've been together ten years and
it's just not for me. Yeah, and it wasn't and isn't for me
either. I will tell you justlike you, I am sure. And
I'm not speaking for every woman.I'm only speaking for most women that I
know and us right, I havebeen on both sides. I've been the
girlfriend. I've been the relationship thatI think we're in a relationship, but
(09:52):
we're we're jish and we're sleeping together. But are you my man? I
don't know, but I'm leaving afterafter we have sex. I'm like,
well, you know, like I'vebeen in those situations, and I've been
in a seven year relationship where Iwas like, am I ever going to
be your wife? Yeah? SoI've been stuck in a lot of scenarios
and I will say I love beingmarried. The fact that I do not
have to wonder how committed you areis a peace of mind I have never
(10:16):
experienced until now. I wonder whatit is for certain men that don't like
they are okay with that long termbecause I asked somebody. I asked the
guy. He's like, it's it'sfor the female, Like I'll marry someone
for them because it's like a statusthing for the female and like it makes
them feel like comfortable, you know. But they say that it's not for
the men. I think that menneed to learn to enjoy marriage. It's
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a great thing. Like who wantsto so men? This is what my
husband tells me. Men naturally won'twant to search for you know, the
lock down. Yeah, right.And I've heard men say, oh,
yeah, marriage doesn't matter. Whatdoes it matter? What difference does it
make? But I've also heard mensay, yeah, I don't really feel
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like I need to be faithful untili'm married, So I'm not going to
be married. That's why you gottalock them down six months, right,
exactly. We can agree with this. Marriage comes with responsibility, absolutely,
it comes with accountability. And thereis a difference between being legally legally bonded
with somebody and not. So you'renot You're not going to walk away that
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easy from someone. You have alot more. You have to hire a
lawyer. So then with that,with that, with that being said,
you know there is there is asecond thought. How do you feel about
prenups? You know, I don'tlike them if you're not if they're not
my way right, So if it'slike the man putting on a prenup,
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No, if I need to puta man on a prenup, then you're
not richer than me, and thatprobably wouldn't work. I like, I
like prenups my my other marriages,I or my first first three because I'm
going to get married a fourth time. I don't care what anyone says.
You're like Pamela Energy, I loveher and I was watching her documentary thing
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and she was like, all yougot to do is tell a guy that
you would never marry them, andthey'll marry you. And I used to
tell people that all the time.I was like, just tell them that
I would never marry you it makesthem want to get married, but I
would sign. I would sign aprenup now only because in the past I've
been married to men that I thoughtmade more than me and they did at
the beginning. And then I'm verylike hard working, I'm very ambitious and
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like, I only want to increasemy income and I only see that for
myself, so I don't want tohave to pay like if I were to
have a child with any of myexes, I'd be paying them child support.
Oh and I thought about that likethe last couple of years. I
was like, I want to preventthat. So, you know, I
think there's like a catfish for finances, like there's a catfish for physical appearance.
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Yeah, I hear it is.We should make that a thing because
I feel like men date for beautyand we date for stability. So I
think, like, you got toreally upfront on what you bring to the
table, sir, because when Iget pregnant, I don't need to feel
like I got to work out wheni'm you know, work when I'm nine
months pregnant and wobbling because you don'tgot your shit together. No, of
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course, So Where's where's the conteis hard when they present themselves like no
like that. I've had men likeyou know, they'll pull up in the
rolls Royce or whatever and then thenit's rented for the weekend or yeah,
like seriously stuff like that and likeyou don't really not that Like I care
because I actually genuinely don't am verycomfortable like taking care of myself actually,
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like I take a lot of pridein that, but I want someone to
match that. I'm not gonna lieonly because they feel so insecure. If
they figure out that the female makesmore, it like really like affects them
and I don't want that insecurity thatthat's actually a good point. I'm more
of a I want to be ableto work. I don't want to feel
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like I need to. Yeah,you know, my husband, he's forty
six years old. I was gonnaask how old he was. He's ten
years older than me, So they'rethey're came a standard. Okay, you're
ten years older. You have waitedthis long to be married. When you're
going to like bond your life togetherand mix it around, I need to
know because my next chapter is beingpregnant. Yeah. Also you want to
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have kids. Yeah, so we'reactually trying right now. Good, and
I'm very excited because it's it's themost exciting, scary thing I have ever
experienced because I've been a model forso long. Yeah, and I have
complete control of how I look,and I take pride in working out and
being this bad bitch. Well youstill can being pregnant. Thank you for
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the for the reassurance, because it'sjust like, what is it going to
look like after you know? Well, you never know, and sometimes sometimes
people look even better though I've seengirls like really look good after pregnancy.
