January 30, 2025 • 24 mins
Ever found yourself questioning your decisions after a mistake? Discover the liberating power of self-trust and learn how to transform doubt into confidence.
Join us on this week's Honest Feedback as we explore the journey of building self-belief through our own stories. We'll show you how even the smallest acts of trust lay the groundwork for transformative personal growth. In an engaging discussion, we reframe mistakes as valuable opportunities for learning. Through self-reflection and forgiveness, we share how trusting our intuition can catalyze profound change. With personal stories, including the challenges and triumphs of the 75 Hard program, we highlight the role of habits in overcoming decision fatigue and shaping a purposeful life. Learn about the significance of small, consistent choices in health and spirituality that foster self-trust. We also embrace the idea of trusting the universe, viewing setbacks as lessons that guide us to a brighter future. By sharing experiences of financial struggles and career challenges, we illustrate how perceived failures can lead to growth and new opportunities.
Join us in this inspiring conversation on the importance of character in private moments and how tiny choices can significantly impact your life. Your journey to an authentic self begins with those first steps of self-trust. Tune in and let's walk this path together.
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Lisset King (00:00):
It's in those moments of trusting yourself to
start a new life, trustingyourself to make a new decision,
and teeny, tiny bits of trust.
They build you up.
Goddess Brittney King (00:10):
Welcome to Honest Feedback, the podcast
where deep truth meets boldtransformation.
I'm goddess Brittany King, apleasure priestess and a
transformational retreatfacilitator who helps women
connect to their deepest truths,reclaim their pleasure and
awaken their inner power.
Lisset King (00:28):
And I'm Lissette King, an emotional ninja and
transformational coach who helpsleaders release baggage, heal
unresolved trauma and step intotheir most aligned, purposeful
lives.
Goddess Brittney King (00:37):
We've created this podcast for
spirit-led individuals just likeyou, Seekers of truth personal
growth and meaningful connection.
Lisset King (00:46):
Whether you're navigating life's big questions,
craving more joy andfulfillment, or simply looking
for honest, relatableconversations, you're in the
right place.
Goddess Brittney King (00:55):
Through personal stories, actionable
advice and transformativeinsights.
Our ultimate goal is to empoweryou to create a life that's
overflowing with pleasure,purpose and authenticity.
Lisset King (01:07):
We know you're capable of incredible things, so
let's make it happen together.
Goddess Brittney King (01:13):
Welcome back to another week at Honest
Feedback Podcast.
Feeling good to be here, howyou feeling, how you living.
Lisset King (01:20):
I'm feeling great.
It's been a really mild winteryeah, I'm here for that.
Goddess Brittney King (01:26):
We're keeping it, we're keeping it
temperate we are keeping ittemperate.
Lisset King (01:30):
Uh-huh, uh-huh, it's been nice it has been nice.
Goddess Brittney King (01:34):
I am feeling very excited because we
got a great question in the dmsabout trusting yourself.
How much would you say that youtrust yourself?
One to 10.
Lisset King (01:44):
Oh, if I'm being completely honest, I would say a
nine, a nine, which isfantastic.
Goddess Brittney King (01:51):
Yes, lights beyond what it used to be
.
Lisset King (01:54):
I wish I could say 10, but you know there's like a
little inkling of I think it'ssexy, doubt you know it's just
like a little bit of likekeeping it alive on the inside.
How about you?
Where are you at?
Goddess Brittney King (02:04):
I'm a sexy 10.
I will claim it Sexy 10.
No doubt, not one bit.
I'm not saying, there's never,Boo, we don't believe you.
Well, you should, Well youshould Look at my life.
But I feel like it's been aprocess of growing and learning
(02:25):
to trust myself.
And now I trust that I'mchoosing for myself.
And so, before the doubt, therecould be a little.
I mean, before the choice,there could be quite a bit of
doubt.
But once I've made the choice,why are you so sassy?
Lisset King (02:41):
eyes.
I'm just getting sassy.
You're sassy, I'm allowed to besassy.
You're a sassy cat.
Go, just getting sassy, you'resassy, I'm allowed to be sassy,
you're a sassy cat go on.
Goddess Brittney King (02:47):
Yeah, yeah, I feel like I I'm, I'm in
a 10, you're in a 10?
Yeah, great, I love that foryou.
Lisset King (02:54):
Thank you great, I'll just rub get your 10.
Well, you know what?
I'm glad that you're holding a10 for us today, because this
color, I think, needs that kindof vibration yes, yes, let's
figure out that and if you'reclaiming a 10, I'm 100 she's 100
no doubt exists not onemolecule of doubt done we're
(03:17):
done.
Goddess Brittney King (03:18):
We're done um a teacher who I follow.
He says um any doubt is 100sabotage.
Shout out, carl well, thankswe're gonna get into the nuances
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Lisset King (05:53):
See you there yeah, all right, so tell us about
this question.
Goddess Brittney King (05:58):
Okay, you sure you don't want to read
this one.
No, britney.
Lisset King (06:02):
Your voice is so silky smooth I just anytime I
read a question from them anywayI hear it in your voice Give
the people what they want.
Goddess Brittney King (06:11):
Okay.
Lisset King (06:11):
Okay, show us that acting conservative.
