Honey, We Need to Chat

Struggling with blunt comments, sarcastic jabs, or misunderstood intentions in your relationship?

This episode of Honey, We Need to Chat cuts straight to practical tools and honest insights to decode hidden messages, manage emotional triggers, and navigate tough conversations effectively.

Break negative patterns and reconnect with your partner. Perfect for couples ready for clear, constructive communication.

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In this eye-opening episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, Amy and Blair dive deep into the other side of the mental load conversation, exploring what it might feel like to be the partner on the receiving end, from real life stories.

Are they really ignoring the invisible labour… or just overwhelmed in their own way?

Featuring real Reddit stories and brutally honest forum comments, this episode unpacks emotional labour, communica...

You finally brought up the mental load. You found the words. You mustered the courage. And then… nothing. Maybe they shut down. Maybe they pushed back. Maybe the conversation just fell flat.

In this powerful follow-up to our original Mental Load episode, we unpack what happens when that invisible labour finally gets named, but the conversation doesn’t land.

Whether you're met with defensiveness, silence, or a flat-out dismissal, ...

What’s the feeling you can’t even name, let alone share?

In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we’re diving deep into the emotional undercurrents that silently shape our reactions, create disconnection, and quietly erode intimacy.

We explore the concept of unbearable feelings, those overwhelming emotions like shame, hyper-responsibility, fear of being too much or not enough, and how they manifest in relationships through bot...

Ever feel like you're speaking two different languages in your marriage? Or wonder why your partner shuts down when you bring something up?

We sat down with Sam and Liv Ramsden (aka Mr. & Mrs. Silly Stories for Kids) to explore what really goes on under the surface when we miss each other in conflict. This one’s packed with honest conversation, real-life tools, and the kind of grace that keeps a marriage grounded.

We talk abo...

In this revealing episode, we dive into the powerful concept of unspoken contracts - the invisible rules and assumptions quietly shaping your relationship. From mental load to emotional shutdown, financial habits to intimacy dynamics, we’ll help you uncover the hidden systems that might be leaving you feeling stuck, resentful, or disconnected.

Through relatable real-life examples, Amy and Blair show you how to identify these silent...

Welcome to Honey, We Need to Chat, where we dig deep into the real struggles couples face, from silent resentment to those tricky conversations that can make or break a relationship.

In this episode, we uncover the hidden habit of scorekeeping in relationships, what it is, why it happens, and how to stop it. Whether you’re feeling unseen, unheard, or just overwhelmed, we’ll share practical tools to break the pattern of resentment, r...

Ever wonder why you react the way you do in conflict, or why certain habits feel impossible to break?

In this episode, Blair gets coached live by Amy using the “Six Core Human Needs” framework to explore what truly drives our behaviour in relationships. From control issues to chasing dopamine hits, we unpack how unmet needs shape our communication, emotions, and connection.

Whether you’re craving more balance, peace, or clarity in yo...

Why do the smallest things trigger the biggest arguments? In this episode, we unpack the sneaky, subtle unmet needs that quietly shape our relationship dynamics, often without us realising it. From rejected dinners to phone use tensions and dead bedrooms, we explore real Reddit stories that show how core emotional needs go unspoken and how that misfires into conflict.

You'll learn:

• What unmet needs really are (and why they’re so ...

Feel like you and your partner keep missing each other emotionally? Do you shut down when things get tense or over-explain to get back on the same page? In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we unpack how attachment styles shape the way couples communicate, fight, and try to reconnect.

We break down the three main attachment styles (secure, anxious, and avoidant) where they come from, and how they play out in everyday moments (...

Money stress can quietly erode trust in a relationship, but it doesn't have to. In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we sit down with our friends Phil and Kate Thompson to share real-life lessons about navigating finances as a team.

From starting marriage with nothing to building a business and raising a family, they open up about what worked, what didn't, and what they wish more couples knew earlier.

We talk ab...

The silent treatment might seem like a quiet moment to cool off—but we’ve seen how it can loudly erode trust, create emotional distance, and chip away at connection over time.

In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we’re diving into the real cost of the silent treatment in relationships. We talk about why people withdraw, what’s actually happening in your brain during emotional shutdown, and how silence can unintentionally becom...

In this raw and honest episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we dive into one of the most misunderstood yet widespread relationship challenges, burnout. Whether you’re the one feeling physically, emotionally, or mentally drained, or you're supporting a partner through exhaustion, this episode will resonate deeply.

We unpack what burnout actually looks like in a relationship, the cultural lies that normalise overwhelm, and the signs...

This powerful episode of Honey, We Need to Chat welcomes Andrew and Kayte Kitchen (creatives, therapists, and real-life warriors) into a vulnerable and deeply encouraging conversation.

What makes this episode especially moving is that they didn’t wait until things were resolved to speak. Andrew and Kayte joined us while still walking through a hard season in their marriage and work life, a rare and courageous choice that sets the to...

This episode is a little different — we weren’t in the same place when we recorded. With Blair away for work, we decided to try something new: answering all our questions separately… without hearing each other’s responses first. 👀

What followed was fun, real, and surprisingly deep. We shared what it’s like being apart, how we stay connected in busy seasons, and what we appreciate (and miss) most about each other. There’s also a Red...

In this milestone episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we celebrate one year of their podcast by diving deep into a raw and real conversation about navigating relationships through the chaos of parenting. From real-life Reddit stories to our own experiences, we unpack:

• The parenting-relationship imbalance many couples face

• How to put your relationship first without neglecting your kids

• Miscommunication around emotional labor and hou...

🎙️ Feeling frustrated that your partner "should know" how to love you? Think love languages are the answer — but still feel disconnected?

In this powerful episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we dive deep into how love languages are misunderstood, overused, and sometimes misused — and why understanding them properly could change your relationship forever.

We unpack:

• 💡 The biggest misconceptions about love languages
• 💡 Why...

In this powerful episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we sit down with bestselling authors Sheila and Keith Gregoire to discuss why traditional views on intimacy may be hurting your relationship more than helping.

🔥 What you'll learn in this episode:

• ✅ Why prioritising sex might be the wrong approach (and what to focus on instead)
• ✅ The five key ingredients to a healthy, fulfilling intimate life
• ✅ How the mental load and househo...

What happens when you discover something unexpected on your partner’s phone? We’re diving into Reddit relationship dramas, covering phone privacy, trust issues, and job loss struggles.

We also explore compassion fatigue in relationships—how to support your partner without burning out. Plus, we discuss the role of open communication in overcoming tough times.

🎙️ Subscribe now for raw, real, and relatable relationship advice!

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