July 3, 2025 • 44 mins
What if the most profound growth doesn’t happen in the light... but in the dark?
In this soul-stirring episode, Brittney and Lisset pull back the curtain on what transformation really looks like. Beyond the Instagram quotes and shiny “after” stories lies the raw, messy, sacred terrain of real change—the kind that asks you to let go of who you’ve been in order to become who you’re meant to be.
“Growth is inevitable. You’re either growing or decaying,” Lisset shares, and this conversation dives headfirst into the often-avoided side of personal development: grief, loneliness, identity death, and the courage it takes to evolve.
✨ You’ll hear vulnerable stories from both of your hosts:
- Lisset’s journey through financial uncertainty and the loss of her closest friendship
- Brittney’s powerful path of coming out and reclaiming her true self
Together, they explore the four requisites to lasting change:
- Release – Letting go of old identities and beliefs
- Intend – Setting a powerful new direction
- Act – Taking consistent action aligned with your truth
- Focus – Staying the course, especially when it gets hard
Whether you’re in a season of expansion or feeling lost in the in-between, this episode is a permission slip to keep going. The breakdowns, the shedding, the solitude, it’s all part of the metamorphosis.
Your future self is waiting. Will you keep going, even through the dark?
🎧 Tune in now for a dose of truth, healing, and fierce encouragement.
Timestamps:
00:02 – Why the growth journey is often misrepresented
07:15 – Brittney shares her coming-out journey & identity death
15:40 – Lisset opens up about loss and financial fear
23:00 – The four requisites of change
32:45 – Navigating the “dark night of the soul”
41:00 – What to remember when you're ready to quit
47:10 – Final words: expansion is permanent
Created By: Honest Feedback was created by Brittney King and Lisset King.
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Lisset (00:00):
The amount of growth and sadness and courage it takes to
keep walking through thedarkness until you see the light
, until you get to the otherside of the tunnel.
It's the part we don't reallyget to.
It's not on the brochure.
Goddess Brittney (00:16):
Welcome to Honest Feedback, the podcast
where deep truth meets boldtransformation.
I'm Goddess Brittany King, apleasure priestess and a
transformational retreatfacilitator who helps women
connect to their deepest truths,reclaim their pleasure and
awaken their inner power.
Lisset (00:33):
And I'm Lissette King, an emotional ninja and
transformational coach who helpsleaders release baggage, heal
unresolved trauma and step intotheir most aligned, purposeful
lives.
Goddess Brittney (00:43):
We've created this podcast for spirit-led
individuals just like you,seekers of truth, personal
growth and meaningful connection.
Lisset (00:52):
Whether you're navigating life's big questions,
craving more joy andfulfillment, or simply looking
for honest, relatableconversations, you're in the
right place.
Goddess Brittney (01:00):
Through personal stories, actionable
advice and transformativeinsights.
Our ultimate goal is to empoweryou to create a life that's
overflowing with pleasure,purpose and authenticity.
Lisset (01:13):
We know you're capable of incredible things, so let's
make it happen together.
Goddess Brittney (01:18):
Welcome back to another episode of Honest
Feedback.
It is so good to be here withall of y'all.
Lisset (01:25):
How are you feeling, babe?
I'm feeling really good.
I love this topic, yes, and I'mgeeking out real hard.
Goddess Brittney (01:30):
Oh my gosh, today y'all, we're going to talk
about Lisette's favorite thingto talk about.
Can you guess what it is?
It's my top value.
It's growth, it's growth, y'allyes.
Lisset (01:41):
Everyone got it.
It's growth, we's growth, y'allyes.
Goddess Brittney (01:42):
Everyone got it.
It's growth.
Yeah, we are talking aboutgrowth and all the stuff about
it.
Lisset (01:48):
Yeah, yeah, and the growing pains of growth there
are growing pains.
Goddess Brittney (01:53):
Oh yeah, what?
Nobody warned me.
No kidding, we're talking aboutgrowth and we're talking about
growing pains.
And yeah, well, I mean you'vealready said it's your top value
.
What else do you want to sayabout growth before we get into
it?
Lisset (02:07):
Growth is inevitable.
You know they're growing ordecaying.
Okay, so it's yeah.
Goddess Brittney (02:14):
These are the options.
Lisset (02:16):
These are the options growth or decay.
And then people get mad becausegrowth ain't pretty either.
Goddess Brittney (02:22):
Oh gosh.
Lisset (02:23):
Okay, yeah, well, I'm so excited.
Goddess Brittney (02:25):
Okay, I'm so excited, but first I think we
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Lisset (03:09):
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Oh my gosh, this land itself isa facilitator.
People go here and they, theycompletely heal, lose 10 years
in in the in their face, Like weare reverse aging on this land.
It is beyond epic and thelittle casitas you stay in.
Goddess Brittney (03:29):
Oh, the little open air casitas.
Lisset (03:32):
It's magic, and we are there to serve you and remind
you of the goddess that you are,the goddess you were born as,
and to bring it into fruition.
So you may be that person whenyou leave this retreat.
Goddess Brittney (03:45):
Yeah, one of our clients who gave us
permission to share.
She shared with us that beforeshe came to a retreat with us,
that she did not know how tolove herself and she was feeling
lost.
And now, in hindsight, her lifereflected that and because of
the retreat, because of thelessons, because of the energy,
because of the frequency that wewere serving there, not only
(04:08):
does she love herself, she hasbeen able to embody it and carry
it forward.
So her entire life transformed,based on her now loving herself
.
And the way she spoke about howwe poured love into her.
She said it was justrevolutionary.
And so I am always so honoredto facilitate this space, the
(04:31):
space of growth, the space ofmetamorphosis, and if it's
something that calls to you, getin.
Doors are just opening andalready all the things are
happening, all the perfect soulswill be there.
So if you feel it is for you,there are only nine seats
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Schedule a call, let's talk,let's have all the experience.
Lisset (04:55):
We are so beyond excited to host you and have you there.
Check out that link below.
You are hearing this first, bythe way.
Goddess Brittney (05:02):
Yes.
Lisset (05:02):
Besides our waiting list girlies.
You are the first one to hearit here on this podcast.
So check it out yes, and beforewe get into that question like
share, subscribe, become part ofour community.
We love you, we love pouringinto you, and so share this far
and wide so we can impact morepeople.
Yes, yes, all right, shall weread the question?
(05:26):
Yes, we shall, and you knowyou're the official reader of
all questions.
Goddess Brittney (05:29):
Oh my gosh.
Okay, I'm in a season where Iasked for growth, but now I feel
overwhelmed and exhausted.
Is it supposed to feel thishard, and how do I know if it's
worth pushing through?
Lisset (05:47):
hard and how do I know if it's worth pushing through?
Hashtag struggle?
Yes.
Short answer yes, it issupposed to feel this way.
It's supposed to feel, howeverit is, that you're feeling it
right now when we go through agrowth aspect of our life we are
go through a growth aspect ofour life we are.
First of all, an old.
Part of you is dying away, andso there is a death.
(06:09):
There is a mourning of who youused to be, the way you used to
do things.
What's happening is you'reletting go of the way things
were, the way you used to showup in the world.
You cannot go back to the wayyou were.
You know, if butterfly comesout of the cocoon, they're not
like I'll just keep crawlingaround.
You know you.
You are expected to fly, you'reexpected to move through things
(06:32):
, and that shows up differentlyfor a lot of people.
It's really challenging becauseit doesn't come on the label,
on on the box.
You know this may causechallenges, cause, honestly, you
wouldn't do it.
Goddess Brittney (06:45):
No, you got to sell that sizzle y'all.
Lisset (06:51):
My life is incredibly different than it was when I
first discovered expansion andgrowth work.
The part that is not on thehighlight reel, that's not on
the Instagram reel, is I lostfriends, I lost my community, I
lost the people.
I used to live a smaller life,with the people that I was
drinking with every weekend andplaying and doing all the things
(07:14):
that I used to do in adifferent life.
When I changed, they weren'table to meet me and there was a
lot of resistance and grief andgrief and sorrow and a long
period of feeling alone.
What was your experience Likewhen you first started growing?
Did you find it to be lonely?
Goddess Brittney (07:33):
Um, did I find it to be lonely?
I mean, I felt kind of alonebefore it started where it was
just like this disconnectionI'll never forget.
I was at a friend's birthdayparty or something like that,
and everybody was drinking,myself included drinking way too
(07:56):
much and there had just beenlike lots of like mismatchy kind
of experiences and I got into afight with one of my friends
for who she had voted for.
I did not agree and I was upsetwith her.
I was like your boyfriend'sblack, like do you not
understand what this means forus?
And you know, and it was.
I was all on my and latertalking to some of the people in
(08:21):
the group of friends.
One of them was just like Ijust don't understand why you
get so upset.
Like I just think't understandwhy you get so upset.
Like I just think it's betterto just not talk about these
things that make usuncomfortable.
And I was livid because what Iwas seeing reflected back to me
was a friend group who didn'tknow slash acknowledge that I
(08:45):
was black, which also was areflection that I was not
sharing.
I mean, they could see me, butI was not sharing my experiences
of moving through the world asa person of color and how my
life was different and I wasexpected to stay in this very
small box, and so it made itreally clear for me in a sort of
(09:08):
a line in the sand moment, likewe had already been kind of
growing apart, but I kept tryingto make it work.
And then I found my boundary ofyo.
This doesn't work, this is notworking.
So then it was the oh, I'mgoing to have to actually start
making some changes.
And they were small.
They were small.
(09:28):
I don't know that.
I thought I was signing myselfup for growth.
I was just like I can't be inthe relationship with this guy
anymore.
I don't know that this friendgroup is for me.