I'm praying for that. Oh,plastic surgery is always help. It's always
an option. But you can alwayswork out while you're pregnant. I work
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out now, so I hope thatyou know, pregnancy allows me to that
I'm not sick or whatever. Butyeah, that's that's the plan, to
stay as healthy as fine as though. That's fine, I've only been pregnant
by accident. Oh, you don'thave any no a drend living. I
don't have any kids. Don't changethe something. What the fuck is this
(15:33):
piece of shit? We have somehot topics and this is actually about marriage.
So Vogue writer. Her name isHannah Klugston. Am I saying that
right? Hannah? I think it'llbe okay. Reported the challenges and lessons
she learned after getting married at twentytwo. Here is the rough guy to
making things work and knowing when it'stime to quit. By the time you're
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thirty year a completely different person.Twenty to twenty five your baby years of
adult. You still have a lotof growth to do and understand what it
means to be an adult. Doyou like agree with that? I personally,
I definitely agree with I agree forsure. I feel like sometimes there's
a rare occasion where someone's super maturewhen they're in their early twenties. But
I'm definitely once I hit twenty five, I don't know what it was.
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I'm gonna be twenty eight this year, so maybe it will be different for
me when i'm thirty again. Butfor me, twenty five is when I
really changed as a person. Ithink my soul's been here a few times
because I've always been very mature formy age. I can see it.
You know. People are like,oh, when you get to this age,
it's gonna hit you and you're gonnawant to do all these things,
Like I was yawning at the clublike at twenty two, like why am
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I here? Here? I'm like, why am I here? You know,
like that type of energy and peoplelike it's gonna hit you watch You're
gonna want to do these things,And I'm like never card, it's very
sick and I'm waiting for that moment. And I think, you know,
if if we do reincarnate, Ithink I've been here too many times.
Like I think at this point,my soul doesn't need to do everything.
Yeah, some people like do thingsonce. I don't have an interest me
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too. I'm very that's just likewhat's it called, not old spirit or
an old soul? Old soul?That's what it is. Yeah, I
definitely am. It says, also, your person is not your entire world.
Yes, I mean you're supposed tobe. They are, so it
says it might be cliche, butthis is a mistake to rely on one
person for everything. Agreed. Agreed. I don't want to have to take
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care of a man and I don'twant someone Also, like my past relationship,
I felt like the guy relied onme for everything. It was so
draining, Like I was like yougotta take care of something. Let me
ask you a question. Do youthink there is a world where when you
present yourself you're so independent? Igot it. I'm the boss here,
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and the guy's like, well,if she's gonna take that role, absolutely,
and maybe you're you're not allowing orthe roles get switched along the Relationally,
I'm super I'm not gonna say I'mmasculine, but I am very dominant,
okay, And I know that Ican take over everything and I'll just
gladly do it over waiting for someoneto do something. For sure. I'm
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dating immature men that allow me tojust take over, and I need someone
that's like dominant, that shuts medown. So are you going to be
okay with that? Because I feellike sometimes we're dating the same thing because
we're just not okay what the oppositeis? No? Maybe? Maybe?
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Yeah? Maybe I was really hardbecause see, I found my husband and
he was my person, but Ididn't know it at the time because I
denied him for eighteen months. Ididn't I didn't feel like I wanted to
be with him. That's a longtime, yeah, eighteen relationships. Yeah,
because I was scared, first ofall, I was like, what
are you going to tell me?I haven't heard yet. You live in
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LA I live in Miami house.It's going to work. And I was
like, you, I dated acertain type. And then I was like,
you know, my husband was alittle different than what I was used
to, and I had to reallywrap my head around that, because if
you don't step out of your norm, because we don't even do it on
purpose, Yeah, it's what we'reattracting. No, I know, I
know I need to chill out withit's masculine energy. Maybe I need someone
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that's like super super submissive that justlets me. But then that's exhausting because
then they're gonna be like, yeah, I'm waiting. They're like, what
are you waiting for? Just doyou? And they're like, but but
that's not how it's Yeah, okay, never wait, had changed. I'm
just thinking of a different option surveyself while I'm a single. It also
says it's okay to ask for helpat any point in your marriage. It's
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easy to fall into your ego inyour twenties, and marriage is not a
lifeline honeymoon. To think otherwise isfoolish. Yeah, I agree, you
absolutely have to go to your personand you can't. I saw this thing
with Michelle Obama and she was like, sometimes a marriage is seventy thirty.
