November 20, 2025 • 27 mins
What do you do when your big, vibrant, joy-filled life bumps up against someone else’s “I could never”? In this episode, we break down how to stay rooted in your truth when people react to your sequins, pink walls, late-night dancing, solo travel, or personal expansion with disbelief and limitation. This conversation was inspired by a listener voicemail asking for kind, empowering responses when people shrink themselves in front of her — and we delivered.
Using NLP principles like respecting someone’s map of the world and clean pattern interrupts like a grounded “Okay,” we show you exactly how to avoid taking on other people’s stories, projections, or scarcity. You’ll learn the difference between preference and fear, how to identify the subtle ways people try to enroll you in their smallness, and how to respond without collapsing or defending.
We also offer compassionate, possibility-inviting lines and a handful of savage Sagittarius burns for when the universe demands a boundary with glitter on it.
You’ll walk away with:
- Energy-protecting scripts
- Mindset reframes to stop taking things personally
- Clear ways to stay off duty when people want coaching you didn’t offer
- What it means to live big in a world conditioned for small
- How to become narcissist-proof, mediocrity-proof, and projection-proof in your daily life
This episode is for anyone who’s ever been judged, side-eyed, or energetically tugged downward for wanting more, dreaming bigger, or simply choosing joy. Your desires are holy. Your bigness is a blessing. And your example can inspire without over-explaining.
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Goddess Brittney (00:00):
I want a big life.
unknown (00:02):
Yeah.
Goddess Brittney (00:03):
I want a big life.
They don't want a big life.
Can I be okay?
Can I be okay with someone elsenot wanting a life as big as
mine?
Speaker 1 (00:13):
Yeah.
Goddess Brittney (00:13):
You know?
I just know I'm not meant for asmall life.
I'm out here doing big shit,making big things happen, and I
like surrounding myself withother people who are it love
that frequency.
That's not everybody'sfrequency.
And so how can I not take itpersonally?
But it's like, what if it's notpersonal?
What if they just like a smalllife?
Welcome to Honest Feedback, thepodcast where deep truth meets
(00:35):
bold transformation.
I'm Goddess Brittany King, apleasure priestess and a
transformational retreatfacilitator who helps women
connect to their deepest truths,reclaim their pleasure, and
awaken their inner power.
Lisset (00:49):
And I'm Lisette King, an emotional ninja and
transformational coach who helpsleaders release baggage, heal
unresolved trauma, and step intotheir most aligned, purposeful
lives.
We've created this podcast forspirit-led individuals just like
you.
Seekers of truth, personalgrowth, and meaningful
connection.
Whether you're navigatinglife's big questions, craving
(01:10):
more joy and fulfillment, orsimply looking for honest,
relatable conversations, you'rein the right place.
Welcome back to another episodeof Honest Feedback.
Babe, doesn't it feel good tobe back?
Goddess Brittney (01:22):
It does.
It does.
Every time.
Every time.
Every time.
Lisset (01:26):
I feel like we're coming back because we've got some
voice memos up in the call.
Goddess Brittney (01:30):
Just like oh, people left voice notes.
I mean, not even voice notes.
What do you call it?
A voicemail.
We call them all voice notesnow that the way that the new
iOS like organized them, it'sall in one little thread.
Anyhow, people called in and wegot their voices.
I love it.
That feels it feels likeclassic honest feedback.
It looks, it feels like peopleare listening and responding.
Thank you.
Lisset (01:51):
Thank you.
So, you know, I just kind ofwant to plant the seed here.
We love that.
We love we love hearing yourvoice.
We love hearing your voice.
It gives us the opportunity tointerface with it and feel the
intonation.
Yes, and your energy.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
So I'm really excited.
And the topic today is what,Brittany?
Goddess Brittney (02:09):
Settling and mediocrity.
Lisset (02:10):
Yeah.
Goddess Brittney (02:12):
Faves of mine.
Lisset (02:14):
Yep, absolutely.
So do you want to listen to thevoicemail?
Goddess Brittney (02:18):
Well, yeah, let's just jump right in.
Let's just jump in.
Let's just jump right in.
Okay.
Speaker (02:26):
Hi, ladies.
Um, my name is Kenny.
He, her pronouns.
And I first of all just want tosay thank you so much for your
podcast.
I love it.
And it's I've gotten so manygems from it and appreciate it.
So my question is I'm a mid-40swoman and I'm living my best
(02:47):
life, keeps getting better,doing all the things, loving it.
And I'm starting to noticesometimes when I talk to people
about it, the things that arejust going on in my life.
Whether it's some people like,you know, wearing frequencies
during the day, or, you know,painting a room in my house pink
because I want to.
Or something bigger, like goingdancing all night, or, you
(03:12):
know, going being out going,making new friends, inviting
them over, traveling forsomething like that.
A common response for peoplethat they give me is I can never
do that.
Oh, I don't know how you can.
And I'm just thinking, I wantto have a response for these
(03:35):
people that are kind and polite.
And also just letting them knowyou can.
You can do anything.
You could.
If you wanted to, you could doit.
So far, I tried out differentresponses, and I think it comes
across a little funny.
But guide me, give me someexamples.
What are some ways to inspirepeople to see this?
(03:56):
You can do whatever you want.
There's no limitations.
Thank you so much.
And look forward to hearingyour answer.
Goddess Brittney (04:04):
Oh Kenny, you called into the right people.
Inspiration.
I mean, you're all aboutlimitless possibilities.
That's right.
Lisset (04:13):
Well, I I'm gonna jump in because she did ask for kind,
which is funny because in mymind, all these like slapbacks
came back as she was telling methese things.
Uh the sag in me, yeah.
The really desires to just, youknow, be fierce with it.
Yeah.
And at the same time, thequestion was how what are some
kind, loving responses?
(04:34):
Yeah.
Goddess Brittney (04:34):
And well, can I ask you first?
Have you ever had thisexperience where people say
reflect to you like, oh, I cannever do that?
Lisset (04:42):
Yeah.
Yeah.
A lot of clients.
Goddess Brittney (04:48):
Very true.
Yeah.
Lisset (04:50):
Like literally, people are constantly trying to sell me
on their limitations, and Idon't receive them.
And so something that's reallyimportant I want you to
understand, Kenny, is what Pthese people need is a pattern
interrupt.
You need to interrupt theirpattern.
And there's a few ways.
Let me backtrack a little bit.
First of all, there's there'sthis concept called respecting
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their map of the world.
Okay.
It's one of the presuppositionsof NLP.
And it's respecting their mapof the world means they actually
believe that's true.
Yeah.
With every ounce of theirbeing, they would not be saying
it unless they believed it wastrue.
And that's everyone is justsharing their truth with you as
they speak.