Goddess Brittney King (06:15):
Thank you , babe.
Why is it so hard to trustyourself and how can you rebuild
that trust?
I've made so many bad decisionsin the past Relationships, jobs
, money.
Now, whenever I make a choice,I second guess myself like crazy
.
It's like I can't even hear myown voice anymore.
(06:36):
How do you learn to trustyourself again after messing up
so many, so many times?
Try again.
Lisset King (06:45):
Oh well.
Goddess Brittney King (06:47):
Yeah.
Lisset King (06:48):
I've been there.
Yes, I've been there.
I resonate with this so deeply.
You know I've talked about itbefore and I'll talk about it
again.
I lived a very long life as ahot mess?
We do.
Yeah, like the decisions, mybad decisions were my favorite
decisions for a very long time.
(07:09):
You know, this is risky.
I don't I really don't know howI'm sitting here right now, but
beside that, I I justabsolutely understand that.
And you know, what it takes isreally reframing yourself Like
you've got to make mistakes,like that's the, that's how we
learn.
Goddess Brittney King (07:23):
We learn.
Lisset King (07:24):
There's no failure, it's only feedback.
Like every mistake has made memore of who I am today.
I've taken them and it'simportant to get the wisdom from
those events, like nothinghappened in a vacuum, got to
glean the gift from it.
So my invitation for you is toreflect back on what it is all
(07:44):
these mistakes you made, so thatyou can learn from them, adjust
and keep going.
You know, honestly, I don'ttrust people that don't make
mistakes Like get out of here.
Get out of here, you robot.
Goddess Brittney King (07:55):
Yeah, never made a mistake.
Well, I have a question for you, like when you're going back to
think about the things, how doyou get the lessons from it?
Lisset King (08:05):
I do a lot of this work like for a living.
Yes, and oftentimes, when Iunderstand the indecision, like
that decision fatigue of oh myGod, I have to make a new
decision, I have fucked this upbefore, what do I do about this?
And for me that is an alert,I'm like, oh, this is a bit of
an overreaction.
And whenever there's anoverreaction, I'm like, ooh,
this is a bit of an overreaction.
And whenever there's anoverreaction, I'm like, oh, this
(08:27):
is baggage, I'm bringing mypast into my future, and so that
is a moment where I will sitand ask myself what is there to
learn from that mistake.
Like this thing that you'redefining as mistake.
What did you learn, oh man,when I trusted that person and
my gut said don't trust thatperson and I was like we're just
(08:48):
gonna, we're just gonna trustthem for like.
I'm gonna just date them forlike six, seven more years yeah,
yeah, yeah and then you go downthat route.
There's this, there's thisunderstanding of like okay, what
was the learning in that?
It's's like man I.
There was a part of me thatknew yeah.
Goddess Brittney King (09:06):
Don't deny that part.
Yeah, that hit something reallypersonal for me, because there
is a knowing.
There is a knowing andsometimes we don't know that we
actually know and what you'respeaking about is your intuition
.
It's like how do I trust myself?
I feel like I've made decisionsin the past and like fucking
(09:28):
shit didn't work out.
So, like now, I don't know howto trust myself.
And so I had a particularlydark-ish moment.
I mean, yeah, I'll justdescribe it as dark Trigger.
Warning, I'm not going tomention sexual assault, but on
the evening that this began,someone showed up and was at a
(09:50):
club and it was like the energyof it felt weird.
The energy felt weird when Ifirst met this person.
Like they appeared out ofnowhere and like something just
felt not quite right and I wasjust like I'm not going to
listen to that, I'm just goingto push that aside.
And then, when the series ofevents unfolded and it did
(10:13):
escalate into a sexual assault,I had a lot of judgment and
shame at myself of like you hadan inkling and you went against
yourself and like bad Brittanyyou know bad Brittany and being
self-flagellating and punishingand being like, well, how can I
ever trust myself?
Because I had an inkling and Ididn't listen to it and like why
am I doing this to myself?
(10:34):
And so my first invitation isto forgive yourself.
Forgive yourself of like okay,I didn't know what I didn't know
, you know.
And now I get the opportunityto build a relationship of
trusting myself and listening tothat intuition.
It can be hard to hear yourselfthrough all the clutter.
(10:54):
I mean like it's like the newsis a 24-hour clusterfuck.
You know this is happening,that's happening.
Who knows what's happening?
Then there's advice from allpeople in your life who may or
may not be where you are.
A lot of times it's projectionsof like if I was in your
situation, this is what I woulddo.
So it can take someintentionality to quiet and let
(11:17):
go of all the other voices andtrust your inner voice.
And I like to think of yourinner voice as like that still
small voice, like maybe it'squiet in your, maybe it's small,
but it's usually grounded.
My experience of it is usuallygrounded and it's like go this
way, do that, and I've noticedwhat my ego.
Or when there's lots of otherthoughts, it's just a steady
(11:39):
stream of chatter.
That's just like.
And that's where I feel likeI've gotten caught up in the
past.
Lisset King (11:46):
I can absolutely relate.
And it is a practice to trustyourself, because there's that
part of you that knows and youcan say yes to it, and then you
can also say no to it.