Sometimes it's fifty to fifty. Sometimesit's sixty forty. And I agree with
that. Sometimes you at certain pointsin your life need a little bit more
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help and then that person can steppenif you're married to the right person.
Yeah, no, No, forsure, there's moments of fluctuation. I
mean our relationships like the weather,like you just never know what to expect.
Yeah, you know, some daysyou're up and the sun is out
and you feel great, and somedays you know, I'm pmsing, I'm
upset, I'm in my feelings.Sometimes he had a really bad day at
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work and he's not wanting to beso talkative and knowing that it's not always
about you. Yeah, I'm thetype of person when my husband walks in
through the door and he's not hisusual self, it's hard for me to
not take it personal, like whathappened, what's wrong? No? Nothing,
I'm like, why why are nottalking to me? What did I
do? And it's like it's nottaking it personal and allowing someone to have
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a bad day. I know I'mnot good at that either. I'll be
like, what the hell you're gonnaleave me right like this? Are you
thinking that this is not good forus? Like what, I'm being a
little dramatic, but you know,your mind goes there, you know sometimes.
So the next discussion is kind ofwe're switching gears here. It says
teachers turn to only fans because oflow wages and crippling student loan because you
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have an only fans right ideah,you do really quick? How does that
affected your music and public life atall? So my music life has taken
a step down. Okay, youknow I was Little Wayne's artist. I
was signed to Young Money. Imean, I was in this mode of
music, and then I got intothe TV business. HM was on Cartel
Crew because of Covid or whatever.I was on and off this journey with
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VH one for five years, puttingmy whole life out there, and my
life and my career was in motion. But I didn't have the things that
I would pray for as a littlekid. Yeah, I didn't have the
love of my life. I didn'thave a home with my person, I
wasn't married, I didn't have children. So it's sometimes it's not that you
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can't have both. But I feellike I had a lot of things that
I was doing at the time,but I didn't have the things that I
really wanted. So now my lifeis just taking Other things have taken a
stop, so other things can moveforward. So but the Only Fans hasn't
affected that, right, It wasactually my husband's idea. Nice. Yeah,
I like your husband, very supportive. Yeah, I'm with a bad
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bitch. Whatever makes you feel comfortable. I want you to flourish. My
husband doesn't stop me from being me. We have a shared folder of what
goes in only Fans, so wedo things tastefully and there's no you know,
inappropriate things. But my husband allowsme to be sexy. He allows
me to dress how I want todress and express myself. He's like,
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I married that person. Yeah,I love that you have a great husband.
Yeah, it's going to really keepup for now. Yeah. So
teachers are I guess, getting introuble for creating only fans because they're trying
to pay off their debt and they'reit's low wages. Some teachers are being
able to pull in an extra fiveto ten thousand a month from their only
fans. But several teachers are gettingfired and actually they're pulling their license from
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them. But they are saying thatthe average Wow, the average wage for
teacher is actually forty three thousand peryear or roughly twenty eight thousand after taxes,
and second jobs are almost impossible forthem to hold down. I'm not
gonna lie. When you're working withchildren, I don't think you should have
sexual content. But that's just mypersonal opinion. I mean, i'm a
big onlyfan supporter, obviously, Ithink that it's I think that it's really
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helped a lot of people. Ijust feel like maybe when it comes to
if you're working with children, yougot to keep it separate. I saw
in the Daily Mail the other daythough, like a teacher getting in trouble
for like taking photos at this schooland stuff, and I'm like, why
would you do that? Why wouldyou be taking nude photos in front of
the children's books. So that's crazy. Maybe someone and OnlyFans paid her and
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said this is my fantasy, pleasedo this, But that's sick if you
think about right, they're doing itfor a twisted way. It's not just
because she's a sexy teacher because youcan. You can make a fake chalkboard
in your home and act like you'redoing a lesson. This is my stance
on only fans, I think becauseit says only fans and that website itself
because there's so many people that dothis, they think everyone else does that
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and that, and that's the thing. If you're a teacher, what does
your content look like? That's true? Let me see because I go on
my newsfeed and some girls are cookingon there and they're doing workout videos.
