July 3, 2025 • 14 mins
Ep. #774 | Almost 6 years, millions of downoads, thousands of lives changes—and this is the most important episode of the show yet.
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(00:00):
774 episodes into this show, today is the most important
episode yet. Let me tell you what's changing
little story about how we got here and why it's going to be a
very, very good change for you going forward.
So let me rewind a little bit. It is really kind of crazy to
(00:20):
think about the fact. For me, it is to think about the
fact that this is episode number774 of this show.
I remember before I published the first episode, I remember
thinking the only way that I could get over the hump was I
was thinking to myself, if one person listens to this and get
some benefit out of it, then it's worth it.
(00:42):
Because it was like all of this inner stuff to try to get over
the hump. Like, why is anybody going to
listen to me? And what the hell do I know?
And all of these doubts and fears and insecurities at the
very beginning of this journey. And that's really what I fell
back on. One of the things that I've told
a lot of you guys, if you've been listening to the show for a
while, I've mentioned it a number of times, certainly
(01:03):
coaching clients, it often comesup.
And that is the value in chunking things down when things
seem really big, even when the vision is really big or the task
itself that actually needs to bedone is really big.
One of the best things we can dois chunk it down.
So that's what I did in my mind,right?
It wasn't, oh, what is the show going to be and how many people
are going to listen? And I came back to, if one
(01:25):
person listens, it'll be worth it, right?
And now, 774 episodes later, something like 180 a 170
different countries have downloaded episodes of the show
and millions of downloads. I'm so grateful for this
journey. Let me really quickly rewind a
little bit further because I never thought ever that I would
be doing this. This was not in my like life
(01:47):
vision. It just happened so really
quickly. Let me give you a little rewind
in how that happened. So in the early years of my
working career, I was a stock trader.
I worked for Fidelity Investments for about 8 years
and did pretty well. I was not happy.
It wasn't anything I was particularly meant to do other
(02:07):
than the fact that my brain is pretty good with numbers.
I was in math league actually growing up.
I remember that as as a youngster.
So I worked for Fidelity for a while, wasn't happy.
Ended up leaving that right around that time.
And a big part of me leaving wasmy son as a newborn, had open
heart surgery. That was a brutal and beautiful
(02:30):
and layered and incredibly challenging experience for him
and certainly for his mom and I.And during that time, a lot of
things changed for me, so many things internally.
And one of the things that changed was I knew that I could
never, I knew that I couldn't keep going back to a job that at
that time I really hated. And it really made me start to
(02:52):
look at things in a different way.
So then I worked for myself and struggled working various
marketing things, digital marketing and did some affiliate
marketing back in the day. And over the years, over a 678
year period, I was changing. I was really working on myself
in a lot of ways. And I started to kind of get
these inklings, like maybe maybeI should talk to other guys
(03:15):
about this stuff, right? Maybe maybe there's something
there. And it was very subtle in the
background kind of feelings at first for a long time.
And then I would be at the climbing gym and I'd get in
conversations at the climbing gym that I was at 300 plus days
a year at that time. And I would get in these
conversations and somebody be like, are you a coach?
And be like, no, I have a digital marketing company or
whatever. It was not in alignment, right?
(03:36):
And it started to get more clearthat, hey, maybe this is kind of
something that I should do. And I started to think more and
more about it. And then I got divorced, which
was incredibly hard. If you've been divorced, you
know that. If you haven't, you can imagine.
I was married for almost 17 years, which I'm so grateful
for. She was a wonderful, is a
(03:57):
wonderful woman. I love so many things about our
marriage. We got three amazing kids out of
our marriage. What a beautiful blessing it all
was. Also part of that blessing was
as that divorce happened. One of the things that happens
with divorce is it's like this cracking of our, our, our shell,
our identity, because we get these, these pictures and
(04:19):
beliefs about who we are, right?A lot of people identify with
their job very strongly, right? It becomes a big part of their
identity. I do this, right?
And if we're married, it becomes, oh, I am a husband.
