In this deeply insightful episode of Holding Space, Dr. Christopher Barker explores the often-misunderstood connection between trauma and narcissistic personality disorder (NPD).
Dr. Barker unpacks how narcissism can develop as a defense mechanism when trauma fractures a person’s sense of identity — leading to a constructed image they will do anything to protect. From the myth of Narcissus to modern psychological theories, this episode dives into the emotional complexity behind narcissistic behaviors, including rage, control, gaslighting, and trauma bonding.
He also discusses the challenges of engaging narcissistic individuals in therapy, the toll these relationships take on those closest to them, and how trauma can ripple outward — reshaping how survivors see themselves and others.
Whether you’re a therapist, survivor, or simply curious about the deeper layers of narcissism, this episode offers reflection, clarity, and a call to approach all of it with empathy.
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