And I think because being in myagency, there is just a little shift
in only fans that they want alittle bit more of everything. So are
you a teacher talking about your dailylife? Are you blogging? Are you,
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you know, showing your life outsideof teaching? Are you doing povs
in the school bathroom? That's whatI saw was going on. That's what
she was doing. So those girlsneed to get fired, yes, because
you're not teaching my kid, andthen you know, doing doing that stuff
on your own time. No,I would definitely not allow that. But
if you're using content in a positiveway and you're just being sexy and beautiful,
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I can't say she's doing wrong.I'm doing no, I agree,
you know what I'm saying. Ido other things and I'm a wife,
right, people will be like,oh, how are you a wife?
And how are you respecting yourself?If you have only fans see clere,
we're putting it like on this clichething. So let's step off side of
that. If you're a teacher,what does your content look like? I
never thought about that. I justalways assume people are doing straight sex scenes
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and you know and so. ButI never thought about that too. Like
even people put their podcasts up ontheir own things, a lot of great
things. I mean, we coulddo a shift and we just allow the
person to have a platform and seewhat they do. I don't think they
deserve getting their license taken away.I think we need to look further.
Yeah, to be an investigation AIagents and look into their their social media.
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If it's inappropriate, then you gottago. I agree, this one's
a good one. Women charged withputting bleach in husband's coffee but avoids jail
time. So recently, Melody Johnsonwas charged in Arizona with attempted murder after
she slipped small amounts of bleach inher husband's coffee every morning. Johnson and
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her husband were living together with theirchild while finalizing their divorce. On multiple
occasions, she had spiked the husband'scoffee with bleach. The husband noticed the
taste and set up a camera andcaught Johnson. After getting arrested, the
husband asked the court to not giveher jail time so she could still be
a mother to their child. Johnsongot three years of probation and did not
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officially explain why she tried to poisonhim. The husband stated that he believed
Johnson was trying to kill him.Well, no shit to collect insurance money.
Well, I'm trying to process onwhy he thought that she would be
able to be a good mother aftertrying to kill someone, especially the father.
It doesn't feel like she'd be capable. You know what I think it
is he's got guilt. Yeah,absolutely, I'm thinking that he was obviously
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in an abusive relationship and he's liketrying to you know how, you like
give the person the benefit of thedoubt. Would you be forgiving No?
No, right, I don't think. I don't. I don't think there's
a world unless you are molesting mychild. Yeah, it would be that
it would be my child. Youare hurting them, you're molesting them,
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you're raping them. It would besomething that I'm like, you're gonna die
slot that's yeah, you know whatI mean. But other than that,
I think I I'll just take thehigh road and leave you, leave your
ass, and you know, andbe like we're done here, Like I
fall asleep to forensic files the same, Oh my god, but you know,
I don't know. We had aguest therapist and she says that women's
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brain. I forget why, butit's always it actually calms our brain,
and it calms me. My husband'slike should I be worried? No,
you're watching these mysteries and these unsolvedand the like forensics and he killed his
wife and the wife killed the husband. That literally, I don't know why.
It's just because it's monotone. Andand I think the women, even
though we don't want to admit it, we're like the more vulnerable species.
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So we'relways trying to figure out howdo we protect ourselves? Oh my god,
how do with and like red flags? And can this guy hurt me?
Because we always a little bit onedge of trying to protect ourselves.
Yeah, do you think that Ithink I think it's that I think that
I like documentaries in general. Ijust don't find many things fascinating, and
it's very fascinating to me how peoplecan take it to that level, like
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in the coffee. Yeah, liketake it to that level seems so crazy,
it really does. There's a there'sa documentary on Hulu. It's called
Snapped. Oh. I used towatch it as a Kids on the Couch
girl. It's just women that dothese crazy things. They just snap and
they kill their their husbands. Thatstory, to me is very bizarre.
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But I do not want to wantto judge only because what was the man
doing. But either way, thereis no excuse. Yeah, there's no
excues. I think she should havegotten some jail time absolutely something something something,
but three years probation. I didn'trealize. I said to go to
mask. Well, I didn't realizeif you ask for someone not to get
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jail time, they don't get jailtime. Because that's how I'm reading it.