And if we have kids becomes, oh,I'm a father.
And so at that time, I was a father.
I was a husband. I had this business that I was
in. And then the divorce happened
(04:40):
and it cracked some of those things.
So I wasn't a husband any longerand I was a father, but not in
the same way, right? Because the time with them
changed. And certainly some things
changed through that process. So there was a bit of a, a, a
cracking of that kind of pictureas well.
And really what I ended up doingis just allowing everything in
(05:00):
my being to be torn down. I, I gave up all of the pictures
over a year or two time frame. I gave up all of the pictures
of, of who I was and what was I meant to do.
And I started asking myself thatquestion and I started asking
myself a lot of questions. And one of the questions that I
asked myself through that process led to an answer, which
(05:23):
was that if I didn't do something with this coaching
thing that had been living in mymind, that it would be probably
the number one thing that I would regret at the end of my
life. That was like the answer that
became clear to me through this process.
So as I got that answer, that was it.
It was like, well, OK, now I have to do it.
(05:43):
I mean, I'm not, I'm not going to live with that and just not
do it. So I have to do it.
And it took me a while and I didn't have clarity.
I didn't have clarity around thebrand or how to really approach
really exactly who I wanted to talk to and how I wanted to help
and what I was going to deliver.And I didn't have clarity around
(06:03):
that. And then I got a little bit of
clarity. The brand name became clear to
me, right? Holistic Alpha became clear.
And I really love that. Actually.
It's not anything that I identify as like a personal.
I'm not like, hi, I'm holistic Alpha that that's not what it is
at all. And if you've been listening to
the show, you know that if you're new to the show now, you
do what it is, is a very succinct way, I believe, of
(06:27):
describing what it is that I'm trying to do, what it is that I
try to teach and have been teaching now through 774
episodes of the show and thousands of coaching calls.
It very succinctly sums up what I try to be in my life, right?
And what's very quickly a reminder maybe or quickly
touching on for the first time what I mean by that term alpha,
(06:48):
because this alpha male idea or that word alpha has lots of
connotations that can potentially be associated with
that. What I mean by that is being in
charge of ourselves, being in charge of our own mind and
emotions and body and actions and sexuality and communication
and all of the aspects of our life so that we can create what
(07:10):
we want to create with our life.Because when we're not creating
what we want to create with our life, it's because we're not in
charge of our own being. We have thoughts or emotions
that are leading us directions that we don't want to go.
We have patterns that are keeping us stuck and things that
we don't want to be stuck in. Being alpha is about being in
charge of ourselves, right? And that word holistic is very,
(07:33):
very important because it has tobe that that's the only way to
truly elevate our lives is in a holistic way because we are one
being, right? We can't just focus on one part
of our life and expect that it'sgoing to lift up the entirety of
our life. We need to look at the entirety
of our life. However, here's what I
(07:53):
discovered. So I put those first 3 episodes
out right? It was like crazy again.
I had so many doubts. You have no idea how many doubts
I have dealt with through this entire journey.
So many people, I'm sure it's very easy to listen to or watch
the show and think that it's like just comes natural or what?
(08:13):
It has been an absolutely gnarlyjourney to work through my own
inner doubts and insecurities and fear and, and getting my
voice out there and being on camera as I started to do video
and all the things. So I put those first 3 episodes
out and not very long later, 10 episodes into the show, I start
(08:33):
getting coaching clients, right?And the very first three
coaching clients that I get, it was I think maybe after 1012
episodes, something like that. Those first three guys all we're
about something sexuality related.
I've done 10 or 12 episodes. I think I'd have to go back and
look on ball parking maybe like 3-2 or three of those episodes
(08:55):
were really about something verydirectly sexual, may have been a
little more than that, certainlywas not a majority.
So those first 10 or 12 episodes, less than majority of
the episodes are about sexuality.
But then those first three coaching clients that I get that
that's that's what they care about.
That's what they want to work on.