I was like I'm going to move inwith my sister and her friend
and like it was the slow cracksthat led me to a bigger moment
of like, oh shit, we really gotto look at a lot of shit.
Lisset (09:53):
And when you got into the deep growth, yeah, we, we
know that you had a very pivotalyou know, moment that, yeah,
sent you into your growth, yourexpansion.
You're seeking growth.
When you got on the other sideof growth, how did that feel
Like when you started to deepdive into it?
Goddess Brittney (10:13):
Well, when I started to deep dive into it, my
growth started in community,which is not everyone's
experience.
So for many of you who havelistened to the podcast or
listened to my story, you know alittle bit about this, and for
those who do not, just a triggerwarning.
I experienced a rape thatreally spun my life, and in that
(10:37):
moment it was when I got thechoice of, like you can keep
living life the way you are andyou know, or you can choose
something else, and it was mechoosing something else that led
me to the pole dancingcommunity, the central movement
community.
That really changed my life,and so I felt held by it,
(10:58):
because I immediately met newpeople and I felt the separation
of oh, I'm having challengeswith my family, with my new
thoughts and new beliefs, andthat part was a struggle.
Lisset (11:10):
Yeah, yeah.
So I absolutely understand andappreciate that it really helps
to be in a new community whenyou're growing Like, can you
grow in community?
Can you sit in sisterhood, canyou sit with people who are
taking that next step in theirlife?
When I first started, it was aseminar back in the day,
something much like Landmarkcalled PSI.
(11:32):
And I got to grow with thesepeople and it was wonderful.
And yet, at the same time, athome, I was struggling to talk
to my siblings, I was strugglingto talk to my friends I hung
out with and partied with and Iwas so excited about the
expansion.
And that's something thathappens.
That can happen is you get soexcited about your growth and
(11:55):
you share it with everyone andthey're like not ready.
Goddess Brittney (11:59):
I do remember that experience.
Lisset (12:00):
Yeah, Like no, thank you .
That's great for you I didn'teven hear.
Goddess Brittney (12:04):
That was great for you I heard I think you're
crazy, right like I was, likeyou can control your thoughts
with your mind and people arelike you're insane they want to
have an intervention.
Lisset (12:16):
Yeah, they want to have an intervention.
Goddess Brittney (12:17):
For me it's like she's meditating.
She won't go to our westerndoctor yeah they thought I was
crazy.
But I feel you with thatresonance of, that joy of when
you have the lights turned on inyour life.
All of a sudden you're like, ohmy god, you guys, there's light
(12:38):
here, I can see more things.
And for those who are still inthe dark it can be really
disorienting and they don't wantto hear about our Lord and
Christ.
Lisset (12:52):
No, you don't want to hear about our Lord and Savior.
Goddess Brittney (12:56):
Yeah, uh-huh, uh-huh, yeah, it's like.
I mean for better use of like.
I just feel like that metaphorreally resonates with like
people are like.
I found a light.
Let me tell you about it.
It's like you can keep yourlight.
No, thank you, Get off my porch.
Lisset (13:11):
I do not want your pamphlet.
Thank you very much.
Yes, yes, yeah.
And I remember that excitementand then the disappointment, the
disappointment of like, oh,there was like an expansion and
then, well, people aren't seeingme and meeting me and your life
(13:36):
looks so different from a newperspective, and you allow
yourself to see your world in adifferent way.
And if you don't have a supportsystem set up, if you don't
have you know, if you're notaware that there's challenges,
that it's not a straight line.
If it were a straight line, youknow everybody would do it.
But you go up and then you hitan obstacle, and a lot of people
(13:57):
hit an obstacle and they go.
This growth thing's not for me.
Yeah, you know and they stop andit's like when?
When did we learn to give up atthe obstacle?
You know, because we didn't.
We didn't have that as a child,you know, I didn't know.
No, I mean it did.
You know you were learning towalk.
(14:19):
The first time you fell youwere like was walking things not
for me?
Goddess Brittney (14:22):
No, children are resilient.
We say it all the time.
Lisset (14:25):
Yeah, children are resilient.
They'll crack the code, they'lllook for it, and you just keep
going.
You keep walking and you keepfiguring it out and sometimes,
when we have this big expansion,your mind can't go back to the
way it used to be.
So you can't go back to the oldway it's growing.
You're like, ooh, that's notworking and your unconscious
(14:46):
mind will seek your old patternsfor comfort.
Goddess Brittney (14:53):
That feels so familiar.
I've done a lot of expansion myown life and sometimes, when an
obstacle comes up, I'm likelike I've made it so far in like
health and fitness and all thethings.
I'm like treating my body likea temple, but all of a sudden an
obstacle comes up and work andI'm like you know what we need?
Pizzas plural, plural.
(15:15):
Do you know what I need?
The family size chip bag forone, you know, and it's like the
old coping mechanism of this ishow I used to survive shows up
and it can be really unexpected.
If you're like wait, I feellike I went to that three-day
seminar.
I listened to Tony Robbins.
I'm in my future self.
(15:37):
You know, I'm doing all thethings, something happened and
all of a sudden I'm right backthere with that crack pipe.
No, I'm kidding, no, I'm reallykidding.
That wasn't my path.
Lisset (15:47):
That was not a real life experience.
Goddess Brittney (15:49):
No judgment, no judgment, but yes but you
know, that's how I feel aboutsometimes, like the addicting
foods.
It's just like mm.
Lisset (15:58):
Yes, yes, and then you're seeking the safety of the
old way.
Goddess Brittney (16:02):
Yes, because you're like, at least in the old
way.
I knew you know this X, y, zwas going to.
I knew that so-and-so was afuck boy.
It was going to fuck me over.
I knew if I drank this muchlike I'd make terrible decisions
.
I'd make terrible decisions andit's fine.
You know, like yeah.
Lisset (16:19):
So it's the known yeah, yeah, we, we.
That's part of the discomfortthat comes with it is you're
going to swim in the unknown,yeah.
And when you're growing andyou're expanding, you're just
like oh, this is reallyuncomfortable.
And it's not that it'suncomfortable, it's that it's
unknown.
And your, your nervous systemis like will I survive this?
(16:43):
And when you learn to come toexpect this it's something I
really start to prepare myclients for is like we're in a
three month container.
Because you're, I always say, Ican guarantee you're going to
feel great on day one.
I can guarantee that you willsee life through a whole new
lens.
You'll be like oh my God, thisis what it feels like to live
without that baggage.
(17:03):
And then, a few days in, inyour old environment, things
start to come up, triggers startto come up and it's just like
can you remember who you are?
Can you remember the wisdomthat you gained?
Can you stay focused on whereit is you're going and not the
obstacle that's coming up inthis moment?
Can you Absolutely?
(17:24):
Oh my God, how do you do that?
How do I do that?
Goddess Brittney (17:27):
Yeah, how do you do that?
Inquiring minds want to know?
Lisset (17:33):
Well, you know, there's four requisites of change.
I'm pretty sure I've talkedabout this before.
My teacher, matt James, talksabout these ad nauseum.
It doesn't matter how manyclasses you've taken from him.
This is where we start, yeah,so let's go back.
The first one is release.
You got to let go of thebaggage.
(17:53):
A lot of modalities don'tactually have release work.
Goddess Brittney (17:54):
I know A lot of them.
Therapy, yeah, yeah, I know.
Lisset (17:56):
They start at three and four.
So step one is release.
The second step is creating anintention, a compelling future,
something that's pulling you,Because if you just let go of
baggage and you have nowhere togo now, you just have an empty
room you know, and if you'veever emptied a room, it fills up
very quickly.
Goddess Brittney (18:15):
Yes, yes, if there's not an intention.
If there's not an intention,yeah.
Sorry I just had a realizationabout our home, but yeah, yeah.
Lisset (18:27):
So you have to have an intention like oh, this is going
to be a guest room.
This is going to be a baby'sroom.
This is going to be my office.
It's going to be dialed in likethis is where I'm headed.
You know, I let go of thebaggage of the fuck boy.
I am looking for partnership,true, authentic, loving
partnership.
I let go of that povertymindset.
Now I'm might have my eyes seton thriving on, you know, my
(18:47):
first six figure month, or myMm-hmm.
You have to set your mind onwhere you're going.
You have to do those two.
You have to.
They're called requisites for areason.
You will not create the changefully if you don't have those
(19:07):
Steps.
Three and four only you can doon your own.
So I help people with one andtwo all the time in my work.
Three and four the day I can dothese.
Oh, there's going to be anotherzero or two zeros on the end of
my day.
Goddess Brittney (19:19):
I will say you hold people accountable.
I do, through step three andfour, absolutely I do hold them
accountable.
Lisset (19:23):
They have to show up for it yeah, only you can take
action.
Goddess Brittney (19:26):
Yeah.
Lisset (19:27):
And that is a different action.
You cannot create a new lifedoing your old actions.
Yes, you can't get that sixpack still eating the pizzas.
You know, like there's, there'sdiscipline.
Boundaries are new action.
You got to put boundaries upwith family, with friends,
people who want to hold you inthat old paradigm.
You have to hold up yourboundaries around that and
(19:48):
boundaries with yourself.
I will not do that anymore.
I will not interact with thatperson anymore.
You must keep up yourboundaries, so you you, you're
the only one who can take action.
I can hold you accountable mustkeep up your boundaries, so you
, you, you're the one who cantake action.
I can hold you accountable, butyou can be the only one who can
take action and you must focus.
Focus on where you're going,focus on that intention, focus
on the end result.
(20:08):
If you're not looking at theend result, you're looking at
the obstacle and you have totake yourself all the way to the
end result.
Time and time again, time andtime again.
When you hit an obstacle, thatis a sign that you're getting
closer.
You hit the discomfort.
That is a sign you're gettingcloser.
