April 9, 2024 • 28 mins
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Straw Hot Media. Hey guys,we're back. It is your favorite bitches
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from Heartbreakers. Yeah, are youexcited that it's actually getting to be summer
a little bit? Mon? Yes, we only have spring and summer here.
I know that we all freak outwhen it gets like fifty five degrees,
so sometimes like it won't even getfifty five, but we are so
lucky, like we're I know,but creeping up on some summer weather.
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So I laid out last weekend andI thought, I knew it was going
to take a while to try andget a tan. But I'm like,
okay, the UV index because I'mlike a tan junkie. It goes from
low to high or extreme, andit was unmoderate, which is a five.
So I was like, okay,that's enough. So I laid out
for two and a half hours.Wow, I know, because I'm like
the this is not gonna I'm obsescitating, like I need to be burnt anyway.
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And then I'm like, wow,that did nothing. I was walking
around the street going, oh,I just laid up two and a half
hours, got no sun. Cutto hours later I was roasted. Yeah,
you need to like let it likekind of Yeah, soaken. My
scheme was probably like what is this? Like, I don't know how to
process. You're not burnt, thoughnot anymore because it was last weekend,
but I was just so happy thatI could finally get a tan again.
And it's really relaxing to me.It's like it's it's self therapeutic to lay
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in the sun like that and kindof just like zone out. That's why
I love going to beaches and stuff, Like I'll lay there for hours and
hours and hours. So you havea bet attention span for that kind of
thing, because absolutely mine's gotten worseover time. So like now, laying
out for fifteen minutes, I'm like, oh, this is so boring,
like because I can't look at myphone. Then I put the music time
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to like, yeah, actually getrid of the phone. If you're laying
there for two hours, you youknow what you should listen to one of
those like motivational things where they're likeand breathing. Yeah are the most do
you listen to them? Yeah?Every morning? You are the most of
me? You know, I'm alllike an ego booster every day I used
to do. I was telling friendsI used to make one of my exes
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give me ten compliments each day becauseI needed it, give me the help
that you had to like. ButI do listen to those things and I
like them. If you're able tolay down for two hours, that's a
long time. No. So thenthat made me feel so good for the
rest of the day because I waslike, screen time is bad, like
just for mental health and everything.And I know that. I say,
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I go through like self care andthen nothing at all, and then I
get really fucked up and like,honestly, you've heard me even come in
here the last couple of times andbe like, oh, I can't sleep
my neck and blah blah blah blah. So what I realized I bought all
these different kinds of pillows, noneof them would work. Then it just
cut to me laying in bed atnight, going picking up that pillow,
putting down that pillow it is Andthen eventually I was like, you know
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what, I'm not connected. I'mlike not present. I'm like reading text
messages about work at like literally nineo'clock at night, or like doing things
that make me obsessed. Yes,and then I'm not so last night and
the night before I thought, okay, well it's not the pillows. I
bought so many of them, soall these different ones, even ones that
cup your head and hold your headwas wow, I know, what do
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you want one of those those straightjackets next? So you can't it up?
Yes, I do, because Istarted so I was tossing and turning
so much that it started to hurtthe hair follicles on my body because I
was rubbing and doing at night thatyou're rolling around like are you personality?
So like the littlest things can justjump into my head and I obsess over
them, and like what I realizedis okay. So last night I was
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like white light, I'm like,the universe is fealing me with infinite energy
and calming me down. I'm pluggingback in and it was I know,
it sounds kind of random, butit really helped. And so now I
just remembered that because I used totake Xanax and stuff like that and that
would help, like, but Ican't take medication anymore. So anyway,
now I'm all about meditation and justdoing check ins and like having some time
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without screens and just do you listento brown sound before you go to sleep?
You know, like white noise?No why don't you listen to brown
noise and it's like, you know, like that sound that like when you're
in the airplane. It's like hmm, like it's just like that hum.
And like I listened to that.I put that on my my Amazon whatever
it's called Alexa, and I justhave her play it. I like that
kind of stuff to calm myself down. And I do with that kind of
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stuff. I have to because Iwill be like you and then my whole
life will crumble if I don't sleep. Well. Yeah, I think that's
for everybody, so important. Iknow it sounds insane, although I do
love a good sleep conversation because likeI enjoy hearing if someone's had a good
sleep or like you know, becauseit is important. But anyway, now
I feel totally normal today and great, how have you been? What's going
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on? Just same old, sameold sleeping, sleeping and no just chilling.
You know. Have a couple oftrips coming up. I know we
were just talking about it, butwe're gonna go to Costa Rica. I
go to I go to Greece,then to Straca before No, I haven't
thought and Greece I want to goto. Yeah, and so I me
and Holly are in Greece for twoweeks. Did you know that, Oh
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my god, you're going with herwhen she leaves in like two weeks.
Yes, I'm going. I'm goingto be there. I didn't realize because
I just got through her travel agent. She's like, just talk to her,
and I was like, Okay,book whatever they have, because I
don't want to be like, ohmy god, you're going to be on
a cruise a career. They are. They're island hopping. And what I
think I'm going to do is likego to where I can't go anymore and
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then fly to Sicily or somebody likethat. That's right there, because I
like to travel alone and I needthat. I kind of used her going
to Greece as an excuse to getme into like Europe and stuff like that,
and so I could fly around.I think to start the trip off
with people you know, and thenbe like okay, like because in anything,
no matter how much you liked thebest, and eventually you like,
it's a long time. Yeah,so you're going to spend full two weeks
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with them and then go, No, I was going to I told her.
I said, I'm going to schedulemyself for the full two weeks.
But if I wake up one dayand I feel like going to Sicily,
you know how, I am like, I just be like whatever, I'm
going to head to Suspe. Peopleshould allow you to do whatever the fun
you want to do. It's noa personal insult on anyone, because like
I'm like you in the fact that, like I book things last minute,
I'll make different decisions on a dimeand be like listen, honey, it's
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not about you. Or if youleave a party earlier or whatever, it's
like, honey, I'm just doingwhat I need to do. Like I'm
like today, I feel like goingthe fuck away, Like it's not about
you. I'm just like ready togo sit on a rock now by myself.
Yeah, if she knows that Itold her that, I was like,
I'll definitely like I want to go. I think you're you and I
are the same in out that wehave a social battery that goes down too,
so like it's really fun in themoment until it's not, and then
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you're like, okay, I needto be like out of here to recharge.
I have. My social battery islike always dead, Like it feels
like it's always said that's one thingI can't Reacharte. I love that you're
going to Greece, though, Ifeel like that's where gay sex is invented.