And then over these years, what has happened is a couple of
things have become clear. 1 is that again, over and over and
(09:18):
over again, you guys that come to me for support and
brotherhood and help along your journey and speeding up your
journey and getting through someof these challenges and
transforming in some of these ways over and over again.
The primary issue that I hear from guys, not 100%, but the
primary issue is something sexuality related.
(09:39):
And I think there's a couple of reasons for that.
One is that it is just such a big issue in our lives.
It's such a foundational important issue in our lives.
It very much is. We'll talk about that a little
more in a minute, but that's part of it.
And then I think the other part of it and something that I've
realized is that it's also whereI have had more unique value to
(09:59):
share. I don't know why that is, but
the things that have sort of come through where everything's
come from in this universe, the ideas and experiences and and
tests and all of the things thatI've followed this path, the
unique part of that has largely been in this realm of sexuality,
right? And so things have aligned over
(10:20):
time to make it very, very clearto me that sexuality is it's the
key. It is the keystone, right?
And that's been clear to me for a while.
And if you've been listening to the show for a while, you know
that overtime, more more the episodes have either been about
something sexuality related or more often, I'll sort of loop
(10:41):
that into it, right? But it hasn't been 100%.
There've been a lot of episodes that are not sexuality related
at all. And from a branding standpoint,
it's also not been specifically sexuality related.
That is what is changing going forward.
This show is going to be about building and harnessing our
(11:01):
sexual power in a sacred way, inan enlivened and enlightened
way, in an intentional way. And it has been about that for a
while, but again, not every episode.
So I know that some of you guys have found this show because
you're searching for something sexuality related.
And then maybe you weren't quitesure what you were going to get
because some of the episodes weren't really about that.
(11:23):
And so I think there's created or has created a little bit of
a, a misalignment and going forward it will be much more
clear what you're going to get. So are we going to still talk
about some of those other topics, things like physical
training or meditation or some of these other things that are
maybe not directly sexual? Yes, they will come up because
it's all very connected, right? All the aspects of our life
(11:45):
connect with our sexuality in a very deep way, and they affect
each other both directions, right?
So we will still talk about those things, but every time we
talk about those things, every episode will be through this
lens of sexuality. It will be through the lens of
being a sexually powered and enlivened man.
It will be through the lens of elevating our life by
(12:09):
intentionally harnessing and healing and transforming and
growing what our sexuality is and what it can be in our life.
I know that so many of you guys like me are already on that
journey. So it's not that it's a huge,
massive change, but kind of it is, right?
(12:30):
It kind of is because again, nowyou know what you're going to
get. Now there's going to be an
alignment from what guys are searching for to what you know
you're going to get on every episode and how we're going to
look at things to what I bring you in terms of episode topics
and products and coaching and all of those things.
It, it takes it from kind of oneway to think about this is it's
(12:51):
like this tribe is a car. And in trying to make it go
faster, I kind of had like 5 different engines, right?
Different kind of topics and aspects and things that I've
approached in the show. And what this is really about is
focusing on the 1 engine that's most important and putting a
turbocharger on it, right? That's what our sexuality is.
It is the most important one. And when we heal it and expand
(13:14):
it in powerful ways, our life, our energy, our confidence, all
of our abilities as a man expandalong with it.
So now you know, here's what to do next.
Make sure you're subscribed. If you're not already
subscribed, subscribe to the show, share the show.
Now you know a little bit more about what you're sharing,
right? And lastly, leave a comment
(13:37):
below. I would love to hear your
thoughts on this change. I would love to hear your
thoughts on the show thus far. I know a lot of you guys have
been around for a long time. I'm so grateful for you being a
part of this tribe. So any comments about this sort
of pivoting point in the show, Iwould love to hear from you.
Sending you all my best. As always.
Keep stacking bricks. That's the way we build awesome
(14:00):
things. You know how this has been
built, this tribe that is growing and existing every day
and becoming better every day. Why this podcast exists and why
it's reaching you now. Because I and you, we have been
stacking little bricks over and over and over again.
