Understanding Attachment Styles: Secure, Anxious, Avoidant & Disorganized | Holding Space with Dr. Barker

In this insightful episode of Holding Space with Dr. Barker, clinical psychologist Dr. Christopher Barker explores the psychology of attachment styles—a concept rooted in developmental and relationship psychology that's gained significant attention in recent years. Drawing on foundational research by Mary Ainsworth and Bowlby’s attachment theory, Dr. Barker breaks down the four main attachment styles: secure, avoidant, anxious (ambivalent), and disorganized.

This episode takes a deep dive into the origins of attachment styles in early childhood and their impact on adult relationships, emotional availability, intimacy, and relational conflict. Dr. Barker focuses on secure attachment, explaining how it develops, what it looks like in adult partnerships, and why it's essential for building healthy, trusting, and dependable relationships.

You'll also hear about how mismatched attachment styles—like when a securely attached person is in a relationship with someone who is anxious or avoidant—can lead to communication issues, emotional withdrawal, and trust concerns. Dr. Barker provides nuanced reflections and introduces ideas that will be explored further in future episodes.

Whether you're looking to improve your relationship dynamics, better understand your own attachment style, or simply grow in emotional intelligence, this episode is packed with psychological insight and practical takeaways.

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