Well, because maybe he's the onethat would press charge. He dropped
charges and had he had to,he must have been fucking her friend or
something. Yeah, like he didsomething, motherfucker. He did something really
bad. It's a really bad guy. I already realized this. It's okay,
babe. I know that it tasteda little sour in my coffee,
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but yes, absolutely he did.Let's put the blame on him. I
will Typically the only way to mapis mapping in my brain. I don't
know, okay, So here's somefan questions. My boyfriend thirty one is
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a obsessed with fashion and fashion shows. It's becoming concerning. I, twenty
seven female, have noticed a concerningtrend with my boyfriend. He spends close
to four hundred a month, mostlyon credit cards for fashion. For both
of us. We both look great. I have a good job, but
it's not exactly the money that wehave. Almost everything on his feed I'm
guessing Instagram is fashion tips, fits, clips from a number of catwalks.
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He's known to hyper fixate on things, but it's starting to become concerning how
much he's spending. What can Ido? I'd love to have a boyfriend
that loves fashion. I feel likeyou always have to like so both of
them. So this is my opinion. I'm a libra. This is the
sign that that's September right, itis October okay for me, but September
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for other people. I like tohave balance. Too much of one thing
is bad. So if he isspending large amounts of money in one thing,
there has to be other things thatare suffering that he's showing signs of
bipolar actually, or someone no beingserious. If someone hyperfixates on one thing,
that's like signs of bipolar. SoI can see how. I don't
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think she's actually concerned about the fashionpart. I think she's concerned about the
hyperfixating on things. I would liketo ask her a few more questions because
it's like, is he doing allthe right things in all the right areas
and this is just his hobby becauseif everything else is checked out, then
who cares? Right? But ifthere's so many things you guys are not
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doing because he's got this addiction that'scalled an addiction. Maybe it's a shopping
addiction. Maybe it's not really afashion addiction. But let it be on
me and not on you. Yeah, she says that he buys for the
both of them. I like that, and I know maybe she's concerned about
the amount that he's spending and maybeshe's thinking that it could get worse and
worse. That's how I'm reading it, Like if they don't have that money,
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or it's getting a little bit close, and maybe he just doesn't care.
I can see how that can belike a lot again. Okay,
you know, it's fashion, it'sfun, it's you know, you guys
are both trending. You guys arewearing the best clothes. It's always new
stuff, new this. But Ithink it's like prioritizing. I think she
needs to have a more adult conversationwith him, like this is cool,
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but I'm trying to go up here. I'm trying to elevate in this way.
Are you still trying to just dofashion? Or are we buying houses?
Yeah? What were doing? So? I think it's just a conversation
of pulling them aside and saying,listen, this was cool for now.
It was cool for the moment.Now I'm moving on to something else.
Elevation. But if you love fashionso much, open up like maybe a
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store something right, make it profitable, yes, exactly, Then more power
to you do whatever you want.Okay, so make it profitable. That
is all our advice. Okay.The next one is my girlfriend wants to
start in OnlyFans. I think Imight dump her. I don't like this
already. Male thirty one recently foundout that my girlfriend wants to start in
OnlyFans as a job, and Idon't support it. She recently lost her
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job in tech and struggling to finda new one. She told me last
week she's thinking about making a pageto make ends meet. We live together
with the costs. I have noproblem picking up for the slack of the
bills, but she feels like it'sa handout. I don't want anyone else
to see her naked. She toldme that I would be the only one
if she needed a guy, butI have very specific tattoos and anyone who
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knows me would know it's me andher videos. I love her to death
and would rather work overtime, butshe seems set on doing this. What
should I do? I mean,this is great for you because your husband
allows you to have a I shouldn'tsay allow, yeah, but he does
support it. I think it's thecompromise. Okay, So wait, here's
the compromise. She gets an onlyfans. Her content's got to be to
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where he feels it's respective. Yeah. If that's not going to work for
her, then she's not compromising.I think that him letting her have an
only fans and having content that's appropriateis where he's going to compromise. So
what concerns me is people like this. It's like they think that they're gonna
make an only fans with no fanbase and it's gonna be lucrative. It's
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not like you have to have afan base otherwise I could see that,
like, what if she's only makingyou know, one hundred dollars a month
and then you know, feeling herrelationship, Yeah, it's costing her relationship.