And when we do that over and over and over again, we build
big ass awesome castles. Keep stacking bricks in your
(14:23):
life. Talk to you soon.
774 episodes into this show, today is the most important
episode yet. Let me tell you what's changing
little story about how we got here and why it's going to be a
very, very good change for you going forward.
So let me rewind a little bit. It is really kind of crazy to
(00:20):
think about the fact. For me, it is to think about the
fact that this is episode number774 of this show.
I remember before I published the first episode, I remember
thinking the only way that I could get over the hump was I
was thinking to myself, if one person listens to this and get
some benefit out of it, then it's worth it.
(00:42):
Because it was like all of this inner stuff to try to get over
the hump. Like, why is anybody going to
listen to me? And what the hell do I know?
And all of these doubts and fears and insecurities at the
very beginning of this journey. And that's really what I fell
back on. One of the things that I've told
a lot of you guys, if you've been listening to the show for a
while, I've mentioned it a number of times, certainly
(01:03):
coaching clients, it often comesup.
And that is the value in chunking things down when things
seem really big, even when the vision is really big or the task
itself that actually needs to bedone is really big.
One of the best things we can dois chunk it down.
So that's what I did in my mind,right?
It wasn't, oh, what is the show going to be and how many people
are going to listen? And I came back to, if one
(01:25):
person listens, it'll be worth it, right?
And now, 774 episodes later, something like 180 a 170
different countries have downloaded episodes of the show
and millions of downloads. I'm so grateful for this
journey. Let me really quickly rewind a
little bit further because I never thought ever that I would
be doing this. This was not in my like life
(01:47):
vision. It just happened so really
quickly. Let me give you a little rewind
in how that happened. So in the early years of my
working career, I was a stock trader.
I worked for Fidelity Investments for about 8 years
and did pretty well. I was not happy.
It wasn't anything I was particularly meant to do other
(02:07):
than the fact that my brain is pretty good with numbers.
I was in math league actually growing up.
I remember that as as a youngster.
So I worked for Fidelity for a while, wasn't happy.
Ended up leaving that right around that time.
And a big part of me leaving wasmy son as a newborn, had open
heart surgery. That was a brutal and beautiful
(02:30):
and layered and incredibly challenging experience for him
and certainly for his mom and I.And during that time, a lot of
things changed for me, so many things internally.
And one of the things that changed was I knew that I could
never, I knew that I couldn't keep going back to a job that at
that time I really hated. And it really made me start to
(02:52):
look at things in a different way.
So then I worked for myself and struggled working various
marketing things, digital marketing and did some affiliate
marketing back in the day. And over the years, over a 678
year period, I was changing. I was really working on myself
in a lot of ways. And I started to kind of get
these inklings, like maybe maybeI should talk to other guys
(03:15):
about this stuff, right? Maybe maybe there's something
there. And it was very subtle in the
background kind of feelings at first for a long time.
And then I would be at the climbing gym and I'd get in
conversations at the climbing gym that I was at 300 plus days
a year at that time. And I would get in these
conversations and somebody be like, are you a coach?
And be like, no, I have a digital marketing company or
whatever. It was not in alignment, right?
(03:36):
And it started to get more clearthat, hey, maybe this is kind of
something that I should do. And I started to think more and
more about it. And then I got divorced, which
was incredibly hard. If you've been divorced, you
know that. If you haven't, you can imagine.
I was married for almost 17 years, which I'm so grateful
for. She was a wonderful, is a
(03:57):
wonderful woman. I love so many things about our
marriage. We got three amazing kids out of
our marriage. What a beautiful blessing it all
was. Also part of that blessing was
as that divorce happened. One of the things that happens
with divorce is it's like this cracking of our, our, our shell,
our identity, because we get these, these pictures and
(04:19):
beliefs about who we are, right?A lot of people identify with
their job very strongly, right? It becomes a big part of their
identity. I do this, right?
And if we're married, it becomes, oh, I am a husband.
And if we have kids becomes, oh,I'm a father.
And so at that time, I was a father.
