July 31, 2025 • 14 mins
Ep. #777 | What this term really means, and the simple 3-part way to put it into practice (and reap the benefits!)
⚡️ Get the Sacred Sexual Power Blueprint here (coming soon) — https://www.holisticalpha.com/blueprint
⚡️ Work with me — https://www.holisticalpha.com/coaching
Mark as Played
Transcript
Episode Transcript
Available transcripts are automatically generated. Complete accuracy is not guaranteed.
(00:01):
So this show, the reason you andI are here spending a few
minutes together. Thanks for that.
By the way, is sacred sexual power sacred sexual power?
What does that mean? Sacred sex, That term, I think,
is one that has the potential tobe sort of this vague.
Yeah, that sounds good. But what does that actually
mean? Let's bring it to some simple
terms of what it means to me, what I've seen it mean to
(00:24):
clients, and a way that we can actually put it into practice
and why it is so much better. It is not about giving something
up. It's not about somehow
sacrificing or having less. In fact, it's actually about
tuning in to the real expansiveness and potential of
what sexual energy can be in ourlives.
(00:44):
So as I think back to years ago,many years ago, I had kind of a
knowing of, of this idea that sexuality, I wanted it to be
more, it could be more. It was deeper.
It was it was vague at the time for sure.
I didn't really have specific kind of questions that I was
thinking about early on in the journey.
(01:06):
It was just kind of this little feeling.
And over the course of my own journey through the years, over
the course of thousands of callswith you guys, working with
clients, hearing from you guys, this term sacred sexuality has
moved from this vague kind of thing to a very specific, a very
beautiful and a very powerful thing.
It is so much better. I think that's one thing that I
(01:30):
want to convey from my own experience and what I've heard
from so many of you guys is I think that maybe for some
people, they hear the term sacred sex and maybe it sounds
kind of boring or it or it, it sounds less exciting maybe in
some ways. But to me, it's much, much more
exciting. Much more exciting because
that's where we really tune intowhat it can be and how it can
(01:52):
feel and the pleasure that we can experience and the
connection that we can experience and the way that we
can light up our own world and the world's of those people that
we interact with on a day-to-daybasis.
It is much more exciting. Let's bring it to a very fine
point, right? What does this actually mean?
There's three things that sacredsexuality means to me.
(02:13):
The 1st is respect. It's giving it the respect it
deserves. It's recognizing that it is
powerful. It may actually be the most
powerful force that we have access to.
I believe it is. It is the creative force.
It's the reason that we're here.It is very, very powerful.
And we see in our own lives, you've seen your own version of
(02:35):
that, and we see as we look out into society, that it is very,
very powerful on both ends of the spectrum.
It can be powerfully toxic and it can be powerfully high
vibration. It can it can potently expand
our own light and connect us with other people, not only with
our sexual partner, but with with everyone.
(02:55):
It can deepen the way that we connect with everyone and with
our whole world. So it is a very, very powerful
thing. And I think for a lot of people,
and as I think back to, you know, my teenage years and even
in the earlier years of my marriage in my 20s, it, it's
kind of like, it's kind of like a kid with a dangerous weapon
that they don't know how to use,right?
(03:16):
And that's the way that I think a lot of people actually
experience sexuality in some cases for a lot of their lives
or their whole lives. Certainly early on in the
journey, we have this incrediblypowerful thing.
We don't know how powerful it is.
We don't know how to interact with it in a, in a Safeway
right, in a way that actually lifts us up.
So the first key to approaching our life and our sexuality in a
(03:40):
sacred way and benefiting from the awesomeness of that is just
giving it the respect it deserves.
It's having that mindset as we interact within our own being,
as we look at our own practices and and perspectives and, and
emotions and as we interact withother people and all of this
sexual kind of things that existout there in the world that's
just approaching all of that with respect and going, you know
(04:03):
what? Yeah, this is actually a really
powerful thing. So I'm going to, I'm going to
pay attention to it. I'm not just going to sort of
Willy nilly throw things around and just and just respond to it
kind of reactively, which we'll get to a little bit more in a
few minutes. That idea of reactive versus
intention. But that's the first thing is
respect. We got to give it the respect
(04:24):
that it deserves. The second thing is it's
flipping the priority of body and soul.