If she really feels like it couldbe super lucrative, then I think
that's great, like having those boundariesand stuff. But I think people really
think I'm just gonna make a flatthirty thousand a month and it's not the
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case. And I really want themto be cautious because, like we said,
the association with OnlyFans can also costa job, like a legit job,
and she doesn't have a job,I know, but a future job.
So this is the only advice Icould give him. If he loves
her and she feels very passionate aboutjust having her own money, because sometimes
it's just about having your little fewcents. It makes you feel dependent.
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It makes you feel dependent, itmakes you feel strong. It doesn't make
you feel like, oh my god, I'm just relying on this man.
If you ever left me, Idon't even have anything to go get my
own little part. No, that'sscared. It's a very scary thought.
And it's also it's like men kindof Some men dangle it in your face.
Oh, I pay for everything here. Yeah, what do you do?
Yeah, and you're like control.It's a control thing. So if
that's where she's coming from, Like, look, just give me a little
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independence. I would do a sharedfolder like me and my husband do.
I like that. I think that'sreally And I put in my content and
if there's anything that he's like thisis inappropriate, then it comes right off.
Yeah, and there is no discussion. There's no room for error.
Like I feel like my husband alreadysupports the only fans. If my content
is not appropriate, then I haveto respect them. Yeah, so there's
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the compromise. I mean, maybeshe doesn't have to do nude. Maybe
she would just do Sometimes there's moremystery and just the in between. Yeah.
Absolutely, So that's what it is, guys, that's my advice to
you. I like it. Ireally like it. You're very like smart.
Seriously, just the middle. That'sjust mind the middle. Yeah,
okay, So last question is Ineed help with ways to get over an
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axe. I recently got dumped outof nowhere. It was like someone just
pulled the plug. One day Inoticed something was off with my girlfriend.
Next day, she called me andtold me that we were done and she
was leaving and there was nothing Icould do to fix anything because she just
needed to work on herself and dealwith the feelings of dumping her ex.
Damn. That's basically saying I wantto go back to my ex, but
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I'll read the next things I sawon her Instagram that she already was with
a new guy that broke me.I don't want her back, but I'm
looking for advice to try to gether out of my mind. I just
need help finding ways to stop thinkingabout her. Oh, I don't love
her anymore. Yeah, it's agood but it feels like she's taken a
part of my soul and I can'tget her off my mind. Man,
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I know how that feels when you'relike I don't like this person, like
they should have never been with me. But there's something about I think it's
the rejection that people get obsessed withand it's hard to rationalize, like why
would she dump me? You knowwhat I mean? Being used to someone
is almost as it's almost stronger thanlove. Yeah. For me, I'm
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a routine kind of person. Sowhen I have someone that I let into
my life for a certain period oftime and you take that person away because
I have no choice because of disrespector whatever, I feel naked, I
feel vulnerable, I feel I gota process. It doesn't feel right.
I wake up in the mornings andI feel like someone died. Yeah,
(37:22):
so there's a pain in my heart, even if they're not for me,
And eventually you know it was forthe best. But in that process,
the pain is confusing, it is. And then someone one or the other
moves on quicker, and I liketo make my next move my best move.
Yeah, so I don't move quick, and maybe the person I'm crying
(37:42):
or pain and you know, havingpain for already has a new person.
Yeah. I mean that's what peopletypically do, and they're the problem for
sure. They want to convince themselvesthat you're not the problem. My thing
when I was like super obsessed withsomeone, I was like, I don't
love this person, but like Icouldn't stop thinking about them. I told
my friends, do not say hisname, do not bring him up,
do not ask me about him.And still to this day, they we
(38:04):
don't use his name like at all. That was something that helped me,
and anytime I thought about him,I had to actively be like no,
I got to think about something different. Like I like to journal a lot.
I think that you could maybe journalyour feelings out and burn the note
because I feel like that kind oflike helps you feel like okay, now
you know. See I'm the opposite. Yeah, like to talk about I'm
(38:27):
the one that talks it out withmy friends and they talk me out of
going back. Yeah, like doyou have any idea who you are?
Do you know who you are?And I'm like, who am I?
Who am I? You're that bitch? That is who you are? And
maybe those conversations where I just letit out and the person is telling me
(38:47):
what I already know but what I'mdoubting is like my therapy. I also
become the best fucking version of myself. You have to I will kit it
on the gram to the point whereit would fucking break you. When I
out love it, I'm like,you're gonna see my videos and you're gonna
see my photos now, and you'regonna be like, what did I do?