And anytime you say yes to youand it's in the small choices my
(12:07):
invitation is build smallhabits that are absolutely good
for you.
You know that they're good foryou, like drink water.
Drink a certain amount.
Today I'm going to drink thisamount of water and then just
show up for yourself.
Honestly, it would not be 75hard if I did not tell you that
I was doing 75 hard right now.
(12:29):
It is built into the mechanics.
It is like being a vegan.
I must announce that I that Iam on 75 hard right now, and the
reason I chose to do this isbecause there was an area of my
life I wasn't trusting myself,and that area of my life was in
my physical health.
Like my spiritual game, I showup to meditation.
My mental game I am a learnerevery single day.
(12:52):
My relationship game how can Ilove her?
How can I love me?
I'm good on those.
And then, when it came to myphysical game, I just had all
these identities around.
I'm not on those.
And then, when it came to myphysical game.
Goddess Brittney King (13:00):
I just had all these identities around.
Lisset King (13:01):
I'm not really a runner.
My favorite joke was I only runfrom the cops.
Oh my God.
And this identity I had madeabout I'm not that kind of
person was essentially at 43years old.
It was catching up to me.
And I realized I'm like, oh,I'm putting on a little weight
here and all these things.
three years old it was catchingup to me and I realized I'm like
, oh, I'm putting a little wayhere and all these things, and
(13:22):
what I decided was I'm going todo something that is so
commitment focused.
I want to see what comes out.
I just want to meet the personthat comes out of the other side
and I'm like the person I'mbecoming is someone who's able
to trust herself 100%.
And so I've been on thisjourney, at this point, 33 days,
and it is every morning whenthe alarm goes off I'm like who
(13:47):
am I?
I'm Dr King.
Dr King meets her commitmentsand I get out of bed and I weigh
myself and I take my photo andI work out and I do all the
things that make me trust myselfin this area, and I don't
recommend this to anyone.
I think it's.
I don't know why I'm doing it.
(14:08):
I have to keep reminding myselfand I don't recommend it to
anyone else and, at the sametime, what it's building in my
character and my self-trust isreally powerful.
So my invitation to you is picka thing that you know is
healthy.
Let it be water, let it be.
I'm going to read 10 pages aday of nonfiction, something
that's going to build me up.
I'm going to show up to runwalk.
(14:31):
There's so many great books forthat Like Atomic Habits is
fantastic.
Whatever it is, just showyourself that you can show up
for you.
And that's how we build thetrust brick by brick.
Goddess Brittney King (14:44):
I love that.
You brought up atomic habitsand everything that you were
saying about the identity.
So right now, from what you'resaying, it's you're identifying
as a person who doesn't trustyourself.
What if you allowed yourself tostep into the identity of I am
someone who trusts myself andstart to see how that manifests?
You know, connecting to yourintuition.
What if you decided to learnfor yourself what does a yes
(15:08):
feel like for me, somatically inmy body, and how do I this is
what I'm talking about Like whenwe were like, how can you be a
10 at the trust I have beenputting in the reps of
understanding what's a yes forme and what's a no for me?
I remember last year when youclimbed Mount St Helens and she
was like, oh my gosh, it's goingto be this beautiful experience
and I'm really excited.
Would you want to join thatwith me?
(15:29):
And I was just like there's alot of great things for reasons
to do it.
And I checked in with myselfand my body and I got to it's a
no for me for my own reasons andI got to trust that and I was
fine with my decision.
In the past, I have madedecisions based on well, I love
this person and this would begood for me and dah, dah, dah,
dah dah and all these otherreasons.
(15:50):
And then been in the experience, fucking miserable, upset,
blaming, and it's like all shedid was invite me to something.
You know what I mean.
All she did was invite me tosomething.
So, if you allowed yourself tostart to identify of, I am
someone who trusts myself.
How does that manifest?
How am I building that trustwith my word?
(16:10):
By installing little habitswhere I can show up for myself
and get those reps of I trustmyself to do what I said I was
going to do, to honor mycommitments.
I would say one of the do whatI said I was going to do to you
know, honor my commitment.
Lisset King (16:22):
I would say one of the areas where I had broken my
trust with myself for a verylong time was drinking.
Like I was able to get awayfrom, like I'd be like I don't
want to drink, I don't want todrink, and then I wouldn't drink
for like a day or two, and thenI would drink.
And it was like this constantbattle with alcohol of like I
(16:46):
don't want to drink, oh, but I'maround my family and I don't
want to drink.
but oh, it's the weekend and Iremember one time we got sober
for a while and then we're likeit's our wedding, and then we're
like only while we're on ourhoneymoon that we took a six
month honeymoon.
Goddess Brittney King (16:55):
And it was just like those things chip
away at your self-trust?
Lisset King (16:57):
Yes, like those things chip away at your
self-trust, yes.
And so the chipping away,sometimes we just have to build
it back up.
Yeah, little by little bylittle.
You know I'm in a place now Ican say that I'm a nine leaning
into a 10, because there was onetime I heard my soul, my spirit
(17:17):
, say you need to quit drinking.
And it's like when you quit, Iwill give you the keys to the
kingdom.
And I was like I don't knowwhat that means, but it sounds
good.