The discomfort is part of itand it can be lonely, it can be
(20:29):
sad.
You are grieving a past versionof yourself.
You're grieving your old habits.
I quit drinking a little over ayear ago, thank you, and I'm so
proud of it.
And now I'm going to go hangout with my family and it's like
that was a thing we used tobond over, you know and I get to
(20:50):
reintroduce myself as theperson I am and focus on what it
is Like.
Why am I doing that?
Because I want to be a clearchannel for the energy work I do
like I am sites on that, yeah,and then putting up my boundary
and then rinse and repeat, yeahyou go through this.
You're never done changing andit's, it's, it's a lot what
(21:14):
would you say?
Goddess Brittney (21:18):
I mean, I guess I'm like the feeling that
comes through is like I wouldlove for you to just share.
Can you talk about like aspecific moment you were in
these crossroads and like howthe four records that supported
you or how you navigated thisBecause I hear you and I'm like
sounds theoretical, yes,absolutely Sounds theoretical
(21:41):
Literally.
How did you real world, realworld example.
We need a story.
Thank you, oh my gosh.
Lisset (21:46):
There's.
So there have been so manymassive growth points in my life
.
Yes, and I will tell you beforeI had a career breakthrough
that changed my life like in amassive way.
I was so broke I couldn'tafford like a hundred dollar
ticket to go to Las Vegas.
(22:06):
And I was I just remember beingso and I was like, babe, I
can't have this opportunity togo to this seminar.
All I have to do is get myselfthere and you're like then you
fucking get yourself there, wewill figure it out.
You know, that was a moment,yeah, and I was like, okay, and
I went there and something thathappened was we created a goal.
(22:27):
What was the um?
A game worth playing.
Goddess Brittney (22:32):
It was called the Guap.
Lisset (22:34):
Yeah, and so we created a Guap and in that moment for me
it was I want to create $60,000in a year.
Yeah, and I had never done thatbefore.
Goddess Brittney (22:42):
Yeah.
Lisset (22:43):
So I did my.
I asked someone there who Iknew did this work?
I was like, hey, would you do abreakthrough on me?
Goddess Brittney (22:49):
And she said yes.
Lisset (22:50):
And so we go through the breakthrough.
All of a sudden the baggage isgone.
Yeah, I was like, oh my gosh,like I had this stuff around.
I can't remember specificallywhat it was, but it just like it
was something around, notfeeling smart enough Like I
won't be a good business owner,because I'm not smart enough oh
right.
And I'm like, oh so, so I'msitting, you know, I let that
shit go and I was like that'sfucking stupid.
(23:12):
I know some dumb ass peoplethat make a lot of money and no
disrespect, yeah a lot of moneyand no disrespect.
Goddess Brittney (23:20):
Yeah, blessings on them.
They're a beautiful example forme.
Yeah, because money has nothingto do.
Money has nothing to do withintelligence.
Yeah, exactly so I let thatshit go.
Lisset (23:25):
And then she put me on like the strictest of strict,
like we, this is where we'regoing.
I had it, I had a money cock.
Yeah, we called it and it wasone of those thermometers, but
the way I drew it just came outextra phallic.
So I would, every dollar thatcame in I would like draw it in
and I was filling thethermometer.
(23:46):
So there it is like release thebaggage, yeah, set the
intention, yeah, you know, yeah,and and focus on that, no
matter what.
And I remember it was withinhours of the end of my
breakthrough that I signed myfirst person at my new price.
And then a day after that and Ithink my breakthroughs are like
(24:07):
2,500 back then and I was, andlike the next day I did another
one, and then it was just likemomentum.
I go okay, what am I doing?
That that matters, like what doI know that matters?
And what matters is connectingwith people, and not everyone
wanted to connect.
Goddess Brittney (24:23):
Yeah.
Lisset (24:24):
And not everyone.
I remember talking to peopleand them being like oh, change
sounds scary, not interested,you know, but I never stopped
having that obstacle in my mindand that's not the obstacle
having that goal in my mind andfocusing and focusing, no matter
what happened, and showing upto reading the books that I was
(24:45):
told to read and forgiving asoften as I needed to forgive and
just show up to my business andand through that, the change
happened.
A goal I had set for a full year.
I got it in seven months andour financial life has always
expanded since then because Iknow what matters to create the
(25:09):
end result.
Is that a good example?
Goddess Brittney (25:12):
That is a great example.
I mean, I'm saying it for thepeople, of course, no, but I it
helps to hear like how onenavigates it.
What would you say has been themost either surprising quote,
unquote loss or the mostchallenging loss to navigate,
(25:35):
and how did you navigate throughit?
Lisset (25:37):
That's a great question.
Let me be with it.
Yeah, oh, I would say I had afriend.
When I first did the seminar, Ihad a friend.
She was my best friend.
Gosh she was a coworker bestfriend Like I loved hanging out
with her.
We would get wasted, yeah likea white girl wasted.
(26:00):
We would get really.
It was gnarly, you know umblackout yeah blackout drunk and
I got the moment of hey, didyou know you're responsible for
your life?
And she didn't want to hearthat shit.
You know we got along throughcommiserating yeah, and we we
(26:28):
had a lot of um, our friendshipwas built on that similarity.
Goddess Brittney (26:32):
Our friendship was built on drinking, getting
wasted and sleeping with boys.
Lisset (26:34):
So all that changed as I healed and became more myself
and became okay with who I am.
That's something to talk about.
In growth, too is, the more youheal and the more you grow, the
(26:54):
more you become who youactually are, and so you stop
masking, you stop trying to fitin where you're not fitting in.
Yes, full circle moment for me,you stop trying to fit in where
you're not fitting in.
Yes, full circle moment for me,you know, with that friend
group, yeah, and I think thatfor me was so hard, like I can
feel a little choked up justfrom the space of like I so
wanted her to come and I sowanted it.
It's skeptical as fuck and andI know she sees my life like
(27:18):
freaking rocking you know, andit's and I love her and I
respect her, and everyone hasyou know um.
Everyone deserves to grow at thepace they want to.
Goddess Brittney (27:27):
Yep, yeah.
Lisset (27:29):
Absolutely respect that and love that and it was sad.
It was devastating for me.
I remember crying a lot at theloss of that friendship.
Goddess Brittney (27:38):
Yeah, Friendships.
I feel like that's the partthat you're shining a light on
that not everyone is aware of.
When we say yes to growth, it'slike, yeah, my life's going to
change.
And people are like, yeah, itis, which means it's going to
(27:58):
change, Like that sentence is istrue, it is going to change.
And some of I know my, some ofmy own internal conflict or
turmoil has been like I wantthis over there.
And then the universe is like,great, this is what it means to
have this over there.
And it's like, oh, but I wantedto keep all these same things.
(28:18):
And it's like I wanted to keepthe same small thoughts, the
same small relationships, thesame small ways of being, and
it's like that's not who Ibecome, to have that experience
that I want in my life.
And the fear of like what if Idon't meet another best friend?
You know what if I don't meetanother?
(28:39):
Da-da-da-da-da, and justallowing yourself to know that
there's more on the other side,Like would you say you've met
new friends.
Lisset (28:51):
A hundred percent.
Goddess Brittney (28:52):
I'd be real cheesy right now.
Lisset (28:54):
I'd be like you're one of my best friends.
Oh, you're one of my bestfriends.
Yes, yeah you know of my bestfriends.
Goddess Brittney (28:58):
Yes, yeah, you know, if not the.
Lisset (29:01):
Yes, and that is that.
It's that in between, thatliminal space between what
you've let go of.
Goddess Brittney (29:09):
Yeah.
Lisset (29:09):
And what you allow in that is.
That's probably the darknessthat a lot of people can't make
it through.
That is the choice.
That's the point of the pointof no return, where it's like
well, I don't like this new wayof thinking.
Let me go back and pretend thatI'm not magical.
Goddess Brittney (29:30):
Let me how did you hold yourself through that?
I mean, what's feeling likelike almost like the dark night
of the soul, but like thatbetwixt between, that in-between
moment where it's like I nowknow something that I can't
unknow, but I haven't gotten towhere I'm arriving yet.
What is it that you hold on to?
Lisset (29:49):
Yeah.
So one thing I want to say isas when I started growing, I was
so excited and I thought mylife would change instantly.
And the thing about that firstseminar is they didn't actually
do release work.
There was a like, there's a youcould change your thoughts and
you could change your life.
And that's a slower process.
(30:10):
It's a much slower process.
You could change your thoughtsand all of a sudden you're like
my car is still breaking down,my home still sucks, my bank
account still keeps going tonegative, and so I was like I
can control my reality.
I can control my reality, and Idid for a little bit and I
(30:32):
found myself in this flow ofmagic and then things settled
magic, and then things settledand I was like I almost felt
like I lost my spark there for aminute.
Yeah, you know and I.
What happened was that truththat my mind creates, my reality
got so lodged in there as atruth like the law of mind that
(30:54):
was that's what they call it in.
Who know, like the law of mindis everything's your mind.
Goddess Brittney (30:58):
Everything is your reality.
Lisset (31:00):
Everything, everything, everything, everything.
You're experiencing everythinginside of your brain, right here
, in this tiny little part.
So it's not actually happeningout there.
Where it's happening is righthere.
Goddess Brittney (31:13):
Yeah.
Lisset (31:14):
You know, yeah, and if everything is your mind, I just
was like kept coming back toresponsible and it was one gift
that they gave me is like youcan be a victim or you can be
responsible, and I just keptgoing back to I'm responsible
for my reality.
I have years of momentum ofbeing broke, sad, lonely you
(31:35):
know, and you know, in thecloset and all the things it
took several moments of mycoming out journey came out
through that when I was like Icannot deny that I'm gay anymore
.