And so one thing is to go, oh,like, like allow yourself to be
(05:32):
compassionate in that moment andcheck in, like, wow, this
person actually believes theycould never.
Goddess Brittney (05:38):
And you know, like sorry, the chills of that,
just like that's what theyactually believe.
Yeah.
Lisset (05:43):
And and like the the next question I would ask them
is like, well, would you wantto?
Would would you want to be opento that possibility?
Like, I have play clothes, Ihave all these things.
Like, I actually love sharingmy light and I love doing these
things.
Would you like to go dance allnight?
You know, like is it somethingthat you want?
(06:03):
Because if you don't want it,oh my God, I respect that.
Goddess Brittney (06:06):
Oh, look at that.
Lisset (06:08):
You know, if you don't want it, I respect that.
But if you actually want to geta night out and you just need
to get coverage for the kids orsomething, like let's let's find
a way to make it work.
So, in in a way, you'restepping into their life and
getting curious.
Speaker 1 (06:21):
Getting curious, yeah.
Lisset (06:23):
And and I know as someone who has like so fiercely
had to defend my lifestyle, youknow, and being a gay?
Goddess Brittney (06:30):
No.
Lisset (06:31):
Yes.
First off, being a gay.
The more gays you hang outwith, the less it's uh you have
to be a good idea.
Yeah.
Um, but more than being a gay,being joyfully a gay.
Yes.
Goddess Brittney (06:46):
Actually, yeah, in my experience of the
world, the thing that's moreunder attack is me being happy
and living a life that Iactually want to live versus me
being a woman or gay.
But that's my experience of theworld.
Lisset (06:59):
100%.
And and so when I'm talking topeople like this, first of all,
I can't come with the clapbacks.
That's not how you that's nothow you convert a client.
You just you just have to go,oh yeah, no, I totally
understand.
Like, do you want more?
Could you want more?
You know, and get curious.
If there's an opening for dothey want more, then you can
(07:19):
lean into the sacred invite ofthe joyous life.
Maybe they can't handle thefire hose that is your joy,
Kenny.
You know, I'm not a go danceall night kind of girl.
I used to be, you know, in my20s.
I I would like to go all night,yeah, on the next day.
And that's just not who I amtoday.
And I love that this is how youlive your life.
(07:42):
And and sequence, yes, I'm allabout what you're how you live
your life.
And there's just, I knowmyself.
And I know myself, and and myability to enjoy life is might
be very different, and theirability to enjoy life might be
very different.
You can go, well, what do youlike to do for fun?
Rather than go than then haveto tell them and enroll them
(08:06):
into your lifestyle.
Go, what do you like to do forfun?
They might have a totallydifferent idea.
Oh, I love taking my kids tothe park, or I love play dates
with other parents, or you know,I don't know what other adults
do.
Goddess Brittney (08:17):
But puzzles, puzzles, puzzles, you know.
Um anime, uh, watching K-pop.
Lisset (08:24):
Yeah, they're infinite things.
Goddess Brittney (08:26):
Pinging Gilmore girls.
Lisset (08:27):
Exactly.
So my invitation for you,Kenny, is to to allow yourself
to get curious about what it isthat they they like or they or
they don't like.
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(10:06):
Well, okay, this is what I feelfrom what you shared, Kenny.
And it's like the energy of thething of the I could never.
Yeah.
And like if to in myexperience, when I feel the
clutching of the pearls, there'slike this judgment-ish energy.
Not that they're judging you,but it's like this, I could
(10:28):
never.
You can do like, and it's likethis weird tension point where
it causes you of like, uh, Ijust I want them to know that
they could.
So I like want to see you andhonor you in this place of like,
I want, I enjoy this energy ofexpansion.
And like, it's so startling tojust hear the like really hard
(10:50):
shutdown on expansion, on joy,on love, on pleasure.
And for myself personally, Ihad this journey, similarly, of
like learning how to respectpeople's maps of the world,
where I was just really excitedabout having a big life.
And I had a group of friends,and like we would literally be
like, oh, let's like make thisthing, or like we're gonna do a
(11:11):
web series, or we're gonna starta YouTube channel and blah,
blah.
But what it came down to waslike no one actually really
wanted those things.
And the things that they wantedwere just a simpler life.
And what I had to get clearwith was like, oh, I want a big
life.
Yeah, I want a big life.
(11:31):
They don't want a big life.
Can I be okay?
Clutch.
Can I be okay with someone elsenot wanting a life as big as
mine?
Speaker 1 (11:41):
Yeah.
Goddess Brittney (11:41):
You know, I just know I'm not meant for a
small life.
I'm out here doing big shit,making big things happen.
And I like surrounding myselfwith other people who are it
love that frequency.
That's not everybody'sfrequency.
And so how can I not take itpersonally?
Because I feel like the energyis just like when the I can
never, it's really easy to takeit personally because you're
(12:02):
feeling like they're judging youin some kind of way, of like, I
have to take it personally.
That, but it's like, what ifit's not personal?
What if they just like a smalllife?
Lisset (12:11):
Yeah.
What's that white lotus line?
Goddess Brittney (12:13):
Oh, oh at this age, I just don't think I'm
meant to live an uncomfortablelife.
Thank you, Parker Posey.
Like that, but it's just like,I mean, at any at with this
point in my healing journey, I'mnot meant to live a small
fucking life.
Yes.
You know, I you can hear myenergy about it, but it's like,
(12:34):
I was just like, oh, they want asmall life.
So can I take like thefierceness of it of just like
they just want a small life?
And that's that's fine.
And so something like she said,a pattern interrupt.
Um, this is one that gets a lotof uh people in our friend
group, and I feel like it gotyou before too.
Yeah.
Lisset (12:50):
Yeah.
So so our favorite one, and wemay have shared it before, but
it bears repeating is whensomeone is speaking, they're
just telling you their reality.
And so you don't actually haveto take it in.
And Britney is it's so simple.
Speaker 1 (13:02):
I just go, okay.
Lisset (13:05):
And that gets under my skin like no other.
Goddess Brittney (13:07):
But like when you don't push back on their map
of the world, you just go,okay.
Then they someone is usuallyused to fighting for their
limitations.
I think this was one of yourex-partners or someone who said
this.
She was like, when you say okayto me, like I was so ready to
defend because that's what I'mused to doing, because someone
usually will say something back.
So then you have to defend it.
(13:27):
So then you get even moreadamant about your smallness.
And when I would just say,okay, it's like, well, there's
nothing to fight against.
So then you start going, wait,why am I fighting for this shit?
Lisset (13:37):
Yeah, why am I okay with am I really okay with the
smallness?
Yeah.
You know, and if and if thisconversation is lighting you up,
listener, you know, ooh, yay.
Juicy.
We love that.
