Here Comes Sunshine with Sarah Valentine

It’s time to stop performing and start attracting. In this episode, I’m speaking directly to the man who’s tired of chasing and tired of guessing what women want, tired of pretending to be someone he’s not.

Real confidence isn’t loud. It’s rooted. It’s steady. And it begins when you start keeping promises to yourself. We’ll dive into what makes a man magnetic (it’s not money or muscles), how to shift from impressing to connecting, a...

Loneliness can feel heavy, but it doesn’t mean you’re broken.

In today’s episode, I’m inviting you to look at your loneliness not as a problem to fix, but as a message to explore. Whether you’re divorced, single, or simply feeling disconnected, this one’s for you.

We’ll talk about the difference between being alone and being lonely, how to listen to what your soul might be craving, and why your loneliness could be the doorway to de...

You don’t need more discipline, you need a better system.

In this follow-up episode inspired by Atomic Habits, we dive into the science behind behavior change and explore the four keys to building lasting habits and the reverse formula for breaking the ones that are keeping you stuck. You’ll learn how to make new habits obvious, attractive, easy, and satisfying, and how to design your life to support the person you’re becoming.

This...

Big changes don’t start with willpower; they start with one small step.

In this episode of Here Comes Sunshine, we explore key takeaways from James Clear’s Atomic Habits, including why tiny changes are more powerful (and sustainable) than big goals. You’ll learn how to shift your identity, create habits that stick, and build real momentum by doing less, not more. Whether you're trying to develop confidence, consistency, or just get...

Have you ever felt like an extra in your own life, watching from the sidelines, downplaying your voice, or shrinking to stay safe?

Let's discuss rewriting the stories we tell ourselves and explore what it means to reclaim your main character energy, not from ego, but from truth. Together, we’ll explore how social conditioning, comparison, and outdated relationship dynamics can lead us into roles we never intended to take on.

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Ever stop to wonder where that voice in your head came from? The one that says you’re not good at something, not safe, not capable?

Today, I share a personal story, and we delve into the roots of those old beliefs, asking the powerful question: Who told you that?

Sometimes it’s an ex, a parent, a coach, or even a joke that wasn’t funny. However, when we hear something repeatedly, especially from someone we once trusted, we begin to ...

Are you feeling more forgetful, reactive, or emotionally flat lately? You’re not broken, you might just be caught in what Chase Hughes calls “The Glitch.”

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In this episode of Here Comes Sunshine, we explore why so many of us feel off right now, what’s happening in our minds and nervous systems, and how to reclaim clarity in a world always demanding our atten...

Letting go isn’t weakness, it’s a powerful act of self-respect.

In the final part of this 4-episode series, we talk about how to release a relationship that no longer honors who you are.

Not with bitterness or blame, but with clarity, intention, and grace. You’ll learn how to grieve what’s ending, set firm boundaries, and create a healing plan to guide your next chapter. If you’re ready to stop living in limbo and start choosing gr...

Sometimes we’re not ready to leave, but we don’t want to stay stuck. In Part 3 of this series, we explore what it looks like to give your relationship one more try, with clear intention and emotional integrity. If you’re wondering, “Can this still be rebuilt?”—this episode will walk you through how to show up differently, invite connection without pressure, and listen for the truth in her response because trying again doesn’t mean ...

Welcome back to Here Comes Sunshine. In Part 2 of our Deciding to Stay or Go series, we're turning the focus inward. You can’t make a grounded decision about your relationship until you know what you're truly looking for.

So many men over 40 have never fully asked themselves:

• What kind of connection do I crave?
• What does intimacy look like for the man I’ve become?
• What type of partnership feels aligned with my values?

Welcome to Here Comes Sunshine. Today, we begin a powerful four-part series for anyone who has ever lain awake asking, “Should I stay, or is it time to go?”

Whether you’ve been married for decades, dating again after divorce, or sitting in a relationship that no longer feels right, you’re not alone. This episode invites you to stop ignoring your needs and get honest about where you truly stand.

We’ll explore:

• How to create a relat...

In today’s episode of Here Comes Sunshine, I’m talking about one of the most damaging forces in any relationship: contempt.

You’ll hear how it shows up, why the Gottman Institute calls it the number one predictor of divorce, and how to recognize it in your own life. I also share a personal story of what contempt looked like in my past relationship, and how I found the strength to walk away.

I reference a powerful video clip from Dia...

Do soulmates really exist?

Or is love about timing, readiness, and doing the inner work first?

In today’s episode, I respond to a listener who asked me to describe my soulmate. I share why I believe we have many potential matches in this life and how my journey through heartbreak, healing, and clarity helped me call in a partner who aligns with the woman I’ve become.

This episode is part story, part encouragement, and full of tools...

Today’s question comes from a follower:

“What kind of responses to your sexy pics do you prefer?”

And while that might seem like a simple question, my answer is anything but.

I’m diving deep into how my views on attention, sensuality, and online expression have changed, mainly as I’ve processed past abuse, found a committed relationship rooted in respect, and done the emotional work of reclaiming my body and voice.

This episode is f...