My Defiant Dance With a Man in Drag

Remember the thrill of sneaking out, feeling like a rebel against the rigid rules of your teenage years? Join me as I recount one of the most amusing acts of defiance from my high school days—a night when my friend Brian and I dared to crash the school dance, despite my mother's ironclad ban. With Brian strutting in drag, we didn't just attend; we stole the spotlight. This episode is a quirky reflection on the universal tension between youthful rebellion and parental authority, leaving you to wonder if there might have been a way to defy the rules with a touch more respect.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Here for the memories thought-provoking audio memoir
shorts filled with stories,humor, anecdotes and commentary
on social, cultural, businessand religious issues.
Whatever Lyndon remembers andthinks will entertain, challenge
and inform is a possiblesubject.

(00:20):
The collection of memoriesabout one's life allows for the
development and refinement of asense of self, including who one
is, how one has changed andwhat one might be like in the
future.

Speaker 2 (00:34):
Greetings and salutations.
This is Lyndon Wolfe and youhave reached my audio memoir
called here for the Memories.
It's not a podcast.
Please don't say that.
It's an audio memoir forfriends and family to have
something to know me by somesource of information on my life
, my opinions, my experiencesand just you know things in

(00:55):
general.
Glad you joined.
You're always welcome.
Everything in the house that Igrew up in was sinful.
Let me say that again Sinful.
Okay, that's a grossexaggeration, but there was a
pretty long list of activitiesand substances that would
immediately put you in jeopardyof eternal damnation.

(01:17):
A truncated list would includeplaying cards, playing billiards
.
Premarital sex Okay.
Depending on what yourdefinition of marriage is, this
one certainly has some merit.
Interesting story I was once ina singles class at a Southern
Baptist church when the subject,of course, came up.

(01:38):
When the facilitator that wouldbe me asked the question if
premarital sex was okay, amiddle-aged man, seemingly
unaware that he was in a roomfilled with single Christian
women and thus putting himselfin harm's way, blurted out
couldn't believe this.
Is there any other kind?
Due to the restraint of theHoly Spirit, he left the room

(01:58):
unscathed A modern-day miracle.
But back to the list Tobaccousage.
Swearing based upon culturaldefinitions, of course,
inappropriate clothing.
Candidly, I never saw my motherthat she didn't have a skirt on
ever, and most young women inthat quite conservative day she
probably would have consideredlewd Gambling over anything

(02:21):
other than Christ's clothingclothing or Judas Iscariot's
replacement among the originaltwelve and dancing that seemed
to be the most loathed Dancing.
In summation, if it was fun,pleasurable, enjoyable, it was
sin, if you like it.
It's got to be wrong.
By the way, that also has somemerit.

(02:44):
So my senior year in high school, having been prohibited from
attending any school dances, Iasked a lifelong friend, a good
girl, a mother knew as well asher fine family, to accompany me
.
Amy was willing to be seen withme, which was actually quite
shocking, even though it wasmore of an appearance than a
date.
After explaining to my motherthe situation, my desire to go,

(03:05):
that it would be Amy and sheknew her family, yada, yada, she
paused for less than one secondand said no, in no uncertain
terms.
None of the other kids shereasoned had so I would not be
allowed to either.
Dejected, I told Amy andplotted activities for dance
night to keep me from thinkingabout what I was missing.

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Brian Decker, though seriouslymore handsome and nice than I,
had a similar problem.
Not the prohibition piece, hejust didn't have a date, which I
never figured out, so hedecided to hang out.
But that meeting launchedhatched, if you will a heinous
plan to attend the dance undervery strange circumstances.

(03:51):
I believe it was Brian I'mgoing to blame him with thick
mustache and all who said hewould dress in drag even though
we didn't call it drag in the70s.
Who said he would dress in drageven though we didn't call it
drag in the 70s, and that wewould crash the party, so to
speak.
And we did.
We both played on the school'sbasketball team, so we were
relieved.
When Coach Majors was monitoringthe entrance, a man who never

(04:13):
laughed in his entire existencebroke into the faintest of grins
and said get in there.
This is the most boring danceever.
It's like watching paint dry orgrass grow.
Maybe you'll liven things up.
Then he said go in hisdemanding voice, and off we went
.
So, despite my mother'sprohibition, her clear

(04:35):
objections, I was not only atthe dance, I was at the dance
with a man in drag and I mustsay that we were hit, as they
say.
We got the party started.
Brian was a much better dancerthan I.
I had no clue, candidly, sinceit was banned.
In my household Even theobservation of it on something

(04:55):
like Lawrence Well was barred orbanned, and at my house the
best description of my dancingto this very day would be that
of a seizure.
So of course I let him lead.
That was kind, that wasgracious, that was practical.
My mother would have been proud, except I shouldn't have been
at the dance.
Later we even got our picturemade, like all couples.

(05:17):
That picture, to my amazementand trepidation, made it into
the school annual Brian withthick mustache, lady's hat,
skirt, pulled up showings of legand me next to him laughing
uncontrollably and pointing athim with hand close to my
stomach, which was cramping fromall the intense laughter and
excessive goof-offs.

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So I defied.
My mother, attended a dancewith a man in drag, shamelessly
committed the atrocity of dancefloor gyrations, seizures, and
left the evidence of it all in apicture that told the sordid
story of my defiance.
I'm so glad my mother neverfound out at least to my

(06:00):
knowledge she didn't.
I had enough family demeritswithout this major one.
Plus, it would have hurt her toknow that her son defied her,
even though he considered herdemands unreasonable.
He should have been obedient.
I don't know what your story is.
I don't know the dynamics ofyour family if they were
legalistic or if they wereliberal but you know, all

(06:23):
children think that theirparents' demands are
unreasonable, even when they'renot.
That's just the way we're wired.
We're wired for rebellion.
As you look back on your familydynamics and the way your
parents raised you, were yourespectful?
I wish I'd been more respectful.
Were you obedient, at least inthe sense that you were willing

(06:44):
to listen and tolerate what theywere telling you to do?
I wish I had been more obedient.
You know, I've always said thatevery day I live, my parents
get smarter, better and wiser.
When I was 15 or 16, they wereidiots.
Then I got married and had achild and tried to start a

(07:05):
career and tried to balanceeverything keep up with the
finances, keep up with work,keep up with the family.
It was exhausting and suddenlymy parents got smarter, better
and wiser.
And as I continued to age, theystill get smarter, better and
wiser.
And as I continued to aid, theystill get smarter, better and
wiser.
I hope that's the case with you.
Yes, at some point we all, inour youth and naivety and our

(07:29):
belief that we have our head andhands around everything on this
planet, the world, how it works, life in general, think our
parents are stupid.
But don't we know today theyreally aren't, they never were.
I pray you look back on yourrelationship with your parents
and find it happy, whole andblessed.
I'm Lyndon Wolfe.

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Go make some memories and Godbless.

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