June 7, 2024 • 19 mins
Ever had an awkward encounter that left you pondering the importance of respecting others' health? We kick off our summer episode with just that—a personal story that underscores why it's essential to use sunscreen, stay hydrated, and continue to protect ourselves from COVID and other germs. We get real about the basics of health and safety, emphasizing the importance of personal boundaries in these ever-evolving times. Beyond just physical health, we delve into the emotional toll of getting caught up in gossip and others' drama, highlighting the need to set boundaries to protect your own peace and focus on personal growth.
Ready to reclaim your time and energy from the clutches of meaningless chatter? We explore the blurred lines between harmless family tea and the soul-draining impact of irrelevant gossip. Discover how to maintain intimacy and selectively share your true self to safeguard against deceit in relationships. Ending on a motivational note, we remind our listeners that being perceived as difficult often signifies discernment and strength. For those seeking further support, the Turnaround Project offers life coaching to guide you on your journey toward improvement. Tune in for an episode filled with insights, love, and encouragement aimed at helping you maintain your focus on personal growth and positivity.
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Speaker 2 (00:00):
Yeah what up?
Ain't nobody got time for that?
Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hatch kids, hatch wife.
Yo, you good yo, you are such aliar A.
Liar A liar, let's go, andthat's on Pivotal.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
Hood Chatter.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
What's going on, family?
I'm back.
I'm your host, doc J, and weare back for another episode of
Hood Chatter, where we talkabout some of the things that
you think about, but don't sayout loud.
Ok, it's official, seems likethe nice weather is here to stay
(00:40):
.
So be safe, be smart andprotect yourself Sunscreen,
water, right, and remember thatCOVID is still out here and all
other kinds of germs.
And just make sure to wash yourhands and wear a mask if you
feel like it, because that'syour business, and listen.
(01:00):
Family.
Refrain from drinking off ofpeople and I know in some social
circles, people like to shareblunt, but I would be rather
cautious about that these daysand let me say this If you don't
feel well, if you're sick orhave cold symptoms, stay at home
.
And if you can't stay at home,be considerate to other people
(01:23):
and stay out their face andmaybe put a mask on.
Don't attempt to go out and getin a cypher with your people,
like that's just rude andinconsiderate and that's how
shit gets passed around for real.
Cover your mouth when you coughor sneeze.
Be courteous to other people,right, because not only are you
(01:44):
being courteous to them, but youhelping to protect yourself.
And if you have to tell someoneto back up or decline from
smoking or drinking with them,it just is what it is like.
Don't feel bad at all, becauseit's better to do that than for
you to wake up with a cold.
Right, right, let me tell youthis.
(02:06):
I saw this girl one day and Isaid hey, boo, how you doing
right.
She ran up on me, gave me a hug, gave me a kiss on my cheek and
I said what's going on?
Her response was oh, I thinkI'm catching a cold.
What you say to me, you thinkyou catching a cold.
(02:27):
What you say to me, you thinkyou catching a cold Like you
gotta be kidding me.
You should have seen me nowtrying to hold my breath.
And let me tell you, I'm a bitof a hypochondriac.
Now I'm at home taking Mucinexand drinking Airborne, trying to
prevent from catching somebodyelse's germs, and here I am just
trying to be nice and say hello.
Like when I think about it, bro, I'm still pissed off about
(02:49):
that.
Like, how rude is that?
I digress Because that's noteven the topic for today, but I
just want us to be safe outthere, because I know the sun is
out and we outside, butsometimes we forget how to act
outside.
Ok, so it's just us today,right, and I thought it would be
(03:13):
befitting to start the summeroff with some much needed advice
, because everything isamplified in the summer, right,
and there's a difference in ahot summer meaning heat and then
a hot summer meaning drama.
So today's topic is that's notmy problem, that is not my
(03:36):
problem.
Okay, now, consciously andunconsciously, we get too
involved and take on too much ofother people's shit.
Now, y'all know we love to hearsome juice, some gossip, some
burning hot tea, but do we everstop to think how other people's
(03:57):
tea affects us?
Because, admit, if we get sometea that's hot enough.
Because, admit, if we get sometea that's hot enough, we might
lose hours on the phone ortexting, talking about whatever
that is, and that addsabsolutely no value to our life.