That tell me, Bran, isit gay sex? Was it invented
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in Greece? Popular? Right?Was it? Yeah? Yeah, I'm
gonna have a great time there.Might go to a couple of shows or
something. They have that Oh mygod, my ex has a house there.
Never uses that. I always thoughtthat maybe I would go there.
Although it's a bit weird, youknow me in exs, I'm always keeping
them as friends and then it getsa complicated. Oh god, you go
to my friend after I break up? Everyone to like me. I don't
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want to have angry exes out therethat are mad at me. Well,
they're mad at you your friends withthem or not. I'm like, what
do you mean? They're all angry. They go through stages back and forth.
I like to talk to myself tothe end of time. I always
regret every single time I allow anex to textpe or whatever. I'm always
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like, now, I'm annoyed.Now I realize why. I don't you
know. I saw a quote whereit was like stop like being proud that
your ex is reaching out to you. They're just checking if you're still stupid.
Ever since I saw that I was. It is so true because they
approach you every single time, thesame exact time. Hey, can I
talk to you and been thinking aboutsomething? That's what they all say to
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me. And if you're feel stupid, I love it. It's true and
I am. Oh my god.Alright, so let's get into the hot
topics. Be I don't know whyI keep calling it one pictures. Okay,
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don't change the subject of dance onwhat the fuck is this piece of
shit? All right? People arestarting to buy houses with their friends instead
of partners. Oh cool segue andnew studies that shows that over twenty one
percent of Americans are buying houses withtheir friends as a way to beat the
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market and avoid renting. However,several people who have purchased a house with
their friends found that mixing friendship andmoney is playing with fire. An anonymous
study participant said that he only lastedfive years. That's a long time before
their friendship came to an end andthey sold the house and went on separate
ways. Well, people get marriedfor one year, buy a house and
a year later, so I don't. I think actually you should be proud
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for five years. Typically someone doesn'tlive in the same house for more than
seven years. Did you know thatthey people typically change their homes every seven
years, So you almost made itto that. I think it was a
good decision at the end of theday, because like they had a great
five years. Probably, yeah,And also I think that actually sounds really
cool. I think it would beeven better. You know how a lot
of places here have the two homesand you could buy like a double unit
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home here, like have you evergone and you need to have space.
I actually thought about doing that withone of my friends, and you know
the yeah, the back house andthere there's yeah, like instead of lists
and rates and things like that isgood. I saw there was a group
of women who all retired and theybought like a French chateau. So it's
this huge castle in France and there'sso much cheaper there and they all just
put in together and they're like great, now we just crush grapes outside and
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make mine like we're all friends andwe just if you're so you can be
oh, yeah, you could bein separate wings of the castle, and
they're just like, you should godown to the pool. I'll meet you
down there. I love my space. I don't like living with anybody.
I've never had an actual roommate.I've only lived with significant others, and
I just don't think I could everhandle. I need to know that nobody's
home, like I like that.But I do think it's kind of smart,
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especially if you're saving money. Butlike, how do you not make
that a bachelor pad? Or isthat what kind of what they're going for.
I don't know about these people.The ladies that I saw were like
older, so they were like,fuck, man, we don't ever want
to sleep with the man again.Don't they do that here? Oh?
Oh yeah right? So don't theyall bunch of guys that own one home.
I didn't know exactly, but Ithink that it's definitely you have to
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know who your friends are so thatyou can actually live with And for me,
no, I don't want to livewith anyone, even if I got
married again. I want to makesure that we have separate bedrooms and separate
clathrooms. Oh, separate bathrooms.You know how I am about the bathroom.
You be shaving your body, youdon't want to know. They Yeah,
you know, I got to givea shave every I mean my space.
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You know that I shave my fullheadbecause you know, it just exfoliates
the skin. But it's so good. Shave my face. Yeah, I
try to tell it's the people secret. I mean not because I haven't done
it, but like I'll shave here, I'll shave under my eye area and
the moment you do that, itstarts glowing because there's no dead skin at
all. It's like micro blading orwhatever. I do that. I try
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to tell people that all the time. And when I stop doing that,
that's when I start getting like acne. And I just was thinking the other
day and need to get it.You should get like an actually good you
can get them from before, likethe metal razers, like the real good
ones, like the ones that reallyget that layer of skin off and you'll
see it, you know, likethat fluff that comes off. But yeah,
I shave my face. Yeah.Well it's actually the smartest thing ever
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and people should listen to us.You know why there's that old wives tyle
that like you're gonna grow hair anyway, then you shave. It doesn't change
your hair, No, that's theroot. Yeah, d from the root,
from the root. But you thinkthe old wives tale is rude,
and that is rue fucking rude.Heir. Oh great, Ryan decides to
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show up our producer only three hourslay. Anyway, You're not getting any
pizza today. Fuck you, Ryan, I'm just kidding. Okay. So
Beverly Hill's matchmaker claims that looking expensiveas a woman hurts your chances. Nellie
Siduri is an LA dating coach andmatchmaker mainly working on high value singles.
I hate this lady already. Yistopped it for high value. Limit is
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not to look high value. Thismeans not showing off expensive clothes, cars,
in as, or sometimes even aneducation. She's saying, if they
see someone like you, they mightfeel like I can't provide anything for her
that she doesn't already have, orI can't impress her the way I can
impress the woman. So basically,dance beneath yourself. No, I can
see how bragging can be a turnoffand ruin your chances, Like just over
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showing off and things like that.That makes sense to me, But not
showing your education. Why would youdegrade yourself like that? That's actually could
harm your self worth and how youfeel it's going to be threatened by you
a brain. He's going to belike, get the fuck away from me.
Also, you don't want to likeI didn't even think of what you
were saying, which is true.Like there's a fine line between like being
braggy or like labels labels like Ihave all the fancy things and like and
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not actually having any money saved ornot actually being able to pay your bills,
Like I can see how that isa problem. But tell me if
someone goes to school ten years tobe a doctor and she's supposed to be
like, well, no, Idon't I didn't really go to school for
this degree, or even if it'sa two year degree like that. Shit's
hard. Nobody goes to school anymore, now, you know. She's saying,
if they see someone like you,oh yeah, So generally the girl
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will go for a girl who makesthem feel a lot more masculine energy.
So it's just about them and theircomplex. Why the hell do you want
any of these guys? So sheherself is projecting, and that's how she
feels about herself. She's trying toget other women to act like that.