And you know, what's reallyfunny is the first time we
listened to this message, we'relike, you know, be like because
I felt them.
I felt the fierceness of theclapbacks.
(13:59):
You know, I was like, what ifwe just want a little savage?
I do.
What are some comebacks thatmight be just a little more
savage?
Goddess Brittney (14:06):
Okay, okay.
We can go into savage.
I thought I had something morecompassionate to say first.
Lisset (14:12):
Yeah.
Goddess Brittney (14:12):
Let me just check in.
Lisset (14:13):
Check into your soul deep inside.
Okay.
Oh, yeah, there's another one.
Um, I mean, this starts to slipinto savageness, but one that
comes from my my first wife,Lynn Lynn Moore.
Oh, she had this habit, itwould drive me nuts with the
most loving, but it was a greatpattern interrupt.
(14:34):
I would come, I would say aproblem.
She goes, Oh, I remember when Iused to have that problem.
And I'd be like, Youmotherfucker.
I remember feeling angry aboutit and also going, Yeah, this is
something I don't have to haveanymore.
So it was like it was this, ityou would say it was just such a
smugness about her.
Goddess Brittney (14:54):
Well, I feel like this is how she said it to
me one time.
She was like, Taste your hand,she'd be like, I remember when I
used to put limits on myself.
Like it's literally, you justrepeat their words back to them.
I could never.
It's like I remember when Iused to think I could never do
things I wanted.
Yeah, it is kind.
It is kind, it is kind, it isloving.
And like it, it's it's onlysavage in the way of like that
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is something that will explodein someone else's mind if they
allow it to for days, for days,if not lifetimes, because it's
true, it is true, and it's it'sallow it's the pattern interrupt
to allow something to get in.
So I feel like we've yeah,we've said some very kind and
compassionate ones.
Would you guys like to hearSavage Mote?
(15:38):
Some savage, some Sagittarius,you know, just light it up.
I call them real Hild's Wivesthings, where it's just like
someone says something on thereal Hal'swives, and it's like
boom, boom, and you hear it inother episodes and it just
becomes iconic.
Let's let's fucking go.
Lisset (15:54):
Let's just fucking like it.
Goddess Brittney (15:56):
Okay, we wrote something down.
Lisset (15:57):
Okay, good, great.
Okay.
Oh, I didn't realizeself-abandonment was a
personality type.
Damn.
I get it.
Freedom isn't for everyone.
Goddess Brittney (16:08):
Ooh, next level.
You're right.
You probably couldn't.
You're right.
Lisset (16:15):
You probably couldn't.
Goddess Brittney (16:19):
Okay.
I'd slow down to your vibe, butI'm allergic to mediocrity.
Lisset (16:25):
I mean, I mean that's a little cold-blooded.
These, these, you know, youmight end the relationship, but
you know, you say I could never.
Like it's a badge of honorinstead of a cry for help.
Right?
Exactly.
Exactly.
Oh, you sound exhausted fromall that settling.
Oh, don't, don't, don't.
Goddess Brittney (16:46):
Oh, meme where the girls just fall down.
Like, you sound exhausted fromall that settling.
Mm-hmm.
Pick your jaw up off the floor.
Lisset (16:55):
I enjoy this one.
Okay.
My sequins have done moreshadow work than you.
unknown (16:59):
Ooh!
Lisset (17:01):
If they don't know what shadow work is, which at this
rate they probably don't.
They might not.
Um, you keep telling yourselfthat.
Goddess Brittney (17:11):
That's it.
That's it.
You keep telling yourself that.
You keep telling yourself that.
Because someone has to go, ohmy God, I'm telling myself that.
I literally keep telling myselfI can't do that.
You just keep telling, and youcan say it in all sorts of
times.
You keep telling yourself that.
Keep telling yourself that.
Yeah.
You keep telling yourself that.
You keep telling yourself that.
I'll be over here in Miami atthe four seasons with my drinks.
(17:36):
I'll be in Europe.
I'll be painting my house.
I'll be doing the things thatmake me happy.
Lisset (17:41):
I feel like that's a good fucking all-purpose one.
Like I'll be in Miami.
Yes, I'll be in Miami.
It's just like you keep tellingyourself that.
Yeah.
And you just kind of walk awayfrom it.
Yeah.
You know, that that isn't aconversation ender.
Speaker 5 (17:56):
Yeah.
Lisset (17:56):
You know, because uh honestly, Kenny, do you want to
be around these people?
Like, like, do you andsometimes we can't help it.
They're our family, you know.
So sometimes, but like if it'ssomeone uh IRL, I I have
something since I've done thisthat last retreat in Austin is
I've become really okay withpeople not being in my vibe.
(18:19):
Yeah.
You know, some people, I'mtheir practitioner, other
people, they can't, yeah.
They can't come to this level,and that's okay.
And with relationships, youcan't come to this level, and
that's okay.
I don't, you know, mad love,respect.
I love you.
I just don't have to likeeveryone.
Goddess Brittney (18:37):
Yes, you don't have to like everyone.
I I love what you brought intothe space because what it
invites is it's okay for certainpeople to not be on your level,
and maybe they're not in yourclose circle, you know?
Yeah.
What you're mentioning ispeople sharing these experiences
with you where it's like, we'rein public, and it's like that
(18:58):
might be literally people inyour friend group.
I've navigated those kinds offriend situations where you're
like, wow, they're just playinga completely different game, and
I don't play that game anymore.
And so sometimes there's likethis compassion part where
you're like, I want to help.
And then sometimes, like, Idon't know if you do kind of
(19:18):
this stuff for work or not, butlike sometimes I'm like, I'm not
on duty right now, so I'm notgonna deal with this, you know.
Like, I'm like, I'm not, I'mnot, they're not paying me to
challenge them on their beliefor to expand them in this way.
And so, like, what if you gaveyourself permission of like,
what if it's not myresponsibility to expand them?
(19:39):
What if I just say, okay, youkeep believing that and walk
away in my disco ball life, andme living my life is all I need
to do to fuck their shit up.
You know what I mean?
Like, not fuck it up, but likelight their shit up, you know?
Like when people get lit upabout things is because they're
like, oh, there's something Iwant over there, but I feel like
I can't have it, andda-da-da-da-da.
Lisset (20:00):
And it's not your it's not your place to lift them into
or invite them into yourcircle, especially if that's not
the vibe.
Again, we can always go back tothe beginning of that
curiosity.
Yeah.
You know, that the curiosity ofwhat is it?
Why are they saying this?
Do they do they want to knowmore?
Yeah.
That might be the end of theirconversation.
That might be their, oh, Icould never.
(20:21):
Yeah, you're making meuncomfortable.
You know, I don't want to talkabout this anymore.
And can you have enoughself-respect and self-love to
just be like, not my circus, notmy monkeys?