So the way that I always kind ofnot intentionally, it's not like
I sat down and decided this, butagain, thinking back approach
sexuality was it was like body 1st and then the soul and the
heart kind of was like looped inand yeah, it was affected by
(04:45):
that, but that wasn't really thepriority a lot of times, right?
It was especially as a kid, justsort of feeling these powerful
urges, being aroused by various things that I was seeing, kind
of just being tugged around by that.
And primarily the physical right, the the visual and the
physical part of sex, which is of course important and our
(05:07):
bodies are indeed important, andthe actual touch and sensation
and stimulation and arousal and the visual appeal and all that
stuff. It matters, absolutely.
But sacred sexuality comes when we recognize that that the
physical body, it's just a gateway, right?
It's a gateway to our soul. And when we approach our
(05:29):
sexuality from a soul first perspective, recognizing that it
is actually about our soul, it'sabout what's going on deeply
within us. It's about what's going on
deeply within our partners. That's when it becomes sacred
because that's when we actually get our priorities right.
And it's not. Again, this is not a very
(05:50):
complex thing. It's actually just a very simple
idea that we can keep in mind aswe face all of the little
decisions, as we deal with our own inner world and we
understand overtime and gain greater awareness of what
thoughts are actually running through our mind and what
emotions we have around all of this stuff and how we interact
with other people, right? This part is huge.
(06:11):
We've got to recognize that whenwe interact with someone in a
sexual way, it's not this body first thing and just sort of the
heart happens or the soul happens.
It's no, we're approaching as one soul connecting with another
soul. The body, the visual, the
physical, it's just the gateway.It's the gateway to get to that
deeper place. So we approach it with respect.
(06:32):
We shift our priorities the way they should be, which is soul
1st. And by the way, it absolutely
applies within our own practice.So independent of having sex
with anyone else, something thatwe've talked about a lot on this
show is mindful edging. It's connecting with ourself.
It's masturbating in a way that is that is mindful, that is
indeed sacred. And what makes it sacred, right?
(06:55):
What makes masturbation sacred or not?
Well, it's respecting it is a very powerful thing and
understanding that it can be dangerous because all powerful
things can be dangerous if they're used inappropriately or
in a way that drags us down. And by the way, inappropriately,
how it drags you down, that's upto you to decide.
I'm not here to tell you what particular things or actions or
(07:20):
practices or whatever are going to make you feel certain ways.
That's up to you to figure out. But masturbation can indeed be
sacred when we approach it with respect and when we approach it
by looking at it is actually a practice of connecting with our
own soul. When we put down porn, when we
let go of fantasy as much as possible, and we never can
(07:40):
really control exactly in the moment what our mind is going to
do, but we can guide it over time, right?
So we guide our mind and we recognize that our awareness and
our attention is a very powerfulthing.
And what we put our awareness on, we give energy to.
So if you're putting your awareness on some porn stars or
some random fantasy, you're literally giving energy to those
sources. So when you let go of that stuff
(08:03):
and you put your awareness within yourself, on your own
body, on your own sensations, onyour own soul, and you go deeply
within, it definitely becomes sacred.
And I can tell you, it becomes much more enjoyable, much more
powerful. It's, it is a very deep and
expansive world, much more than I realized for a long time and
(08:25):
maybe more than you realize now.Because what I'm continuing to
find is that it gets ever deeperand ever more expansive.
There is no limit, right? So we approach it with respect.
We put our soul first. We put the soul of our partner,
whoever we're interacting with. And by the way, yeah.
Does that apply to porn and all those things?
It sure does. Are you thinking about if you're
(08:45):
watching porn, are you thinking about the soul of the person
that you're watching? Probably not.
In fact, in some ways, you're probably kind of actively or
subconsciously kind of suppressing that.
So it's putting the soul first. It's giving respect.
And the last and maybe the most important thing, which actually
those first two things set the foundation for this.
(09:05):
And that is intention. It's it's approaching moment to
moment interaction, interaction,all of the things that are in
our world, all the physical things, the communication, all
the things sexual in our life, we approach it with intention.
We stop being pulled around and like dragged around like by this
wild horse and we're just hanging by her ankle and we just
(09:26):
go wherever the hell it wants, right?