One because it's not your problem ifa man doesn't feel masculine because you have
a degree, or because you havenice things, or because you provide for
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yourself. Basically, she's saying,dressed like shit and be dumb around these
guys so you can be their damseland they can say gave you. That's
that works for a certain kind ofguy. That's probably a night are Yeah,
no, and then that's living afake life too, which you don't
want to do. You want tolive in reality. Next like that one
fuck you lady and you study findsvegan men are more likely to give women
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the ick. I agree, absolutely. Can I tell you one more ick?
And I know a lot of peopleI cannot stand guys that drive Tesla's.
I don't like it driving a Tesla. It bothers me so much.
I don't know if it's the shapeof the car. They just glorified priuses.
Honestly, they're not even that cute. They're all the same and like
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they're really into them. They're likeTesla's love. I'm like, yeah,
we can see you on my way, thank you for driving a Tesla,
so we know not to It's likeit's people that drive the teslas. A
lot of Tesla drivers as well.That's the most expensive thing they are.
And they live in an apartment something. They're like, I got a tesla.
Like then they woke her and they'relike, oh, did you see
my tesla? Like I tucked herout of the front. That's an ick
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for me. Yeah. Vegan men, though, I kind of get it
just because, like I mean,I like that people don't want to eat
animals and stuff like that. Butif a man is, I don't want
to know that you're vegan. Yeah, would you date a vegan? Like
what if someone was such a veganthat they didn't want you to have meat
in the home, they didn't wantyou to eat meat around them, Well,
you do you and I'll do mebecause I don't want to tell someone
not to slaughter animals because it's betterfor the animals. Is anyone vegan here?
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Okay? Perfect? Yeah, SoI don't want anyone to get the
Yeah, I wouldn't have a problem. Like if I had to cook for
a man that wasn't like and Iwas making chicken and they didn't want the
chicken or whatever, that wouldn't botherme. But like I've been around people
who are vegan and stuff like that, and they'll be like, no,
I can't have like they feel kindof guilty eating around them. Why we
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whispering now, Oh oh okay,oh yeah, they're not here. Okay,
So I feel kind of guilty whenpeople are looking at I mean,
yeah, when they're watching meat chewon my steak. It's not necessarily an
ick for me. It's just I'mnever it's I'm not used to. Never
have I been with a vegan.I just don't know how. I yeah,
a certain kind of person. Becausealso, you can be a vegan
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and not say you're a vegan,although I haven't met one yet, because
they're like whatever, And it's notjust that they're vegan, it's that they're
just everything, like this seasoning isnot good es all that thing, or
I don't want to see it inyour car because of the state's a leather.
Yeah, I'm like, oh gosh, oh my god. I went
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on a date one time. Thiswas a long time ago, and I
didn't realize that the guy was likehe worked for the zoo with like a
rescue thing, and he was tellingme how people's skin like animals and all
this kind of stuff and how warble. It made me feel really bad and
I literally on my lap have amink purse that I had brought, and
I was like holding this bag thatyou know, my god, I hope
he doesn't think that it is real, but I hope he doesn't like realize
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that this bag is real. ForI never saw him again, so I
felt too bad. Throw paintballs thatyou yeah, like he was, and
he was. I really find ifyou buy humanely, like even meat that
you eat and stuff like that,Like I will buy organic meat that it
says like raised on fine, likeyou're supposed to do that, and then
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it's not as bad like or organiceggs and they're not stuck in tiny little
cages. You can choose wisely likethat anyway, all right, hotline questions.
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All Right, the collar needs toget a perspective on his wife's urge
to touch his penis anytime he isnaked. Anytime the collar is naked or
an underwear, his wife will pounceon him and play with his penis.
She's like a cat. Sorry,it's just the way that it's worded.
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Yankee not stroking it, he says. It's gotten to the point where he's
scared to be naked around her andwill unconsciously cover himself when she's around.
Is it normal? How can hehandle the situation? If this sometimes leads
a sex doesn't make it okay?No fall off if she keeps grabbing it
like that. Well, first off, yanking and touching someone's genitalia in like
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an aggressive way is not okay,especially if he doesn't like it. If
he's worried she's going to pounce onhim, it's making him uncomfortable, made
him go into his shell to makesme sad. It's like women when then
nipples aren't hard. I heard thisOnicky Glazes podcast that like they don't want
you to see their nipples? Whatif they she doesn't want to, he
doesn't want doesn't want men no,because like they're supposed to be have a
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choub or be e wrecked. Someguys don't want you seeing or touching their
penis when it's not small. Yes, I've had that before, where like
I always try to look at itwhen it's soft and small. They never
let me let me like, I'lltry to be like this and they're cold
and they shower, but I likeyou. I like when it shrinks up
like that. Why, I don'tknow. I'm straight, okay, but
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that's not nice. I think thatshe's got to chill. He's got to
say, listen, you're yanking onme and it's not it doesn't feel good.
Also, don't make it like aweird game like that, because like
it might make him feel uncomfortable,like, are you making fun of my
like penis? Keep it sexier.Yeah, it's it's probably definitely. It
sounds like a turn off. Ifsomeone was constantly yanking on me anywhere,
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and like anytime I got naked andstuff like that, I'd feel very uncomfortable.
It makes do you feel self conscious? Its almost like she has like
a nervous behavior where she's that's true, that could be it. Then you
need to just address that with herand say, listen, this makes me
uncomfortable. I don't like it.When I'm ready to show you my penis,
or if I happen to be walkingpast, keep your midst to yourself
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until I tell you it's okay.She doesn't own that penis. She does
what that peepe? Do? Iremember that that was an Instagram? He
was like, Oh, people alwayscome up to me and they're like,
well, hey, man, whatthat Pepe do? And he's like,
I don't know, Peace, It'sjust like a really nerdy guy. It
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was kind of funny, all right. Next question, caller cried after having
sex for their first time after abreakup. Oh have you done that?
Yes. Caller has recently broken upwith their girlfriend after a few years and
finally hooked up with a one nightstand. He says the sex was great,
but cried after finishing, and theyfelt like they were cheating on their
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AX and really weirded out there onenight stand. The caller is asking why
this happened, and why he feelssuch strong loyalty to his axe, and
how to stop this from happening inthe future. It makes me so bad
that I've never had that. Ijust said, yes, sir a bit.
I never have like just started crying. But I definitely have had sex
where I'm like, damn, likethis that didn't make me feel good,
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That wasn't worth it, Like likethat's good, yeah for sure, Like
because you're not ready, you can'tjust jump straight away sometimes or like you
think that that's going to be likethe band aid to put over, it's
all tuck to someone else. Thenit's like, Wow, that didn't hit
the spot I thought it would,like metaphorically, yeah, I mean.