And let me say this gossip andspilling tea is not a female
(04:20):
thing, because, believe it ornot, men gossip and spill tea
just as much, if not more, thanwomen do.
So let's, let's just call aspade a spade.
I hate to hear gender assignedto gossip, because I have heard
so many dudes with their boys ina circle and the shade and the
gossip and the tea come flyingat you so fast.
You got to duck before it hitsyou in the face, like for real,
(04:43):
and you know how it is right.
You could be minding yourbusiness and all of a sudden
somebody just walk up to you orcall you on the phone and the
tea just spills out like verbaldiarrhea.
Now let's not confuse what I'msaying, because exchanging
family tea check I'm good withthat.
And exchanging tea in yourfriendship circle check I'm good
(05:05):
with that.
And exchanging tea in yourfriendship circle check I'm good
with that too.
But I'm talking about thatirrelevant, mundane conversation
that you have about the girl inthe neighborhood that's
sleeping with somebody's babydaddy or husband, or that dude
that's cheating and got thatgirl pregnant, or you know that
seemingly straight guy that'snow in a whole bunch of gay
rumors.
Now if you're out in yoursocial settings and the kettle
(05:30):
starts to boil, please get thattea.
Ear hustle, that shit.
Like I'm not talking about that.
But when that becomes thehighlight of all of your
conversations, that's when itbecomes a problem, right?
And in addition to the gossipand tea, whatever you want to
call it then there's thosefriends, that shit family too,
(05:52):
that just suck you into theirnonsense.
Because how many times in lifehave you gotten into an
altercation with someone overone of your other friends, or
you lose a friend because ofsomeone in your circle who has
ruined the dynamic, right?
And how often do we find thatwe don't like somebody or we
(06:13):
judge them or have some negativethoughts about them, not
because they did something to us, but because of some shit you
heard or remember that they didto somebody else, like bro?
We got to stop that, because wetalk about even all the crazy
stuff that our little, you knowalcoholic family member does,
(06:34):
but then we don't put the sameeffort into trying to help them.
Now, I know, on the sidebar,everybody can't be helped, but
you see where I'm going withthat.
Right, and I said it before andI'll say it again we have to be
careful what and who we listento and what information we
decide to eat and digest,because other people's shit can
(06:56):
become your unwanted problem.
And I'm gonna give you a perfectexample how many times in life
have you given one of yourfriends advice on their
relationship?
Because they came to you forthe advice, right?
You listen to their saga andyou see all the patterns, then
you state your claim to find out.
Not only do they not like youradvice, they don't want it, and
(07:18):
sometimes you ruin thefriendship over this ignorance.
Now, this is my opinion andthis depends on your people and
the type of relationship youhave.
But you could give your friendsgeneric relationship advice,
but once your advice becomes toospecific, you might end up
losing a friend.
Or they listen to your advice,agree with you, and then turn
(07:42):
around and do the same thing, orgo back to the person that they
swore that they believe in,because but when you think about
it, none of this shit hadanything to do with you, and
then you spend countless hourstalking about their situation to
potentially lose your friend,or just realize that the whole
(08:03):
interaction was a waste of time.
So I'm not saying don't besupportive to your friends, but
pick and choose your battles andknow what friends you want to
give advice to, becausesometimes that's not necessarily
something that you should do.
And remember some talks are notnecessarily a problem, so just
let them vent and maybe that'sall they need, because sometimes
(08:28):
we want to help people andother times we just nosy right
and we want to hear the tea, andother times we just nosy right
and we want to hear the tea.
But either way, we don't alwaysrealize how other people's shit
rubs off on us and I have leftfriends behind because all they
do is talk shit about otherpeople and I don't have time for
that.
Like not, not at this stage inthe game.
(08:50):
I'm trying to get better, dobetter and be better, and I
can't do that when I'moverwhelmed and bombarded with
somebody else's nonsense.
Like I just can't do that Right, and I know, y'all know that
person, that friend, when theycall you.
Look at the phone.
You have to make a consciousdecision on whether or not you
(09:11):
answer the phone, because youalready know what it is.
It's going to be some long,drawn out something that's going
to absolutely drain you.
Or you do pick up the phone andwhen you get off the phone
you're absolutely exhausted.
