What happens when joy feels like a luxury you didn’t earn? In this powerful conversation with life coach and facilitator Ashmi Patel, we explore the quiet ache of perfectionism, inherited guilt, and the radical practice of feeling good—on purpose.
Ashmi shares how growing up as the daughter of immigrants shaped her relationship to joy, rest, and self-worth. From late-diagnosed ADHD to healing through creativity and coaching, she invites us to rethink the stories we’ve been told about what we deserve. If you’ve ever felt guilty for slowing down, choosing yourself, or daring to enjoy your life—this one’s for you.
🌀 Topics we explore:
- How perfectionism and people-pleasing block joy
- Guilt around rest and success (especially for children of immigrants)
- The emotional weight of “earning” your joy
- Creative healing and honoring your needs
- What joy looks like outside of achievement
📤 Have you ever felt like you had to earn your joy—or that it came at a cost? Maybe you felt guilty for feeling good while others were struggling, or found it hard to celebrate something that came easily. Where do you think that feeling came from?: https://form.smartsuite.com/sszxz4mn/sxwLOAg7ur
🤝🏾 Connect with Ashmi
- Email: coach@ashmipatel.com
- Website: https://ashmipatel.com/
- All Feelings Welcome (Substack): https://ashmipatelcoaching.substack.com/subscribe
- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ashmi-patel/
📚 Resources Mentioned
- Rick Rubin – The Creative Act (book) https://bookshop.org/a/79820/9780593652886
- Ross Gay – Inciting Joy (book) https://bookshop.org/a/79820/9781643753959
- Ross Gay – The Book of (More) Delights https://bookshop.org/a/79820/9781643756356
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🎛️ Production Credits
- Produced & Edited by: Jonathan Dumas
- Co-Produced & Additional Editing: Reggie Hall
- Contact: HighlyVisiblePodcast@gmail.com
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