And I decided in that moment Iwould stop.
I didn't make up any identitiesaround it.
Goddess Brittney King (17:32):
I didn't.
Lisset King (17:32):
I was just like I'm gonna see where this takes me,
and it has felt so good.
Yeah, I know you followed thatsame thing.
Goddess Brittney King (17:41):
Again, we're not saying that this is
for everyone, it's just likethese are the moments that I go.
Lisset King (17:46):
Man, I can trust myself because I heard a voice
that was higher and I followedit.
Goddess Brittney King (17:51):
Yeah, and I want to invite you to bring
compassion to yourself and tothis whole experience.
When you're reflecting on yourpast, when you're reflecting on
the quote, unquote, mistakes,the lessons in disguise, you
know it's easy to fall into likejudgment or like they're doing.
Look at them, trustingthemselves.
They're doing it like Ishouldn't do it, you know.
(18:13):
And I would love to invite youto bring into a space of
compassion, because we don'tknow what we don't know.
There's just no way to knowwhat you don't know.
So if you allow yourself tohave compassion for yourself, to
allow yourself to have somegrace, we get to see things in a
new light, we get newperspectives.
(18:34):
Maybe we start to hear thesevoices, the higher voice, your
inner voice, even clearer,because you cannot hate yourself
into change.
You can love yourself into yournext evolution.
Yeah, you know TikTok.
Lisset King (18:51):
Oh TikTok.
Goddess Brittney King (18:52):
I'm hoping by the time this comes
out it's still here, but weshall see.
We shall see.
I guess my one other point thatI wanted to make is something
that you said earlier is likewhat if there aren't any bad
decisions?
Yes, what if there aren't anybad decisions?
And I love that because it itplays into my map of the world
(19:14):
and you can borrow my faith, youcan borrow my belief, borrow
this model.
But like what if the universeis always working out for you,
as Gabby Bernstein says?
What if the universe has yourback out for you?
As gabby bernstein says, what ifthe universe has your back?
What if you can't fuck it up?
What if you can't get it wrong?
What if you actually can't makea mistake because everything is
supporting you on your path forbeing who you want to be and
doing what you want to do andgoing where you want to go?
(19:34):
Yes, like what if you can'tfuck it up?
Amanda, francis, you know.
So I think about if we canstart to allow ourselves to
build this trust with theuniverse.
It's like it's not just aninner trust, it's also an outer
trust that something bigger thanme has my fucking back, yes,
and what once looked like amistake?
Lisset King (19:53):
or a heartbreak was actually for you.
Goddess Brittney King (19:56):
Yes, I mean like I could have
self-flagellated myself of, likeyou didn't listen to your
intuition.
Now you got sexually assaulted,but that experience led me to a
mentor who changed my life bybringing me to a pull-in studio
where I met my wife anddiscovered my gifts as a witch.
I could judge it as thesemistakes, but everything was a
(20:21):
part of my path to be the womanwho's sitting in front of you
today saying I'm at a 10.
And just so we're clear, it'snot a 10 every day.
I was just saying in thismoment, like we all have moments
of choice and decision.
I have gotten the reps ofdeciding that it's not what I
choose, it's that I chose, andthat's where the power lies.
I chose and that's that I chose.
Lisset King (20:42):
And that's where the power lies.
I chose and that's it.
Yeah, what if you just wentbehind every choice you made,
yes, and just be like?
This is the choice I made, thisis what I'm going for and I'm
going all in on it.
Yes, it feels, if anything, itfeels good, and it's not that
you're not allowed to changeyour mind.
You can go down a path andrealize it's not for you, which,
(21:03):
again, let's rebrand thosemistakes into learnings, like
everything you have been throughhas been for you.
I've made so many.
You talk about money, love,romance, like terrible debt,
heartbroken, like I was talkingto someone recently and I was
like I was technically homelessbecause I was going to move out
to Israel to be with my ex, andthen I was like when that broke
(21:26):
up and I was devastated.
That was 10 years ago you knowand like all of those mistakes,
all those learnings led me here,to you, to the work that I do.
Because I've made all thesemistakes, I can go whatever
about your mistakes Not, youknow, not being insensitive but
like you can, you can rise aboveit.
(21:47):
In fact, I insist.
Goddess Brittney Kin (21:49):
Everything is an opportunity to grow and
to learn.
So, like Lisette said at thevery beginning, are you getting
the lessons?
When we allow ourselves to getthe lessons, when we allow
ourselves to get the lessons, westop making the same choices.
We make different choices.
You know, and I'm honoring youand celebrating you for bringing
(22:10):
this into the space, forsharing vulnerably about what
you're going through andallowing us to be a light on the
path and talk about our ownexperiences.
But, like, been there, made,made the mistakes, done that
relationship money.
I was working four jobs and hadzero dollars, did not know how
to budget, did not know how tomoney worked.
(22:30):
That wasn't something that wastaught to me.
That wasn't something that wastaught to me and what was
modeled around me was just verydifferent and I was just like oh
, you just gotta keep spendingon your credit cards, that's how
you get a good credit score.
Like it was just like oh, youjust got to keep spending on
your credit cards, that's howyou get a good credit score.
Like it was just misinformation.