We get up with our attention, with our mind, with the power of
our focus, and we move with intention.
We recognize how a situation looks.
We take time to kind of be curious with it.
And this might all happen like in an instant, or it might be
bigger picture things that unfold over time.
(09:47):
But we have a curiosity and awareness.
And then as we take action, as we interact, as we communicate,
as we decide what our perspective actually is going to
be, what we're going to choose into, we do all of that with
intention. Nearly deciding how you're going
to approach a certain situation with your own priorities is a
massive shift for how a lot of us interact with sexuality.
(10:11):
You may be used to interacting with a lot of the layers of your
life that way where you do have more intention and you may be
less used to or not at all used to approaching sexuality that
way. Because it is a very kind of
typical experience. I think for a lot of us to just
be kind of we're like pulled allover the place and we just tend
(10:31):
to follow whatever that arousal kind of calls us to.
That's not intention. Intention is taking in the, the
sensory signals. What are you seeing?
What are you hearing? What are you feeling taking in
all of those signals, processingin your own inner world and then
actually deciding what is the path of high, high vibration
(10:51):
here, right? What is this moment asking of
me? We talked about that recently.
What is this moment asking of me?
It puts you in a place of intention.
So if you give sexuality the respect it deserves, understand
it's a very powerful thing if you put soul 1st and you look at
the body as the gateway to the soul, your own and anyone
else's. And if you act and move and
(11:13):
think and communicate with intention that that's sacred
sexuality. It, it can look so different for
different people. It's not about slowing things
down and really slow motion all the time.
It's not about religion or any kind of dogma like that.
It's just go deeper, right? Give it the respect that it
(11:34):
deserves as a very powerful thing.
Put your soul first. Let that be the guide and
actually choose a path with intention.
If you do that and you just keepdoing that over and over again,
you're going to keep going deeper and deeper and deeper.
You're going to keep healing more and more and more of the
toxic stuff that needs to be healed.
And you have that because we allhave that.
It's part of the human experience.
(11:55):
You're going to heal more of that.
You're going to experience more expansiveness, more connection
with yourself, more pleasure. I can tell you unquestionably,
unquestionably exponentially more pleasure is part of my life
now. Approaching sexuality this way,
then in the kind of mindless, lower vibrational way that I
(12:19):
used to, it's not even close. It's not even close.
There's no instant kind of thingwith any of this.
You don't need to all of a sudden be a different person
tomorrow. If you keep these three things
in mind, you give it respect. You put the soul first.
You walk with intention. You're going to gradually, every
day, you're going to stack a little brick, right?
And that castle of your sexuality is going to get more
(12:41):
sacred. It's going to brighten, it's
going to get more expansive. You're going to connect with
people in a whole different way.You're going to connect with
your own soul in a whole different way, and it's going to
filter out to every area of yourlife.
That's my favorite thing. And really what makes sexuality
so beautiful as well as so powerful and potentially
dangerous is that it does truly,it filters out into every part
(13:03):
of us in sometimes in very indirect ways, sometimes in
slightly more direct ways. But it filters out into
everything. Our energy, our mindset, how we
communicate, the action that we take, the discipline that we
have, how happy we are, how at peace we are.
All of the things, all of the relationships, everyone you
interact with, every layer of your life is affected by
(13:25):
sexuality. And the more little bricks that
you stack of sacred sexuality, the more all of that is going to
get brighter. It's going to get more
expansive. It's going to get more
beautiful. Thank you, as always, for
sharing a little piece of your day with me.
Sending you good vibes. Sending you sacred, powerful
vibes. I promise you, we all have so
much more power inside of us then we realize.
(13:47):
Even if you are so much different than you used to be
and you feel like you've come sofar, because you probably have.
You probably have very, very far.
You've already come. We have so much more power.
There's so much more depth, there's so much more
expansiveness. So keep stepping, keep stacking.
We'll talk to you soon.
So this show, the reason you andI are here spending a few
minutes together. Thanks for that.
By the way, is sacred sexual power sacred sexual power?
What does that mean? Sacred sex, That term, I think,
is one that has the potential tobe sort of this vague.