Yay, yay we're all happy and Ihad to come out to my family.
That was hard, that waschallenging, that would you come
(31:59):
out to first.
Goddess Brittney (32:00):
Oh, alex my sister, oh yay oh, she was the
best.
Lisset (32:03):
Yeah, it was a very like okay, like kind of we knew the
whole time surprise, surprise noone was really surprised, like
not even my mom.
No one at all was at allsurprised.
I think, my oldest brother.
He was a little taken aback but, like everyone, was pretty cool
(32:25):
with it.
But that's part of the hardnessthat you never get told when
you're going through the growthjourney.
You know you might have anawakening and not connect with
God anymore like you used to.
You might have a religiousawakening.
You might have a sexualawakening.
(32:46):
You might have a financialawakening.
You thought your entire lifethat you were being held down by
the man and then you didn'trealize it was like oh, actually
I'm in control of my wallet.
Goddess Brittney (32:57):
The boot on your head is yours.
The boot on your head is yours.
Lisset (33:00):
That was my favorite meme.
Yeah, Um yeah, and so um.
The amount of growth andsadness and courage it takes to
keep walking through thedarkness until you see the light
, until you get to the otherside of the tunnel.
It's the part you don't reallyget to.
It's not on the brochure.
Goddess Brittney (33:23):
Well, thank you for telling us all about it.
Lisset (33:27):
The truth about growth.
Goddess Brittney (33:28):
No, I don't say that facetiously.
The truth about growth no, Idon't say that facetiously
Something that I really value,that we do in both of our
containers as individual spaceholders, but also for our
retreat is we have this kind ofconversation with our clients,
with our students of like yo.
So this is the part that wasn'ton the brochure and we're going
(33:49):
to tell you before you leavethe space, so you're not
surprised by it and you get theopportunity to choose to keep
taking steps forward.
I did.
It was really great and it wasvery expansive and it was like a
(34:10):
weekend of like magic, um, andI didn't really know what to do
with it.
Like I was just like I had thisexperience.
That's great.
I didn't decide to continue oncause I hadn't expanded to the
point where I thought that thatwas possible for myself.
Um, I, literally they were likeyou should invest and they were
like you could give us a card,and I was just like I, literally
they were like you shouldinvest and they were like you
(34:31):
could give us a card, and I wasjust like, okay, and they're
like this card is declined.
I was like, well, that is myreality, which is what I told
you but, like you know, I didn'tknow what to do with the
information, I didn't exactlyknow how to integrate it and I
wasn't prepared for the likemoments of choice.
(34:51):
Like I think, I went to thatexperience, had an expansive
experience and then, prettyshortly after, was back at Taco
Tuesdays and having margaritasand the being in the ways that I
knew how to be, because Ididn't know what to do or how to
sustain a change.
Lisset (35:10):
Yeah, you know a lot of those things and I don't know.
It's been a while since I'vebeen there and I've spent a
small fortune on personaldevelopment and a majority of
the ones I went to before Idiscovered NLP, mer HUNA.
There was no release work inthem.
There was no release work.
(35:31):
They're like just change yourmind and change your life.
It's like not if your entirenervous system is dealing with
the deep truth that you'reunworthy and you don't deserve
anything, because you ain't shit.
You know.
It's just like try to focus onthat while you think terrible
things about yourself, becausethat is what's at you.
Believe at things aboutyourself because that is what
(35:52):
you believe at the deepest level, because that's what reality is
going to reflect back to you.
Your reality will be reflectedwhat you believe at the deepest
level, not what you want tobelieve.
Which is why affirmations canbe bullshit.
If you read affirmations thatyour unconscious mind is not in
alignment with, it'll be likeyou're a fucking liar.
And so if you don't do the firststep of release work, which is
(36:14):
why it's the medicine I serve.
It's why I'm so passionateabout it when you let go of your
baggage.
I've got a client right nowwho's just kicking ass like so
beyond incredible financially.
He's like I've never made thismuch money in a day and I'm like
, yeah bro.
Goddess Brittney (36:33):
Yeah.
Lisset (36:34):
Yeah, and we're like, we know, like we, we believe in
this, we know it and we, we liveit but, you cannot do that with
the baggage, you cannot do thatwith your old belief system.
Goddess Brittney (36:44):
It reminds me of.
I feel so grateful that youintroduced me to these tools.
Side note, of course we dorelease work at retreat.
We do release work in all ourstuff.
But like anything we havethere's really certain, but it's
like trying to white knuckle,like something you have an
addiction to.
Like it's like, oh, if they justlike stop doing drugs, if they
(37:07):
just stop drinking, and it'sjust like that is a symptom of
something that's deeper andyou're white knuckling against
that deeper thing, and if it'sall that you've ever known, it
can be such a Goliath experience.
And what I noticed thedifference was was, once I've
had release work, then it's nota Goliath, it's easier for me to
(37:29):
refocus and look towards thefuture and look towards the good
, because I'm not actuallytrying to white knuckle my way
like up a mountain up somethingthat feels so arduous.
It's like I was able to actuallylike put that shit down and
then it's like, well, now I getto pick a new truth.
I'm not carrying this old thingwith me, and I feel like that
is the difference that reallymakes a difference to catapult
(37:52):
your life Absolutely.
Lisset (37:54):
Kind of going back to like the room analogy is like,
let's say, we empty and cleanout a room, now we could put new
furniture in.
If you haven't done releasework, your room is full of shit.
You've got wall to wall boxesof opinions and beliefs that I
love.
That scene in Inside OutNevermind Opinions and facts.
Goddess Brittney (38:18):
Yeah, and they just get mixed up.
They get mixed up, it's okay.
Lisset (38:21):
They get mixed up.
They get mixed up all the timeI digress.
So you have this room full ofall these beliefs and ideas and
it's wall-to-wall boxes, andyou're trying to put a new piece
of furniture in.
You cannot do that, and so whenyou do deep release work, when
we let go of the anger, sadness,fear, guilt and shame and the
thing that's being reflected atthe deepest level, what we do is
(38:42):
we clear out the whole room, wedetail it, we fine, clean it.
Now we can put beautiful thingsin.
Now you can put in theaffirmations, now you can set
that intention to where you'regoing.
You know, one thing I want tosay to this caller writer is
they said how do I know if it'sworth pushing through?
(39:03):
It is, it just is.
If you want your life to lookthe way it always has, then stop
pushing through.
If you want something different, you must go on.
You must go on.
I forgot the quoter who says it.
It's like if you find yourselfin hell, keep walking, don't
(39:27):
stop there, don't set up camp.
You know, don't stop there,don't set up camp, don't put
your furniture down.
Like keep going, because it canbe overwhelming.
And it like remember that youchose this.
You asked for.
You asked for this growth, andso keep going through.
And when you hit an obstacle,it just means you're getting
(39:49):
closer.
So keep moving, keep learningto walk, keep taking those steps
.
Goddess Brittney (39:55):
I just want to say you mentioned you're like,
hey, I'm growing and now I'mfeeling exhausted and
overwhelmed.
And my curiosity is were youexhausted and overwhelmed before
?
Is that just a habit?
You know, sometimes we getintimidated when we're trying
something new and we forget it'sthe first fucking time.
(40:16):
And when, like you're learningto do something for the first
time, it does take a lot offocus, it does take a lot more
energy and then, when it's onautopilot, it takes no energy at
all.
Like driving, you know, you hadyour hands on the wheels 10 and
2.
Now you know, eating salads,doing makeup.
I literally once burned my headwith a curling iron because I
(40:37):
was curling my hair whiledriving.
Lisset (40:41):
That's a choice.
Goddess Brittney (40:42):
I know LA traffic was very intense so I
felt like I had quite a lot oftime.
Anywho, I digress, but it'slike the habits that you are
used to are on autopilot, sothey don't take a lot of energy.
It doesn't take a lot of energyto keep sleeping with the wrong
man.
It doesn't take a lot of energyto keep being broke, like if
that's what you're used to.
It does take energy and manaand focus when you are learning
(41:07):
something new.
So my offering and invitationis be kind to yourself and know
you're not going to feelexhausted and overwhelmed
forever.
It might just be in this moment.
That might be a strategy and ahabit for keeping you the same.
And 100 million, zillion,thousand, billion times yes, it
(41:28):
is so worth it to grow.
My life is better than I couldhave ever imagined.
It's better than I ever couldhave dreamed it, and when I
think about some of my darkestmoments, when I didn't want to
be here, when I wasn't sure whatlife was, when I was just and I
chose to grow, my life hascontinued to awe and surprise me
(41:50):
and just humble me with tearsof gratitude.
For that I'm so happy.
I said yes to the growth Like Iwould not be with this woman
today if I hadn't said yes togrowth.
I wouldn't have the friendsthat I have, I wouldn't be
running my own business, Iwouldn't be living in this
gorgeous house, I wouldn't havemy amazing dogs.
Like there's so much goodnessand I'm like every day.
I am so grateful that my lifedoes not look how it did before
(42:15):
I chose to grow.
It absolutely changed and itwas absolutely worth it.
Lisset (42:19):
Absolutely 100%.
And throughout all of that,it's not on Instagram, it's not
the highlight reel.
There were some tough times.
I, just a few months ago, I wassitting on the bed crying
because I was leveling up to thenext step and it was the
biggest investment I've evermade in my life toward my own
(42:41):
personal development.
But I knew what it was.
I was going to get on the otherside of it and I'm sitting
there crying Can we do this?
And Brittany, being the lovinggoddess that she is, was like do
you want to do this?
And I'm like, yeah, and she'slike, well then, we will fucking
figure it out.
And we did.
And when you have your eye onthe prize, when you focus on
(43:02):
this thing, you set yourintention on it will always.