Lisset King (22:46):
It's just some misinformation.
Or you know the other scam Iwas told, like you, just work
for someone else for like 40years and they're going to be
great.
Goddess Brittney King (22:54):
You get a cake and like a watch.
Lisset King (22:54):
Yeah, maybe a watch and the truth was that was a
beautiful mistake because I wascrawling out of my skin working
for other people, and it's scaryto make that choice for
yourself.
It's scary to go.
Oh, I'm going to do this thingthat no one's ever done before.
And it's in those moments oftrusting yourself to start a new
(23:17):
life, trusting yourself to makea new decision, and teeny, tiny
bits of trust they build you up?
Goddess Brittney King (23:24):
Yes, starts in those small moments.
Who you are with yourself inthe small moments is the
difference that makes adifference.
So continue on this path,continue making those small
choices and then the bigger onesget even easier.
Because who you've been behindthe closed doors when no one
else is watching, that is whatdefines your character.
Lisset King (23:43):
Yeah, that face was so good.
Goddess Brittney King (23:48):
I felt it .
I felt it.
Lisset King (23:50):
Oh, this has been good.
Oh, this was a juicy topic andthank you so much for being here
with us.
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It's in those moments of trusting yourself to
start a new life, trustingyourself to make a new decision,
and teeny, tiny bits of trust.
They build you up.
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where deep truth meets boldtransformation.
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Feeling good to be here, howyou feeling, how you living.
Lisset King (01:20):
I'm feeling great.
It's been a really mild winteryeah, I'm here for that.
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Lisset King (01:30):
Uh-huh, uh-huh, it's been nice it has been nice.
Goddess Brittney King (01:34):
I am feeling very excited because we
got a great question in the dmsabout trusting yourself.
How much would you say that youtrust yourself?
One to 10.
Lisset King (01:44):
Oh, if I'm being completely honest, I would say a
nine, a nine, which isfantastic.
Goddess Brittney King (01:51):
Yes, lights beyond what it used to be
.
Lisset King (01:54):
I wish I could say 10, but you know there's like a
little inkling of I think it'ssexy, doubt you know it's just
like a little bit of likekeeping it alive on the inside.
How about you?
Where are you at?
Goddess Brittney King (02:04):
I'm a sexy 10.
I will claim it Sexy 10.
No doubt, not one bit.
I'm not saying, there's never,Boo, we don't believe you.
Well, you should, Well youshould Look at my life.
But I feel like it's been aprocess of growing and learning
(02:25):
to trust myself.
And now I trust that I'mchoosing for myself.
And so, before the doubt, therecould be a little.
I mean, before the choice,there could be quite a bit of
doubt.
But once I've made the choice,why are you so sassy?
Lisset King (02:41):
eyes.
I'm just getting sassy.
You're sassy, I'm allowed to besassy.
You're a sassy cat.
Go, just getting sassy, you'resassy, I'm allowed to be sassy,
you're a sassy cat go on.
Goddess Brittney King (02:47):
Yeah, yeah, I feel like I I'm, I'm in
a 10, you're in a 10?
Yeah, great, I love that foryou.
Lisset King (02:54):
Thank you great, I'll just rub get your 10.
Well, you know what?
I'm glad that you're holding a10 for us today, because this
color, I think, needs that kindof vibration yes, yes, let's
figure out that and if you'reclaiming a 10, I'm 100 she's 100
no doubt exists not onemolecule of doubt done we're
(03:17):
done.
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See you there yeah, all right, so tell us about
this question.
Goddess Brittney King (05:58):
Okay, you sure you don't want to read
this one.
No, britney.
Lisset King (06:02):
Your voice is so silky smooth I just anytime I
read a question from them anywayI hear it in your voice Give
the people what they want.
Goddess Brittney King (06:11):
Okay.
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Okay, show us that acting conservative.
Goddess Brittney King (06:15):
Thank you , babe.
Why is it so hard to trustyourself and how can you rebuild
that trust?
I've made so many bad decisionsin the past Relationships, jobs
, money.
Now, whenever I make a choice,I second guess myself like crazy
.
It's like I can't even hear myown voice anymore.
(06:36):
How do you learn to trustyourself again after messing up
so many, so many times?
Try again.
Lisset King (06:45):
Oh well.
Goddess Brittney King (06:47):
Yeah.
Lisset King (06:48):
I've been there.
Yes, I've been there.
I resonate with this so deeply.
You know I've talked about itbefore and I'll talk about it
again.
I lived a very long life as ahot mess?
We do.
Yeah, like the decisions, mybad decisions were my favorite
decisions for a very long time.
(07:09):
You know, this is risky.
I don't I really don't know howI'm sitting here right now, but
beside that, I I justabsolutely understand that.
And you know, what it takes isreally reframing yourself Like
you've got to make mistakes,like that's the, that's how we
learn.
Goddess Brittney King (07:23):
We learn.
Lisset King (07:24):
There's no failure, it's only feedback.
Like every mistake has made memore of who I am today.
I've taken them and it'simportant to get the wisdom from
those events, like nothinghappened in a vacuum, got to
glean the gift from it.
So my invitation for you is toreflect back on what it is all
(07:44):
these mistakes you made, so thatyou can learn from them, adjust
and keep going.