That's the shit I'm talkingabout, listen.
I have a coworker that alwayshas something to say about
(09:31):
something and before shefinishes a sentence, I ask her
is this something that I need toknow, or does this have
anything to do with me?
Real talk, I have too much shitto do and to worry about during
the day, and so do you Somestuff you just don't need to
hear and involve yourself inbecause you could just be flying
(09:55):
high, right, and if someoneelse's nonsense shows up and
knocks you right off yourpedestal, that's crazy.
Now don't get me wrong, and I'mnot telling you don't listen to
drama or ear hustle, the shadebeing thrown, but don't let
those things consume you.
(10:16):
Give it a quick laugh.
You know I roll a couple of yo.
That shit is crazy, right, butthen keep it moving like.
It's okay to laugh at somecrazy shit, but don't let other
people's nonsense become yourdwelling place.
I'm'm going to say that againDon't let other people's
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nonsense become your dwellingplace.
Now there are some people Iwon't even associate with
anymore, not because they're badpeople or because there's any
love loss.
But I don't have time for thebullshit.
Some people get life from otherpeople's drama or their misery,
which is absolutely pathetic.
(10:58):
There has to be more to lifethan throwing somebody else
under the bus or constantlyhighlighting somebody else's who
, what, where and whys.
Right, right, because youremember when we were kids that
(11:18):
childhood game telephone,telephone, telephone.
You know where.
You sit, in a circle and oneperson would whisper something
and then pass it on, but by thetime the last person got the
story, it was completelydifferent than what it started
as, and oftentimes that's whathappens with gossip, and what
started as an innocent thing cansometimes end up completely
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different.
Now, on the flip side of this,if you're on the receiving end
and you're the person who'sbeing talked about, fuck them,
and let me say that loud fuckthem Like really, because over
the course of my life I havebeen the center of more gossip
than I can remember, and if Ihad a dollar for the amount of
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times people talk shit about me,I would be a millionaire.
Real talk People talk shitabout me.
Well, they still do.
But people talk shit about mewhen I was present and when I
was absent, shout out to MegThee Stallion.
But they talked about shit thatthey heard about or stuff they
thought or shit they made up andlet me say this, being gay from
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an urban neighborhood or fromthe hood, people were only too
happy to participate in thefuckery and I'm not going to lie
, dealing with that amount ofconstant chatter was a lot
growing up and unbeknownst tosome people, they were a real
big source of depression andanxiety for some time, but I
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finally realized one day that mylife was being governed by what
other people had to say aboutme and I realized that has
nothing to do with them.
So why do I care what they think?
Right, I've learned over theyears to prioritize me.
Right, I've learned over theyears to prioritize me.
And that might sound selfish,but we have to work and do that
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sometime, because we got thefamily, sometimes school
relationships, finances,whatever and we put all of that
stuff before ourselves.
And to think that gossip, thatjust falls right in line with
that.
And that's one of the reasonsthat we're so obsessed with
social media, because not onlydo we have to know, but we want
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to be the first to knoweverything.
Right, and that's what makesroom for TMZs and Dish Nations
and, you know, shade Room andall that kind of stuff.
All of these platforms.
They spew news aboutcelebrities, right, and they
speak about these people likethey know them personally.
(13:58):
And then we sit there on thereceiving end waiting with bated
breath.
Now, it's one thing hearingabout a story in current events,
right, but who has time toinvest energy in finding out
what other people are doing allthe time?
To invest energy in finding outwhat other people are doing all
the time, when we could reallybe investing that same energy
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and being the best version ofourselves or our most authentic
self, because it would bedifferent if we were invested in
things that helped us along theway in our lives or careers.
But we're committed to hearingthe latest and the greatest
about every time.
Dick and Diddy.
Right, we got to pump thebrakes on that, because if we
invested half the time inourselves, as we did to listen
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in to the nonsense that otherpeople have going on, we would
be much better equipped to dealwith our own shit.
And I don't know about you, butat this stage in the game, I
seek joy and peace, real talk.
I don't care if it's a pair ofsocks.
If it's not bringing me joy, itgot to go.
And we got to do the same thingwith people, anyone or anything
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that is stifling your peace.
Throw the deuces up and tellthem exactly that Peace, all
right, family.
