Highly Sensitive, Happily Married

089  As you may have heard, self-love is key to having deep lasting love and harmony between you and your spouse–in SO many ways. 

I know you may get that– in theory! But too many highly sensitive people leave it at that--just theory. Understanding this intellectually does not give you what you need to actually FEEL and LIVE FROM that self-love– nor benefit from all it makes possible for you in your marriage and life.

And, truth be t...

088  We’ve all heard how Self-Love is important, but actually loving ourselves often remains very mysterious and elusive. So we are embarking today on a series all about self-love––because it is such an essential part of having a great marriage, especially as a highly sensitive person…and I want YOU to reap the huge rewards of having lots of it! 

My clients actually develop real self-love. And a few of them have agreed to come on th...

087  For most of us highly sensitive women, the ultimate marriage would be one that feels truly, lovingly, interdependent:

Where you and your significant other are mutually supportive, you face the daily challenges of living together with a sense of ally-ship, where you lean on each other, and love helping each other grow and evolve and overcome hard moments and old wounds, where you naturally lift each other up, and the daily to-do...

086  Pleasure, feeling good, sex, and enjoying being in our bodies are such wonderful, beneficial, and important parts of marriage…(and, really, being human beings!). I mean, why bother being married if there' s no pleasure to be had in it? 

Bringing MORE pleasure into our lives than many of us have currently is revolutionary, not just for our marriages, but for our world. Our pleasure benefits our marriages-- and so much more!

T...

085  We have a limited amount of time in our lives. But how we use our time will determine how fulfilling our lives are–and how fulfilling our marriages are.

If we have a mindset that time is scarce, or there's too much to do (which can be really common for us as highly sensitive women )we will keep ourselves from prioritizing the things that most matter to us. . .

. . . and end up with a life–and a love life– that is lacking in ...

083   Want to be able to guide yourself and your marriage into a place of more love, more connection, more light-heartedness and mutual supportiveness (or what I call the land of Real-Enchantment–or lasting love)? Today I introduce you to a tool that will help you do just that!

Because,  the truth is, after some years of marriage or partnership,  it can take some self-guidance to connect to real love for our partner , and STAY there...

As highly sensitive people (HSPs), we are more sensitive to all the things than non-HSPs. Because of this, some popular advice for HSPs can tend toward finding environments and external circumstances that will support our sensitive systems. 

That's all fine and good when we can control such things. But when it comes to other people–especially our partner–we can't usually make them “suit” us. We can’t control the “circumstanc...

As a highly sensitive woman, you likely love –and want more—emotional intimacy. So you will want to know what creates it between two people, and what leads you further from it in your marriage.  

In this episode, I share the gold on all of it, and let you in on how to create more emotional intimacy with your husband—even without his active participation. 

We look together at:

If you’ve been listening to this podcast at all, it's because you’re an Highly Sensitive Person who wants to make things better, and stay great, in your relationship or marriage. 

If so, it’s important that you understand the two modes we, as HSPs, need to move back and forth between in order to best grow, change, and shift things between us and our significant other (and keep things really healthy).

If we only stay in one of the...

079  Most of us limit ourselves (unconsciously, of course!) from feeling as much love as we could in our marriages. We therefore not only miss out on all the love available, but we also miss out on the benefits it brings to our marriages, and to our own selves–of which there are SO many, especially for you as a highly sensitive person. 

Now, you may want to feel more love, but you may also feel like it’s not really up to you. That h...

078  This episode offers you encouragement and an important reminder that I know I used to need often, myself. This could be a great episode to listen to with your partner, if they are willing.

Growing up in this world, it is hard to escape taking on certain basic ideas about marriage and love—ones, unfortunately,  that are not only wrong, but also actually prevent us from having the deeply loving and healthy marriages most of us wa...

You want to feel like your partner is your teammate in making this marriage better. But you may sometimes (or often) feel alone in doing that work, or it seems he avoids working on certain aspects of your marriage–even if you’ve asked him to. You're not quite sure what it takes to sway the tides and get him improving your marriage by your side.

I have been here, too. But I learned how to change all of that! Now I never feel I’m ...

076  Today I’m sharing with you the 3 phases we go through to get to a mature love that lasts in our marriage. 

Often we don't understand or recognize the phase we’re in, that it is normal, and what we can do to move our relationship through the harder phase and into the place that is most deeply alive and loving–and so we miss out on ever getting there.

Today, that all changes!

In this episode I help you understand what phase you...

075  You’ve been listening to this podcast (or other ones on relationships), reading books, learning about how to have the kind of marriage you want. You're trying out new approaches. But you aren't seeing as much change as you wish…and  you feel frustrated, or discouraged, or at the least, not as hopeful about things as you want to feel. Maybe you even feel like you want to quit bothering with all the effort.

If so, you are...

We all are born with 2 particular “biases” of our brains that make lasting love difficult…that is, until we understand them and learn to overcome them!

These innate biases are simply ways our human brains (highly sensitive or not) naturally function that lead to perceiving the world–and our partner –in certain predictable ways. 

If you ever feel resentful, disappointed in, frustrated with, or hurt by your partner…if the same issues a...

073  Can highly sensitive people become less sensitive? Many HSPs wonder this! And many experts say no.

I have a slightly different take, one that will bring you hope, clarity, and motivation. In this episode I share what I know is possible to change and what isn’t when it comes to being sensitive–especially when it comes to emotional sensitivity. 

I break down for you the 5 most common approaches to handling emotions that actually l...

It may seem like it will be complex to make your marriage one you love, that there are just so many things you need to do .... And ….it WILL be complicated, if you try to patchwork lots of to-do’s together to improve things.

But I’ve got good news for you: it can actually be simple to improve things by 100% – when you have laid out for you the simple foundational steps that lead to a great marriage.

Today I share with you the basics ...

071  Last week we talked about connecting your significant other's way, and the benefits it brings you. Lest you think you always need to bend to his ways (oh no you don’t), today we discuss connecting YOUR way, and my favorite 5 step process for doing so.

If you love connecting through communication, as so many sensitive women do,  or you simply want more emotional intimacy in your life with your husband, listen all the way thr...