Goddess Brittney (20:32):
Right.
And it's uh something that I'venoticed for myself.
Um, I mean, it's gotten moreand loud louder over the years,
but as I've expanded and upleveled my vibration, those I
meet new people who are also inthat frequency.
And I have to be okay withletting go of those who aren't.
Um, if it doesn't feel good.
(20:54):
You know, when there's certainexperiences where you're just
like, oh, every time I talk tothis person, it's nonstop.
I could never.
It's just like it's a lot ofsmallness, and that shit's
contagious.
It's sticky.
It's like fear or scarcity orsomething I love to say is
delete, delete, unsubscribe.
Oh, yeah.
I say that all the time.
And I don't know if it's asavage burn so much as just what
(21:14):
I say to people.
Again, this is where theAquarian part comes in.
I'm just like delete, delete,unsubscribe.
Like, I don't believe that.
Don't put that on me, like ew,gross.
No.
Yeah, no, thank you.
No, thank you.
Oh, no, thank you.
With so much of it, it's like,oh, I could never.
No, thank you.
No, thank you.
What if they're like, what?
It's like, oh no, I I'm I'mjust not buying what you're
(21:36):
selling.
No, thank you.
Lisset (21:37):
No, I don't want any of that.
I'm not buying what you'reselling.
Yeah, we're not taking, I'm nottaking on your reality.
Oh, oh, that's not how it worksin my reality.
Goddess Brittney (21:46):
That's not how it works in my reality.
Oh, please don't put on me yourlimit.
Please don't put yourlimitations on me.
Please don't put yourlimitations on me.
Because then they start torealize, oh my god, these are my
limitations.
These are my limitations.
Please don't put yourlimitations on me.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Lisset (21:59):
It's it's just this isn't.
This is savage.
This is savage.
No, just just being able to sayall these things is just like
that's that's not the life I'mliving.
Ooh.
That's not the life I'm living.
I love that one.
Goddess Brittney (22:15):
That's not the life I'm living.
Lisset (22:17):
Period.
Yes.
End stop, full stop.
Period.
And respecting, I just respectthat that's your map of the
world.
That's just not the life I'mliving.
Like, legit, I'm good.
Like, I the what I've createdfor myself is I, you know,
someone told me I could createthe life that I wanted, and I
took that personally.
And I fucking decided to createthe best fucking possible life.
Speaker 5 (22:39):
Yeah.
Lisset (22:39):
That is for me.
Goddess Brittney (22:41):
Yeah.
Lisset (22:41):
You know, I know people that love to work, love, love,
love working.
They're like at it, you know,I'm six days a week, and then
they wear it like a badge ofhonor.
I my dream life is working twodays a month.
And I got to say that this lastmonth.
I'm like, oh, yes, I did it.
(23:02):
I I did exactly what I said Iwanted, and I created more
wealth for my family than I everhad in the past.
Yeah.
You know, and that is Chef'skiss, my life.
And that's not for everybody.
Yeah.
That's not the that's not thelife for everybody.
And it's the life that Icreated.
And if someone goes, Whoa, youcan do that, and sees it as a
(23:23):
possibility, yeah.
If I create a sense ofpossibility, if painting your
room pink or wearing sequinscreates a sense of possibility,
their unconscious mind mightreject it at first.
And that's okay.
You're not here to do theirwork.
I'm not here to do their workunless they pay me very well,
you know.
And that is, you know, the restof the time I'm off duty.
Goddess Brittney (23:47):
This brings into mind um one of our
financial teachers, AmandaFrancis.
Love her, get her book, get umrich as fuck.
Yes.
But she talks about when shemet her partner, she was making
six, seven figures.
She has a seven, eight-figurebusiness, and she was renting a
house in Malibu.
And the first thing he walkedin, you know, saw the giant
(24:08):
windows and stuff like that, andhe said, I can be intimidated
or I can be inspired.
You can say that to it's likeyou can be intimidated or you
can be inspired.
Like someone is choosing to beintimidated and choosing to make
themselves separate.
You can be inspired and go, Ican have this too.
And so, you know, it's there ifyou want it.
Um, and you don't it's not yourresponsibility to have to
(24:31):
enroll people in a bigger lifeif you don't want to do it.
Like you don't have to.
Lisset (24:37):
Yeah, not everyone can sit at your table.
Mm-hmm.
Ain't that the truth?
And that's okay.
Like, like that's the thing isoftentimes we get stuck in this,
like, oh, I wanna, I just wantto pull everyone up.
It's just like everybody is ontheir own journey.
Yeah, every single person's ontheir own journey and they're
and they're living the lifethat's perfect for them.
I'm not, I just don't.
(24:58):
Mediocrity makes my skin crawl.
It's disgusting.
The idea of it.
Yeah, I don't like it.
I don't like it.
Unsubscribe, delete, delete.
And and what I believe ismediocre is totally different
than someone else's mediocre.
Someone might be living theirdream life exactly as it is.
You don't know.
Just keep doing you.
(25:20):
Your your authenticity,something that's coming through
very deeply through yourmessaging is that you know who
you are.
Yeah, you know who you are, andit's fun.
You're like fucking mid-40s,I'm going fucking ham.
And all the circumstances inyour life have led to you
getting to live this joyous lifenow.
Fucking do it.
Sparkle, fucking spray sequinseverywhere you go.
(25:43):
Yes.
And keep living it.
And just know not everybody'sgonna come with you, and that's
okay.
Mm-hmm.
Goddess Brittney (25:49):
And you don't need to take on their
limitations or allow them torattle you.
So feel free to use all ofthese.
I would love to know how theygo in the wild, and maybe like
you're just like, oh, play withit.
Lisset (26:02):
I would love to hear other people's sick burns.
Oh, yes.
And when you hear the type ofthe types of things that these
this uh caller has dealt with,yeah.
What what sick burns do youhave?
Yeah, what is what's yourresponse?
Oh, I can't wait to hear that.
Juicy.
Put it in the comments.
Goddess Brittney (26:18):
Yes.
Wow, this has just been such afun episode.
I I love this conversation.
I feel like it's a real life.
Hey, you can take this into theclub, you know, like you can
take this information directlyinto the streets, into your
life, and use it in any kind ofway because people are always
talking to us from theirexperience and from their map of
the world.
And it can be just such anunconscious habit for people to
(26:42):
project their their life andtheir limitations onto you.
And, you know, just be aware oflike when someone says, it's
like, oh, you know.
And it's like, no, I maybe Idon't know.
Maybe I don't want to know.
Like, you know, I don't want toknow.
I don't want to know about thatlimitation, not at all.
Lisset (27:00):
When people say you know, you know.
And I'm like, no, actually, no.
I don't.
I don't, no, no, that doesn'tnot in my reality.