Before we get out of here, youknow what we're going to do.
We're going to get into somegood old questions, so hold on,
because you know I'm going tobring the heat.
So let's do it.
If your spouse presents you witha prenup before your wedding,
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would you sign it?
If your spouse presented youwith a prenup before your
wedding, would you sign it?
If your spouse presented youwith a prenup before your
wedding, would you sign it?
Now I know that makes adifference.
If both of y'all have moneyRight Because nobody wants to be
in a Mary J Blige situation Cando Assholecomorgnetedu Let me
(15:57):
throw that in there.
But I don't know If we both onthe same playing field or we
high school sweethearts.
You know, or we've beentogether forever while you was
building the company.
You know we've been togetherforever while you was building a
company.
I don't necessarily think thatI'm supposed to sign a prenup to
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secure what I helped you comeup on, or you know the
relationship that we builttogether for years before you
had that money.
Now if you walk into asituation where you don't have
it like that and you marry amillionaire, maybe you do sign a
prenup and you can understandthat, but maybe make sure that
prenup works for you.
But throw that around.
If your significant otherpresents you with a prenup
before you get married, wouldyou sign it?
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Next question your significantother gets a serious illness
right and they can no longerperform in the bedroom and they
say you go ahead, you can get afree pass, would you take it?
Let me hit you with that again.
Your significant other developsa serious illness and they
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can't perform in the bedroomanymore and then they give you a
free pass.
Do you take it?
Now, that's just an individualthing, so I'm not going to drop
no notes there.
I'm gonna let you spin thataround in your own circles or
with your man and see what kindof eye rolls that comes up with.
(17:30):
Right, all right.
Question what do you consider tobe husband and wife only
benefits?
Or I guess I could say, ifyou're in a long-term relate, a
long-term relationship, uh, samething.
What do you think should behusband and wife only benefits?
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Now, what do you think shouldbe husband and wife only
benefits?
Now, I know some people isgoing to jump right to kissing
or maybe even something nastylike going double down, or you
know what I mean double down orsomething and sexualize that.
I think there's a certain levelof intimacy that you have to
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take into account too, becauseyou don't necessarily just offer
your whole self to somebodythat you're not a hundred
percent with or somebody thatyou know might not be the same
forever.
So throw that around too andsee what you come up with there,
right family.
So throw that around too andsee what you come up with there,
right family.
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That's it for me.
I love y'all, I really do, anduntil next week I want you to
remember.
Some people might say you'redifficult to deal with, but
that's because you're not easyto fool.
Speaker 2 (19:10):
See you next week.
We'll come on a talk to you.
Need someone to listen, lookingfor clarity and strategy.
Reach out to the TurnaroundProject.
Our life coaches are here tohelp you on your journey to
getting better, doing better andbeing better.
Turnaround Project helpingindividuals learn to help
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themselves.
Yeah what up?
Ain't nobody got time for that?
Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hatch kids, hatch wife.
Yo, you good yo, you are such aliar A.
Liar A liar, let's go, andthat's on Pivotal.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
Hood Chatter.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
What's going on, family?
I'm back.
I'm your host, doc J, and weare back for another episode of
Hood Chatter, where we talkabout some of the things that
you think about, but don't sayout loud.
Ok, it's official, seems likethe nice weather is here to stay
(00:40):
.
So be safe, be smart andprotect yourself Sunscreen,
water, right, and remember thatCOVID is still out here and all
other kinds of germs.
And just make sure to wash yourhands and wear a mask if you
feel like it, because that'syour business, and listen.
(01:00):
Family.
Refrain from drinking off ofpeople and I know in some social
circles, people like to shareblunt, but I would be rather
cautious about that these daysand let me say this If you don't
feel well, if you're sick orhave cold symptoms, stay at home
.
And if you can't stay at home,be considerate to other people
(01:23):
and stay out their face andmaybe put a mask on.
Don't attempt to go out and getin a cypher with your people,
like that's just rude andinconsiderate and that's how
shit gets passed around for real.
Cover your mouth when you coughor sneeze.
Be courteous to other people,right, because not only are you
(01:44):
being courteous to them, but youhelping to protect yourself.
And if you have to tell someoneto back up or decline from
smoking or drinking with them,it just is what it is like.