Yeah, that sounds good. But what does that actually
mean? Let's bring it to some simple
terms of what it means to me, what I've seen it mean to
(00:24):
clients, and a way that we can actually put it into practice
and why it is so much better. It is not about giving something
up. It's not about somehow
sacrificing or having less. In fact, it's actually about
tuning in to the real expansiveness and potential of
what sexual energy can be in ourlives.
(00:44):
So as I think back to years ago,many years ago, I had kind of a
knowing of, of this idea that sexuality, I wanted it to be
more, it could be more. It was deeper.
It was it was vague at the time for sure.
I didn't really have specific kind of questions that I was
thinking about early on in the journey.
(01:06):
It was just kind of this little feeling.
And over the course of my own journey through the years, over
the course of thousands of callswith you guys, working with
clients, hearing from you guys, this term sacred sexuality has
moved from this vague kind of thing to a very specific, a very
beautiful and a very powerful thing.
It is so much better. I think that's one thing that I
(01:30):
want to convey from my own experience and what I've heard
from so many of you guys is I think that maybe for some
people, they hear the term sacred sex and maybe it sounds
kind of boring or it or it, it sounds less exciting maybe in
some ways. But to me, it's much, much more
exciting. Much more exciting because
that's where we really tune intowhat it can be and how it can
(01:52):
feel and the pleasure that we can experience and the
connection that we can experience and the way that we
can light up our own world and the world's of those people that
we interact with on a day-to-daybasis.
It is much more exciting. Let's bring it to a very fine
point, right? What does this actually mean?
There's three things that sacredsexuality means to me.
(02:13):
The 1st is respect. It's giving it the respect it
deserves. It's recognizing that it is
powerful. It may actually be the most
powerful force that we have access to.
I believe it is. It is the creative force.
It's the reason that we're here.It is very, very powerful.
And we see in our own lives, you've seen your own version of
(02:35):
that, and we see as we look out into society, that it is very,
very powerful on both ends of the spectrum.
It can be powerfully toxic and it can be powerfully high
vibration. It can it can potently expand
our own light and connect us with other people, not only with
our sexual partner, but with with everyone.
(02:55):
It can deepen the way that we connect with everyone and with
our whole world. So it is a very, very powerful
thing. And I think for a lot of people,
and as I think back to, you know, my teenage years and even
in the earlier years of my marriage in my 20s, it, it's
kind of like, it's kind of like a kid with a dangerous weapon
that they don't know how to use,right?
(03:16):
And that's the way that I think a lot of people actually
experience sexuality in some cases for a lot of their lives
or their whole lives. Certainly early on in the
journey, we have this incrediblypowerful thing.
We don't know how powerful it is.
We don't know how to interact with it in a, in a Safeway
right, in a way that actually lifts us up.
So the first key to approaching our life and our sexuality in a
(03:40):
sacred way and benefiting from the awesomeness of that is just
giving it the respect it deserves.
It's having that mindset as we interact within our own being,
as we look at our own practices and and perspectives and, and
emotions and as we interact withother people and all of this
sexual kind of things that existout there in the world that's
just approaching all of that with respect and going, you know
(04:03):
what? Yeah, this is actually a really
powerful thing. So I'm going to, I'm going to
pay attention to it. I'm not just going to sort of
Willy nilly throw things around and just and just respond to it
kind of reactively, which we'll get to a little bit more in a
few minutes. That idea of reactive versus
intention. But that's the first thing is
respect. We got to give it the respect
(04:24):
that it deserves. The second thing is it's
flipping the priority of body and soul.
So the way that I always kind ofnot intentionally, it's not like
I sat down and decided this, butagain, thinking back approach
sexuality was it was like body 1st and then the soul and the
heart kind of was like looped inand yeah, it was affected by
(04:45):
that, but that wasn't really thepriority a lot of times, right?
It was especially as a kid, justsort of feeling these powerful
urges, being aroused by various things that I was seeing, kind
of just being tugged around by that.
And primarily the physical right, the the visual and the
physical part of sex, which is of course important and our
(05:07):
bodies are indeed important, andthe actual touch and sensation
and stimulation and arousal and the visual appeal and all that
stuff. It matters, absolutely.
But sacred sexuality comes when we recognize that that the
physical body, it's just a gateway, right?