Not my reality.
Goddess Brittney (27:08):
So yeah, but I I love it.
And we loved getting to hearyour voice.
So thank you, Kenny, so muchfor calling in.
It was a pleasure to get totalk to you.
And if you would like yourquestion answered, you can give
us a call at 971-895-4111.
Leave us a voicemail, and wewill answer it on the show.
Lisset (27:29):
And before you go, yeah, please make sure you like,
subscribe, share this podcast.
If you enjoyed it, share withpeople.
If you loved it, leave a fivestar review.
Let's get this podcast outthere.
It's too good not to besuccessful.
I know.
Yeah.
Yes.
All right.
And until we meet again, behonest with each other.
Bye.
I want a big life.
unknown (00:02):
Yeah.
Goddess Brittney (00:03):
I want a big life.
They don't want a big life.
Can I be okay?
Can I be okay with someone elsenot wanting a life as big as
mine?
Speaker 1 (00:13):
Yeah.
Goddess Brittney (00:13):
You know?
I just know I'm not meant for asmall life.
I'm out here doing big shit,making big things happen, and I
like surrounding myself withother people who are it love
that frequency.
That's not everybody'sfrequency.
And so how can I not take itpersonally?
But it's like, what if it's notpersonal?
What if they just like a smalllife?
Welcome to Honest Feedback, thepodcast where deep truth meets
(00:35):
bold transformation.
I'm Goddess Brittany King, apleasure priestess and a
transformational retreatfacilitator who helps women
connect to their deepest truths,reclaim their pleasure, and
awaken their inner power.
Lisset (00:49):
And I'm Lisette King, an emotional ninja and
transformational coach who helpsleaders release baggage, heal
unresolved trauma, and step intotheir most aligned, purposeful
lives.
We've created this podcast forspirit-led individuals just like
you.
Seekers of truth, personalgrowth, and meaningful
connection.
Whether you're navigatinglife's big questions, craving
(01:10):
more joy and fulfillment, orsimply looking for honest,
relatable conversations, you'rein the right place.
Welcome back to another episodeof Honest Feedback.
Babe, doesn't it feel good tobe back?
Goddess Brittney (01:22):
It does.
It does.
Every time.
Every time.
Every time.
Lisset (01:26):
I feel like we're coming back because we've got some
voice memos up in the call.
Goddess Brittney (01:30):
Just like oh, people left voice notes.
I mean, not even voice notes.
What do you call it?
A voicemail.
We call them all voice notesnow that the way that the new
iOS like organized them, it'sall in one little thread.
Anyhow, people called in and wegot their voices.
I love it.
That feels it feels likeclassic honest feedback.
It looks, it feels like peopleare listening and responding.
Thank you.
Lisset (01:51):
Thank you.
So, you know, I just kind ofwant to plant the seed here.
We love that.
We love we love hearing yourvoice.
We love hearing your voice.
It gives us the opportunity tointerface with it and feel the
intonation.
Yes, and your energy.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
So I'm really excited.
And the topic today is what,Brittany?
Goddess Brittney (02:09):
Settling and mediocrity.
Lisset (02:10):
Yeah.
Goddess Brittney (02:12):
Faves of mine.
Lisset (02:14):
Yep, absolutely.
So do you want to listen to thevoicemail?
Goddess Brittney (02:18):
Well, yeah, let's just jump right in.
Let's just jump in.
Let's just jump right in.
Okay.
Speaker (02:26):
Hi, ladies.
Um, my name is Kenny.
He, her pronouns.
And I first of all just want tosay thank you so much for your
podcast.
I love it.
And it's I've gotten so manygems from it and appreciate it.
So my question is I'm a mid-40swoman and I'm living my best
(02:47):
life, keeps getting better,doing all the things, loving it.
And I'm starting to noticesometimes when I talk to people
about it, the things that arejust going on in my life.
Whether it's some people like,you know, wearing frequencies
during the day, or, you know,painting a room in my house pink
because I want to.
Or something bigger, like goingdancing all night, or, you
(03:12):
know, going being out going,making new friends, inviting
them over, traveling forsomething like that.
A common response for peoplethat they give me is I can never
do that.
Oh, I don't know how you can.
And I'm just thinking, I wantto have a response for these
(03:35):
people that are kind and polite.
And also just letting them knowyou can.
You can do anything.
You could.
If you wanted to, you could doit.
So far, I tried out differentresponses, and I think it comes
across a little funny.
But guide me, give me someexamples.
What are some ways to inspirepeople to see this?
(03:56):
You can do whatever you want.
There's no limitations.
Thank you so much.
And look forward to hearingyour answer.
Goddess Brittney (04:04):
Oh Kenny, you called into the right people.
Inspiration.
I mean, you're all aboutlimitless possibilities.
That's right.
Lisset (04:13):
Well, I I'm gonna jump in because she did ask for kind,
which is funny because in mymind, all these like slapbacks
came back as she was telling methese things.
Uh the sag in me, yeah.
The really desires to just, youknow, be fierce with it.
Yeah.
And at the same time, thequestion was how what are some
kind, loving responses?
(04:34):
Yeah.
Goddess Brittney (04:34):
And well, can I ask you first?
Have you ever had thisexperience where people say
reflect to you like, oh, I cannever do that?
Lisset (04:42):
Yeah.
Yeah.
A lot of clients.
Goddess Brittney (04:48):
Very true.
Yeah.
Lisset (04:50):
Like literally, people are constantly trying to sell me
on their limitations, and Idon't receive them.
And so something that's reallyimportant I want you to
understand, Kenny, is what Pthese people need is a pattern
interrupt.
You need to interrupt theirpattern.
And there's a few ways.
Let me backtrack a little bit.
First of all, there's there'sthis concept called respecting
(05:11):
their map of the world.
Okay.
It's one of the presuppositionsof NLP.
And it's respecting their mapof the world means they actually
believe that's true.
Yeah.
With every ounce of theirbeing, they would not be saying
it unless they believed it wastrue.
And that's everyone is justsharing their truth with you as
they speak.
And so one thing is to go, oh,like, like allow yourself to be
(05:32):
compassionate in that moment andcheck in, like, wow, this
person actually believes theycould never.
Goddess Brittney (05:38):
And you know, like sorry, the chills of that,
just like that's what theyactually believe.
Yeah.
Lisset (05:43):
And and like the the next question I would ask them
is like, well, would you wantto?
Would would you want to be opento that possibility?
Like, I have play clothes, Ihave all these things.
Like, I actually love sharingmy light and I love doing these
things.
Would you like to go dance allnight?
You know, like is it somethingthat you want?
(06:03):
Because if you don't want it,oh my God, I respect that.
Goddess Brittney (06:06):
Oh, look at that.
Lisset (06:08):
You know, if you don't want it, I respect that.