You will always find a way.
You'll see some obstacles, butyou will find your way out of it
.
Goddess Brittney (43:09):
Always, Always , always, always.
Wow, this episode, this topic.
I mean we can go on and on, andI feel like this is a great
stopping point to digest,integrate, reflect.
I mean we brought up a lot.
So I would encourage if you arefeeling things, activations,
openings, ahas like this is aperfect time to get out your
(43:31):
journal and ask yourself likewhat are my takeaways?
What did I learn?
How am I going to use this tosupport me in my life, where I
am right now?
Because the truth is, like shesaid, we're always growing or
we're decaying, Like there is nostanding still.
If you think you're standingstill, you're probably going
backwards.
So allowing yourself to reflectand feel into what feels most
(43:56):
alive and true for you and howyou can use it in your path.
Lisset (43:58):
Yeah, such a juicy topic , thank you, thank you.
Thank you for asking thisquestion.
Greatly appreciate you, yeah.
Goddess Brittney (44:05):
Hashtag struggle thing yes.
Lisset (44:15):
And if you have a question, give us a call at
971-895-4111 or message us athonestfeedbackpodcast on
Instagram.
Goddess Brittney (44:23):
And until we meet again, be honest with each
other, yeah.
The amount of growth and sadness and courage it takes to
keep walking through thedarkness until you see the light
, until you get to the otherside of the tunnel.
It's the part we don't reallyget to.
It's not on the brochure.
Goddess Brittney (00:16):
Welcome to Honest Feedback, the podcast
where deep truth meets boldtransformation.
I'm Goddess Brittany King, apleasure priestess and a
transformational retreatfacilitator who helps women
connect to their deepest truths,reclaim their pleasure and
awaken their inner power.
Lisset (00:33):
And I'm Lissette King, an emotional ninja and
transformational coach who helpsleaders release baggage, heal
unresolved trauma and step intotheir most aligned, purposeful
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Goddess Brittney (00:43):
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Lisset (00:52):
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Goddess Brittney (01:00):
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Our ultimate goal is to empoweryou to create a life that's
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Lisset (01:13):
We know you're capable of incredible things, so let's
make it happen together.
Goddess Brittney (01:18):
Welcome back to another episode of Honest
Feedback.
It is so good to be here withall of y'all.
Lisset (01:25):
How are you feeling, babe?
I'm feeling really good.
I love this topic, yes, and I'mgeeking out real hard.
Goddess Brittney (01:30):
Oh my gosh, today y'all, we're going to talk
about Lisette's favorite thingto talk about.
Can you guess what it is?
It's my top value.
It's growth, it's growth, y'allyes.
Lisset (01:41):
Everyone got it.
It's growth, we's growth, y'allyes.
Goddess Brittney (01:42):
Everyone got it.
It's growth.
Yeah, we are talking aboutgrowth and all the stuff about
it.
Lisset (01:48):
Yeah, yeah, and the growing pains of growth there
are growing pains.
Goddess Brittney (01:53):
Oh yeah, what?
Nobody warned me.
No kidding, we're talking aboutgrowth and we're talking about
growing pains.
And yeah, well, I mean you'vealready said it's your top value
.
What else do you want to sayabout growth before we get into
it?
Lisset (02:07):
Growth is inevitable.
You know they're growing ordecaying.
Okay, so it's yeah.
Goddess Brittney (02:14):
These are the options.
Lisset (02:16):
These are the options growth or decay.
And then people get mad becausegrowth ain't pretty either.
Goddess Brittney (02:22):
Oh gosh.
Lisset (02:23):
Okay, yeah, well, I'm so excited.
Goddess Brittney (02:25):
Okay, I'm so excited, but first I think we
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Lisset (03:09):
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Oh my gosh, this land itself isa facilitator.
People go here and they, theycompletely heal, lose 10 years
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It is beyond epic and thelittle casitas you stay in.
Goddess Brittney (03:29):
Oh, the little open air casitas.
Lisset (03:32):
It's magic, and we are there to serve you and remind
you of the goddess that you are,the goddess you were born as,
and to bring it into fruition.
So you may be that person whenyou leave this retreat.
Goddess Brittney (03:45):
Yeah, one of our clients who gave us
permission to share.
She shared with us that beforeshe came to a retreat with us,
that she did not know how tolove herself and she was feeling
lost.
And now, in hindsight, her lifereflected that and because of
the retreat, because of thelessons, because of the energy,
because of the frequency that wewere serving there, not only
(04:08):
does she love herself, she hasbeen able to embody it and carry
it forward.
So her entire life transformed,based on her now loving herself
.
And the way she spoke about howwe poured love into her.
She said it was justrevolutionary.
And so I am always so honoredto facilitate this space, the
(04:31):
space of growth, the space ofmetamorphosis, and if it's
something that calls to you, getin.
Doors are just opening andalready all the things are
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So if you feel it is for you,there are only nine seats
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Schedule a call, let's talk,let's have all the experience.
Lisset (04:55):
We are so beyond excited to host you and have you there.
Check out that link below.
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Goddess Brittney (05:02):
Yes.
Lisset (05:02):
Besides our waiting list girlies.
You are the first one to hearit here on this podcast.
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(05:26):
Yes, we shall, and you knowyou're the official reader of
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Goddess Brittney (05:29):
Oh my gosh.
Okay, I'm in a season where Iasked for growth, but now I feel
overwhelmed and exhausted.
Is it supposed to feel thishard, and how do I know if it's
worth pushing through?
Lisset (05:47):
hard and how do I know if it's worth pushing through?
Hashtag struggle?
Yes.
Short answer yes, it issupposed to feel this way.
It's supposed to feel, howeverit is, that you're feeling it
right now when we go through agrowth aspect of our life we are
go through a growth aspect ofour life we are.
First of all, an old.
Part of you is dying away, andso there is a death.
(06:09):
There is a mourning of who youused to be, the way you used to
do things.
What's happening is you'reletting go of the way things
were, the way you used to showup in the world.
You cannot go back to the wayyou were.
You know, if butterfly comesout of the cocoon, they're not
like I'll just keep crawlingaround.
You know you.
You are expected to fly, you'reexpected to move through things
(06:32):
, and that shows up differentlyfor a lot of people.
It's really challenging becauseit doesn't come on the label,
on on the box.
You know this may causechallenges, cause, honestly, you
wouldn't do it.
Goddess Brittney (06:45):
No, you got to sell that sizzle y'all.
Lisset (06:51):
My life is incredibly different than it was when I
first discovered expansion andgrowth work.
The part that is not on thehighlight reel, that's not on
the Instagram reel, is I lostfriends, I lost my community, I
lost the people.
I used to live a smaller life,with the people that I was
drinking with every weekend andplaying and doing all the things
(07:14):
that I used to do in adifferent life.
When I changed, they weren'table to meet me and there was a
lot of resistance and grief andgrief and sorrow and a long
period of feeling alone.
What was your experience Likewhen you first started growing?
Did you find it to be lonely?
Goddess Brittney (07:33):
Um, did I find it to be lonely?
I mean, I felt kind of alonebefore it started where it was
just like this disconnectionI'll never forget.
I was at a friend's birthdayparty or something like that,
and everybody was drinking,myself included drinking way too
(07:56):
much and there had just beenlike lots of like mismatchy kind
of experiences and I got into afight with one of my friends
for who she had voted for.
I did not agree and I was upsetwith her.
I was like your boyfriend'sblack, like do you not
understand what this means forus?
And you know, and it was.
I was all on my and latertalking to some of the people in
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the group of friends.
One of them was just like Ijust don't understand why you
get so upset.
Like I just think't understandwhy you get so upset.
Like I just think it's betterto just not talk about these
things that make usuncomfortable.
And I was livid because what Iwas seeing reflected back to me
was a friend group who didn'tknow slash acknowledge that I
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was black, which also was areflection that I was not
sharing.
I mean, they could see me, butI was not sharing my experiences
of moving through the world asa person of color and how my
life was different and I wasexpected to stay in this very
small box, and so it made itreally clear for me in a sort of
(09:08):
a line in the sand moment, likewe had already been kind of
growing apart, but I kept tryingto make it work.
And then I found my boundary ofyo.
This doesn't work, this is notworking.
So then it was the oh, I'mgoing to have to actually start
making some changes.
And they were small.
They were small.
(09:28):
I don't know that.
I thought I was signing myselfup for growth.
I was just like I can't be inthe relationship with this guy
anymore.
I don't know that this friendgroup is for me.
I was like I'm going to move inwith my sister and her friend
and like it was the slow cracksthat led me to a bigger moment
of like, oh shit, we really gotto look at a lot of shit.
Lisset (09:53):
And when you got into the deep growth, yeah, we, we
know that you had a very pivotalyou know, moment that, yeah,
sent you into your growth, yourexpansion.
You're seeking growth.
When you got on the other sideof growth, how did that feel
Like when you started to deepdive into it?
Goddess Brittney (10:13):
Well, when I started to deep dive into it, my
growth started in community,which is not everyone's
experience.
So for many of you who havelistened to the podcast or
listened to my story, you know alittle bit about this, and for
those who do not, just a triggerwarning.
I experienced a rape thatreally spun my life, and in that
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moment it was when I got thechoice of, like you can keep
living life the way you are andyou know, or you can choose
something else, and it was mechoosing something else that led
me to the pole dancingcommunity, the central movement
community.
That really changed my life,and so I felt held by it,
(10:58):
because I immediately met newpeople and I felt the separation
of oh, I'm having challengeswith my family, with my new
thoughts and new beliefs, andthat part was a struggle.
Lisset (11:10):
Yeah, yeah.
So I absolutely understand andappreciate that it really helps
to be in a new community whenyou're growing Like, can you
grow in community?