It's a gateway to our soul. And when we approach our
(05:29):
sexuality from a soul first perspective, recognizing that it
is actually about our soul, it'sabout what's going on deeply
within us. It's about what's going on
deeply within our partners. That's when it becomes sacred
because that's when we actually get our priorities right.
And it's not. Again, this is not a very
(05:50):
complex thing. It's actually just a very simple
idea that we can keep in mind aswe face all of the little
decisions, as we deal with our own inner world and we
understand overtime and gain greater awareness of what
thoughts are actually running through our mind and what
emotions we have around all of this stuff and how we interact
with other people, right? This part is huge.
(06:11):
We've got to recognize that whenwe interact with someone in a
sexual way, it's not this body first thing and just sort of the
heart happens or the soul happens.
It's no, we're approaching as one soul connecting with another
soul. The body, the visual, the
physical, it's just the gateway.It's the gateway to get to that
deeper place. So we approach it with respect.
(06:32):
We shift our priorities the way they should be, which is soul
1st. And by the way, it absolutely
applies within our own practice.So independent of having sex
with anyone else, something thatwe've talked about a lot on this
show is mindful edging. It's connecting with ourself.
It's masturbating in a way that is that is mindful, that is
indeed sacred. And what makes it sacred, right?
(06:55):
What makes masturbation sacred or not?
Well, it's respecting it is a very powerful thing and
understanding that it can be dangerous because all powerful
things can be dangerous if they're used inappropriately or
in a way that drags us down. And by the way, inappropriately,
how it drags you down, that's upto you to decide.
I'm not here to tell you what particular things or actions or
(07:20):
practices or whatever are going to make you feel certain ways.
That's up to you to figure out. But masturbation can indeed be
sacred when we approach it with respect and when we approach it
by looking at it is actually a practice of connecting with our
own soul. When we put down porn, when we
let go of fantasy as much as possible, and we never can
(07:40):
really control exactly in the moment what our mind is going to
do, but we can guide it over time, right?
So we guide our mind and we recognize that our awareness and
our attention is a very powerfulthing.
And what we put our awareness on, we give energy to.
So if you're putting your awareness on some porn stars or
some random fantasy, you're literally giving energy to those
sources. So when you let go of that stuff
(08:03):
and you put your awareness within yourself, on your own
body, on your own sensations, onyour own soul, and you go deeply
within, it definitely becomes sacred.
And I can tell you, it becomes much more enjoyable, much more
powerful. It's, it is a very deep and
expansive world, much more than I realized for a long time and
(08:25):
maybe more than you realize now.Because what I'm continuing to
find is that it gets ever deeperand ever more expansive.
There is no limit, right? So we approach it with respect.
We put our soul first. We put the soul of our partner,
whoever we're interacting with. And by the way, yeah.
Does that apply to porn and all those things?
It sure does. Are you thinking about if you're
(08:45):
watching porn, are you thinking about the soul of the person
that you're watching? Probably not.
In fact, in some ways, you're probably kind of actively or
subconsciously kind of suppressing that.
So it's putting the soul first. It's giving respect.
And the last and maybe the most important thing, which actually
those first two things set the foundation for this.
(09:05):
And that is intention. It's it's approaching moment to
moment interaction, interaction,all of the things that are in
our world, all the physical things, the communication, all
the things sexual in our life, we approach it with intention.
We stop being pulled around and like dragged around like by this
wild horse and we're just hanging by her ankle and we just
(09:26):
go wherever the hell it wants, right?
We get up with our attention, with our mind, with the power of
our focus, and we move with intention.
We recognize how a situation looks.
We take time to kind of be curious with it.
And this might all happen like in an instant, or it might be
bigger picture things that unfold over time.
(09:47):
But we have a curiosity and awareness.
And then as we take action, as we interact, as we communicate,
as we decide what our perspective actually is going to
be, what we're going to choose into, we do all of that with
intention. Nearly deciding how you're going
to approach a certain situation with your own priorities is a
massive shift for how a lot of us interact with sexuality.
(10:11):
You may be used to interacting with a lot of the layers of your
life that way where you do have more intention and you may be
less used to or not at all used to approaching sexuality that
way. Because it is a very kind of
typical experience. I think for a lot of us to just
be kind of we're like pulled allover the place and we just tend
(10:31):
to follow whatever that arousal kind of calls us to.