But if you actually want to geta night out and you just need
to get coverage for the kids orsomething, like let's let's find
a way to make it work.
So, in in a way, you'restepping into their life and
getting curious.
Speaker 1 (06:21):
Getting curious, yeah.
Lisset (06:23):
And and I know as someone who has like so fiercely
had to defend my lifestyle, youknow, and being a gay?
Goddess Brittney (06:30):
No.
Lisset (06:31):
Yes.
First off, being a gay.
The more gays you hang outwith, the less it's uh you have
to be a good idea.
Yeah.
Um, but more than being a gay,being joyfully a gay.
Yes.
Goddess Brittney (06:46):
Actually, yeah, in my experience of the
world, the thing that's moreunder attack is me being happy
and living a life that Iactually want to live versus me
being a woman or gay.
But that's my experience of theworld.
Lisset (06:59):
100%.
And and so when I'm talking topeople like this, first of all,
I can't come with the clapbacks.
That's not how you that's nothow you convert a client.
You just you just have to go,oh yeah, no, I totally
understand.
Like, do you want more?
Could you want more?
You know, and get curious.
If there's an opening for dothey want more, then you can
(07:19):
lean into the sacred invite ofthe joyous life.
Maybe they can't handle thefire hose that is your joy,
Kenny.
You know, I'm not a go danceall night kind of girl.
I used to be, you know, in my20s.
I I would like to go all night,yeah, on the next day.
And that's just not who I amtoday.
And I love that this is how youlive your life.
(07:42):
And and sequence, yes, I'm allabout what you're how you live
your life.
And there's just, I knowmyself.
And I know myself, and and myability to enjoy life is might
be very different, and theirability to enjoy life might be
very different.
You can go, well, what do youlike to do for fun?
Rather than go than then haveto tell them and enroll them
(08:06):
into your lifestyle.
Go, what do you like to do forfun?
They might have a totallydifferent idea.
Oh, I love taking my kids tothe park, or I love play dates
with other parents, or you know,I don't know what other adults
do.
Goddess Brittney (08:17):
But puzzles, puzzles, puzzles, you know.
Um anime, uh, watching K-pop.
Lisset (08:24):
Yeah, they're infinite things.
Goddess Brittney (08:26):
Pinging Gilmore girls.
Lisset (08:27):
Exactly.
So my invitation for you,Kenny, is to to allow yourself
to get curious about what it isthat they they like or they or
they don't like.
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(10:06):
Well, okay, this is what I feelfrom what you shared, Kenny.
And it's like the energy of thething of the I could never.
Yeah.
And like if to in myexperience, when I feel the
clutching of the pearls, there'slike this judgment-ish energy.
Not that they're judging you,but it's like this, I could
(10:28):
never.
You can do like, and it's likethis weird tension point where
it causes you of like, uh, Ijust I want them to know that
they could.
So I like want to see you andhonor you in this place of like,
I want, I enjoy this energy ofexpansion.
And like, it's so startling tojust hear the like really hard
(10:50):
shutdown on expansion, on joy,on love, on pleasure.
And for myself personally, Ihad this journey, similarly, of
like learning how to respectpeople's maps of the world,
where I was just really excitedabout having a big life.
And I had a group of friends,and like we would literally be
like, oh, let's like make thisthing, or like we're gonna do a
(11:11):
web series, or we're gonna starta YouTube channel and blah,
blah.
But what it came down to waslike no one actually really
wanted those things.
And the things that they wantedwere just a simpler life.
And what I had to get clearwith was like, oh, I want a big
life.
Yeah, I want a big life.
(11:31):
They don't want a big life.
Can I be okay?
Clutch.
Can I be okay with someone elsenot wanting a life as big as
mine?
Speaker 1 (11:41):
Yeah.
Goddess Brittney (11:41):
You know, I just know I'm not meant for a
small life.
I'm out here doing big shit,making big things happen.
And I like surrounding myselfwith other people who are it
love that frequency.
That's not everybody'sfrequency.
And so how can I not take itpersonally?
Because I feel like the energyis just like when the I can
never, it's really easy to takeit personally because you're
(12:02):
feeling like they're judging youin some kind of way, of like, I
have to take it personally.
That, but it's like, what ifit's not personal?
What if they just like a smalllife?
Lisset (12:11):
Yeah.
What's that white lotus line?
Goddess Brittney (12:13):
Oh, oh at this age, I just don't think I'm
meant to live an uncomfortablelife.
Thank you, Parker Posey.
Like that, but it's just like,I mean, at any at with this
point in my healing journey, I'mnot meant to live a small
fucking life.
Yes.
You know, I you can hear myenergy about it, but it's like,
(12:34):
I was just like, oh, they want asmall life.
So can I take like thefierceness of it of just like
they just want a small life?
And that's that's fine.
And so something like she said,a pattern interrupt.
Um, this is one that gets a lotof uh people in our friend
group, and I feel like it gotyou before too.
Yeah.
Lisset (12:50):
Yeah.
So so our favorite one, and wemay have shared it before, but
it bears repeating is whensomeone is speaking, they're
just telling you their reality.
And so you don't actually haveto take it in.
And Britney is it's so simple.
Speaker 1 (13:02):
I just go, okay.
Lisset (13:05):
And that gets under my skin like no other.
Goddess Brittney (13:07):
But like when you don't push back on their map
of the world, you just go,okay.
Then they someone is usuallyused to fighting for their
limitations.
I think this was one of yourex-partners or someone who said
this.
She was like, when you say okayto me, like I was so ready to
defend because that's what I'mused to doing, because someone
usually will say something back.
So then you have to defend it.
(13:27):
So then you get even moreadamant about your smallness.
And when I would just say,okay, it's like, well, there's
nothing to fight against.
So then you start going, wait,why am I fighting for this shit?
Lisset (13:37):
Yeah, why am I okay with am I really okay with the
smallness?
Yeah.
You know, and if and if thisconversation is lighting you up,
listener, you know, ooh, yay.
Juicy.
We love that.
And you know, what's reallyfunny is the first time we
listened to this message, we'relike, you know, be like because
I felt them.
I felt the fierceness of theclapbacks.
(13:59):
You know, I was like, what ifwe just want a little savage?
I do.
What are some comebacks thatmight be just a little more
savage?
Goddess Brittney (14:06):
Okay, okay.
We can go into savage.
I thought I had something morecompassionate to say first.
Lisset (14:12):
Yeah.
Goddess Brittney (14:12):
Let me just check in.
Lisset (14:13):
Check into your soul deep inside.
Okay.
Oh, yeah, there's another one.
Um, I mean, this starts to slipinto savageness, but one that
comes from my my first wife,Lynn Lynn Moore.