You know, honestly, I don'ttrust people that don't make
mistakes Like get out of here.
Get out of here, you robot.
Goddess Brittney King (07:55):
Yeah, never made a mistake.
Well, I have a question for you, like when you're going back to
think about the things, how doyou get the lessons from it?
Lisset King (08:05):
I do a lot of this work like for a living.
Yes, and oftentimes, when Iunderstand the indecision, like
that decision fatigue of oh myGod, I have to make a new
decision, I have fucked this upbefore, what do I do about this?
And for me that is an alert,I'm like, oh, this is a bit of
an overreaction.
And whenever there's anoverreaction, I'm like, ooh,
this is a bit of an overreaction.
And whenever there's anoverreaction, I'm like, oh, this
(08:27):
is baggage, I'm bringing mypast into my future, and so that
is a moment where I will sitand ask myself what is there to
learn from that mistake.
Like this thing that you'redefining as mistake.
What did you learn, oh man,when I trusted that person and
my gut said don't trust thatperson and I was like we're just
(08:48):
gonna, we're just gonna trustthem for like.
I'm gonna just date them forlike six, seven more years yeah,
yeah, yeah and then you go downthat route.
There's this, there's thisunderstanding of like okay, what
was the learning in that?
It's's like man I.
There was a part of me thatknew yeah.
Goddess Brittney King (09:06):
Don't deny that part.
Yeah, that hit something reallypersonal for me, because there
is a knowing.
There is a knowing andsometimes we don't know that we
actually know and what you'respeaking about is your intuition
.
It's like how do I trust myself?
I feel like I've made decisionsin the past and like fucking
(09:28):
shit didn't work out.
So, like now, I don't know howto trust myself.
And so I had a particularlydark-ish moment.
I mean, yeah, I'll justdescribe it as dark Trigger.
Warning, I'm not going tomention sexual assault, but on
the evening that this began,someone showed up and was at a
(09:50):
club and it was like the energyof it felt weird.
The energy felt weird when Ifirst met this person.
Like they appeared out ofnowhere and like something just
felt not quite right and I wasjust like I'm not going to
listen to that, I'm just goingto push that aside.
And then, when the series ofevents unfolded and it did
(10:13):
escalate into a sexual assault,I had a lot of judgment and
shame at myself of like you hadan inkling and you went against
yourself and like bad Brittanyyou know bad Brittany and being
self-flagellating and punishingand being like, well, how can I
ever trust myself?
Because I had an inkling and Ididn't listen to it and like why
am I doing this to myself?
(10:34):
And so my first invitation isto forgive yourself.
Forgive yourself of like okay,I didn't know what I didn't know
, you know.
And now I get the opportunityto build a relationship of
trusting myself and listening tothat intuition.
It can be hard to hear yourselfthrough all the clutter.
(10:54):
I mean like it's like the newsis a 24-hour clusterfuck.
You know this is happening,that's happening.
Who knows what's happening?
Then there's advice from allpeople in your life who may or
may not be where you are.
A lot of times it's projectionsof like if I was in your
situation, this is what I woulddo.
So it can take someintentionality to quiet and let
(11:17):
go of all the other voices andtrust your inner voice.
And I like to think of yourinner voice as like that still
small voice, like maybe it'squiet in your, maybe it's small,
but it's usually grounded.
My experience of it is usuallygrounded and it's like go this
way, do that, and I've noticedwhat my ego.
Or when there's lots of otherthoughts, it's just a steady
(11:39):
stream of chatter.
That's just like.
And that's where I feel likeI've gotten caught up in the
past.
Lisset King (11:46):
I can absolutely relate.
And it is a practice to trustyourself, because there's that
part of you that knows and youcan say yes to it, and then you
can also say no to it.
And anytime you say yes to youand it's in the small choices my
(12:07):
invitation is build smallhabits that are absolutely good
for you.
You know that they're good foryou, like drink water.
Drink a certain amount.
Today I'm going to drink thisamount of water and then just
show up for yourself.
Honestly, it would not be 75hard if I did not tell you that
I was doing 75 hard right now.
(12:29):
It is built into the mechanics.
It is like being a vegan.
I must announce that I that Iam on 75 hard right now, and the
reason I chose to do this isbecause there was an area of my
life I wasn't trusting myself,and that area of my life was in
my physical health.
Like my spiritual game, I showup to meditation.
My mental game I am a learnerevery single day.
(12:52):
My relationship game how can Ilove her?
How can I love me?
I'm good on those.
And then, when it came to myphysical game, I just had all
these identities around.
I'm not on those.
And then, when it came to myphysical game.
Goddess Brittney King (13:00):
I just had all these identities around.
Lisset King (13:01):
I'm not really a runner.
My favorite joke was I only runfrom the cops.
Oh my God.
And this identity I had madeabout I'm not that kind of
person was essentially at 43years old.
It was catching up to me.
And I realized I'm like, oh,I'm putting on a little weight
here and all these things.
three years old it was catchingup to me and I realized I'm like
, oh, I'm putting a little wayhere and all these things, and
(13:22):
what I decided was I'm going todo something that is so
commitment focused.
I want to see what comes out.