And also, if you're with someonefor years and you've been loyal to them
for years, it takes time toget out of that cycle of being loyal
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to them, So it probably reallydoes feel like they're cheating in a way,
even though they're really not. I'veonly ever felt excited about some new
dick because it's not the same fuckingdick I've been stuck with. It was
such a liar. Now dick isthe best, Like that's the only time
it's good. It's when it's brandYouTube. I used to think like that,
and now I want the I justwant to say one. I don't
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want to have to go around andfind it, know this one. I
want to do this one. Yeah, but crying, I think that's normal.
I think a lot of people afterthey hook up with someone, after
they have sex, or after theybreak up with their ex, it's really
emotional, like it's just gonna taketime. I like your point about that.
It does feel like cheating a littlebit because having your heart broken is
such a difficult. It's such adifficult thing that we all just are like
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whatever, just go have sex withsomebody else or whatever they suck or it's
it's really difficult. It doesn't matterwhat's going on. It's such an emotional
thing, Like it's no joke tobreak someone's heart. Yeah, well especially
broken up onto. And then you'relike trying to have you ever been broken
up with? Yeah, but weweren't really dating the people that I've always
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dated, like properly in relationships,I've always been the one to break it
off. I never have been brokenup with. Only that has happened is
like it's only been a mutual thing, but like never in a relationship,
actual relationship. Always say that theymeant to break up the issue. Ver
No, I actually wanted this tobe over all, so I had someone
do that on So we're like,you know what, this hasn't been good
for me either for a while.I'm sure I would not think, oh
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yeah, well it probably wasn't thatgreat. But no, I'm saying that's
what they say, Like I'm surelike back in the day, because I
didn't want to like be openly gay, and I had like this one and
I wouldn't hold his hand on thebeach. I always feel bad about that
later because like, hey, I'vejust made him feel really bad about himself
because I was like, don't touchme in public, like just like he
knows that. That's how it wasfor a lot of people who are coming
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out, Like I feel like that'salways the first stage that I always hear
when someone talks about coming out,as like and how long ago? Was
that a long time? And thatwas like remember when like people would be
like I used to see people holdingagainst to you guys and be like whoa.
Yeah, when I first moved toLA that was the first time that
I really saw people walking down thestreet. Yeah, everyone here. Yeah,
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that's just something you had to workthrough. So I don't feel bad
about that. I also found outhe was a prostitute, but not for
me, but someone had told me. Guess what. It was actually kind
of hot because the way that Ifound out, someone told me and was
like, that guy's an escort.You know, he was so hot.
This guy was eleventies. He wasreally hot, and I had all this
extra money. I was like,oh, okay, whatever, he's just
like but then my friend told meand I said to him, are you
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an escort? And then he callthat guy and I know it was bad,
but he's like, I'm gonna comethere and I'm going to fucking stab
you. Like this guy's Lebanies,like middle Eastern guy was so angry and
he's like, I'm gonna fucking stabyou. And then my friend calls me
and goes, you need to putrelation, like he's literally threatening you need
to do that. I was sohot that he feels so like he doesn't
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want it, like me to thinkhe's like roster sh me. My friend.
This is so imanbe. I shouldn'tsay this, but me and my
friend the other day, I lovewatching the Netflix people getting kidnapped and like
you know what I mean, LikeI'm always no, I'm always watching like
Stocker Killer, Like I love thatone, and like can I tell you
(24:41):
a secret? You know? Andso sometimes you have Twitter for recommendation acause
I love those tree crime things thatare like relationship orange it, I know,
crazy down the house in her ownhouse. Yeah, I know.
Oh my god, that was sogood. But anyways, we're talking and
she was like, I would fakethat I'm in love with the person to
like try to get myself out ofthe situation, you know, where we
were just talking about how we wouldget ourselves out of this situation. And
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I like, what if the guy'sreally hot, like if any kidnaps me?
He's like this fucking sexy. LikeI was like, do you run?
She's like, now, oh that'strue trunk and he's just like it's
just like get out and You're like, do you play along with it then?
And be like, oh no,don't take me take me. Yeah,
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it's so hot. I know,but they are insane, but like
that's kind of adds to it.It could be a great four place,
but then it just never ends.Yeah, I'll use that one for my
ANX for a place. Yeah inthe trunk? Yes, right, kidding,
No, I'm not okay. Colinneeds helped to not feel bonded to
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their casual friends with benefits callers.Being friends with benefits with this guy for
a few weeks and feels a reallystrong connection. They both agreed it was
just so and I had no plansto date. They recently broke it off,
but is really struggling to get overher feelings and bonding to him.
What should she do? It's anothermessy situation of the friends with benefit guys.
Don't fuck your friends never good.It never works out if you actually
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like that friend, you shouldn't becauselike that relationship is more important and that
will last forever and sex does complicatethings. Do you have any friends with
benefits that you're friends with, likeactually friends with that. I've been able
to maintain a friendship with you likeevery now and then. And then my
friend fucked him all right for sevenyears I had it was like that,
like that's really bad. That's whyit was such a to explain to people,
Like why it was such a heartbreakfor me is because that was like
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one of my og friends in LA, one of my original friends when I
moved here that I met there wascool, you know what I mean?
Cool? Whatever, lady just fuckingmessage up like that. I did have
that. I'll probably never do itagain because that got me in my feelings.
Like I was like, I'm confusedabout my feeling a good thing,
So I think that, I mean, how do you stop your emotion your
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attachment to someone you're not even dating. That's that's even more difficult to do.
I would check out if you reallyactually like this person, because sometimes
you know when you're not feeling yourselfor like sometimes you're going through an emotional
period and you just think someone couldsave you, you know, and it's
not exactly a person that you reallywant, like, it's just you needing
to be saved at that time,and you look at anyone the neest person
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to save you. Yeah. Shecould also just be forward and say my
feelings have changed. I actually feellike I'm starting to develop feelings for you.
Another thing that you can protect yourselffrom. Don't have any conversations with
these people. When I had thatFriends with Benefits, it was just like
I would just walk in, havesex, walk out. That's when things
were like okay, And I thinklike sometimes the conversation is like makes the
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emotional Yeah, I say, stayaway from that, just like don't even
talk, don't text, don't goout to line the bullgag comes in yeah
the other day. Yeah all right, well good luck with that, guys.
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from Heartbreakers. Yeah, are youexcited that it's actually getting to be summer
a little bit? Mon? Yes, we only have spring and summer here.
I know that we all freak outwhen it gets like fifty five degrees,
so sometimes like it won't even getfifty five, but we are so
lucky, like we're I know,but creeping up on some summer weather.
