Hello Hayes

Hello Hayes

Hello Hayes is a podcast about the work of becoming — honest, layered, and always evolving. Whether she’s navigating a creative block, untangling relationship patterns, or rethinking ambition, host Hayes (Alexandra Hayes Robinson) invites you into her own process and encourages you to explore yours. Originally known for her advice column on TikTok, Hayes brings a clear, curious, and emotionally intelligent voice to long-form audio. Her work — featured in BuzzFeed, The New York Times, and CBS — explores the questions beneath the surface: Who am I, really? What gets in the way of that? And how do I keep showing up as someone I recognize? This isn’t about self-help shortcuts or expert advice. It’s about asking the right questions, honoring your process, and knowing you’re not alone in it. Whether you’re navigating a major life shift or craving more clarity in the everyday, Hello Hayes is here to help you feel supported, capable, and curious about who you’re becoming. Send letters to hellohayesadvice@gmail.com

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July 16, 2025 60 mins
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How much should you sacrifice for someone who won’t do the same for you?That’s the question behind this week's Hello Hayes letter , written by someone who has given everything to her relationship and is starting to wonder if it’s being returned. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Is it betrayal when your best friend stays friends with someone who hurt you? Let's discuss... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Thank you all for submitting such great questions on the creative process and writing. This is part 1 of my 4 part Q+A series! In today's episode, we're tackling HOW TO GET STARTED. We’re gonna talk about finding a spark, idea generation, we’re gonna talk about recognizing yourself as an artist or writer and giving yourself permission to be that person, and then we’re gonna talk about being seen by others. Learn more about your ad...
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June 10, 2025 35 mins
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Today we're talking about discipline: how to get it and how to stop hating ourselves for not having it. This episode is for you if: You feel like your lack of discipline is the reason you haven’t reached your potential. You have something you desperately want to do, but can’t seem to stick with it. You wonder why discipline seems so easy for other people — and so hard for you. Learn more about your ad choices. ...
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May 27, 2025 35 mins
Today we’re talking about the healing power of books — specifically 9 books (fiction and non-fiction) that have helped me heal over the past year. The first half of this episode is a rapid-fire review of eight of my favorites, and in the second half, I do a deep dive on the book I’m currently reading: THE MYTH OF NORMAL by Dr. Gabor Maté. If you’re feeling stuck, burned out, or ready to grow emotionally, these books can support yo...
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Everyone wants (and) deserves an inner circle full of people they trust, but sometimes we get in our way own while searching for them. In this episode, we're talking about the three main ways we sabotage building our inner circle, how we can begin to properly build our inner circle brick by brick, and at the end, I'm answering an advice submission from someone who feels like everyone else has tight knit friends except for them. Enj...
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Flaky friendships are tricky. Sometimes it’s about priorities, sometimes it’s burnout, and sometimes… it’s just poor communication. In this rapid-fire Q+A, I’m answering your questions about what it really means when friends flake — and how to tell the difference between a friendship worth saving and one that’s run its course. Thank you to everyone who submitted on Instagram! (https://www.instagram.com/afhayes) This episode was ac...
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Soooo, my husband bribed me to run a 10K for diamond earrings. That's SIX POINT FOUR MILES! But this episode isn’t really about running. It’s about love, discomfort, and doing things you’re not good at…on purpose. In this episode of Hello Hayes, we talk about why I said yes to something I hate, what it means to show interest in your partner’s world, and why it's worth stepping outside your comfort zone. Whether you're a runner or n...
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In this episode of Hello Hayes, I'm unpacking one of the most common — and surprisingly complicated — questions I get when I tell people I moved across the country: "Have you made a lot of friends?" I share why that question trips me up, how my answer has evolved after moving to a new city, and why focusing on the amount of friendships might not be the most helpful way to think about building your life. Whether you're trying to ma...
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April 22, 2025 33 mins
In this episode, I tell you all about why Brian and I decided to adopt a dog and give you an honest recap of what the first week has been like. We dive into the wonderful parts...and the parts that are truly scaring the shit out of me. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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This week on the Hello Hayes pod, I'm reflecting on my beliefs about Botox. Why haven’t I done it yet? Is it moral superiority or genuine disinterest? No final answers here, just honest questions and an eyebrow or two (literally) raised. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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April 8, 2025 54 mins
What do you do when something doesn’t sit right, but addressing it feels risky? In this episode of Hello Hayes, I’m answering three advice letters that circle around one big question: Should I speak up, or move on? We’re talking about backhanded compliments, financial secrets, flaky friendships, and the moment you start to wonder if you’re asking too much — or just finally seeing things clearly. If you’ve ever questioned whether to...
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April 1, 2025 63 mins
Is therapy making everyone selfish? A friend asked me this question the other day...and I have thoughts. So in this episode of the Hello Hayes podcast, I’m sharing my personal journey with therapy and tackling your biggest therapy questions — from knowing when therapy is working to dealing with therapists who overshare, and the fear of facing what you might find out about yourself. Let's dive in :)  Learn more about your ad choices...
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in this episode, I’m sharing 12 lessons I learned at 31 that helped me get to a happier place — from rethinking success and letting my friends show up for me, to embracing fear and finding joy in the little moments. Whether you’re in your 20s, 30s, or just navigating life, I hope these lessons help you find happiness, too. 💛 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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March 18, 2025 45 mins
It's the Hello Hayes Guide to Giving Good Advice! If you’ve ever struggled with knowing what to say when a friend asks for guidance (or felt frustrated when someone gave you bad advice), this episode is for you. As an advice columnist (Hello Hayes), I’ve spent years answering your letters and helping people navigate life’s toughest situations. In this episode, I’m breaking down how to actually help YOUR people — without being overb...
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[Originally published on YouTube.] Introducing, the Hello Hayes Six Besties Theory. This friendship theory has changed my life and I’m so excited to share it with you. In this explainer video, we’re diving deep into the six essential bestie archetypes: The North Star, The Seasonal, The Good Time, The OG, The Dead Body, and The Work Bestie. But this isn’t just a list! By the end of the video, you'll learn the real life scenarios tha...
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We all have feelings we wish we didn’t. Jealousy, resentment, comparison...the kind of emotions that make us feel a little gross, even though they’re totally human. In this advice column episode, I’m answering three Hello Hayes advice letters about: 💔 A former friend struggling to let go of resentment toward their ex-best friend’s success 🤰 A woman grieving a miscarriage while navigating her cousin’s pregnancy (TW: See timestamp...
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