That's not intention. Intention is taking in the, the
sensory signals. What are you seeing?
What are you hearing? What are you feeling taking in
all of those signals, processingin your own inner world and then
actually deciding what is the path of high, high vibration
(10:51):
here, right? What is this moment asking of
me? We talked about that recently.
What is this moment asking of me?
It puts you in a place of intention.
So if you give sexuality the respect it deserves, understand
it's a very powerful thing if you put soul 1st and you look at
the body as the gateway to the soul, your own and anyone
else's. And if you act and move and
(11:13):
think and communicate with intention that that's sacred
sexuality. It, it can look so different for
different people. It's not about slowing things
down and really slow motion all the time.
It's not about religion or any kind of dogma like that.
It's just go deeper, right? Give it the respect that it
(11:34):
deserves as a very powerful thing.
Put your soul first. Let that be the guide and
actually choose a path with intention.
If you do that and you just keepdoing that over and over again,
you're going to keep going deeper and deeper and deeper.
You're going to keep healing more and more and more of the
toxic stuff that needs to be healed.
And you have that because we allhave that.
It's part of the human experience.
(11:55):
You're going to heal more of that.
You're going to experience more expansiveness, more connection
with yourself, more pleasure. I can tell you unquestionably,
unquestionably exponentially more pleasure is part of my life
now. Approaching sexuality this way,
then in the kind of mindless, lower vibrational way that I
(12:19):
used to, it's not even close. It's not even close.
There's no instant kind of thingwith any of this.
You don't need to all of a sudden be a different person
tomorrow. If you keep these three things
in mind, you give it respect. You put the soul first.
You walk with intention. You're going to gradually, every
day, you're going to stack a little brick, right?
And that castle of your sexuality is going to get more
(12:41):
sacred. It's going to brighten, it's
going to get more expansive. You're going to connect with
people in a whole different way.You're going to connect with
your own soul in a whole different way, and it's going to
filter out to every area of yourlife.
That's my favorite thing. And really what makes sexuality
so beautiful as well as so powerful and potentially
dangerous is that it does truly,it filters out into every part
(13:03):
of us in sometimes in very indirect ways, sometimes in
slightly more direct ways. But it filters out into
everything. Our energy, our mindset, how we
communicate, the action that we take, the discipline that we
have, how happy we are, how at peace we are.
All of the things, all of the relationships, everyone you
interact with, every layer of your life is affected by
(13:25):
sexuality. And the more little bricks that
you stack of sacred sexuality, the more all of that is going to
get brighter. It's going to get more
expansive. It's going to get more
beautiful. Thank you, as always, for
sharing a little piece of your day with me.
Sending you good vibes. Sending you sacred, powerful
vibes. I promise you, we all have so
much more power inside of us then we realize.
(13:47):
Even if you are so much different than you used to be
and you feel like you've come sofar, because you probably have.
You probably have very, very far.
You've already come. We have so much more power.
There's so much more depth, there's so much more
expansiveness. So keep stepping, keep stacking.
We'll talk to you soon.
Popular Podcasts
24/7 News: The Latest
The latest news in 4 minutes updated every hour, every day.
Crime Junkie
Does hearing about a true crime case always leave you scouring the internet for the truth behind the story? Dive into your next mystery with Crime Junkie. Every Monday, join your host Ashley Flowers as she unravels all the details of infamous and underreported true crime cases with her best friend Brit Prawat. From cold cases to missing persons and heroes in our community who seek justice, Crime Junkie is your destination for theories and stories you won’t hear anywhere else. Whether you're a seasoned true crime enthusiast or new to the genre, you'll find yourself on the edge of your seat awaiting a new episode every Monday. If you can never get enough true crime... Congratulations, you’ve found your people. Follow to join a community of Crime Junkies! Crime Junkie is presented by audiochuck Media Company.
The Clay Travis and Buck Sexton Show
The Clay Travis and Buck Sexton Show. Clay Travis and Buck Sexton tackle the biggest stories in news, politics and current events with intelligence and humor. From the border crisis, to the madness of cancel culture and far-left missteps, Clay and Buck guide listeners through the latest headlines and hot topics with fun and entertaining conversations and opinions.