Don't feel bad at all, becauseit's better to do that than for
you to wake up with a cold.
Right, right, let me tell youthis.
(02:06):
I saw this girl one day and Isaid hey, boo, how you doing
right.
She ran up on me, gave me a hug, gave me a kiss on my cheek and
I said what's going on?
Her response was oh, I thinkI'm catching a cold.
What you say to me, you thinkyou catching a cold.
(02:27):
What you say to me, you thinkyou catching a cold Like you
gotta be kidding me.
You should have seen me nowtrying to hold my breath.
And let me tell you, I'm a bitof a hypochondriac.
Now I'm at home taking Mucinexand drinking Airborne, trying to
prevent from catching somebodyelse's germs, and here I am just
trying to be nice and say hello.
Like when I think about it, bro, I'm still pissed off about
(02:49):
that.
Like, how rude is that?
I digress Because that's noteven the topic for today, but I
just want us to be safe outthere, because I know the sun is
out and we outside, butsometimes we forget how to act
outside.
Ok, so it's just us today,right, and I thought it would be
(03:13):
befitting to start the summeroff with some much needed advice
, because everything isamplified in the summer, right,
and there's a difference in ahot summer meaning heat and then
a hot summer meaning drama.
So today's topic is that's notmy problem, that is not my
(03:36):
problem.
Okay, now, consciously andunconsciously, we get too
involved and take on too much ofother people's shit.
Now, y'all know we love to hearsome juice, some gossip, some
burning hot tea, but do we everstop to think how other people's
(03:57):
tea affects us?
Because, admit, if we get sometea that's hot enough.
Because, admit, if we get sometea that's hot enough, we might
lose hours on the phone ortexting, talking about whatever
that is, and that addsabsolutely no value to our life.
And let me say this gossip andspilling tea is not a female
(04:20):
thing, because, believe it ornot, men gossip and spill tea
just as much, if not more, thanwomen do.
So let's, let's just call aspade a spade.
I hate to hear gender assignedto gossip, because I have heard
so many dudes with their boys ina circle and the shade and the
gossip and the tea come flyingat you so fast.
You got to duck before it hitsyou in the face, like for real,
(04:43):
and you know how it is right.
You could be minding yourbusiness and all of a sudden
somebody just walk up to you orcall you on the phone and the
tea just spills out like verbaldiarrhea.
Now let's not confuse what I'msaying, because exchanging
family tea check I'm good withthat.
And exchanging tea in yourfriendship circle check I'm good
(05:05):
with that.
And exchanging tea in yourfriendship circle check I'm good
with that too.
But I'm talking about thatirrelevant, mundane conversation
that you have about the girl inthe neighborhood that's
sleeping with somebody's babydaddy or husband, or that dude
that's cheating and got thatgirl pregnant, or you know that
seemingly straight guy that'snow in a whole bunch of gay
rumors.
Now if you're out in yoursocial settings and the kettle
(05:30):
starts to boil, please get thattea.
Ear hustle, that shit.
Like I'm not talking about that.
But when that becomes thehighlight of all of your
conversations, that's when itbecomes a problem, right?
And in addition to the gossipand tea, whatever you want to
call it then there's thosefriends, that shit family too,
(05:52):
that just suck you into theirnonsense.
Because how many times in lifehave you gotten into an
altercation with someone overone of your other friends, or
you lose a friend because ofsomeone in your circle who has
ruined the dynamic, right?
And how often do we find thatwe don't like somebody or we
(06:13):
judge them or have some negativethoughts about them, not
because they did something to us, but because of some shit you
heard or remember that they didto somebody else, like bro?
We got to stop that, because wetalk about even all the crazy
stuff that our little, you knowalcoholic family member does,
(06:34):
but then we don't put the sameeffort into trying to help them.
Now, I know, on the sidebar,everybody can't be helped, but
you see where I'm going withthat.
Right, and I said it before andI'll say it again we have to be
careful what and who we listento and what information we
decide to eat and digest,because other people's shit can
(06:56):
become your unwanted problem.
And I'm gonna give you a perfectexample how many times in life
have you given one of yourfriends advice on their
relationship?
Because they came to you forthe advice, right?
You listen to their saga andyou see all the patterns, then
you state your claim to find out.