Oh, she had this habit, itwould drive me nuts with the
most loving, but it was a greatpattern interrupt.
(14:34):
I would come, I would say aproblem.
She goes, Oh, I remember when Iused to have that problem.
And I'd be like, Youmotherfucker.
I remember feeling angry aboutit and also going, Yeah, this is
something I don't have to haveanymore.
So it was like it was this, ityou would say it was just such a
smugness about her.
Goddess Brittney (14:54):
Well, I feel like this is how she said it to
me one time.
She was like, Taste your hand,she'd be like, I remember when I
used to put limits on myself.
Like it's literally, you justrepeat their words back to them.
I could never.
It's like I remember when Iused to think I could never do
things I wanted.
Yeah, it is kind.
It is kind, it is kind, it isloving.
And like it, it's it's onlysavage in the way of like that
(15:18):
is something that will explodein someone else's mind if they
allow it to for days, for days,if not lifetimes, because it's
true, it is true, and it's it'sallow it's the pattern interrupt
to allow something to get in.
So I feel like we've yeah,we've said some very kind and
compassionate ones.
Would you guys like to hearSavage Mote?
(15:38):
Some savage, some Sagittarius,you know, just light it up.
I call them real Hild's Wivesthings, where it's just like
someone says something on thereal Hal'swives, and it's like
boom, boom, and you hear it inother episodes and it just
becomes iconic.
Let's let's fucking go.
Lisset (15:54):
Let's just fucking like it.
Goddess Brittney (15:56):
Okay, we wrote something down.
Lisset (15:57):
Okay, good, great.
Okay.
Oh, I didn't realizeself-abandonment was a
personality type.
Damn.
I get it.
Freedom isn't for everyone.
Goddess Brittney (16:08):
Ooh, next level.
You're right.
You probably couldn't.
You're right.
Lisset (16:15):
You probably couldn't.
Goddess Brittney (16:19):
Okay.
I'd slow down to your vibe, butI'm allergic to mediocrity.
Lisset (16:25):
I mean, I mean that's a little cold-blooded.
These, these, you know, youmight end the relationship, but
you know, you say I could never.
Like it's a badge of honorinstead of a cry for help.
Right?
Exactly.
Exactly.
Oh, you sound exhausted fromall that settling.
Oh, don't, don't, don't.
Goddess Brittney (16:46):
Oh, meme where the girls just fall down.
Like, you sound exhausted fromall that settling.
Mm-hmm.
Pick your jaw up off the floor.
Lisset (16:55):
I enjoy this one.
Okay.
My sequins have done moreshadow work than you.
unknown (16:59):
Ooh!
Lisset (17:01):
If they don't know what shadow work is, which at this
rate they probably don't.
They might not.
Um, you keep telling yourselfthat.
Goddess Brittney (17:11):
That's it.
That's it.
You keep telling yourself that.
You keep telling yourself that.
Because someone has to go, ohmy God, I'm telling myself that.
I literally keep telling myselfI can't do that.
You just keep telling, and youcan say it in all sorts of
times.
You keep telling yourself that.
Keep telling yourself that.
Yeah.
You keep telling yourself that.
You keep telling yourself that.
I'll be over here in Miami atthe four seasons with my drinks.
(17:36):
I'll be in Europe.
I'll be painting my house.
I'll be doing the things thatmake me happy.
Lisset (17:41):
I feel like that's a good fucking all-purpose one.
Like I'll be in Miami.
Yes, I'll be in Miami.
It's just like you keep tellingyourself that.
Yeah.
And you just kind of walk awayfrom it.
Yeah.
You know, that that isn't aconversation ender.
Speaker 5 (17:56):
Yeah.
Lisset (17:56):
You know, because uh honestly, Kenny, do you want to
be around these people?
Like, like, do you andsometimes we can't help it.
They're our family, you know.
So sometimes, but like if it'ssomeone uh IRL, I I have
something since I've done thisthat last retreat in Austin is
I've become really okay withpeople not being in my vibe.
(18:19):
Yeah.
You know, some people, I'mtheir practitioner, other
people, they can't, yeah.
They can't come to this level,and that's okay.
And with relationships, youcan't come to this level, and
that's okay.
I don't, you know, mad love,respect.
I love you.
I just don't have to likeeveryone.
Goddess Brittney (18:37):
Yes, you don't have to like everyone.
I I love what you brought intothe space because what it
invites is it's okay for certainpeople to not be on your level,
and maybe they're not in yourclose circle, you know?
Yeah.
What you're mentioning ispeople sharing these experiences
with you where it's like, we'rein public, and it's like that
(18:58):
might be literally people inyour friend group.
I've navigated those kinds offriend situations where you're
like, wow, they're just playinga completely different game, and
I don't play that game anymore.
And so sometimes there's likethis compassion part where
you're like, I want to help.
And then sometimes, like, Idon't know if you do kind of
(19:18):
this stuff for work or not, butlike sometimes I'm like, I'm not
on duty right now, so I'm notgonna deal with this, you know.
Like, I'm like, I'm not, I'mnot, they're not paying me to
challenge them on their beliefor to expand them in this way.
And so, like, what if you gaveyourself permission of like,
what if it's not myresponsibility to expand them?
(19:39):
What if I just say, okay, youkeep believing that and walk
away in my disco ball life, andme living my life is all I need
to do to fuck their shit up.
You know what I mean?
Like, not fuck it up, but likelight their shit up, you know?
Like when people get lit upabout things is because they're
like, oh, there's something Iwant over there, but I feel like
I can't have it, andda-da-da-da-da.
Lisset (20:00):
And it's not your it's not your place to lift them into
or invite them into yourcircle, especially if that's not
the vibe.
Again, we can always go back tothe beginning of that
curiosity.
Yeah.
You know, that the curiosity ofwhat is it?
Why are they saying this?
Do they do they want to knowmore?
Yeah.
That might be the end of theirconversation.
That might be their, oh, Icould never.
(20:21):
Yeah, you're making meuncomfortable.
You know, I don't want to talkabout this anymore.
And can you have enoughself-respect and self-love to
just be like, not my circus, notmy monkeys?
Goddess Brittney (20:32):
Right.
And it's uh something that I'venoticed for myself.
Um, I mean, it's gotten moreand loud louder over the years,
but as I've expanded and upleveled my vibration, those I
meet new people who are also inthat frequency.
And I have to be okay withletting go of those who aren't.
Um, if it doesn't feel good.
(20:54):
You know, when there's certainexperiences where you're just
like, oh, every time I talk tothis person, it's nonstop.
I could never.
It's just like it's a lot ofsmallness, and that shit's
contagious.
It's sticky.
It's like fear or scarcity orsomething I love to say is
delete, delete, unsubscribe.
Oh, yeah.
I say that all the time.