Can you sit in sisterhood, canyou sit with people who are
taking that next step in theirlife?
When I first started, it was aseminar back in the day,
something much like Landmarkcalled PSI.
(11:32):
And I got to grow with thesepeople and it was wonderful.
And yet, at the same time, athome, I was struggling to talk
to my siblings, I was strugglingto talk to my friends I hung
out with and partied with and Iwas so excited about the
expansion.
And that's something thathappens.
That can happen is you get soexcited about your growth and
(11:55):
you share it with everyone andthey're like not ready.
Goddess Brittney (11:59):
I do remember that experience.
Lisset (12:00):
Yeah, Like no, thank you .
That's great for you I didn'teven hear.
Goddess Brittney (12:04):
That was great for you I heard I think you're
crazy, right like I was, likeyou can control your thoughts
with your mind and people arelike you're insane they want to
have an intervention.
Lisset (12:16):
Yeah, they want to have an intervention.
Goddess Brittney (12:17):
For me it's like she's meditating.
She won't go to our westerndoctor yeah they thought I was
crazy.
But I feel you with thatresonance of, that joy of when
you have the lights turned on inyour life.
All of a sudden you're like, ohmy god, you guys, there's light
(12:38):
here, I can see more things.
And for those who are still inthe dark it can be really
disorienting and they don't wantto hear about our Lord and
Christ.
Lisset (12:52):
No, you don't want to hear about our Lord and Savior.
Goddess Brittney (12:56):
Yeah, uh-huh, uh-huh, yeah, it's like.
I mean for better use of like.
I just feel like that metaphorreally resonates with like
people are like.
I found a light.
Let me tell you about it.
It's like you can keep yourlight.
No, thank you, Get off my porch.
Lisset (13:11):
I do not want your pamphlet.
Thank you very much.
Yes, yes, yeah.
And I remember that excitementand then the disappointment, the
disappointment of like, oh,there was like an expansion and
then, well, people aren't seeingme and meeting me and your life
(13:36):
looks so different from a newperspective, and you allow
yourself to see your world in adifferent way.
And if you don't have a supportsystem set up, if you don't
have you know, if you're notaware that there's challenges,
that it's not a straight line.
If it were a straight line, youknow everybody would do it.
But you go up and then you hitan obstacle, and a lot of people
(13:57):
hit an obstacle and they go.
This growth thing's not for me.
Yeah, you know and they stop andit's like when?
When did we learn to give up atthe obstacle?
You know, because we didn't.
We didn't have that as a child,you know, I didn't know.
No, I mean it did.
You know you were learning towalk.
(14:19):
The first time you fell youwere like was walking things not
for me?
Goddess Brittney (14:22):
No, children are resilient.
We say it all the time.
Lisset (14:25):
Yeah, children are resilient.
They'll crack the code, they'lllook for it, and you just keep
going.
You keep walking and you keepfiguring it out and sometimes,
when we have this big expansion,your mind can't go back to the
way it used to be.
So you can't go back to the oldway it's growing.
You're like, ooh, that's notworking and your unconscious
(14:46):
mind will seek your old patternsfor comfort.
Goddess Brittney (14:53):
That feels so familiar.
I've done a lot of expansion myown life and sometimes, when an
obstacle comes up, I'm likelike I've made it so far in like
health and fitness and all thethings.
I'm like treating my body likea temple, but all of a sudden an
obstacle comes up and work andI'm like you know what we need?
Pizzas plural, plural.
(15:15):
Do you know what I need?
The family size chip bag forone, you know, and it's like the
old coping mechanism of this ishow I used to survive shows up
and it can be really unexpected.
If you're like wait, I feellike I went to that three-day
seminar.
I listened to Tony Robbins.
I'm in my future self.
(15:37):
You know, I'm doing all thethings, something happened and
all of a sudden I'm right backthere with that crack pipe.
No, I'm kidding, no, I'm reallykidding.
That wasn't my path.
Lisset (15:47):
That was not a real life experience.
Goddess Brittney (15:49):
No judgment, no judgment, but yes but you
know, that's how I feel aboutsometimes, like the addicting
foods.
It's just like mm.
Lisset (15:58):
Yes, yes, and then you're seeking the safety of the
old way.
Goddess Brittney (16:02):
Yes, because you're like, at least in the old
way.
I knew you know this X, y, zwas going to.
I knew that so-and-so was afuck boy.
It was going to fuck me over.
I knew if I drank this muchlike I'd make terrible decisions
.
I'd make terrible decisions andit's fine.
You know, like yeah.
Lisset (16:19):
So it's the known yeah, yeah, we, we.
That's part of the discomfortthat comes with it is you're
going to swim in the unknown,yeah.
And when you're growing andyou're expanding, you're just
like oh, this is reallyuncomfortable.
And it's not that it'suncomfortable, it's that it's
unknown.
And your, your nervous systemis like will I survive this?
(16:43):
And when you learn to come toexpect this it's something I
really start to prepare myclients for is like we're in a
three month container.
Because you're, I always say, Ican guarantee you're going to
feel great on day one.
I can guarantee that you willsee life through a whole new
lens.
You'll be like oh my God, thisis what it feels like to live
without that baggage.
(17:03):
And then, a few days in, inyour old environment, things
start to come up, triggers startto come up and it's just like
can you remember who you are?
Can you remember the wisdomthat you gained?
Can you stay focused on whereit is you're going and not the
obstacle that's coming up inthis moment?
Can you Absolutely?
(17:24):
Oh my God, how do you do that?
How do I do that?
Goddess Brittney (17:27):
Yeah, how do you do that?
Inquiring minds want to know?
Lisset (17:33):
Well, you know, there's four requisites of change.
I'm pretty sure I've talkedabout this before.
My teacher, matt James, talksabout these ad nauseum.
It doesn't matter how manyclasses you've taken from him.
This is where we start, yeah,so let's go back.
The first one is release.
You got to let go of thebaggage.
(17:53):
A lot of modalities don'tactually have release work.
Goddess Brittney (17:54):
I know A lot of them.
Therapy, yeah, yeah, I know.
Lisset (17:56):
They start at three and four.
So step one is release.
The second step is creating anintention, a compelling future,
something that's pulling you,Because if you just let go of
baggage and you have nowhere togo now, you just have an empty
room you know, and if you'veever emptied a room, it fills up
very quickly.
Goddess Brittney (18:15):
Yes, yes, if there's not an intention.
If there's not an intention,yeah.
Sorry I just had a realizationabout our home, but yeah, yeah.
Lisset (18:27):
So you have to have an intention like oh, this is going
to be a guest room.
This is going to be a baby'sroom.
This is going to be my office.
It's going to be dialed in likethis is where I'm headed.
You know, I let go of thebaggage of the fuck boy.
I am looking for partnership,true, authentic, loving
partnership.
I let go of that povertymindset.
Now I'm might have my eyes seton thriving on, you know, my
(18:47):
first six figure month, or myMm-hmm.
You have to set your mind onwhere you're going.
You have to do those two.
You have to.
They're called requisites for areason.
You will not create the changefully if you don't have those
(19:07):
Steps.
Three and four only you can doon your own.
So I help people with one andtwo all the time in my work.
Three and four the day I can dothese.
Oh, there's going to be anotherzero or two zeros on the end of
my day.
Goddess Brittney (19:19):
I will say you hold people accountable.
I do, through step three andfour, absolutely I do hold them
accountable.
Lisset (19:23):
They have to show up for it yeah, only you can take
action.
Goddess Brittney (19:26):
Yeah.
Lisset (19:27):
And that is a different action.
You cannot create a new lifedoing your old actions.
Yes, you can't get that sixpack still eating the pizzas.
You know, like there's, there'sdiscipline.
Boundaries are new action.
You got to put boundaries upwith family, with friends,
people who want to hold you inthat old paradigm.
You have to hold up yourboundaries around that and
(19:48):
boundaries with yourself.
I will not do that anymore.
I will not interact with thatperson anymore.
You must keep up yourboundaries, so you you, you're
the only one who can take action.
I can hold you accountable mustkeep up your boundaries, so you
, you, you're the one who cantake action.
I can hold you accountable, butyou can be the only one who can
take action and you must focus.
Focus on where you're going,focus on that intention, focus
on the end result.
(20:08):
If you're not looking at theend result, you're looking at
the obstacle and you have totake yourself all the way to the
end result.
Time and time again, time andtime again.
When you hit an obstacle, thatis a sign that you're getting
closer.
You hit the discomfort.
That is a sign you're gettingcloser.
The discomfort is part of itand it can be lonely, it can be
(20:29):
sad.
You are grieving a past versionof yourself.
You're grieving your old habits.
I quit drinking a little over ayear ago, thank you, and I'm so
proud of it.
And now I'm going to go hangout with my family and it's like
that was a thing we used tobond over, you know and I get to
(20:50):
reintroduce myself as theperson I am and focus on what it
is Like.
Why am I doing that?
Because I want to be a clearchannel for the energy work I do
like I am sites on that, yeah,and then putting up my boundary
and then rinse and repeat, yeahyou go through this.
You're never done changing andit's, it's, it's a lot what
(21:14):
would you say?
Goddess Brittney (21:18):
I mean, I guess I'm like the feeling that
comes through is like I wouldlove for you to just share.
Can you talk about like aspecific moment you were in
these crossroads and like howthe four records that supported
you or how you navigated thisBecause I hear you and I'm like
sounds theoretical, yes,absolutely Sounds theoretical
(21:41):
Literally.
How did you real world, realworld example.
We need a story.
Thank you, oh my gosh.
Lisset (21:46):
There's.
So there have been so manymassive growth points in my life
.
Yes, and I will tell you beforeI had a career breakthrough
that changed my life like in amassive way.
