What Can You Do To Help When Someone Is Grieving (MINISODE)

Grieving is a process we all go through at some point in life, and yet we have trouble being near those who are suffering when we are not. This minisode shares ideas on being there for those who are going through a loss when you are not.  

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey friends, welcome back to another mini-sode.
This week's episode was very.
There was a mix of emotions forme during this recording.
I won't lie Before we startedrecording I was hoping I
wouldn't cry at all, because theidea of losing a child is
something that has always scaredme.

(00:22):
I've been blessed that I havenot lost a child.
I have not had miscarriages,despite all the stupid things
I've done in my life.
God has been faithful and hehas given me healthy children
and I thank him for that, and Iknow I'm undeserving of it.
But I do have people in my lifewho have lost their children,

(00:44):
either in miscarriages or youknow.
I have a friend who justrecently lost her brother.
Yes, they're about my age, butstill it's a loss.
It's a loss for her parents,it's a loss for her.
It's her younger brother.
Loss is not easy at any age.
It certainly isn't.
But when you are a parent andyou are losing a child, that is

(01:06):
a significant loss and I don'tthere isn't a word for it.
I don't know if you've noticedthat.
You know we have a widow or awidower, but what do we call
those who lose their children?
I mean, we have an orphan ifthey lose their parents, but the
ones who lose their children.
There isn't a term for it and Idon't understand why not.

(01:28):
We should be there for eachother when we are going through
these tough situations, thepeople going through them.
Like Heather said, she didn'tneed her grandmother to ask her
if she was okay to give hersweet platitudes or encouraging
Bible verses.
She didn't need that when shewas grieving.

(01:49):
She just needed someone to bethere for her.
And that's what we should bedoing for those who are grieving
as well grieving their loss oftheir children and any loss.
Really, it doesn't have to be achild, a loss of anything.
Sometimes we just need to takethat time away and have that
silence, have somebody sit withus, cry with us, hold us, but

(02:10):
they don't have to say anything.
That, in and of itself, is aprofound way to help someone
heal, and the reason is becauseGod does the work in that moment
.
He's the one speaking to thisperson through their pain and
their suffering.
They don't need you to sayanything because God is going to
say it and only speak when youneed to speak.

(02:31):
Sometimes we say things and wemean well, but it doesn't hit
them the way we were expecting,and a lot of people say that the
reason why we can't be aroundpeople who are hurting is
because it's uncomfortable forus who aren't doing the hurting.
You know, and that's one of thereasons why we try so hard to
make sure that they're happy andthey're okay again.

(02:53):
You know, buck up buttercup,everything will be fine.
Because we don't want to dealwith the uncomfortable emotions
that come with their pain ourfriends, our family who are
hurting, that come with theirpain, our friends, our family
who are hurting.
And that's wrong, because weare supposed to weep with those
who weep and rejoice with thosewho rejoice, not just rejoice
weep with those who weep.
If your spouse is going througha struggle, you're supposed to

(03:16):
be there for them.
If your friends are hurtingbecause they have a loss, we
should be there for them.
This is not something that hasbeen easy for me to deal with
either.
I am very guilty of sayingplatitudes, and now I'm more
aware of trying to think beforeI speak, because I've winced
when I've said certain things topeople who are hurting and I

(03:37):
just feel like that was probablynot something I needed to say.
They probably heard it before.
Why did I have to say anythingI could have just said I'm
praying for you.
Sometimes that's okay.
Don't feel obligated that youhave to talk to somebody and
tell them something profound.
Sometimes the profound is justbeing there for them.
Like Heather mentioned in thisepisode her grandma just being

(04:01):
there with her having beenthrough the same thing.
That was enough of a healingfor her, and sometimes that's
what they need.
So if you are struggling rightnow, if you are going through a
loss of any kind right now andyou just need someone to pray
for you, I'm here for you.
Go to the show notes.
There's a section that says doyou have a prayer request?
Click there and share yourprayer request and I will pray

(04:23):
for you.
And your question for the dayis when was the last time you
reached out to somebody, whenyou felt them on your heart?
Maybe you don't know why youfelt them on your heart, maybe
it's been forever since youtalked to them, but they just
popped in your head one day.
You know you're driving, hasabsolutely nothing to do with
them, but poof, there they arein your head and you're like why

(04:45):
?
Maybe God is trying to tell yousomething.
So take that second and ask Godwhat he wants you to do with
that.
Sometimes we reach out topeople in their needs and we
didn't know what was going tohappen, but if you're obedient
to that prompting, god can domiraculous things.
In that, that's it for thismini.
So God bless you all.

(05:06):
Bye.