(00:43):
So I laid out last weekend andI thought, I knew it was going
to take a while to try andget a tan. But I'm like,
okay, the UV index because I'mlike a tan junkie. It goes from
low to high or extreme, andit was unmoderate, which is a five.
So I was like, okay,that's enough. So I laid out
for two and a half hours.Wow, I know, because I'm like
the this is not gonna I'm obsescitating, like I need to be burnt anyway.
(01:03):
And then I'm like, wow,that did nothing. I was walking
around the street going, oh,I just laid up two and a half
hours, got no sun. Cutto hours later I was roasted. Yeah,
you need to like let it likekind of Yeah, soaken. My
scheme was probably like what is this? Like, I don't know how to
process. You're not burnt, thoughnot anymore because it was last weekend,
but I was just so happy thatI could finally get a tan again.
And it's really relaxing to me.It's like it's it's self therapeutic to lay
(01:27):
in the sun like that and kindof just like zone out. That's why
I love going to beaches and stuff, Like I'll lay there for hours and
hours and hours. So you havea bet attention span for that kind of
thing, because absolutely mine's gotten worseover time. So like now, laying
out for fifteen minutes, I'm like, oh, this is so boring,
like because I can't look at myphone. Then I put the music time
(01:48):
to like, yeah, actually getrid of the phone. If you're laying
there for two hours, you youknow what you should listen to one of
those like motivational things where they're likeand breathing. Yeah are the most do
you listen to them? Yeah?Every morning? You are the most of
me? You know, I'm alllike an ego booster every day I used
to do. I was telling friendsI used to make one of my exes
(02:09):
give me ten compliments each day becauseI needed it, give me the help
that you had to like. ButI do listen to those things and I
like them. If you're able tolay down for two hours, that's a
long time. No. So thenthat made me feel so good for the
rest of the day because I waslike, screen time is bad, like
just for mental health and everything.And I know that. I say,
(02:30):
I go through like self care andthen nothing at all, and then I
get really fucked up and like,honestly, you've heard me even come in
here the last couple of times andbe like, oh, I can't sleep
my neck and blah blah blah blah. So what I realized I bought all
these different kinds of pillows, noneof them would work. Then it just
cut to me laying in bed atnight, going picking up that pillow,
putting down that pillow it is Andthen eventually I was like, you know
(02:52):
what, I'm not connected. I'mlike not present. I'm like reading text
messages about work at like literally nineo'clock at night, or like doing things
that make me obsessed. Yes,and then I'm not so last night and
the night before I thought, okay, well it's not the pillows. I
bought so many of them, soall these different ones, even ones that
cup your head and hold your headwas wow, I know, what do
(03:15):
you want one of those those straightjackets next? So you can't it up?
Yes, I do, because Istarted so I was tossing and turning
so much that it started to hurtthe hair follicles on my body because I
was rubbing and doing at night thatyou're rolling around like are you personality?
So like the littlest things can justjump into my head and I obsess over
them, and like what I realizedis okay. So last night I was
(03:38):
like white light, I'm like,the universe is fealing me with infinite energy
and calming me down. I'm pluggingback in and it was I know,
it sounds kind of random, butit really helped. And so now I
just remembered that because I used totake Xanax and stuff like that and that
would help, like, but Ican't take medication anymore. So anyway,
now I'm all about meditation and justdoing check ins and like having some time
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without screens and just do you listento brown sound before you go to sleep?
You know, like white noise?No why don't you listen to brown
noise and it's like, you know, like that sound that like when you're
in the airplane. It's like hmm, like it's just like that hum.
And like I listened to that.I put that on my my Amazon whatever
it's called Alexa, and I justhave her play it. I like that
kind of stuff to calm myself down. And I do with that kind of
(04:23):
stuff. I have to because Iwill be like you and then my whole
life will crumble if I don't sleep. Well. Yeah, I think that's
for everybody, so important. Iknow it sounds insane, although I do
love a good sleep conversation because likeI enjoy hearing if someone's had a good
sleep or like you know, becauseit is important. But anyway, now
I feel totally normal today and great, how have you been? What's going
(04:44):
on? Just same old, sameold sleeping, sleeping and no just chilling.
You know. Have a couple oftrips coming up. I know we
were just talking about it, butwe're gonna go to Costa Rica. I
go to I go to Greece,then to Straca before No, I haven't
thought and Greece I want to goto. Yeah, and so I me
and Holly are in Greece for twoweeks. Did you know that, Oh
(05:06):
my god, you're going with herwhen she leaves in like two weeks.
Yes, I'm going. I'm goingto be there. I didn't realize because
I just got through her travel agent. She's like, just talk to her,
and I was like, Okay,book whatever they have, because I
don't want to be like, ohmy god, you're going to be on
a cruise a career. They are. They're island hopping. And what I
think I'm going to do is likego to where I can't go anymore and
(05:28):
then fly to Sicily or somebody likethat. That's right there, because I
like to travel alone and I needthat. I kind of used her going
to Greece as an excuse to getme into like Europe and stuff like that,
and so I could fly around.I think to start the trip off
with people you know, and thenbe like okay, like because in anything,
no matter how much you liked thebest, and eventually you like,
it's a long time. Yeah,so you're going to spend full two weeks
(05:50):
with them and then go, No, I was going to I told her.
I said, I'm going to schedulemyself for the full two weeks.
But if I wake up one dayand I feel like going to Sicily,
you know how, I am like, I just be like whatever, I'm
going to head to Suspe. Peopleshould allow you to do whatever the fun
you want to do. It's noa personal insult on anyone, because like
I'm like you in the fact that, like I book things last minute,
I'll make different decisions on a dimeand be like listen, honey, it's
(06:12):
not about you. Or if youleave a party earlier or whatever, it's
like, honey, I'm just doingwhat I need to do. Like I'm
like today, I feel like goingthe fuck away, Like it's not about
you. I'm just like ready togo sit on a rock now by myself.
Yeah, if she knows that Itold her that, I was like,
I'll definitely like I want to go. I think you're you and I
are the same in out that wehave a social battery that goes down too,
so like it's really fun in themoment until it's not, and then
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you're like, okay, I needto be like out of here to recharge.
I have. My social battery islike always dead, Like it feels
like it's always said that's one thingI can't Reacharte. I love that you're
going to Greece, though, Ifeel like that's where gay sex is invented.
That tell me, Bran, isit gay sex? Was it invented
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in Greece? Popular? Right?Was it? Yeah? Yeah, I'm
gonna have a great time there.Might go to a couple of shows or
something. They have that Oh mygod, my ex has a house there.
Never uses that. I always thoughtthat maybe I would go there.