I just want to meet the personthat comes out of the other side
and I'm like the person I'mbecoming is someone who's able
to trust herself 100%.
And so I've been on thisjourney, at this point, 33 days,
and it is every morning whenthe alarm goes off I'm like who
(13:47):
am I?
I'm Dr King.
Dr King meets her commitmentsand I get out of bed and I weigh
myself and I take my photo andI work out and I do all the
things that make me trust myselfin this area, and I don't
recommend this to anyone.
I think it's.
I don't know why I'm doing it.
(14:08):
I have to keep reminding myselfand I don't recommend it to
anyone else and, at the sametime, what it's building in my
character and my self-trust isreally powerful.
So my invitation to you is picka thing that you know is
healthy.
Let it be water, let it be.
I'm going to read 10 pages aday of nonfiction, something
that's going to build me up.
I'm going to show up to runwalk.
(14:31):
There's so many great books forthat Like Atomic Habits is
fantastic.
Whatever it is, just showyourself that you can show up
for you.
And that's how we build thetrust brick by brick.
Goddess Brittney King (14:44):
I love that.
You brought up atomic habitsand everything that you were
saying about the identity.
So right now, from what you'resaying, it's you're identifying
as a person who doesn't trustyourself.
What if you allowed yourself tostep into the identity of I am
someone who trusts myself andstart to see how that manifests?
You know, connecting to yourintuition.
What if you decided to learnfor yourself what does a yes
(15:08):
feel like for me, somatically inmy body, and how do I this is
what I'm talking about Like whenwe were like, how can you be a
10 at the trust I have beenputting in the reps of
understanding what's a yes forme and what's a no for me?
I remember last year when youclimbed Mount St Helens and she
was like, oh my gosh, it's goingto be this beautiful experience
and I'm really excited.
Would you want to join thatwith me?
(15:29):
And I was just like there's alot of great things for reasons
to do it.
And I checked in with myselfand my body and I got to it's a
no for me for my own reasons andI got to trust that and I was
fine with my decision.
In the past, I have madedecisions based on well, I love
this person and this would begood for me and dah, dah, dah,
dah dah and all these otherreasons.
(15:50):
And then been in the experience, fucking miserable, upset,
blaming, and it's like all shedid was invite me to something.
You know what I mean.
All she did was invite me tosomething.
So, if you allowed yourself tostart to identify of, I am
someone who trusts myself.
How does that manifest?
How am I building that trustwith my word?
(16:10):
By installing little habitswhere I can show up for myself
and get those reps of I trustmyself to do what I said I was
going to do, to honor mycommitments.
I would say one of the do whatI said I was going to do to you
know, honor my commitment.
Lisset King (16:22):
I would say one of the areas where I had broken my
trust with myself for a verylong time was drinking.
Like I was able to get awayfrom, like I'd be like I don't
want to drink, I don't want todrink, and then I wouldn't drink
for like a day or two, and thenI would drink.
And it was like this constantbattle with alcohol of like I
(16:46):
don't want to drink, oh, but I'maround my family and I don't
want to drink.
but oh, it's the weekend and Iremember one time we got sober
for a while and then we're likeit's our wedding, and then we're
like only while we're on ourhoneymoon that we took a six
month honeymoon.
Goddess Brittney King (16:55):
And it was just like those things chip
away at your self-trust?
Lisset King (16:57):
Yes, like those things chip away at your
self-trust, yes.
And so the chipping away,sometimes we just have to build
it back up.
Yeah, little by little bylittle.
You know I'm in a place now Ican say that I'm a nine leaning
into a 10, because there was onetime I heard my soul, my spirit
(17:17):
, say you need to quit drinking.
And it's like when you quit, Iwill give you the keys to the
kingdom.
And I was like I don't knowwhat that means, but it sounds
good.
And I decided in that moment Iwould stop.
I didn't make up any identitiesaround it.
Goddess Brittney King (17:32):
I didn't.
Lisset King (17:32):
I was just like I'm gonna see where this takes me,
and it has felt so good.
Yeah, I know you followed thatsame thing.
Goddess Brittney King (17:41):
Again, we're not saying that this is
for everyone, it's just likethese are the moments that I go.
Lisset King (17:46):
Man, I can trust myself because I heard a voice
that was higher and I followedit.
Goddess Brittney King (17:51):
Yeah, and I want to invite you to bring
compassion to yourself and tothis whole experience.
When you're reflecting on yourpast, when you're reflecting on
the quote, unquote, mistakes,the lessons in disguise, you
know it's easy to fall into likejudgment or like they're doing.
Look at them, trustingthemselves.
They're doing it like Ishouldn't do it, you know.
(18:13):
And I would love to invite youto bring into a space of
compassion, because we don'tknow what we don't know.
There's just no way to knowwhat you don't know.
So if you allow yourself tohave compassion for yourself, to
allow yourself to have somegrace, we get to see things in a
new light, we get newperspectives.
(18:34):
Maybe we start to hear thesevoices, the higher voice, your
inner voice, even clearer,because you cannot hate yourself
into change.
You can love yourself into yournext evolution.
Yeah, you know TikTok.
Lisset King (18:51):
Oh TikTok.