I was so broke I couldn'tafford like a hundred dollar
ticket to go to Las Vegas.
(22:06):
And I was I just remember beingso and I was like, babe, I
can't have this opportunity togo to this seminar.
All I have to do is get myselfthere and you're like then you
fucking get yourself there, wewill figure it out.
You know, that was a moment,yeah, and I was like, okay, and
I went there and something thathappened was we created a goal.
(22:27):
What was the um?
A game worth playing.
Goddess Brittney (22:32):
It was called the Guap.
Lisset (22:34):
Yeah, and so we created a Guap and in that moment for me
it was I want to create $60,000in a year.
Yeah, and I had never done thatbefore.
Goddess Brittney (22:42):
Yeah.
Lisset (22:43):
So I did my.
I asked someone there who Iknew did this work?
I was like, hey, would you do abreakthrough on me?
Goddess Brittney (22:49):
And she said yes.
Lisset (22:50):
And so we go through the breakthrough.
All of a sudden the baggage isgone.
Yeah, I was like, oh my gosh,like I had this stuff around.
I can't remember specificallywhat it was, but it just like it
was something around, notfeeling smart enough Like I
won't be a good business owner,because I'm not smart enough oh
right.
And I'm like, oh so, so I'msitting, you know, I let that
shit go and I was like that'sfucking stupid.
(23:12):
I know some dumb ass peoplethat make a lot of money and no
disrespect, yeah a lot of moneyand no disrespect.
Goddess Brittney (23:20):
Yeah, blessings on them.
They're a beautiful example forme.
Yeah, because money has nothingto do.
Money has nothing to do withintelligence.
Yeah, exactly so I let thatshit go.
Lisset (23:25):
And then she put me on like the strictest of strict,
like we, this is where we'regoing.
I had it, I had a money cock.
Yeah, we called it and it wasone of those thermometers, but
the way I drew it just came outextra phallic.
So I would, every dollar thatcame in I would like draw it in
and I was filling thethermometer.
(23:46):
So there it is like release thebaggage, yeah, set the
intention, yeah, you know, yeah,and and focus on that, no
matter what.
And I remember it was withinhours of the end of my
breakthrough that I signed myfirst person at my new price.
And then a day after that and Ithink my breakthroughs are like
(24:07):
2,500 back then and I was, andlike the next day I did another
one, and then it was just likemomentum.
I go okay, what am I doing?
That that matters, like what doI know that matters?
And what matters is connectingwith people, and not everyone
wanted to connect.
Goddess Brittney (24:23):
Yeah.
Lisset (24:24):
And not everyone.
I remember talking to peopleand them being like oh, change
sounds scary, not interested,you know, but I never stopped
having that obstacle in my mindand that's not the obstacle
having that goal in my mind andfocusing and focusing, no matter
what happened, and showing upto reading the books that I was
(24:45):
told to read and forgiving asoften as I needed to forgive and
just show up to my business andand through that, the change
happened.
A goal I had set for a full year.
I got it in seven months andour financial life has always
expanded since then because Iknow what matters to create the
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end result.
Is that a good example?
Goddess Brittney (25:12):
That is a great example.
I mean, I'm saying it for thepeople, of course, no, but I it
helps to hear like how onenavigates it.
What would you say has been themost either surprising quote,
unquote loss or the mostchallenging loss to navigate,
(25:35):
and how did you navigate throughit?
Lisset (25:37):
That's a great question.
Let me be with it.
Yeah, oh, I would say I had afriend.
When I first did the seminar, Ihad a friend.
She was my best friend.
Gosh she was a coworker bestfriend Like I loved hanging out
with her.
We would get wasted, yeah likea white girl wasted.
(26:00):
We would get really.
It was gnarly, you know umblackout yeah blackout drunk and
I got the moment of hey, didyou know you're responsible for
your life?
And she didn't want to hearthat shit.
You know we got along throughcommiserating yeah, and we we
(26:28):
had a lot of um, our friendshipwas built on that similarity.
Goddess Brittney (26:32):
Our friendship was built on drinking, getting
wasted and sleeping with boys.
Lisset (26:34):
So all that changed as I healed and became more myself
and became okay with who I am.
That's something to talk about.
In growth, too is, the more youheal and the more you grow, the
(26:54):
more you become who youactually are, and so you stop
masking, you stop trying to fitin where you're not fitting in.
Yes, full circle moment for me,you stop trying to fit in where
you're not fitting in.
Yes, full circle moment for me,you know, with that friend
group, yeah, and I think thatfor me was so hard, like I can
feel a little choked up justfrom the space of like I so
wanted her to come and I sowanted it.
It's skeptical as fuck and andI know she sees my life like
(27:18):
freaking rocking you know, andit's and I love her and I
respect her, and everyone hasyou know um.
Everyone deserves to grow at thepace they want to.
Goddess Brittney (27:27):
Yep, yeah.
Lisset (27:29):
Absolutely respect that and love that and it was sad.
It was devastating for me.
I remember crying a lot at theloss of that friendship.
Goddess Brittney (27:38):
Yeah, Friendships.
I feel like that's the partthat you're shining a light on
that not everyone is aware of.
When we say yes to growth, it'slike, yeah, my life's going to
change.
And people are like, yeah, itis, which means it's going to
(27:58):
change, Like that sentence is istrue, it is going to change.
And some of I know my, some ofmy own internal conflict or
turmoil has been like I wantthis over there.
And then the universe is like,great, this is what it means to
have this over there.
And it's like, oh, but I wantedto keep all these same things.
(28:18):
And it's like I wanted to keepthe same small thoughts, the
same small relationships, thesame small ways of being, and
it's like that's not who Ibecome, to have that experience
that I want in my life.
And the fear of like what if Idon't meet another best friend?
You know what if I don't meetanother?
(28:39):
Da-da-da-da-da, and justallowing yourself to know that
there's more on the other side,Like would you say you've met
new friends.
Lisset (28:51):
A hundred percent.
Goddess Brittney (28:52):
I'd be real cheesy right now.
Lisset (28:54):
I'd be like you're one of my best friends.
Oh, you're one of my bestfriends.
Yes, yeah you know of my bestfriends.
Goddess Brittney (28:58):
Yes, yeah, you know, if not the.
Lisset (29:01):
Yes, and that is that.
It's that in between, thatliminal space between what
you've let go of.
Goddess Brittney (29:09):
Yeah.
Lisset (29:09):
And what you allow in that is.
That's probably the darknessthat a lot of people can't make
it through.
That is the choice.
That's the point of the pointof no return, where it's like
well, I don't like this new wayof thinking.
Let me go back and pretend thatI'm not magical.
Goddess Brittney (29:30):
Let me how did you hold yourself through that?
I mean, what's feeling likelike almost like the dark night
of the soul, but like thatbetwixt between, that in-between
moment where it's like I nowknow something that I can't
unknow, but I haven't gotten towhere I'm arriving yet.
What is it that you hold on to?
Lisset (29:49):
Yeah.
So one thing I want to say isas when I started growing, I was
so excited and I thought mylife would change instantly.
And the thing about that firstseminar is they didn't actually
do release work.
There was a like, there's a youcould change your thoughts and
you could change your life.
And that's a slower process.
(30:10):
It's a much slower process.
You could change your thoughtsand all of a sudden you're like
my car is still breaking down,my home still sucks, my bank
account still keeps going tonegative, and so I was like I
can control my reality.
I can control my reality, and Idid for a little bit and I
(30:32):
found myself in this flow ofmagic and then things settled
magic, and then things settledand I was like I almost felt
like I lost my spark there for aminute.
Yeah, you know and I.
What happened was that truththat my mind creates, my reality
got so lodged in there as atruth like the law of mind that
(30:54):
was that's what they call it in.
Who know, like the law of mindis everything's your mind.
Goddess Brittney (30:58):
Everything is your reality.
Lisset (31:00):
Everything, everything, everything, everything.
You're experiencing everythinginside of your brain, right here
, in this tiny little part.
So it's not actually happeningout there.
Where it's happening is righthere.
Goddess Brittney (31:13):
Yeah.
Lisset (31:14):
You know, yeah, and if everything is your mind, I just
was like kept coming back toresponsible and it was one gift
that they gave me is like youcan be a victim or you can be
responsible, and I just keptgoing back to I'm responsible
for my reality.
I have years of momentum ofbeing broke, sad, lonely you
(31:35):
know, and you know, in thecloset and all the things it
took several moments of mycoming out journey came out
through that when I was like Icannot deny that I'm gay anymore
.
Yay, yay we're all happy and Ihad to come out to my family.
That was hard, that waschallenging, that would you come
(31:59):
out to first.
Goddess Brittney (32:00):
Oh, alex my sister, oh yay oh, she was the
best.
Lisset (32:03):
Yeah, it was a very like okay, like kind of we knew the
whole time surprise, surprise noone was really surprised, like
not even my mom.
No one at all was at allsurprised.
I think, my oldest brother.
He was a little taken aback but, like everyone, was pretty cool
(32:25):
with it.
But that's part of the hardnessthat you never get told when
you're going through the growthjourney.
You know you might have anawakening and not connect with
God anymore like you used to.
You might have a religiousawakening.
You might have a sexualawakening.
(32:46):
You might have a financialawakening.
You thought your entire lifethat you were being held down by
the man and then you didn'trealize it was like oh, actually
I'm in control of my wallet.
Goddess Brittney (32:57):
The boot on your head is yours.
The boot on your head is yours.
Lisset (33:00):
That was my favorite meme.
Yeah, Um yeah, and so um.
The amount of growth andsadness and courage it takes to
keep walking through thedarkness until you see the light
, until you get to the otherside of the tunnel.
It's the part you don't reallyget to.