Although it's a bit weird, youknow me in exs, I'm always keeping
them as friends and then it getsa complicated. Oh god, you go
to my friend after I break up? Everyone to like me. I don't
(07:18):
want to have angry exes out therethat are mad at me. Well,
they're mad at you your friends withthem or not. I'm like, what
do you mean? They're all angry. They go through stages back and forth.
I like to talk to myself tothe end of time. I always
regret every single time I allow anex to textpe or whatever. I'm always
(07:38):
like, now, I'm annoyed.Now I realize why. I don't you
know. I saw a quote whereit was like stop like being proud that
your ex is reaching out to you. They're just checking if you're still stupid.
Ever since I saw that I was. It is so true because they
approach you every single time, thesame exact time. Hey, can I
talk to you and been thinking aboutsomething? That's what they all say to
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me. And if you're feel stupid, I love it. It's true and
I am. Oh my god.Alright, so let's get into the hot
topics. Be I don't know whyI keep calling it one pictures. Okay,
(08:24):
don't change the subject of dance onwhat the fuck is this piece of
shit? All right? People arestarting to buy houses with their friends instead
of partners. Oh cool segue andnew studies that shows that over twenty one
percent of Americans are buying houses withtheir friends as a way to beat the
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market and avoid renting. However,several people who have purchased a house with
their friends found that mixing friendship andmoney is playing with fire. An anonymous
study participant said that he only lastedfive years. That's a long time before
their friendship came to an end andthey sold the house and went on separate
ways. Well, people get marriedfor one year, buy a house and
a year later, so I don't. I think actually you should be proud
(09:07):
for five years. Typically someone doesn'tlive in the same house for more than
seven years. Did you know thatthey people typically change their homes every seven
years, So you almost made itto that. I think it was a
good decision at the end of theday, because like they had a great
five years. Probably, yeah,And also I think that actually sounds really
cool. I think it would beeven better. You know how a lot
of places here have the two homesand you could buy like a double unit
(09:28):
home here, like have you evergone and you need to have space.
I actually thought about doing that withone of my friends, and you know
the yeah, the back house andthere there's yeah, like instead of lists
and rates and things like that isgood. I saw there was a group
of women who all retired and theybought like a French chateau. So it's
this huge castle in France and there'sso much cheaper there and they all just
put in together and they're like great, now we just crush grapes outside and
(09:50):
make mine like we're all friends andwe just if you're so you can be
oh, yeah, you could bein separate wings of the castle, and
they're just like, you should godown to the pool. I'll meet you
down there. I love my space. I don't like living with anybody.
I've never had an actual roommate.I've only lived with significant others, and
I just don't think I could everhandle. I need to know that nobody's
home, like I like that.But I do think it's kind of smart,
(10:11):
especially if you're saving money. Butlike, how do you not make
that a bachelor pad? Or isthat what kind of what they're going for.
I don't know about these people.The ladies that I saw were like
older, so they were like,fuck, man, we don't ever want
to sleep with the man again.Don't they do that here? Oh?
Oh yeah right? So don't theyall bunch of guys that own one home.
I didn't know exactly, but Ithink that it's definitely you have to
(10:37):
know who your friends are so thatyou can actually live with And for me,
no, I don't want to livewith anyone, even if I got
married again. I want to makesure that we have separate bedrooms and separate
clathrooms. Oh, separate bathrooms.You know how I am about the bathroom.
You be shaving your body, youdon't want to know. They Yeah,
you know, I got to givea shave every I mean my space.
(10:58):
You know that I shave my fullheadbecause you know, it just exfoliates
the skin. But it's so good. Shave my face. Yeah, I
try to tell it's the people secret. I mean not because I haven't done
it, but like I'll shave here, I'll shave under my eye area and
the moment you do that, itstarts glowing because there's no dead skin at
all. It's like micro blading orwhatever. I do that. I try
(11:20):
to tell people that all the time. And when I stop doing that,
that's when I start getting like acne. And I just was thinking the other
day and need to get it.You should get like an actually good you
can get them from before, likethe metal razers, like the real good
ones, like the ones that reallyget that layer of skin off and you'll
see it, you know, likethat fluff that comes off. But yeah,
I shave my face. Yeah.Well it's actually the smartest thing ever
(11:41):
and people should listen to us.You know why there's that old wives tyle
that like you're gonna grow hair anyway, then you shave. It doesn't change
your hair, No, that's theroot. Yeah, d from the root,
from the root. But you thinkthe old wives tale is rude,
and that is rue fucking rude.Heir. Oh great, Ryan decides to
(12:01):
show up our producer only three hourslay. Anyway, You're not getting any
pizza today. Fuck you, Ryan, I'm just kidding. Okay. So
Beverly Hill's matchmaker claims that looking expensiveas a woman hurts your chances. Nellie
Siduri is an LA dating coach andmatchmaker mainly working on high value singles.
I hate this lady already. Yistopped it for high value. Limit is
(12:24):
not to look high value. Thismeans not showing off expensive clothes, cars,
in as, or sometimes even aneducation. She's saying, if they
see someone like you, they mightfeel like I can't provide anything for her
that she doesn't already have, orI can't impress her the way I can
impress the woman. So basically,dance beneath yourself. No, I can
see how bragging can be a turnoffand ruin your chances, Like just over
(12:48):
showing off and things like that.That makes sense to me, But not
showing your education. Why would youdegrade yourself like that? That's actually could
harm your self worth and how youfeel it's going to be threatened by you
a brain. He's going to belike, get the fuck away from me.
Also, you don't want to likeI didn't even think of what you
were saying, which is true.Like there's a fine line between like being
braggy or like labels labels like Ihave all the fancy things and like and
(13:11):
not actually having any money saved ornot actually being able to pay your bills,
Like I can see how that isa problem. But tell me if
someone goes to school ten years tobe a doctor and she's supposed to be
like, well, no, Idon't I didn't really go to school for
this degree, or even if it'sa two year degree like that. Shit's
hard. Nobody goes to school anymore, now, you know. She's saying,
if they see someone like you,oh yeah, So generally the girl
(13:33):
will go for a girl who makesthem feel a lot more masculine energy.
So it's just about them and theircomplex. Why the hell do you want
any of these guys? So sheherself is projecting, and that's how she
feels about herself. She's trying toget other women to act like that.
One because it's not your problem ifa man doesn't feel masculine because you have
a degree, or because you havenice things, or because you provide for
(13:54):
yourself. Basically, she's saying,dressed like shit and be dumb around these
guys so you can be their damseland they can say gave you. That's
that works for a certain kind ofguy. That's probably a night are Yeah,
no, and then that's living afake life too, which you don't
want to do. You want tolive in reality. Next like that one
fuck you lady and you study findsvegan men are more likely to give women
(14:15):
the ick. I agree, absolutely. Can I tell you one more ick?