Goddess Brittney King (18:52):
I'm hoping by the time this comes
out it's still here, but weshall see.
We shall see.
I guess my one other point thatI wanted to make is something
that you said earlier is likewhat if there aren't any bad
decisions?
Yes, what if there aren't anybad decisions?
And I love that because it itplays into my map of the world
(19:14):
and you can borrow my faith, youcan borrow my belief, borrow
this model.
But like what if the universeis always working out for you,
as Gabby Bernstein says?
What if the universe has yourback out for you?
As gabby bernstein says, what ifthe universe has your back?
What if you can't fuck it up?
What if you can't get it wrong?
What if you actually can't makea mistake because everything is
supporting you on your path forbeing who you want to be and
doing what you want to do andgoing where you want to go?
(19:34):
Yes, like what if you can'tfuck it up?
Amanda, francis, you know.
So I think about if we canstart to allow ourselves to
build this trust with theuniverse.
It's like it's not just aninner trust, it's also an outer
trust that something bigger thanme has my fucking back, yes,
and what once looked like amistake?
Lisset King (19:53):
or a heartbreak was actually for you.
Goddess Brittney King (19:56):
Yes, I mean like I could have
self-flagellated myself of, likeyou didn't listen to your
intuition.
Now you got sexually assaulted,but that experience led me to a
mentor who changed my life bybringing me to a pull-in studio
where I met my wife anddiscovered my gifts as a witch.
I could judge it as thesemistakes, but everything was a
(20:21):
part of my path to be the womanwho's sitting in front of you
today saying I'm at a 10.
And just so we're clear, it'snot a 10 every day.
I was just saying in thismoment, like we all have moments
of choice and decision.
I have gotten the reps ofdeciding that it's not what I
choose, it's that I chose, andthat's where the power lies.
I chose and that's that I chose.
Lisset King (20:42):
And that's where the power lies.
I chose and that's it.
Yeah, what if you just wentbehind every choice you made,
yes, and just be like?
This is the choice I made, thisis what I'm going for and I'm
going all in on it.
Yes, it feels, if anything, itfeels good, and it's not that
you're not allowed to changeyour mind.
You can go down a path andrealize it's not for you, which,
(21:03):
again, let's rebrand thosemistakes into learnings, like
everything you have been throughhas been for you.
I've made so many.
You talk about money, love,romance, like terrible debt,
heartbroken, like I was talkingto someone recently and I was
like I was technically homelessbecause I was going to move out
to Israel to be with my ex, andthen I was like when that broke
(21:26):
up and I was devastated.
That was 10 years ago you knowand like all of those mistakes,
all those learnings led me here,to you, to the work that I do.
Because I've made all thesemistakes, I can go whatever
about your mistakes Not, youknow, not being insensitive but
like you can, you can rise aboveit.
(21:47):
In fact, I insist.
Goddess Brittney Kin (21:49):
Everything is an opportunity to grow and
to learn.
So, like Lisette said at thevery beginning, are you getting
the lessons?
When we allow ourselves to getthe lessons, when we allow
ourselves to get the lessons, westop making the same choices.
We make different choices.
You know, and I'm honoring youand celebrating you for bringing
(22:10):
this into the space, forsharing vulnerably about what
you're going through andallowing us to be a light on the
path and talk about our ownexperiences.
But, like, been there, made,made the mistakes, done that
relationship money.
I was working four jobs and hadzero dollars, did not know how
to budget, did not know how tomoney worked.
(22:30):
That wasn't something that wastaught to me.
That wasn't something that wastaught to me and what was
modeled around me was just verydifferent and I was just like oh
, you just gotta keep spendingon your credit cards, that's how
you get a good credit score.
Like it was just like oh, youjust got to keep spending on
your credit cards, that's howyou get a good credit score.
Like it was just misinformation.
Lisset King (22:46):
It's just some misinformation.
Or you know the other scam Iwas told, like you, just work
for someone else for like 40years and they're going to be
great.
Goddess Brittney King (22:54):
You get a cake and like a watch.
Lisset King (22:54):
Yeah, maybe a watch and the truth was that was a
beautiful mistake because I wascrawling out of my skin working
for other people, and it's scaryto make that choice for
yourself.
It's scary to go.
Oh, I'm going to do this thingthat no one's ever done before.
And it's in those moments oftrusting yourself to start a new
(23:17):
life, trusting yourself to makea new decision, and teeny, tiny
bits of trust they build you up?
Goddess Brittney King (23:24):
Yes, starts in those small moments.
Who you are with yourself inthe small moments is the
difference that makes adifference.
So continue on this path,continue making those small
choices and then the bigger onesget even easier.
Because who you've been behindthe closed doors when no one
else is watching, that is whatdefines your character.
Lisset King (23:43):
Yeah, that face was so good.
Goddess Brittney King (23:48):
I felt it .
I felt it.
Lisset King (23:50):
Oh, this has been good.
Oh, this was a juicy topic andthank you so much for being here
with us.
Thank you for sending us thatquestion.
If you have a question, give usa call at 971-895-4111 or slide
into our DMs athonestfeedbackpodcast.
Hit like share, follow.
Goddess Brittney King (24:10):
And until we meet again, be honest with
each other.
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I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace. I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!