Not only do they not like youradvice, they don't want it, and
(07:18):
sometimes you ruin thefriendship over this ignorance.
Now, this is my opinion andthis depends on your people and
the type of relationship youhave.
But you could give your friendsgeneric relationship advice,
but once your advice becomes toospecific, you might end up
losing a friend.
Or they listen to your advice,agree with you, and then turn
(07:42):
around and do the same thing, orgo back to the person that they
swore that they believe in,because but when you think about
it, none of this shit hadanything to do with you, and
then you spend countless hourstalking about their situation to
potentially lose your friend,or just realize that the whole
(08:03):
interaction was a waste of time.
So I'm not saying don't besupportive to your friends, but
pick and choose your battles andknow what friends you want to
give advice to, becausesometimes that's not necessarily
something that you should do.
And remember some talks are notnecessarily a problem, so just
let them vent and maybe that'sall they need, because sometimes
(08:28):
we want to help people andother times we just nosy right
and we want to hear the tea, andother times we just nosy right
and we want to hear the tea.
But either way, we don't alwaysrealize how other people's shit
rubs off on us and I have leftfriends behind because all they
do is talk shit about otherpeople and I don't have time for
that.
Like not, not at this stage inthe game.
(08:50):
I'm trying to get better, dobetter and be better, and I
can't do that when I'moverwhelmed and bombarded with
somebody else's nonsense.
Like I just can't do that Right, and I know, y'all know that
person, that friend, when theycall you.
Look at the phone.
You have to make a consciousdecision on whether or not you
(09:11):
answer the phone, because youalready know what it is.
It's going to be some long,drawn out something that's going
to absolutely drain you.
Or you do pick up the phone andwhen you get off the phone
you're absolutely exhausted.
That's the shit I'm talkingabout, listen.
I have a coworker that alwayshas something to say about
(09:31):
something and before shefinishes a sentence, I ask her
is this something that I need toknow, or does this have
anything to do with me?
Real talk, I have too much shitto do and to worry about during
the day, and so do you Somestuff you just don't need to
hear and involve yourself inbecause you could just be flying
(09:55):
high, right, and if someoneelse's nonsense shows up and
knocks you right off yourpedestal, that's crazy.
Now don't get me wrong, and I'mnot telling you don't listen to
drama or ear hustle, the shadebeing thrown, but don't let
those things consume you.
(10:16):
Give it a quick laugh.
You know I roll a couple of yo.
That shit is crazy, right, butthen keep it moving like.
It's okay to laugh at somecrazy shit, but don't let other
people's nonsense become yourdwelling place.
I'm'm going to say that againDon't let other people's
(10:36):
nonsense become your dwellingplace.
Now there are some people Iwon't even associate with
anymore, not because they're badpeople or because there's any
love loss.
But I don't have time for thebullshit.
Some people get life from otherpeople's drama or their misery,
which is absolutely pathetic.
(10:58):
There has to be more to lifethan throwing somebody else
under the bus or constantlyhighlighting somebody else's who
, what, where and whys.
Right, right, because youremember when we were kids that
(11:18):
childhood game telephone,telephone, telephone.
You know where.
You sit, in a circle and oneperson would whisper something
and then pass it on, but by thetime the last person got the
story, it was completelydifferent than what it started
as, and oftentimes that's whathappens with gossip, and what
started as an innocent thing cansometimes end up completely
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different.
Now, on the flip side of this,if you're on the receiving end
and you're the person who'sbeing talked about, fuck them,
and let me say that loud fuckthem Like really, because over
the course of my life I havebeen the center of more gossip
than I can remember, and if Ihad a dollar for the amount of
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times people talk shit about me,I would be a millionaire.
Real talk People talk shitabout me.
Well, they still do.
But people talk shit about mewhen I was present and when I
was absent, shout out to MegThee Stallion.
But they talked about shit thatthey heard about or stuff they
thought or shit they made up andlet me say this, being gay from
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an urban neighborhood or fromthe hood, people were only too
happy to participate in thefuckery and I'm not going to lie
, dealing with that amount ofconstant chatter was a lot
growing up and unbeknownst tosome people, they were a real
big source of depression andanxiety for some time, but I
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finally realized one day that mylife was being governed by what
other people had to say aboutme and I realized that has
nothing to do with them.