(39:08):
I lost that? Yeah, youlost that. So I think it's
doing the inner work right. Soif he's a talker, talk it out.
If you are the person that needsto journal, journal, if you
want to just don't bring it up, then that works too. It all
works depending on the person. Itreally does help working on yourself. That's
something that I also did, andI was like, should I not be
(39:29):
doing this because am I giving ittoo much of my energy trying to like
do this like revenge? But itdoes. It distracts you so much and
eventually you will be over the personbecause you will bring in good people.
Time. Yeah, and also time. You have to give it time.
Nobody. Let me say this again, nobody dies for nobody. Yeah.
I have seen my mother. Mymother was in a twenty three, I
(39:52):
think a twenty three twenty four yearmarriage with my dad, and my dad,
you know, left my mom,you know, in her in her
forties, her late forties, andshe was destroyed because she's like, you
know, I thought that me overlookingcertain things was going to eventually pay off.
And I've seen my mom destroyed,but I've also seen my mom lift
(40:15):
back up and anything is possible.Yeah. I have cried, I have
suffered for men that I've I've thoughtto myself, no one understands me.
Yeah, oh, I'm never gonnathis pain is never gonna go away.
But the best therapy is whatever youthink is best for you, talking it
out or not talking. But itis time. Yeah, time is the
best healer because it eventually the normwill be you again. And they also
(40:40):
say this saying in Spanish it's likeklawo sakaao meaning one nail takes out another
nail. Once you're done healing,someone will come into your life and give
you, it's so true, aperspective and be like, you know what,
that other person just wasn't for meeither, and you get excited again.
It's so true. I'm like alittle I say this often, but
like, for some reason, I'mthankful that all my exes cheated on me
(41:04):
too, because I'm like, yeah, because yeah, it made me leave.
At the time, it was reallyheartbreaking, but now looking back,
I'm like I'm thankful they messed itup. Like I have like great male
friends around me that are better,way better than my boyfriends ever were.
And they're just friends, you know. So yeah, there's not one x
you would go back to that Icould ever say, like I wish I
(41:29):
was back with them. Yeah.I look at them now and I'm like,
thank god it did not work out. I'm disgusted. I'm like,
why, yeah, Oh my god, it's embarrassing. Yeah, it's embarrassing.
I'm like, just it didn't happen. Who are you talking about?
I'm like, god, damn it. I'm a little embarrassed. On that
one. You're like, he's socute, girl, isn't he And all
your friends are like yeah, andthen after they're like, he's sorry,
(41:51):
he's a frog. Nobody wanted totell you. You want to plug anything
your Instagram? You're well, yeah, so my Instagram is steps underscore music.
You guys can follow me. I'mlike trying to transition into these like
reels now, so you noticed that, Like Instagram is just what TikTok.
I know, and I didn't knowwhen did this happened. I don't like
(42:14):
reels either, and I'm trying tocome up with ones that aren't the singing
ones because you probably like the sayingI don't want the monologue ones. Yeah,
I see, I can't do it. I'm just like, my brain
can't process it. But yeah,I'm like, because when I start recording
the real I'm like, hi,yeah, I don't know what to say.
So like when I'm doing the monologueand I'm being funny, people like
(42:35):
that. So I guess you know, you just got to find your niche.
But yeah, just follow me onInstagram. I'm working on some new
projects with a new show. Ican't say quite what it is, but
as soon as I can, Iwill be promoting that as well. And
there's just more ventures to come thanmy journey And no Twitter. No,
yeah, I have Twitter again,it's Steph's a music. I also have
(42:57):
TikTok. You can find me StephanieBall on there. I'm really trying to
feed all these social medias, butsometimes it's like life is just laughing and
I'm in my I'm in my feminineera, like Condre era, right this
off girl WiFi trying to have ababy making my house. Say, it's
just I think you're going to havea boy. Thank you. I want
a boy, Okay, I thinkyou're going to I want anything. Yeah,
(43:21):
oh it will happen. It willhappen. But it was a pleasure
talking to you. I really feelcomfortable here. Is this your home?
Yes it is. It's a veryvery cute home. Thank you, thank
you. Until next time, thankyou so much. Bye.
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