I was a husband. I had this business that I was
in. And then the divorce happened
(04:40):
and it cracked some of those things.
So I wasn't a husband any longerand I was a father, but not in
the same way, right? Because the time with them
changed. And certainly some things
changed through that process. So there was a bit of a, a, a
cracking of that kind of pictureas well.
And really what I ended up doingis just allowing everything in
(05:00):
my being to be torn down. I, I gave up all of the pictures
over a year or two time frame. I gave up all of the pictures
of, of who I was and what was I meant to do.
And I started asking myself thatquestion and I started asking
myself a lot of questions. And one of the questions that I
asked myself through that process led to an answer, which
(05:23):
was that if I didn't do something with this coaching
thing that had been living in mymind, that it would be probably
the number one thing that I would regret at the end of my
life. That was like the answer that
became clear to me through this process.
So as I got that answer, that was it.
It was like, well, OK, now I have to do it.
(05:43):
I mean, I'm not, I'm not going to live with that and just not
do it. So I have to do it.
And it took me a while and I didn't have clarity.
I didn't have clarity around thebrand or how to really approach
really exactly who I wanted to talk to and how I wanted to help
and what I was going to deliver.And I didn't have clarity around
(06:03):
that. And then I got a little bit of
clarity. The brand name became clear to
me, right? Holistic Alpha became clear.
And I really love that. Actually.
It's not anything that I identify as like a personal.
I'm not like, hi, I'm holistic Alpha that that's not what it is
at all. And if you've been listening to
the show, you know that if you're new to the show now, you
do what it is, is a very succinct way, I believe, of
(06:27):
describing what it is that I'm trying to do, what it is that I
try to teach and have been teaching now through 774
episodes of the show and thousands of coaching calls.
It very succinctly sums up what I try to be in my life, right?
And what's very quickly a reminder maybe or quickly
touching on for the first time what I mean by that term alpha,
(06:48):
because this alpha male idea or that word alpha has lots of
connotations that can potentially be associated with
that. What I mean by that is being in
charge of ourselves, being in charge of our own mind and
emotions and body and actions and sexuality and communication
and all of the aspects of our life so that we can create what
(07:10):
we want to create with our life.Because when we're not creating
what we want to create with our life, it's because we're not in
charge of our own being. We have thoughts or emotions
that are leading us directions that we don't want to go.
We have patterns that are keeping us stuck and things that
we don't want to be stuck in. Being alpha is about being in
charge of ourselves, right? And that word holistic is very,
(07:33):
very important because it has tobe that that's the only way to
truly elevate our lives is in a holistic way because we are one
being, right? We can't just focus on one part
of our life and expect that it'sgoing to lift up the entirety of
our life. We need to look at the entirety
of our life. However, here's what I
(07:53):
discovered. So I put those first 3 episodes
out right? It was like crazy again.
I had so many doubts. You have no idea how many doubts
I have dealt with through this entire journey.
So many people, I'm sure it's very easy to listen to or watch
the show and think that it's like just comes natural or what?
(08:13):
It has been an absolutely gnarlyjourney to work through my own
inner doubts and insecurities and fear and, and getting my
voice out there and being on camera as I started to do video
and all the things. So I put those first 3 episodes
out and not very long later, 10 episodes into the show, I start
(08:33):
getting coaching clients, right?And the very first three
coaching clients that I get, it was I think maybe after 1012
episodes, something like that. Those first three guys all we're
about something sexuality related.
I've done 10 or 12 episodes. I think I'd have to go back and
look on ball parking maybe like 3-2 or three of those episodes
(08:55):
were really about something verydirectly sexual, may have been a
little more than that, certainlywas not a majority.
So those first 10 or 12 episodes, less than majority of
the episodes are about sexuality.
But then those first three coaching clients that I get that
that's that's what they care about.
That's what they want to work on.
And then over these years, what has happened is a couple of
things have become clear. 1 is that again, over and over and
(09:18):
over again, you guys that come to me for support and
brotherhood and help along your journey and speeding up your
journey and getting through someof these challenges and
transforming in some of these ways over and over again.