So why do I care what they think?
Right, I've learned over theyears to prioritize me.
Right, I've learned over theyears to prioritize me.
And that might sound selfish,but we have to work and do that
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sometime, because we got thefamily, sometimes school
relationships, finances,whatever and we put all of that
stuff before ourselves.
And to think that gossip, thatjust falls right in line with
that.
And that's one of the reasonsthat we're so obsessed with
social media, because not onlydo we have to know, but we want
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to be the first to knoweverything.
Right, and that's what makesroom for TMZs and Dish Nations
and, you know, shade Room andall that kind of stuff.
All of these platforms.
They spew news aboutcelebrities, right, and they
speak about these people likethey know them personally.
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And then we sit there on thereceiving end waiting with bated
breath.
Now, it's one thing hearingabout a story in current events,
right, but who has time toinvest energy in finding out
what other people are doing allthe time?
To invest energy in finding outwhat other people are doing all
the time, when we could reallybe investing that same energy
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and being the best version ofourselves or our most authentic
self, because it would bedifferent if we were invested in
things that helped us along theway in our lives or careers.
But we're committed to hearingthe latest and the greatest
about every time.
Dick and Diddy.
Right, we got to pump thebrakes on that, because if we
invested half the time inourselves, as we did to listen
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in to the nonsense that otherpeople have going on, we would
be much better equipped to dealwith our own shit.
And I don't know about you, butat this stage in the game, I
seek joy and peace, real talk.
I don't care if it's a pair ofsocks.
If it's not bringing me joy, itgot to go.
And we got to do the same thingwith people, anyone or anything
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that is stifling your peace.
Throw the deuces up and tellthem exactly that Peace, all
right, family.
Before we get out of here, youknow what we're going to do.
We're going to get into somegood old questions, so hold on,
because you know I'm going tobring the heat.
So let's do it.
If your spouse presents you witha prenup before your wedding,
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would you sign it?
If your spouse presented youwith a prenup before your
wedding, would you sign it?
If your spouse presented youwith a prenup before your
wedding, would you sign it?
Now I know that makes adifference.
If both of y'all have moneyRight Because nobody wants to be
in a Mary J Blige situation Cando Assholecomorgnetedu Let me
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throw that in there.
But I don't know If we both onthe same playing field or we
high school sweethearts.
You know, or we've beentogether forever while you was
building the company.
You know we've been togetherforever while you was building a
company.
I don't necessarily think thatI'm supposed to sign a prenup to
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secure what I helped you comeup on, or you know the
relationship that we builttogether for years before you
had that money.
Now if you walk into asituation where you don't have
it like that and you marry amillionaire, maybe you do sign a
prenup and you can understandthat, but maybe make sure that
prenup works for you.
But throw that around.
If your significant otherpresents you with a prenup
before you get married, wouldyou sign it?
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Next question your significantother gets a serious illness
right and they can no longerperform in the bedroom and they
say you go ahead, you can get afree pass, would you take it?
Let me hit you with that again.
Your significant other developsa serious illness and they
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can't perform in the bedroomanymore and then they give you a
free pass.
Do you take it?
Now, that's just an individualthing, so I'm not going to drop
no notes there.
I'm gonna let you spin thataround in your own circles or
with your man and see what kindof eye rolls that comes up with.
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Right, all right.
Question what do you consider tobe husband and wife only
benefits?
Or I guess I could say, ifyou're in a long-term relate, a
long-term relationship, uh, samething.
What do you think should behusband and wife only benefits?
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Now, what do you think shouldbe husband and wife only
benefits?
Now, I know some people isgoing to jump right to kissing
or maybe even something nastylike going double down, or you
know what I mean double down orsomething and sexualize that.
I think there's a certain levelof intimacy that you have to
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take into account too, becauseyou don't necessarily just offer
your whole self to somebodythat you're not a hundred
percent with or somebody thatyou know might not be the same
forever.
So throw that around too andsee what you come up with there,
right family.
So throw that around too andsee what you come up with there,
right family.
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That's it for me.
I love y'all, I really do, anduntil next week I want you to
remember.
Some people might say you'redifficult to deal with, but
that's because you're not easyto fool.
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We'll come on a talk to you.
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