From Surviving to Leading: How Stacey Reed Turned Her Pain into Purpose

What if the very things you thought disqualified you from making an impact were the exact things that qualified you to lead?

In this deeply powerful episode of Her Purpose, Kindra sits down with transformational coach and founder of Impact Leadership Community, Stacey Reed. From growing up in an abusive household, to battling addiction, enduring a toxic marriage, and walking away from the business she built—Stacey’s journey is nothing short of remarkable.

But her story doesn’t end in the mess—it begins there.

Stacey shares how sobriety, transformational leadership training, and radical self-responsibility helped her step into the most aligned, powerful, and purposeful version of herself. With raw vulnerability, she opens up about the moment she stopped waiting for permission, started loving the woman in the mirror, and began coaching others to build 10/10 lives and relationships—starting from wherever they are.

Whether you're in the middle of a hard season or standing on the edge of reinvention, this conversation will remind you:
You don’t have to have it all figured out. You just have to be willing to go first.

✨ Topics we cover:

• How Stacey found her purpose after hitting rock bottom
• Why healing your relationship with yourself is the foundation for everything
• What it means to be the uncontested author of your life
• Creating 10 out of 10 relationships—without waiting for others to change
• The power of community, leadership, and aligned action

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Summary

In this conversation, Stacey Reed shares her transformative journey from a painful past to a fulfilling life as a coach. She discusses the importance of self-discovery, the power of intention, and the significance of building 10 out of 10 relationships. Stacey emphasizes that personal growth often comes from embracing the messiness of life and investing in oneself. She also highlights the value of community support and the need to give dignity to others while pursuing one's own vision.

Takeaways

Living in purpose is freeing and energizing.
Every mess has a silver lining if we look for it.
Pain serves as a wake-up call for transformation.
You can create a vision for your life and pursue it.
Building 10 out of 10 relationships requires commitment and self-love.
Investing in yourself is crucial for personal growth.
Your past experiences can become your greatest assets.
You are responsible for your own happiness and relationships.
Embrace the messiness of life as part of the journey.
You can achieve a 10 out of 10 life by being intentional.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Background
05:21 Purpose and Career Path
05:22 Finding Purpose and Alignment
08:29 Catalysts for Change
11:21 Transformational Leadership Journey
14:21 Emerging as a Coach
17:21 Overcoming Naysayers and Self-Doubt
20:12 Creating a Vision for Life
23:21 Building Relationships and Trust
26:20 The Power of Intention and Responsibility
34:45 Transforming Relationships Through Self-Reflection
41:05 Embracing the Messiness of Life
44:15 Investing in Yourself for Transformation
45:36 Creating 10 out of 10 Relationships
47:57 Turning Pain into Purpose
51:01 Judgment vs. Curiosity: A Shift in Perspective
54:

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