And I don't know if it's asavage burn so much as just what
(21:14):
I say to people.
Again, this is where theAquarian part comes in.
I'm just like delete, delete,unsubscribe.
Like, I don't believe that.
Don't put that on me, like ew,gross.
No.
Yeah, no, thank you.
No, thank you.
Oh, no, thank you.
With so much of it, it's like,oh, I could never.
No, thank you.
No, thank you.
What if they're like, what?
It's like, oh no, I I'm I'mjust not buying what you're
(21:36):
selling.
No, thank you.
Lisset (21:37):
No, I don't want any of that.
I'm not buying what you'reselling.
Yeah, we're not taking, I'm nottaking on your reality.
Oh, oh, that's not how it worksin my reality.
Goddess Brittney (21:46):
That's not how it works in my reality.
Oh, please don't put on me yourlimit.
Please don't put yourlimitations on me.
Please don't put yourlimitations on me.
Because then they start torealize, oh my god, these are my
limitations.
These are my limitations.
Please don't put yourlimitations on me.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Lisset (21:59):
It's it's just this isn't.
This is savage.
This is savage.
No, just just being able to sayall these things is just like
that's that's not the life I'mliving.
Ooh.
That's not the life I'm living.
I love that one.
Goddess Brittney (22:15):
That's not the life I'm living.
Lisset (22:17):
Period.
Yes.
End stop, full stop.
Period.
And respecting, I just respectthat that's your map of the
world.
That's just not the life I'mliving.
Like, legit, I'm good.
Like, I the what I've createdfor myself is I, you know,
someone told me I could createthe life that I wanted, and I
took that personally.
And I fucking decided to createthe best fucking possible life.
Speaker 5 (22:39):
Yeah.
Lisset (22:39):
That is for me.
Goddess Brittney (22:41):
Yeah.
Lisset (22:41):
You know, I know people that love to work, love, love,
love working.
They're like at it, you know,I'm six days a week, and then
they wear it like a badge ofhonor.
I my dream life is working twodays a month.
And I got to say that this lastmonth.
I'm like, oh, yes, I did it.
(23:02):
I I did exactly what I said Iwanted, and I created more
wealth for my family than I everhad in the past.
Yeah.
You know, and that is Chef'skiss, my life.
And that's not for everybody.
Yeah.
That's not the that's not thelife for everybody.
And it's the life that Icreated.
And if someone goes, Whoa, youcan do that, and sees it as a
(23:23):
possibility, yeah.
If I create a sense ofpossibility, if painting your
room pink or wearing sequinscreates a sense of possibility,
their unconscious mind mightreject it at first.
And that's okay.
You're not here to do theirwork.
I'm not here to do their workunless they pay me very well,
you know.
And that is, you know, the restof the time I'm off duty.
Goddess Brittney (23:47):
This brings into mind um one of our
financial teachers, AmandaFrancis.
Love her, get her book, get umrich as fuck.
Yes.
But she talks about when shemet her partner, she was making
six, seven figures.
She has a seven, eight-figurebusiness, and she was renting a
house in Malibu.
And the first thing he walkedin, you know, saw the giant
(24:08):
windows and stuff like that, andhe said, I can be intimidated
or I can be inspired.
You can say that to it's likeyou can be intimidated or you
can be inspired.
Like someone is choosing to beintimidated and choosing to make
themselves separate.
You can be inspired and go, Ican have this too.
And so, you know, it's there ifyou want it.
Um, and you don't it's not yourresponsibility to have to
(24:31):
enroll people in a bigger lifeif you don't want to do it.
Like you don't have to.
Lisset (24:37):
Yeah, not everyone can sit at your table.
Mm-hmm.
Ain't that the truth?
And that's okay.
Like, like that's the thing isoftentimes we get stuck in this,
like, oh, I wanna, I just wantto pull everyone up.
It's just like everybody is ontheir own journey.
Yeah, every single person's ontheir own journey and they're
and they're living the lifethat's perfect for them.
I'm not, I just don't.
(24:58):
Mediocrity makes my skin crawl.
It's disgusting.
The idea of it.
Yeah, I don't like it.
I don't like it.
Unsubscribe, delete, delete.
And and what I believe ismediocre is totally different
than someone else's mediocre.
Someone might be living theirdream life exactly as it is.
You don't know.
Just keep doing you.
(25:20):
Your your authenticity,something that's coming through
very deeply through yourmessaging is that you know who
you are.
Yeah, you know who you are, andit's fun.
You're like fucking mid-40s,I'm going fucking ham.
And all the circumstances inyour life have led to you
getting to live this joyous lifenow.
Fucking do it.
Sparkle, fucking spray sequinseverywhere you go.
(25:43):
Yes.
And keep living it.
And just know not everybody'sgonna come with you, and that's
okay.
Mm-hmm.
Goddess Brittney (25:49):
And you don't need to take on their
limitations or allow them torattle you.
So feel free to use all ofthese.
I would love to know how theygo in the wild, and maybe like
you're just like, oh, play withit.
Lisset (26:02):
I would love to hear other people's sick burns.
Oh, yes.
And when you hear the type ofthe types of things that these
this uh caller has dealt with,yeah.
What what sick burns do youhave?
Yeah, what is what's yourresponse?
Oh, I can't wait to hear that.
Juicy.
Put it in the comments.
Goddess Brittney (26:18):
Yes.
Wow, this has just been such afun episode.
I I love this conversation.
I feel like it's a real life.
Hey, you can take this into theclub, you know, like you can
take this information directlyinto the streets, into your
life, and use it in any kind ofway because people are always
talking to us from theirexperience and from their map of
the world.
And it can be just such anunconscious habit for people to
(26:42):
project their their life andtheir limitations onto you.
And, you know, just be aware oflike when someone says, it's
like, oh, you know.
And it's like, no, I maybe Idon't know.
Maybe I don't want to know.
Like, you know, I don't want toknow.
I don't want to know about thatlimitation, not at all.
Lisset (27:00):
When people say you know, you know.
And I'm like, no, actually, no.
I don't.
I don't, no, no, that doesn'tnot in my reality.
Not my reality.
Goddess Brittney (27:08):
So yeah, but I I love it.
And we loved getting to hearyour voice.
So thank you, Kenny, so muchfor calling in.
It was a pleasure to get totalk to you.
And if you would like yourquestion answered, you can give
us a call at 971-895-4111.
Leave us a voicemail, and wewill answer it on the show.
Lisset (27:29):
And before you go, yeah, please make sure you like,
subscribe, share this podcast.
If you enjoyed it, share withpeople.
If you loved it, leave a fivestar review.
Let's get this podcast outthere.
It's too good not to besuccessful.
I know.
Yeah.
Yes.
All right.
And until we meet again, behonest with each other.
Bye.
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