It's not on the brochure.
Goddess Brittney (33:23):
Well, thank you for telling us all about it.
Lisset (33:27):
The truth about growth.
Goddess Brittney (33:28):
No, I don't say that facetiously.
The truth about growth no, Idon't say that facetiously
Something that I really value,that we do in both of our
containers as individual spaceholders, but also for our
retreat is we have this kind ofconversation with our clients,
with our students of like yo.
So this is the part that wasn'ton the brochure and we're going
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to tell you before you leavethe space, so you're not
surprised by it and you get theopportunity to choose to keep
taking steps forward.
I did.
It was really great and it wasvery expansive and it was like a
(34:10):
weekend of like magic, um, andI didn't really know what to do
with it.
Like I was just like I had thisexperience.
That's great.
I didn't decide to continue oncause I hadn't expanded to the
point where I thought that thatwas possible for myself.
Um, I, literally they were likeyou should invest and they were
like you could give us a card,and I was just like I, literally
they were like you shouldinvest and they were like you
(34:31):
could give us a card, and I wasjust like, okay, and they're
like this card is declined.
I was like, well, that is myreality, which is what I told
you but, like you know, I didn'tknow what to do with the
information, I didn't exactlyknow how to integrate it and I
wasn't prepared for the likemoments of choice.
(34:51):
Like I think, I went to thatexperience, had an expansive
experience and then, prettyshortly after, was back at Taco
Tuesdays and having margaritasand the being in the ways that I
knew how to be, because Ididn't know what to do or how to
sustain a change.
Lisset (35:10):
Yeah, you know a lot of those things and I don't know.
It's been a while since I'vebeen there and I've spent a
small fortune on personaldevelopment and a majority of
the ones I went to before Idiscovered NLP, mer HUNA.
There was no release work inthem.
There was no release work.
(35:31):
They're like just change yourmind and change your life.
It's like not if your entirenervous system is dealing with
the deep truth that you'reunworthy and you don't deserve
anything, because you ain't shit.
You know.
It's just like try to focus onthat while you think terrible
things about yourself, becausethat is what's at you.
Believe at things aboutyourself because that is what
(35:52):
you believe at the deepest level, because that's what reality is
going to reflect back to you.
Your reality will be reflectedwhat you believe at the deepest
level, not what you want tobelieve.
Which is why affirmations canbe bullshit.
If you read affirmations thatyour unconscious mind is not in
alignment with, it'll be likeyou're a fucking liar.
And so if you don't do the firststep of release work, which is
(36:14):
why it's the medicine I serve.
It's why I'm so passionateabout it when you let go of your
baggage.
I've got a client right nowwho's just kicking ass like so
beyond incredible financially.
He's like I've never made thismuch money in a day and I'm like
, yeah bro.
Goddess Brittney (36:33):
Yeah.
Lisset (36:34):
Yeah, and we're like, we know, like we, we believe in
this, we know it and we, we liveit but, you cannot do that with
the baggage, you cannot do thatwith your old belief system.
Goddess Brittney (36:44):
It reminds me of.
I feel so grateful that youintroduced me to these tools.
Side note, of course we dorelease work at retreat.
We do release work in all ourstuff.
But like anything we havethere's really certain, but it's
like trying to white knuckle,like something you have an
addiction to.
Like it's like, oh, if they justlike stop doing drugs, if they
(37:07):
just stop drinking, and it'sjust like that is a symptom of
something that's deeper andyou're white knuckling against
that deeper thing, and if it'sall that you've ever known, it
can be such a Goliath experience.
And what I noticed thedifference was was, once I've
had release work, then it's nota Goliath, it's easier for me to
(37:29):
refocus and look towards thefuture and look towards the good
, because I'm not actuallytrying to white knuckle my way
like up a mountain up somethingthat feels so arduous.
It's like I was able to actuallylike put that shit down and
then it's like, well, now I getto pick a new truth.
I'm not carrying this old thingwith me, and I feel like that
is the difference that reallymakes a difference to catapult
(37:52):
your life Absolutely.
Lisset (37:54):
Kind of going back to like the room analogy is like,
let's say, we empty and cleanout a room, now we could put new
furniture in.
If you haven't done releasework, your room is full of shit.
You've got wall to wall boxesof opinions and beliefs that I
love.
That scene in Inside OutNevermind Opinions and facts.
Goddess Brittney (38:18):
Yeah, and they just get mixed up.
They get mixed up, it's okay.
Lisset (38:21):
They get mixed up.
They get mixed up all the timeI digress.
So you have this room full ofall these beliefs and ideas and
it's wall-to-wall boxes, andyou're trying to put a new piece
of furniture in.
You cannot do that, and so whenyou do deep release work, when
we let go of the anger, sadness,fear, guilt and shame and the
thing that's being reflected atthe deepest level, what we do is
(38:42):
we clear out the whole room, wedetail it, we fine, clean it.
Now we can put beautiful thingsin.
Now you can put in theaffirmations, now you can set
that intention to where you'regoing.
You know, one thing I want tosay to this caller writer is
they said how do I know if it'sworth pushing through?
(39:03):
It is, it just is.
If you want your life to lookthe way it always has, then stop
pushing through.
If you want something different, you must go on.
You must go on.
I forgot the quoter who says it.
It's like if you find yourselfin hell, keep walking, don't
(39:27):
stop there, don't set up camp.
You know, don't stop there,don't set up camp, don't put
your furniture down.
Like keep going, because it canbe overwhelming.
And it like remember that youchose this.
You asked for.
You asked for this growth, andso keep going through.
And when you hit an obstacle,it just means you're getting
(39:49):
closer.
So keep moving, keep learningto walk, keep taking those steps
.
Goddess Brittney (39:55):
I just want to say you mentioned you're like,
hey, I'm growing and now I'mfeeling exhausted and
overwhelmed.
And my curiosity is were youexhausted and overwhelmed before
?
Is that just a habit?
You know, sometimes we getintimidated when we're trying
something new and we forget it'sthe first fucking time.
(40:16):
And when, like you're learningto do something for the first
time, it does take a lot offocus, it does take a lot more
energy and then, when it's onautopilot, it takes no energy at
all.
Like driving, you know, you hadyour hands on the wheels 10 and
2.
Now you know, eating salads,doing makeup.
I literally once burned my headwith a curling iron because I
(40:37):
was curling my hair whiledriving.
Lisset (40:41):
That's a choice.
Goddess Brittney (40:42):
I know LA traffic was very intense so I
felt like I had quite a lot oftime.
Anywho, I digress, but it'slike the habits that you are
used to are on autopilot, sothey don't take a lot of energy.
It doesn't take a lot of energyto keep sleeping with the wrong
man.
It doesn't take a lot of energyto keep being broke, like if
that's what you're used to.
It does take energy and manaand focus when you are learning
(41:07):
something new.
So my offering and invitationis be kind to yourself and know
you're not going to feelexhausted and overwhelmed
forever.
It might just be in this moment.
That might be a strategy and ahabit for keeping you the same.
And 100 million, zillion,thousand, billion times yes, it
(41:28):
is so worth it to grow.
My life is better than I couldhave ever imagined.
It's better than I ever couldhave dreamed it, and when I
think about some of my darkestmoments, when I didn't want to
be here, when I wasn't sure whatlife was, when I was just and I
chose to grow, my life hascontinued to awe and surprise me
(41:50):
and just humble me with tearsof gratitude.
For that I'm so happy.
I said yes to the growth Like Iwould not be with this woman
today if I hadn't said yes togrowth.
I wouldn't have the friendsthat I have, I wouldn't be
running my own business, Iwouldn't be living in this
gorgeous house, I wouldn't havemy amazing dogs.
Like there's so much goodnessand I'm like every day.
I am so grateful that my lifedoes not look how it did before
(42:15):
I chose to grow.
It absolutely changed and itwas absolutely worth it.
Lisset (42:19):
Absolutely 100%.
And throughout all of that,it's not on Instagram, it's not
the highlight reel.
There were some tough times.
I, just a few months ago, I wassitting on the bed crying
because I was leveling up to thenext step and it was the
biggest investment I've evermade in my life toward my own
(42:41):
personal development.
But I knew what it was.
I was going to get on the otherside of it and I'm sitting
there crying Can we do this?
And Brittany, being the lovinggoddess that she is, was like do
you want to do this?
And I'm like, yeah, and she'slike, well then, we will fucking
figure it out.
And we did.
And when you have your eye onthe prize, when you focus on
(43:02):
this thing, you set yourintention on it will always.
You will always find a way.
You'll see some obstacles, butyou will find your way out of it
.
Goddess Brittney (43:09):
Always, Always , always, always.
Wow, this episode, this topic.
I mean we can go on and on, andI feel like this is a great
stopping point to digest,integrate, reflect.
I mean we brought up a lot.
So I would encourage if you arefeeling things, activations,
openings, ahas like this is aperfect time to get out your
(43:31):
journal and ask yourself likewhat are my takeaways?
What did I learn?
How am I going to use this tosupport me in my life, where I
am right now?
Because the truth is, like shesaid, we're always growing or
we're decaying, Like there is nostanding still.
If you think you're standingstill, you're probably going
backwards.
So allowing yourself to reflectand feel into what feels most
(43:56):
alive and true for you and howyou can use it in your path.
Lisset (43:58):
Yeah, such a juicy topic , thank you, thank you.
Thank you for asking thisquestion.
Greatly appreciate you, yeah.
Goddess Brittney (44:05):
Hashtag struggle thing yes.
Lisset (44:15):
And if you have a question, give us a call at
971-895-4111 or message us athonestfeedbackpodcast on
Instagram.
Goddess Brittney (44:23):
And until we meet again, be honest with each
other, yeah.
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