The primary issue that I hear from guys, not 100%, but the
primary issue is something sexuality related.
(09:39):
And I think there's a couple of reasons for that.
One is that it is just such a big issue in our lives.
It's such a foundational important issue in our lives.
It very much is. We'll talk about that a little
more in a minute, but that's part of it.
And then I think the other part of it and something that I've
realized is that it's also whereI have had more unique value to
(09:59):
share. I don't know why that is, but
the things that have sort of come through where everything's
come from in this universe, the ideas and experiences and and
tests and all of the things thatI've followed this path, the
unique part of that has largely been in this realm of sexuality,
right? And so things have aligned over
(10:20):
time to make it very, very clearto me that sexuality is it's the
key. It is the keystone, right?
And that's been clear to me for a while.
And if you've been listening to the show for a while, you know
that overtime, more more the episodes have either been about
something sexuality related or more often, I'll sort of loop
(10:41):
that into it, right? But it hasn't been 100%.
There've been a lot of episodes that are not sexuality related
at all. And from a branding standpoint,
it's also not been specifically sexuality related.
That is what is changing going forward.
This show is going to be about building and harnessing our
(11:01):
sexual power in a sacred way, inan enlivened and enlightened
way, in an intentional way. And it has been about that for a
while, but again, not every episode.
So I know that some of you guys have found this show because
you're searching for something sexuality related.
And then maybe you weren't quitesure what you were going to get
because some of the episodes weren't really about that.
(11:23):
And so I think there's created or has created a little bit of
a, a misalignment and going forward it will be much more
clear what you're going to get. So are we going to still talk
about some of those other topics, things like physical
training or meditation or some of these other things that are
maybe not directly sexual? Yes, they will come up because
it's all very connected, right? All the aspects of our life
(11:45):
connect with our sexuality in a very deep way, and they affect
each other both directions, right?
So we will still talk about those things, but every time we
talk about those things, every episode will be through this
lens of sexuality. It will be through the lens of
being a sexually powered and enlivened man.
It will be through the lens of elevating our life by
(12:09):
intentionally harnessing and healing and transforming and
growing what our sexuality is and what it can be in our life.
I know that so many of you guys like me are already on that
journey. So it's not that it's a huge,
massive change, but kind of it is, right?
(12:30):
It kind of is because again, nowyou know what you're going to
get. Now there's going to be an
alignment from what guys are searching for to what you know
you're going to get on every episode and how we're going to
look at things to what I bring you in terms of episode topics
and products and coaching and all of those things.
It, it takes it from kind of oneway to think about this is it's
(12:51):
like this tribe is a car. And in trying to make it go
faster, I kind of had like 5 different engines, right?
Different kind of topics and aspects and things that I've
approached in the show. And what this is really about is
focusing on the 1 engine that's most important and putting a
turbocharger on it, right? That's what our sexuality is.
It is the most important one. And when we heal it and expand
(13:14):
it in powerful ways, our life, our energy, our confidence, all
of our abilities as a man expandalong with it.
So now you know, here's what to do next.
Make sure you're subscribed. If you're not already
subscribed, subscribe to the show, share the show.
Now you know a little bit more about what you're sharing,
right? And lastly, leave a comment
(13:37):
below. I would love to hear your
thoughts on this change. I would love to hear your
thoughts on the show thus far. I know a lot of you guys have
been around for a long time. I'm so grateful for you being a
part of this tribe. So any comments about this sort
of pivoting point in the show, Iwould love to hear from you.
Sending you all my best. As always.
Keep stacking bricks. That's the way we build awesome
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things. You know how this has been
built, this tribe that is growing and existing every day
and becoming better every day. Why this podcast exists and why
it's reaching you now. Because I and you, we have been
stacking little bricks over and over and over again.
And when we do that over and over and over again, we build
big ass awesome castles. Keep stacking bricks in your
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life. Talk to you soon.
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