And I know a lot of peopleI cannot stand guys that drive Tesla's.
I don't like it driving a Tesla. It bothers me so much.
I don't know if it's the shapeof the car. They just glorified priuses.
Honestly, they're not even that cute. They're all the same and like
(14:37):
they're really into them. They're likeTesla's love. I'm like, yeah,
we can see you on my way, thank you for driving a Tesla,
so we know not to It's likeit's people that drive the teslas. A
lot of Tesla drivers as well.That's the most expensive thing they are.
And they live in an apartment something. They're like, I got a tesla.
Like then they woke her and they'relike, oh, did you see
my tesla? Like I tucked herout of the front. That's an ick
(15:00):
for me. Yeah. Vegan men, though, I kind of get it
just because, like I mean,I like that people don't want to eat
animals and stuff like that. Butif a man is, I don't want
to know that you're vegan. Yeah, would you date a vegan? Like
what if someone was such a veganthat they didn't want you to have meat
in the home, they didn't wantyou to eat meat around them, Well,
you do you and I'll do mebecause I don't want to tell someone
not to slaughter animals because it's betterfor the animals. Is anyone vegan here?
(15:24):
Okay? Perfect? Yeah, SoI don't want anyone to get the
Yeah, I wouldn't have a problem. Like if I had to cook for
a man that wasn't like and Iwas making chicken and they didn't want the
chicken or whatever, that wouldn't botherme. But like I've been around people
who are vegan and stuff like that, and they'll be like, no,
I can't have like they feel kindof guilty eating around them. Why we
(15:46):
whispering now, Oh oh okay,oh yeah, they're not here. Okay,
So I feel kind of guilty whenpeople are looking at I mean,
yeah, when they're watching meat chewon my steak. It's not necessarily an
ick for me. It's just I'mnever it's I'm not used to. Never
have I been with a vegan.I just don't know how. I yeah,
a certain kind of person. Becausealso, you can be a vegan
(16:07):
and not say you're a vegan,although I haven't met one yet, because
they're like whatever, And it's notjust that they're vegan, it's that they're
just everything, like this seasoning isnot good es all that thing, or
I don't want to see it inyour car because of the state's a leather.
Yeah, I'm like, oh gosh, oh my god. I went
(16:30):
on a date one time. Thiswas a long time ago, and I
didn't realize that the guy was likehe worked for the zoo with like a
rescue thing, and he was tellingme how people's skin like animals and all
this kind of stuff and how warble. It made me feel really bad and
I literally on my lap have amink purse that I had brought, and
I was like holding this bag thatyou know, my god, I hope
he doesn't think that it is real, but I hope he doesn't like realize
(16:52):
that this bag is real. ForI never saw him again, so I
felt too bad. Throw paintballs thatyou yeah, like he was, and
he was. I really find ifyou buy humanely, like even meat that
you eat and stuff like that,Like I will buy organic meat that it
says like raised on fine, likeyou're supposed to do that, and then
(17:12):
it's not as bad like or organiceggs and they're not stuck in tiny little
cages. You can choose wisely likethat anyway, all right, hotline questions.
(17:42):
All Right, the collar needs toget a perspective on his wife's urge
to touch his penis anytime he isnaked. Anytime the collar is naked or
an underwear, his wife will pounceon him and play with his penis.
She's like a cat. Sorry,it's just the way that it's worded.
(18:03):
Yankee not stroking it, he says. It's gotten to the point where he's
scared to be naked around her andwill unconsciously cover himself when she's around.
Is it normal? How can hehandle the situation? If this sometimes leads
a sex doesn't make it okay?No fall off if she keeps grabbing it
like that. Well, first off, yanking and touching someone's genitalia in like
(18:25):
an aggressive way is not okay,especially if he doesn't like it. If
he's worried she's going to pounce onhim, it's making him uncomfortable, made
him go into his shell to makesme sad. It's like women when then
nipples aren't hard. I heard thisOnicky Glazes podcast that like they don't want
you to see their nipples? Whatif they she doesn't want to, he
doesn't want doesn't want men no,because like they're supposed to be have a
(18:47):
choub or be e wrecked. Someguys don't want you seeing or touching their
penis when it's not small. Yes, I've had that before, where like
I always try to look at itwhen it's soft and small. They never
let me let me like, I'lltry to be like this and they're cold
and they shower, but I likeyou. I like when it shrinks up
like that. Why, I don'tknow. I'm straight, okay, but
(19:08):
that's not nice. I think thatshe's got to chill. He's got to
say, listen, you're yanking onme and it's not it doesn't feel good.
Also, don't make it like aweird game like that, because like
it might make him feel uncomfortable,like, are you making fun of my
like penis? Keep it sexier.Yeah, it's it's probably definitely. It
sounds like a turn off. Ifsomeone was constantly yanking on me anywhere,
(19:32):
and like anytime I got naked andstuff like that, I'd feel very uncomfortable.
It makes do you feel self conscious? Its almost like she has like
a nervous behavior where she's that's true, that could be it. Then you
need to just address that with herand say, listen, this makes me
uncomfortable. I don't like it.When I'm ready to show you my penis,
or if I happen to be walkingpast, keep your midst to yourself
(19:52):
until I tell you it's okay.She doesn't own that penis. She does
what that peepe? Do? Iremember that that was an Instagram? He
was like, Oh, people alwayscome up to me and they're like,
well, hey, man, whatthat Pepe do? And he's like,
I don't know, Peace, It'sjust like a really nerdy guy. It
(20:18):
was kind of funny, all right. Next question, caller cried after having
sex for their first time after abreakup. Oh have you done that?
Yes. Caller has recently broken upwith their girlfriend after a few years and
finally hooked up with a one nightstand. He says the sex was great,
but cried after finishing, and theyfelt like they were cheating on their
(20:38):
AX and really weirded out there onenight stand. The caller is asking why
this happened, and why he feelssuch strong loyalty to his axe, and
how to stop this from happening inthe future. It makes me so bad
that I've never had that. Ijust said, yes, sir a bit.
I never have like just started crying. But I definitely have had sex
where I'm like, damn, likethis that didn't make me feel good,
(21:00):
That wasn't worth it, Like likethat's good, yeah for sure, Like
because you're not ready, you can'tjust jump straight away sometimes or like you
think that that's going to be likethe band aid to put over, it's
all tuck to someone else. Thenit's like, Wow, that didn't hit
the spot I thought it would,like metaphorically, yeah, I mean.
