Honey, We Need to Chat

Why do the smallest things trigger the biggest arguments? In this episode, we unpack the sneaky, subtle unmet needs that quietly shape our relationship dynamics, often without us realising it. From rejected dinners to phone use tensions and dead bedrooms, we explore real Reddit stories that show how core emotional needs go unspoken and how that misfires into conflict.

You'll learn:

• What unmet needs really are (and why they’re so ...

Feel like you and your partner keep missing each other emotionally? Do you shut down when things get tense or over-explain to get back on the same page? In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we unpack how attachment styles shape the way couples communicate, fight, and try to reconnect.

We break down the three main attachment styles (secure, anxious, and avoidant) where they come from, and how they play out in everyday moments (...

Money stress can quietly erode trust in a relationship, but it doesn't have to. In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we sit down with our friends Phil and Kate Thompson to share real-life lessons about navigating finances as a team.

From starting marriage with nothing to building a business and raising a family, they open up about what worked, what didn't, and what they wish more couples knew earlier.

We talk ab...

The silent treatment might seem like a quiet moment to cool off—but we’ve seen how it can loudly erode trust, create emotional distance, and chip away at connection over time.

In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we’re diving into the real cost of the silent treatment in relationships. We talk about why people withdraw, what’s actually happening in your brain during emotional shutdown, and how silence can unintentionally becom...

In this raw and honest episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we dive into one of the most misunderstood yet widespread relationship challenges, burnout. Whether you’re the one feeling physically, emotionally, or mentally drained, or you're supporting a partner through exhaustion, this episode will resonate deeply.

We unpack what burnout actually looks like in a relationship, the cultural lies that normalise overwhelm, and the signs...

This powerful episode of Honey, We Need to Chat welcomes Andrew and Kayte Kitchen (creatives, therapists, and real-life warriors) into a vulnerable and deeply encouraging conversation.

What makes this episode especially moving is that they didn’t wait until things were resolved to speak. Andrew and Kayte joined us while still walking through a hard season in their marriage and work life, a rare and courageous choice that sets the to...

This episode is a little different — we weren’t in the same place when we recorded. With Blair away for work, we decided to try something new: answering all our questions separately… without hearing each other’s responses first. 👀

What followed was fun, real, and surprisingly deep. We shared what it’s like being apart, how we stay connected in busy seasons, and what we appreciate (and miss) most about each other. There’s also a Red...

In this milestone episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we celebrate one year of their podcast by diving deep into a raw and real conversation about navigating relationships through the chaos of parenting. From real-life Reddit stories to our own experiences, we unpack:

• The parenting-relationship imbalance many couples face

• How to put your relationship first without neglecting your kids

• Miscommunication around emotional labor and hou...

🎙️ Feeling frustrated that your partner "should know" how to love you? Think love languages are the answer — but still feel disconnected?

In this powerful episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we dive deep into how love languages are misunderstood, overused, and sometimes misused — and why understanding them properly could change your relationship forever.

We unpack:

• 💡 The biggest misconceptions about love languages
• 💡 Why...

In this powerful episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we sit down with bestselling authors Sheila and Keith Gregoire to discuss why traditional views on intimacy may be hurting your relationship more than helping.

🔥 What you'll learn in this episode:

• ✅ Why prioritising sex might be the wrong approach (and what to focus on instead)
• ✅ The five key ingredients to a healthy, fulfilling intimate life
• ✅ How the mental load and househo...

What happens when you discover something unexpected on your partner’s phone? We’re diving into Reddit relationship dramas, covering phone privacy, trust issues, and job loss struggles.

We also explore compassion fatigue in relationships—how to support your partner without burning out. Plus, we discuss the role of open communication in overcoming tough times.

🎙️ Subscribe now for raw, real, and relatable relationship advice!

💬 Jo...

We’ve talked about the mental load before, but what about the emotional load? That invisible, often unspoken burden that one partner silently carries in a relationship? In today’s episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we’re diving into real REDDIT STORIES that expose the struggles of feeling unappreciated, unsupported, and unseen at home. From partners who do all the planning and organising to those who feel more valued at work than i...

You might be carrying a hidden weight in your relationship—and so might your partner. In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we dive into the invisible emotional load many people carry without realising it. From managing conflicts, anticipating needs, and diffusing tension to remembering birthdays and keeping the peace, emotional labor is often an unspoken burden that can impact intimacy, connection, and overall relationship he...

Breaking Free from Communication Loops in Relationships

Ever feel like you're having the same argument over and over again? Do you and your partner keep getting stuck in the same emotional cycles without resolution? In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we’re diving into communication loops - the repeated patterns that keep couples from truly resolving conflicts.

We’ll uncover:
🌀 Why certain arguments never seem to go away
🗣️ Th...

💡 Ever feel like your conversations with your partner hit a wall? You’re not alone! In this episode ofHoney, We Need to Chat, we sit down withBryce Lokken, the co-founder ofUncover Me, a game designed to help couples communicate in a deeper, more meaningful way. Bryce shares his journey from marketing to product design, his personal therapy experience, and what he’s learned about relationships along the way.

🔑What You’ll Learn in ...

We’re back, and we’ve missed you! In this first episode of Season 2 of Honey, We Need to Chat, we’re catching up on everything that’s happened over the last few months—why we took an unexpected break, how moving house nearly broke us, and what we learned about communication, stress, and marriage along the way.

If you’ve ever struggled with change, mental load, or keeping your relationship strong through chaos, this episode is for y...

This week we dive into the second module of our Relationship Program- the GROW framework! 

If you haven’t had a chance to run through the Balance Wheel of Relationships, please make sure to do so first! Then we suggest setting aside a night to run through this second module together. 

**YOU CAN DOWNLOAD BOTH FREEBIES VIA OUR WEBSITE www.honeyweneedtochat.com**

GROW Is an incredibly impactful tool to really assess where you are c...

Balancing a relationship with a thriving social life isn’t always easy. In this episode, we dive into the dynamics of friendships in relationships—how to support each other’s social needs, recognize red flags, and ensure your personal life doesn’t get lost in the mix. We explore Reddit stories covering jealousy over a partner’s friendships, struggles with social isolation, and dealing with toxic friends in a relationship. Plus, we ...

In this week’s chit-chat episode, we dive into the Balance Wheel of Relationships—a powerful tool to help couples assess their relationship and intentionally improve communication, connection, and overall harmony. We discuss how to identify areas that need growth, the importance of investing in your relationship, and how small, intentional efforts can create lasting change.

Blair shares his sunburn struggles and a weekend of adventu...