And also, if you're with someonefor years and you've been loyal to them
for years, it takes time toget out of that cycle of being loyal
(21:23):
to them, So it probably reallydoes feel like they're cheating in a way,
even though they're really not. I'veonly ever felt excited about some new
dick because it's not the same fuckingdick I've been stuck with. It was
such a liar. Now dick isthe best, Like that's the only time
it's good. It's when it's brandYouTube. I used to think like that,
and now I want the I justwant to say one. I don't
(21:45):
want to have to go around andfind it, know this one. I
want to do this one. Yeah, but crying, I think that's normal.
I think a lot of people afterthey hook up with someone, after
they have sex, or after theybreak up with their ex, it's really
emotional, like it's just gonna taketime. I like your point about that.
It does feel like cheating a littlebit because having your heart broken is
such a difficult. It's such adifficult thing that we all just are like
(22:08):
whatever, just go have sex withsomebody else or whatever they suck or it's
it's really difficult. It doesn't matterwhat's going on. It's such an emotional
thing, Like it's no joke tobreak someone's heart. Yeah, well especially
broken up onto. And then you'relike trying to have you ever been broken
up with? Yeah, but weweren't really dating the people that I've always
(22:29):
dated, like properly in relationships,I've always been the one to break it
off. I never have been brokenup with. Only that has happened is
like it's only been a mutual thing, but like never in a relationship,
actual relationship. Always say that theymeant to break up the issue. Ver
No, I actually wanted this tobe over all, so I had someone
do that on So we're like,you know what, this hasn't been good
for me either for a while.I'm sure I would not think, oh
(22:52):
yeah, well it probably wasn't thatgreat. But no, I'm saying that's
what they say, Like I'm surelike back in the day, because I
didn't want to like be openly gay, and I had like this one and
I wouldn't hold his hand on thebeach. I always feel bad about that
later because like, hey, I'vejust made him feel really bad about himself
because I was like, don't touchme in public, like just like he
knows that. That's how it wasfor a lot of people who are coming
(23:12):
out, Like I feel like that'salways the first stage that I always hear
when someone talks about coming out,as like and how long ago? Was
that a long time? And thatwas like remember when like people would be
like I used to see people holdingagainst to you guys and be like whoa.
Yeah, when I first moved toLA that was the first time that
I really saw people walking down thestreet. Yeah, everyone here. Yeah,
(23:37):
that's just something you had to workthrough. So I don't feel bad
about that. I also found outhe was a prostitute, but not for
me, but someone had told me. Guess what. It was actually kind
of hot because the way that Ifound out, someone told me and was
like, that guy's an escort.You know, he was so hot.
This guy was eleventies. He wasreally hot, and I had all this
extra money. I was like,oh, okay, whatever, he's just
like but then my friend told meand I said to him, are you
(23:57):
an escort? And then he callthat guy and I know it was bad,
but he's like, I'm gonna comethere and I'm going to fucking stab
you. Like this guy's Lebanies,like middle Eastern guy was so angry and
he's like, I'm gonna fucking stabyou. And then my friend calls me
and goes, you need to putrelation, like he's literally threatening you need
to do that. I was sohot that he feels so like he doesn't
(24:19):
want it, like me to thinkhe's like roster sh me. My friend.
This is so imanbe. I shouldn'tsay this, but me and my
friend the other day, I lovewatching the Netflix people getting kidnapped and like
you know what I mean, LikeI'm always no, I'm always watching like
Stocker Killer, Like I love thatone, and like can I tell you
(24:41):
a secret? You know? Andso sometimes you have Twitter for recommendation acause
I love those tree crime things thatare like relationship orange it, I know,
crazy down the house in her ownhouse. Yeah, I know.
Oh my god, that was sogood. But anyways, we're talking and
she was like, I would fakethat I'm in love with the person to
like try to get myself out ofthe situation, you know, where we
were just talking about how we wouldget ourselves out of this situation. And
(25:03):
I like, what if the guy'sreally hot, like if any kidnaps me?
He's like this fucking sexy. LikeI was like, do you run?
She's like, now, oh that'strue trunk and he's just like it's
just like get out and You're like, do you play along with it then?
And be like, oh no,don't take me take me. Yeah,
(25:29):
it's so hot. I know,but they are insane, but like
that's kind of adds to it.It could be a great four place,
but then it just never ends.Yeah, I'll use that one for my
ANX for a place. Yeah inthe trunk? Yes, right, kidding,
No, I'm not okay. Colinneeds helped to not feel bonded to
(25:52):
their casual friends with benefits callers.Being friends with benefits with this guy for
a few weeks and feels a reallystrong connection. They both agreed it was
just so and I had no plansto date. They recently broke it off,
but is really struggling to get overher feelings and bonding to him.
What should she do? It's anothermessy situation of the friends with benefit guys.
Don't fuck your friends never good.It never works out if you actually
(26:18):
like that friend, you shouldn't becauselike that relationship is more important and that
will last forever and sex does complicatethings. Do you have any friends with
benefits that you're friends with, likeactually friends with that. I've been able
to maintain a friendship with you likeevery now and then. And then my
friend fucked him all right for sevenyears I had it was like that,
like that's really bad. That's whyit was such a to explain to people,
Like why it was such a heartbreakfor me is because that was like
(26:41):
one of my og friends in LA, one of my original friends when I
moved here that I met there wascool, you know what I mean?
Cool? Whatever, lady just fuckingmessage up like that. I did have
that. I'll probably never do itagain because that got me in my feelings.
Like I was like, I'm confusedabout my feeling a good thing,
So I think that, I mean, how do you stop your emotion your
(27:03):
attachment to someone you're not even dating. That's that's even more difficult to do.
I would check out if you reallyactually like this person, because sometimes
you know when you're not feeling yourselfor like sometimes you're going through an emotional
period and you just think someone couldsave you, you know, and it's
not exactly a person that you reallywant, like, it's just you needing
to be saved at that time,and you look at anyone the neest person
(27:26):
to save you. Yeah. Shecould also just be forward and say my
feelings have changed. I actually feellike I'm starting to develop feelings for you.
Another thing that you can protect yourselffrom. Don't have any conversations with
these people. When I had thatFriends with Benefits, it was just like
I would just walk in, havesex, walk out. That's when things
were like okay, And I thinklike sometimes the conversation is like makes the
(27:48):
emotional Yeah, I say, stayaway from that, just like don't even
talk, don't text, don't goout to line the bullgag comes in yeah
the other day. Yeah all right, well good luck with that, guys.
This is fun. Yay, seeyou next week. Guys, don't
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